Our Shadow Selves are those dark and mysterious places within us that we have refused to shine the “light” on, for one reason or another. The human shadow contains every thought, feeling, desire, and personality trait that we have rejected or suppressed.
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Medium shadow.. Parents divorced by 18 months old. Mother left me with her mother (my nana) to raise me. Mom was minimally existent in my life, cold person, very self centered selfish, no hugs, no loves told not thin enough, grades need to be B or better, lots of critisiams. Dad visited up to age 4 then came back in around age 8 only saw him 4 times per year, then gone from 16 to 2. Reconnected age 21 and I saw him yearly (he moved to FL when I was 16) until his death and yes I was by his side when he passed. Mom still with us and now I am thrust into her car giver role and yes she is still self-centered and selfish. I read something now I can’t find it that there are issues with shadow self when you were raised with parents who were distant. I am so very grateful for nana, loved me unconditionally always hugged me told me she loved me. Part of me feels a bit guilty of having ‘issues’ becuase nana was such an amazing and loving woman and did the very best that she could. Going to be a… Read more »
Small shadow… although my parents and a few family members excepted me for who I am without too much conflict… for the most part… the rest of the world did not. It was hard and challenging… still is at times. I’ve always fought to be myself. As hard as it was and still is atvtimes… I would not do it any differently. I see all these fake miserable people around me and feel sorry for them. Being your authentic self you can at least be happy in yourself no matter what life puts in front of you.
Small shadow, believe me it wasn’t harmonious growing up, I do alot of inner work every time something triggers me, sometimes that is daily, my younger life was very abusive sexually and physically. My father when I was 13 told me “when he divorced my mother, he divorced us kids too. He made a sexual pass at me when I was 17, and I learned to keep my distance from him, when he was sick w Parkinsons at my brother’s funeral, he asked why I didn’t come around, I just looked at him, turned and walked away. I wasn’t there for him at the end. I don’t regret this decision.
I’m not sure what is the truth about me or how I can help convey my message: everyone of us has light and dark. That is our constant struggle. There is no exception we all come under.o e side or the other we can move over. The point if our existence here is to remove the heaviness of our souls from the dark to the light. Noone can do this for you it’s your journey.
I got Small Shadow Self, I was abit suprised actually because at this point in my life, at this particular stopped point in my journey, i would have though that if i had to focus on re doing something or having to kind of sift through some old stages that might be ready to pounce back and put abit of lemon on some old wounds that it might have been the old shadow self but without being too negative- i might have just hit a roadblock elsewhere and now its a bummer because i thought my shadow self might have had all the problems and therefore all the answers lol but ill have to dig abit deeper because something feels a miss around me and i cant quite put my finger on it, useually i can, but its an oddness- its such a stillness but an unpleasent awkwardness like that shitty first day at school, before it gets exciting. you know that feel……Actually I think i just figured out the feelingbut it sort of applies to every single aspect of my entire life…..its not any kind of depression, its an awkwardness thats been pulled up and out from the bottom… Read more »
I’ve learned through shadow work, when I began to open my pineal gland last year, that every human experience is complex, multi-faceted and unique. Therefore, I have no right to assume or pass judgment on anyone at all, but to help shed some light by showing compassion and sharing my own personal journey through many years of suffering, to another soul who is suffering. Words often fail, yet positive energy through a hug or even lending a sympathetic ear is so cleansing. I’m a massage therapist by trade, and I prefer to work with those who’ve been traumatized, such as myself, in my dark and tumultuous past.
I’m grateful for the lessons I’ve learned on my 40 years on this planet. I’ve gained knowledge and wisdom. I accept everything that has happened and strive to keep thriving. At the apex of my pain, I learned to surrender to what is, what was. Nothing happens by coincidence. God did not put us here to suffer or be tormented. We have challenges we all must face. With the love of God, we shall have nothing to fear.
Peace and love to all❤️
I suffered trauma as a child due to the death of my loved one and became invisible, and I have struggled over the years to free myself from feeling unworthy. I am now into my sunset years and I have done a lot of inner work and now I am at a place of peace, joy and healing.
“Small” shadow self, but I would rather call it autism. Or the effects of being born into an incredibly abusive “family” who labels you as worthless, stubborn, and bad and starts referring to you as “nothing” a 5 year old. My only safe place was my mind. And I can’t even explain how that works because there’s always been a deep inner knowing that I deserved fairness, or to not be tormented and shamed for being born when I didn’t even ask for it. When your parents set the bar so low, there’s really nowhere else to go except up, or in.. Another perk of growing up abused is that nobody wants to talk to you so you never have to lie or say things you don’t mean… I never “learned” how to judge the good or bad parts of myself because everyone made it clear that I did not belong anywhere. I also don’t know many words and struggle to get my thoughts on paper. I knew they were wrong. Their words and actions never aligned and I always spoke up. Not labeling them as bad, but simply asking them why they do things. I internalized this. I learned… Read more »
wow large shadow self. i already knew that though. i’m a very quirky individual. i grew up in the hood but i am not a hood person. because of that i am ridiculed a lot because i am not tough enough or strong enough. so i tend to hide from myself and others a lot. i had my first spiritual awakening (that i can recall) at 28, i’m 31 now. i was drawn to mysticism and started to explore divination. because my family considers themselves christian this was frowned upon and i was warned that i should not look into it. but for some reason i am very drawn to it. i even bought a few decks and performed readings for a few friends. i don’t know how i was able to know things about them that they never told me. it was a feeling deep in my chest that let me know exactly why to tell them. to be honest i had a few experiences while exploring divination that scared the shit out of me. i can recall a night that an entity attacked me and left scratches on my body where it touched me. the next day i… Read more »