The only way to get over the pain is to face it, embrace it, hug it and learn the lessons embedded within it.
― Adele Theron
All of us, in some way or another, have experienced the stab of rejection, betrayal, neglect, bullying, and even humiliation at the hands of another.
But at what point does being emotionally hurt turn into becoming emotionally traumatized?
What is Emotional Trauma?

Emotional trauma occurs when you are exposed to a situation that is so extreme (e.g., horrendous betrayal from a loved one, the suicide of someone, etc.) that the body, heart, and mind struggle to handle the intense emotions that come with such a shocking experience.
As a result, the body-mind system tends to enter a freeze state, which is characterized by feelings of numbness, dissociation from reality, and the sudden or eventual appearance of intense symptoms like chronic anxiety, depression, addictions, PTSD, or other life-disrupting patterns.
Emotional trauma can also happen due to ongoing situations, such as being bullied, being trapped in an environment (such as in childhood) in which your sense of self-worth was destroyed or diminished, being repeatedly betrayed, treated cruelly, judged negatively, made fun of, and so on.
Experiencing abandonment trauma as a child is also a widespread form of emotional trauma.
Four Components of Trauma
Trauma is not what happens to us. But what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness.
— Peter A Levine, PhD
According to psychotherapist and pioneer of Somatic Experiencing®, Peter Levine, there are four aspects of trauma that will be present, in some way, in all traumatized people:
- Hyperarousal (i.e., being overly alert and on guard)
- Constriction (i.e., tense body)
- Dissociation (i.e., disconnection from the here and now)
- Freezing (immobility), associated with the feeling of helplessness
I’ll be using these four components of trauma as a basis for the emotional trauma test below.
Emotional Trauma, Inner Work, and Spiritual Wellbeing
Discovering our level of emotional trauma is a crucial part of inner work, which is:
… the psychological and spiritual practice of diving deep into your inner self for the purposes of self-exploration, self-understanding, healing, and spiritual transformation.
{What is Inner Work?}
When we work to heal, resolve, or integrate the emotional trauma we carry, a tremendous amount of inner energy is freed up which allows us to grow and blossom in unimaginably beautiful and profound ways.
Healing emotional trauma, therefore, is a vital part of our awakening journeys of Soul Work as spiritual wanderers.
We often embark on this healing quest in stages five and six of the spiritual wanderer’s journey.
Emotional Trauma Test
Healing doesn’t mean the pain never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.
– K. Salmansohn
The free emotional trauma test below isn’t meant to ‘diagnose’ you in any way. It’s simply a tool you can use to shed more light on your inner landscape.
Please use this test simply as a doorway to introspection and further action, not as a set-in-stone analysis of your character or what happened in your life.
Whatever result you get is not the absolute truth, and if you feel like it’s wrong, that is totally fine, because it might be!
Trust in your gut and your inner knowing above all else – this test only attempts (in an imperfect way) to provide you with some potential insight and healing pathways.
If, at any point, you feel uncomfortable during the process of taking this test, please step away, seek out support, grounding, and centeredness immediately. Only return to this test when you feel safe inside.
What did you get?
If you’re comfortable, I welcome you to share your results in the comments. You never know who might feel comforted by your words or presence.
Need more help? See my popular Self-Love Journal and Inner Child Work Journals if you’d like some compassionate support for working through these wounds.
Low level emotional trauma was a nice result to receive. I’ve worked with my trauma response for a few decades and have come to a point in my life where I can see that my brain chemistry has changed and I am a different me, getting better outcomes. I am truly grateful for all of the help and support I have been blessed with. Thank you lonerwolf too you have been a part of my journey
Low, I’m in a good spot right now, and sorry for those with mid or high
Well, repeated trauma in my case.
First childhood, then an attacker in my house who wanted to rape me repeatedly and who hit me in the head till my blood spurted onto the wall. In between homelessness as they call it.
But I´ll be fine. I just know that.
I wish to write about it all.
Last Thursday I went to the court hearing in the attempted rape case. I survived by jumping out the window in my own home.
MAY GOD BLESS ALL WHO SUFFER AND CRAVE LIFE AND LIGHT.
LOOK, NO TUNNEL IS ENDLESS.
YOU KEEP WALKING, FRIEND.
YOU HEAR ME? YOU KEEP WALKING, FRIEND.
LOVE FROM ALMA.
I got a medium level, to be honest I thought I’d get high given my brain….😭
high level, meh ive had a great life just a shame i didn’t put me first. now 20 years later I’m just not wanting anything at all. the human condition is loss we lose everything eventually or suddenly. why feed the machine what it wants. i don’t think I’m earthly enough for this realm. if i didn’t have my ailing father and these two little mongrels I’d have shut the door on this material world. 20 years i could have killed and gotten a lesser sentence. now im just a bitter old man who hasnt smiled in years. i try so hard to just be happy but it’s gone like a faded memory. my time will come … just not soon enough.
High level of emotional trauma. I was quite surprised to be honest. I went through a heavy betrayal 6 weeks ago and my whole life changed. I have been healing everyday. I am getting better but I’m at the stage now where I feel stuck and have no energy. I really need to get out of this freeze like state because it’s stopping me from moving forward. Does anyone else feel like this or been through it and knows how to get out of it?
High level… wow that’s deep
High level emotional trauma. Which I pretty much already knew. I will really like to be able to stick with a practice or type of therapy that works for me. I have tried some and I just drop it like a bad habit when it isn’t. I feel it a bit backwards because the bad habit/addiction that I suffer with and struggling to release is one, and not as easy as saying I’ll drop it like a bad habit then doing so. I will truly love the moment I gain a beautiful therapeutic habit and then drop the addiction like the bad habit it is. Thanks for being here for me and the collective ❤️🩹💫🥰
What do you do when you start to doubt the existence of a spiritual world. The world seems harsh, materialistic, and Darwinian. You read about things like NDEs and children who recall past lives, but it’s outside your lived experience.
High Level Of Emotional Trauma… Yeah, that about says it all.