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10 Universal Problems Old Souls Experience

by Mateo Sol ยท Updated: Jul 8, 2023 ยท 280 Comments

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My first insight into the feeling of being internally old occurred during adolescence.

I felt unusually different from the kids around me, somehow older, but ‘mature’ wasn’t exactly the right word.ย  The best way I could describe it back then was as though I had lived hundreds of years of life which had been condensed into 16 years of time.

As the years went by, I encountered a few Old Souls who I shared my experiences with.ย  I would talk about my insights and introduce them to the concept of Old Souls.ย  One of these people was Luna.ย  She was so excited about it that she eventually wrote the well-received article 9 Signs You’re An Old Soul as well as a subsequent Old Soul Book.

In my years of mentoring Old Souls and helping them through their spiritual development, I’ve witnessed a number of issues. I want to mention that it’s important to remember thatย having an Old Soul doesn’t necessarily equate to being ‘all-knowing’ or perfect.ย  Rather, it’s an indication of the age of the energy known as your soul. With that being said, these are some of the biggest problems I’ve seen, and personally experienced:


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1#ย  You’re a Social Outcast

As with anyone who perceives the world differently from others, Old Souls can experience a great (and unending) sense of isolation.ย  Because they fail to fit into the standards that society admires and values (careers, materialism, status and so forth), they’re commonly seen as strange, offbeat and unconventional.

2#ย  You’re the “Black Sheep”

While Old Souls can build many strong relationships with people, their penetrating ability to connect with the depths of the people in their lives can create many enemies.ย  Seeing deeply into the core issues of the people around them, Old Souls feel an innate desire to be truthful, even if this means revealing uncomfortable truths such as the fact that many problems are caused by immaturity, or a failure to take responsibility.

Those who are willing to change will listen and like you, while the rest will feel great disdain towards you.ย  This is why Old Souls often become the “devils advocates” or “black sheep” of their friends or family.

3#ย  You Often Get Mislabeled

If there’s something we all love and are good at, it’s labeling people.ย  We fool ourselves into thinking we can “know” someone by attributing a label to them.ย  However, humans are far too complex to be boxed into a specific and unchanging group of people.ย  In this case, Old Souls will often be given different labels, from “beatniks” to “hippies”, “anarchists” to “new age freaks“.

While you can’t fight labels, you can try to use them in a positive way.ย  Labels can be used as signposts, as directions towards awareness of some quality many of us share.ย  These qualities will be different in intensity and strength in each of us, but at least they will help us understand ourselves (and the people around us) a bit better.

This is partly why I called the Old Soul Group “I’m an Old Soul” – not so people can gain egotistical pride with such a label, but to create a sense of self-awareness, to allow people to better understand themselves.

4# You Speak an Entirely Different Language

Words are symbols we each load with our own unique definitions according to our own unique life experiences that are associated with each word.ย  What I associate with love might be entirely different from what you associate with love.ย  For example: When someone thinks about love, they might remember their old failed relationship and feel a terrible sense of vulnerability when the word arises, while others might associate love with loyalty and friendship.


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Old Souls realize this limitation, and therefore greatly struggle to express entirely what they want to say, knowing that it’s as though they are speaking an entirely different language from others.

5#ย  You Are Prone to Intense Existential Crises

I have sometimes witnessed cases where Old energy is born into the body of a person who does not have the matching mental maturity to embrace it.ย  This can result in depressions, substance abuse and existential crisis’s.

When a person realizes that everything is transitional and passing, life can become pointless.ย  This person sees that our bodies are temporary vessels that don’t really matter, and without the ability to cultivate self-love, self-destructive habits can result.

In this case, it’s necessary to undergo intense spiritual-growth, to cultivate existential meaning and inner-understanding through inner work in order to learn how to embrace your soul.

6#ย  You Easily Become Emotionally Drained

With the wisdom and patience that comes with being an Old Soul, there also comes others people’s desire to use you as a dumping ground for their emotions.ย  I’ve experienced this a lot in my own life, often experiencing emotionally-charged conversations that last for hours at a time.ย  Some Old Souls also double as Empaths, which can also take a great toll on your energy.

7#ย  You’re Prone to Becoming Mentally Drained

In the search for truth, deeper understanding and inner exploration of yourself and the world around you, it is common for the Old Soul to experience a lot of mental fatigue.ย  Double this with acting as a mediator between people and their problems, and you’ll end up exhausted at the end of the day.

#8ย  You Struggle to Find a Kindred Spirit

If making friends who connect with you is difficult, finding a kindred spirit, soul mate, or life partner, can be even more of a challenge.ย  It took me living in 6 different countries to find Luna.

But it’s not always as hard as that.ย  Having the wisdom to discern the true depths of your connection with a person will be your greatest asset in the area of love.

#9ย  You’re Crippled By Possibilities

As we grow in maturity our perception of possibilities and explanations expands: we see life from limitless angles.ย  This means that we see more than one way of doing things which makes us unfailingly indecisive as we see the full expanse of possibilities, and the lack of absolutes. Although making decisions and judgments can be a crippling experience, this can double as a virtue, allowing us to understand that we can’t simply judge people by face value, and that they are the result of millions of internal and external influences.

#10ย  You Yearn For a Place to Belong

For some Old Souls, the world feels alien.ย  They find it hard to understand people, why such chaos and misery exists and how it is allowed, and sometimes encouraged, to continue. They long to find a place where they feel like they belong, a space filled with freedom and liberation.ย  This often results in the feeling that this world is not their true home.

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Regardless of which of the above problems you may come across, these struggles will affect your life a lot less when you grow in inner understanding and acceptance.

The stronger your ability to channel and use the Old energy that is latent within you, the greater your capacity will be to aid in the continuation and evolution of your soul.

Please feel free to share your experiences below.

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About Mateo Sol

Mateo Sol is a spiritual educator, guide, entrepreneur, and co-founder of one of the most influential and widely read spiritual websites on the internet. Born into a family with a history of drug addiction and mental illness, he was taught about the plight of the human condition from a young age. His mission is to help others experience freedom, wholeness, and peace in all stages of life. [Read More]

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  1. Alma Ravn says

    March 15, 2025 at 10:29 pm

    Old souls and anger, anyone?
    Honestly, I feel extremely BORED with the world.
    Itยดs no place to be for me, I often think.
    It is extremely immature, and that….gets me angry.
    I then isolate myself from it.
    Immaturity in itself does not produce anger in me, it is the unwillingness to free oneself from the circle of immaturity, the prolonged and in some cases lifelong immaturity experienced by so many that I canยดt grasp, to me it equals voluntary mental and spiritual laziness.

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  2. Stina says

    December 13, 2021 at 6:15 am

    The description for old souls fits though I feel like a mature child in my 40ies. :-) Old soul or not. But I can relate to everything else. I just thought I’m HSP and specially gifted (not in an arrogant way, just my experience how I perceive things compared to others).
    I found this because I searched for love on your site, hoping to find answers as to how to feel loved and connected when I don’t belong anywhere when I’m myself. I don’t mind being alone and a bit of loneliness but I perceive the constant unconnectedness as a total drain in my life. To the point I can’t get up anymore.

    I am touched by the realisation that I am indeed different but it makes me all the more hopeless that I’ll ever find someone I can connect to on a deeper level.

    Your articles are so inspiring, that I’d love to have a copy of your website in printed form. :-) maybe I should get started. Haha… Your site is probably the best resource I’ve found in years… Thanks.

    Reply
  3. illythia says

    September 08, 2021 at 8:51 pm

    Growing up, well, maybe since I was around 5 years old, I could be wrong with this timeline due to a head injury, but… I’ve always felt like I don’t belong here, on this earth especially. I’ve always felt old, and I’m only 29 years old (as of 2021). I’ve noticed that I get emotionally, mentally and physically drained very easily, as well as overwhelmed by the feelings/emotions of others. I’ve also got this constant thought/yearning of just wanting to be done with this life because of how drained I feel, and how out of place I feel. It feels like I’m trapped in a world and a body that I no longer wish to be in. What does this all mean? Is my soul old, and depressed from all of the traumatic events I’ve been forced to live through in this lifetime? Or does my soul just want eternal peace and rest and leave the future for the newer souls, because it’s old and exhausted in every way possible?

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    • Aki says

      May 17, 2022 at 3:01 am

      Haha born 1992 I’m in same boat and awaken since 2019…..my advice is to you is learn to live yourself and gets friend that voice insid your head…That helped me a lot. happy journey

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    • Kaala says

      May 17, 2022 at 3:02 am

      Haha born 1992 I’m in same boat and awaken since 2019…..my advice is to you is learn to live yourself and gets friend that voice insid your head…That helped me a lot. happy journey

      Reply
  4. Lost says

    September 08, 2021 at 7:14 pm

    Hi
    I am South African and have experienced all these symptoms all my life and at childhood i could not explain it to my parents and whenever something good or purposeful happens for me i get a jolt of indecisiveness destroying everything it happened in primsry school i managed to surpus it and again in varsity whenever i found love and joy i lose it through poor decisions all based from love and having being called timid or stupid also kills me i hate crowds extremely i hate noise and now im struggling with a deep confusion and depression because i left my job with debt im struggling to find love infact i have lost my sense of belonging i dont seem to fit in anywhere in church i dont last and im very sensitive but now it has become even worse and i have had an encounter that i dont understand even till today and iam being called names and a bad man my life had been flipped upside down i dont even trust my own intuition im just mentally and spiritually drained to make any decision im stuck on things from the past and its manifesting in my dreams and appearance i look and feel like rags and the encounter i had is seemingly like something out of a fairytale. What unfolded was that i had an agument with my past girlfriend of 4 years and we were breaking up and she knelt behind me and prayed and i fell down and whenever i tell the story its as if im a crazy person and slowly im going down that crazy road. I have lost myself in the world if guidance could be given as to where i can go to find healing because my praying is falling to deaf ears i have been positively affirming myself that all will be well but whenever i do the total opposite happens

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