My first insight into the feeling of being internally old occurred during adolescence.
I felt unusually different from the kids around me, somehow older, but ‘mature’ wasn’t exactly the right word. The best way I could describe it back then was as though I had lived hundreds of years of life which had been condensed into 16 years of time.
As the years went by, I encountered a few Old Souls who I shared my experiences with. I would talk about my insights and introduce them to the concept of Old Souls. One of these people was Luna. She was so excited about it that she eventually wrote the well-received article 9 Signs You’re An Old Soul as well as a subsequent Old Soul Book.
In my years of mentoring Old Souls and helping them through their spiritual development, I’ve witnessed a number of issues. I want to mention that it’s important to remember that having an Old Soul doesn’t necessarily equate to being ‘all-knowing’ or perfect. Rather, it’s an indication of the age of the energy known as your soul. With that being said, these are some of the biggest problems I’ve seen, and personally experienced:
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1# You’re a Social Outcast
As with anyone who perceives the world differently from others, Old Souls can experience a great (and unending) sense of isolation. Because they fail to fit into the standards that society admires and values (careers, materialism, status and so forth), they’re commonly seen as strange, offbeat and unconventional.
2# You’re the “Black Sheep”
While Old Souls can build many strong relationships with people, their penetrating ability to connect with the depths of the people in their lives can create many enemies. Seeing deeply into the core issues of the people around them, Old Souls feel an innate desire to be truthful, even if this means revealing uncomfortable truths such as the fact that many problems are caused by immaturity, or a failure to take responsibility.
Those who are willing to change will listen and like you, while the rest will feel great disdain towards you. This is why Old Souls often become the “devils advocates” or “black sheep” of their friends or family.
3# You Often Get Mislabeled
If there’s something we all love and are good at, it’s labeling people. We fool ourselves into thinking we can “know” someone by attributing a label to them. However, humans are far too complex to be boxed into a specific and unchanging group of people. In this case, Old Souls will often be given different labels, from “beatniks” to “hippies”, “anarchists” to “new age freaks“.
While you can’t fight labels, you can try to use them in a positive way. Labels can be used as signposts, as directions towards awareness of some quality many of us share. These qualities will be different in intensity and strength in each of us, but at least they will help us understand ourselves (and the people around us) a bit better.
This is partly why I called the Old Soul Group “I’m an Old Soul” – not so people can gain egotistical pride with such a label, but to create a sense of self-awareness, to allow people to better understand themselves.
4# You Speak an Entirely Different Language
Words are symbols we each load with our own unique definitions according to our own unique life experiences that are associated with each word. What I associate with love might be entirely different from what you associate with love. For example: When someone thinks about love, they might remember their old failed relationship and feel a terrible sense of vulnerability when the word arises, while others might associate love with loyalty and friendship.
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Old Souls realize this limitation, and therefore greatly struggle to express entirely what they want to say, knowing that it’s as though they are speaking an entirely different language from others.
5# You Are Prone to Intense Existential Crises
I have sometimes witnessed cases where Old energy is born into the body of a person who does not have the matching mental maturity to embrace it. This can result in depressions, substance abuse and existential crisis’s.
When a person realizes that everything is transitional and passing, life can become pointless. This person sees that our bodies are temporary vessels that don’t really matter, and without the ability to cultivate self-love, self-destructive habits can result.
In this case, it’s necessary to undergo intense spiritual-growth, to cultivate existential meaning and inner-understanding through inner work in order to learn how to embrace your soul.
6# You Easily Become Emotionally Drained
With the wisdom and patience that comes with being an Old Soul, there also comes others people’s desire to use you as a dumping ground for their emotions. I’ve experienced this a lot in my own life, often experiencing emotionally-charged conversations that last for hours at a time. Some Old Souls also double as Empaths, which can also take a great toll on your energy.
7# You’re Prone to Becoming Mentally Drained
In the search for truth, deeper understanding and inner exploration of yourself and the world around you, it is common for the Old Soul to experience a lot of mental fatigue. Double this with acting as a mediator between people and their problems, and you’ll end up exhausted at the end of the day.
#8 You Struggle to Find a Kindred Spirit
If making friends who connect with you is difficult, finding a kindred spirit, soul mate, or life partner, can be even more of a challenge. It took me living in 6 different countries to find Luna.
But it’s not always as hard as that. Having the wisdom to discern the true depths of your connection with a person will be your greatest asset in the area of love.
#9 You’re Crippled By Possibilities
As we grow in maturity our perception of possibilities and explanations expands: we see life from limitless angles. This means that we see more than one way of doing things which makes us unfailingly indecisive as we see the full expanse of possibilities, and the lack of absolutes. Although making decisions and judgments can be a crippling experience, this can double as a virtue, allowing us to understand that we can’t simply judge people by face value, and that they are the result of millions of internal and external influences.
#10 You Yearn For a Place to Belong
For some Old Souls, the world feels alien. They find it hard to understand people, why such chaos and misery exists and how it is allowed, and sometimes encouraged, to continue. They long to find a place where they feel like they belong, a space filled with freedom and liberation. This often results in the feeling that this world is not their true home.
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Regardless of which of the above problems you may come across, these struggles will affect your life a lot less when you grow in inner understanding and acceptance.
The stronger your ability to channel and use the Old energy that is latent within you, the greater your capacity will be to aid in the continuation and evolution of your soul.
Please feel free to share your experiences below.
There was something almost mysterious about this woman. Her face had lots of wrinkles. These were the first things to catch your eye, but they didn’t make her look old. Instead, they emphasized a certain youthfulness in her that transcended age. The wrinkles belonged where they were, as if they had been part of her face since birth. When she smiled, the wrinkles smiled with her; when she frowned, the wrinkles frowned, too. And when she was neither smiling nor frowning, the wrinkles lay scattered over her face in a strangely warm, ironic way. ~ Haruki Murakami (Norwegian Wood)
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Excellent article. Perfectly articulates the challenges I’ve experienced my whole life. I was thinking about why old souls feel so isolated from others, and i had this idea that maybe caste systems were in place in societies for this very reason. They were intended to be spiritual caste systems, so that people could recognize and congregate with others on the same evolutionary plane. Perhaps other soul groups or “levels” feel isolated for the same reasons. We’re all at different evolutionary gradations. Just a thought.
Ahhhhhhhhhhh!! Thankyou… I’m not entirely sure what it is… but ever since I ‘fell down the rabbit hole’ onto this path I’ve been recieving signs… The first was the first time I saw an energetic healer whose first response after the session was that I was ‘an old soul’ – a comment that I dismissed at that point in time. However I’ve been recieving information in my dreams, and in waking life about previous lives… about my soul… and it’s nice to feel that I am not alone, that I’m not crazy! ;) Peace and namaste.
Hola Shara,
Thank you for your kind words, I’m happy my experience resonates deeply with your own.
Finding purpose and belonging is the external quest for the soul to reunite with what it has lost, to ‘return home’. It’s a difficult arduous process, but it’s worth every bit of the effort.
It’s too broad a topic to answer here but right now Luna and myself are working on a small package of worth that I think will benefit you in this experience. It’s not so much about finding a universal life purpose but rather of becoming in tune with that which fills you with meaning.
Keep an eye out for that, but also read through other of the content on our website. Most of this content is aimed at healing some fragmented aspect of yourself and feeling whole once more.
Warmly,
Sol
When I was in High School, I often felt detached from everyone else and could relate to them. So it is nice to find a website that I can relate to.
Strangely all the points apply to me . . wish money didn’t exsist and wish we were out of slavery from evil aliens from outter space . . .I feel I’m fucking stuck here :(
Im glad someone understands. Im only 21 years old and i’m the only one i know who dreams of owning a muscle car for daily driving, and who wishes we could shut off stupid news casts about starbucks. I hate normal life and the lack of caring that individuals show each other. And everything is limited by money or status. And just as i figure it all out, and i choose to become a cop, people start killing cops and showing even less respect for each other. It brings me comfort i have people who agree with me. It helps. So does drinking tho i suppose haha
I have never fit in, but after Army training it was clear. Hearing the small petty issues engulfing normal people, causing their emotion to spiral at the drop of a phone, or a B instead of an A. Nothing like this ever mattered to me. And life honestly doesn’t have meaning besides the meaning you give it, so if i say modern life means nothing what happens? Facebook likes? Points on fantasy football? Who the hell cares? Cars that had computers in the dash? When did it go from big engines to big technology? When did a phone start costing as much as an apartment? When did comedy start becoming disgusting? And when did people become so jerky that they roll there eyes and scoff at anyone who disagrees? Yet if you call most of these people on these things they go into shock? Status, stuff, doesn’t matter to me. Its truly depressing
Scored 92 on the old soul test. I’m 27 years old and I feel this bone-deep exhaustion with life. Emotionally and mentally drained. Many of the points in this post apply to me. Thank you for sharing.
This is me! I’m 16 and am already feeling old and have all of these traits. I can’t count how many times I have felt like an outcast and wondering why I don’t fit in. This really make me feel better about myself…
F literatureThere is only one other person I know who “gets it”. We are both Old souls but our friendship group is quite large and mainly younger (child-early adult ). So We never get to talk about it : ( Often people dump their feelings on me but I feels like I can hardly ever do that. I did that once and the friend (young soul) was wierded out even though she has dumped feelings on me since forever. I can only talk to one person and that is hardly ever. So I feels a deep desier to have frie ds and be social. My freinds group is 12 people and I go to a highscools the group is spread across at least 5 different classes. Honestly it is so unstable and falling apart even though We are all still friends with each other. I am making so much effort just to hold evryone in. I’m exhausted all the time. I’m not helping my fellow Old soul either, because I’m sure he feels the same and I probably add to it a bit. I just fel tired all the time and life feels pointless. I have Top (or close to)… Read more »