The moment you meet your twin flame is the moment the earth beneath your feet begins to shift.
I like to think of the meeting of two twin flames as an existential earthquake: all of a sudden you can sense that an immensely important person has entered your life. All of a sudden you get the overwhelming feeling that your life is going to change in a way you aren’t even aware of yet – and yet you intuitively know that the changes will be great, greater than what you’ve ever experienced, and breathtaking in their magnitude.
I know all of this because I was fortunate enough to have met my own twin flame a few years ago, so I have already gone through the fiery, intense and transformative process of meeting my soul’s mirror.
Although I feel immense gratitude for the gift of connecting with my twin flame, I am happy to say that this blessing is open to everyone. However, such a gift is not always received openly or even recognized by us on a conscious level. Sometimes we’re at a point in our lives where we are simply not receptive to both ourselves and our twin flame’s presence due to stress, over-work, lifestyle habits and negative thought patterns that lead to low self-esteem.
If you’ve connected with your twin flame, or would like to discover who your twin flame is, you’ll find everything you need to know on this page, including common twin flame signs, twin flame stages, and much more.
What is a Twin Flame?
A Twin Flame, or Twin Soul, is a person who you feel connected to not just on a physical and emotional level, but also on a soulful or spiritual level.
Our Twin Flames represent our friends, lovers, and teachers in this life. They are the yins to our yangs, the suns to our moons, and the light to our darkness.
Twin Flames are also our mirrors in that they reflect back to us all of our hidden fears and shadows, but also our true inner beauty and strength. In this way, our Twin Flames open the door to tremendous emotional, psychological, and spiritual growth.
11 Signs You’re in a Twin Flame Relationship
Are you already in a twin flame relationship?
Common signs to look out for include:
- The sensation that time doesn’t exist between you
- A strange sense of “recognition” or deja vu between you as though you’re both “destined” to be together
- Intense magnetic attraction to each other
- Your strengths and weaknesses perfectly balance each other
- You share the same values, desires, and dreams
- Your Twin knows you better than anyone else in the world
- No matter how many times you fight, you always forgive each other completely
- You have a multi-faceted connection together, i.e. you are best friends, teachers, and lovers to each other
- Uncanny synchronicities exist between you (for example, both of us got together on 11.11.11)
- You’re both driven towards a higher spiritual/social purpose
- You learn the values of empathy, compassion, forgiveness, and unconditional love together
The Origins of Twin Flames
So ancient is the desire of one another which is implanted in us, reuniting our original nature, seeking to make one of two, and to heal the state of man. – Plato, Symposium
The concept of having a “Twin Flame” originated in Plato’s mythic dialogue entitled “The Symposium” which wrote that human beings originally had two faces, four arms, and four legs. Under the threat of being overpowered, the gods split them in half, creating the humans we see today. Hence, it is thought that we all have one “twin” soul out there in the world.
Others hypothesize that twin flames are members of our Soul Group (people with whom we resonate with on the deepest level and were predestined to meet), or that twin flames are the embodiment or other “half” of a singular soul.
However, we define twin flames as those whose souls have agreed to reincarnate together across many lifetimes.
The purpose of the twin flame union is to help each other to spiritually grow, expand, and reach spiritual illumination. Everything in life is composed of energy at its core, and twin flames are people we resonate with on the deepest spiritual level. Like two tuning forks or gravitational fields, twin flames are magnetically attracted to each other.
The Purpose of Twin Flame Relationships
Put simply, the purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help us shed away the snakeskin of the ego, face and heal our wounded hearts, and transform into awakened beings.
Twin flames are a divine expression of Balance, Harmony, and Unconditional Love. Every twin flame couple will have a higher purpose to achieve together, and this may include anything from raising conscious children and starting an eco-conscious business, to becoming spiritual guides and mentoring the lives of many.
Contrary to popular belief, twin flames do not complete each other– this is because the Soul itself is already complete. Instead, such relationships exist to catalyze spiritual maturing and conscious expansion. In other words, twin flame connections exist to aid the collective growth of our planet towards compassion, tranquility, and love.
On a personal level, twin flame relationships prepare us to acknowledge, experience and eventually embody the Wholeness that has always and forever been inside of us. This state of Wholeness is what enlightened Teachers through the ages have embodied and spoken of. This Wholeness is the Soul, or True Nature, within us.
21 Major Twin Flame Signs
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along. – Rumi (The Essential Rumi)
We are not always receptive to the appearance of our twin flames in life.
We might be heart-broken, wracked with grief, maritally over-burdened, or just plain tired and disillusioned when they suddenly appear out of the blue.
Feeling unprepared is one of the biggest reasons why twin flame separation and the twin flame runner and chaser complex occurs. In fact, we might have already met our twin flames, but we might have overlooked them or taken them for granted in some way.
Whatever emotional or psychological stage you’re at in life, it is always beneficial to be conscious of the people you live with and meet. These following twin flame signs might help you to open new pathways and opportunities for union:
- You feel a strange, inexplicable sense of “recognition” when you meet the person. This might manifest itself as déjà vu, or an unshakable feeling that you’ve known this person before, or are somehow “meant to be together.”
- You have a feeling that they are going to play a very important role in your own development, without knowing when, why or how.
- You’ve established an immediate, intense connection with them that is invigorating and shocking at the same time.
- You feel as though you’ve finally found a “home” or safe place with the other person.
- You are able to be your authentic self – warts and all – without the fear of rejection, persecution or judgment with them.
- You both embody the yin and yang, in other words, your dark side is balanced by their light side, and their dark side is balanced by your light side.
- You feel a sense of expansion with them, as though you are larger than your limited identity.
- They make you a better person, and you make them a better person.
- When together you are both bonded but free, attached but unattached. In other words, you still maintain your freedom even though you might be in a relationship with them.
- You are finely tuned to their energy, and they are finely tuned to yours. This means that you are both very conscious of the present play of energy (whether happy or sad, angry or forgiving, open or withholding) present in the connection. You’re both therefore highly empathic with each other.
- You feel as though you have been waiting for this person your entire life.
- You both connect deeply and mirror each other’s values and aspirations for life beyond surface similarities.
- Your twin flame is a mirror of what you fear and simultaneously desire the most for your own inner healing. For example, if you are a highly-strung person, your twin flame will most likely be relaxed and messy. If you like to play the victim, your twin flame will be a strong character who refuses to give you pity or sympathy to perpetuate your complex. If you are creatively repressed, your twin flame will be a flourishing artist. In this way, our twin flames challenge and infuriate us but also teach us important lessons about our fears, core wounds, and repressions.
- Your childhoods were polar opposite. You were raised in very different ways, which led to the development of opposite childhood wounds that you now have the opportunity to mend.
- One of you is more soulfully mature than the other and often serves as the teacher, counselor or confidant within the relationship.
- You are taught important life lessons such as forgiveness, gratitude, empathy, and open-mindedness by them and with them.
- The most growth you’ve ever experienced has been with them. No other friendship or relationship has transformed you as deeply as this one has.
- Your connection is multi-faceted. In other words, your twin flame is likely your best friend, lover, teacher, nurturer, and muse all at once.
- Your twin flame doesn’t try to change you. They accept you for who you are and what stage you’re at and encourage you to do the same for yourself (and vice versa).
- You can be truthful with each other about anything.
- Together, you both feel driven towards a higher purpose, whether spiritually, socially or ecologically.
8 Stages of Twin Flame Love
Twin flames aid our souls in finding completion. However, this journey is composed of many different “layers” or stages.
Here are the eight twin flame stages broken summarized (you can read more in our article “8 Twin Flame Stages“):
1. Yearning for “The One”
This stage is spent preparing for your Twin Flame on an emotional and psychological level. Often, a certain level of individuation and healthy self-esteem must be developed before meeting your Flame.
2. Glimpsing “The One”
In this stage, you’ll temporarily glimpse or come in contact with your Twin Flame. This experience might be through a dream, a picture, or through brief real-life contact.
3. Falling in love
After finally meeting your Twin Flame, you will fall rapidly, deeply, and madly in love. You might try to resist the experience at first (perhaps due to an already established relationship), but eventually, you won’t be able to stay away from them.
4. The Fairy-Tale relationship
After deciding to enter a relationship, you’ll enter a dream-like period that feels like paradise. Everything will feel perfect within your relationship.
5. Outer Turmoil and Inner Purging
As the sparkle from your new love wears off, egos begin to rise up. In this stage, any insecurities, fears, traumas, and shadow issues buried within you and your partner will come to the surface. These will need to be resolved for you to mature as a couple.
6. The Runner and Chaser
Like stage five, this stage is a “trial by fire.” As tensions mount, it is common to temporarily (or in some extreme cases, permanently) leave the relationship either emotionally or physically. The less mature and psychospiritually integrated partner will play the role of the Runner, while the more emotionally balanced partner will play the Chaser. This game of cat and mouse can last for days to years.
7. Surrender and Dissolution
Eventually, issues are resolved in your relationship, and a space of acceptance and openness is established.
8. Oneness
The more shadows are dealt with, the easier Unity becomes. In this stage, Twin Flames experience little to no conflict and a return to blissful paradise.
Common Twin Flame Questions
Are you struggling to find the answer to a twin flame question that’s been on your mind for a while?
I’ll answer some of the most common twin flame questions below. (And let me know in the comments area if there’s an area you think I should cover):
1. Are twin flames meant to be lovers?
No, not necessarily. There is no such thing as a cookie-cutter twin flame relationship. Some twin flames are lovers, while some twin flames are best friends. You don’t have to feel sexually attracted to your twin flame for the connection to be legitimate. It’s perfectly normal to have a platonic relationship.
2. Does everyone have a twin flame?
Yes, it’s quite likely that everyone has a twin flame. But not everyone has the capacity to connect with their twin flame within this lifetime. Twin flames emerge within our lives when our souls are ready to undergo the process of spiritual awakening and transformation. For some people, the twin flame connection is simply too intense and is not welcome, and hence never happens.
3. Can a twin flame be a soul mate?
Yes, it is possible that a soul mate can become a twin flame, and vice versa. But twin flames and soul mates have different functions. Twin flame relationships are intense and challenging: their purpose is to help you spiritually grow. Soul mate relationships, on the other hand, are more mild and peaceful: their purpose is to help support you. It’s like the difference between fire (twin flames) and water (soul mates). Read our article on the difference between soul mates, twin flames, and kindred spirits for more of an in-depth distinction.
4. Why do twin flames run?
Sometimes, our twin flames run away because the connection is too overwhelming and intense for the ego. When the ego is not ready to spiritually evolve, it resists, fights, and tries to escape – this is why twin flames run and try to avoid the relationship.
5. Do you only have one twin flame?
Yes, as the name “twin” implies, there is only one other person on this planet who can be called a twin flame. All types of relationships provide the opportunity for growth, but twin flame relationships are rare in their ability to help us spiritually evolve and awaken.
6. Is there such a thing as a false twin flame?
Yes, there is such a thing as a false twin flame. Whether due to our own false perception (it’s true that love blinds us) or due to the pretense worn by the other person, it’s possible to mistake someone as our twin flame. The best way to know whether someone is a false twin flame is to pay attention to (a) whether they genuinely share the same values as you, (b) if you can be your true self around them, and (c) if there is mutual spiritual transformation.
7. Are twin flames toxic?
Our twin flames can have toxic mindsets and wounds, but they are not toxic to be around. On the contrary, our twin flames are loving, inspiring, and supportive people to be around. They help us to become the best version of ourselves possible. A true twin flame will have some negative traits, but that will be outweighed by their positive qualities. False twin flames, on the other hand, are toxic to be around and make us feel rotten inside.
8. Can twin flames communicate telepathically?
No scientific studies have been conducted, so it’s best to keep an open but balanced perspective. Yes, it might be possible for twin flames to communicate telepathically when in a relationship. But this shouldn’t be used as an excuse to avoid clear communication and assume that the other can ‘read our mind.’ Telepathic communication can also lead a person to believe they are reading another person’s emotions and thoughts accurately, when in reality they are projecting their own beliefs, wishes and desires onto that person. This is a tricky area and should be approached with open-minded caution.
9. Can twin flames fall out of love?
Yes, unfortunately, it is possible for twin flames to fall out of love. However, this is not to say that the deep soul connection will disappear, or the possibility for rekindling love will vanish. It is possible for twin flames to fall in love, fall out of love, and fall in love again. The nature of life is unpredictable, and there is no divine edict saying that twin flames must love each other forever. The purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help us spiritually evolve, and when that goal has been completed, the connection can sometimes disintegrate. However, it is always possible for our twin flames to re-emerge later in life.
How to Find Your Twin Flame
If you haven’t yet found your Twin Flame, just know that the experience is absolutely open to you. However, finding and connecting to your Flame requires inner work.
The best way to connect with your Twin Flame isn’t through a fancy manifestation ritual, but through an authentic development of self-love. You must be willing to deal with the darkest places within you before you can truly open to the Twin Flame connection. Explore the resources below for more guidance.
Twin Flame Resources
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Soul Mate and Relationship Guidance
Soul mates have a similar function to twin flames, but the difference is that they have a more calming and stabilizing presence. In other words, while twin flames are intense catalysts of change, soul mates are gentle and soulful supporters.
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Our twin flames can be our friends or lovers. For some people, they arise at the most opportune times, and for others, they arise at the most complicated times. And still, for some people twin flames are said to not arise in this lifetime but are nevertheless with us in heart.
Whatever the case, remember that it is entirely possible to be whole and complete unto yourself with enough inner work. Remember, twin flames do not “complete” you because you are already innately “complete” at a soulful level; they instead compliment you deeply and help you to grow.
Have you met your twin flame? If so, what has the experience been like? Please share below in the comments!
I have a soulmate or tween flames story to tell its about my self and my soulmate Jose Cortez that recently past awey
In the way of meeting your Twin flame. What about actually feeling what the other person is feeling. It happened to me with my twin. When ever she feels something I do I too and it doesn’t matter how far away we are. I am in Sweden and she is in Marocko. Without talking to her I just write a text: I miss you too
And she is writinghow did you know?
I just feel it. And I’ve been teaching her how to do the same. To be more conscious about the soul.
Your “twin flame” is your Heavenly mate. When Adam and Eve were created, they were one soul. When they fell, they were split apart by God’s wrath and thrown from paradise. They became two. All of us were one soul and split apart at birth. The Trinity is one soul, but separate beings. In order to return to His Kingdom, we have to be one soul again. God doesn’t recognize worldly marriage. Our Heavenly mate or “twin flame” whom is our other half is what He blesses. Yes, you go through runner/chaser, but the real thing is to know yourself. Change your ways. Be humble, greatful, lucky that you experience the numbers…signs from the angels. Reincarnation is over. This is your last chance. Did you think it would be easy? Your greatest test is what you will give up to go to Heaven. Your “runner” will come around. Be patient and have faith. You’ve been chosen. I just felt the need to share this. We look all over the internet trying to find answers. I feel close and this advice is free.
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I met my twin 6 years ago and i was happy truly happy for the love i sure with him. But i can’t leave my happy family for my own happiness, so I break his heart and let him go.
Because he was hurt, he wants to hurt me back And he try to destroy what I build for my family. So I take action and take revenge in the hard ways.
After this all happened I never stopped even for a minute thinking about him for 3 years. I wish I can take it back what I did and start over but my ego and his stand in our way. We both checked echo there’s on social media Just in case one of us take the first steps to riche out. Funny how we play games with love!!!
Just wanted to say that no matter what responses you give to your twin flame test-it says you have met your twin flame
AS and I met 32 years ago. I was in another country on vacation. I was engaged, and had been with my boyfriend for 8 years. When we met, it was instant – emotional, physical and over the years as I understand more, spiritual. Beliefs and similarities to the core. To be brief, I returned to Canada, called off the wedding, we began a long distance relationship for approx 1.5 years, with phone calls, voice messages, letters, and multiple visits. No technology back in that day. With his line of work, constant travelling, lack of a “home address” (he was in the service), while we started the paperwork to get me a visitors visa, it seemed near impossible. It eventually just became too hard, we were 22 and 23 and after so many tearful conversations and what to do, we decided to “remain friends”, but trickle away.
Looking back and knowing what I know now, I think I ran, because I wanted a “sure thing”, and commitment, and I couldn’t have it in the form I wanted.
We remained in touch for 4 years, often excruciatingly so. Letters and phone calls, through two more boyfriends for me, no serious relationships for him, and eventually the last letter and phone call, came the first year I was married. I was 26 and he was 27. I remember crying and saying, “I’m not sure we can keep doing this? I mean, how? Why?”
Over the next 27 years, I can honestly say there hadn’t been more than a few months go by when I hadn’t thought of him. Where he was, what he was doing, if he was married, what he was like now, etc. As the technology became available, I looked him up on line, in phone books, looked up his parents in their home town… where he last lived… you name it. When Facebook came to be, I did the same. Often. All to no avail. But still he was there. All the time. I wondered if he would be my “next one”, my “what if” something happened down the road.
Fast forward to last summer when he found me. My name had changed so he had to do some sleuthing; dug up old letters from his parents after they moved multiple times, searching my maiden name in the same city to see if anything came up and if I still lived there. My maiden name showed I owned a business, he looked up the business, it took him to facebook, searched for my profile with my new name, and finally his name popped up on my computer last summer.
Imagine all of the things that you had ever thought about over a 30 year period, literally every last one, being echoed by the other person. And we were very careful initially how we went forward – both of us were guarding immensely – in what we shared. Breathless and tearful, but careful. We are both married. He married late in life to a woman with my name (his words “if that isn’t a hard reminder, every day”). My firstborn son was born on his birthday. There are countless connections that we shared and new ones that have developed in the 30 years that we’ve been apart. It’s amazing, beautiful, and scary as hell.
So now – we’re both married; me with adult children. We’re both professional, kind, smart, genuine people. So, we decide how to proceed. We’ve both ran the gamut of emotions from surreal, blissful, beautiful, terrified, excruciating, and everything in between. He might be acting as the runner now. We will see. At time, I try my hardest just to be grateful for this entire experience as it is, spanning 32 years, so far.
I met my twin flame 27 years ago. He came into my life at a time when I was feeling really bad about myself after some negative experiences. He was in the army at that time and before he met me always got into trouble. We both grew in that relationship: I started to be more self-confident, he didn’t get into trouble anymore (everybody knew we were deeply in love). A year later we got engaged – and then his regiment had to leave….the night he left, I felt like someone hit my heart with a hammer. We wrote a lot of letters, always hoping to see each other soon.
He couldn’t stand the distance anymore after a while and finished our relationship. But the day he wrote his last letter, I heard his voice in my head and suddenly was very sad. I knew what would happen. When I got the letter, I only had to read the first two words and I broke down….
I never really got over him for a long time, even though I met my husband about 1 1/2 months later (soulmate). I looked for him on facebook years later and finally found him. But I never contacted him, because he was (is) married, and I was too scared of his reaction. Then last year (25 years later) I suddenly thought to add my maiden name tomy facebook profile. About a month later he contacted me….
We talked, he rang me once, because he wanted to tell me personally how sorry he was about the way he finished … and that he always felt bad about it and tried to find me. After that phonecall we only texted, because both our partners wouldn’t like us talking. But we found out we have quite a few things in common, similar experiences, etc. And we could talk as if no time had passed. He thinks my – “weird”-thoughts/believes ( about religion, spirituality, etc.) are interesting, even though he is more realistic, he understands my humour – and every now and then he wrote to me in my native language – only short sentences, sometimes about things he remembered, sometimes just “good morning” or “good night”.
But we had to stop writing again, because his wife found out we were still talking ( after he said sorry – she didn’t even like that, of course). He said he will have to stay quiet for a while until everything calms down again. I know it will take a while. I let him know, that he knows where to find me, whenever he wants to talk. And if I wanted to, I could contact him, he hasn’t blocked me yet ( he did that in between, because he got overwhelmed by his emotions). So I live my life and hope I will hear from him again. But since he contacted me I feel whole again and I’ve made quite a few changes in my life…
He definitely helped me “grow” for the second time, now…
Thank you so much for sharing Gráinne, I really appreciate your experience and the similarities. Since I posted, we have since gone so far as seeing each other in a city where I was for a conference and he has relatives. We hadn’t physically seen each other in 31 years, and after about 10 minutes of shy grins, it was like no time had passed. We had a number of questions that we wanted to ask each other (around what the hell is this, and what do we do now), and as we both agreed, we didn’t even need to ask the questions; we just knew the answers. We continue to echo each others thoughts on almost everything. Luckily (and horribly), we live thousands of miles apart, so we can’t rush anything, and have to proceed with caution. Part of us wants to trust that things will work out and move in the direction that it’s meant to; the other part does not want to squander time. We shall see. This time “in the middle” is excruciating, and at the same time, somewhat beautiful. Thanks again.
I guess my first love is my twin flame…though we’ve broken up years ago…yet we seem to have an invisible thread connecting us…we keep meeting each other at vital points of our life…and surpisingly almost all of the 20 signs matched!
I think I met my twinflame…I met her in a dorm when I was just a college student. The instant I saw her walk in, I knew my life wouldn’t be the same, as if everything stopped and I really believe that she’s in my life on purpose. We’re quite opposites actually, she’s into sports I am not, She’s into theater, I am not… a lot of differnces but also lots of similarities. It felt like I have known her for a long time even though we have just met. There’s this feeling of wanting to be close to her and just want to listen to her talk and know what runs in her mind and just spend time with her but of course, the timing isn’t right. She has to leave and yet again we’re separated but there hasn’t been a day when I didn’t think of her. I am really trying to forget her, but more so that I am giving my self more reasons why I like her. I try hard to look for things or reasons why I shouldn’t but I just cant. we had’t had communication for about 6 months now and yet she still have a big impact in my life. Though the connection or the contact was short, it really made the biggest impact in my life. Spiritual growth happened as if she is an spiritual catalyst. I have learned things a lot based from the connection and with our limited time. I have learned patience, about my self and things I need to improve; how I act in certain situations..I definitely learned a lot about myself and I always thank her for that even though we’re not in communication right now.
This is a beautiful article. I hope every living creature on this Earth has the chance to meet their twin flame. There really aren’t proper words to describe how it feels to meet them, or be in their presence. I foolishly ran away from mine, months later I tried apologizing but it was too late. He is my whole heart. If you find this person, please show them how much of a treasure they are, and don’t be a coward like me. Best of luck to all of you.
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I know my twin flame & I am here for her regardless of outcome. I recognize the divine with in myself & her in unison. I cannot have a greater gift in life. No expectations, just growth and unconditional love, the love just over flows as my heart opens more & more. Thank you for showing & communicating your self ;) Feels good to be alive !!
Hey similar story here! I went through a bad breakup this year after seven years of relationship with several long distance periods. I feel exactly the same that’s why we meet here now. I also thought i was complete, but I still wanted to control the outside. Now I realized that the more I care and love myself, and do what I really really like, the higher my vibe and energy gets 777 and strangely there came this new person into my life where I feel something really strong and as off right now I do my best to stay centered, not to idolize her or to fall crazy in love, but it seems like if shes open or if she really is that much attracted to me and I’m to her, I can’t and won’t stop because I’ve never felt anything like this before, it’s super exciting and an opportunity for me to heal my fear of rejection. I feel I’m emotionally strong now after all I went through but this new weird connection is so Ecstatic and exciting that I start to lose myself. My plan is to focus on myself and my purpose and strangely i heard her saying the same to her friend the other day. Btw she also went through a same bad breakup about a year ago, so same time when I last saw my ex. So intriguing and exciting times. 2019 gonna be huge!
One that I feel is sexually… when we make love odd things happen… we feel as one,missing time and I hate to orgasim because that means we are “separated” … I feel SO close to her … I’m not even sure I am explaining it right.
Before we got together she was already a very important part of my life … the first time we met and I looked into her eyes I was just drawn in… I originally thought it was the Cancer/Pisces connection BUT then her mother asked us if we realize how much we “mirror” each other which got me looking things up and then I came across this and SO MUCH rang true… now that I have this woman… I can’t bea the thought of ever loosing her.
Currently im in australia, to visit what i thought was my twinflame.
but im not sure now, it seems shes a mirror but the exact oppiside.
it got me heartbroken and needed to get away to give her the space she so desperetly needs, and to give myself a chance to find a like minded lover ´the one´
so im now cutting ´what i thought was my twinflame´ meeting from a month to a week.
its so hard, and i know there is growth in this situation.
i know that this is not the person for me, i am already enlighten and very aware that i am whole.
these couple of days have given me inshights and understanding that if this is my twinflame shes not good for my future or my emotions and energy.
but it still hurts, at least now i can focus on my life goals again and really make it happen.
But it doesnt make sense to me, i know for sure that when i find the ´one´ there will be non of this unnessasary pain and wanting to be with her…
she isnt thought full of me at all and just goes her own way, she is very spiritual but on the other side just plain selfish towards me…
this is not what i expected from a connection that i thought would be like the most powerfull of them all.
i will just cut the mental and spiritual cord and get along with my live.
so here i go, back to my home country.
and still in search for the one i know who is out there and searching for me.
This is how i feel deeply within so i think this was just a conffusion maybe i wanted it too bad.
sorry for the grammar mistakes
love and light
Hello, I think I have met either a Kindered spirit or my twin flame. He is older and married. Its never been a physical attraction. But this person and I are very connected. To the point I just looked in his eyes while at q bookstore. He saw my pain I saw his compassion. He comforted me. Our eyes welled up with tears. Not one word was spoken. We are both Buddhist.
I think another sign is that when you are not together you instictively look for them and feel like something is missing.
Are the finger print or eye scan of twin flames mirror to each other?
It is heart wrenching. I had to quit drinking because I was wanting to die. I don’t know if it was abusive or magical. We didn’t even get to have a legit relationship. Just together break up few months again and again restraining order then again then stop. I’m afraid that it is lost. I have no idea how I would even do it since we have really tore each other apart. How do I feel this person that I sent to jail, suspect of always lying, a person who upended my whole life – how do I feel this crazy dream thing with them will happen? They were a player, divorced, making up for lost years. I’m so hurt by stuff they have said and ways they acted. I’ve suspected they have questionable motives for telling me all these “love lies”. Anyway they are gone. I’m trying to get past it. I just really have little interest in getting into it with anyone else. This has ruined me. It was a spiritual catalyst and certainly a painful mirror. I just don’t know that I affected them like I was affected. It felt like there was something wrong – like parts of my twin had become darkened and made it hard for me to trust. They seemed like they were looking for an upgrade. But I guess so was I, someone who was nicer to me. I wish we could just love each other now. I wish I didn’t lose everything. That’s the thing tho – I doubt they would care if I was down and out now. They seem happier without me. They have grown a lot. I feel a lot of my energy was drained and transfused into them. They are more outgoing now like I was and now I’m more of an introvert. It feels like a curse or karma I’ve been living out.
That’s likely a false twin, shadow twin or karmic soulmate Kris…. And I feel your pain. You maybe swapped energies, but you can recharge, go walking in nature, you will heal there. Don’t be so hard on yourself and don’t focus so much on them, focus on healing. Observe from outside of your pain body to try to understand the patterns and who they are to you. Sometimes these relationships just bring dormant emotions to your surface and expansion in all of your emotions and consciousness. Much Love to you.
I could use some advice. I very unexpectedly met my soul twin a little over 2 years ago, in the midst of chaos in a marriage that turned out to be full of lies. I fell very deeply in love with him, had things happening that I didn’t understand such as feeling like I knew him when we met (a feeling similar to finding a long lost relative) to doing energy work and being hit with flash back memories of past lives we have lived together. But he has a lot of problems, psychological ones. I tried to help him, I tried to do what I could to make it better, but he lied and stole from me. I’m 8 years older then him, so there were many differences in our mind sets. I finally broke things off with him for good in August. But I found out yesterday his new gf just found out she’s pregnant. This hurts deeply. And i’m in a new relationship, have been since march. And this person is so good for me, he’s good for my kids. He’s mature, responsible, he’s stepped up to the plate and helped me in so many ways. And he’s very patient with me. I’m getting over 2 relationships at once and he’s helping me heal. But right now i’m going over everything that I went through with my twin flame, and realizing that it’s really over between us. I miss him. I miss having sex with him. And not just because of the physical act, but because when we made love, I felt like my soul was vibrating. I’ve never experienced anything like it. The spiritual connection we have, it’s unreal… we are able to feel eachother even when we are hundreds of miles away from one another. How do I grey over that? Once we experience our twin souls how do you let that go? I really just want to move on…
I am in a very peculiar phase of life. I have had a disturbed childhood, never loved by my parents properly. I grew up under pressure, but was able to be successful in life. Studied hard, got a job, established myself. In between, I fell for a guy from my college,we were in the same class. I didn’t know what I did and why I did it, but he was just there during my bad times. Apart from that there was nothing else. However, I started taking care of him. He was not that successful like me, didn’t have a job after graduating from college. But, I was beside him , even without getting married, I was supporting him during his job hunt. courtship went for 7 long years, it went difficult at times, but still were in a relationship. I went against my parent’s wishes and married him after these many years of courtship.
Now, after being married to him for 5 years, I was slowly understanding that I did wrong to myself, I did wrong to him as well. I never loved him. It was more of a support kind of relationship that we had.
Last year in June 2018, I met this guy at work, younger to me by 4 years. I have been working in corporate sector for 10 years, have worked with many single guys from various parts of world. Have got many “offers” from guys but when I met this guy, it was something different. We connected well. I was already having issues with my husband, this colleague of mine came at a time in my life when I was at the lowest. He was comforting, soothing to talk to, however he was abusive and peculiar at times. I genuinely fell for him, bought him expensive gifts, showered him with love and care. Then, we became intimate physically once in Sep 2018. After that, his behavior simply changed. I too started going away from him, but after 2 weeks, he texted me and asked me to meet him after work. He was all over me when we met and from then onward, he used to message me incessantly, used to call me and talk to me for long hours. He also stated that he will talk to his parents about our wedding an all. I was trying to get away from my legal relationship with my husband and it was not that amicable.
I took a 5 weeks holiday during Christmas last year and I was still so connected with this other guy. I used to dream about him, feel his essence near me and all the time thinking about him. He was also connected to me via phone calls and texts. But in Jan 2019, he simply called me and told me “sorry, we cant go on like this as my parents have fixed a girl for me and I will be getting married to her”. He told me that he will “sort” things out for me. I was shattered, went into depression. He met me on 25th Jan and apologized and stated that it’s a big lose for him but he can’t go against his parents wishes. I was stunned. He also mentioned that we should not be in touch anymore and we should never meet. That was the most painful part of my conversation with him. After that, for the whole month of Feb, I was crying, I didn’t know how I survived. My health condition was deteriorating. I tried reaching him on 15th Feb, but he texted back saying he can’t . I felt his presence near me on 16th Feb morning. On 18th Feb, he called me and asked me to take care of myself and never ever try contacting him. I promised myself not to contact him again.
But yesterday, after a month and few days, he called me. I was shocked. He called me to tell me that he is getting engaged to this girl his parents chose for him. But, he also asked me about my health, my job and he asked me if I got legally separated from my husband. I don’t understand why he reached me again ? I laso don’t understand why I am not able to shut him out from my life.
Any comments will be helpful.
Thanks,
Anu