Have you ever spoken to a person who just seems to “vibe” or “click” with you? That person was probably a kindred spirit.
Befriending or serendipitously meeting a kindred spirit is one of those moments in life that we often cherish until our dying day.
If you’re wanting to find out whether you’ve met a kindred spirit – or learn about the signs to look out for – keep reading!
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What is a Kindred Spirit?
Kindred spirits are typically people who share the same values, dreams, worldviews, and personalities as us.
A kindred spirit could arise in any form: a sudden meeting with a stranger, a close friend, a confidant, a family member, a teacher, a lover, a pet, or even a landform (also called a ‘soul place’).
As everything in life is composed of energy, we often feel attracted to some people and repelled by others. Kindred spirits are individuals that resonate at the same level or frequency as us, and so we often feel ‘magnetically’ drawn to them.
The Role Kindred Spirits Play in Our Lives
Kindred spirits are like quiet supporters that can offer us moments of understanding, insight, and delight on the winding road of our life paths.
While kindred spirits don’t often play very “earth-shattering” roles in our spiritual growth and spiritual awakening (although they sometimes can!), they help to comfort and support us in times of need.
Often kindred spirits share the same personality types as us, as well as similar tastes, interests, and passions. While not all kindred spirit connections are necessarily deep and soulful, some can be (these can be thought of as “soul friend” connections).
Are Kindred Spirits Soulmates?
Yes, it is absolutely possible for kindred spirits to be soulmates! In the realm of love and connection, it’s not always easy to make crystal clear distinctions.
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Some kindred spirits will connect with us on an ego level, while others will connect with us on a soul level. Those who connect with us on a soul level are also known as soulmates or soul friends.
9 Magical Signs You’ve Met a Kindred Spirit
Why ‘magical’ signs? Well, meeting a kindred spirit often feels like a wondrous moment of destiny in which we find a person who provides us the exact life/spiritual guidance, insight, or support we need. If that’s not magical, I don’t know what is!
Here are nine magical signs you’ve met a kindred spirit – so be mindful of them when going into future situations:
1. Uncanny similarities
Strangely, you both share a high level of correlating mindsets, experiences, and values – way higher than the average person. For instance, you might have the same personality type, quirks, sense of humor, wounds, dreams for the future, values, goals, upbringings, interests … and the list goes on!
2. It feels like you’ve known this person forever
Sometimes, two people can live together for decades and yet still feel like strangers to each other. A kindred spirit, on the other hand, is the exact opposite: they are so easy to get along with that it feels as though you’ve known this person forever, even if you’ve only just met!
3. You leave the conversation feeling better about life
You know those situations where you walk away from someone feeling heavy and exhausted? Well, kindred spirits create the opposite effect: they make you feel seen, heard, and validated. You walk away from them feeling light, breezy, and more optimistic about life in general!
4. They have a freaky way of offering you the exact advice you need
Instead of dishing out irrelevant (or awful) advice, kindred spirits know how to ‘read you’ and your needs. You’ll find them offering some of the best advice you’ve ever received in the most unexpected moments.
5. You don’t feel the need to pretend or play games with each other
Your connection is very straight-forward, honest-to-god, and down-to-earth simple. There’s no beating around the bush, engaging in power struggles, or other shenanigans with your kindred spirit. You feel comfortable enough to “tell it like it is” without fear of repercussion.
6. They see you for who you truly are
Kindred spirits seem to have the unique ability to see beneath the layers of your ego into your very heart. Because you are both so similar in many ways, a kindred spirit will notice when you’re not being genuine. And with a twinkle in their eyes, they’ll smile and say something so blunt and disarming that you’ll laugh awkwardly and abandon whatever egotistical nonsense you were about to engage in.
7. Your worldview expands
Although our kindred spirits are very similar to us, they’re not our “identical twins.” In fact, their differences in perspective help us to see ourselves and our lives in a different light, expanding our worldviews. While you could say that there are “toxic kindred spirits” who bond over perpetuating the same limited and bigoted worldviews, healthy kindred spirits make us think and question, inspiring us to learn, grow, and evolve.
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8. In a big world, they provide you with crucial support
While everyone may be flocking to the idea of finding a soulmate, kindred spirits shouldn’t be overlooked or taken for granted. To have a kindred spirit in one’s life is to have a true friend, one who is there when times get tough and also when times are good. We all need a support system, and kindred spirits are the “meat and bones” that help us to find a sense of groundedness in life.
9. They help you regain trust and heal wounds
Having a kindred spirit in your life is a tremendous blessing. Not only do they help you to regain trust in others thanks to the healing power of being seen and heard, but they also help you to undergo a form of healing. This healing may come in a subtle way (like learning that it’s okay to speak your mind) or in a big way (such as learning to follow your dreams). Hooray for kindred spirits!
How to Meet Your Kindred Spirit
There are many ways to meet your kindred spirit – and keep in mind that you can have many kindred spirits during the course of your lifetime!
If you’d like to increase the chances of having a ‘happy synchronicity,’ consider the following piece of advice:
- Discover what brings you joy. In other words, what are you passionate about? What do you like doing? Learning about what excites you will help you to find a little niche that can increase the chances of finding a kindred spirit. For example, if you just adore crocheting, you might like to join a crochet class, and there you might meet a fellow kindred spirit!
- Get clear on what you value and want out of life – and take a social media break! When you’re too busy listening to everyone else and the running commentary of their lives, it can be difficult to tune into what you really want and need. So my advice is to take a holiday from social media (like Facebook, Instagram, etc.) and do a little soul searching. When you discover your needs and values, it’s much easier to ‘magnetize’ others who want and need the same things as you. Kindred spirits don’t bond over talk about the weather, they bond over shared worldviews and goals.
- New situations, new opportunities. I know this is pretty straightforward, but honestly, the more you introduce a little adventure into your life, the more likely you are to be exposed to new people. New people = higher chances of meeting a kindred spirit who can enrich your life.
- Wild-and-messy-prayer. I’m not a big fan of the LOA/law of attraction (or what I have called ‘Lust, Obsession, Addiction’). But I do recommend praying to whatever higher power you believe in or think might exist to request that a kindred spirit enter your life. Do you need to be religious to pray? Absolutely not. (I wrote this article on the power of prayer to highlight that fact.) Prayer helps to make us receptive and humbles the megalomania of the ego. So if meeting a kindred spirit is an intense need of yours, I highly recommend praying to Spirit, Source, Divine, whatever you’d like to call it, for that extra bit of help. Don’t feel the need to make your prayers neat or pious (but remember that being grateful goes a long way) – that’s why I’ve called this point “wild-and-messy-prayer”: it comes from the heart and soul!
If you have any other recommendations, please do share them in the comments!
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To end, I’ll leave you with a few of my favorite kindred spirit quotes which highlight how meaningful these relationships can be in our lives:
It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.
― John Joseph Powell
Kindred spirits are not so scarce as I used to think. It’s splendid to find out there are so many of them in the world.
– Lucy Maud Montgomery
It’s funny how complete strangers can have familiar souls.
– J. Iron Ward
To discover a kindred spirit is to find your heart in the heart of a friend.
– Ann Parrish
What is your experience with finding and meeting kindred spirits? Have you learned any huge, life-changing lessons in their presence? I’d love to hear your experiences below!
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The thing is, i really don’t remember the last time i met a kindred spirit!
I’m just too anomalous & unusual. Almost like I’m a lone alien who emigrated here.
I re-entered my spiritual journey this year, I have embodied pure unconditional love and began making small changes to add more adventures and meet new people… I am blown away by the synchronosaties and serendipitous moments I have experienced in just one year when the previous ten were such the opposite…. I am most taken back by the beautiful souls I have met along my path, I had given up hope that I would ever meet more people like me because I have had so many deep soul connections previously but all ended in tragedy.. I thought I would never be so lucky to meet people like that again but I’ve been proven wrong… Don’t ever give up on life there is always another surprise just around the corner ✌❤🤗
Speaking of toxic kindred spirits, there is actually a lot of truth in this in the psychology of hate groups, psychology of discrimination, psychology of prejudice, and related topics. That is, people end up attaching themselves to hate groups, because it’s the only place where they can find belonging, trust, and acceptance available to them. Other than searching for those types of psychology online, I just suggest looking up the website PsychologyToday, and then searching terms like prejudice, racism, sexism, inequality, hate groups, discrimination, diversity, tolerance, and the like to see psychology articles on it. There’s also some articles on this on the website Greater Good Science Center as well. It seems there’s this agreement in psychology that much of these groups form due to a very intense loneliness, isolation, and lack of direction, which is then found in groups like gangs, extremist hate groups, discriminative beliefs, and the like. You can also look up “TED talks on racism,” “TED talks on sexism,” “TED talks on prejudice,” and the like as well.
I have a question for anyone that cares to take it up, but is it possible to have met a kindred spirit and despite having a positive initial time together, they leave you or vice versa, before you can truly be a part of each other’s journeys? I only ask as I’ve made many mistakes in the past, and with my struggles with ADHD/Anxiety/OCD I may have pushed away people that could have been either been great friends, or truly passionate romantic partners. I do know that feeling though, as it’s rare for me to find someone who sees the world in the same way that I do, or even a very similar way…
Yeah, some soul connections are really meant to be a short time. Also you’ll have more than one type of kindred spirit. It’s not like a twin flame, where there’s just one, and you are opposites, rather than being more similar. Though both can be romantic soul mates depending on your choice, or just platonic soul mates/ soul friends, if ever, or just soul family, like thinking of a best friend as a sister/brother, for example. A quote from the Bible comes to mind, and this is my favorite quote from the Bible.
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.
(Ecclesiastes 3:1-8, NIV)”
Study Bible: NIV
I have always had kindred spirits in my life since I was a teenager. There has only been small windows where I didn’t have a kindred spirit either as a very close friend or lover. Then as I got older and my only sibling moved back to our little town after 15 years or so, I realized that she and I have always been kindred spirits as well just didn’t recognize it when we were young kids until we reflected on it. We had always written and Skype wine sessions together but really connected when she was physically back on our little island. She tried to surprise me but I knew before she even knocked on my door. We have such kindred spirits that we don’t have to speak any words half the time, frustrating to a lot of our friends haha.
Recently I have reconnected with a kindred spirit that when we first met, we had seen each other around and could sense each other but when we first spoke to each other, we literally went for a drive and talked like we had known each other forever and didn’t realize we were gone exploring and talking for 10 hours! Our mutual friends almost sent a search party. He is a very traumatized kindred spirit and when we met you could tell I was the friend he was almost starving for, I don’t know if anyone else has felt like that for someone else…. But I think it scared him and he couldn’t believe it was, or I was a genuine friend. So he distanced himself for about 2 years but recently we actually ran into each other in the same place we met and the enormous flood of excitement I felt before I even saw him was almost overwhelming, my daughter was yelling for me and as I turned around he picked me up in the biggest bear hug! We have been almost inseparable since that day. Who knows what will happen but I have always called myself a collector of people, it never fails, I am a magnet for my kindred spirits and I believe I will meet many more in my life.
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I found my Soul Mate some time ago. I was finishing an Art course at the School of Arts in Adelaide. On a whim and I suppose an urge not to be a lonely starving artist, I went with a friend to a local Community Centre.
After seeing a few very unusual people and getting some healing work completed, I was asked to join and give free Art lessons to any interested young people. Here I met a beautiful cheerful and happy girl just three years my senior. We clicked like two peas in the same pod and went on to seeing each and being first close friends, then as we were both very different yet both understood similar backgrounds and inner wilderness became great lovers. Now she is my wife of 40 odd years and still we find much to talk over of the wonderful life experiences we chose together.
So blessings to all twin flames and opposites that attract to love and help each other upon this Earthly plane.
Aww, that is such a beautiful story John Ambrose, 40 years together! Wow!!
Thinking about it, I remember one occurence when I was commuting by train. There were always hundreds of people waiting for the train in the afternoon to take them home. I soon noticed a young lad, also waiting for train, almost every day. After weeks I simply approached him and started to talk to him. I knew he was ‘one of us’. He wasn’t surprised. Said he’d seen me, too. Among all the people on the crowded platform he’d seen me, too.
We just knew it. It urned out he was from a town far away but had some traineeship here and was due to return back home in a few days. That was it. Nothing spectacular, just mutual recognision. Deep understanding, respect, even love if you want to call it like that. You’ll never walk alone!
Amazing! This reminds me of one time when I was looking at some animals in the window of a pet shop (I don’t support pet shops by the way as I feel they’re unethical). Anyway, I was thinking about the meaning of life, and then this random hippy lookin guy comes walking up to me, strikes up a conversation about the meaning of life (the very thing I was thinking about!), and literally blows my mind. This was back in 2010 as I was in a deep existential crisis. These strange circumstances are truly the spice of life!
This article reminded me of a very good friend of mine who came into my life when I was 21, (and below) a dog named Milo.
Jerry and I did many similar things, smoking dope, drinking good beer, and other things like riding motorcycles, which is how we met. We also did our first LSD trips together. We struck it right off the bat, and no homo, he had his gf and I had mine. But we formed a tight relationship that everyone recognized as special. I’ll make this short because it’s really a long story, even though Jerry was killed on a motorcycle (his wife’s!) a few years later. I’ve come to realize that we must have been very good friends in a past life, that Jerry came into my time and space to ‘point’ me in a particular direction, but that he had other things that needed to be done, in another place in time. A few years after he died I recalled something he pointed out to me in a magazine, a small ad that said (I’m paraphrasing) Take Mastery Of Your Life (It was an ad by the Rosicrucian’s). We discussed that for maybe 2 minutes. I never recalled him mentioning it again, but it planted a seed in my mind.
And about 7-8 years later I saw that same ad, (OMNI Mag I think it was) and I was reminded of Jerry one more time. That ad was to put me on a long path of discovery and learning. I took lessons from the Rosicrusians for 3 years or so, but got turned off by their insistence that “there is no good, there is no evil, it just is” stance! That is where I left the program. I think their teachings were honest, up to that point, and certainly lit a fire in me that remains to this day. I want to KNOW! And I think most of you reading this will understand what I mean.
My other kindred spirit was a dog. I adopted a ~4-5yo Rat Terrier. He was blind when I got him, but had excellent hearing, which was amazing. Milo didn’t let a little thing like being blind slow him down! Amazing too was his sense of smell. I could never sneak up on him. I used to hid in the house (in plain sight!) and it would take him 5 seconds to sniff me out! My little buddy! I loved him so!
Once he learned the lay of the house he could unerringly dive off the couch, evade the kitchen chairs/table, make the turn into the back entry, and hit is doggy door smack dab center nearly every time, usually with a low growl, some times with a soft bark. But its the feelings he conveyed to me, psychically, that he so much appreciated being with me.
Milo had obviously been mistreated by his former owner(s). You know a dog has been beaten badly when you come home from a few hours gone, and he bends his back and pees, scared he’s going to be beaten! It took Milo a full 2 years or so to figure out he wasn’t going to be beaten. I would talk to him softly and stroke his head and back, and he eventually got the message: No beatings in this home!
There are so many times we connected on a psychic level it’s impossible to list them. He always knew when I was coming home from shopping, or golf (I’m retired), or whatever. I might be gone 12 hours, but he’d be waiting, even in the snow. He hated cold weather, but there he would be, stubby tail wagging away. Actually the whole back end! And I was just as thrilled to see him.
When Milo got so old (about 14-15) that he could no longer hear anything, and had a very difficult time getting in/out the doggy door I had a very difficult decision, I had to say goodbye to Milo. He knew what I was thinking, and it was ok with him, it was his time, and we both knew it. I could not stand the idea of him freezing on a cold winter’s night.
It breaks my heart that I no longer have Milo as a companion, but I know he’ll be there to greet me some where, some time down the road. We just never know when that time will be.
Did I mention that I like most dogs better than I like most people?
“Did I mention that I like most dogs better than I like most people?” – haha, I definitely enjoy the company of dogs a lot more than most people as well, so you’re not alone. (And P.S. I run a website called lonerwolf, lol). I appreciate reading about these kindred spirits that have come into your life, Ken. They leave such a deep mark, don’t they? ♡
Thank You sincerely for telling that story. I wept when I read about Milo. I immediately felt the love between you and my tears are for the joy you had with each other and the memories that will always sustain you.
Thank You for moving me…
How beautiful! Since it resonates so nicely with a blog post from last week thecompassionategardener.com/trust-your-friend/ “Trust your friend”, which I have been told can truly be scarce for some.
Well, I can count them on one hand but they do exist…I remember that cleaning lady at COPE Foundation in Cork, Ireland who encouraged me to get out of this institution. Yes, I was needed but began wasting away in that closed unit for severely mentally disabled as a care assistant where my service was barely appreciated let alone validated. Oh, the clients were fine. In them I recognized often kindred spirits, while some of my former colleagues had buried or lost their hearts and Souls, sadly. Looking back, I am grateful to anyone that showed me kindness on my path to where I am today. :-)
Reading your comment left me with a thought, DD: if we want to find more kindred spirits in life, one of the simplest ways is to simply be kind. Kindness doesn’t cost anything other than a little vulnerability or “20 seconds of courage,” but it can pay off in *so* many ways. Thank you for reading and sharing ♡
I agree kindness can pay off in so many ways. Since my accident 4 years ago, and literally losing everything, including almost my entire family. I arose from the ashes, and started my rough but beautiful journey of my soul enlightenment. Once I was able to get about, I started to go out and find those who seemed lost or disenchanted with life. I would start a conversation with them, before they knew it they were telling me their life story. In the end I would leave them with a simple message. You awesome, you are loved, and don’t let anyone tell you different. A hug usually ended the meeting and we went our separate ways.
I have always had the gift of people feeling at ease with me. Even before my accident. I only realized what affects it had on people afterwards.
Words of warning though, not everyone appreciates kindness. Some people are so caught up in their own misery they are not receptive to it. In fact they will do everything in their power to remove you from their surroundings. This is when I pray extra hard for them. For they no not what they do. Nor what they truly desire.
My prayer for my enemies and my friends
God bless you.
May God work with the Holy Spirit, to allow Jesus to speak the word of God into your heart. May God help you understand the words Jesus speaks. Amen.
For me it overstates, the oneness of the trinity, which BTW, I feel we are all a part of that same oneness.
Many of our deities, in my opinion, are the same across, most if not all religions. They may take on different characteristics, but they all seem to convey the same message. It’s all about Love. Including loving yourself.
Yep, kindred spirits are not so scarce. Thanks for writing about this!
Indeed I have found at least one kindred spirit among my coworkers almost everywhere I have worked so far. And yes, I know them (or feel them) and they know it, too, and it’s great to have them, and work with them, it makes everyday life a lot easier. We don’t have to say much, in fact I don’t speak much and generally they don’t, either. But I think it’s safe to say yes, we know each other.
I still keep contact to some of them although I left the work places long ago. Its great, it’s such a relief. And: they are not necessarily my age. One of them is the age of my kids, and others are older, but we are kindred spirits anyway.
Yes, the age part is so true Sabine. Kindred spirits can be any age, they don’t necessarily need to be within your age group. Most kindred spirits, for me at least, have been older than me. Maybe it’s an old soul thing. :)