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    Eternally Connected: How Technology Disconnects You From Yourself

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    by Mateo · Feb 18, 2022 · 41 Comments

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    “I’m good at Multi-tasking“, has become a modern euphemism for “Delusions have made my carelessness measurable.“

    Last year I made the hard decision of purchasing my first smartphone. The Pros ended up out-weighing the Cons, like having something better to read while seated on the toilet other than shampoo bottle instructions. But deep down, I knew I was giving up something invaluable the moment I bought it; my space for tranquility and depth of thought in solitude.

    In the 1980’s, futurist Alvin Toffler coined the term “Information Overload” in his book Future Shock predicting where technology was heading in our society. According to a San Diego University study, the average American citizen today is bombarded with 100,500 words and digests around 12 hours of information and media every single day.

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    And if you think about it, 12 hours isn’t so much of an exaggeration. With notifications, emails, texts, voicemails, “likes”, Instagram pictures and tweets, comments, tags and posts, as well as,  photos, videos, headlines, blogs,  subscriptions, downloads, uploads,ads, ringtones, mp3’s, apps, games, usernames, passwords, captchas, folders, files, feeds, searches and poke’s … it’s hardly surprising why we’re always so busy.

    Saturate My Senses

    We live in an extrospective society, one that thinks happiness is found in the outside world.  We tend to believe wholeheartedly that the more we cram every living moment with outside sources of enjoyment, excitement and pleasure, the more we’re living.

    Life is often thought in outward terms, as a series of events that unfolds in the physical world that we all inhabit.  However, we experience all these events that happen in life inwardly through our thoughts and feelings.  This is the reality for each of us.

    We are the surround-sound generation with 1,000 channels.  We want to feel everything all the time.  A walk through the park isn’t just a walk anymore, it’s a music concerto with our iPod, while feasting on a burger, and a work-out as well, with our electronic heart-monitors, all while admiring the passing carnival of humanity.

    Creativity and thought have become subservient to the singular ambition of saturating our senses.  Stimulation has become the new world order.  Depth of focus is obsolete.

    It’s Not The Quantity, But The Depth

    The irony of our times is that we have more “friends” and know more about their activities and interests than ever … by spending less time with them.

    We are also more than ever proficient through technology.  But we achieve much more by superficially immersing ourselves in every activity we do, by dividing our attention and focus.  Take me as an example.  During the writing of this article I’ve digressed in checking my emails, watching 5 videos, buying a book and learning that Google is planning to set up a free global WiFi network!

    When I go out on walks I don’t feel that peacefulness and thrill of solitude anymore.  I come across a beautiful bird and immediately I feel like “possessing” that moment for later.  I pull out my phone to take a photo, and begin to feel the anxiety that any sudden movements might frighten it away.  I give up the chance of being entirely and absorbingly present in that moment, in exchange for the anxiety of admiring a photo of it in the future.

    I continue my walk and feel my phone vibrating.  It’s a notification that either someone has recommended a movie to me, or I received a comment or “like” online, I have an overdue bill, someone just had a baby, a tsunami just killed hundreds in South Asia, or my uncle is getting a Colonoscopy.  Perhaps you have realized this before, but all of these distractions are impediments to the ability to immerse ourselves in each place we find ourselves in.

    But worst of all, technology takes away from us the one thing we require the most for depth of thought and creativity: aloneness.  I’ve felt so many times as though I’m taking the whole world with me when I carry my phone.  There’s never any time or space away from our daily business anymore.

    Respite From Technology

    The other day I saw a man talking in a public phone booth. It is such a rare thing that all I could assume was that he was being told where to drop off the ransom money.

    We keep upgrading software and finding faster ways to download.  Unknowingly, as we increase the intensity of our ties to other people we are cementing the bars to our own technological prisons.  The more connected we are, the more we depend on the world outside ourselves to tell us how to think and live.

    The more we depend on technology and live our lives absorbed in it’s brightly alluring screens, the more fearful we become as well.  Just think of all the hundreds of stories of murders, suicides, rapes, mass casualties, abuses, tortures and other horrific stories that we let into our lounge rooms and bedrooms on a daily basis.  All of this violence takes it’s toll on us.

    It’s easy to blame all this on all of our tools.  I’m not trying to say that technology is the spawn of Satan – technology makes our lives much more convenient and pleasurable.  It’s not technology that is at fault, instead, everything began with the simple goal of keeping “in touch” with everything and everyone.  With our constant desire for extrospective stimulation we’ve turned that into “never being out of touch”, making our every day feel more frantic and rushed.

    This need to “never be out of touch” has been attributed by psychologists, to conditions like attention deficit disorder.  It has been the cause of Nomophobia, which is “the fear of being out of mobile phone contact”.  The need to never be out of touch is so great, that around the world rehabilitation centers have been opened for technologically addicted children.

    In my opinion, creativity and depth of thought has highly been affected by the need to never be out of touch as well.   Just look at modern day children, supposedly the most creative beings there are.  They rarely go on lavish imaginary adventures anymore, or sit down to make figurines out of popsicle sticks, or make their own hand-drawn comic books.  To them, as well as us, reality seems too silent, too frustratingly inert and non-interactive. The sense of wonder and mystery is being lost.

    Sure, many solutions have been proposed. There’s software like Inbox Pause that puts your messages on hold.  There are other services that limit the amount of time you spend online or block every ad and piece of jargon around the contents of a webpage.


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    But the more we connect through technology, the more our thoughts lean outwards.  What makes life meaningful is your inner feelings, your passions, your dreams and to cultivate those you require introspection, deep mental focus and self-discovery.

    Technology brings the burden that anyone, any information, anywhere is always within reach. This makes you feel that you should be taking advantage of all the information, and that you should fill your time with as much stimulation as you can.

    I hope some of you feel a desire to be away from the tumult of the technological crowd the same way I do.  In order to fully enjoy technology, it would be a wise idea to learn to cultivate time disconnected away from the eternal cyber buzz around us.

    If there’s anything that I’ve learned, it’s that only when you learn to be comfortable with your solitude, without the need of stimulation, will you become inwardly content.  When you drop the need for others and other things to stimulate you, you can then develop the ability to think of other people with more care and interest. It’s not about what they can provide for you anymore.  In the comfort of your aloneness, you can ask yourself instead: What can I provide them?

    Try taking some time out to put some space between yourself and the cyber crowd, otherwise you might get lost in the Technological Labyrinth.

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    1. Thomas Elliott

      June 15, 2021 at 9:02 pm

      Nice read. I enjoy your clarity. I live in an RV and am an air conditioning tech. It’s sad to watch my family die off before spiritually flourishing. The gain function of the nano technology disguised as covid 19 seems about to take out at least half of those innoculated. I remain as aloof and let it go as all here is illusory. Me? Just passing through another incarnation attempting shadow work that bites hard. I have somewhat gained a vantage point of balance on the seesaw of life.

      May The Blessing Be,
      Tom Elliott

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    2. David

      March 16, 2021 at 1:47 pm

      Simplistic, perhaps. Generalisations, maybe. Worthy and worthwhile for genuine consideration, yes, in my response, absolutely.

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    3. Olivia

      November 24, 2020 at 4:54 pm

      I fear that people will become so attached to technology that we won’t even live in the real world anymore although that sounds like an over-exaggeration if anything. it’s the people, not the technology. Though they were created in a way to exploit our addictive minds.

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      • David

        March 16, 2021 at 1:50 pm

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    4. Moon

      June 30, 2019 at 7:14 pm

      I do believe it’s the people and not the actual tools themselves. Whilst social media and smartphones were deisgned to be addictive and continously flood us with dopamine it’s the choice of us people to see how we use these things. Sure, I use technology to watch silent films – they are works of art and inspiring things – but lately I am trying to stop my technology addiction. You do make some good points though. I fear that people will become so attached to technology that we won’t even live in the real world anymore although that sounds like an overexaggeration if anything – yet I see people glued to their phones, really it isn’t a rare occurence – so the question stands. What are we meant to do? Surely there must be some way of escaping this digital matrix without condemning technology completely.

      Yet, interesting post. I’ll keep it in mind.

      – Moon

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      • Mateo Sol

        July 01, 2019 at 10:31 am

        Thank you Moon for your thoughtful comment, you’re right, it’s the people not the technology. Though they were created in a way to exploit our addictive minds, ultimately freedom lies in our ability to develop mindfulness and awareness of this, and to plan and structure our lives accordingly. Technology itself is going to be even more alluring with VR and AR already entering the world.

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