The moment you meet your twin flame is the moment the earth beneath your feet begins to shift.
I like to think of the meeting of two twin flames as an existential earthquake: all of a sudden you can sense that an immensely important person has entered your life. All of a sudden you get the overwhelming feeling that your life is going to change in a way you aren’t even aware of yet – and yet you intuitively know that the changes will be great, greater than what you’ve ever experienced, and breathtaking in their magnitude.
I know all of this because I was fortunate enough to have met my own twin flame a few years ago, so I have already gone through the fiery, intense and transformative process of meeting my soul’s mirror.
Although I feel immense gratitude for the gift of connecting with my twin flame, I am happy to say that this blessing is open to everyone. However, such a gift is not always received openly or even recognized by us on a conscious level. Sometimes we’re at a point in our lives where we are simply not receptive to both ourselves and our twin flame’s presence due to stress, over-work, lifestyle habits and negative thought patterns that lead to low self-esteem.
If you’ve connected with your twin flame, or would like to discover who your twin flame is, you’ll find everything you need to know on this page, including common twin flame signs, twin flame stages, and much more.
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What is a Twin Flame?
A Twin Flame, or Twin Soul, is a person who you feel connected to not just on a physical and emotional level, but also on a soulful or spiritual level.
Our Twin Flames represent our friends, lovers, and teachers in this life. They are the yins to our yangs, the suns to our moons, and the light to our darkness.
Twin Flames are also our mirrors in that they reflect back to us all of our hidden fears and shadows, but also our true inner beauty and strength. In this way, our Twin Flames open the door to tremendous emotional, psychological, and spiritual growth.
11 Signs You’re in a Twin Flame Relationship
Are you already in a twin flame relationship?
Common signs to look out for include:
- The sensation that time doesn’t exist between you
- A strange sense of “recognition” or deja vu between you as though you’re both “destined” to be together
- Intense magnetic attraction to each other
- Your strengths and weaknesses perfectly balance each other
- You share the same values, desires, and dreams
- Your Twin knows you better than anyone else in the world
- No matter how many times you fight, you always forgive each other completely
- You have a multi-faceted connection together, i.e. you are best friends, teachers, and lovers to each other
- Uncanny synchronicities exist between you (for example, both of us got together on 11.11.11)
- You’re both driven towards a higher spiritual/social purpose
- You learn the values of empathy, compassion, forgiveness, and unconditional love together
You can take our twin flame test if you would like to find out if you’ve found your twin flame.
The Origins of Twin Flames
So ancient is the desire of one another which is implanted in us, reuniting our original nature, seeking to make one of two, and to heal the state of man. – Plato, Symposium
The concept of having a “Twin Flame” originated in Plato’s mythic dialogue entitled “The Symposium” which wrote that human beings originally had two faces, four arms, and four legs. Under the threat of being overpowered, the gods split them in half, creating the humans we see today. Hence, it is thought that we all have one “twin” soul out there in the world.
Others hypothesize that twin flames are members of our Soul Family (people with whom we resonate with on the deepest level and were predestined to meet), or that twin flames are the embodiment or other “half” of a singular soul.
However, we define twin flames as those whose souls have agreed to reincarnate together across many lifetimes.
The purpose of the twin flame union is to help each other to spiritually grow, expand, and reach spiritual illumination. Everything in life is composed of energy at its core, and twin flames are people we resonate with on the deepest spiritual level. Like two tuning forks or gravitational fields, twin flames are magnetically attracted to each other.
The Purpose of Twin Flame Relationships
Put simply, the purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help us shed away the snakeskin of the ego, face and heal our wounded hearts, and transform into spiritually awakened beings.
Twin flames are a divine expression of Balance, Harmony, and Unconditional Love. Every twin flame couple will have a higher purpose to achieve together, and this may include anything from raising conscious children and starting an eco-conscious business, to becoming spiritual guides and mentoring the lives of many.
Contrary to popular belief, twin flames do not complete each other– this is because the Soul itself is already complete. Instead, such relationships exist to catalyze spiritual maturing and conscious expansion. In other words, twin flame connections exist to aid the collective growth of our planet towards compassion, tranquility, and love.
On a personal level, twin flame relationships prepare us to acknowledge, experience and eventually embody the Wholeness that has always and forever been inside of us. This state of Wholeness is what enlightened Teachers through the ages have embodied and spoken of. This Wholeness is the Soul, or True Nature, within us.
21 Major Twin Flame Signs
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along. – Rumi (The Essential Rumi)
We are not always receptive to the appearance of our twin flames in life.
We might be heart-broken, wracked with grief, maritally over-burdened, or just plain tired and disillusioned when they suddenly appear out of the blue.
Feeling unprepared is one of the biggest reasons why twin flame separation and the twin flame runner and chaser complex occurs. In fact, we might have already met our twin flames, but we might have overlooked them or taken them for granted in some way.
Whatever emotional or psychological stage you’re at in life, it is always beneficial to be conscious of the people you live with and meet. These following twin flame signs might help you to open new pathways and opportunities for union:
- You feel a strange, inexplicable sense of “recognition” when you meet the person. This might manifest itself as déjà vu, or an unshakable feeling that you’ve known this person before, or are somehow “meant to be together.”
- You have a feeling that they are going to play a very important role in your own development, without knowing when, why or how.
- You’ve established an immediate, intense connection with them that is invigorating and shocking at the same time.
- You feel as though you’ve finally found a “home” or safe place with the other person.
- You are able to be your authentic self – warts and all – without the fear of rejection, persecution or judgment with them.
- You both embody the yin and yang, in other words, your dark side is balanced by their light side, and their dark side is balanced by your light side.
- You feel a sense of expansion with them, as though you are larger than your limited identity.
- They make you a better person, and you make them a better person.
- When together you are both bonded but free, attached but unattached. In other words, you still maintain your freedom even though you might be in a relationship with them.
- You are finely tuned to their energy, and they are finely tuned to yours. This means that you are both very conscious of the present play of energy (whether happy or sad, angry or forgiving, open or withholding) present in the connection. You’re both therefore highly empathic with each other.
- You feel as though you have been waiting for this person your entire life.
- You both connect deeply and mirror each other’s values and aspirations for life beyond surface similarities.
- Your twin flame is a mirror of what you fear and simultaneously desire the most for your own inner healing. For example, if you are a highly-strung person, your twin flame will most likely be relaxed and messy. If you like to play the victim, your twin flame will be a strong character who refuses to give you pity or sympathy to perpetuate your complex. If you are creatively repressed, your twin flame will be a flourishing artist. In this way, our twin flames challenge and infuriate us but also teach us important lessons about our fears, core wounds, and repressions.
- Your childhoods were polar opposite. You were raised in very different ways, which led to the development of opposite childhood wounds that you now have the opportunity to mend.
- One of you is more soulfully mature than the other and often serves as the teacher, counselor or confidant within the relationship.
- You are taught important life lessons such as forgiveness, gratitude, empathy, and open-mindedness by them and with them.
- The most growth you’ve ever experienced has been with them. No other friendship or relationship has transformed you as deeply as this one has.
- Your connection is multi-faceted. In other words, your twin flame is likely your best friend, lover, teacher, nurturer, and muse all at once.
- Your twin flame doesn’t try to change you. They accept you for who you are and what stage you’re at and encourage you to do the same for yourself (and vice versa).
- You can be truthful with each other about anything.
- Together, you both feel driven towards a higher purpose, whether spiritually, socially or ecologically.
8 Stages of Twin Flame Love
Twin flames aid our souls in finding completion. However, this journey is composed of many different “layers” or stages.
Here are the eight twin flame stages broken summarized (you can read more in our article “8 Twin Flame Stages“):
1. Yearning for “The One”
This stage is spent preparing for your Twin Flame on an emotional and psychological level. Often, a certain level of individuation and healthy self-esteem must be developed before meeting your Flame.
2. Glimpsing “The One”
In this stage, you’ll temporarily glimpse or come in contact with your Twin Flame. This experience might be through a dream, a picture, or through brief real-life contact.
3. Falling in love
After finally meeting your Twin Flame, you will fall rapidly, deeply, and madly in love. You might try to resist the experience at first (perhaps due to an already established relationship), but eventually, you won’t be able to stay away from them.
4. The Fairy-Tale relationship
After deciding to enter a relationship, you’ll enter a dream-like period that feels like paradise. Everything will feel perfect within your relationship.
5. Outer Turmoil and Inner Purging
As the sparkle from your new love wears off, egos begin to rise up. In this stage, any insecurities, fears, traumas, and shadow issues buried within you and your partner will come to the surface. These will need to be resolved for you to mature as a couple.
6. The Runner and Chaser
Like stage five, this stage is a “trial by fire.” As tensions mount, it is common to temporarily (or in some extreme cases, permanently) leave the relationship either emotionally or physically. The less mature and psychospiritually integrated partner will play the role of the Runner, while the more emotionally balanced partner will play the Chaser. This game of cat and mouse can last for days to years. (You can learn more about spiritual psychology here.)
7. Surrender and Dissolution
Eventually, issues are resolved in your relationship, and a space of acceptance and openness is established.
8. Oneness
The more shadows are dealt with through shadow work, the easier Unity or Oneness becomes. In this stage, Twin Flames experience little to no conflict and a return to blissful paradise.
More In-Depth Help
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Common Twin Flame Questions
Are you struggling to find the answer to a twin flame question that’s been on your mind for a while?
I’ll answer some of the most common twin flame questions below. (And let me know in the comments area if there’s an area you think I should cover):
1. Are twin flames meant to be lovers?
No, not necessarily. There is no such thing as a cookie-cutter twin flame relationship. Some twin flames are lovers, while some twin flames are best friends. You don’t have to feel sexually attracted to your twin flame for the connection to be legitimate. It’s perfectly normal to have a platonic relationship.
2. Does everyone have a twin flame?
Yes, it’s quite likely that everyone has a twin flame. But not everyone has the capacity to connect with their twin flame within this lifetime. Twin flames emerge within our lives when our souls are ready to undergo the process of spiritual awakening and transformation. For some people, the twin flame connection is simply too intense and is not welcome, and hence never happens.
3. Can a twin flame be a soul mate?
Yes, it is possible that a soul mate can become a twin flame, and vice versa. But twin flames and soul mates have different functions. Twin flame relationships are intense and challenging: their purpose is to help you spiritually grow. Soul mate relationships, on the other hand, are more mild and peaceful: their purpose is to help support you. It’s like the difference between fire (twin flames) and water (soul mates). Read our article on the difference between soul mates, twin flames, and kindred spirits for more of an in-depth distinction.
4. Why do twin flames run?
Sometimes, our twin flames run away because the connection is too overwhelming and intense for the ego. When the ego is not ready to spiritually evolve, it resists, fights, and tries to escape – this is why twin flames run and try to avoid the relationship.
5. Do you only have one twin flame?
Yes, as the name “twin” implies, there is only one other person on this planet who can be called a twin flame. All types of relationships provide the opportunity for growth, but twin flame relationships are rare in their ability to help us spiritually evolve and awaken.
6. Is there such a thing as a false twin flame?
Yes, there is such a thing as a false twin flame. Whether due to our own false perception (it’s true that love blinds us) or due to the pretense worn by the other person, it’s possible to mistake someone as our twin flame. The best way to know whether someone is a false twin flame is to pay attention to (a) whether they genuinely share the same values as you, (b) if you can be your true self around them, and (c) if there is mutual spiritual transformation.
7. Are twin flames toxic?
Our twin flames can have toxic mindsets and wounds, but they are not toxic to be around. On the contrary, our twin flames are loving, inspiring, and supportive people to be around. They help us to become the best version of ourselves possible. A true twin flame will have some negative traits, but that will be outweighed by their positive qualities. False twin flames, on the other hand, are toxic to be around and make us feel rotten inside.
8. Can twin flames communicate telepathically?
No scientific studies have been conducted, so it’s best to keep an open but balanced perspective. Yes, it might be possible for twin flames to communicate telepathically when in a relationship. But this shouldn’t be used as an excuse to avoid clear communication and assume that the other can ‘read our mind.’ Telepathic communication can also lead a person to believe they are reading another person’s emotions and thoughts accurately, when in reality they are projecting their own beliefs, wishes and desires onto that person. This is a tricky area and should be approached with open-minded caution.
9. Can twin flames fall out of love?
Yes, unfortunately, it is possible for twin flames to fall out of love. However, this is not to say that the deep soul connection will disappear, or the possibility for rekindling love will vanish. It is possible for twin flames to fall in love, fall out of love, and fall in love again. The nature of life is unpredictable, and there is no divine edict saying that twin flames must love each other forever. The purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help us spiritually evolve, and when that goal has been completed, the connection can sometimes disintegrate. However, it is always possible for our twin flames to re-emerge later in life.
How to Find Your Twin Flame
If you haven’t yet found your Twin Flame, just know that the experience is absolutely open to you. However, finding and connecting to your Flame requires inner work.
The best way to connect with your Twin Flame isn’t through a fancy manifestation ritual, but through an authentic development of self-love. You must be willing to deal with the darkest places within you before you can truly open to the Twin Flame connection.
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Twin Flame Resources
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Our twin flames can be our friends or lovers. For some people, they arise at the most opportune times, and for others, they arise at the most complicated times. And still, for some people twin flames are said to not arise in this lifetime but are nevertheless with us in heart.
Whatever the case, remember that it is entirely possible to be whole and complete unto yourself with enough inner work. Remember, twin flames do not “complete” you because you are already innately “complete” at a soulful level; they instead compliment you deeply and help you to grow.
It’s looks like love is so powerful it’s in your mind and heart but u can have hate in your mind and not your heart because you can love something that’s not true but that’s the mind not heart Bc when your heart pumping for that love of your life that you need to grow it’s difficult to put to mind because it makes false aggravation but people don’t listen to there heart they use both that’s makes both mind and heart fight in combine I am following my heart but it’s hurting for love not sex sex in mind but love in the both it take times but my time is divine and designed to find both in heart and mind .sighhh the love of your life is fighting for you twin flame to use both love is powerful with the right one my love it’s like an iceberg stays but melt over time that’s how love is i am melting away mentally and physically trying my hardest to get you to understand what my love is t you
I don’t know how to talk you I don’t know how to ask if your ask if your ok your friends seems telling things seems like there just happier then us-this days these days I don’t know how to talk to you I don’t know how to be there if when you need me it feels like the only time you see me you turn your head to the side and look at me differently and last night I think last my patient and last night I’ve got high as exception last night ive came to realization and I hope you can take it i am way to good to you you take my love for granted I just don’t understand Conner Maynard way to good to you if your on here listen to it’s strong message to the one that’s using me
I’ve met my TF when I was 17. I remember seeing him in my elementary school and I just knew. He was my first kiss actually, at NYE 2 weeks after we met. We always meet randomly, at places we both feel drawn to and it always triggers something in me. It’s this weird pull between us, that keeps pulling us closer, but when we meet, it’s always this big explosion of energy, and we don’t see each other again for a period of time. I feel like everyone around us is fascinated by us, when we are in the same room and interact. Anyway, I have a BF currently, I’ve met him when I somehow let go of the obssesion with my TF and having relationship with him. But he recently apologized that he’s been sometimes acting selfishly and that he didn’t realize it could had hurt me, and since then we are on friend terms, in touch sometimes. I feel this love towards him I don’t feel toward my bf. Don’t get me wrong, I love my boyfriend, he’s amazing, it’s just not the kind of love I know with my TF. That kind of love is actually independent. But I feel so torn and lost between my TF, my heart and my BF, my head. I’ve never felt that much of physical, mental, sexual, spiritual connection and compatibility as I feel with my TF, but I don’t want to hurt my loving BF and cause him pain of betrayal and abandonment. This fucking sucks.
I met my TF whilst in a relationship and by chance. We are not eachothers initial type or what we were looking for so to speak. Our first moment of eye contact I knew he going to be in my life, i just didn’t know how. I was going in a bad relationship and tried to avoid him at all costs. I found out from him and his friend he walked away that day and said the words “I’m hers and she’s mine”. We met again on different occasions by chance everytime we spoke it felt like speaking to myself, I had told him my situation he gave me understanding, advice and space. I avoided him like the plague until I had left my bad relationship because I didn’t trust myself around him and didn’t want to be that person, it took every fibre in my being, we both dreamed about eachother every night in this time (we know this because friends told us both). When we finally connected again which didn’t take long, we discovered we are the same but different our lives have always been entwined, we know all of the same people been in the same places at the same time but we’d never met until that day of chance. Once I’d met him I couldn’t ignore him I left my relationship the next day and set around fixing myself I’d never had that courage until that moment. When we’re apart it hurts, we miss eachother so much, every moment we spend together makes us feel whole. We both make comments on how we didn’t think these feelings actually existed. Things still aren’t easy for us now because of our previous relationships and us having children with those other people, but even the people attached to us can’t take away our devine energy that we’re supposed to be together, we just keep being drawn together. We see eachothers darkness and confront it with honesty and nurturing, it has changed us both as people. It’s like guide eachother out in our own quirky ways that make us different. What I do know is when we are together we feel at home with no care in the world or concept of time (we have missed lots of sleep and slept through many alarms). It goes deeper than sex, just being drawn n eachothers presence it’s like we are one, it’s truly magnetic.
Mhmmm I don’t think you know your true twin flame just by reading your comments on here it’s sucks because I know who you are to me but you seem to not why god gave us this divine energy if your chasing other man and an not running away from the stuff that’s false twin flame I am chasing and running away from you because it just seems like your hurting me and way I can explain if i keep chasing you your face expression shows to me you don’t care and when I run away your find another man to love on I’m so confused how this twin flame works iam not in separateing from but it’s like my twin flame is trying to get away from how did I hurt u u make me feel like a terrible husband so we speak I don’t wanna be terrible just to let you know that if u don’t care I don’t care but iam trying to be perfect for you u want me to be perfect sighhhhh I am trying to be perfect for myself but u want me be someone that’s going thru a lot right and it’s hard if I keep failing over And over again trying to get the natural perfect love in the first place sighhhh let me know what your twin flame for you whoever what’s to make a comment good at taking advice
Your confusion me your comments makes you look at me differently makes feel toxic and I am not like that by the way what are you getting out of this and what do you want from me do you wanna hurt kill me make me vanish it’s hard to see how u really feel about me I’m not hiding no more i know who you are to me iam not slow love and the guy that works with u is not your TRUE twin flame this confusing me so much I feel like the stuff I put on here u judge me like everyone else that I come across why are you doing this to me for I see what’s going no sleep and still awake but I feel like your just using me at this point to be in a toxic relationship that’s what it sounds like you must like toxic relationship wait iam the blame for feeling this why u said it’s apart of grief right are setting me down the wrong road people says your not a hateful person but your hating me and I can feel it and I want to feel the opposite from u why do everyone women got to treat me like I’m 9 years old I have kid soul in iam sry but I didn’t ask to come in this world too feel like a piece of shit
I recently got into my third time (!) romantic relationship with my, as I know now, twin flame.
We met first time when I was 13 and he 15 in the riding school we both attended. His favorite horse had her stall next to my favorite (she was my animal twin flame) and I met them both around the same time. My favorite horse became mine by extraordinary events that just clicked and we ended up for 17 years together. She died last year.
With my TF it has been a rollercoaster ever since. We got together, completely different childhoods to say the least, first time being 13 and 15. He got me into metal music (I still have the pirate records he burned for me saved). Broke off. Got back together 2 years later and took eachothers virginity. Then broke off again because shit reasons (we think now). Still somehow kept contact. He went to the army for 2 years and I started university. We both have had other relationships ever since de broke up last time but somehow still kept contact, even being f*ck buddies countless times because we have always had magnetic attraction. The only time we ceased all contact was when I was in a relationship with a psycho that mentally and physically abused me. He probably saw mine and my TF’s bond as a threat so I did, brainwashed as I was, hurt my TF a heck of a lot. My TF was the very first I reconnected with after.
I thought I was looking for a completely different type of partner than him. Which I guess was needed for us both to have time to grow.
Recently a soulmate relationship of mine since 6.5 years ended, and just before that happened, matter of WEEKS, my TF was in a motorcycle crash (our common interest of later years, he has been practice driving with me, back in our teens we rode mopeds together x)) and I realized he almost died and that I can’t live without him. And it crept out he can’t live without me either if the roles had been reversed.
Shortly after, my long time relationship broke down, and there he just entered again, my twin flame. This time, it feels like we reached oneness after all. I can’t describe it. Universe clicked into place. The relationship is “new” but feels ancient, even if our magnetic attraction is still as vibrant as ever.
I have never been as angry with anyone as I have been with him, he have hurt me and I have hurt him countless times. And here we are. Everthing totally forgiven and we have been unable, on both ends, to let eachother go completely.
Even before I started reading into this, I called us yin and yang. We have both said “this was meant to happen” this time we got back together, our parents even said it to us that they have always known it would be us in the end.
Outwardly, we are opposites. He is tall, dark, quiet, not much extrordinary about his looks. Seemingly normal. A 9-5-job. I am blonde, fully tattooed, have goth aestetic, works night shifts. He rides a sport bike. I ride custom. He does nothing creatively, I create whenever I can. He is orderly and very on point. I am a bit messy and derail a lot. He is always on time. I am always late. I express emotions outwardly, he processes them internally.
We still feel we are a chip of the same block somehow because we share the same essence and values.
People outside think we are totally NOT alike, but to us we are the same. And in every way possible we complete and understand eachother.
He turns 33 on monday, I turn 31 exactly one week after. His accident happened one month before my previous relationship ended for good. We decided we where a couple again on the 18th, the same number as the years we have known eachother. My horse that I met at the same time as him back in the day died a year ago. Syncronicities….
There is so much to say about it and still not. It’s new, but still so familiar. If there is such thing as a twin flame: We have found eachother. The earth has stopped spinning for us. We are finally where we are supposed to be. And this has to be the oneness I have now read about.
My exp started when I was miserable and trying to figure out what I was going to do next with my life wanted a divorce from now ex which doesnt want to let me go.
the moment I met my twin flame everything changed so quickly emotions etc and just went from there but happily I can say I gave up drugs and alcohol want to do better each and every day learning and improving doing shadow and more
when I am around him I feel so free and happy best sex in my life! felt as if it was recharging me everytime before last few imes we met up didnt really feel the same a little just not as intense. then when im not my ego lashes out on him and others around sometimes finding balance no one is perfect as we all know I feel so bad that I treated him the ways I have when All I truly want is him just dont want to be with someone who lies to me like others who cant make change not trying to force anyone just dont need others who cant do for them selves I have never seen a Pisces like him most are toxic af not going anywhere … still live with my ex and his mother brought up some drama and ex seen what my twin looks like and was jealous trying to tell me he is not attractive blah blah bah ok whatever you say insecure baby lol but anyways missing my twin flame I was a jerk but everything happens for a reason.
I met mine TF about a yr ago. The connection was nothing like any other connection I’ve ever had. I’m older my TF is younger than me. That’s probably one of the biggest challenges. I have kids an my TF doesn’t on top of it. I know there’s growth that has to be done but it’s definitely difficult at times. I miss my TF soooo much it really does suck but I know we’re not together because there’s more growing to do. If not this lifetime then hopefully the next. I felt like I’ve known him forever an it was a short time but at the time I felt like it was longer than it actually was as well like time really did stand still when we had our moment. I feel him with me constantly. There was a time when I haven’t spoken to him in awhile. I knew in my heart chakra he missed me, missed what we had an how happy things were before confusion of the ego kicked in an then he messaged me to sum it up that he did miss me/us it was reassurance that I wasn’t going crazy that I am connected to him at a soul core level but also frustrating because I was focusing on me, only way to sum it up an then it threw me for a loop. Made me scattered an not knowing what to make of it all because it went from normal to hot and cold with him. Aggravated the heck out of me because I’m thinking at this point what do you do want from me. I reflected confusing things back to him which made it once again stupid an a bunch of ego (fears) etc. come up. I know so much on a soul level about him and what he’s going through an I never tell him I know I can it I sense his battles. His confusion and emotions. Could be why I cause confusion back to him. Talk about a effing rollercoaster. I’m not easy either I I’m random as heck when I send things an Ik sometimes he’s confused on my behalf also but eff it because he confuses me yet I know he’s confused on a soul level smh lol So much to express on this but I love him unconditionally and will always wish an want him the best even if it’s without us physically being together. I messaged him one last time to tell him how pretty much I miss us I didn’t hear back from him but I’m not worried about it I’m just gonna continue to do me an let go work on myself an continue to love myself unconditionally an if it’s meant to be then so be it. I truly wish the best for everyone that’s going through the twin flame journey because it’s truly not easy and most definitely nothing like a regular relationship. Good luck to everyone love and light to all
We met eight years ago at a place we both used to work. I initially held it when she began making advances towards me via a friend of mine because I never felt any sexual attraction or feelings of love towards her but rather an inexplicable feelings of dislikeness towards her. According to my friend, this girl was so mad about me that he was rejected a couple of times he attempted to move to her but rather she talked about me. Relentlessly she had her way and we started talking which eventually ended in us being in a relationship. She was so committed while I on the other side was satisfying my sexual desires even though I do love on a certain condition that I can’t put into words. We were fine until some complicated issues begun arising and then one thing led to the other and we realize that we were not communicating much. We parted ways and I blame myself for that anyway for not fully participating in the relationship. This is the worst part- I ve become almost completely miserable afterwards. I feel so brokenhearted anytime she posts other guys pictures on social media.
I don’t know but I think what I had with her wasn’t just a relationship. I’ve not been able to move on since we broke up in somewhere around the middle of 2016 till this very moment. Anytime I try to talk to her ends up in fire. She has become so bitter to the extent that anything about me annoys her.
Luna please what kind of relationship could this be? Looking at some of the symptoms it seems to be a twin flame kind of but, are twin flames unforgiving like that? Please help. Thank You!
The two times my path crossed his was almost thirty years ago. The first time, he and his family were good Samaritans who helped mine when our boat engine died and they escorted us back to the docks. Only made eye contact, but the connection was instant and intense. It was also the only time I ever experienced a premonition that this was going to happen. I was thirteen.
Then four years later, I was in the worst emotional and mental state of my life. I discovered my first boyfriend never broke up from his girlfriend and I was a side piece. This devastated me and I was still recovering when a friend took me to a renaissance faire to escape. Right in the middle of a show, I see him again. The open stage allowed foot traffic to pass behind and around the show and audience, and there he was. He had his sister and brother with him (as a guess because they were the same people on the boat when I saw them one time before) and the three of them stopped dead in their tracks and were staring across the way at me. It wasn’t long before they moved on, and after the show ended, I dragged my friend along to the direction I saw them disappear. It’s important to note my already delicate self esteem took a huge hit earlier that year, so when I finally managed to track them down, I experienced what I can now say was a panic attack. I didn’t want him to see me this way. So I kept going. I ran. And, well, that was the very last time I saw him.
In the following years, I have finally rebuilt myself. It took failed relationships and eventually a failed marriage, but I put myself through therapy and reconstructed my sense of self. I can confidently say every day I think about him; if I will ever see him again and have the opportunity to meet him. I am now a lane performer at that very same renaissance faire – it was an item on my bucket list. And now, I can bring joy to people’s faces and help those who may be walking the path I once was on and reassure them that life gets better. It’s my tribute to myself as well as to him. I hope that one day he’ll return to the festival and I’ll be able to meet him again, but if that doesn’t happen, well, I’ll live happy that I used his influence to better myself.
Wow! I’m at the airport waiting and reading this article now. Just wow…I’m flying to Cleveland OH. right now to be with my little twin fame. I went through this. 99% of the signs and a few of the stages were checked off on me and this little butterfly! 7 years, some self time between the two of us and we are still creating awesome energy between the two us. We teach other so much…..
Seems like a singer is my twin flame..I dint feel anything…cox I was thinking one of my college love is my flame… recently I had spiritual awakening…n already doing inner work…within a month……..I saw a lot of synchronicities with this new man….I haven’t seen him as person since he is very far and a celebrity…but I was searching my mate from many many years n one day I realized…he is d one but very late. It wasn’t instant…..I just felt it…not sure…wer my journey is taking…me…….I just felt this way post my . Awakening…..I feel bad….but I work on self….not sure if it’s true….Guidance plz
Lot of Gratitude for the post❤❤
Our story: 15 years ago I was in a bar with my girlfriend the we frequented often, and in walks this beautiful man. As he walks in he yells it’s my birthday!!!! I looked over at my girlfriend and literally said holy shit that man will be mine. He approached us and asked if I’d sign his t-shirt for his birthday. I could absolutely not let this man walk out of my life. I knew with every being in my body he was special. Oh, did I mention he has the most beautiful blue eyes I’d ever seen?? They are literally ingrained in my brain. We spent the entire night together dancing and he took me home. I woke up next to him and tried to sneak away….he rolled over grabbed me and said you are not going anywhere! We were inseparable for 3 weeks, and then he lost his job. He met me on the beach to tell me he was going back to Colorado. My heart literally broke in two. The day he left I don’t think I’d ever felt so much pain. We stayed in touch we both had relationships he actually got married and then divorced. I wouldn’t see him again for another 5 years. He reached out to me about 9 months after his divorce and flew me out to Colorado. It’s like time never existed between us. We were so in sink with each other. We would go back and forth to each for the next couple of years, but again sometimes he’d have a girlfriend or I’d have a boyfriend. I like to call them fillers. Timing for us was never right. But we were always in each other’s line of vision. I actually tried very hard to push him out. My relationships would be great for the first month or so but then there he was back in my every thought! 8 years had gone by without seeing him. He reached out in early July and flew me out to Colorado to see him. I have never been more excited! When he picked me up from the airport it was again, like there had been absolutely no time between us! When I’m with him I’m home when I leave him the pain is always unbearable for the both of us. It’s like my heart is being ripped out of my chest. He is definitely the runner. I most always get upset or mad when he does run, and think to myself I’m done and this is it I can’t do this anymore! But we keep coming back to each other. Sometimes I’m tired of waiting but to be completely honest I will wait forever if I have too. There will be more filler relationships I’m sure….for the both of us but none of them are or will be him. I know in the depths of my soul that one day we will be reunited for the long haul but until then I will continue to work on myself. There is so much more to our story but I’d literally be writing forever….you can think I’m crazy but when you know you know. He without a doubt is my twin flame.
I once met someone unexpectedly. The moment I saw her, she literally took my breath away; like I actually gasped for air. We were everything that is described above and currently after the running and chasing phase. When we would touch, I could feel the electricity between us. We finished each other’s sentences frequently. We had the same interests, same beliefs about life, religion, work ethic. Same sense of humor. I used to be a very high strung person and have never felt so at ease around someone. I even had a telepathic type experience and felt this overwhelming sense of sadness and crying associated with her job. Shortly after, I found out she quit her job that she loved so much. For a while, if I would go somewhere we had been together, I could feel her residual energy. We were never a couple, because I was at the end of a deteriorating marriage at the time, but the connection was mutual; we spoke about it at times. I don’t know if I will ever see her again but I am a different person having known her.
I have found my twin flame. Our paths had crossed 20 more years ago, both in the same bridal party of mutual friends..I knew I had met him before, he had something that just felt uncanningly familiar. There was like a flame in me, many signs that our journey would meet. Too many to be co incidental. We met on bumble, my mum brought me bees to go on the wall, she didn’t know about bumble. His name was the same as my ex husband, he is called Mark 2 zephyr. Zephyr means wind. Mark said I was like a breath of fresh air coming into his life.
Strangers commented on us on the street kissing, oh that must be true love lol. Im more emotionally driven, hes more calm and logical and analytical.
Same tastes in music, loves dancing together, we are like a complimenting comedy show lol..When we met, it was like coming home. Being in his arms felt whole, perfect, reassuring, like nothing I have felt. He had experiences similar to mine, same feelings and thoughts but different stories. Now he’s running, can’t be with me, using his logical mind. The distance between us too much, believing it can’t work, despite never feeling so overwhelmed in his life. I will wait. Maybe it will happen soon, maybe later.. my heart is absolutely aching. My body is sore..He is my twin flame.
Thank you for sharing the different types and phases of a TF relationship. As someone new to navigating this, although with a long history and experience, just not knowing it was called something, this post was helpful in looking at the roadmap of experiences.
Met mine, 100% without doubt. Problem was, I was married when we met, so I ran. Always thought we’d have another chance someday when conditions were better, but recently, just a couple months after I finally got him out of my mind, he became ill and died. I can’t help but feel responsible, like I could have helped if I’d still been tuned in to him like I’d been over the years. And I can’t see why this would happen. He was so young. I know one of us has always died young in our past lives but thought this time might be different. Now I’m just lost. It’s like we were holding up this huge rock together and now that he’s gone I’m left holding it alone. It’s so heavy. Sorry to be a downer but it is what it is. I have learned and grown so much since meeting him, it’s just hard to believe that’s all there is. I know we’ll meet again in future lives, but this one is rough. Anyway, thank you for this
I really felt this, kinda unsettling how this is exactly what Im feeling, when we met, we had an immediate connection, yeah he just seamlessly integrated himself in my life. I just learned about this twin flame stuff for a while tho. And my TF is currently on the ‘run’, we are in a relationship. He is the polar opposite of me, but we somehow get along. Really well might I add. And I’m really hurt rn, this feels so intense, but this is making me grow. I just know. I keep hurting, and wondering if this is how he’s feeling too. We are currently not talking to each other because he wants “space”. Tho it’s breaking my heart how he suddenly needed one because the dy before, we were so happy, connected. And I don’t know what to do. This is too intense, and sudden. (I’m sure he’s the runner in both of us tho and that I should just..let him be and focus on myself)
I was married to my twin soul for 42 years. He passed away in 2016, I desperately want to know how you share a soul with someone that is gone, how does it affect you or you loved one?
When I meet with my twinflame?
My twin was my kindergarten love. One day he was gone from my life. I carried his picture with me for a long time. Soon I forgot all about him. As teenagers he was a stranger to me but showed up at my bedroom window and I never knew why. But I let him in. This happened twice. As adults, neither of us ever married at the age of 42. We came into a 3rd union one night and it was the amazing. We went swimming in my dad’s pond. I didn’t realize the symbolic meaning at the time altho I knew this was something epic. We floated around on the Swan decoys that were in the pond. From then on I knew what a twinflame was because I was living it. We went through the phases and are currently in separation. It’s been over 2 years and I still love him unconditionally. I’ve finally convinced myself that I have surrendered and I appreciate the lessons he’s taught me. I’ve done the work and I’ve become a better version of myself. I’m just waiting for him to ascend. I’ll wait for him forever but I’ll live my life without him loving myself with no expectations. I trust we will be together again.
I’m pretty sure my twin flame is a little bitch and I’m over his emotional ineptitude. My soul expanded tho, guess he’s missing out. Loser.
Perhaps you, too, are missing something?
Keep searching within. Peace to you.
This is not your twin then. A true twin would never say or feel these negative feelings for the other. I’m sorry
It doesn’t sound like your soul expanded, the only thing that expanded was your ego and bitterness. Maybe this is why you aren’t together?
This is such an odd situation, I don’t know what else to do or where else to go to ask this. My tf and I are in separation. I’m in and off OK with that although I miss the hell out of him. My problem is, he’s keeping me awake. This has been a thing for several years but I just figured out it was him, not random bouts of insomnia. I get his emotions sometimes too. Once I realized that it be been working in untangling them from my own so I can deal with them. He’s an incredibly intense person and they can be rather overwhelming. The not sleeping though. How on earth do I deal with this. I can even take sleeping meds and be wide awake. Even though we’re in separation I know he’s going through a rough time, I still see his posts on social media. Of course I knew before I read them because I’m awake til the wee hours of the morning on top of randomly feeling certain emotions …ugh, help, please! I’m so tired!
Just a funny random addition, pretty sure he got drunk and high af this past sunday night because I felt high as heck and didn’t touch anything. The upside to me was a huge creativity spurt. Dont know what he was smoking but I liked it lol. His hurt…hurts the hell out of me though, I know I cant but I wish I could help. At least give him a hug. Ugh.
I wish I had a hug from some one that I surly die for
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I’m really believe I’ve met my TF. It’s taken me several months to realize that what I thought was just a chance friendship, is most likely my twin flame. We met in such an odd fashion…he sent me a friend request on FB because we shared many mutual friends. Within seconds of accepting his friend request, we were messaging each other for hours that first night and daily there after. We just simply fit. I felt such a familiar feeling that first night and days to follow, I just chalked it up to having similar personalities and humor. But over a short amount of time and talking with him and learning about him, I realize that HE IS the person that has always been in my head in terms of who I KNEW was out there for me. I knew that this person was out there somewhere, at least I had hoped. Of all the things I’ve said to myself over the years about the one, and boom, he finds me. Simply put, we just get each other. We are the same but opposites. We communicate on a level that I’ve never connected with anyone before. There are times in which I feel that I should reach out to him and when I do, he’s needed me. It’s as if I feel him when he’s hurting or in need of love and support. He knows this about me and he points it out all the time. “How do you know” is what he asks and I can never answer….I just feel it.
Sadly, we are both in very dysfunctional marriages, me making plans to leave (long before I met him) and him unhappy that what/who he yearns for isn’t who he lives with. I believe he may be the runner in our situation. We both have deep feelings for each other but he tends to push away and pull back in. It’s painful for me but I know that I have to let it be and trust that if we are each other’s twin flames, we will find a way or the way will find us.