The moment you meet your twin flame is the moment the earth beneath your feet begins to shift.
I like to think of the meeting of two twin flames as an existential earthquake: all of a sudden you can sense that an immensely important person has entered your life. All of a sudden you get the overwhelming feeling that your life is going to change in a way you aren’t even aware of yet – and yet you intuitively know that the changes will be great, greater than what you’ve ever experienced, and breathtaking in their magnitude.
I know all of this because I was fortunate enough to have met my own twin flame a few years ago, so I have already gone through the fiery, intense and transformative process of meeting my soul’s mirror.
Although I feel immense gratitude for the gift of connecting with my twin flame, I am happy to say that this blessing is open to everyone. However, such a gift is not always received openly or even recognized by us on a conscious level. Sometimes we’re at a point in our lives where we are simply not receptive to both ourselves and our twin flame’s presence due to stress, over-work, lifestyle habits and negative thought patterns that lead to low self-esteem.
If you’ve connected with your twin flame, or would like to discover who your twin flame is, you’ll find everything you need to know on this page, including common twin flame signs, twin flame stages, and much more.
What is a Twin Flame?
A Twin Flame, or Twin Soul, is a person who you feel connected to not just on a physical and emotional level, but also on a soulful or spiritual level.
Our Twin Flames represent our friends, lovers, and teachers in this life. They are the yins to our yangs, the suns to our moons, and the light to our darkness.
Twin Flames are also our mirrors in that they reflect back to us all of our hidden fears and shadows, but also our true inner beauty and strength. In this way, our Twin Flames open the door to tremendous emotional, psychological, and spiritual growth.
11 Signs You’re in a Twin Flame Relationship
Are you already in a twin flame relationship?
Common signs to look out for include:
- The sensation that time doesn’t exist between you
- A strange sense of “recognition” or deja vu between you as though you’re both “destined” to be together
- Intense magnetic attraction to each other
- Your strengths and weaknesses perfectly balance each other
- You share the same values, desires, and dreams
- Your Twin knows you better than anyone else in the world
- No matter how many times you fight, you always forgive each other completely
- You have a multi-faceted connection together, i.e. you are best friends, teachers, and lovers to each other
- Uncanny synchronicities exist between you (for example, both of us got together on 11.11.11)
- You’re both driven towards a higher spiritual/social purpose
- You learn the values of empathy, compassion, forgiveness, and unconditional love together
You can take our twin flame test if you would like to find out if you’ve found your twin flame.
The Origins of Twin Flames
So ancient is the desire of one another which is implanted in us, reuniting our original nature, seeking to make one of two, and to heal the state of man. – Plato, Symposium
The concept of having a “Twin Flame” originated in Plato’s mythic dialogue entitled “The Symposium” which wrote that human beings originally had two faces, four arms, and four legs. Under the threat of being overpowered, the gods split them in half, creating the humans we see today. Hence, it is thought that we all have one “twin” soul out there in the world.
Others hypothesize that twin flames are members of our Soul Group (people with whom we resonate with on the deepest level and were predestined to meet), or that twin flames are the embodiment or other “half” of a singular soul.
However, we define twin flames as those whose souls have agreed to reincarnate together across many lifetimes.
The purpose of the twin flame union is to help each other to spiritually grow, expand, and reach spiritual illumination. Everything in life is composed of energy at its core, and twin flames are people we resonate with on the deepest spiritual level. Like two tuning forks or gravitational fields, twin flames are magnetically attracted to each other.
The Purpose of Twin Flame Relationships
Put simply, the purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help us shed away the snakeskin of the ego, face and heal our wounded hearts, and transform into spiritually awakened beings.
Twin flames are a divine expression of Balance, Harmony, and Unconditional Love. Every twin flame couple will have a higher purpose to achieve together, and this may include anything from raising conscious children and starting an eco-conscious business, to becoming spiritual guides and mentoring the lives of many.
Contrary to popular belief, twin flames do not complete each other– this is because the Soul itself is already complete. Instead, such relationships exist to catalyze spiritual maturing and conscious expansion. In other words, twin flame connections exist to aid the collective growth of our planet towards compassion, tranquility, and love.
On a personal level, twin flame relationships prepare us to acknowledge, experience and eventually embody the Wholeness that has always and forever been inside of us. This state of Wholeness is what enlightened Teachers through the ages have embodied and spoken of. This Wholeness is the Soul, or True Nature, within us.
21 Major Twin Flame Signs
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along. – Rumi (The Essential Rumi)
We are not always receptive to the appearance of our twin flames in life.
We might be heart-broken, wracked with grief, maritally over-burdened, or just plain tired and disillusioned when they suddenly appear out of the blue.
Feeling unprepared is one of the biggest reasons why twin flame separation and the twin flame runner and chaser complex occurs. In fact, we might have already met our twin flames, but we might have overlooked them or taken them for granted in some way.
Whatever emotional or psychological stage you’re at in life, it is always beneficial to be conscious of the people you live with and meet. These following twin flame signs might help you to open new pathways and opportunities for union:
- You feel a strange, inexplicable sense of “recognition” when you meet the person. This might manifest itself as déjà vu, or an unshakable feeling that you’ve known this person before, or are somehow “meant to be together.”
- You have a feeling that they are going to play a very important role in your own development, without knowing when, why or how.
- You’ve established an immediate, intense connection with them that is invigorating and shocking at the same time.
- You feel as though you’ve finally found a “home” or safe place with the other person.
- You are able to be your authentic self – warts and all – without the fear of rejection, persecution or judgment with them.
- You both embody the yin and yang, in other words, your dark side is balanced by their light side, and their dark side is balanced by your light side.
- You feel a sense of expansion with them, as though you are larger than your limited identity.
- They make you a better person, and you make them a better person.
- When together you are both bonded but free, attached but unattached. In other words, you still maintain your freedom even though you might be in a relationship with them.
- You are finely tuned to their energy, and they are finely tuned to yours. This means that you are both very conscious of the present play of energy (whether happy or sad, angry or forgiving, open or withholding) present in the connection. You’re both therefore highly empathic with each other.
- You feel as though you have been waiting for this person your entire life.
- You both connect deeply and mirror each other’s values and aspirations for life beyond surface similarities.
- Your twin flame is a mirror of what you fear and simultaneously desire the most for your own inner healing. For example, if you are a highly-strung person, your twin flame will most likely be relaxed and messy. If you like to play the victim, your twin flame will be a strong character who refuses to give you pity or sympathy to perpetuate your complex. If you are creatively repressed, your twin flame will be a flourishing artist. In this way, our twin flames challenge and infuriate us but also teach us important lessons about our fears, core wounds, and repressions.
- Your childhoods were polar opposite. You were raised in very different ways, which led to the development of opposite childhood wounds that you now have the opportunity to mend.
- One of you is more soulfully mature than the other and often serves as the teacher, counselor or confidant within the relationship.
- You are taught important life lessons such as forgiveness, gratitude, empathy, and open-mindedness by them and with them.
- The most growth you’ve ever experienced has been with them. No other friendship or relationship has transformed you as deeply as this one has.
- Your connection is multi-faceted. In other words, your twin flame is likely your best friend, lover, teacher, nurturer, and muse all at once.
- Your twin flame doesn’t try to change you. They accept you for who you are and what stage you’re at and encourage you to do the same for yourself (and vice versa).
- You can be truthful with each other about anything.
- Together, you both feel driven towards a higher purpose, whether spiritually, socially or ecologically.
8 Stages of Twin Flame Love
Twin flames aid our souls in finding completion. However, this journey is composed of many different “layers” or stages.
Here are the eight twin flame stages broken summarized (you can read more in our article “8 Twin Flame Stages“):
1. Yearning for “The One”
This stage is spent preparing for your Twin Flame on an emotional and psychological level. Often, a certain level of individuation and healthy self-esteem must be developed before meeting your Flame.
2. Glimpsing “The One”
In this stage, you’ll temporarily glimpse or come in contact with your Twin Flame. This experience might be through a dream, a picture, or through brief real-life contact.
3. Falling in love
After finally meeting your Twin Flame, you will fall rapidly, deeply, and madly in love. You might try to resist the experience at first (perhaps due to an already established relationship), but eventually, you won’t be able to stay away from them.
4. The Fairy-Tale relationship
After deciding to enter a relationship, you’ll enter a dream-like period that feels like paradise. Everything will feel perfect within your relationship.
5. Outer Turmoil and Inner Purging
As the sparkle from your new love wears off, egos begin to rise up. In this stage, any insecurities, fears, traumas, and shadow issues buried within you and your partner will come to the surface. These will need to be resolved for you to mature as a couple.
6. The Runner and Chaser
Like stage five, this stage is a “trial by fire.” As tensions mount, it is common to temporarily (or in some extreme cases, permanently) leave the relationship either emotionally or physically. The less mature and psychospiritually integrated partner will play the role of the Runner, while the more emotionally balanced partner will play the Chaser. This game of cat and mouse can last for days to years. (You can learn more about spiritual psychology here.)
7. Surrender and Dissolution
Eventually, issues are resolved in your relationship, and a space of acceptance and openness is established.
8. Oneness
The more shadows are dealt with through shadow work, the easier Unity becomes. In this stage, Twin Flames experience little to no conflict and a return to blissful paradise.
More In-Depth Help
Want to learn more about twin flame relationships? In our book Twin Flames & Soulmates, we give more in-depth guidance:
Common Twin Flame Questions
Are you struggling to find the answer to a twin flame question that’s been on your mind for a while?
I’ll answer some of the most common twin flame questions below. (And let me know in the comments area if there’s an area you think I should cover):
1. Are twin flames meant to be lovers?
No, not necessarily. There is no such thing as a cookie-cutter twin flame relationship. Some twin flames are lovers, while some twin flames are best friends. You don’t have to feel sexually attracted to your twin flame for the connection to be legitimate. It’s perfectly normal to have a platonic relationship.
2. Does everyone have a twin flame?
Yes, it’s quite likely that everyone has a twin flame. But not everyone has the capacity to connect with their twin flame within this lifetime. Twin flames emerge within our lives when our souls are ready to undergo the process of spiritual awakening and transformation. For some people, the twin flame connection is simply too intense and is not welcome, and hence never happens.
3. Can a twin flame be a soul mate?
Yes, it is possible that a soul mate can become a twin flame, and vice versa. But twin flames and soul mates have different functions. Twin flame relationships are intense and challenging: their purpose is to help you spiritually grow. Soul mate relationships, on the other hand, are more mild and peaceful: their purpose is to help support you. It’s like the difference between fire (twin flames) and water (soul mates). Read our article on the difference between soul mates, twin flames, and kindred spirits for more of an in-depth distinction.
4. Why do twin flames run?
Sometimes, our twin flames run away because the connection is too overwhelming and intense for the ego. When the ego is not ready to spiritually evolve, it resists, fights, and tries to escape – this is why twin flames run and try to avoid the relationship.
5. Do you only have one twin flame?
Yes, as the name “twin” implies, there is only one other person on this planet who can be called a twin flame. All types of relationships provide the opportunity for growth, but twin flame relationships are rare in their ability to help us spiritually evolve and awaken.
6. Is there such a thing as a false twin flame?
Yes, there is such a thing as a false twin flame. Whether due to our own false perception (it’s true that love blinds us) or due to the pretense worn by the other person, it’s possible to mistake someone as our twin flame. The best way to know whether someone is a false twin flame is to pay attention to (a) whether they genuinely share the same values as you, (b) if you can be your true self around them, and (c) if there is mutual spiritual transformation.
7. Are twin flames toxic?
Our twin flames can have toxic mindsets and wounds, but they are not toxic to be around. On the contrary, our twin flames are loving, inspiring, and supportive people to be around. They help us to become the best version of ourselves possible. A true twin flame will have some negative traits, but that will be outweighed by their positive qualities. False twin flames, on the other hand, are toxic to be around and make us feel rotten inside.
8. Can twin flames communicate telepathically?
No scientific studies have been conducted, so it’s best to keep an open but balanced perspective. Yes, it might be possible for twin flames to communicate telepathically when in a relationship. But this shouldn’t be used as an excuse to avoid clear communication and assume that the other can ‘read our mind.’ Telepathic communication can also lead a person to believe they are reading another person’s emotions and thoughts accurately, when in reality they are projecting their own beliefs, wishes and desires onto that person. This is a tricky area and should be approached with open-minded caution.
9. Can twin flames fall out of love?
Yes, unfortunately, it is possible for twin flames to fall out of love. However, this is not to say that the deep soul connection will disappear, or the possibility for rekindling love will vanish. It is possible for twin flames to fall in love, fall out of love, and fall in love again. The nature of life is unpredictable, and there is no divine edict saying that twin flames must love each other forever. The purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help us spiritually evolve, and when that goal has been completed, the connection can sometimes disintegrate. However, it is always possible for our twin flames to re-emerge later in life.
How to Find Your Twin Flame
If you haven’t yet found your Twin Flame, just know that the experience is absolutely open to you. However, finding and connecting to your Flame requires inner work.
Twin Flames & Soul Mates:
Learn how to forge true, deep, and enduring twin flame and soul mate love – no matter what stage you’re at, starting right now. This book is for anyone seeking to find and create an authentic, fulfilling, and awakened relationship.
The best way to connect with your Twin Flame isn’t through a fancy manifestation ritual, but through an authentic development of self-love. You must be willing to deal with the darkest places within you before you can truly open to the Twin Flame connection.
We explore how to find your twin flame more in our twin flame book.
Twin Flame Resources
It’s important that you read through the articles below and click on any that resonate with you. Once you click on an article, it will be opened in a new screen, meaning that you can come back to this page as your “home base,” and explore some more!
Our twin flames can be our friends or lovers. For some people, they arise at the most opportune times, and for others, they arise at the most complicated times. And still, for some people twin flames are said to not arise in this lifetime but are nevertheless with us in heart.
Whatever the case, remember that it is entirely possible to be whole and complete unto yourself with enough inner work. Remember, twin flames do not “complete” you because you are already innately “complete” at a soulful level; they instead compliment you deeply and help you to grow.
Have you met your twin flame? If so, what has the experience been like? Please share below in the comments!
I am currently in separation from my twin. We were together for almost 4 months. The signs are there and steps we have been through are clear. I feel it. But I’m doubting myself. There have been many synchronisities and 11 11 has popped up at me 3 times since we broke up. The biggest indication is a week and a half after the break up I began a Spiritual awakening! The was preceeded by almost incomprehensible grief. The loss of my child is the only other time I have felt this pain. It is still lingering. I have daily crying spells I can’t control. By the way, I am male and have identified myself as the chaser. My twin feels I deserve better and also says she feels broken. We both have horrible tragedies in our past. I am completely devastated. I’m still working on myself and continuing my awakening journey. It feels great and I’m growing daily but I can’t fight this pain, no matter what I tell myself or how much progress I make. She has not confirmed to me we are infact twins. She is the one whi mentioned first while we were together. I had heard the term used and kind of knew what twin flames were but there was no discussion about after the brief mention of it by her. A week after the break up I was still so grief stricken I was trying to figure out what went wrong. Other than her occasionally mentioning her anxiety and doubts, which surfaced about almost 3 months into the relationship, the relationship was AMAZING up until 1 day before she broke it off. I am so lost and grief stricken right now. There are good days, not great, bad days and horrible days. We had almost a month with no contact. She told me she forgives me for something stupid I did the day of the break up after she broke it off. We have sent texts and emails but have not talked. We have not seen eachother. We were going to meet up and talk but she canceled it both times the last time saying it wasn’t a good idea and she feels bad when she seems and can’t make decisions. I actually felt relieved she canceled both times. My anxiety was horrible. I sent her a letter prior to her reaching out. In the letter I told her I would never reach out again until she did. She did eventually reach out. Now after her canceling the second meet up I sent another letter about the things I wanted to talk about and again told her I would not bother her again until she reaches out. This was 4 days ago. I had a melt down last night. I don’t know what to do. I’m devastated. I am in recovery from drugs and alcohol and I have stayed strong so far but have definitely had urges and thoughts of using to just numb myself. I am worried I may relapse. I have people to talk to but no one who completely understands. I can hardly sleep and my appetite is non existent. I am overweight and normally this would send me into a binge eating streak. Not this time. I’m starting to be able to eat better now, a little. I’m eating healthy and have no cravings for the junk I used to eat. I’m actually getting healthier. This is all just so confusing and painful. I’m actually scared. Again, she is the one who mentioned twin flames in the first place. As I was searching myself for answers I remembered her mentioning it and found this website. The was 3 weeks ago and in all the letters I discussed us being twins. She has not mentioned twins yet when we’ve chatted. It has been 4 days now with no contact. I just don’t know what to do. I’m in so much pain.
Woww… congratulations.
Not a sycophant, hate hypocrisy and small talk and am blunt with the truth when i have to. Have struggled with asserting my personality to me because no one would understand even when i tried to explain. You give to your readers an indepth view to these issues. Those who read and understand understands. Thank you.
sometimes could virtually hear him speak and i perceived some how it was vice versa, sometime i would physically want to hide because i felt opened, vulnerable. It was too much but i felt at home, it was strange because it was knew, when i backed down a little he pushed harder, i pushed back harder because of pressure he ran from rejection, i went after him to make him understand that i just need him to be patient with me, at this point he felt more vulnerable and ran altogether. I had never experienced much pain, devastation and depression and so much low-self esteem. I tried getting rid of my emotions for him and it felt like death, it burned like an uncontrollable fire i could not control while i stood on the sidelines and watched the inferno, as i watched myself suffer and unable to do anything to help me, so i gave it time, processing my emotions and grew spiritually. Right now am so over that place, but i tell one thing, my life will never be the same again.
How has your plan changed?
We have bin within the same social circle since i was a child. Until he left to acquire a degree certificate. When he came back something happened( to mention that while growing up i had a thing for this guy, and knew intuitively he had the same for me, on my part i didn’t understand what it was or mean’t, it was a mixture of emotion and something else i havn’t figured out yet), when i saw him my gaze caught his and it was like staring into an endless pit at the same time his eyes where so transparent that i felt they where mirrors. I was esthatic, afraid, unsure, emboldened, warmed, confused but that was the begining of a roller coaster of thoughts and emotions, it was during this time i understood the emotion derived from love and the relationship of the dynamics and chemistry of love its self. I couldn’t stop thinking about him, i couldn’t stop myself, there was an almost pausible connection between us, could perceive his emotions, its highs and lows, what he was thinking,
Because he takes an interest in his health it is a threat to me? Maybe God made a mistake or maybe I need to rethink the idea of integration involving pain and this being ok. It is ok to be ok with pain.
My sister says I’m her twin flame can that be possible?
sometimes people mean what they say
people who have been in the counseling field for years, refer to it as an internal vs external locus of control
I am really sorry for what happened to you, whatever it was.
and I mean that.
It’s a fantasy. Just hopeful feelings. All bluff.
I think I understand the thought of twin flames but I’m having a hard time trying to understand if the person I met is a false or a real twin flame. I read a little about false twin flames but I am no closer to the realization whether they are or not. How do I know ?
My husband and I have been married for over twenty years now. We went through all 8 steps exactly as you described. Pretty much the first year was heaven then the next three were hell. But after a three month separation we moved on to oneness and I’m very happy and proud to say we have been there for over 15 years now. People have asked what are secret is to staying together so long and honestly I never know what to say because I didn’t understand it myself. I just thought we are very lucky to be in such a beautiful relationship even though I couldn’t explain why. And it would irk me that I couldn’t articulate to others what has made our relationship so successful. Because I would love to help others be in a relationship like ours. We love each other so deeply. We are best friends and share everything with each other. Yet we have very different personal interests. Such as I love learning and reading, research and spiritual things. He’s more interested in building things, mechanics, and history about war. Yet we share so many interests as well like paranormal research, gardening, travel, history, etc.. We met when I was 23 and he was 30. I had given up on relationships when we met. We spent everyday together from the day we met. It was a instant connection and quickly become best friends. It took three months before we had our first kiss. For a year we were in paradise. We were passionately in love. Then the honeymoon ended and the turmoil began. Our egos were out of control. Both of us trying to run things afraid of being controlled by the other. He started running by disappearing for days at a time. And I would just wait for him to come home. We fought all the time. By three years I had enough. I was depressed and suicidal. I couldn’t take being neglected anymore. So I left him. And I made him date me all over again. It broke my heart seeing Crystal and begging me not to leave. Three months later we got back together and have been together ever since. Our relationship isn’t perfect. I’m not blinded by love. Life is messy at times. And we went through a lot of traumatic and painful life events over the last twenty years. But despite all the crap life has thrown at us we get through it because we know we will always have each other to help us get through it all. Our fights are quick and respectful. If we don’t agree on something we feel strongly about we just agree to disagree unless it will do serious harm to one or both of us. I believe my strengths are his weaknesses and the other way around. This is why my first marriage failed. We tore each other down instead of building each other up. Thank you for sharing. Now I know where to send people if they ask why our relationship works.
Woww… congratulations.
Please delete this, id appreciate it and regret posting here. Thanks
Please delete this comment I posted. I feel like I shouldn’t have even put it out there and these comments on here don’t make sense and made me feel worse. Thanks
She created such a hostile environment where I worked. She took her anger and fear out on me in the form of rumors about my past from a distance where the opportunity existed without it being traced back to her. Some people know about it due to their involvement in one way or another, sometimes defending me, but it contributed to me getting physically hurt when prior to this, I gave her several opportunities to speak to me in person. She was not the primary reason why I got hurt, but she contributed to it by doing the wrong thing.
tea consent, it’s a video to enjoy
I am really sorry that happened to you and I hope you will be ok.
I have one question for you tho, if you gave her up, and this is how she reacted, and you got hurt, how did you not lose your mind after what you went through?
One day, of pain, at a time… thanks for asking.
Giving you advice about what you have the ability to transform through … one week from now (112 waking hours), 2 weeks from now, 5 months from now (2,240 waking hours of help & support), and 5 years from now (29,120 waking hrs of coping), sounds like such a personal venture through what I cannot even fathom to shape your history as to begin to tell you what I suspect is what you are or are not capable of, or what you can live through, or want to live through. Nothing a roll in the dirt cannot help you decide.
you’re worried about stopping the behaviors and nobody is helping. It is time to get help, and while it is not easy to turn a person like you down, they will accept you with open arms, you could go to Walgreens, find your favorite ice cream, and enjoy that as reinforcement for not doing something you probably in the past. After that, you need to contemplate some telehealth therapy with someone that same-sex as you who will understand. It’s normal, for almost an entire year, now, to be back and forth on this website, avoiding pain, but past the step of options and familiar with a few things. Ya know? It is not normal for me to feel numb when I think of you in bed with another woman. I am also uncomfortable with it. So I’m not sure how to describe it at this point. I want you to get…
after that, you need to go home and chill out with your family
Thank you for not making me feel inferior.
I met my twinflame when I was 15. He was 38 and my high school English teacher. We shared all the same interests. We connected on such a high level that when we looked into each other’s eyes, we could almost communicate on a wordless level. He was my safe place to fall, my most trusted confidante, the one I could turn to for everything in my life. The one whose smile I coveted with my every breath. Our relationship, though totally platonic, was on the level with the great lovers of the world. The Antony and Cleopatra, the Victoria and Albert. The soul of my existence still, though I am married to another. My twinflame will always own my soul and a piece of my heart. My husband owns the other piece of my heart but can never match the soul odyssey I still share with this man who still lives and still lives in my mind and the world.
Maybe if he gives me an excuse for my behavior and calls it nature we can begin to speak about the past and work through our difficulties. It would seem there are some weeds to tangle with, and arguing about why they are there, tells me about the direction he is headed toward or coming from, and when she wants my perception to be that the contingency of her actions depends on my motivation, I feel free and safe, with no obstacles to express my feelings, but if that changes, and I become frightened, I won’t speak up, and when speaking up has contingencies, I’d like to invest in what I have spent my life working for, but when my inadequacies enter this, they create obstacles because fear took the wheel, it will be fine though, because obstacles caused the problem, not the message I told myself that has been long forgotten, now its like pulling a string and all the lights turn off, message: I did not mean for that to happen, but it is happening. I think she has manipulated this situation and herself and is switching up the phrasing of the pronouns of this sentence to get inside my head. I did want things to be different, I wish I could have spoken to you about herpes. But the long haul, hasn’t that been forgotten. The number of years it takes to repair, that’s tough, but what is tougher is looking at this mess. He has involved himself with others, taken an oath, and has bonded with someone he chooses but from a motivation to bring pain, distraction, and something else I am sure is beyond what I can imagine. I resent him, I have cried, held my mothers’ hand as I broke down, felt it when he got someone else pregnant. I do not have the coping capacity to be near him, communicate with him or to stand in the same city as him. I have no future plans of friendship or relationship. And I told him this from the beginning, the only plan I ever had was “all or none”. The last thing he should concern himself with, is contacting me in anyway, and she should also focus on what is most important to her, because that is beginning to look like “revenge” as it was communicated to me. Her mother, her friend, her family, her aunt, uncle, cousin… the staff, the office, the friend who helped you get through it. How would you feel, if you were him?
Hey, you. Yeah, I’m not sure what to do, I do not know which I miss more, my soulmate, or the attention… I get from the people who are scared I will leave when this person was around.
When you are willing able and ready, for friendship and sobriety, this is an id urge that will be strong, and strong in those who will not want to give you up. Feeling wanted and loved, even for the wrong reasons, is something a person did not have before. And depending on the source of this past wound, that is currently being fulfilled, by you, the consequences you will face are inescapable, something you must be prepared for, but this does not mean it will not shake your earth, because of how the absence of fulfillment is associated with a past role similar to yours, and you will be a source of blame. I promise to be there as a friend, and not take advantage of you. But you only choose this when you are ready, willing and able, and it must apply to the other enjoyments as well. Every body, deserves a second chance. But after this, there will be nc if you leap before you are ready. And if you mess it up, there will be nc. And if you do nothing, there will be nc. And if you seek revenge, there will be nc. Superior, inferior, equal, are things I have ideas about, but I do not have access to this. Careful about where your motivation comes from.
I often wonder how often I am motivated by love and fear, that’s why I am here.
Is it possible for a flower to grow out from an area of weeds under the light and dark cycles we call nature?
Your actions are your decisions, and what you decide to do is not something you need to apologize for.
However, if there is something you feel that is appropriate to apologize for some time within the next 15 years, you can contact me on skype video chat, and I’ll actually listen.
I met my twin flame 41 years ago within 3 months we moved in together and were married the following year, My husband passed away 6 months ago after a long illness. I have lost my lover and my best friend . I will forever be grateful for the years we had together in this life they were full of incredible highs and lows but we knew right away we shared the same values and expectations of each other . We had a very volatile relationship in the early years as we both worked through the demons of our past.. We eventually settled into a very symbiotic existence, always knew what the other was thinking or feeling , all it took was a look in each other’s eyes. We often said the same thing at the same time. The Past 5 years we both had to deal with his illness as it progressed. Sometimes we would share his physical pain but always on the opposite side of the body like looking in a mirror. I took care of my love in all aspects physically and emotionally right up to the night he had to leave this earth. It s been devastating but he was suffering so much I know he had to leave. He comes to me still on occasion making sure I’m ok and I have told him it’s ok to be free and continue his journey. I will love him forever. I have grown spiritually by leaps and bounds because of our love. Just wanted to share my story , it’s so much more than what I’ve just related as I could go on for days talking about this but this is enough for now. Thank you for letting me share.
relationship was incredible
Glad you spoke up.