Love is anterior to life, posterior to death,
initial of creation, and the exponent of breath.
– Emily Dickinson, poet and famous introvert.
Elusive, mysterious, and eternally quirky – it isn’t hard to see why the introvert in all their reclusiveness can quickly turn into an object of fascination… and even love.
Introverts are enchanting. For those still trying to decipher this strange breed and make the first move (since it’s 99.9% guaranteed introverts won’t), I want to provide you with the Rossetti stone of dating an introvert.
At large, this guide is written for non-introverts, but can also be used by introverts interested in dating an introvert as well. You will find both sections for seekers who have no special introvert in mind, and in Part 2 you will find information for those who already have, but struggle to make any progress. Pursuing an introvert can be quite complex, let me tell you. The fun, however… lies in the pursuit.
PART 1: SEEKERS – For those looking for introverted lovers.
There are only two options: you can seek introverts either online or offline. Think about what you are most comfortable with. I believe that there is a higher likelihood that you will meet an introvert online rather than offline. This is why I recommend online trawling first…I tried it, and it worked for me. Apparently online dating works for 1 in 5 people as well according to a recent Sciencedaily.com, with one-third of people worldwide having visited dating sites. You will find that the benefits of online introvert seeking are that:
1. It’s much easier and less anxiety provoking to approach and initiate contact with a person online.
Also, introverts are reserved by nature, meaning that online contact eases the process of getting to know them. However, remember that you will eventually want to meet them. Building up intimacy online is the best approach in my experience, as it allows a friendship to grow and be nurtured first. Start with emails or private messages. When you’re ready, move on to instant messaging. Skype and MSN messenger are two popular examples that support video calling as well. If you are prepared, you can move onto video calling next and finally phone calls. If not, skip to the part where you organize a place and time to meet – like I did. You’ll find more information on real life meetups in Part 3.