Have you ever spoken to a person who just seems to “vibe” or “click” with you? That person was probably a kindred spirit.
Befriending or serendipitously meeting a kindred spirit is one of those moments in life that we often cherish until our dying day.
If you’re wanting to find out whether you’ve met a kindred spirit – or learn about the signs to look out for – keep reading!
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What is a Kindred Spirit?
Kindred spirits are typically people who share the same values, dreams, worldviews, and personalities as us.
A kindred spirit could arise in any form: a sudden meeting with a stranger, a close friend, a confidant, a family member, a teacher, a lover, a pet, or even a landform (also called a ‘soul place’).
As everything in life is composed of energy, we often feel attracted to some people and repelled by others. Kindred spirits are individuals that resonate at the same level or frequency as us, and so we often feel ‘magnetically’ drawn to them.
The Role Kindred Spirits Play in Our Lives
Kindred spirits are like quiet supporters that can offer us moments of understanding, insight, and delight on the winding road of our life paths.
While kindred spirits don’t often play very “earth-shattering” roles in our spiritual growth and spiritual awakening (although they sometimes can!), they help to comfort and support us in times of need.
Often kindred spirits share the same personality types as us, as well as similar tastes, interests, and passions. While not all kindred spirit connections are necessarily deep and soulful, some can be (these can be thought of as “soul friend” connections).
Are Kindred Spirits Soulmates?
Yes, it is absolutely possible for kindred spirits to be soulmates! In the realm of love and connection, it’s not always easy to make crystal clear distinctions.
Some kindred spirits will connect with us on an ego level, while others will connect with us on a soul level. Those who connect with us on a soul level are also known as soulmates or soul friends.
9 Magical Signs You’ve Met a Kindred Spirit
Why ‘magical’ signs? Well, meeting a kindred spirit often feels like a wondrous moment of destiny in which we find a person who provides us the exact life/spiritual guidance, insight, or support we need. If that’s not magical, I don’t know what is!
Here are nine magical signs you’ve met a kindred spirit – so be mindful of them when going into future situations:
1. Uncanny similarities
Strangely, you both share a high level of correlating mindsets, experiences, and values – way higher than the average person. For instance, you might have the same personality type, quirks, sense of humor, wounds, dreams for the future, values, goals, upbringings, interests … and the list goes on!
2. It feels like you’ve known this person forever
Sometimes, two people can live together for decades and yet still feel like strangers to each other. A kindred spirit, on the other hand, is the exact opposite: they are so easy to get along with that it feels as though you’ve known this person forever, even if you’ve only just met!
3. You leave the conversation feeling better about life
You know those situations where you walk away from someone feeling heavy and exhausted? Well, kindred spirits create the opposite effect: they make you feel seen, heard, and validated. You walk away from them feeling light, breezy, and more optimistic about life in general!
4. They have a freaky way of offering you the exact advice you need
Instead of dishing out irrelevant (or awful) advice, kindred spirits know how to ‘read you’ and your needs. You’ll find them offering some of the best advice you’ve ever received in the most unexpected moments.
5. You don’t feel the need to pretend or play games with each other
Your connection is very straight-forward, honest-to-god, and down-to-earth simple. There’s no beating around the bush, engaging in power struggles, or other shenanigans with your kindred spirit. You feel comfortable enough to “tell it like it is” without fear of repercussion.
6. They see you for who you truly are
Kindred spirits seem to have the unique ability to see beneath the layers of your ego into your very heart. Because you are both so similar in many ways, a kindred spirit will notice when you’re not being genuine. And with a twinkle in their eyes, they’ll smile and say something so blunt and disarming that you’ll laugh awkwardly and abandon whatever egotistical nonsense you were about to engage in.
7. Your worldview expands
Although our kindred spirits are very similar to us, they’re not our “identical twins.” In fact, their differences in perspective help us to see ourselves and our lives in a different light, expanding our worldviews. While you could say that there are “toxic kindred spirits” who bond over perpetuating the same limited and bigoted worldviews, healthy kindred spirits make us think and question, inspiring us to learn, grow, and evolve.
8. In a big world, they provide you with crucial support
While everyone may be flocking to the idea of finding a soulmate, kindred spirits shouldn’t be overlooked or taken for granted. To have a kindred spirit in one’s life is to have a true friend, one who is there when times get tough and also when times are good. We all need a support system, and kindred spirits are the “meat and bones” that help us to find a sense of groundedness in life.
9. They help you regain trust and heal wounds
Having a kindred spirit in your life is a tremendous blessing. Not only do they help you to regain trust in others thanks to the healing power of being seen and heard, but they also help you to undergo a form of healing. This healing may come in a subtle way (like learning that it’s okay to speak your mind) or in a big way (such as learning to follow your dreams). Hooray for kindred spirits!
How to Meet Your Kindred Spirit
There are many ways to meet your kindred spirit – and keep in mind that you can have many kindred spirits during the course of your lifetime!
If you’d like to increase the chances of having a ‘happy synchronicity,’ consider the following piece of advice:
- Discover what brings you joy. In other words, what are you passionate about? What do you like doing? Learning about what excites you will help you to find a little niche that can increase the chances of finding a kindred spirit. For example, if you just adore crocheting, you might like to join a crochet class, and there you might meet a fellow kindred spirit!
- Get clear on what you value and want out of life – and take a social media break! When you’re too busy listening to everyone else and the running commentary of their lives, it can be difficult to tune into what you really want and need. So my advice is to take a holiday from social media (like Facebook, Instagram, etc.) and do a little soul searching. When you discover your needs and values, it’s much easier to ‘magnetize’ others who want and need the same things as you. Kindred spirits don’t bond over talk about the weather, they bond over shared worldviews and goals.
- New situations, new opportunities. I know this is pretty straightforward, but honestly, the more you introduce a little adventure into your life, the more likely you are to be exposed to new people. New people = higher chances of meeting a kindred spirit who can enrich your life.
- Wild-and-messy-prayer. I’m not a big fan of the LOA/law of attraction (or what I have called ‘Lust, Obsession, Addiction’). But I do recommend praying to whatever higher power you believe in or think might exist to request that a kindred spirit enter your life. Do you need to be religious to pray? Absolutely not. (I wrote this article on the power of prayer to highlight that fact.) Prayer helps to make us receptive and humbles the megalomania of the ego. So if meeting a kindred spirit is an intense need of yours, I highly recommend praying to Spirit, Source, Divine, whatever you’d like to call it, for that extra bit of help. Don’t feel the need to make your prayers neat or pious (but remember that being grateful goes a long way) – that’s why I’ve called this point “wild-and-messy-prayer”: it comes from the heart and soul!
If you have any other recommendations, please do share them in the comments!
To end, I’ll leave you with a few of my favorite kindred spirit quotes which highlight how meaningful these relationships can be in our lives:
It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.― John Joseph Powell
Kindred spirits are not so scarce as I used to think. It’s splendid to find out there are so many of them in the world.– Lucy Maud Montgomery
It’s funny how complete strangers can have familiar souls.– J. Iron Ward
To discover a kindred spirit is to find your heart in the heart of a friend.– Ann Parrish
What is your experience with finding and meeting kindred spirits? Have you learned any huge, life-changing lessons in their presence? I’d love to hear your experiences below!
I have a question for anyone that cares to take it up, but is it possible to have met a kindred spirit and despite having a positive initial time together, they leave you or vice versa, before you can truly be a part of each other’s journeys? I only ask as I’ve made many mistakes in the past, and with my struggles with ADHD/Anxiety/OCD I may have pushed away people that could have been either been great friends, or truly passionate romantic partners. I do know that feeling though, as it’s rare for me to find someone who sees the world in the same way that I do, or even a very similar way…
I have always had kindred spirits in my life since I was a teenager. There has only been small windows where I didn’t have a kindred spirit either as a very close friend or lover. Then as I got older and my only sibling moved back to our little town after 15 years or so, I realized that she and I have always been kindred spirits as well just didn’t recognize it when we were young kids until we reflected on it. We had always written and Skype wine sessions together but really connected when she was physically back on our little island. She tried to surprise me but I knew before she even knocked on my door. We have such kindred spirits that we don’t have to speak any words half the time, frustrating to a lot of our friends haha. Recently I have reconnected with a kindred spirit that when we first met, we had seen each other around and could sense each other but when we first spoke to each other, we literally went for a drive and talked like we had known each other forever and didn’t realize we were gone exploring and talking for 10… Read more »
I found my Soul Mate some time ago. I was finishing an Art course at the School of Arts in Adelaide. On a whim and I suppose an urge not to be a lonely starving artist, I went with a friend to a local Community Centre.
After seeing a few very unusual people and getting some healing work completed, I was asked to join and give free Art lessons to any interested young people. Here I met a beautiful cheerful and happy girl just three years my senior. We clicked like two peas in the same pod and went on to seeing each and being first close friends, then as we were both very different yet both understood similar backgrounds and inner wilderness became great lovers. Now she is my wife of 40 odd years and still we find much to talk over of the wonderful life experiences we chose together.
So blessings to all twin flames and opposites that attract to love and help each other upon this Earthly plane.
Thinking about it, I remember one occurence when I was commuting by train. There were always hundreds of people waiting for the train in the afternoon to take them home. I soon noticed a young lad, also waiting for train, almost every day. After weeks I simply approached him and started to talk to him. I knew he was ‘one of us’. He wasn’t surprised. Said he’d seen me, too. Among all the people on the crowded platform he’d seen me, too.
We just knew it. It urned out he was from a town far away but had some traineeship here and was due to return back home in a few days. That was it. Nothing spectacular, just mutual recognision. Deep understanding, respect, even love if you want to call it like that. You’ll never walk alone!
This article reminded me of a very good friend of mine who came into my life when I was 21, (and below) a dog named Milo. Jerry and I did many similar things, smoking dope, drinking good beer, and other things like riding motorcycles, which is how we met. We also did our first LSD trips together. We struck it right off the bat, and no homo, he had his gf and I had mine. But we formed a tight relationship that everyone recognized as special. I’ll make this short because it’s really a long story, even though Jerry was killed on a motorcycle (his wife’s!) a few years later. I’ve come to realize that we must have been very good friends in a past life, that Jerry came into my time and space to ‘point’ me in a particular direction, but that he had other things that needed to be done, in another place in time. A few years after he died I recalled something he pointed out to me in a magazine, a small ad that said (I’m paraphrasing) Take Mastery Of Your Life (It was an ad by the Rosicrucian’s). We discussed that for maybe 2 minutes.… Read more »
How beautiful! Since it resonates so nicely with a blog post from last week thecompassionategardener.com/trust-your-friend/ “Trust your friend”, which I have been told can truly be scarce for some.
Well, I can count them on one hand but they do exist…I remember that cleaning lady at COPE Foundation in Cork, Ireland who encouraged me to get out of this institution. Yes, I was needed but began wasting away in that closed unit for severely mentally disabled as a care assistant where my service was barely appreciated let alone validated. Oh, the clients were fine. In them I recognized often kindred spirits, while some of my former colleagues had buried or lost their hearts and Souls, sadly. Looking back, I am grateful to anyone that showed me kindness on my path to where I am today. :-)
Yep, kindred spirits are not so scarce. Thanks for writing about this!
Indeed I have found at least one kindred spirit among my coworkers almost everywhere I have worked so far. And yes, I know them (or feel them) and they know it, too, and it’s great to have them, and work with them, it makes everyday life a lot easier. We don’t have to say much, in fact I don’t speak much and generally they don’t, either. But I think it’s safe to say yes, we know each other.
I still keep contact to some of them although I left the work places long ago. Its great, it’s such a relief. And: they are not necessarily my age. One of them is the age of my kids, and others are older, but we are kindred spirits anyway.