Traditionally, the media has been known to equate loners with mentally ill psychotics who go on murderous rampages.
And while, yes, sure, there are some disturbed ‘loners’ out there, the reality is that …
most loners are totally normal people!
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If you find yourself alone and without friends or family to rely on, I want to assure you that you’re actually in good company.
In the age of social media, global pandemics, and increasing disconnection, being a loner is becoming more common.
But there is a deeper meaning behind this solitude.
And I’ll explore that in this post.
Table of contents
9 Signs You’re a Loner
Being a loner sounds self-explanatory. But for clarity sake, here’s a list of signs that you’re a loner:
- You enjoy spending time alone more than with other people.
- You can’t connect with (or don’t have any) family members.
- You can’t connect with (or don’t have any) friends.
- You’re introspective and tend to be an introvert.
- You like to take life slowly, and the world can feel overwhelming.
- You’re a free spirit who loves independence.
- You tend to have interesting quirks.
- You have the strong desire to walk your own path as a lone wolf.
- You’re the black sheep of the family.
We also have a loner test that you can take if you’re still unsure.
Myths About Loners
Here are some common myths about loners:
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- “Loners hate people”
- “All loners lack social skills”
- “Loners are secretly plotting your death”
- “Loners are lonely people”
- “Loners are creepy”
- “Loners are all mentally ill”
Sure, while some loners might possess some of these qualities, these are not blanket statements or truths that apply to all loners.
Why Being a Loner Can Be Empowering
It’s true that as a species, we require some level of social connectedness.
Don’t worry, that will come with time!
Sometimes we’re in a space in life where we just need to retreat from the world. We need to process our thoughts and feelings, and figure out our ‘true north.’
So to counteract the previous section (those myths are widely spread and can make lonesome people feel horrible), here are some ways being a loner actually helps you:
- Being a loner helps you to develop more self-awareness
- Being a loner supports you in finding the meaning of life
- Being a loner helps you to recover from social overwhelm
- Being a loner gives you space and perspective
- Being a loner helps you to figure out your passions and interests
- Being a loner helps you to develop more independence and self-reliance
- Being a loner makes you a deeper and more interesting person
- Being a loner helps you to find your self-worth within
Can you think of any more ways that being a loner is empowering? Share in the comments!
The Deeper Meaning Behind Being a Loner
There’s a reason why this website is called ‘lonerwolf’ – it has a deeper meaning that is directly related to being a loner. And that is …
At some point in life, we must all leave the herd and find our own paths.
We must become lone wolves.
We must listen to the calling to reconnect with our Souls.
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The world can be a busy, overwhelming, pressuring, and confusing place. For those who feel a deeper spiritual calling emerge within their being, solitude is natural and needed.
In many cases, loners are empaths and old souls who are on the soul searching path. Being alone is, quite simply, a crucial part of their life path.
So in a nutshell, that is the deeper meaning behind being a loner: it’s a sign that you’re on the spiritual journey and you need the space to figure out who you are and what you want out of life.
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Tell me, why are you a loner? What is the deeper meaning for you?
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Both in the article and in all of the comments are some recurring themes: deep thoughts /insight, strong vocabulary, and no grammatical travesties. I’m in the loner camp, or at least one nearby – doing my own thing, and it’s great to see all of this!
Loner camps only consist of one member, haha
Thanks Kam! I’m happy to hear that this article could be so relatable, and there are, in fact, others out there who prefer their company over others!
-Luna
I have come to that conclusion that most lonewolfs are very intelligent people. And the fact that we can so easily detect the maliciousness, fakeness, and pretending among humans, is a partial reason to why we are the way we are. It is emotionally draining to fake smiles all the time.
It is watergirl. But a part of me has started to realize that: who said we ever had to? Sure it makes social interaction flow more smoothly, and people like us more, but I actually think people feel more comfortable not having carbon copies of themselves (at least, that is from my own perspective). I’ve begun to not smile as much as before, and while it’s difficult at first, after a while you get the hang of being more of your authentic self. It’s a work in process, definitely. But in the end the way we choose to act is our choice ultimately (as hard as that is to accept).
I couldn’t agree more, fellow loner.
This article does sound like me a lot because I am actually content being alone. I was not like this always. I used to have friends but because of so many back-to-back tragedies, I felt a lot more happier and more secure with only myself. I didn’t really have to be consistently trying to fit in with people and i didn’t have to live in a fear of losing or being cheated on by people who once meant a lot to me. I slowly faded away from everyone’s life and I was depressed at first when I realized that no one gave a “damn” about me as no one even tried to contact me or anything. Everyone carries on with their life and I accept that.
Being a loner is personally not that difficult, actually it is very comfortable because the only person that you have to keep up with is yourself. Being in the “spotlight” makes people do and become unimaginable and fake because their life is not solely theirs, it is for the many people they try to please.
Accepting that you’re a loner initially is very difficult and I think it certainly gets better with time. You learn to live alone. You enjoy your own company. I, having lived both socially and alone, chose to be loner because I am not the type who tries to fit in or wants others to notice me. I am okay being alone and I am tired of telling the world that. It is not a disease, it is a preference that some people have.
That sounds incredibly how I was at secondary school! I had been bullied at my previous schools for being the ‘misfit’, the girl who didn’t quite fit with the groups. Me being nervous at those schools wanted to fit in and at least have friends, but I was rejected at every group. Once at my secondary school, I was determined to fit in. Surprisingly I hit a lucky break, I had fit right at home with the 2nd ranking group which were surprisingly filled with the ‘misfits’ I stayed with them for 1 year and actually found a best friend. Although by my 2nd year, my dad died and it was like cloth came from my eyes, making me see how fake these girls actually were- they didn’t care. After this, I decided to leave the group and go off alone- this was hard as I had become accustomed to being with the group, wrapped up in protection like a caterpillar in its cocoon. I was again teased for being alone but I soon got used to it and still am :)
It’s better to be a loner than to be surrounded by the fake people in society, to only look out for yourself an not have to watch your back all the time. And just like the website name, be a lone wolf. The coping I used to be accustomed to being a loner is exactly that- a lone wolf is strong, confident and stealthy, able to blend into its environment with professionalism- on its own, it may not survive well but at least it doesn’t have to battle to stay upon the hierarchy of the pack.
Hi BeePot.
You seem to show the essential difference between loneliness and aloneness in your comment: loneliness is a sense of inner and outer alienation, a dislike towards being alone. Aloneness is often accompanied by a sense of inner wholeness, and is sought after by a person. I’m happy to hear that you have made such an essential transition in your life. Thank you for sharing this.
-Luna
BeePot, this is an excellent observation you are making. I feel much the same, especially about the “fading away” part.
I don’t think it happens out of ill will or even disinterest. I actually do believe that people still think and care about us faders. You are never truly and entirely forgotten until the last person who knew you dies.
Maybe they just don’t know how to reach out or they feel let down as well – or they are turning into loners themselves! I am sure it has less to do with any kind of negative quality we might imagine we have. It’s really not about us all that much. It just happens. It’s a universal rule it seems.
That’s why it’s best to not hold grudges, to see where you yourself may have played a part in it all, and to very much own your state of solitude. Then the real growing and enjoyment of self can begin, I think.
I am 21 years old and I am finally starting to come to terms with the fact that I am a loner.
The hardest part is that everyone around me makes me feel like there is something wrong with me, so in response I start googleing possible disorders like antisocial personality disorder, borderline personality disorder…. But none on the descriptions sound like me. I’m not violent, I’m not depressed, I don’t do drugs to “numb the pain” so to speak. So what’s wrong with me? I am a waitress at a bar/ restaurant and I never go out but I went into my work one night to have a drink and force myself to be social (since I feel like it’s what everyone expectes from me as a girl in her early 20’s… Go out and have fun, right?) and immediately my coworkers asked if I was there alone… As if it was social suicide to be seen alone in public. It made me feel selfconscious so I went home. I’ve always had the reoccurring question of “who am I?” Popping up in my mind. I am having a hard time accepting that no matter how hard I try, I am not a social butterfly, I am a loner. I enjoy my own company. I like taking trips by myself. I like long car rides alone. I get excited when I pull into my driveway and see no other cars (no one else is home, yay!). I think the only reason I have such a strong appetite for a social life is so I can do the things i want to do with another person so I am not labeled as a loner.
Suffering the wrath of the opinions of others seems to be the eternal plight of the loner (and in fact, ANYONE who is different in some way). I really understand where you are coming from Gemini. In fact, even my parents (who ironically are introverts), would motivate me to “get out more” and “get more friends” like one of my younger sisters.
However, I’ve noticed that as I get older I feel more comfortable with the person I am, and discover my own little niches in life. I’ve noticed that other loners comment on this as well: it gets better with age.
Always remember, however, that you’re not alone (another irony!)
:)
-Luna
I remember when I was young that I liked being with my friends and also liked being alone. Then I had a family to raise and was happy to have any time alone just to get things done. Now my life has gone full circle and I am alone again. Now the world seems different, a self world where i am the initiator of keeping in contact with relatives and friends. People say they will call you or contact you but never do. Am I wrong for deciding not to keep in touch ? Am I better off going back to the way I was in my youth ? I have new found freedom and a lot of people are a bother. I spend lots of time listening to people talk about themselves. My job is very social and I get along well with others. I think being a loner is a good thing in my case because people are just not very thoughtful anymore. I might get lucky and find some true friends again but for now I am happy and not lonely.
Hope you dont mind me replying but i left my ownn comment and i am now reading what everyone else has posted about their own situations. I think being a waitress and having to be social polite and constantly on the go is a very demanding job. No wonder you need your down time to be alone and recharge.
The last statement you made about feeling a little yay when no cars are in the drive way sounds like me! If a car pulls up in my driveway i think oh god who the heck is here? I forgot to mention i have a roommate but still consider myself as living alone because i am only renting a room to him and we dont interact much he is more often then not away at work for days at a time so its easy to pretend he isnt here, tonight he came home and i thought oh my god he is back? DARN! I have actually been rude to him more then once because his presence just annoys me and takes away from my feeling of being by myself! finacially i need the rent money so i must endure the situation.
I think part of what i read on your posting is that you still sort of worry what other think about how you spend your time when really they should just mind their own budiness and worry about their own lives it is really annoying when people question you on the why your prefer being by yourself.
Age does play a factor in the feelings too, i think of all the energy i put out raising two kids and being under obligation and having not much time because of work and kids has helped put me in my present frame of mind “ITS ME TIME NOW”
please help me. im a loner. it so happened to me maybe because im the only girl in our family. im 26 now. here in Africa, girls get married at between 18-25 and because im a loner, im afraid this is affecting me and i might not be able to get married. i dont like partying, i stay alone and i dont like visitors or visiting athers. everyday after work i switch off my phone, and when im at home, i pretend as if im not there. but i love being alone, is this normal ?
Hello Tafadzwa.
You need to ask yourself what means the most to you, and what will make you the happiest and most fulfilled in the long term: maintaining your solitude, or marrying? Really try to discover what is going to make you the happiest out of these two options (as the answer is different for everyone).
The solution at the end of the day, is in your own hands. Whatever conclusion you make will then guide your behavior. For instance: if you love your solitude more, you may like to consider emigrating to a place that has a different culture (here is a list of introverted countries: https://lonerwolf.com/most-introverted-countries-in-the-world/). However, if you decide that you want to get married, you will need to take steps out of your comfort zone and learn a new way of living, slowly.
I hope this makes sense. All the very best,
-Luna
This is a good article regarding loners. People are apt to consider loners a bit strange. Can’t think why myself they aren’t all going around doing nasty things to other people. I am a loner myself by choice I like my own company as I have grown older I am 66 years old now I have found that I can’t always hack other people company especially the one’s who keep gossiping and prying into other people’s business. And the one’s who drone on and on about how wonderful it is to be married ( I am single by choice) and how wonderful having kids is. I don’t agree with that utterance at all. And another comment I sometimes get do you prefer dogs to kids ( I have a Yorkshire terrier) When I alone with my dog I can relax and go for long walks over my local park which I like doing. I do have friends yes but we don’t live in each other’s pockets. I am not lonely I love my life so I don’t want some people to invade my inner sanctum so to speak.
It’s frustrating, isn’t it Miranda? People fear what they don’t understand, and this fear is manifested in subtle ways such as gossiping and criticism. As long as you are content with your life, that is all that should matter.
-Luna
Hi…
Great article…
I was on my couch…my 2 young boys having the weekend with their father..and yet again..I am home alone..I am a loner..since leaving high school..I have not had a best friend…until I met my future husband..as he was very social..he being an Aquarius & myself a Taurus….he’d always be out to parties..etc..which he’d have me go to..which always made me feel uncomfortable..but I got use to it..though still treasuring my time alone at home..in my garden..and peace & quiet.
I’m divorced now after 12 years..and it’s just me and my boys…but I do feel guilty about not being a ” high achiever “..as I’m not very confident…I often feel bad about not socialising.
My sister is the opposite…an Aries and high achiever..& very sociable…she is always trying to…help me out..as she sees it..to ” get out there “….often asking..so…what have you done with yourself…blah..blah…I feel really guilty after seeing her..why is that..?.
Thank you Fleur. Sounds as though a part of you still wishes to be a different way, to live up to the expectations of others, and to behave the way other people behave. This creates a difficult duality within you: on one hand you enjoy your solitude (it’s where you thrive the best), but on the other you feel guilty because you are not living up to the unconscious expectations you are setting for yourself. Once you wholeheartedly accept yourself, and let other people know why you are the way you are (i.e. due to your fundamental temperament), you will feel a lot less guilt.
I hope this makes sense.
-Luna
Thank you for your article. You’ve touched on some really great points, such as loners being misunderstood. I’m 34 years old, and a loner. I wasn’t always a loner, for instance in grade school I had many friends, I was in school band, took part in activities, etc. I’m not anti-social, but I’ve always been an avid reader and I just enjoy peace and quiet. So much of many “average people” chatter non-stop about total nonsense, as if there is a need to fill that gap between words with something greater than perfect silence. As I’ve gotten older, I’ve come to realize that the more time I spend alone, the more myself I feel. I observe people in groups and they kind of share the same mindset: An Alpha, followed by a bunch of Betas. There is some reasoning behind this “pack mentality”, and maybe I understood it a while back and just forgot. The whole idea of needing someone to follow or being surrounded by people is just ridiculous to me. I go to the movies by myself, go out to eat by myself, go into the city by myself. I enjoy going with friends as well, but when I do things myself, I don’t need to have a set agenda. I don’t need to plan anything. I go wherever the wind takes me and am constantly surprised by the interesting people I meet when I’m by myself. That is empowering to me, to be able to just get up and go wherever I want without having to need anyone else or notify anyone else or be responsible for anyone else. I get lost in books, and if I ever do feel bored, I mentally conjure up every adventure I’ve been on. There are literally worlds of fictional data floating around in my head, and if I focus enough, I’m flowing over these wonderfully alien landscapes, surveying places that are so perfect and beautiful, they could not exist in our world except in human imagination. I retreat to these places when I’m at work, almost reflexively, as I hear about co-workers discussing the latest “American Idol” or “Cake Boss” or some other pop culture TV show that makes relatively zero difference in the world at large. I have learned how to be very still in a world that wants us all to drive 180 miles an hour into a maelstrom of unabated commercialism and consumerism. I prefer the stillness here, and in this stillness and solitude, I find myself and I find peace.
Very good article. It was not until recently, I realized that there are more people out there like me. I thought myself special, super sensitive and accused myself for being me, but not anymore. Being alone made me feel like a boss, but in a group, I almost always chose the back stage near the exit. While spending time with those really special one or two, I showcase myself with all flying colors. But, when they choose to backstab me, I don’t feel the urge to accuse them for their actions but to find a way to go far far away from them. I also see a loner as some one who wants to keep his sanity, so, he constantly moves on even though he is alone.
Since there were comments concerning solitary jobs, I would like to share with you the following. My first job was with an automobile major, and It was my dream job. I did my duties perfectly and was confident of climbing the ladders of success. But, in the second year, I realized what is truly needed to survive in corporate. I was told that I can’t get the appraisal since I wasn’t very social with the group. I would love to report my work to my boss and present my results to the higher ups, but I hated those late night parties with the team. I couldn’t tolerate the fact that my ability to work is judged on the basis of these menial things. Then I had to choose something really different. I chose to continue my studies and am doing my doctorate in science. I am very satisfied and I almost always work alone except for the weekly meeting where I present my ongoing procedures. I go back to my cave every evening and reinforce my shield for the next day. I really hate the conferences though, where you have to present a poster and talk with drunk people. Except that its okay. I am really looking forward to get an academic position in some corner of the world.
oops sorry… I intended it to be a standalone reply to the article.
Suresh – I’m amazed at how much your comment sounds like something I would have written, especially the part about work parties and get-togethers. These really are the bane of the loner’s existence. Actually, being a female loner I think is more difficult than being a male loner. Females are naturally expected to socialize more and to be more personable and amiable, which I find extremely difficult to fake.
Thank you for your recommendations regarding jobs. :)
-Luna
Hi there Jon, thank you for your comment. I really enjoyed reading it. :)
It’s comforting to know that there are people out there who are perfectly fine being by themselves, perfectly comfortable and perfectly harmonious with solitude. Being a loner certainly gives you a lot of freedom once you learn to embrace it and enjoy your own company.
Thank you again for your comment,
-Luna
Extroversion is just the chemical product of ego, temptation and remorseless psychological torment. I’m proud to be a loner and misanthrope. Screw what those “average people” think. That’s their loss. Stay true to yourself, brave one
I got a important question and would really love to hear your experience…do you feel people look down on you and treat you like you less of a human being because youre a loner…its true that human beings are social beings by nature but if you do youre research there’s people who are born without a need for social dependancy…there must a gud explanation for these people becuz if there wasnt they wouldnt exist…peace
Hi Chronic.
Yes, people do tend to look down on me when I tell them that I’m a loner/highly introverted by nature. It’s something people like to make fun of, or treat you differently because. But I’m fortunate to have developed a strong self-esteem that prevents me from getting too affected.
Well if you look at the animal kingdom for instance, you will find that most animals are sociable by nature. However, there are also many animals that are solitary – even Wikipedia provides a list of them: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_solitary_animals
So I do believe that there are anomalies – exceptions to the rule.
-Luna
:)
As a loner myself, I quite like this article and comments and responses. Why? because, to be honest I don’t feel “quite” so abnormal.
Let’s face it, loners are a minority, that’s the number 1 reason they are shunned (like most things in society, that doesn’t run with the majority)
I’d be a liar if I said i NEVER felt like a complete alien/abnormal from time to time, lonely, depressed from spending my life alone…. but it is actually liveable.
Whether I am a loner by circumstance or “choice”.. (I like to think it’s a bit of both) but really, initially at least, it wasn’t the latter, I think it was because of the way I was raised, (I didn’t have the best childhood or family upbringing but hey I won’t bore you with all the details) , fall-outs with close highschool friends, betrayals, drugs, psych wards, rhematoid arthritis etc etc
I do think even loners need social interaction from time to time, on the rare occassion just to get away from always thinking in their own heads. But I also feel super-social types need to learn how to spend some more time alone, to get get in touch with their “true-inner-selves” and not be defined by everyne else. The thing that bugs me the most about super-social types, (apart from all the back-stabbing then sweet to your face) is they come across as having a “sheep-like” mentality, they’ll think/dress/act like everyone does because fitting-in is the number priority and therefore have no individuality or even I dare say deep thinking?…no originality either!!. I mean if you can’t think for yourself what the f#2k is the point of living or even being you??? ..I think this is the reason allot of creative types are loners.
I also think, It can be incredibly hard to transform into a super social person, being a loner, having lived one a long time. people do not understand the difficulties, especially when you are always branded and viewed as “the odd one out” the “maniac” “the serial killer” etc by OLD crowds, sad to say I don’t think their view of you will EVER change, no matter how great of a person you are, no matter what you achieve those very people from the past will keep you down socially (At least I think) why should you have to be defined as a person by them???
I think finding new crowds is the solution..for this… I just haven’t tried hard enough, and inevidably just get “used” to being alone. (But I don’t actually think I’m “special” because I’m a loner, I don’t “hate” super-social people, at least ones from the past… just not on the same wavelength.)
The thing I dislike about being a loner, is I tend to dwell in the past allot.
There have been allot of great artists, philosophers, writers etc etc in history that were loners.
What i’d say to other loners is to avoid facebook! (aka facadebook or ego-prop) Old faces can be haunting, being re-trapped in a highschool popularity contest would be the very last thing you need.
Thank you for the comment Unknown Soldier.
Yes, I think that is one of the most difficult things to live with – the ideas people form of you. If you’re not well grounded within yourself, or don’t have a solid self-esteem, then the opinions of other people can slowly shatter you. People form their opinions of you within the first 10 seconds of meeting you (they say), and it can be really difficult to change that perception of you.
That is definitely one of the greatest pressures of being a loner; that niggling thought in the back of the mind that people are constantly judging you. I guess that’s why I personally don’t like to create connections with many people. Anonymity is my shield: in work, in public, in domestic life.
Thank you for your thoughts and recommendations!
-Luna
And luna…since youre a introvert im guessing you have a lot of time on your hands so if youre bothered about people judging you try learning about them…once you have the knowledge that you no more about them than they do and you understand the motives behind thier behaviour you will never care what they think again…gud luck :)
Everyone would do well to apply this advice to themselves.
We often tend to perceive the actions of other people through our own limited perspectives, without putting ourselves in their shoes. This creates most of the issues in our lives.
-Luna :)
Sorry about the late reply, “anonymity is my shield” I like that.
Yes I do believe people pretty much judge on anything and everything (even if it’s subconsciously) whether it be appearance/sex appeal, social status, income, political views, religious/non-religious views, race, gender, age, you name it! …Actually, sometimes I find it quite hard to have a positive outlook on humanity in general. I think it’s just human nature for people to sh#t on each other!! ….especially if it’s for their own personal gain! sometimes I think ‘damn I’m living in the wrong age’ but nah…people were always like this.
I remember in high school, it was what kind of clothes you wore and music you listened to that defined you,…those little circles, ‘what drug of choice’ even little things like preferring cats or dogs, or skateboards or bmx etc etc that people would form opinions on you from.
Allot of the popularity was also just based on bullsh#t like whether or not you lived close to the school, or had a big house that kids could party in or not etc etc… most of the time so-called ‘cool kids’ they were just the rich kids.
I honestly think, people are more naturally divided by things than they are joined. I mean if you think of all the religious conflicts/wars in history just over “differing beliefs” class systems etc
Anyway back to the topic in article, yes it’s true many serial killers, psychopaths etc were loners but also many weren’t? I mean you mention Himmler, What about Adolf Hitler?, he was a social guy! he was well liked! just think of all the kings, emperors, rulers (people of HIGH social status) responsible for mass killings/death/suffering all throughout human history!
That’s why I call bullshit on people that think being a loner must mean you are some kind of creep/deviant/dangerous…
In my experience, Go with the flow types, they are not necessarily more trustworthy at all!…just better at putting on the facade for society (but being a loner, you don’t even really ‘need’ trust) I find it to be quite a liberating thing, not having to have ‘expectations’ of people, you’re no longer be disappointed..especially spending birthdays/NYE’s valentines alone . Then when good things come your way, on the odd occasion it’s nice surprise…
I understand your points of view..u jus had a lot of bad experiences so you withdrew from ppl…if more people had COMPASSION and being a bully was a crime there would a lot less loners….assholery from other people is wat causes most people to become a loner in the first place…peace
And unknown soldier…I couldnt agree more about the part of finding new crowds….theres a whole world out there…why be worried about a tiny segment who wont accept u eh
Sorry Chronic my reply was meant for Luna.
Actually, there’s times in my life I’ve been an arsehole and judgemental prick myself.
As a 30 year white Australian male, I can be pretty racist and sexist, at least, those thoughts naturally go through my head. I’m not a left-wing conformist, that’s probably another reason I’m a loner, I don’t go along with the current status quo…
I Been with about 10 women, from highschool till now. half of them were stupid flings. All of them were just liars/cheaters/whores. Guess I’ve just had bad luck? Now I’m 30, I think they are still just the same thing, except now they expect big houses? =S!
I have serious trust issues with women, I think another reason I’m a loner is because I’m living far from the city, in a unit surrounded by strange aliens that don’t speak English…. lol
Hi Unknown Soldier,
I know, and the funniest thing of all is that after leaving high school, you realize that adult life is pretty much an exact replica of high school years. There are the popular people, the unpopular people, the winner and the losers – the social dynamics are pretty much the same. The world (especially the Western side), has a very teenage-mentality. I’m a strong believer in Soul Ages, and from what I have observed most adults have a 15-16 year old mindset that focuses on success, social status and material happiness. It’s a very alienating experience for me, which is perhaps why I enjoy being a loner – solitude is my solace.
Yh im a lone wolf who is very strong and tall and reads alot about war so naturally people see me as a possible future serial killer but im not dumb and I have no interest in killing other people..I just want to be left alone and find a solitary job..in a genuis and if I ever did make friends it would only be with other loners so stay true and dnt let society get to u…peace
I have the same desire Chronic (to find a solitary job – so difficult though). Thank you for reading. :)
-L
Wish you all the best with that…and np…im on the side of the underdog…if that makes me a outcast den so be it