All throughout this website and our work here on lonerwolf, we’ve spoken about the spiritual awakening process. We’ve gone into the endless facets of the spiritual journey. We’ve explored in-depth a huge variety of healing practices for the body, heart, mind, and soul.
But there comes a point on everyone’s spiritual path when there is a feeling of utter exhaustion.
When we’ve tried all the healing practices, gone to all the retreats, done the detoxes, read all the books, taken tons of courses (or maybe even just the thought of doing this all feels “off”), what next?
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At what point can we finally rest? At what point can we finally find solace from the endless seeking, searching, and grasping?
Don’t get me wrong. On a human level, it’s crucial to have some kind of guiding “roadmap” and practices to carry out because it helps to settle, ground, and orient the mind and heart.
But on a deeper level, on the level of not just Soul, but Spirit, what we’re always and only ever searching for is Home, Freedom, Love, and Peace. Or what is known in Vedanta philosophy as Sat-chit-ananda or “truth, consciousness, bliss.”
For those who reach a point of utter depletion, for those who feel that there’s “something more,” and have done bucketloads of inner work but still feel there’s something missing, non-duality is the full stop at the end of the sentence.
In my many years on the spiritual awakening journey, the most direct path I’ve found to Illumination, True Nature, Self-Realization, or Oneness is the path of non-duality. (Note: please see the section below entitled “Dangers of Non-Duality” for a disclaimer of sorts.)
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What is Non-Duality?
The word ‘non-duality’ comes from the Sanskrit word Advaita which means ‘not two.’ Therefore, put simply, non-duality points to the basic Unity of everything – that ultimately, there is no division or separation between you or anything else in your experience.
While non-duality is thought to be a philosophy primarily found in the Hindu mystical path of Advaita Vedanta, it is also found all throughout the world in paths such as Buddhism (Nirvana), Sufism (Wahdat al Wujud), and Christianity (Henosis).
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Meaning of Non-Duality (Explained in More Detail)
To understand the meaning of non-duality a little more in-depth, let’s break down some of the basic facets of non-duality which are:
- Everything is One
- There is no separate self
- This is It!
Everything is One
The reality is that non-duality may appear totally strange, confusing, and even nonsensical to our minds at first. After all, our minds work by creating divisions through words, concepts, and ideas – and the notion that “everything is One” is diametrically opposed to that.
Common examples of dualistic notions that we’re quite familiar with are the following: us/them, black/white, good/bad, right/wrong, day/night, up/down, nice/nasty, exciting/boring, spiritual/unspiritual, mind/heart, male/female, young/old, and so on.
We might wonder, how can everything “be One” if there are clearly differences in our experience. We go to bed and it’s nighttime, and we wake up and it’s daytime. We talk with a friend and then we see an enemy. We eat a banana and then we eat an orange. These are all different things, right?
While yes, on the surface this is the case, non-duality ultimately points to the underlying interconnectedness of everything. Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh refers to this as ‘interbeing’ – or, the fact that one thing cannot exist without the other.
Thich Nhat Hanh describes it in this way,
If you are a poet, you will see clearly that there is a cloud floating in this sheet of paper. Without a cloud, there will be no rain; without rain, the trees cannot grow: and without trees, we cannot make paper. The cloud is essential for the paper to exist. If the cloud is not here, the sheet of paper cannot be here either. So we can say that the cloud and the paper inter-are.
“Interbeing” is a word that is not in the dictionary yet, but if we combine the prefix “inter” with the verb “to be”, we have a new verb, inter-be. Without a cloud, we cannot have paper, so we can say that the cloud and the sheet of paper inter-are.
The same is true with anything in our experience. Without the dark, we wouldn’t understand light. Without pain, we wouldn’t understand pleasure. Without loudness, we wouldn’t understand quietness.
Science has found that everything is ultimately energy at its core (E = mc2) and mystics through the ages have pointed out, in different ways, that “all is God.” On a fundamental level, we can sense that there is something that unifies all of us. Non-duality goes that extra step further and says that actually, we were never truly separate to begin with.
The only separation there apparently is has been constructed by the mind. This leads us to the next point:
There is No Separate Self
As the enlightened sage, Ramana Maharshi is recorded to have said,
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You have to ask yourself the question ‘Who am I?’ This investigation will lead in the end to the discovery of something within you which is behind the mind. Solve that great problem and you will solve all other problems.
This question, “Who am I?” seems simple enough. Our immediate response may be something like, “My name is Bob/Jane and I was born in ____. I’m a parent of two children, work as an assistant, am 36 years old, and I love tennis.”
Take a moment to think about your own story, your own sense of self. Write it down if you want to get a solid sense of it … consider your personality, your likes/dislikes, your interests, your family, your dreams, your fundamental sense of “me.”
Now, take that piece of paper, scrunch it up, and throw it in the trash can.
Okay … that might be a little dramatic, but you might as well. When it comes to non-duality, your sense of “me” – that story that goes on in your head about yourself – is not only totally irrelevant but also completely make-believe.
Why?
In a nutshell, if you try and search for that sense of “me” within you, you’ll find that there is no one there.
As spiritual teacher Mooji says,
When we look with the “I” we dream.
When we look for the “I” we awaken.
The deeper we look through practices such as meditation, the more vividly we discover that there is no solid and unchanging sense of “me” within us.
We come to discover that we’re not our thoughts. We’re not our feelings. We’re not our preferences. We’re not our bodies. We’re not our experiences. Who we are is always shifting and evolving.
Our sense of self was different at 5, different at 15, and different at 25. In fact, our sense of self is forever morphing each and every moment! One moment we feel angry, then happy. The next moment we’re interested in movies, then we’re interested in video games. The “you” now won’t be the same “you” in a year from now, even a few moments from now!
So who are we then?
That is the central question asked by non-duality. And while we can say that who we are is Consciousness or Life itself, the answer can only be experienced directly to be truly understood.
This is It!
Finally, we come to the last main facet of non-duality which is essentially the fact that everything you’re searching for isn’t in some magical future. It’s right here, right now.
As spiritual teacher and author Unmani writes,
There is no journey. This is it. There is nowhere else. This has always been it. There never has been a past and will never be a future. This is all that has ever been longed for. This is it.”
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Life is. There is no one living it. It is not ‘my life’. There is no ‘me’ that lives. But I am Life. This ‘I’ is not a personalised ‘me’. It is not an assumed separate person. There is no implied separation between the writer and the reader. This ‘I’ is ‘you’. This ‘I’ is all that is. I am Life itself.
Ancient Zen Master Huang Po put it this way,
That which is before you is it, in all its fullness, utterly complete. There is naught beside. Even if you go through all the stages of a Bodhisattva’s progress toward Buddahood, one by one; when at last, in a single flash, you attain to full realization, you will only be realizing the Buddha-Nature which has been with you all the time; and by all the foregoing stages you will have added to it nothing at all.
In other words, all of our seeking, all of our striving on the spiritual path to get to some future “enlightened state” or liberated Self, is missing the point.
This is It.
This moment, this experience of the present moment, this breath, these sounds, the birds calling outside and the traffic passing by – when seen through the eyes of no-self, is all that we’re looking for.
To the self, the sense of “me” and “my spiritual path,” this all sounds hopelessly depressing at worst (or dreadfully boring at the very least). But again, you must directly experience this to really understand it, and to experience it, there must be a seeing through of the false sense of self.
As the name “non-duality” implies, there are not two different states of being – everything is connected to everything else. The thought of some future state of paradise or enlightenment solidifies a separate sense of self, a sense of “me” seeking for “that.” And as non-duality teacher Lisa Cairns says, “All suffering comes from seeking.”
But do we just stop seeking then? As Cairns goes on to say, “… it’s not about you not becoming a seeker – you’ll become depressed if you try to not be a seeker. While you’re there, that’s what you do, you seek. It’s like telling a rabbit that it’s not allowed to hop. A seeker is there, that’s what it does, seeks.”
Trying to become something or not become something is still operating from a sense of separate self. The point is to see through the absolute transitory nature of this sticky energy we call “self” and return back to what we’ve already and always been: Life Itself.
Non-Duality and Spiritual Awakening
So what’s the relationship between non-duality and the spiritual awakening process?
On a human level, on a subjective level, there’s a metaphorical journey we go through which has been clearly explained and laid out in detail on this website.
Most of us start with some kind of spiritual calling, then find guidance, turn inwards, face the darkness within us, experience moments of illumination, and go through cycles of integration and rebirth. All of this follows the “Hero’s Journey” story arc first discovered by mythologist Joseph Campbell.
This psycho-spiritual journey of growth is what we call the spiritual awakening path because layers of us slowly dissolve and the Centre with us gradually expands (like a flower).
But on a non-human, absolute level, there’s no journey or awakening path for that is a story created by the mind. In the terms of non-duality, everything simply Is – and any attempts to label or create division are products of the mind and its illusory sense of separate self.
So we have an interesting paradox here: the spiritual awakening journey both does and doesn’t exist. But the beauty of non-duality is that it accepts that paradox, understanding that we’re both human and divine, and also neither of those two things – we are everything and nothing at the same time.
In the words of the sacred Heart Sutra text,
Form is no other than emptiness, Emptiness no other than form.
Guru and philosopher Nisargadatta Maharaj echoes this paradox, writing:
Wisdom is knowing I am nothing, Love is knowing I am everything, and between the two my life moves.
On a human level, the pathless path of non-duality often comes right near the end of the spiritual awakening journey when one is sick and tired of all the searching and grasping. However, with that being said, some fortunate souls find and comprehend non-duality right at the beginning of their awakenings.
As a pathless path, non-duality can never really be written about accurately unlike the spiritual awakening journey (which is why lonerwolf is dedicated to spiritual awakening and not non-duality). Words, by their very nature, are dualistic, and so they can only feebly point to the underlying truth that is non-duality.
So with all this talk, how do we actually experience non-duality for ourselves? We’ll get to that soon, but first, a warning and disclaimer about non-duality:
Dangers of Non-Duality
Search YouTube for non-duality talks or almost any spirituality-focused bookstore and you’ll find no shortage of “non-duality teachers” out there.
While there’s a lot of power, truth, and beauty in non-duality, it can also be harmful in the wrong hands and with the incorrect mindset.
Having been on the periphery of the non-dual scene for quite a few years now, I’ve observed a lot of issues arise both within myself and others.
Some of the main notable dangers of non-duality – in particular, through the neo-Advaita approach – are the following:
- Using non-duality as a form of spiritual bypassing, i.e., avoiding, suppressing, or escaping from one’s mental or emotional health issues and the need to do inner work – AND/OR trying to use non-duality to “fix” these issues or feel better about them
- Using non-duality to build a bulletproof spiritual ego to disguise an insecure and imbalanced human ego underneath, aka. what we can refer to as pseudo-enlightened megalomania (you’ll notice this quality coming out a lot in people on places like Reddit and YouTube, essentially arguing over who has a “more correct and awakened interpretation” over non-dual ideas)
- Perceiving non-dual concepts with a black-and-white mindset and therefore sinking into misery, despair, apathy, or “Zen Sickness”
- Falling under the spell of false or misdirected non-dual teachers who gaslight and play mind games with you and/or charge irresponsibly large amounts of money to access more in-depth guidance
As someone who was brought up in a religious fundamentalist Christian environment (where cult-mentality ran rampant), I’m all too familiar and cautious with spiritual teachings.
As one speaker and ex neo-Advaita devotee by the name of Arthur Paul Burton says in a video,
Neo-advaita is about turning away from life: “just focus on consciousness.” But for most people that becomes debilitating … literally debilitating, crippling. People literally become spiritually crippled and unable to live life because because of fake non-duality.
His YouTube channel, “Overcoming Fake Non-Duality” is just one of many warnings out there to approach this field carefully and focus on authentic teachings rather than pop-culture ones.
As “both an addiction and a mental cult” as Burton states, neo-Advaita nearly drove him to the brink of suicide – and he has known many people who have either had nervous breakdowns or lost their lives because of it.
What is the solution?
Firstly, learning to cultivate spiritual discernment is a must. Don’t trust everyone out there who positions themselves as a “non-duality speaker/teacher.” If something feels wrong on a gut level, trust your instincts and leave.
Burton also recommends studying authentic or “true” Advaita Vedanta for non-dual teachings, which include the Bhagavad Gita, the writings of Adi Shankara, and the Upadesa Saram in particular from Ramana Maharshi.
$3So in a nutshell, walk carefully, use your noggin, and don’t buy into every non-duality speaker/teacher’s ideas out there – it’s got to be said!
How to Practice Non-Duality
If you were to ask a non-duality teacher how to practice non-duality, their first response would likely be something along the lines of, “Who is the one that wants to practice non-duality?”
What this means is that the very one (the ”me”) wanting to practice non-duality is the very illusion that non-dual philosophy is geared toward dismantling. If your mind is getting tied in knots, don’t worry, that’s normal. Non-duality isn’t meant to be grasped by the mind but experienced as a shift in awareness.
With that being said, on a human level, we need something to work with. So here are three practices that can help you have a direct experience of non-duality.
(Please note that you may or may not experience anything. Stick with whatever practice resonates with you for at least a month and see what happens.)
- Meditate on the question “Who am I?”
The “who am I?” meditation was first formalized by sage and mystic Sri Ramana Maharshi. This simple question serves as a koan that exhausts the mind in its pursuit of a solid answer. After lots of searching, we realize that, actually, who we thought we are isn’t the case. And in fact, there is no static separate self to begin with!
- Contemplate the underlying uniting behind the play of opposites
Non-duality at its core is about total spiritual integration and sensing the Unity inherent in all life. So long as we keep seeing everything in black or white terms, we’ll remain in a state of suffering. We’ll chase pleasure and avoid pain endlessly. We’ll reject and punish others. We’ll condemn parts of ourselves and falsely celebrate other parts.
However, by understanding that everything, in the words of Thich Nhat Hanh, “inter-is” – or everything is dependant on everything else – we can experience less duality and less division within us.
To contemplate the underlying unity behind the play of opposites, bring to mind some of the opposites within you. These might be for instance, tolerant/intolerant, nice/mean, mindful/unmindful, happy/sad, angry/peaceful, selfless/selfish, and so on.
Now contemplate how each quality depends on the other to exist. For instance, without the hot torrents of anger, we wouldn’t know the cool waters of peace. Without being open-minded we wouldn’t be able to notice our closed-mindedness. Without sorrow, we wouldn’t be able to experience joy.
If there was no reality of hardness, if everything was one big squishy marshmallow and nothing at all was hard in the universe, you wouldn’t be able to appreciate the softness. You’d take it for granted – softness would be boring – it wouldn’t even really exist because it would be so omnipresent.
Finally, contemplate how both opposites exist within you at all times, are needed and necessary, and in fact, are two sides of the same coin.
If you need a symbol to meditate on, I recommend meditating on the vesica pisces, the cross, the star of David, or the yin yang symbol, as they’re representatives of non-duality.
- Mental noting meditation
My first insight into the reality of non-duality happened years ago when I first began my mental noting meditation practice.
Thought noting is a mindfulness meditation technique that helps you to become vividly aware of the thoughts running through your mind by noting them. It was this style of meditation that first helped me to see that I wasn’t in fact my thoughts – and in reality, I didn’t control them either, they just spontaneously arose and then faded away.
To do the mental noting meditation, pay attention to the contents of your mind. What’s going on in there? Perhaps a memory comes up, so note quietly “memory.” Perhaps some plans for the future arise, so mentally note “plans.”
You don’t need to say out loud what’s going on (unless you’d like to). By mentally noting what comes up, whether it’s a feeling, a thought, a sensation, a memory, or something else, you can start to see that you are not your thoughts. This realization can create the necessary inner space for more non-dual realizations to take place – it can be liberating to recognize that your thoughts don’t (and can never) define you!
Non-Duality FAQ
Here are some other questions that are regularly asked about regarding non-duality which you might find helpful:
In the words of teacher Scott Kiloby,
“Yes, nondual realization is a profound and life changing thing. No, it is not the answer to all suffering.”
Non-duality is very much a transcendent path, but at the same time, it’s not exempt from traps such as spiritual bypassing and spiritual egotism.
Philosopher, writer, and speaker Alan Watts once compared non-duality to the myth of Icarus – an ancient tale of a young man who flew too close to the sun. Non-duality can certainly feel like that if it isn’t grounded. That’s why Watts recommends the path of mindfulness used in conjunction with non-duality – it helps to ground the experience.
In the words of non-duality teacher Rupert Spira,
“There are three essential steps in the spiritual path: the first is to notice that one is not a body or a mind, but rather the Awareness in which these appear, and with which they are known; the second is to explore the nature of Awareness and discover that it doesn’t share the destiny or the limits of the body and mind – that is, to discover its eternal, infinite nature; and the third is to live a life that is consistent with this understanding.”
These three basic steps can help you to practically apply non-duality to your life.
Non-duality doesn’t work the same as school, university, or your workplace. You can’t achieve or earn it, although you can learn about it.
Non-dual shifts in consciousness (often called Self-realization, Illumination, Oneness) happen when they happen organically, without your doing. The “you” that’s trying to earn, achieve or “get it” in the first place is the very obstacle in the way!
There’s no point trying to get rid of your sense of self either – that only reinforces your sense of self. Only the ego wants to kill the ego.
So the only practice is to let go, surrender, and learn more about non-duality – that’s why it’s called a “pathless path.”
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To close, I’ll leave you with a beautiful quote by poet and spiritual teacher Jeff Foster which uses the ocean as a metaphor for non-duality:
I don’t think non-duality is something you can actually understand with your mind; but you know it with your heart. You’ve always known it, actually. It’s like when you look out at the ocean, you see hundreds, thousands of waves, of all shapes and sizes, which seem to be very separate from each other. We are like the waves. Every person, every animal, every tree, every drop of rain, every planet. We appear to be separate beings, but actually, we are all expressions of the One Life, the ocean of Consciousness; no wave is actually separate from the ocean at all.
Tell me, what are your thoughts about non-duality? Have you ever had any non-dual experiences? I’d love to hear below.
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I stumbled on to Ramana Maharishi in 2018 and have gradually worked with non duality in my own way, deeper and deeper over the years, I’ve particularly taken it more to heart this past year, it’s been gradual like my whole path.
In the years before 2018 when I was working with different spiritual practices and being told I should be this and I should be that. I always intuitively felt that the answer was within and not in becoming something else. I can see how the healing inner work could bring happiness along with becoming or identifying as a spiritual healer or teacher of some kind and maybe that’s okay. I reckon or feel that we all have a core wound of rejection or shame from the feeling of separation. Changing the character might make life easier but it still supports separation. Non duality as you said in the article can come along and bring that seeking to an end, there’s something about it pulls me and feels right for me and Ramana Maharashis teachings deeply resonate with me. There’s still an element of seeking in non duality but its an exhausted seeker be prepared to pack it in. It’s confusing and paradoxical and challenging and I’ve heard one guy describe it as if you come to non duality, you’ve won the lotto, I’m still waiting to cash in, yes the waiting, the expectations, the ‘I’!!
Even the turd on the sidewalk is spiritual and part of spirituality. I do have to disagree with the people who I believe take this too far and lose themselves. THIS IS LIFE! OUR LIFE IS OUR LIFE! WE WILL NEVER HAVE THIS ONE AGAIN! That is the point of incarnating in my opinion. To be alive in this life. Seeing oneness does not exclude being seperate as well. We are seperate to learn and to be alive or whatever incarnation we are in. I feel lucky to have done my spiritual journey on my own mostly. I think relying on spoon fed information can cause people to lose their own spirituality and just regurgitate what they have learned, as well as doubt themselves when their experiences do not align with what is already doctrine. Yet being taught can also be important but people need to do their own research on it and not just believe it, is what I am trying to say. To me oneness is also wholeness, which is the opposite of the disconnection that causes the range from horrors and to seeing other. Yet the Source is also its own disconnection due to it being everything, but its wholeness is its true self. In my opinion and what I have learned in my life. We all need to see other points of view and think critically on things. I think spiritualists like to think we have the objective truth and it often leads to hypocrisy and covert egoism. I am just a human trying to survive. I do have to disagree that a person is or is not their thoughts. Thoughts are a part of a person and that is fine. Thoughts are our guides for our life. When we can think critically about them then we choose better. IT IS IMPORTANT FOR EVERY PERSON TO LIVE THEIR OWN SPIRITUAL JOURNEY AND NOT WHAT THEY ARE TOLD SHOULD BE. This is my opinion. Also the brain is VERY important in awareness on this planet. Studing and working with people with brain damage has helped me learn this. This is fact. Yet this does not mean there may not be something seperate even if the human brain cannot be aware of it when damaged severely (and there are instances where this is proven when those in vegetative states have woken up years later not aware of those years, there has also been the opposite. Depends on level of brain damage.) okay that is my tangent on all of this. If anyone read this hope you are well.
so why not just say, “Life is what it is, act accordingly to what you want to happen?”
Thanks Marion. It’s a good question, but I think that philosophy focuses solely on the outcome and behavior of your experience, it doesn’t address the source of the duality which this article explores.
To do that, you need to explore the nature of your identity, the ‘self’ that is in relationship with the world, and creates a split.
I’m not sure the writer understands the full meaning of sat chit ananda and non duality….the real thing is not subject to “spiritual bypassing”..
Thanks for sharing Emery. Non-duality describes an awakening and disidentification from the ego. But the ego never disappears, it’s just minimized into the background. A person can be awakened spiritually and yet still be psychologically underdeveloped and susceptible to spiritual bypassing like anyone else. There’s plenty of current and historical examples of spiritual masters who caused a lot of damage because of this.
For me for most of my life it was a “force” that connected everything. It runs through all. All elements down to the smallest part existed at the beginning and exists today. Those elements rearrange constantly into forms like bodies, plants, rocks, etc. Since humans started preserving bodies in concert and metal boxes, we have disrupted this and the world dies a little as a result. By keeping those elements from going back into the universe and joining all others, we have created a break that is causing the Earth and the universe to not be able to regenerate and renew.
You’re saying that there is no i , that i am everyone else and that i am to love haters, murders, those that torture, rapist, and child molesters, satanists, or those that sacrifice children, and any and ALL forms of evil? Love those other me’s that do those things? So if someone cuts off parts of of my body, as i scream out, it should be oh i love you? I will not love any evil! Because i love myself! Evil can be a teacher, but i don’t see how doing those things is part of spirituality. And this world is full of evil and lies!!! And ppl are too cowardly to change that… Sad. Duality… So there is no evil or good, just everything in-between. So 2 plus 2 equals 5, because there is no right or wrong.
Love your shadow first and you’ll understand😊
Love by letting others do everything they want no matter how bad it is is not love. This is called people pleasing, or just wanting the appearance of looking like you love someone, rather than really loving them. Sometimes when you love someone, you want what’s better for them, even if it’s something they don’t necessarily want, but still need. If a criminal is better off being imprisoned and receiving rehabilitation, then just letting them get away, then that is love. Love does not mean agreeing with everything a person says or what they want. I think you have a very limited definition of love if that is the case.
LOVE- let others voluntarily evolve
What you are saying is both right and wrong. It is Non-duality. The Greastest LOVE is God’s love which allow everything happens and exist as they are. At human being level, the greatest love would be described as Budha’s, Jesus’s, …
If what you read doesn’t resonate with your being then why allow it to give you so much grief?
“the third is to live a life that is consistent with this understanding.” My challenge is exactly this – I’ve experienced oneness, no self, emptiness, but I struggle to reconcile it with day to day living. How does one see meaning in day to day activities, pursue anything material in the context of non duality? I see everything as meaningless which I know is black & white view mentioned above. How do I shift the perspective? Do I have to let go of more self? How do you folks live the understanding?
If you really experienced oneness, no-self, emptiness, then you should have no challenge at all.
Because non duality was NEVER meant to sacrifice the self. I do not know how people who actually believe that non duality is to lose the self live, but it is impossible to not be oneself without ending ones life, so they are hypocrites. There is also usually an egoist vibe I get when people say they are “so one with everything they are not themselves”.
Non duality in my opinion is meant to include the self and understanding and seeing the beauty of seperateness while also realizing we are all one. The point (to me) is to be as alive as possible in the amazing incarnation we are in.
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From the book “Zen Mind, Beginner’s Mind” informal talks given at the Tassajara Zen Mountain Center near San Francisco by Zen teacher Shunryu Suzuki (1905-1971)
I went to Yosemite National Park, and I saw some huge waterfalls. The highest one there is [1,430] feet high, and from it the water comes down like a curtain thrown from the top of the mountain. It does not seem to come down swiftly, as you might expect; it seems to come down very slowly because of the distance. And the water does not come down as one stream, but is separated into many tiny streams. From a distance it looks like a curtain. And I thought it must be a very difficult experience for each drop of water to come down from the top of such a high mountain. It takes time, you know, a long time, for the water finally to reach the bottom of the waterfall. And it seems to me that our human life may be like this. We have many difficult experiences in our life. But at the same time, I thought, the water was not originally separated, but was one whole river. Only when it is separated does it have some difficulty in falling. It is as if the water does not have any feeling when it is one whole river. Only when separated into many drops can it begin to have or to express some feeling. When we see one whole river we do not feel the living activity of the water, but when we dip a part of the water into a dipper, we experience some feeling of the water, and we also feel the value of the person who uses the water. Feeling ourselves and the water in this way, we cannot use it in just a material way. It is a living thing.
Thank you for writing about this topic. I’ve struggled with what seems like a paradox with spiritual awakening vs non duality.
I have had moments and sometimes days of non duality experiences.
The thing is that I feel like something needs to be done (my life calling) to help the animals that suffer but in these states, it feels like I should just let it be.
This is just one example.
With non duality, it seems it’s just a passive way of being but there are things to do, those who need help, etc.
Thank you for this amazing site. It has been my one constant and reliable source of information and support as I navigate a very terrifying and confusing awakening.
Katie
Hi Katie,
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings about non-duality and the human paradox. And it’s an honor to be of help during your rough journey so far (which I hope becomes much smoother and more gentle soon!).
The interesting thing about non-duality is that it is all-inclusive (non-duality = “not two”), so why wouldn’t it also include action of some kind? Action and non-action, ego and soul, male and female, up and down, everything and nothing – to me, non-duality is the union of opposites. Being motivated by compassion is certainly part of that.
You might be interested in this article I wrote called “Dear Human: It’s Okay to Be Both Sacred AND Wild” https://lonerwolf.com/sacred-wild/ as I feel it relates a lot to your question and ponderings.
Much love 💖
Are you on LinkedIn, please?
Hi Sue, yes, we’re on LinkedIn (newly joined): https://www.linkedin.com/company/lonerwolf/about/ 🙂