Traditionally, the media has been known to equate loners with mentally ill psychotics who go on murderous rampages.
And while, yes, sure, there are some disturbed ‘loners’ out there, the reality is that …
most loners are totally normal people!
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If you find yourself alone and without friends or family to rely on, I want to assure you that you’re actually in good company.
In the age of social media, global pandemics, and increasing disconnection, being a loner is becoming more common.
But there is a deeper meaning behind this solitude.
And I’ll explore that in this post.
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9 Signs You’re a Loner
Being a loner sounds self-explanatory. But for clarity sake, here’s a list of signs that you’re a loner:
- You enjoy spending time alone more than with other people.
- You can’t connect with (or don’t have any) family members.
- You can’t connect with (or don’t have any) friends.
- You’re introspective and tend to be an introvert.
- You like to take life slowly, and the world can feel overwhelming.
- You’re a free spirit who loves independence.
- You tend to have interesting quirks.
- You have the strong desire to walk your own path as a lone wolf.
- You’re the black sheep of the family.
We also have a loner test that you can take if you’re still unsure.
Myths About Loners
Here are some common myths about loners:
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- “Loners hate people”
- “All loners lack social skills”
- “Loners are secretly plotting your death”
- “Loners are lonely people”
- “Loners are creepy”
- “Loners are all mentally ill”
Sure, while some loners might possess some of these qualities, these are not blanket statements or truths that apply to all loners.
Why Being a Loner Can Be Empowering
It’s true that as a species, we require some level of social connectedness.
Don’t worry, that will come with time!
Sometimes we’re in a space in life where we just need to retreat from the world. We need to process our thoughts and feelings, and figure out our ‘true north.’
So to counteract the previous section (those myths are widely spread and can make lonesome people feel horrible), here are some ways being a loner actually helps you:
- Being a loner helps you to develop more self-awareness
- Being a loner supports you in finding the meaning of life
- Being a loner helps you to recover from social overwhelm
- Being a loner gives you space and perspective
- Being a loner helps you to figure out your passions and interests
- Being a loner helps you to develop more independence and self-reliance
- Being a loner makes you a deeper and more interesting person
- Being a loner helps you to find your self-worth within
Can you think of any more ways that being a loner is empowering? Share in the comments!
The Deeper Meaning Behind Being a Loner
There’s a reason why this website is called ‘lonerwolf’ – it has a deeper meaning that is directly related to being a loner. And that is …
At some point in life, we must all leave the herd and find our own paths.
We must become lone wolves.
We must listen to the calling to reconnect with our Souls.
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The world can be a busy, overwhelming, pressuring, and confusing place. For those who feel a deeper spiritual calling emerge within their being, solitude is natural and needed.
In many cases, loners are empaths and old souls who are on the soul searching path. Being alone is, quite simply, a crucial part of their life path.
So in a nutshell, that is the deeper meaning behind being a loner: it’s a sign that you’re on the spiritual journey and you need the space to figure out who you are and what you want out of life.
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Tell me, why are you a loner? What is the deeper meaning for you?
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I discovered I am a Hayoka empath through my awakening, I absolutely love alone time, I am at my strongest and growing spiritually, I love painting allowing the energy to come through me, i do tend to pick up on so much energy when I am around others, I also unlocked the ability to see energy through shadow work, I was touched by god with darkness and light, I watched as my body became both, I learned how to manipulate shadow in my shadow work, there are no demons there the darkness was beautiful with its own healing properties, my guide has been teaching me, I can see these energy spirits when channeling but still learning, I cannot hear them so unable to help them, I have very high pitched ringing in my head like 2000khz constant, I’m not sure what I’m suppose to do now, maybe it’s my intuition I need to work on.
Hey Luna & Sol,
What if we feel a little (or more than a little) disturbed? I feel like I have this issue. I feel crazy/insane and also my shadow side is VERY dark and there are some very unpleasant things that are evil.
What if we have parts of us that are truly disturbed and feel like a loner?
I have many good parts and Soul parts but I am feeling like my ego has mostly taken over and things are not getting better. I still have my small circle of friends but fear losing them as I go through my Dark Night and Kundalini awakening.
Any advice or suggestions? Do you have an intuition about this in relation to me? If that is possible.
Please help.
I have been a lone wolf since my earliest memory wondering into the mountains for no particular reason it’s my calling I believe I was meant to learn to think for myself so for myself fight for my self but I have the ability to get along with others though I’m usually misunderstood my need to fight for others because I feel duty to not allow evil things in my presence to dream of a world without war the hurting of any people and to change it is a walk I will take even it means death simply put I have no fear God is with me and if I can do good I do it, ii never fit in any group I won’t agree on group thought but if I find people like me a distant friendship of mutual respect is a good thing, alone or with others I’m only a minute from doing what I was sent here to do the guardian eternal I will never surrender anything nor watch others hurt when I know this it not Gods way so it’s not my way. Peace on Earth for everyone if we will never have peace.
I am all alone in this world, which doesn’t really bother me that much until I have to fill out forms that ask questions like “do I have a next of kin” and “do I have an emergency contact”, to which I have to answer “no”. I have no family, no friends… no one ever calls me to ask how I am… no one I can call if I ever need anything. I worry sometimes that if I ever have to spend time in hospital, not only would I have no visitors what-so-ever but there’s no one I can ask to do my laundry for me or bring me my personal things from home. I also worry sometimes that if I died at home right now or tomorrow or whenever, no one would know or even care. Don’t get me wrong… I’m not feeling depressed or sorry for myself or anything. That’s just a fact of (my) life. It is what it is. It’s not like I never go out. I do. But I prefer to do things by myself and if I have to go out with other people, I am quite sociable and friendly but when I sense… Read more »
I had seen this website a few times in the past but never paid much attention to it or read very many articles. I think it’s because I’ve been in such denial about being a loner and trying my hardest not to be one. But at my core being, I am one. And I’m only now realizing this. I’ve been fighting for too many years to reverse my loner nature. Thinking that there is something wrong with me for wanting to be a loner. Getting scared about studies saying solitude is dangerous for your health. But I’m happiest when I’m in that mode. This article felt like a weight coming off of my shoulders. Telling me that it is ok to be this way and I’m aloud to let go of the ego who is fighting to be something that my true self cannot be. Liberating.
Sometimes I feel nobody understands but I don’t care at all. I just love and look forward to being alone every day. Mostly either with just my car or cat.
If I’m forced to interact with work,friends, or family all day I’m always thinking during this how happy I’m going to be later especially at home with just my cat and betta fish watching cooking shows or the weather channel! Or going for an hour or 2 drive around town by myself. I find myself saying in my head more and more as I get older”I can hardly wait to be alone”. I am fully functional and happy and liked and respected otherwise. But ive never really found anyone who enjoys being alone as much as me. I certainly will NEVER suffer from loneliness- I know that!
I looked this up on the internet and glad I found you and your posters. Thanks
Being a loner can actually be empowering. In the beginning, my parents forced me to go ahead and ‘make some connections’, because I was always so lonely and quiet. But I have never truly been able to connect with most of my ‘friends’. Even today, I have one or two kindred spirits close to me. People think I am cold, distant or simply weird. But I do not care. I do what feels right, and distancing myself from a demanding society makes me feel great!
It was a highly relatable and guiding article (for those who have misconceptions about loners).
Agreed. Thank you for saying this.
Also important work requires concentration. Being able to be alone, helps us practice concentration, study data, formulate ideas, figure out connections, and tests our thoughts, and allows space to sit on it awhile and look at it again. Great thought requires both dedication, rest and time for fun or unwind. Being alone enough us essential for both my well-being and success at my work.
I have recently become a loner. But do I feel lonely? Yes. Do I feel depressed? Yes. Do I hate people? No. I have become a loner because I came to a point that I realized that the only time I had a conversation with anyone (other than my wife) is when I initiated the conversation. I was a long haul truck driver for 24 years. And I retired 1 1/2 years ago. About 5 months before the Chinavirus. And not 1 person has offered to buy me a cup of coffee or a slice of pie. Or join them for a meal. Noboby has initiated a conversation with me since I retired. Before I retired and attended a party, I was included in conversation for maybe 10 or 15 minutes. Whenever I tried to make a comment, I was usually interrupted. So I stopped trying. And as far as I’m concerned, if people don’t initiate a conversation with me once in awhile, it tells me that they don’t want to talk with me. A couple of years ago about 15 people came to our house for New Years and they were all in the kitchen with my wife, and… Read more »