The only way to get over the pain is to face it, embrace it, hug it and learn the lessons embedded within it.
― Adele Theron
All of us, in some way or another, have experienced the stab of rejection, betrayal, neglect, bullying, and even humiliation at the hands of another.
But at what point does being emotionally hurt turn into becoming emotionally traumatized?
What is Emotional Trauma?
Emotional trauma occurs when you are exposed to a situation that is so extreme (e.g., horrendous betrayal from a loved one, the suicide of someone, etc.) that the body, heart, and mind struggle to handle the intense emotions that come with such a shocking experience.
As a result, the body-mind system tends to enter a freeze state, which is characterized by feelings of numbness, dissociation from reality, and the sudden or eventual appearance of intense symptoms like chronic anxiety, depression, addictions, PTSD, or other life-disrupting patterns.
Emotional trauma can also happen due to ongoing situations, such as being bullied, being trapped in an environment (such as in childhood) in which your sense of self-worth was destroyed or diminished, being repeatedly betrayed, treated cruelly, judged negatively, made fun of, and so on.
Experiencing abandonment trauma as a child is also a widespread form of emotional trauma.
Four Components of Trauma
Trauma is not what happens to us. But what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness.
— Peter A Levine, PhD
According to psychotherapist and pioneer of Somatic Experiencing®, Peter Levine, there are four aspects of trauma that will be present, in some way, in all traumatized people:
- Hyperarousal (i.e., being overly alert and on guard)
- Constriction (i.e., tense body)
- Dissociation (i.e., disconnection from the here and now)
- Freezing (immobility), associated with the feeling of helplessness
I’ll be using these four components of trauma as a basis for the emotional trauma test below.
Emotional Trauma, Inner Work, and Spiritual Wellbeing
Discovering our level of emotional trauma is a crucial part of inner work, which is:
… the psychological and spiritual practice of diving deep into your inner self for the purposes of self-exploration, self-understanding, healing, and spiritual transformation.
{What is Inner Work?}
When we work to heal, resolve, or integrate the emotional trauma we carry, a tremendous amount of inner energy is freed up which allows us to grow and blossom in unimaginably beautiful and profound ways.
Healing emotional trauma, therefore, is a vital part of our awakening journeys of Soul Work as spiritual wanderers.
We often embark on this healing quest in stages five and six of the spiritual wanderer’s journey.
Emotional Trauma Test
Healing doesn’t mean the pain never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.
– K. Salmansohn
The free emotional trauma test below isn’t meant to ‘diagnose’ you in any way. It’s simply a tool you can use to shed more light on your inner landscape.
Please use this test simply as a doorway to introspection and further action, not as a set-in-stone analysis of your character or what happened in your life.
Whatever result you get is not the absolute truth, and if you feel like it’s wrong, that is totally fine, because it might be!
Trust in your gut and your inner knowing above all else – this test only attempts (in an imperfect way) to provide you with some potential insight and healing pathways.
If, at any point, you feel uncomfortable during the process of taking this test, please step away, seek out support, grounding, and centeredness immediately. Only return to this test when you feel safe inside.
What did you get?
If you’re comfortable, I welcome you to share your results in the comments. You never know who might feel comforted by your words or presence.
Need more help? See my popular Self-Love Journal and Inner Child Work Journals if you’d like some compassionate support for working through these wounds.
High level of emotional trauma = correct
My test results is low emotional trauma I think is because I learn from Luna and Sol material in different topics and a lot of practicing from their material
I tried to test but something malfunction and I didn’t get a result. I guess the test has emotional trauma! lol
I’ll try again later.
Dear Aletheia, This test arrived just at the right time, I decided on a whim to do it first thing on waking today and as a result, had the best day in a long, long time. For this I thank you. Having confirmation that I suffer from a high level of emotional trauma comes not as a surprise but as a liberation, an absolution, a vindication. I am so glad my symptoms are all tied in together and this gives me the beginning of clarity. I’ll try not to go on for too long but let’s say I am at the big crossroad of being financially able to retire, and yet this has thrown up more problems than not. My Mum and last DNA-linked relative passed away 2 years ago. Prior to that I was widowed twice and since remained firmly single. I have no children or siblings (sister deceased too), and having settled in England not France my home country, I miss France but can’t find the courage to rebuild bridges involving travelling on my own with no relative to visit. I have become hyper socially anxious and can’t face group activities of any kind, the whole group dynamics… Read more »
Thanks, I got high level of emotional trauma. It’s true. It means most environments are unsafe for me to be vulnerable, so I’m often alone. I’ve only found one group that feels ‘safe’ so far. It’s hard connecting to my inner child. I am so disconnected from them…
Well i guess I should take this as a sign to go easy on myself. I’m so unwell lately.
Sadly therapy is a 50/50, grounding and meditation doesn’t really work, as they don’t really resonate with me anymore… I guess reaching that inner child and letting them be free could help?
I actually enjoy going out by myself more than even therapy
I received High Level of Emotional Trauma… I was prepared for this mentally, but not emotionally. I sobbed when I read each category out loud to my husband. He just kept nodding his head. It hurts… and it hurts bad. I thought I was doing okay as I was in therapy and had mostly controlled, under meditation and whatnot. I’m not sure what my next steps should be, as I no longer have a therapist, as he told me that it was basically all in my head… I may need to do inner child work, but I know for sure my inner teenager is really upset and angry (I was abused physically/mentally/emotionally by my father, who to this day will tell you it was all made up. I feel stuck and lonely.
I did the test, remembering how I felt for decades up to around 4 years ago. The test revealed a high level of emotional trauma, which is/was true. My husband is a covert narcissist, and it took this long to put a name to the emotional abuse I was living in. Understanding and being able to put a name to the situation and his questionable behavior allowed me to learn how to deal with it and truly heal. He doesn’t like it, but his abuse is now like water off a duck’s back.
Practicing about 90% of your mentioned nurturing avenues for healing did help to heal mentally and to practice good boundaries.
I got “high level of emotional trauma”, which I already knew but thought I’d made some headway with my therapist. I am still working on/through it. I have learned a lot of healthy coping skills and also developed a spiritual practice, which I do every morning before anything else. That one piece of advice from this article is spot on, for me. My therapist has suggested Inner Child work, which I think is also a good idea.
Medium emotional trauma—The results were 150% accurate
I got stuck on the last question.
I am not capable of handling the situation of the unknown, not capable of countering a stronger more capable force, naive in the face of greater experience, and left abandoned alone and wanting.