The moment you meet your twin flame is the moment the earth beneath your feet begins to shift.
I like to think of the meeting of two twin flames as an existential earthquake: all of a sudden you can sense that an immensely important person has entered your life. All of a sudden you get the overwhelming feeling that your life is going to change in a way you aren’t even aware of yet – and yet you intuitively know that the changes will be great, greater than what you’ve ever experienced, and breathtaking in their magnitude.
I know all of this because I was fortunate enough to have met my own twin flame a few years ago, so I have already gone through the fiery, intense and transformative process of meeting my soul’s mirror.
Although I feel immense gratitude for the gift of connecting with my twin flame, I am happy to say that this blessing is open to everyone. However, such a gift is not always received openly or even recognized by us on a conscious level. Sometimes we’re at a point in our lives where we are simply not receptive to both ourselves and our twin flame’s presence due to stress, over-work, lifestyle habits and negative thought patterns that lead to low self-esteem.
If you’ve connected with your twin flame, or would like to discover who your twin flame is, you’ll find everything you need to know on this page, including common twin flame signs, twin flame stages, and much more.
What is a Twin Flame?
A Twin Flame, or Twin Soul, is a person who you feel connected to not just on a physical and emotional level, but also on a soulful or spiritual level.
Our Twin Flames represent our friends, lovers, and teachers in this life. They are the yins to our yangs, the suns to our moons, and the light to our darkness.
Twin Flames are also our mirrors in that they reflect back to us all of our hidden fears and shadows, but also our true inner beauty and strength. In this way, our Twin Flames open the door to tremendous emotional, psychological, and spiritual growth.
11 Signs You’re in a Twin Flame Relationship
Are you already in a twin flame relationship?
Common signs to look out for include:
- The sensation that time doesn’t exist between you
- A strange sense of “recognition” or deja vu between you as though you’re both “destined” to be together
- Intense magnetic attraction to each other
- Your strengths and weaknesses perfectly balance each other
- You share the same values, desires, and dreams
- Your Twin knows you better than anyone else in the world
- No matter how many times you fight, you always forgive each other completely
- You have a multi-faceted connection together, i.e. you are best friends, teachers, and lovers to each other
- Uncanny synchronicities exist between you (for example, both of us got together on 11.11.11)
- You’re both driven towards a higher spiritual/social purpose
- You learn the values of empathy, compassion, forgiveness, and unconditional love together
You can take our twin flame test if you would like to find out if you’ve found your twin flame.
The Origins of Twin Flames
So ancient is the desire of one another which is implanted in us, reuniting our original nature, seeking to make one of two, and to heal the state of man. – Plato, Symposium
The concept of having a “Twin Flame” originated in Plato’s mythic dialogue entitled “The Symposium” which wrote that human beings originally had two faces, four arms, and four legs. Under the threat of being overpowered, the gods split them in half, creating the humans we see today. Hence, it is thought that we all have one “twin” soul out there in the world.
Others hypothesize that twin flames are members of our Soul Group (people with whom we resonate with on the deepest level and were predestined to meet), or that twin flames are the embodiment or other “half” of a singular soul.
However, we define twin flames as those whose souls have agreed to reincarnate together across many lifetimes.
The purpose of the twin flame union is to help each other to spiritually grow, expand, and reach spiritual illumination. Everything in life is composed of energy at its core, and twin flames are people we resonate with on the deepest spiritual level. Like two tuning forks or gravitational fields, twin flames are magnetically attracted to each other.
The Purpose of Twin Flame Relationships
Put simply, the purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help us shed away the snakeskin of the ego, face and heal our wounded hearts, and transform into spiritually awakened beings.
Twin flames are a divine expression of Balance, Harmony, and Unconditional Love. Every twin flame couple will have a higher purpose to achieve together, and this may include anything from raising conscious children and starting an eco-conscious business, to becoming spiritual guides and mentoring the lives of many.
Contrary to popular belief, twin flames do not complete each other– this is because the Soul itself is already complete. Instead, such relationships exist to catalyze spiritual maturing and conscious expansion. In other words, twin flame connections exist to aid the collective growth of our planet towards compassion, tranquility, and love.
On a personal level, twin flame relationships prepare us to acknowledge, experience and eventually embody the Wholeness that has always and forever been inside of us. This state of Wholeness is what enlightened Teachers through the ages have embodied and spoken of. This Wholeness is the Soul, or True Nature, within us.
21 Major Twin Flame Signs
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along. – Rumi (The Essential Rumi)
We are not always receptive to the appearance of our twin flames in life.
We might be heart-broken, wracked with grief, maritally over-burdened, or just plain tired and disillusioned when they suddenly appear out of the blue.
Feeling unprepared is one of the biggest reasons why twin flame separation and the twin flame runner and chaser complex occurs. In fact, we might have already met our twin flames, but we might have overlooked them or taken them for granted in some way.
Whatever emotional or psychological stage you’re at in life, it is always beneficial to be conscious of the people you live with and meet. These following twin flame signs might help you to open new pathways and opportunities for union:
- You feel a strange, inexplicable sense of “recognition” when you meet the person. This might manifest itself as déjà vu, or an unshakable feeling that you’ve known this person before, or are somehow “meant to be together.”
- You have a feeling that they are going to play a very important role in your own development, without knowing when, why or how.
- You’ve established an immediate, intense connection with them that is invigorating and shocking at the same time.
- You feel as though you’ve finally found a “home” or safe place with the other person.
- You are able to be your authentic self – warts and all – without the fear of rejection, persecution or judgment with them.
- You both embody the yin and yang, in other words, your dark side is balanced by their light side, and their dark side is balanced by your light side.
- You feel a sense of expansion with them, as though you are larger than your limited identity.
- They make you a better person, and you make them a better person.
- When together you are both bonded but free, attached but unattached. In other words, you still maintain your freedom even though you might be in a relationship with them.
- You are finely tuned to their energy, and they are finely tuned to yours. This means that you are both very conscious of the present play of energy (whether happy or sad, angry or forgiving, open or withholding) present in the connection. You’re both therefore highly empathic with each other.
- You feel as though you have been waiting for this person your entire life.
- You both connect deeply and mirror each other’s values and aspirations for life beyond surface similarities.
- Your twin flame is a mirror of what you fear and simultaneously desire the most for your own inner healing. For example, if you are a highly-strung person, your twin flame will most likely be relaxed and messy. If you like to play the victim, your twin flame will be a strong character who refuses to give you pity or sympathy to perpetuate your complex. If you are creatively repressed, your twin flame will be a flourishing artist. In this way, our twin flames challenge and infuriate us but also teach us important lessons about our fears, core wounds, and repressions.
- Your childhoods were polar opposite. You were raised in very different ways, which led to the development of opposite childhood wounds that you now have the opportunity to mend.
- One of you is more soulfully mature than the other and often serves as the teacher, counselor or confidant within the relationship.
- You are taught important life lessons such as forgiveness, gratitude, empathy, and open-mindedness by them and with them.
- The most growth you’ve ever experienced has been with them. No other friendship or relationship has transformed you as deeply as this one has.
- Your connection is multi-faceted. In other words, your twin flame is likely your best friend, lover, teacher, nurturer, and muse all at once.
- Your twin flame doesn’t try to change you. They accept you for who you are and what stage you’re at and encourage you to do the same for yourself (and vice versa).
- You can be truthful with each other about anything.
- Together, you both feel driven towards a higher purpose, whether spiritually, socially or ecologically.
8 Stages of Twin Flame Love
Twin flames aid our souls in finding completion. However, this journey is composed of many different “layers” or stages.
Here are the eight twin flame stages broken summarized (you can read more in our article “8 Twin Flame Stages“):
1. Yearning for “The One”
This stage is spent preparing for your Twin Flame on an emotional and psychological level. Often, a certain level of individuation and healthy self-esteem must be developed before meeting your Flame.
2. Glimpsing “The One”
In this stage, you’ll temporarily glimpse or come in contact with your Twin Flame. This experience might be through a dream, a picture, or through brief real-life contact.
3. Falling in love
After finally meeting your Twin Flame, you will fall rapidly, deeply, and madly in love. You might try to resist the experience at first (perhaps due to an already established relationship), but eventually, you won’t be able to stay away from them.
4. The Fairy-Tale relationship
After deciding to enter a relationship, you’ll enter a dream-like period that feels like paradise. Everything will feel perfect within your relationship.
5. Outer Turmoil and Inner Purging
As the sparkle from your new love wears off, egos begin to rise up. In this stage, any insecurities, fears, traumas, and shadow issues buried within you and your partner will come to the surface. These will need to be resolved for you to mature as a couple.
6. The Runner and Chaser
Like stage five, this stage is a “trial by fire.” As tensions mount, it is common to temporarily (or in some extreme cases, permanently) leave the relationship either emotionally or physically. The less mature and psychospiritually integrated partner will play the role of the Runner, while the more emotionally balanced partner will play the Chaser. This game of cat and mouse can last for days to years. (You can learn more about spiritual psychology here.)
7. Surrender and Dissolution
Eventually, issues are resolved in your relationship, and a space of acceptance and openness is established.
8. Oneness
The more shadows are dealt with through shadow work, the easier Unity becomes. In this stage, Twin Flames experience little to no conflict and a return to blissful paradise.
More In-Depth Help
Want to learn more about twin flame relationships? In our book Twin Flames & Soulmates, we give more in-depth guidance:
Common Twin Flame Questions
Are you struggling to find the answer to a twin flame question that’s been on your mind for a while?
I’ll answer some of the most common twin flame questions below. (And let me know in the comments area if there’s an area you think I should cover):
1. Are twin flames meant to be lovers?
No, not necessarily. There is no such thing as a cookie-cutter twin flame relationship. Some twin flames are lovers, while some twin flames are best friends. You don’t have to feel sexually attracted to your twin flame for the connection to be legitimate. It’s perfectly normal to have a platonic relationship.
2. Does everyone have a twin flame?
Yes, it’s quite likely that everyone has a twin flame. But not everyone has the capacity to connect with their twin flame within this lifetime. Twin flames emerge within our lives when our souls are ready to undergo the process of spiritual awakening and transformation. For some people, the twin flame connection is simply too intense and is not welcome, and hence never happens.
3. Can a twin flame be a soul mate?
Yes, it is possible that a soul mate can become a twin flame, and vice versa. But twin flames and soul mates have different functions. Twin flame relationships are intense and challenging: their purpose is to help you spiritually grow. Soul mate relationships, on the other hand, are more mild and peaceful: their purpose is to help support you. It’s like the difference between fire (twin flames) and water (soul mates). Read our article on the difference between soul mates, twin flames, and kindred spirits for more of an in-depth distinction.
4. Why do twin flames run?
Sometimes, our twin flames run away because the connection is too overwhelming and intense for the ego. When the ego is not ready to spiritually evolve, it resists, fights, and tries to escape – this is why twin flames run and try to avoid the relationship.
5. Do you only have one twin flame?
Yes, as the name “twin” implies, there is only one other person on this planet who can be called a twin flame. All types of relationships provide the opportunity for growth, but twin flame relationships are rare in their ability to help us spiritually evolve and awaken.
6. Is there such a thing as a false twin flame?
Yes, there is such a thing as a false twin flame. Whether due to our own false perception (it’s true that love blinds us) or due to the pretense worn by the other person, it’s possible to mistake someone as our twin flame. The best way to know whether someone is a false twin flame is to pay attention to (a) whether they genuinely share the same values as you, (b) if you can be your true self around them, and (c) if there is mutual spiritual transformation.
7. Are twin flames toxic?
Our twin flames can have toxic mindsets and wounds, but they are not toxic to be around. On the contrary, our twin flames are loving, inspiring, and supportive people to be around. They help us to become the best version of ourselves possible. A true twin flame will have some negative traits, but that will be outweighed by their positive qualities. False twin flames, on the other hand, are toxic to be around and make us feel rotten inside.
8. Can twin flames communicate telepathically?
No scientific studies have been conducted, so it’s best to keep an open but balanced perspective. Yes, it might be possible for twin flames to communicate telepathically when in a relationship. But this shouldn’t be used as an excuse to avoid clear communication and assume that the other can ‘read our mind.’ Telepathic communication can also lead a person to believe they are reading another person’s emotions and thoughts accurately, when in reality they are projecting their own beliefs, wishes and desires onto that person. This is a tricky area and should be approached with open-minded caution.
9. Can twin flames fall out of love?
Yes, unfortunately, it is possible for twin flames to fall out of love. However, this is not to say that the deep soul connection will disappear, or the possibility for rekindling love will vanish. It is possible for twin flames to fall in love, fall out of love, and fall in love again. The nature of life is unpredictable, and there is no divine edict saying that twin flames must love each other forever. The purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help us spiritually evolve, and when that goal has been completed, the connection can sometimes disintegrate. However, it is always possible for our twin flames to re-emerge later in life.
How to Find Your Twin Flame
If you haven’t yet found your Twin Flame, just know that the experience is absolutely open to you. However, finding and connecting to your Flame requires inner work.
Twin Flames & Soul Mates:
Learn how to forge true, deep, and enduring twin flame and soul mate love – no matter what stage you’re at, starting right now. This book is for anyone seeking to find and create an authentic, fulfilling, and awakened relationship.
The best way to connect with your Twin Flame isn’t through a fancy manifestation ritual, but through an authentic development of self-love. You must be willing to deal with the darkest places within you before you can truly open to the Twin Flame connection.
We explore how to find your twin flame more in our twin flame book.
Twin Flame Resources
It’s important that you read through the articles below and click on any that resonate with you. Once you click on an article, it will be opened in a new screen, meaning that you can come back to this page as your “home base,” and explore some more!
Our twin flames can be our friends or lovers. For some people, they arise at the most opportune times, and for others, they arise at the most complicated times. And still, for some people twin flames are said to not arise in this lifetime but are nevertheless with us in heart.
Whatever the case, remember that it is entirely possible to be whole and complete unto yourself with enough inner work. Remember, twin flames do not “complete” you because you are already innately “complete” at a soulful level; they instead compliment you deeply and help you to grow.
Have you met your twin flame? If so, what has the experience been like? Please share below in the comments!
My experience with this topic has been 5 years and after this comment, I won’t be returning to this website because I have reason to believe that my twin flame has been a commentator in the sections of this thread.
My Soalmate and Twin Flame after 13 years of the best of our lives meeting by chance . Committed Suicide 5-26-2019 is that a deal breaker was i wrong I am a very good at intuition and at 58 years old I know we were destined to be together. He has been the best pearson friend lover companion I could ever have asked or Dreamed of .
Are you thinking about taking your own life, you mentioned suicide?
My husband says he has found his twin flame.
Is there still space for me in his life?
I’m feeling very hurt ,left out and jealous.
Your response is the 1st to approach this topic calmly while expressing thoughts and feelings as the spouse of a person who has met their TF. The authors of this website may be inclined to offer a response. Unless they don’t see your post.
Barbara, I recommend seeing a relationship counselor to get to the root of this issue. It’s hard to give advice without being there with you and hearing the details. Just because someone has supposedly found their twin flame, doesn’t mean the relationship they’re in is not worthy. If it’s true that he’s found his “twin flame,” then you might be his soulmate – the two are equally as important in a person’s life.
A couple of resources that might help:
Soulmates, Twin Flames and Kindred Spirits (Which Have You Met?)
Soul Mate Quiz – What Type of Soul Relationship Do You Have?
I hope that helps. <3 You deserve to be with a person who is 100% committed to you. I hope that is your husband.
feels like when you hug em thousands of little sparks flowing through the belly of your being up through your heart, like a big hug of little spark tickles. feels like you know, no one else feels the same even if you have chosen a separate life partner for the time. feels like deep love and respect for there intimate friend because they also love them, feels like the feels, with no traps ahead. feels like its going to take a team not 2 to complete our services to life
I met my twin flame just about 5 months ago. Before meeting him, I was in a slump. Was dating and forming relationships with those I felt the need to tame myself around. I always felt misunderstood by people in general. I have always felt like a lost soul or that I was meant to be single for the rest of my life. A week or so prior to meeting him, I began reading into the spiritual life. Bought a rose quartz necklace, hoping to attract love. One morning, while putting on the necklace, I asked the universe to please just let me meet someone who likes me for me. Just shortly to midnight, that very day, I met him.
The whole thing played out like a movie. We talked to the wee hours of the morning. It was like I found home. I could be completely myself, the dorky, corny, sarcastic, with a twisted sense of humor person, person I am. Two days later, we had our first date, and began seeing and talking more and more.
As one of us spoke, the other was already was thinking it. (Now keep in mind, I had no clue what this Twin Flame is or was). The gentleman I met, was very much into the spiritual world and knew about Twin Flames, ect. He shared with me a lot of information. He truly believed we were each other’s twin.
Me, I was in awe with the fact I met a person, that I could be myself around. Did it feel like I had known him, or met him before, definitely! And I would rack my brain trying to figure it out. But as time went on, I was opening up to the idea of him being my Twin Flame.
In the first few days of meeting him, I did something I had never done before. I laid out all my hangups (relationship hangups) to him. Back then, I didn’t know why I did that, but I do understand it now. As the relationship progressed, more and more similarities would come out. He would insist the Twin Flame thing. Me, I would wonder what his angle was…lol! I slowly became open to the idea.
But then it happened…. I cracked. A very old wound presented itself. It took a few months for it manifest into something that would eventually break us up. For decades, I never had this demon arise. It took me over like tsunami. I didn’t know what was happening, why I was acting like this, and could not believe I was hurting someone, that I am in love with.
As I said, we broke up. It’s been over 3 weeks now. He has yet to talk to me, and I have only given him even more reasons to not talk to me. I just cannot let him go. I cannot get him out of my head, my heart or my soul. It’s as if he burnt his impression into me (does that even make sense?).
I have never experienced this, or felt this way. So once I settled myself down, but not before completely destroying what we had, I began reading more into the Twin Flame. I now know, this amazing man, I met on June 22, 2019, is my Twin Flame.
I dont know if we are in the runner/chase stage, or surrender and dissolution stage. I am working on this wound. It will take some time. In the meantime, I feel lost. I stand outside , looking up at the stars and talking to him. Sometimes I feel he is doing the same. There are times I feel we are watching the same show and making the same sarcastic comment at the TV.
I am thankful to have met this man. That I am so grateful to have shared and experienced all we have. I will forever feel guilty for allowing this wound to control me, instead of talking to him, and not allowing myself to be more open spiritually, when we were together.
Thank you for your website. I read and reread it daily.
XO
My husband is my twin flame. When we met over 35 years ago. He was everything a twin flame could be. We finished each others sentences, thought the same thoughts. There was so much love and passion. Now, after retirement he has become a hypochondriac, constantly complains, feels compelled to tell everyone else what they should do, makes inappropriate comments and says he doesn’t have to do anything he doesn’t want to do. His behavior has cost me family & friends. I believe he is deeply depressed but refuses to get help. I take walks on the beach, meditate, play golf and do everything I can to find peace. I guess I wonder if my twin flame has burned out
It’s like value twined through resentment. Making choices and feeling rough to where progress is forgotten is a misconception or drag and easy to manipulate for an outcome-based in consequence that is not ahead. Making choices with the truth is where progress can move past the observation of judgment.
So many people heard about twin flames and assumes the one they are connected to are their twin flames. First i would like to say i lost my faith over soulmates and stuffs like that because for so many years i am stuck up with my cheater husband so i decided to just accept my faith and go with the flow. I don’t even have any idea that twin flame exist!.If you are having doubts if he/she is your twin flames then i think it’s not. Because on my part i never thought about it. There are even times when i brushed it off and told myself it was just an illusion and it’s not true that the guy i met online was my twin flame. But the universe has its way of telling you he/she is the one. The synchronicity is undeniable! The deja vu moment and the “Ahuh” moment not just the time when you met him/her but even in your past like it does leads you that he is the one. Like my first love name was the same as his name. I remember the feeling i had when i first met my first love. It was so intense i can hardly move and it’s hard to even breathe. I remember the moment and the way i feel and only his name not even his family name and for some odd reason i cannot even remember how exactly he looked like. LOL but even after 2 years i am longing to see him again but i never did. Even wrote his name on a piece of paper. And find out lately that the name of my twin flame has exactly the same name as my first love. If he/she is your twin flames there should be a whole LOT of things that tell you exactly why he/she is the one. And even if you force yourself to doubt it the universe will slap it back on your face and it may seem crazy sometimes but it is crazy! Like you will suddenly hear something on the radio that will remind you of him/her. And once you meet him/her. You will never stop thinking of them everyday because the universe always try to remind you everyday. Sadly though we’re on separation stage but for some reason even though i feel sad sometimes and still have fears i still feel deep within me that all i have to do was to wait.
Hi, I just broke up with my twin flame, I´m from Toluca, close to Mexico city, have to say no one here knows about what a twin flame is, i did´t know about either. My twin is from Poland, we met last year, everything was serendipity, so many coincidences between us, even the year with got married with different person many years ago was the same year, our daughters have same age, and many stuff like that, when we used to do video conferences we were even wearing the same color t-shirt, lots of 11:11, sending the same words on messages at the same time, same music, etc etc etc.. I realized about our type of relation ship because one day, checking my pinterest account, popped out twin flames photo and description, it really called my attention, was everything we had. When we met, first thing that happened was eye contact, oh my was such an amazing experince! However this mirror thing drove us crazy, it is unbelievable!!! He has a sailboat and sometimes was very difficult for both to deal with the mirror for 24 hrs 7 days a week. I broke up with him 4 days ago, it feels horrible, thought we were gonna last forever, what was the point of meeting him if we´re not gonna last forever? Just to discolver flaws, work on them, and grow?? That´s unfair :(, so many years of being far, we finally met and now is over :(!! Wondering if there´s the possibility of being together again. I started googling twin flame sites and found this interesting.
Thank you for doing the right thing and letting me go.
I have been blessed to have found my twin flame and married him!
Sadly, after almost ten years of marriage and immense soul growth, we are now separated. For the past six months, we have been in the process of divorce. I am devastated and feel the pain of this separation like nothing I have ever experienced. So horribly intense was our break up, with friends and family telling me I’m better off without him due to the narcissistic abuse I suffered, that I now struggle with wondering if he could actually be my “false flame”.
So, I carefully read, re-read, and pondered every item on the list offered on this website:
1. You feel a strange, inexplicable sense of “recognition” when you meet the person. This might manifest itself as déjà vu, or an unshakable feeling that you’ve known this person before, or are somehow “meant to be together.”
YES! I could go on for hours about this one! Suffice it to say, I had dreams of what he looked like DECADES before I ever even met him in person. As soon as I saw his face, it literally took my breath away!
2. You have a feeling that they are going to play a very important role in your own development, without knowing when, why or how.
YES! I knew he was The One and this would be an extremely karmic connection.
3. You’ve established an immediate, intense connection with them that is invigorating and shocking at the same time. YES YES YES!
4. You feel as though you’ve finally found a “home” or safe place with the other person.
YES! The first time he hugged me, I burst into tears because it felt exactly like “coming home” and I had never had this experience EVER in my entire life.
5. You are able to be your authentic self – warts and all – without the fear of rejection, persecution or judgment with them.
YES! Sometimes this was challenging because we both had a core inner wound. Mine was fear of abandonment. His was fear of shame.
6. You both embody the yin and yang, in other words, your dark side is balanced by their light side, and their dark side is balanced by your light side.
You feel a sense of expansion with them, as though you are larger than your limited identity.
OMG YES! YES! YES! COMPLETELY & TOTALLY!
7. They make you a better person, and you make them a better person.
YES! While exchanging vows on our wedding day, my twin actually stated out loud that the reason he loved me was because I made him a better man!
8. When together you are both bonded but free, attached but unattached. In other words, you still maintain your freedom even though you might be in a relationship with them.
I AM NOT EXACTLY SURE if I understand this statement correctly, but I could be in the same room with him or many miles away and always felt the same close connection. We each did our own “thing” (hobbies and such) without jealousy of the other.
9. You are finely tuned to their energy, and they are finely tuned to yours. This means that you are both very conscious of the present play of energy (whether happy or sad, angry or forgiving, open or withholding) present in the connection. You’re both therefore highly empathic with each other.
YES, YES, YES!
10. You feel as though you have been waiting for this person your entire life.
You both connect deeply and mirror each other’s values and aspirations for life beyond surface similarities.
YES, YES! I will be forever grateful for finding the true Love of my Life!
11. Your twin flame is a mirror of what you fear and simultaneously desire the most for your own inner healing. For example, if you are a highly-strung person, your twin flame will most likely be relaxed and messy. If you like to play the victim, your twin flame will be a strong character who refuses to give you pity or sympathy to perpetuate your complex. If you are creatively repressed, your twin flame will be a flourishing artist. In this way, our twin flames challenge and infuriate us but also teach us important lessons about our fears, core wounds, and repressions.
YES, YES, YES!
12. Your childhoods were polar opposite. You were raised in very different ways, which led to the development of opposite childhood wounds that you now have the opportunity to mend.
YES! He was born and raised in the Bronx, New York City. I was a country girl raised next door to a dairy farm!
13. One of you is more soulfully mature than the other and often serves as the teacher, counselor or confidant within the relationship.
You are taught important life lessons such as forgiveness, gratitude, empathy, and open-mindedness by them and with them.
The most growth you’ve ever experienced has been with them.
No other friendship or relationship has transformed you as deeply as this one has.
ABSOLUTELY!
Your connection is multi-faceted. In other words, your twin flame is likely your best friend, lover, teacher, nurturer, and muse all at once. YES, these were all true. Super strong physical connection that made us both “addicted to each other”!
YES, YES, YES, and more YES! My twin readily admitted to being the more spiritually immature “half” and this might have contributed to his running away.
14. Your twin flame doesn’t try to change you. They accept you for who you are and what stage you’re at and encourage you to do the same for yourself (and vice versa).
YES –for the most part, we accepted each other unconditionally but I am guilty of having been too enthusiastic about trying to help him spiritually evolve and ascend.
15. You can be truthful with each other about anything.
YES, unless it had to do with shame. My twin could not bear feeling shame about anything, so he would not be truthful if the truth threatened to produce feelings of shame or embarrassment.
16. Together, you both feel driven towards a higher purpose, whether spiritually, socially or ecologically.
YES! We both worked together as NAMI instructors, raised therapy dogs together, were aspiring beekeepers, and both enjoyed sharing hospitality with friends and family.
With so many positive responses, how can it be that we are now separated and on the path to divorce? (This is a rhetorical question because I know the answer. My beloved twin flame also has NPD and Autism with a narcissistic 3-D Ego in need of constant, daily validation. We are definitely twin opposites–he is a narcissist and I am an empath.)
Could it be that he is my “false twin flame”?
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I’m starting to think someone in my life is my twin flame. We had crossed path once for like 2mins at uni and I tried (using my stalking skills) to find him on social media, but to no avail, and a few months later we finally met each other at a concert, and became quite inseparable & close ridiculously, probably faster than what I’d allow and had expected. I considered him my best friend but he was also my colleague, for we worked on music together (we recorded an album, made our own arrangements, put on concerts together), and he inspired many songs in me (which he might even record for me, lol). We have many similarities and I swear I can sense what he’s feeling & thinking sometimes, and he can sense mine too … unfortunately last year, after 2.5yrs of amazing friendship & more (though he could never commit to a relationship), we had a massive blow up and did not communicate for a year. We’ve only started to patch things up again but omg, time has changed absolutely nothing. I feel so peaceful & comfortable around him, we can spend hours together and it feels like minutes, and annoyingly strong attraction which makes it near impossible to keep boundaries!!!!! I really don’t know what’s going to come out of this.
God planted a seed, it grew fruit 5 years ago, and he choose not to eat it. God gave it to him, planted it in the soil for him, and it grew and he choose not to eat it.
If it’s me- this is an example I am making up- and I reach out for help- it is my only option left, then when I look back I want to thank my social worker “saved my life”-who volunteer at the domestic violence shelter every other week and connected me with their resource base. If I am a minority in some way, and experience prejudice and tend to give up on certain things if I am discouraged due to so much experience trying and getting nowhere, then I could have fallen prey to alternatives dragging me down in life if my social worker had not been there to save my life with their knowledge base and resources.
Thank you. I am at my wits end in an endless, timeless phase of subconscious/intentional/mindless/chaotic testing between my twin flame and I. So deeply perplexed by the annoyingly relevant/ proportional/ yin yang of mirror and contradiction and undeniable mind $%^^%$ing beauty in every aspect I could think possible. Although we were both aware of our dynamic within a week of meeting, it is much more that keeps us pushing through. I tell you this because we have now both had countless moments of such intensity where every value, fear, love, ‘experience’, trauma, shadow, light we have ever been blessed to know crumbles into frustration far beyond my previous concept of pain. We both know better… so many instances of causing one another to feel this way? We both had somewhat of an understanding of twin flames prior to this. Surely the seemingly endless synchronicities were miss direction and a genuine twin flame reunion does not cause this much suffering. Yet still we endure. It has become seemingly dangerous and I feel we can amicably and mindfully take leave, until we are ready, thanks to you. Looking forward to sharing my experience with you as it becomes clearer. For now, thank you with all of my heart. Your words have helped us immensely.
-Tim
I believe I have come across mine. Scared her away as well so she is running. I was at the end of my marriage, we kept it open at the time to see if that would help things. I got involved with my flame and sparks flew in the form of a connection with someone on so deep of a level that I had never thought possible before.
We work together and see each other for a moment or two a day and in some ways that makes it harder watching her run and find all of the reasons not to peruse things to the point where she got into a relationship with someone else. I know I have a lot of healing to do, she opened my eyes to that without a doubt and I will say that she was the catalyst to a lot of changes that I have made and I am still making in my own self growth. Doesn’t make it any easier, but I’ve had to back off completely and watch from a distance trying to trust in the connection. First to make sure it is what I believe it to be and not me being obsessed, and secondly to focus on healing myself to ensure that I am ready if it ever comes back to me.
Thank you for the enlightening and thought provoking article.
Jw if your name happens to be Mark? Or is it Mr. K? Only asking because you look just like someone I used to work with. Haha no worries if you are him, I mind my own business -a
Reading this now I think I may have found my twin flame already. I’m not sure though as I’ve been going threw a lot of changes the past few years and still going threw more, along with challenges. The “8 stages of twin flame love” seems to hit right on the dot. I won’t go to much into detail but
A person I know, we met back in 2016 and it felt like I just knew him and fell for him hard. We had a fallout after a handful of issues and now re are reconnecting once again and starting “fresh” in a way.
It sounds to you like the time he spends considering what’s important to others falls next to what is least important to him.
In fact, 50 to 80% of the population has herpes. My doctor has herpes, I met people where I used to work who expressed the same. I think they still let you walk down the isle even if you’re a carrier. I don’t have any passion for my twin anymore. I have come a long way from my pain overwhelming me to learning how to carry it. It’s highly likely I will find someone who also has herpes who will be willing to create a life with me, I just have to look. There is nothing stopping me from this except being scared.
They have small packages of fruit in the fridge section @ the store, which has become a regular habit for me, but I don’t buy them anymore. I don’t grow them either. Interesting, now I buy them in bulk and cut them on an almost daily basis with little cups I fill up with peanut butter.