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The Art of Solitude: 7 Lessons For Modern Times

by Mateo Sol ยท Updated: Dec 16, 2022 ยท 40 Comments

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A man can be himself only so long as he is alone; and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom; for it is only when he is alone that he is really free.ย  ~ A. Schopenhauer

There are supposedly two main characteristics that have helped us stand out in our evolutionary journey; our unique 3D vision and our ability to work in groups.

Many people attribute our social instinct as one of the main reasons for our survival in an environment full of dangerous threats.ย  Of course, there were a few lone wolves here and there who managed to survive on their own, but the majority felt comfort in being part of a larger social structure.

Within the last century or so, with the discoveries of science and the development of technology, something unique has begun to occur.ย  Mass fabrication has become possible, and due to the massive developments in media advertising and the discovery of our sense of identity (also known as the Ego), mass consumerism has been born.


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Suddenly we’re informed that we all have the opportunity to be unique, to stand out from everyone else in the way we dress, the cars we drive and the houses we live in.ย  Consumerism has provided a way of expressing our individuality, with more and more inventions coming out that promise us a happier life and lifestyle.

As a stronger sense of self has emerged within us, so too has a greater desire for self-fulfillment.ย  We live in a time where we crave self-fulfillment as unique individuals.ย  This is evident from the large numbers of psychologists, gurus and life coaches readily available to us at a click of a button.ย  However, the more we adopt the solutions provided to us by society of consumption and ambition, the further away we find ourselves from inner-fulfillment at all.

Often we get lost in our search for answers in the external world and we forget that most of the answers can be found internally – if we provide the space for them to manifest themselves.

Now that our sense of self has become so strong, it has made itself more available to allow for its own evolution, or Involution, and personal growth.ย  I believe we are at the beginning of an evolution of the self that will require immense Solitude to aid it.

Itโ€™s a great time for us to live in, and to begin our acceptance of Solitude now will make it a lot easier to be who we are destined to become in the future.

These are seven lessons you can learn when you find the space for Solitude.

1.ย  Solitude Centers You

How often do you feel that life is living you, rather than you are living life?ย  In the fast paced society that we live in, we often feel that our lives are controlled by the schedules, commitments and demands in our daily routines.


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In conversations with others we touch on the surface of many different topics without allowing ourselves to be completely absorbed by any single one of them.ย  Solitude provides a strong center, an inner core, that makes your attention feel centered rather than dragged around by different social or environmental stimulations.

2.ย  Solitude Connects You With Yourself

Stimulation in our technological age is everywhere, and it’s all too easy to spend a few hours drifting from page to page on Reddit or YouTube, playing games on your phone or watching endless amount of television.ย  The truth is: technology disconnect you from yourself.

However, technology is not to blame, but rather our poor use of it.ย  It captures our short attention spans and distracts us from true deep effort and work within ourselves.ย  Social media also gives us a superficial sense of socializing, which is the true deep and multi-dimensional friendship equivalent to masturbation, compared with sex.

3.ย  Solitude Makes You Authentic

It’s surprising and shocking when you become aware of all the ways in which other people influence the person you are.ย  I have asked many people why they chose the jobs they did, or the places they live in and many told me they did so because of their friends or family.

It’s easy to get a job in a place where your friends work or go live where your family members live, but sometimes those decisions aren’t authentic to who you’re meant to be.ย  The easily available options in our lives are not necessarily the truest to ourselves.ย  We often get so consumed by listening to and watching others, that we forget to listen to ourselves.

How many people live in the city they were born in, work in the first field they decided to study, and have the same friends that they had in high school?ย  I’m certain that these decisions we made because they were easy, or obvious at some point in life.ย  Solitude helps you to listen to yourself, and your own needs.

4.ย  Solitude Creates Space To Grow

We are all interconnected in many ways, but sometimes we need to find the space to allow ourselves to grow.ย  Many of us have responsibilities as friends, partners, parents or sons and daughters, but these responsibilities can limit you.

Fitting into the expectations that the people around you have makes you less capable of truly finding out where your limits are.ย  Social dynamics require a lot of energy and focus, and to truly grow and evolve you will need to use that intensity of energy and focus to push yourself towards new boundaries.

5.ย  Solitude Inspires Creativity

Most of the greatest artistic works and inspired inventions have come in the midst of solitude.ย  Solitude works as a catalyst providing the necessary time, space, intensity of focus and energy that is required to bring anything to life.

Without any external distractions, Solitude allows you to dig deep into your thoughts, your sense of beauty, and observe that which is true within you.

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6.ย  Solitude Makes You Better Company

As you begin to discover more about yourself in Solitude, you begin to find new interests and passions.ย  It is through the cultivation of these interests that you become an interesting person.

When you spend time alone you find the passion and space to pursue unusual fields of knowledge and in doing so you accumulate information that is worth sharing.

I’ve observed that in some circles of friends, they repeat the same facts or jokes because they all spend so much time around each other.ย  Nobody goes out of their way to seek interesting hobbies or knowledge and so they have a limited circular library of information they share repeatedly.

7.ย  Solitude Teaches You To Be Alone

Many people associate being alone with feelings of loneliness, but this is far from the truth.ย  Whereas loneliness de-energizes you and is a burden to experience, aloneness re-energizes your body and mind.

And what about Solitude?ย  Well, Solitude teaches you how to be happy alone and enjoy your own presence without feeling lonely.ย  If you’re capable of being comfortable with your own company, this can also greatly benefit your social life, helping you to stop leeching off company and depending on other people to banish your feelings of loneliness.

Instead, Solitude allows you to enjoy their company unconditionally, being unattached, centered and with no hidden agendas.

Cultivating The Art Of Solitude

Depending on our temperament, we all need different amounts of solitude.ย  But solitude these days is absolutely essential.

Solitude creates the space to explore yourself and the opportunity to become intimate with who you really are.ย  Solitude allows you to become centered and in control of your life again.

You don’t have to become a hermit to enjoy Solitude – even small moments of Solitude are often enough.ย  Ways you can incorporate Solitude into your life include reading a book, going on solitary walks, picking one day a week to go without technology, taking a relaxing bath, or even spending a few moments in the garden just contemplating the beauty of nature.ย  Whatever works for you!

I’d like to hear some of the ways you practice the art of Solitude in your life, let me know in the comments!

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About Mateo Sol

Mateo Sol is a spiritual educator, guide, entrepreneur, and co-founder of one of the most influential and widely read spiritual websites on the internet. Born into a family with a history of drug addiction and mental illness, he was taught about the plight of the human condition from a young age. His mission is to help others experience freedom, wholeness, and peace in all stages of life. [Read More]

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  1. Keratz says

    April 15, 2016 at 8:24 pm

    I’ve recently decided to take a month off Facebook and Skype. A rather abrupt decision considering I’ve been spending about all of my free time there for as long as I’ve remembered talking to my friends from across the world. I felt leeched into a constant game of stimulation and entertaining each other despite my usual talkativeness online as to in real life. I felt addicted to something hidden. But by pulling myself away from it I found something purely wonderful. Time slowed down fast. It’s only been 7 days but it feels much longer than that. I feel like I can breathe once again and I’m free from whatever drained me before. I get more done than I possibly can, and I can balance school studies with my own hobbies such as writing or making music. It’s absolutely beautiful getting to enjoy life addicted to nothing.

    Reply
    • Mateo says

      April 16, 2016 at 5:58 pm

      That’s a wonderful move Keratz, I’m really happy you decided to take that experiment. I try to do technology detoxes every month, a few days or sometimes a week; I really feel connected back to the natural flow of life rather than the artificial flow we all live in on a daily basis.

      Reply
  2. Sea says

    September 20, 2015 at 3:30 am

    Excellent article. The word alone, in 1250-1300 was two words, all one. Cool, eh? I have been, and
    still am, very blessed. I’ve been living a solitary and celibate life, by choice, for almost nine years with
    only four footed companions I’m deeply and irrevocably in love with myself

    Reply
  3. Megha says

    May 09, 2015 at 2:34 am

    Finally. Solitude is absolutely essential. I wish more people would realize this. In our culture its seen as bad. You have to be part of a group and smiling that’s normal. Being alone and finding yourself is abnormal.

    Reply
  4. Wut says

    March 18, 2015 at 5:30 am

    What a beautiful article… People rarely understand you can have a great time by yourself.
    In my case, painting makes hours fly by in the most elated way. And I hate being in constant contact with other people. After working hours, unless it’s the end of the world, I’m not available to anyone XD

    Reply
  5. Florian says

    December 13, 2014 at 11:53 pm

    Solitude an learn how to be alone is one of the most important things in life, that you can learn. But it is also one of the hardest things to learn in life. Because human kind naturally needs other humans to exist. Solitude can turn into deep and hard lonliness when it comes to the points in life, where you simply need another human. (Partnership, Sex etc.) And I guess, it is impossible to control these feelings and desires.

    Reply
    • Mateo says

      December 15, 2014 at 7:15 am

      In Africa they have a word for this: “Ubuntu”, I am because we are.

      It is true that on a human level we are dependent somewhat on human connection with others which is why this sites main dedication is to help people embrace their desire for solitude without encouraging them to become hermits.

      Right now we are the polar opposite as a society who pushes and bullies people into constantly being connected with each other, constantly stimulated, and so we require a heavy hand to rid ourselves of this excess of connectivity.

      Our main objective is to promote solitude in order to find the necessary space to grow psychologically and spiritually and feel okay about it. I’m happy to hear you’ve learned to appreciate your alone time as much as we do :).

      Reply
  6. Victoria says

    August 24, 2014 at 6:47 am

    I was fortunate to be raised as an only child to a single parent. I crave solitude daily. In it, I think, I write my thoughts or I collect several thoughts on which I’ve been ruminating and create a story, I take photos, I create a meal, I read something that will inspire thoughts or an action later. I spend time at the beach swimming or snorkeling. I work in my yard. And, periodically, I will deep clean my home. These are all things that leave me feeling really positive afterward. I must do a few of them every day or I feel “off”.

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    • Mateo Sol says

      August 25, 2014 at 7:38 am

      Hola Victoria,

      The examples you provide are a perfect way to appreciate what fun solitude is when you have learned to enjoy your own company.

      Solitude is enriching, not only for the mind to recharge, but for the soul to find its center, its authenticity.

      Thank you for sharing that with us.

      Reply
  7. Marina says

    July 04, 2014 at 10:15 pm

    I spend great part of my time alone. I just like it. :)

    Reply
    • Mateo Sol says

      August 25, 2014 at 7:22 am

      That’s all the reasons you need; enjoying your own company is one of the most valuable and beautiful things :)

      Reply
  8. Red says

    July 01, 2014 at 1:44 pm

    Great article, everything you said is spot on. Recently, I started taking trips to the mountains on the weekend, but my trips are different from other peoples’. I go by myself, turn off my phone, have no plan or schedule. Sometimes I drive, sometimes I hike, other times I just sit in stillness. My only objective is to simply BE. I’ve learned so much about true my self, and it’s amazing how free I feel without the shackles of society locked around my ankles. I notice and appreciate beauty with a depth that doesn’t seem possible in when I’m surrounded by people. Despite my journeys leading me to high altitude where the air is thin, those are the deepest breaths I ever take.

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    • Mateo Sol says

      July 04, 2014 at 5:18 pm

      “…my journeys leading me to high altitude where the air is thin, those are the deepest breaths I ever take.” Beautifully put Red.

      Learning to BE is the key lesson from solitude, it’s truly amazing how something so simple can be so easily forgotten due to the hectic lifestyle and stimulation overload that we’ve created around us.

      Solitude is a long lost art that will play an immense role in the healing and reconnecting with ourself of our generation and future ones.

      Thank you for sharing your solitude (it’s paradox of LonerWolf) :)

      Reply
    • Mirosan says

      January 02, 2017 at 7:10 pm

      Yes indeed but then I have a deep need to share my love with my dear friends….it’s a puzzle.

      Reply
  9. Harry says

    June 28, 2014 at 1:49 pm

    “Depending on our temperament, we all need different amounts of solitude. But solitude these days is absolutely essential.”

    Very true.

    Reply
    • Mateo Sol says

      June 28, 2014 at 6:09 pm

      Thank you Harry, I’m not one to thin that we all should drop out of society and seek a monk’s lives…many fall in the pitfall of absolutist thinking.

      But whether extroverted or introverted, loner or gregarious socialite, there’s nobody who won’t benefit from a health dose of solitude based on their needs.

      Reply
  10. Tess says

    June 28, 2014 at 9:39 am

    I just spent the best afternoon more or less alone by the swimming pool at my local health club. I use noise blocking headphones and listen to music while luxuriating in the warmth of the sun and caress of the wind. Bliss!

    Reply
    • Mateo Sol says

      June 28, 2014 at 6:07 pm

      Ah Tess, the contrast of hemispheres is intriguing indeed. While you’re at the pool sun baking I’m shivering in the cold warming myself up by climbing trees.

      It sounds like a perfect afternoon of solitude and recharging, well done! :)

      Reply
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