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Deep Listening For Suffering Souls (3 Paths)

by Aletheia Luna · Updated: Mar 22, 2025 · 37 Comments

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A heavy weight hangs in my chest. 

I feel suffocated under the weight of my own unfelt and unexpressed emotions. 

How often have you felt this way?


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How often have you woken up feeling like you don’t want to leave bed – instead, you just want to crawl into a dark hole and never come out?

How often have you carried dark, intense, dull, or draining feelings around not just for days, but for WEEKS? Perhaps even months or years.

If this is you, I get it.

I’ve been there, and I still go there. 

In fact, I’m there today. But I have something to share with you that has helped me tremendously:

The power of deep listening.

Table of contents

  • What is Deep Listening?
  • Why Undigested Emotions Are Your Worst Enemy
  • How to Practice the Art of Deep Listening
    • 1. Heart-gut centering 
    • 2. What can you hear right now, down to the minutest detail?
    • 3. Stream of consciousness writing
  • Conclusion

What is Deep Listening?

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Deep listening is the practice of turning toward your feelings and emotions. 

Most of us have the tendency to run away from anything uncomfortable within us. It’s only natural.


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But numbing, avoiding, and rejecting our pain only makes what we feel larger and ‘scarier’ than it truly is.

When we turn toward our pain with curiosity and gentleness, we often find an immediate sense of relief.

Deep listening isn’t just a new fad – it’s an ancient practice that can be found in many old cultures, such as the Australian Indigenous peoples (known as Dadirri).

Why Undigested Emotions Are Your Worst Enemy

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You need to digest your emotions.

Yes, you heard me.

Emotions aren’t rubbish – they’re not meant to be stuffed away within the trashcan of your psyche. They’re made to be felt. 

The word ‘emotion’ itself comes from the 16th century, tracing its roots back to the French word émouvoir which means ‘excite, stir up.’ 

More recently, emotion has been explained as e-motion, or energy in motion.

Letting this energy move throughout us is the most natural and organic process. But thanks to our cultural, religious, and often familial conditioning, we’re taught otherwise.

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Depending on what cultural context we’re from, we’re taught that “being angry” is bad and dangerous. 

Crying is looked down upon as “weak” or “melodramatic.” 

Even expressing joy or intense excitement is seen as “being attention seeking” or “inappropriate.” 

But as our favorite psychologist/sage Carl Jung writes,

What you resist, persists.

That stuffed away anger isn’t going anywhere. That buried grief doesn’t just disappear. 

It remains undigested within your psyche, within your unconscious. Within your body.

It forms part of your shadow self and intensifies your soul loss.

How to Practice the Art of Deep Listening

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I’m convinced that at the root of most anxiety and depression is undigested emotion.

People are either weighed down by this energy (as in depression) or are hyperstimulated by it (as in anxiety). Sometimes, we experience both unfortunate scenarios.

But what I have found over and over again – in the personal stories of others, in public talks, in juicy books, in other’s blog posts, in my own direct experience – is that you need to practice one thing:

Deep listening.

And it’s an intensely spiritual practice.

It’s also at the root of inner work.

Here’s how you can bring this practice into your life:

1. Heart-gut centering 

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According to science, we have three brains: the head, heart, and gut.


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We have a lot of experience using our head – but we tend to neglect the heart and gut. 

Like disembodied heads, we float throughout our days barely aware of our inner landscape. Who can blame us? We’re conditioned to be that way.

But the simple practice of placing one hand over your heart, and the other over your stomach, can change everything.

So please, try this.

Next time you’re feeling overwhelmed by unmetabolized emotions, go somewhere quiet. Place a hand over your heart and gut, and be still. 

Tune into yourself. 

This is the essence of deep listening.

When I do this practice, emotions often rush to the surface. Tears can sometimes well up. Resurrected anger can begin to burn volcanically. 

In short: the energy buried inside becomes alive again.

This is a good thing.

By placing a gentle hand over your heart and gut, you’re awakening the intelligence and wisdom inherent in there. Your only job is to be quiet, open, and receptive.

And remember, if at any point this Heart-Gut Centering practice gets too intense, you can stop. Do something else. Drink a cup of water, eat, and ground yourself. 

2. What can you hear right now, down to the minutest detail?

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Asking the simple question “What can I hear right now, down to the minutest detail?” is a simple doorway into deep listening.

Try it for a moment.

Stop reading, close your eyes (or look away), and notice every sound emerging in this present space.

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What can you pick up on?

Perhaps there’s a rush of cars in the distance. Maybe a bird is singing, a cricket is chirping, and a refrigerator is humming. You might even notice the sound of your own breathing.

This deep listening practice is actually a form of mindfulness meditation.

By deeply listening to every sound around you, you’re expanding your field of awareness. Instead of remaining contracted, you’ll feel expanded, refreshed, and renewed!

The beauty is that not only can you practice this in any moment, but you can also pair it with the previous technique. (Those two done together are pure magic!)

3. Stream of consciousness writing

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A more active form of deep listening can be experienced through stream of consciousness writing. 

Why write?

Writing releases creative energy and helps to create mental clarity. If you’re anxious, depressed, or otherwise burdened by a lot in life, writing is your best friend.

If you’re lonely and have no one to turn to, write it all down.

In fact, writing (or journaling) helped me hold onto my sanity through periods of existential crisis and when I was going through the dark night of the soul. I still do it regularly to this very day!

To begin your stream of consciousness writing:

i – get a piece of paper. You can also use a note-taking app on your phone or laptop. But I recommend using a physical pen and paper – it makes the experience feel more tangible and real.

ii – Next, set a timer for ten minutes, then begin. Don’t stop writing until the timer goes off. 

Don’t overthink.

Don’t worry about grammar, spelling, or punctuation.

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Don’t edit, delete, or judge your writing.

Just spill it all out – even if it sounds like total trash or nonsense.

Remember, the point of this practice is to engage in an active form of deep listening. In other words, you’re tuning into and expressing the contents of your inner world.

iii – Once you’re finished, read over what you’ve written – this too is deep listening. You’re listening for the truth of how you feel.

Many people are shocked and surprised by this simple practice. It’s not uncommon to have sudden epiphanies or to feel miraculously unburdened from your unspoken pain.

But even if the practice isn’t immediately phenomenal, stick with it! 

Just the act of tuning in and churning out already gets the stifled energy within you moving. And through repetition, this deep listening practice can alchemize some deep growth, self-awareness, and transformation.

Conclusion

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I am large, I contain multitudes.

– Walt Whitman

As humans, we are one part animal, one part divinity. 

We’re not automatons. We can’t live our lives burying away the truth of what lives within us. Repression and avoidance only equal stagnation and illness.

As Whitman writes, we contain multitudes. 

There is so much within us that wants to be seen and felt – and this is part of the human experience. 

Each one of us is like a galaxy, with numerous shimmering planets, stars, and solar systems that are ever-expanding. 

But to suppress how we feel – to be “too busy,” or even just to be innocently unaware of our inner reality – is like walking around carrying a dead galaxy within us. 

And when there are no stars, no planets, nothing … what is left? 

Blackness. A black hole. A void.

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To practice deep listening is to reawaken the galaxy and constellation of our inner being.

Yes, sure, it might be uncomfortable at first.

But soon we feel more connected, more alive, and more ensouled. 

All we need to do is to remember to turn toward rather than away from that which simply wants to be felt within us. 

How do you practice deep listening? If this article has inspired any feelings or thoughts within you, I’d love to hear them below!

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About Aletheia Luna

Aletheia Luna is a prolific psychospiritual writer, author, educator, and intuitive guide whose work has touched the lives of millions worldwide. As a survivor of fundamentalist religious abuse, her mission is to help others find love, strength, and inner light in even the darkest places. She is the author of hundreds of popular articles, as well as numerous books and journals on the topics of Self-Love, Spiritual Awakening, and more. [Read More]

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  1. Skye says

    February 25, 2024 at 11:14 pm

    I found that really bizarre. I didn’t realise that it was a trigger into doing the work but okay.. I would have probably preferred a better warning but hey I survived it and now I have sent it (the memory, even though the ‘purple elephant’ of my flashbacks is still in my head) away. I got triggered for 1.5 hours and I could only move where the memory wanted me to move. I’m so sore 🙃 please be wary that you’re ready to deal with getting triggered?? If I hadn’t dissociated but remained *present* somehow (I think I passed out twice but hopefully not for long) I would not have handled the night nor processed it though if not for the power of dissociation, so I’m grateful for getting through.

    are we meant to eventually learn to process heavy memories without getting dissociated, or is it okay to tune out but remain present if it’s too strong of memory? I don’t know if I will remember by morning but I’m too exhausted.

    totally numb though. And need to be sick before I go to bed.

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  2. AnonymousPerson says

    June 25, 2023 at 5:19 am

    Some people feel like allowing yourself to feel your negative emotions and allowing you to speak about negative emotions is evil, but that’s because they don’t understand the principle of “Don’t think of the purple elephant in psychology.” That is, the more you try hard not to think of the purple elephant, the more you think about it even more. This is why in mindfulness, you are not taught to resist the thoughts that come, but to let them flow along as long as it desires. Often the visualization of imagining thoughts as logs and leaves flowing off a slow river, or seeing them as slow moving clouds in the sky, just passing by, is often applied. This is not encouraging these thoughts, but it is not discouraging them either. It is in this neutrality, that you’re more likely to control your thoughts and feelings, because once you try to resist it, the harder it is to stop thinking about certain thoughts. It’s not that if you’re not discouraging negative emotions, it means you’re encouraging it. No, there’s just very little sense of what a neutral response is like in many cultures, compared to in meditation circles, where a neutral opinion, neutral response, or neutral point of view is more common, towards a more balanced view of things. That is, sometimes sure, maybe you can just forget and distract yourself from certain thoughts if it’s insignificant enough. But if it’s significant to you, not in any “objective sense,” but to how important it is to you subjectively, no amount of distraction can be enough to make you forget about something. You just have to be patient with these thoughts, and let them pass by. In meditation, being angry at yourself for being distracted only makes it harder to focus. You then just have a larger batch of angry thoughts to try to struggle out of. When you’re forgiving of yourself when you lose your concentration, it’s easier to focus. You see, patience with your thoughts and emotions is the key here. Though in many cultures, even in more Eastern cultures today, they think impatience and rushing things is a helpful solution to emotions and your personal life, as it is in one’s professional life and logical decisions, haha.

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  3. Greg Ross says

    May 29, 2021 at 4:16 am

    Thank you for sharing this. It totally resonates with me and I can completely relate to it! Especially your 1st sentence. Hardest part of the day now is waking up from sleep to a reality I don’t want to be in but feel powerless to change now. Just wish it was all over. But what can we do? Have to take it one day, one moment at a time. Your e-mails help a bit to guide me through this long, ongoing “dark night of the soul”. God Bless you.
    Greg

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    • Joanne says

      May 29, 2021 at 5:43 am

      Hi Greg, I understand completely how you feel, I’ve always been an optimist but when faced with everything that’s going on in the world at the moment I have begun to dread waking up in the morning too! As you say we feel powerless to change things and feeling powerless gives rise to all sorts of emotions. There’s definitely a lot of heavy energy around. I think you’re spot on taking things one moment and one day at a time as the present moment is really all that exists. Much love x

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      May 29, 2021 at 4:32 pm

      Thanks for connecting Greg and Joanne. You know, I feel this way too from time to time. There is a lot of heavy and oppressive energy in the world right now. Some days it can feel hard to do anything. But we’re not alone. We’ve got fellow souls here and out in the world who feel just the same way. Having the philosophy of one day at a time is important and so helpful. Much love to both of you. ❤

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      • Sabine says

        November 14, 2021 at 5:09 pm

        If anyone still read this, try the books and essays of Charles Eisenstein. I feel lost like you, too, still, but this has helped me a lot. Now I feel what I need do is help to fill up the ditches that seem to deepen every day. I must not allow separation but never give up understanding each other. This does not mean I give up my point of view, I don’t, but if we stand together and do not allow “them” to seperate us, chances are that we might end up peacefully in a better world. Again, it’s not ‘us and them’. Mind you, this does not mean we give in!
        Also for me it’s good to know that you are out there all over the world and feel the same way! Thank you, that is really comforting!

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      January 14, 2022 at 1:49 pm

      I hear you Greg, it can definitely feel overwhelming to live in this day and age – one day at a time as you say. ♡

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      February 11, 2022 at 12:32 pm

      “Have to take it one day, one moment at a time.” – absolutely Greg, and remember that there are so many that feel the way you do. We’re all in this together ♡

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  4. Douglas Feliphe says

    May 29, 2021 at 2:32 am

    I don’t know how but it just magically works!
    Thanks so much for share this knowledge with us!

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      May 29, 2021 at 4:30 pm

      Happy to share, Douglas ♡

      Reply
  5. Kelly E. says

    May 24, 2021 at 6:41 am

    Dear Luna,
    I have always been huge on watching the stars. Something my dad got me interested in when I was just a little girl. Last summer I began noticing some very different stars in our sky. At first they seem to be of one unit but as I watch they split into two, seem to dance, then form back into one. In the beginning I noticed just one of these odd stars then as I looked a bit more at the night sky there seem to be several of these strange stars in the sky. I have looked all over the internet and haven’t been able to find anything about these rather new and different stars in our sky. Have you or any others noticed these strange what I call “dancing stars” in the night sky?

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      May 28, 2021 at 4:43 pm

      Hey Kelly,
      I love that you’re a star gazer. ;)
      I’ve never seen these dancing stars before, that is a mystery to me. I’m sure there would be many explanations offered by a variety of people all the way from extraterrestrials to a visual optical illusion. I hope you find the answers you’re looking for!

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  6. Jewlz says

    May 20, 2021 at 1:39 am

    Deep Listening? Hmmmm….. lately I’ve been trying to touch the old pain somewhere deep inside me. I downloaded the very first music album I bought and identified with as a pre-teen (Ozzy Ozbourne / Diary of a Madman) and I’ve been listening to songs as I meditate and concentrating on experiencing what the internal energies are doing inside of me as this music plays. I know that I’ve touched the edge of a really old ball of stagnant energy that’s been stuck for many years..

    I just tried this heart-gut centering paired with the deep listening as I played another song from this album and really tried to connect with the inner me – the past me – who is still holding onto all those bottled up emotions from that time of my life and I’m feeling some things now. I sense positive changes to that old yucky energy as it is already loosening up just a little bit.

    I’m also still working my way through your Shadow-Work Journal. Thank you for providing resources and ideas and support as I delve ever deeper. I appreciate all you are doing for the world around us.

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      May 20, 2021 at 3:54 pm

      I like that approach, of listening to music from an earlier period of life – that’s just brilliant. I find that some smells also bring back memories or at least old and forgotten feelings buried away. Thank you for sharing this, Jewlz. And I’m so glad you find this, and our Shadow Work Journal, helpful ❤

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