Let me start with the facts: I used to be really into the idea of twin flames.
In fact, I was so intrigued by the idea that not only did I write some of the most highly read articles on the internet about it, but I also created a 20,000+ member Facebook group on it, AND I co-wrote an entire book about it that accumulated over one hundred 4.5 star reviews on Amazon.
Someone the other week even commented that I was “you know, the twin flame authority on the internet,” for which I immediately cringed because that’s certainly not what I want to be known for (but Mindful Shadow Work or the Spiritual Awakening Process? Yes please).
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Having started my romantic relationship before the whole twin flame craze back on the 11th of November 2011 (yeah, I know, 11.11.11, one of many “twin flame numbers”), on some level, it once felt like destiny for me to write about twin flames. Love, after all, has been such a transformative catalyst for me that I wanted to share my journey with others.
But very rapidly, I started to realize that not only did I have no passion for continuing down the twin flame road, but the path actually nauseated me, and I began seeing more and more how the idea could be toxic and easily misused.
While I attempted to provide some kind of grounded and psychospiritual understanding of this twin flame concept in the book I authored, the message just didn’t get through. Instead, I would witness over and over again how such an idea could be used to justify narcissistic, codependent, and otherwise toxic relationships.
And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
You can’t build a stable foundation upon an idea propagated by the new age movement that is defined by push-and-pull psychodrama dynamics, so I’ve had to let it go – and all the many hours of work I’ve put into it through the years.
Needless to say, I’ve since taken this entirely off my plate, handed the twin flame Facebook group over to someone else, redirected all the articles on this website about twin flames, and unpublished the twin flames book.
As someone who takes pride in their work and wants it to be as helpful and healing as possible, this has been a big personal blow and a true lesson in humility for me.
In this totally rewritten and revamped article, I’m going to explain firstly what is a twin flame (as I once understood it) and why I feel like the twin flame idea can be more harmful than helpful. Buckle up.
Table of contents
- What is a Twin Flame?
- 21 Twin Flame Signs
- 7 Reasons Why the “Twin Flames” Idea Can Be Toxic and Disempowering, aka., Why I Abandoned the Notion
- 1. The notion that your twin flame completes you or is the “other half of your soul” is anxiety-provoking and disempowering
- 2. The idea of having a “twin flame” can cause people to stay in relationships that are unhealthy and blatantly toxic
- 3. The “runner and chaser” twin flame dynamic can lead to people feeling obligated to deal with bad behavior and trapped in abusive relationships
- 4. The belief that having a twin flame will solve all your problems is a lie
- 5. The twin flame idea has caused many people to abandon their healthy and functional relationships in favor of an illusory ideal
- 6. The twin flame notion misses the whole point of spiritual partnerships
- 7. There are scam artists and sharks who smell the blood of emotional vulnerability in the water and are using it to their benefit
- What Term I Use Now
- Final Words
What is a Twin Flame?
Here’s the original definition I shared in the chapter I wrote on twin flames in the twin flame book that I’ve since unpublished:
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Your twin flame, or twin soul, is a person with whom you are destined to feel connected on a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual level. A twin flame is a person who’s your friend, lover, and teacher in this life.
21 Twin Flame Signs
Some signs of a twin flame that I later shared in the book were the following:
- You feel a strange, inexplicable sense of “recognition” when you meet the person.
- You have a feeling that they are going to play a crucial role in your own development.
- You’ve established an immediate, intense connection.
- You feel as though you’ve finally found a “home” or safe place with the other person.
- You can be your authentic self.
- You both embody the yin and yang.
- You feel a sense of expansion with them, as though you are larger than your limited identity.
- They make you a better person, and you make them a better person.
- When together, you are both bonded but free, attached but unattached.
- You are finely tuned to their energy, and they are finely tuned to yours.
- You feel as though you have been waiting for this person your entire life.
- You both connect deeply and mirror each other’s values and aspirations for life.
- Your twin flame is a mirror of what you fear and simultaneously desire the most for your own inner healing.
- Your childhoods were polar opposites.
- One of you is more spiritually mature than the other and often serves as the teacher, counselor, or confidant within the relationship.
- You are taught important life lessons such as forgiveness, gratitude, empathy, and open-mindedness by them and alongside them.
- Your connection is multi-faceted (they are your best friend, lover, teacher, and muse all at once).
- The most growth you’ve ever experienced has been with them.
- Your twin flame doesn’t try to change you. They accept you for who you are and what stage you’re at and encourage you to do the same for yourself (and vice versa).
- You can be truthful with each other about anything.
- Together, you both feel driven towards a higher purpose.
Now, most of these signs seem pretty innocent, right?
The problem with the twin flame idea is not so much the signs (although depending on the voice behind detailing them, it can be a problem) but how the concept is applied to everyday life.
7 Reasons Why the “Twin Flames” Idea Can Be Toxic and Disempowering, aka., Why I Abandoned the Notion
Now, here’s the thing: if you love and have found benefit in the idea of having a twin flame, that’s wonderful. You do you. I’m not here to try to change your mind because I trust in your ability to make the right decisions for your own life.
Hopefully, something I wrote about this topic in the past helped you, and I wish you all the best in your relationship with yourself and your partner moving forward.
But personally, as hard as I tried to make the twin flame idea work for me, and as much as I tried to make it a viable, down-to-earth reality, it became increasingly obvious through the years that I had to extricate myself from it completely.
Here are seven reasons why the twin flame idea can be toxic and disempowering and why I’ve decided to move on from the notion altogether:
1. The notion that your twin flame completes you or is the “other half of your soul” is anxiety-provoking and disempowering
Firstly, can you imagine how humungous a burden it is to place on someone else’s shoulders the responsibility of “completing” you or even being the “other half” of your literal soul? That’s an immediate recipe for dysfunction and horrific codependency in my book.
The twin flame notion is an anxiety-provoking idea that disempowers us because it makes our wholeness entirely dependent upon someone else and what they do or don’t do. Can you see how messed up that is?
Besides, it is my deep experience and realization that the Soul is innately whole and complete; it’s just the fragmented mind that believes otherwise. As such, how can someone else be the “other half” of your Soul?
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2. The idea of having a “twin flame” can cause people to stay in relationships that are unhealthy and blatantly toxic
Hearing from a friend of mine that the twin flame idea caused her to stay in a toxic relationship long past its expiry date because she believed “he was her twin flame” made me want to scream and cry at the same time.
The reality is that I’ve seen this happen a lot, particularly on the twin flame Facebook group I used to be an admin of for about five years. There were so many people in that group claiming to have twin flames, but when they described their connections, they were clearly one-sided or else utterly toxic and harmful.
When we get into our minds the idea that someone is our twin flame due to confirmation bias, it can be an extremely hard belief to shake. After all, it makes us feel special and shrouds our relationships in a kind of holy glow that we’re less likely to want to give up.
3. The “runner and chaser” twin flame dynamic can lead to people feeling obligated to deal with bad behavior and trapped in abusive relationships
The push and pull experience in relationships is common, aka., things are normal, we get into an argument, then we make up. Fairly typical, right?
The issue with the idea of twin flame relationships is that they’re largely defined by something known as a “runner and chaser” stage, where one person is pulling away from the relationship, and then the other is pursuing that person and trying to bring them back. Perhaps things work out for a while, and then again, the runner and chaser pattern happens.
Now, I have heard of people getting into some pretty blatantly abusive relationships and yet saying things like, “Oh, she totally ghosted me and pretends I don’t exist: we’re in the runner and chaser stage,” or “he’s behaving in such a controlling way because he’s the chaser and I’m the runner.”
In psychology, this push and pull dynamic is known as the Cycle of Abuse where tension builds, there’s an incident of abuse, reconciliation occurs, and then a period of calm before the cycle starts again.
So what abuse do people tend to justify in twin flame relationships? Some of these abusive tactics can involve things like:
- Being overly controlling (restricting what you do, who you see, where you go)
- Shaming and blaming you
- Criticizing and putting you down
- Guilt tripping or emotionally blackmailing you
- Humiliating you in front of others
- Controlling your finances
- Displaying extremely possessive or jealous behavior
- Ridiculing and dismissing you
- Accusing you of unfaithfulness
- Neglecting you (e.g., emotional withholding, silent treatment)
- Spying on or monitoring you
- Gaslighting and hoovering you
- Playing mind games with you
- Abandoning and ghosting you
You get the picture. What I’ve shared above is emotional and psychological abuse – but physical abuse can and does enter the picture as well.
All of the above abusive tactics, and more, have been suffered yet justified in the name of being in a “twin flame relationship.” But there’s a big difference between a healthy and satisfying relationship and one that is mentally, emotionally, or even physically toxic.
4. The belief that having a twin flame will solve all your problems is a lie
The notion of having a “harmonious twin flame union” that will provide you with utter peace, fulfillment, and unending joy sounds magical on the surface. But the reality is that we are all imperfect beings with flaws, annoying quirks, and traumas to work through.
We will inevitably feel a lack of peace, an absence of fulfillment, and other uncomfortable emotions at times, and that is totally normal. It’s part of being human, and we don’t need to pathologize and run away from it into a romantic fantasy.
The “happily ever after” and “eternal union” story is one of the best marketing gimmicks. But the honest truth is that we don’t know if our love will last forever. We don’t know if our relationships will be our “happily ever after,” even though we may desperately need and want them to be.
This doesn’t mean we become cynical and denounce love and relationships completely, but it does mean that we become more grounded and realistic. In my experience, the more realistic and down-to-earth we are in our relationships, the healthier and stronger they become.
5. The twin flame idea has caused many people to abandon their healthy and functional relationships in favor of an illusory ideal
This is one of the saddest parts of the twin flames nonsense. So many good, mutually respectful, and healthy relationships have ended because one person within the couple has found someone else who they believe is their “twin flame” – and therefore, they feel the need to abandon their current relationship in favor of their ideal one.
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Positioning the supposed “twin flame relationship” above other relationships as superior is harmful, toxic, and life-destroying for many people.
Imagine this: everything was harmonious in Jane and Bob’s relationship until one day, Bob discovered the twin flame idea, and BOOM. Now, Bob is no longer happy because his relationship doesn’t meet his fantasy spiritual ideal. He realizes that the crush he has at work on the receptionist must be his “true twin flame” because they have such a “fiery spark” – and so he abandons his wife in pursuit of this newer, more ideal twin flame relationship that will apparently fulfill his every need, make him whole and complete, and give him eternal happiness.
It sounds crazy, but this shit actually happens. And it breaks my heart.
6. The twin flame notion misses the whole point of spiritual partnerships
As Antoine de Saint-Exupery once wrote,
Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.
The twin flame idea promotes this kind of sickly preoccupation with the other person, what they’re doing, and how much happiness they’re bringing you – and whether they’re your “true” or “false” twin flame.
But this is all a distraction, in my opinion, as the point of a spiritual partnership isn’t to obsessively fixate on the other but to work towards making this world a better place.
Perhaps the twin flame notion is just a result of our hyper-individualistic narcissistic society that elevates the individual and their happiness above everything else. Perhaps that’s just a cynical observation.
Either way, the unhealthy preoccupation and obsession with another idealized person who is the “missing half of your soul,” to the exclusion of everything and everyone else, is self-absorbed and missing the point of love-centered spirituality.
7. There are scam artists and sharks who smell the blood of emotional vulnerability in the water and are using it to their benefit
As documentaries such as Escaping Twin Flames and Desperately Seeking Soulmate: Escaping Twin Flames Universe have come out, it has become increasingly clear that the twin flame idea has caused many to get sucked into disturbing and controlling cult-like groups.
Being raised in a fundamentalist religious cult-like environment, this is extremely disturbing to me and something that triggers feelings of anger and regret that I got into the whole twin flame thing in the first place (although, with self-compassion, I can understand why).
The highly emotional nature of the twin flame idea has led some scam artists who claim to be twin flames to charge huge amounts of money to access their services – I’m talking in the thousands of dollars range.
There is so much I could say about this, but I want to keep what I write simple and direct and encourage you to please exercise caution.
Paying thousands of dollars for courses and coaching packages that promise you to find your twin flame is not just ridiculous but, in my opinion, unethical to a criminal degree.
Keep your money and find someone who’s actually trained as a licensed relationship counselor – you’ll be much better off in the long run, financially, emotionally, and psychologically.
What Term I Use Now
As much as I dislike the twin flame label, I do appreciate the value and power of relationships as a spiritual catalyst. I have an article dedicated to the many soul ties we experience in relationships.
Since I’ve dropped using the “twin flame” term, I much prefer the term “spiritual relationship” or even just soul mate, as that feels more accessible and available to everyone, not just a select few who pay $7777 in a workshop to be matched with their “true twin flame” – or through divine cosmic intervention happen to find “the one.”
Final Words
If you’ve got this far, congratulations. I hope you feel more liberated from the twin flame idea by now – since dropping the label, I certainly have! And I’m never looking back.
Please be mindful and careful when navigating these murky waters.
Yes, there may be many well-intentioned, ethical people out there who talk about twin flames. But there are also many unethical and money-grabbing snakes out there ready to sink their teeth into the most desperate and lovesick among us, promising them fantasies and castles in the clouds.
Remember that twin flames won’t and don’t complete you. Your wholeness doesn’t depend on finding another person – this belief is a recipe for suffering, so let it go. True happiness and wholeness originate from within you.
You are the one you’ve been waiting for.
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I’ve met my TF when I was 17. I remember seeing him in my elementary school and I just knew. He was my first kiss actually, at NYE 2 weeks after we met. We always meet randomly, at places we both feel drawn to and it always triggers something in me. It’s this weird pull between us, that keeps pulling us closer, but when we meet, it’s always this big explosion of energy, and we don’t see each other again for a period of time. I feel like everyone around us is fascinated by us, when we are in the same room and interact. Anyway, I have a BF currently, I’ve met him when I somehow let go of the obssesion with my TF and having relationship with him. But he recently apologized that he’s been sometimes acting selfishly and that he didn’t realize it could had hurt me, and since then we are on friend terms, in touch sometimes. I feel this love towards him I don’t feel toward my bf. Don’t get me wrong, I love my boyfriend, he’s amazing, it’s just not the kind of love I know with my TF. That kind of love is actually independent. But I feel so torn and lost between my TF, my heart and my BF, my head. I’ve never felt that much of physical, mental, sexual, spiritual connection and compatibility as I feel with my TF, but I don’t want to hurt my loving BF and cause him pain of betrayal and abandonment. This fucking sucks.
I met my TF whilst in a relationship and by chance. We are not eachothers initial type or what we were looking for so to speak. Our first moment of eye contact I knew he going to be in my life, i just didn’t know how. I was going in a bad relationship and tried to avoid him at all costs. I found out from him and his friend he walked away that day and said the words “I’m hers and she’s mine”. We met again on different occasions by chance everytime we spoke it felt like speaking to myself, I had told him my situation he gave me understanding, advice and space. I avoided him like the plague until I had left my bad relationship because I didn’t trust myself around him and didn’t want to be that person, it took every fibre in my being, we both dreamed about eachother every night in this time (we know this because friends told us both). When we finally connected again which didn’t take long, we discovered we are the same but different our lives have always been entwined, we know all of the same people been in the same places at the same time but we’d never met until that day of chance. Once I’d met him I couldn’t ignore him I left my relationship the next day and set around fixing myself I’d never had that courage until that moment. When we’re apart it hurts, we miss eachother so much, every moment we spend together makes us feel whole. We both make comments on how we didn’t think these feelings actually existed. Things still aren’t easy for us now because of our previous relationships and us having children with those other people, but even the people attached to us can’t take away our devine energy that we’re supposed to be together, we just keep being drawn together. We see eachothers darkness and confront it with honesty and nurturing, it has changed us both as people. It’s like guide eachother out in our own quirky ways that make us different. What I do know is when we are together we feel at home with no care in the world or concept of time (we have missed lots of sleep and slept through many alarms). It goes deeper than sex, just being drawn n eachothers presence it’s like we are one, it’s truly magnetic.
Mhmmm I don’t think you know your true twin flame just by reading your comments on here it’s sucks because I know who you are to me but you seem to not why god gave us this divine energy if your chasing other man and an not running away from the stuff that’s false twin flame I am chasing and running away from you because it just seems like your hurting me and way I can explain if i keep chasing you your face expression shows to me you don’t care and when I run away your find another man to love on I’m so confused how this twin flame works iam not in separateing from but it’s like my twin flame is trying to get away from how did I hurt u u make me feel like a terrible husband so we speak I don’t wanna be terrible just to let you know that if u don’t care I don’t care but iam trying to be perfect for you u want me to be perfect sighhhhh I am trying to be perfect for myself but u want me be someone that’s going thru a lot right and it’s hard if I keep failing over And over again trying to get the natural perfect love in the first place sighhhh let me know what your twin flame for you whoever what’s to make a comment good at taking advice
Your confusion me your comments makes you look at me differently makes feel toxic and I am not like that by the way what are you getting out of this and what do you want from me do you wanna hurt kill me make me vanish it’s hard to see how u really feel about me I’m not hiding no more i know who you are to me iam not slow love and the guy that works with u is not your TRUE twin flame this confusing me so much I feel like the stuff I put on here u judge me like everyone else that I come across why are you doing this to me for I see what’s going no sleep and still awake but I feel like your just using me at this point to be in a toxic relationship that’s what it sounds like you must like toxic relationship wait iam the blame for feeling this why u said it’s apart of grief right are setting me down the wrong road people says your not a hateful person but your hating me and I can feel it and I want to feel the opposite from u why do everyone women got to treat me like I’m 9 years old I have kid soul in iam sry but I didn’t ask to come in this world too feel like a piece of shit
I recently got into my third time (!) romantic relationship with my, as I know now, twin flame.
We met first time when I was 13 and he 15 in the riding school we both attended. His favorite horse had her stall next to my favorite (she was my animal twin flame) and I met them both around the same time. My favorite horse became mine by extraordinary events that just clicked and we ended up for 17 years together. She died last year.
With my TF it has been a rollercoaster ever since. We got together, completely different childhoods to say the least, first time being 13 and 15. He got me into metal music (I still have the pirate records he burned for me saved). Broke off. Got back together 2 years later and took eachothers virginity. Then broke off again because shit reasons (we think now). Still somehow kept contact. He went to the army for 2 years and I started university. We both have had other relationships ever since de broke up last time but somehow still kept contact, even being f*ck buddies countless times because we have always had magnetic attraction. The only time we ceased all contact was when I was in a relationship with a psycho that mentally and physically abused me. He probably saw mine and my TF’s bond as a threat so I did, brainwashed as I was, hurt my TF a heck of a lot. My TF was the very first I reconnected with after.
I thought I was looking for a completely different type of partner than him. Which I guess was needed for us both to have time to grow.
Recently a soulmate relationship of mine since 6.5 years ended, and just before that happened, matter of WEEKS, my TF was in a motorcycle crash (our common interest of later years, he has been practice driving with me, back in our teens we rode mopeds together x)) and I realized he almost died and that I can’t live without him. And it crept out he can’t live without me either if the roles had been reversed.
Shortly after, my long time relationship broke down, and there he just entered again, my twin flame. This time, it feels like we reached oneness after all. I can’t describe it. Universe clicked into place. The relationship is “new” but feels ancient, even if our magnetic attraction is still as vibrant as ever.
I have never been as angry with anyone as I have been with him, he have hurt me and I have hurt him countless times. And here we are. Everthing totally forgiven and we have been unable, on both ends, to let eachother go completely.
Even before I started reading into this, I called us yin and yang. We have both said “this was meant to happen” this time we got back together, our parents even said it to us that they have always known it would be us in the end.
Outwardly, we are opposites. He is tall, dark, quiet, not much extrordinary about his looks. Seemingly normal. A 9-5-job. I am blonde, fully tattooed, have goth aestetic, works night shifts. He rides a sport bike. I ride custom. He does nothing creatively, I create whenever I can. He is orderly and very on point. I am a bit messy and derail a lot. He is always on time. I am always late. I express emotions outwardly, he processes them internally.
We still feel we are a chip of the same block somehow because we share the same essence and values.
People outside think we are totally NOT alike, but to us we are the same. And in every way possible we complete and understand eachother.
He turns 33 on monday, I turn 31 exactly one week after. His accident happened one month before my previous relationship ended for good. We decided we where a couple again on the 18th, the same number as the years we have known eachother. My horse that I met at the same time as him back in the day died a year ago. Syncronicities….
There is so much to say about it and still not. It’s new, but still so familiar. If there is such thing as a twin flame: We have found eachother. The earth has stopped spinning for us. We are finally where we are supposed to be. And this has to be the oneness I have now read about.
My exp started when I was miserable and trying to figure out what I was going to do next with my life wanted a divorce from now ex which doesnt want to let me go.
the moment I met my twin flame everything changed so quickly emotions etc and just went from there but happily I can say I gave up drugs and alcohol want to do better each and every day learning and improving doing shadow and more
when I am around him I feel so free and happy best sex in my life! felt as if it was recharging me everytime before last few imes we met up didnt really feel the same a little just not as intense. then when im not my ego lashes out on him and others around sometimes finding balance no one is perfect as we all know I feel so bad that I treated him the ways I have when All I truly want is him just dont want to be with someone who lies to me like others who cant make change not trying to force anyone just dont need others who cant do for them selves I have never seen a Pisces like him most are toxic af not going anywhere … still live with my ex and his mother brought up some drama and ex seen what my twin looks like and was jealous trying to tell me he is not attractive blah blah bah ok whatever you say insecure baby lol but anyways missing my twin flame I was a jerk but everything happens for a reason.
I met mine TF about a yr ago. The connection was nothing like any other connection I’ve ever had. I’m older my TF is younger than me. That’s probably one of the biggest challenges. I have kids an my TF doesn’t on top of it. I know there’s growth that has to be done but it’s definitely difficult at times. I miss my TF soooo much it really does suck but I know we’re not together because there’s more growing to do. If not this lifetime then hopefully the next. I felt like I’ve known him forever an it was a short time but at the time I felt like it was longer than it actually was as well like time really did stand still when we had our moment. I feel him with me constantly. There was a time when I haven’t spoken to him in awhile. I knew in my heart chakra he missed me, missed what we had an how happy things were before confusion of the ego kicked in an then he messaged me to sum it up that he did miss me/us it was reassurance that I wasn’t going crazy that I am connected to him at a soul core level but also frustrating because I was focusing on me, only way to sum it up an then it threw me for a loop. Made me scattered an not knowing what to make of it all because it went from normal to hot and cold with him. Aggravated the heck out of me because I’m thinking at this point what do you do want from me. I reflected confusing things back to him which made it once again stupid an a bunch of ego (fears) etc. come up. I know so much on a soul level about him and what he’s going through an I never tell him I know I can it I sense his battles. His confusion and emotions. Could be why I cause confusion back to him. Talk about a effing rollercoaster. I’m not easy either I I’m random as heck when I send things an Ik sometimes he’s confused on my behalf also but eff it because he confuses me yet I know he’s confused on a soul level smh lol So much to express on this but I love him unconditionally and will always wish an want him the best even if it’s without us physically being together. I messaged him one last time to tell him how pretty much I miss us I didn’t hear back from him but I’m not worried about it I’m just gonna continue to do me an let go work on myself an continue to love myself unconditionally an if it’s meant to be then so be it. I truly wish the best for everyone that’s going through the twin flame journey because it’s truly not easy and most definitely nothing like a regular relationship. Good luck to everyone love and light to all
We met eight years ago at a place we both used to work. I initially held it when she began making advances towards me via a friend of mine because I never felt any sexual attraction or feelings of love towards her but rather an inexplicable feelings of dislikeness towards her. According to my friend, this girl was so mad about me that he was rejected a couple of times he attempted to move to her but rather she talked about me. Relentlessly she had her way and we started talking which eventually ended in us being in a relationship. She was so committed while I on the other side was satisfying my sexual desires even though I do love on a certain condition that I can’t put into words. We were fine until some complicated issues begun arising and then one thing led to the other and we realize that we were not communicating much. We parted ways and I blame myself for that anyway for not fully participating in the relationship. This is the worst part- I ve become almost completely miserable afterwards. I feel so brokenhearted anytime she posts other guys pictures on social media.
I don’t know but I think what I had with her wasn’t just a relationship. I’ve not been able to move on since we broke up in somewhere around the middle of 2016 till this very moment. Anytime I try to talk to her ends up in fire. She has become so bitter to the extent that anything about me annoys her.
Luna please what kind of relationship could this be? Looking at some of the symptoms it seems to be a twin flame kind of but, are twin flames unforgiving like that? Please help. Thank You!
The two times my path crossed his was almost thirty years ago. The first time, he and his family were good Samaritans who helped mine when our boat engine died and they escorted us back to the docks. Only made eye contact, but the connection was instant and intense. It was also the only time I ever experienced a premonition that this was going to happen. I was thirteen.
Then four years later, I was in the worst emotional and mental state of my life. I discovered my first boyfriend never broke up from his girlfriend and I was a side piece. This devastated me and I was still recovering when a friend took me to a renaissance faire to escape. Right in the middle of a show, I see him again. The open stage allowed foot traffic to pass behind and around the show and audience, and there he was. He had his sister and brother with him (as a guess because they were the same people on the boat when I saw them one time before) and the three of them stopped dead in their tracks and were staring across the way at me. It wasn’t long before they moved on, and after the show ended, I dragged my friend along to the direction I saw them disappear. It’s important to note my already delicate self esteem took a huge hit earlier that year, so when I finally managed to track them down, I experienced what I can now say was a panic attack. I didn’t want him to see me this way. So I kept going. I ran. And, well, that was the very last time I saw him.
In the following years, I have finally rebuilt myself. It took failed relationships and eventually a failed marriage, but I put myself through therapy and reconstructed my sense of self. I can confidently say every day I think about him; if I will ever see him again and have the opportunity to meet him. I am now a lane performer at that very same renaissance faire – it was an item on my bucket list. And now, I can bring joy to people’s faces and help those who may be walking the path I once was on and reassure them that life gets better. It’s my tribute to myself as well as to him. I hope that one day he’ll return to the festival and I’ll be able to meet him again, but if that doesn’t happen, well, I’ll live happy that I used his influence to better myself.
Wow! I’m at the airport waiting and reading this article now. Just wow…I’m flying to Cleveland OH. right now to be with my little twin fame. I went through this. 99% of the signs and a few of the stages were checked off on me and this little butterfly! 7 years, some self time between the two of us and we are still creating awesome energy between the two us. We teach other so much…..
Seems like a singer is my twin flame..I dint feel anything…cox I was thinking one of my college love is my flame… recently I had spiritual awakening…n already doing inner work…within a month……..I saw a lot of synchronicities with this new man….I haven’t seen him as person since he is very far and a celebrity…but I was searching my mate from many many years n one day I realized…he is d one but very late. It wasn’t instant…..I just felt it…not sure…wer my journey is taking…me…….I just felt this way post my . Awakening…..I feel bad….but I work on self….not sure if it’s true….Guidance plz
Lot of Gratitude for the post❤❤
Our story: 15 years ago I was in a bar with my girlfriend the we frequented often, and in walks this beautiful man. As he walks in he yells it’s my birthday!!!! I looked over at my girlfriend and literally said holy shit that man will be mine. He approached us and asked if I’d sign his t-shirt for his birthday. I could absolutely not let this man walk out of my life. I knew with every being in my body he was special. Oh, did I mention he has the most beautiful blue eyes I’d ever seen?? They are literally ingrained in my brain. We spent the entire night together dancing and he took me home. I woke up next to him and tried to sneak away….he rolled over grabbed me and said you are not going anywhere! We were inseparable for 3 weeks, and then he lost his job. He met me on the beach to tell me he was going back to Colorado. My heart literally broke in two. The day he left I don’t think I’d ever felt so much pain. We stayed in touch we both had relationships he actually got married and then divorced. I wouldn’t see him again for another 5 years. He reached out to me about 9 months after his divorce and flew me out to Colorado. It’s like time never existed between us. We were so in sink with each other. We would go back and forth to each for the next couple of years, but again sometimes he’d have a girlfriend or I’d have a boyfriend. I like to call them fillers. Timing for us was never right. But we were always in each other’s line of vision. I actually tried very hard to push him out. My relationships would be great for the first month or so but then there he was back in my every thought! 8 years had gone by without seeing him. He reached out in early July and flew me out to Colorado to see him. I have never been more excited! When he picked me up from the airport it was again, like there had been absolutely no time between us! When I’m with him I’m home when I leave him the pain is always unbearable for the both of us. It’s like my heart is being ripped out of my chest. He is definitely the runner. I most always get upset or mad when he does run, and think to myself I’m done and this is it I can’t do this anymore! But we keep coming back to each other. Sometimes I’m tired of waiting but to be completely honest I will wait forever if I have too. There will be more filler relationships I’m sure….for the both of us but none of them are or will be him. I know in the depths of my soul that one day we will be reunited for the long haul but until then I will continue to work on myself. There is so much more to our story but I’d literally be writing forever….you can think I’m crazy but when you know you know. He without a doubt is my twin flame.
I once met someone unexpectedly. The moment I saw her, she literally took my breath away; like I actually gasped for air. We were everything that is described above and currently after the running and chasing phase. When we would touch, I could feel the electricity between us. We finished each other’s sentences frequently. We had the same interests, same beliefs about life, religion, work ethic. Same sense of humor. I used to be a very high strung person and have never felt so at ease around someone. I even had a telepathic type experience and felt this overwhelming sense of sadness and crying associated with her job. Shortly after, I found out she quit her job that she loved so much. For a while, if I would go somewhere we had been together, I could feel her residual energy. We were never a couple, because I was at the end of a deteriorating marriage at the time, but the connection was mutual; we spoke about it at times. I don’t know if I will ever see her again but I am a different person having known her.
I have found my twin flame. Our paths had crossed 20 more years ago, both in the same bridal party of mutual friends..I knew I had met him before, he had something that just felt uncanningly familiar. There was like a flame in me, many signs that our journey would meet. Too many to be co incidental. We met on bumble, my mum brought me bees to go on the wall, she didn’t know about bumble. His name was the same as my ex husband, he is called Mark 2 zephyr. Zephyr means wind. Mark said I was like a breath of fresh air coming into his life.
Strangers commented on us on the street kissing, oh that must be true love lol. Im more emotionally driven, hes more calm and logical and analytical.
Same tastes in music, loves dancing together, we are like a complimenting comedy show lol..When we met, it was like coming home. Being in his arms felt whole, perfect, reassuring, like nothing I have felt. He had experiences similar to mine, same feelings and thoughts but different stories. Now he’s running, can’t be with me, using his logical mind. The distance between us too much, believing it can’t work, despite never feeling so overwhelmed in his life. I will wait. Maybe it will happen soon, maybe later.. my heart is absolutely aching. My body is sore..He is my twin flame.