Our Shadow Selves are those dark and mysterious places within us that we have refused to shine the “light” on, for one reason or another. The human shadow contains every thought, feeling, desire, and personality trait that we have rejected or suppressed.
How dominant is your Shadow Self and what effect does this have on your life? Find out by taking our free Shadow Self Test.
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Some of the answer I gave are from how I think and feel at this present moment, previous to the last few months my answer would of been different. The reason being after suffering trauma through loss and suffering I have started to awaken and have been able to start dissolving my conceptual identity and memories from my past. I feel like im starting life again at 39. I have overcome the loneliness I felt all my life is dissolving and at points had glimpses of feeling an aliveness within I have not felt before. Im medium but think it would of high before. I have just released my inner child is hurting deeply and im stuck in a cycle of self sabotage, addiction. I cannot get past this and the pain im causing is intensifying to levels of hurt which are starting to become unbareable as there is shame attached through self sabotage as im doing what father was and told myself I would never do as I had to live that through childhood. Compulsive Gambling. However after 24 hours It subsides through the precense I can get too. I know my inner child is hurting from not having the love and compassion from a female. I have no idea exactly what the child inside is hiding I can assume from what I know. Something drastically change in my personality as a child before my parents divorced. I think the child its at fault for what happened. Also 1 of the pictures in the test was similar to a dream as a child which woke me with an intense feeling of fear and panic but I couldnt explain what it looked like at the time and still cant exactly. I’m confused with How to help the inner child when I cant find what is hidden?
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Truthfully after reading and taking the test.
I can relate to some .. but… My childhood
while was okay was not terrible .
Is basically gone because a walk in event.
While I can understand some of it..
I know my darkside as I’m writer it comes out
on writing and I appease it with dark music at times.
So in short what I suppose do I have less dark thoughts
I don’t have much anger..
Not long ago a co worker with a challenging personality confided in me that her beloved 10 yr old step daughter was talking about cutting herself, a troubling behavior I’d heard of. I thought about it over days while observing this woman and I noticed that her communications are often very “cutting”. Her choice is often sarcasm and criticism and to demean. I felt perhaps the child was physically processing what the woman expresses. Where would the bully fit in the 13 shadows mentioned, controlling?
I have a large shadow self and it feels like he can physically show
Himself to me… how do you not fear that when he talks to you and mocks you…
Because when I stop seeing my shadow as a threat and instead see him as a holder of wisdom, a messenger trying to tell me something about my self and help me accept myself in new ways, you stop being afraid and become interested in what he has to say. Eventually, you learn even to be grateful to our shadows, for it’s just another part of ourselves.
I find this particular test result to be very interesting yet confusing. I like to take the test over to see if I have changed at all. The first time I did this test was awhile ago and the result is still the same today. Medium Shadow Self. Today, I am in a better space then before, but maybe this is just another life lesson I must try to learn to overcome. I don’t really hide myself when it comes to my anger from anyone and I don’t harbor any other disturbed or angry thoughts. So I’m not sure exactly what I’m hiding if anything. I’m a pretty open book. (What you see is what you get) Any thoughts?
Thanks Kimberley for the question. Our Shadow’s can be more than just our anger, they’re linked to all kinds of sources of shame we may carry from sexuality to violence and everything in between. There could be some other source of guilt or shame that may be linked to the result.
This site (which I found yesterday) is tied in to my own development. My shadow and I are grateful…look forward to talking soon.
Toby Tylor
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