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19 Signs You’re a Highly Sensitive Person (+ How to Survive and Thrive)

by Aletheia Luna ยท Updated: Sep 30, 2022 ยท 343 Comments

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It all added up. Sensitivity to loud sounds, harsh light, emotional climates, and over-stimulating situations? I’d just discovered something amazing: I’m a highly sensitive person.

For years, since childhood, I had always believed there was something terribly weird, different, strange, or broken about me.

New situations easily overwhelmed me. Strangers set me on edge. Loud sounds made me jump out of my skin. And even the slightest amount of coffee or alcohol sent me into a tailspin.


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If you can relate to this level of sensitivity, you might be a highly sensitive person.

The life-changing reality of this label is that it helps you to accept that (1) you’re not crazy, (2) there’s nothing wrong with you, and (3) you’re not alone.

Table of contents

  • What is a Highly Sensitive Person?
  • 19 Signs You’re a Highly Sensitive Person
  • HSPs, Emotional Intensity, and Giftedness
  • Common Myths About the Highly Sensitive Person
  • How to Survive as an HSP
  • 5 Ways to Stop Emotional Snowballing as a Highly Sensitive Person

What is a Highly Sensitive Person?

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Highly sensitive people (HSPs) are individuals who are genetically predisposed to higher levels of mental, emotional, and physical sensitivity. It is speculated that around 15-20% of our population is wired differently and therefore experiences life in a much more intense way than the average person. HSPs differ from neurotypical individuals in that they are more deeply impacted by sights, sounds, smells, tastes tactile sensations, and emotions.

19 Signs You’re a Highly Sensitive Person

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Mother of the discovery,ย Elaineย Aron, has been researching the highly sensitive person for over 20 years now. As such, she has a finely tuned list of traits and behavioral quirks that define the highly sensitive person. I’ve refined some of these traits below. See how many you can relate to:

  1. I’m aware of subtleties and nuances in different environments, e.g., a tap dripping too loudly, a light bulb burning too brightly, etc.
  2. I’m easily overwhelmed by the senses. Loud noises, strong smells, tastes, and light affect me negatively, e.g., the pounding music of nightclubs, loud busy freeways, and strong perfumes.
  3. I need to withdraw from busy days and take a break, or a nap, by myself.
  4. I’m overly sensitive to pain, e.g. needles, sports injuries, insect stings, etc.
  5. I become spooked and startled easily.
  6. I like to take my time, and not overload myself with too many activities as it drains andย overwhelmsย me.
  7. I prefer to avoid violent TV shows and movies.
  8. I find it hard to adapt to changes in my life.
  9. I tend to ruminate and process information deeply.
  10. I’m empathic. I’m aware of the way people feel around me, and when any slight change occurs in them.
  11. Emotional environments tend to affect me deeply.
  12. I’m often perceived as being introverted or shy.
  13. I’m profoundly moved by nature, the arts or music.
  14. I tend to be more philosophically and spiritually-orientated.
  15. I feel unusually strong emotions.
  16. I avoid and deeply dislike confrontation of any kind.
  17. I prefer to not be observed when fulfilling tasks: it unsettles me.
  18. I tend to avoid situations that are too intense or chaotic.
  19. I seem to process the world at a very deep level.

How many of these qualities did you say “yes” to? I’d love to hear in the comments!

HSPs, Emotional Intensity, and Giftedness

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Perhaps one of the defining qualities of being an HSP is how emotionally intense we are.

We feelย everythingย in an intense, passionate, and sometimes devastating way. This intensity often leads us to become artists, visionary leaders, innovators, mentors, healers, and therapists.


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But this is a bittersweet trait we share because while it helps us to live life with passion and intensity, it can also isolate us. We may be misunderstood, criticized, underpaid, undervalued, taken for granted, alienated, and generally perceived as being “too much.” We may be classified as neurotic, melodramatic, thin-skinned, or generally finicky โ€“ and mistreated because of it.

Yet, despite the many challenges we face, our intensity and giftedness as highly sensitive people also opens the doorway to potentially transcendent and cosmic adventures. For example, many people who are highly sensitive undergo spiritual awakenings and various mystical experiences. Because we are naturally sensitive and more in-tune with the undercurrents of life, we often find ourselves having paradigm-shifting insights about the nature of reality.

In fact, many highly sensitive people are also naturally gifted empaths andย old souls who gravitate toward various spiritual pursuits that explore the meaning of life and how to experience spiritual Oneness.

Regardless of whether you’re spiritually-inclined or not, you will have the insatiable need to live authentically and find your true purpose.

Common Myths About the Highly Sensitive Person

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As with any neuroatypical group, HSPs deal with their fair share of misguided judgments. Here are the three most common misconceptions about HSPs:

Myth #1: ย  HSPs are introverts

HSPs and introverts both reflect deeply and have rich inner worlds โ€“ but not all HSPs are introverted, and vice versa. In fact, as Aron points out, 30% of the total number of highly sensitive people are actually extroverted. It’s a smaller number, but it still shows that introversion does not always equate to being highly sensitive.

Myth #2: ย  Being an HSP is just another word for being shy

Just like introverts, highly sensitive people are often mislabeled as being shy. Although the two share things in common โ€“ such as sensitivity to overwhelming social situations โ€“ they are not the same thing. While shyness is learned, being a highly sensitive person is not.

Myth #3:ย  ย “HSP” is a mental disorder

For some, it can be easy to mistake the highly sensitive person as a sufferer of some strange mental condition. Although some HSPs possess separate mental illnesses, being sensitive does not automatically make someone mentally ill. Instead, sensitivity is a trait, a gift even, that some people possess and others don’t. Besides, what pathological mental disorder allows the sufferer to be endowed with such genuine joys as being more empathic, spiritually-orientated, and appreciating the details of life more fully?

How to Survive as an HSP

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Due to their sensitive nature, highly sensitive people are prone to idealism and perfectionism. This often stems from deriving our self-worth from the opinion of others, and not valuing ourselves enough. (And the self-worth issues we often develop are due to not being appreciated or understood throughout life.)

Also, being a highly sensitive person can hit you hard if you’re a male. Being a thick-skinned logician is favored as the masculine ideal in the Western world, rather than the sensitive, emotional poet. But whatever difficulties we face as highly sensitive people can be overcome with the ability to reframe the negative into the positive, and actively work to better our environments. Here are some tips:

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1. ย  Learn to value yourself

I learned this the hard way. When we place too much importance on what people say and think about us, we create immense psychological tension and anxiety. We are living to satisfy the thousands of different perspectives of who we “should” be, rather than embracing what we are. In essence, we are creating the exact thing we try to avoid that is detrimental to us: too much internal pressure and chaos. So be nice to yourself. Learn to value your qualities and gifts. Realize that you’re the one and only master over yourself, and no one can have power over you unless you let them.

2. ย  Don’t take things personally

This tip, mentioned by Don Miguel Ruiz in his well-known bookย The Four Agreements, is essential for mental and emotional happiness.

The highly sensitive person is prone to get hurt easily by other people and their words. Consequently, we frequently find ourselves on-edge in social situations, trying to finely tune our behavior to avoid conflict.

When we take the insults and the moods of other people personally, we blame ourselves. We think that somehow we’re responsible, even deserve their abuse, but we’re not and we don’t.

To overcome the dilemma of taking things personally, try looking beyond your feelings. Use your ability to analyze instead and think to yourself, “I wonder what type of pain this person is suffering to treat me that way?” For example, perhaps they had a really bad day? Perhaps they’re going through a divorce? Perhaps they got triggered? Perhaps they had bad sleep?

When we ask these “why?” questions, we go beyond the initial sting of being mistreated and realize that ultimately, how people treat us is a reflection of them, not us. As Don Miguel Ruiz says, “nothing other people do is because of you.“

3. ย  Embrace solitude

Solitude is not loneliness, instead, it is a chosen form of being alone, rather than an imposed one. When we choose solitude and take mini-retreats from our stimulating days, we give ourselves the gift ofย re-cooperation. As highly sensitive people, we need to be in-tune with our minds and bodies and the warning signs of burnout, such as irritability and physical exhaustion. So take a bit of alone time to renew yourself.

4. ย  Investigate, identify, and act upon your sensitivity triggers

Wouldn’t life be a whole lot easier if we managed to resourcefully alter or intelligently negotiate our way around the stresses and stimulations that come our way? Of course, we can’t plan everything, but for the stresses currently existing in our lives, we can work to plan ahead and alleviate the incoming tension.

As an HSP, I struggled with this, stoically putting up with the extreme anxiety I felt at work until I realized that it was weakening my health. No, I didn’t do something drastic like quit my job, but I did decide to plan ahead and practice self-hypnosis every time I had to go to work, to prepare myself for the day. I still do.

As an HSP, you may be suffering from the same problem I did: a self-sacrificial acceptance of your less-than-healthy response to a situation in life. If you find yourself daily frazzled, try identifying what makes you so stressed out and think about what you can do to actively make your life easier to live. Life wasn’t meant to be bared with gritted teeth.

5 Ways to Stop Emotional Snowballing as a Highly Sensitive Person

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Your heart pounds, you begin to tremble, your chest constricts, pain shoots through your core, your mind blursย โ€ฆ ย and all this, simply as a response to a threat, insult or even a simple tone of voice.

Highly sensitive people frequently live life on the brink of emotional snowballing, a term I use to describe a situation where emotions get out of control and quickly become out of proportion to the situation at hand.

Just think of a small snowball rolling down a very steep hill โ€“ it becomes larger and larger and rolls faster and faster very quickly. For many highly sensitive people, this emotional turbulence is a fact of life.

But why? As Elaine Aron pointed out in her book The Highly Sensitive Person, โ€œmost of us are deeply affected by other peopleโ€™s moods and emotions.โ€ In fact, you could say that most highly sensitive people are simply excellent social chameleons to the emotional landscapes around them.

This can be good news if everything is peachy bliss, but many times, highly sensitive people find themselvesย absorbingย theย poisonous negativityย around them. You could say that the highly sensitive personโ€™s problem is taking things too personally. But itโ€™s much more than that. The highly sensitive person is deeply affected by any highly stimulating situation, whether physical, mental and emotional.


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In a sense, you could say they feel everything at a more extreme level than the non-HSP person. While this can make life a lot more profound for highly sensitive people, it can also make interpersonal relations very bitter indeed.

Below you will find four techniques I have found useful in preventing emotional snowballing. Iโ€™m a highly sensitive person myself and hope these will help quell the tidal waves of emotion when they roll your way:

1. ย Seek out a quiet, empty spot to cool down

As I mentioned before, highly sensitive people suffer a lot at the hands of hyper-arousing and stimulating situations. The best thing to do when you become aware of the symptoms of emotional stress is to remove yourself from the situation. Excuse yourself, or simply walk away from the person or people that are causing you harm and find a deserted, empty place.

I say deserted and empty because the least stimulating, the better. You need to make time to re-cooperate and soften the violent sensations inside of you. I find that the bathroom is usually the best place to go, especially when the lights are out and everything is muted and dim.

2. ย Focus on something that made you happy today

If nothing made you happy today, try the past week, or you could think about the best thing that ever happened to you. I find that focusing on something positive helps break the cycle of negative emotions that begin to quickly increase inside. It also helps to remind you that life wasnโ€™t always as painful as it seems in the present moment, and helps give you perspective.

If you have had a bad run-in with a specific person in particular, you can also try thinking of the last time you enjoyed being in their company. Did they make you laugh, did you share something nice together, were you excited to talk to them? This works especially well with family members and close friends who have upset you.

Itโ€™s good to remember that everyone has bad days once in a while, and they arenโ€™t necessarily angry at you โ€“ in fact, usually, they arenโ€™t. They are simply reacting to their own bad feelings and taking it out on you. Once again, this technique of focusing on a past positive experience works well after youโ€™ve sought out a quiet and empty spot to re-cooperate.

3. ย Listen to, or watch something upbeat

The biggest mistake that I made as a highly sensitive person was to listen to melancholic, dark music when I felt emotionally strained. Although itโ€™s nice to feel as though others can relate to the way you feel through their music, this is not always a healthy way to deal with emotional turmoil.

If youโ€™re primarily an auditory learner like me, listening to happy music is one of the best ways to stop emotional snowballing. I know it’s cliche, but try listening to โ€œDonโ€™t Worry, Be Happyโ€ by Bob McFerrin for starters! (It’s bound to make you smile!) If youโ€™re primarily a visual learner however, the next best alternative is to watch a comedic movie that will allow you to relax and break out of the negative cycles of emotion. Have a list of comedy movies at hand, just so you donโ€™t lose time frantically scavenging for one. (By the way, if you want to find out what kind of learner you are, take our Visual, Auditory, or Kinesthetic test.)

4. Ground and orient yourself to your surroundings

When you feel like you’re spiraling out of control (i.e., feeling overwhelmed, inundated, panicky, grief-stricken) find something beautiful, calming, or pleasant in your environment to focus on. This technique is often used in somatic psychotherapy for trauma sufferers and works wonders with highly sensitive people.

For example, you may choose to focus on a patch of sunlight on the ground, a vase of flowers in the distance, a child running and laughing, the calming color of the wallpaper, or anything else that brings you a burst of delight.

Orienting to something safe and pleasant in your environment is a powerful grounding technique that you can use anytime, anywhere.

5. ย Remember that this too will pass

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This philosophic approach to preventing emotional snowballing for the highly sensitive person is a powerful way to transcend your emotional strife and look at life with a birds-eye perspective.

Think of everything good and bad that has ever happened to you. All of it has passed by and has been replaced with something different: the good with the bad, and the bad with the good.

Life is a constant flux; a wax and wane of good and bad. If everything was always good, we would find life boring and weโ€™d take it for granted. In this way, the bad moments in our lives can even be seen as necessary and beneficial โ€“ they provide a contrast for the good so we can appreciate it even more fully.

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So just remember: when you are close to an emotional snowball, remember that this too will pass. Like everything in your past, it will perish and be replaced with something else.

Are you a highly sensitive person? ย Do you have anything to add to this article? ย If so, please do below.

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About Aletheia Luna

Aletheia Luna is a prolific psychospiritual writer, author, educator, and intuitive guide whose work has touched the lives of millions worldwide. As a survivor of fundamentalist religious abuse, her mission is to help others find love, strength, and inner light in even the darkest places. She is the author of hundreds of popular articles, as well as numerous books and journals on the topics of Self-Love, Spiritual Awakening, and more. [Read More]

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  1. Hyberian says

    August 11, 2014 at 11:24 pm

    I am an HSP, and my family got me engaged to a girl (for marriage)… I can’t stop thinking about it… I’m afraid that she will suffer dealing with me, and of course I will suffer too… I get the idea of breaking the engagement, and stay single forever… I know it would be difficult to stay single forever, but I believe it would be much easier than having a whole new family and relatives…

    Any advice for me on this dilemma ?? :'(

    Reply
    • Aletheia Luna says

      August 12, 2014 at 2:14 pm

      Hello Hyberian,

      I’m not sure what culture you live in currently (Western culture or Eastern or something else?), so it’s difficult to offer any thoughts. Was this an arranged marriage, did you have any say in it for instance?

      For me, marriage is the last thing I consider doing in life. With marriage comes duties, unnecessary commitments, pressures and demands. I really recommend this book which is quick and simple to read regarding marriage: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/18163262-the-case-against-marriage?ac=1

      As I said, I don’t know your context very well, so if you would like to provide me with more details that would be a help.

      Warmly,

      -Luna

      Reply
  2. Bill says

    August 09, 2014 at 12:17 am

    I am a man in my mid 30’s.I have recently realized that i am a HSP and an empath.Like its not enough,I am a pisces by astrology.Sometimes listening to music puts me in a trance like state and i get disappointed by how people don’t get it.I am kind to animals and can read their body language better than most people.Sometimes even a random stray sad dog can ruin my whole day.Yes,i am the complete package.I am in my mid 30’s now and have really suffered because of this.Naturally women have considered me an outcast especially that i am very built.Some women have called me gay,others a weak beta man.I have heard every insult a woman can think of because of my intensity.Sometimes i wish i was a hard hearted normal person.But the joy i get from subtleties in life, i feel i cannot sacrifice.I have spent most of my life single and starting to think my type of intensity really is too much.When a stranger comes within half a meter of my personal space..i get overwhelmed,my moods swing.I enjoy alone time most of the time.I get lonely and do a lot of marijuana because only then i have a shell from my nature.I cant handle one night stands because the lying intensity is too much.I want to marry and have children but women always want me to be their best friend.Over and over again,i have been called “nice guy” .Now i have considered becoming a priest because i feel rejected.Believe me i have tried for years to hide my sensitive side and act macho.But then my ability to read body language always lets me down and my obvious overwhelmed state cannot be hidden.What should i do?? Help me!

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      August 11, 2014 at 6:54 pm

      Thank you for voicing you problems here Bill. I’m sorry to hear that you are going through such hard times.

      Have you heard of the Anima and Animus? Psychologist Carl Jung proposed that we all have male and female energies within us, the Anima masculine and the Animus feminine. It sounds as though you have an imbalance of energies, i.e. you have more Animus (feminine) energy than masculine. This is not at all an insult, but simply a fact. Your life will greatly improve if you focus on cultivating your inner Anima (masculine), which is dormant in light of your overbearing Animus (feminine) energy. Please read more about this: https://lonerwolf.com/the-anima-and-animus/

      In the above link, there are many suggestions as to how you can connect to your inner Masculine in order to create more balance in your life. By taking one step at a time, and focusing on one thing at a time, you will slowly experience these dormant energies within you gaining more power.

      Hiding your sensitive side will do nothing but harm to you. You must accept and embrace the fact that you are a sensitive guy, but also acknowledge the fact that there is work to be done in your life, and only with hard work and persistence can you hope to become the person you desire. I hope my suggestions help,

      -Luna

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      • Bill says

        August 11, 2014 at 9:16 pm

        Thank you Luna for your suggestions.I should have added that i was adopted at a young age and lived with my aunt who was very independent and probably i have suffered this fate because she has been my only role model.I have acknowledged that i need help.I am not at all offended that i have a more feminine side.I will get to work immediately.

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        • Aletheia Luna says

          August 12, 2014 at 2:09 pm

          I am excited to hear that Bill – and if you need any more thoughts or perspectives, I am always an email away!

          Best wishes on your journey,

          -Luna

          Reply
    • roberthagedorn says

      November 19, 2015 at 4:57 am

      Bill, I recommend the following life coaches, in addition to the two hosting the website we are both presently visiting. A Google search will get you in contact with them. And they offer so very much for free. Good luck.
      1. Corey Wayne
      2. David DeAngelo
      3. Marni Kinrys
      4. Brad P. (He’s into one night stands, but gives good advice nevertheless.)

      Reply
    • PixieGG says

      June 03, 2017 at 3:00 am

      Bill, I am sorry you are having difficulty being who you are and finding a partner who accepts you, The only advice I can give you is that, as women age many of us realize that the “nice” guy is actually the best partner. Keep looking and being yourself, you will find a woman who appreciates you! BTW have been married to a nice guy for 37 yrs.

      Reply
  3. Claire says

    July 25, 2014 at 7:08 am

    I just found this site and I’ve fallen in love with it- I’m 15 and I tend to struggle with the everyday toils of being an introvert. I’ve noticed that I’m a bit ‘more introverted’ than other introverts around me, and decided to research a bit about my behavior.

    I’ve determined that I’m a highly sensitive introvert; partly by using copious amounts of online tests, and also trusting my gut. Upon this extensive research I stumbled across lonerwolf.com and I’ve taken comfort in knowing that I’m not alone in my quiet little lifestyle.

    Thank you for helping me :)

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      July 28, 2014 at 8:09 pm

      My pleasure Claire. :)

      It’s really wonderful that you’ve discovered so much about yourself at such an age. At your age I wasn’t aware of what an introvert or HSP was. This information will help you a lot with self-acceptance, especially through your teenage years.

      Thank you for having a read,

      -Luna

      Reply
  4. Melinda says

    July 17, 2014 at 8:48 pm

    I’m so glad I found this! For as long as I can remember I’ve felt sensitive to practically everything. My parents used to say I’d cry if someone looked at me the wrong way. My mother said that it was almost as though I was born with thin skin (well, I was born at 26 weeks 31 years ago so my skin was a little “see-thru”). She meant that it was like I was on edge all the time, as though all my nerve endings were on overdrive. My parents used to yell at me for getting upset about things, they’d call me a sook (or cry baby), and say I was over sensitive.

    My father died when I was 9, but my mother was brought up on the whole “stiff upper lip” stuff from her childhood in England. A few years ago after discussing things with a psychologist, I told her that I would appreciate it if she stopped calling me over sensitive and tried to see me as being hyper sensitive (I hadn’t heard of HSP back then), she just laughed, rolled her eyes, and told me stop being stupid and over sensitive.

    I have managed to stop crying about every thing that upsets me, but I also suffer from Depression and Anxiety, so things can be a struggle at times.

    I’m just glad I have finally found something that explains how I’ve been feeling for so long.

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      July 22, 2014 at 10:10 am

      Melinda, being mocked and rejected by your mother is a difficult thing to deal with. However, you aren’t alone (I also have dealt with this).

      I’ve learnt that it’s best to distance yourself from people who fail to accept you for who you are, and who constantly criticize you. Your mother must struggle with self-acceptance, because the way in which we treat other people is usually a reflection of how we treat ourselves.

      I’m so happy that you have found this article, and that you can put a name to such feelings.

      All the best!

      -Luna

      Reply
    • Indie says

      October 21, 2014 at 6:59 pm

      How are things going for you, Melinda?
      I’m also a sensitive person who was raised by, and around… Less sensitive people lol I laugh, but it really hasn’t been funny much of the time. I experience quite severe bouts of depression and anxiety which I attribute to both my sensitivity and the chronic feelings of being misunderstood. I’m sorry to hear you suffer in the same way. I do believe, though, that being sensitive is a wonderful thing. I experience the world in a different, sometimes richer, way to many people I know, and thrive under the right circumstances (when I live alone, for instance, I have a passionate love for all things in life as my need for solitude and quiet is met without compromise. Unfortunately I am in a share house situation at present with very insensitive individuals, but this period will pass as they all do). Anyway my point is just to let you know that I hear you, and I feel your pain and your relief at understanding the way you are and being able to identify yourself positively. I believe you are a special being and good things will come to you. All the best x

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  5. Valentino says

    July 17, 2014 at 6:47 pm

    It is both a blessing and a curse to je HSP and ambiverted in same time, but I would never change it for other characteristics.

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      July 22, 2014 at 10:06 am

      I am happy to hear you see such traits with balance and equanimity Valentino. :)

      -Luna

      Reply
  6. Erica says

    July 11, 2014 at 6:08 am

    Hello! I’m only thirteen, but ever since I was little, I have been very sensitive to loud noises, bright flashing lights, and strong smells, tastes, etc. My family and friends fondly call me hyper-sensitive, as I am aware of pretty much every little change in my environment. I used to be very sensitive emotionally as well (still am), however, due to the negative comments people used to make about me, I learned to hide that part. I still am very sensitive, though. I have also been called empathic, as I will often be aware of the emotional state of being a person is in. I will also put my selves in people’s shoes, try to look at it from their perspective. In a situation where my emotional sensitivity comes into play, I will look at it from the other person’s perspective. However, it often backfires because I end up blaming myself… Also, what you said about being prone to perfectionism and idealism is true. I try to satisfy people in every way I can, however, that always backfires. I also am constantly trying to tweak and change things to fit my idea of perfect. Many times I have been called deep… I have tried to figure out what my personality is like, and I’ve realised that I’m an introvert, a perfectionist and idealist, a empathy but I didn’t know there was such thing as HSP. Thank you for making me aware of HSP! Also, are HSPs prone to depression?

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      July 22, 2014 at 10:05 am

      Hello Erica :).

      While reading your comment, you very much reminded me of Sol (coauthor of LonerWolf), and his amazing ability of consistently placing himself in the shoes/perceptions of others.

      HSP’s, like any group of people, are prone to depression. However, I would say that anxiety is more of an issue for the highly sensitive person. In my own case, constantly being overwhelmed by the external environment is enough to trigger a lot of chronic anxiety. However, depression is definitely an issue for Empathic people, as they carry the weight of other people’s emotions on their shoulders constantly.

      Many thanks for reading!

      -Luna

      Reply
  7. Johne596 says

    June 23, 2014 at 12:04 pm

    Nice read, I just passed this onto a friend who was doing some research on that. And he actually bought me lunch as I found it for him smile Thus let me rephrase that Thanks for lunch! keabceecaebe

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      July 22, 2014 at 10:01 am

      Haha, you’re welcome Johne596! Didn’t think this article could benefit another in such a way. My work here is done. :)

      -Luna

      Reply
  8. Marina says

    June 20, 2014 at 1:51 am

    hai Luna,
    I huv read ur article and attended the test. it was very much helpful. I mostly do such steps to make my mind positive. but my problm is my anger which is uncontrollable. it really hurts others. I even think abt suicide that time. what will I do? pls send me helpful suggestions.
    bye.

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      June 23, 2014 at 9:46 am

      Hello Marina,

      Anger usually stems from deep sadness which you haven’t yet faced or acknowledged.
      My recommendation is to spend some time in solitude, discovering what has made you sad little by little. Involution is the evolution within yourself, and there are elements of Involution which can help you get started: https://lonerwolf.com/7-paths-of-involution/
      I hope this helps.

      -Luna

      Reply
  9. Roxie says

    June 11, 2014 at 12:17 pm

    I thought I’d never come across another like me. Good post, though I don’t think I’d ever travel again. Camping and any other on-ground movement is fine for me, either by foot, car, bicycle or train. But never again will I get on an aeroplane, unless it’s the end of the world! – and then I’d take your list of tips shopping!

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      June 14, 2014 at 4:56 pm

      That’s a common misconception that we tend to carry, and I’m glad you could prove it wrong for yourself (we’re rarely alone in our oddities).

      I completely empathize with you here! I marvel at the flight hosts and hostesses who actually like the job, and seem naturally adapted to it (probably the last job on earth I would choose!)

      Thank you for reading!

      -Luna

      Reply
  10. Matt says

    May 29, 2014 at 4:51 am

    The moment I found your website (was researching body language – Helluva damn good articles btw), I read a bit of your articles. I ABSOFUCKINLUTELY ADORE YOUR WORK AND ADMIRE YOUR EFFORT. Being an introvert (not hyper-sensitive, but introversion dominates clearly), such input is like a salve, an aloe of sorts =P Do your job, because you’re doing it splendid =]

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    • Aletheia Luna says

      May 31, 2014 at 11:28 am

      Wow, thank you Matt, that truly means a lot to me! Nothing makes me happier than to hear that the work Sol and I do on LonerWolf makes a positive difference to the lives of others.

      -Luna

      Reply
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