We all interact with the world in ways that are as unique as ourselves.
There are thinkers and feelers, introverted and extroverted people, highly sensitive and intuitive people, as well as endless other ways of processing the world around us.
It’s no surprise then to discover that we each give, receive, and understand love in different ways.
Although there are as many love “dialects” as there are people, there are six main love styles that we use to communicate: Physical, Practical, Presents, Kind Words, Activity, and Kinship.
We each have an “emotional love tank” that constantly needs replenishing. When our emotional tank is empty, we feel unloved, unappreciated, and our relationships wither.
Most problems in our relationships with other people come from speaking in different love styles, whether that be with your partner, friend, or even child.
For example, your husband/wife might complain to you that you “don’t spend enough time with him/her” when you communicate your love through physical affection.
In this free love styles quiz, you’ll find out what your primary love style is. Discovering your love style will help you to communicate with others how you prefer to receive love.
This test can also help you to understand your loved ones better and enhance a deeper sense of interbeing and spiritual connectedness with them.
So feel free to also encourage your loved ones to take this love styles quiz so that the two of you can find out how to speak their love style as well.
(✬ By the way, if you’d like deeper support in strengthening and healing your relationships after taking this test, check out our Healing Relationships Bundle for more guidance and empowering resources!)
What did you get?
Share your results in the comments!
I really appreciate that kinship is included in this love style assessment. As soon as I saw that term listed, I knew it would be my result. In the past, my “love language” always came up as primarily words of affirmation, and it’s true that I listen and encourage confidence in others even when I don’t relate to their specific struggles. At the same time, although I definitely need kind words, I do not feel loved when someone affirms or praises me without relating on some level. Instead, this makes me feel estranged or placed on a pedestal. I am an unusual person, especially for my generation (tail end of Gen X, close to Millenial). As a result, I have often felt misunderstood. My values are non-religious, but deeply felt, and often relate to mysticism and the potentially liberating experience of choosing difficulty or self-sacrifice. My heart’s desire is always to be understood rather than admired, because I need the company of people who will swim in deep waters with me. This test was very helpful in clarifying that distinction. Thank you!
Practical Love Style. makes sense bc im super practical😉
In all honesty I can’t answer any of those questions as I have never had any love shown to me throughout my whole life and I am now 69 and I believe that I will cross to spirit without ever experiencing love from anyone. For the most part I am comfortable with my own company and these days I tend to give people a wide berth because we really can’t trust them, can we.
you have this “love” test..
how does someone like me respond? i don’t even like the word “love”!!!!
to me…love
hate me, it WILL NOT hurt any less.
yes i hurt because of” love “…..
like me, be a friend
BUT don’t ever
LOVE me