I’m Pansexual. Yes. P-A-N-S-E-X-U-A-L. It doesn’t translate to: “I’m attracted to every single person I ever meet.” It simply means that I have a sexual orientation, like everyone else. – Yas Necati
You’re not quite straight … but you’re not quite queer … and you’re not quite bisexual … so what are you exactly?
Who are you exactly? And how can your sexuality be defined?
So, you are romantically, emotionally and sexually attracted to everyone regardless of their gender, or lack thereof. But how can this be explained? And how many other people experience it apart from you?
Introducing: Pansexuality. The hopeful answer to your confusing and confounding dilemma.
“I’m in love with … everyone.”
The question now is: are you pansexual? Are you attracted to:
- Straight males and females?
- Gay males and females?
- Transgender males and females?
- Androgynous people?
- Intersex people (e.g. hermaphrodites)?
- Any person who falls outside of the “gender binary” (or, the division of sex into two distinct and opposite types, i.e. male and female)?
If your answer is “yes”, you’re most likely pansexual, meaning that you can be attracted to any gender, or non-gendered person, identifying with any sexual orientation.
This, however, does not involve objectophilia (sexual attraction to objects), pedophilia (self-explanatory), necrophilia (sexual attraction to dead people), or bestiality (sexual attraction to animals). It must be emphasized here that pansexuality refers only to sexual, emotional and/or romantic attraction to consensual adult human beings.
Just another word for ‘bisexuality’?
Being a bisexual person myself, who is both attracted to males and females, it surprised me to hear that pansexuality is criticized as being “just another word for bisexuality for people trying to look different and special”. As one person commented:
Pansexual fits in the bisexual umbrella, no need to cut sexuality into 500 names.
Another person, for instance, commented that:
Pansexuality does not exist. Not trying to offend anyone who identifies themselves as pansexual, but I don’t believe in it. Actually, it offends me a bit … Basically, I think pansexuality is just a way of saying “I’m bisexual but I’m too hip to call myself bisexual because it’s too mainstream”.
The root of the word “pan-sexuality”, however, greatly differs from the roots of the word “bi-sexuality”. Pansexuality, also known as omnisexuality, has an Ancient Greek prefix: “pan-“, meaning “all” or “every”. Bisexuality, on the other hand, has a prefix: “bi-“, meaning “two”, and thus still falls within the “gender bi-nary” system.
I certainly have never felt any emotional, sexual or spiritual attraction to transgender, androgynous or even intersex people. Therefore, I find it hard to believe that pansexuality is an illegitimate synonym of bisexuality.
Both are unique. And neither one is “better” than the other – although I do admire pansexuality more. It seems to be the most normal, natural thing in the world to feel love and sexual attraction to anyone – regardless of their gender (or lack of gender), or sexual orientation.
Because of this, it has been said that pansexual people are largely “gender blind”, not putting very much importance in what genitals a person has, or doesn’t have.
“I am Pansexual”
So, what do people identifying as pansexual have to say about themselves? I have sourced the following thoughts from the Experience Project group “I am Pansexual”:
Being a pansexual means that you can fall in love with anybody. You love them for who they are, not what they are.
Why don’t you get it? I am Pansexual. It’s not rocket science. It’s not complicated. It’s not wrong. I don’t care who (you) are, what you’ve got, or who you are attracted to. I will love you if you love me, I don’t see the difference.
True love is of the Soul, not the Body. I’ve always been an open and accepting person.
I was recently in a hospital and the person was filling out a form about me, and asked me my sexual orientation. And I said pansexual and explained to them what it was, and they checked off ‘bisexual’. Can you just not get it through your brain that I am not bisexual?
I like people, doesn’t matter about gender or race. Hearts not parts.
Thoughts and Experiences
There’s not much information about pansexuality on the internet these days, but I truly believe that it’s a legitimate sexuality.
If you would like to share your experience of being pansexual, along with any perceptions, thoughts or opinions, please feel free to comment below. Perhaps this will help to legitimize, and normalize being pansexual, as it should be.
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