True story. I was that weird kid who got chosen last in sports teams, sat alone in her room for hours reading Victorian gothic books, collected spider webs and paper bags, and listened to doom metal as a teenager.
I was like something out of a Tim Burton film.
Jesting aside, yeah, Iโve had periods of life where Iโve hung around lots of people. But Iโve always had a lone wolf personality and loved my solitude. Iโve always felt the calling to walk my own true path.
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Unfortunately, being a lone wolf carries a certain taboo in our society.ย
Just look at all the psychotic shooters and criminals who are called โlone wolvesโ in big capital letters in the news. Weโre conditioned by the media to fear what we donโt understand.
The reality is that the desire for solitude isnโt just normal, but it can actually be healthy and beneficial to society.ย
It can signify someone who is deeply in touch with their authentic self โ who wonโt be swayed by social norms and demands.ย
Also, it can point to someone who has the ability to make a unique contribution to this planet because they think and live differently.
Of course, there are obviously weaknesses to the lone wolf personality (e.g., toxic individualism when taken to the extreme). But there are many blessings to this temperament as well.
Are you a weird person because you prefer to be alone?ย
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Table of contents
- 7 Signs of the Lone Wolf Personality (and Your Gifts)
- 1. Youโre a solitary person who loves being alone
- 2. Youโre a rebel who resists conforming to social norms
- 3. Youโre an autodidact โ someone who loves to learn alone
- 4. Youโre independent and self-reliant
- 5. You prefer quality over quantity in your relationships
- 6. You highly prize freedom above all elseย
- 7. Youโre deep-thinking and introspective
- (Bonus) 8. Youโre a soul searcherย
- Lone Wolf Personality Positives and Negatives
7 Signs of the Lone Wolf Personality (and Your Gifts)
You have two choices in your life;
You can dissolve into mainstream,
or you can be distinct.
To be distinct,
You must be different.
To be different,
You must strive
to be what no-one else
but you can be.
โ Francis Phillip Wernig
How many of these signs can you relate to?
1. Youโre a solitary person who loves being alone
Your gift is the ability to listen to your inner self and develop greater self-awareness.
In pretty much every situation, you opt to be alone. Even in close relationships, you need a lot of solitary time and space to yourself to maintain your sanity.
Spending time by yourself makes you feel calm, connected to your deeper nature, and paradoxically more connected with life. On the other hand, too much time around others causes you to feel tense, overwhelmed, and burned out.ย
By spending a lot of time by yourself, you develop a greater sense of self-awareness than the socialites around you because you have space to listen and hear your inner self.
2. Youโre a rebel who resists conforming to social norms
Your gift is the ability to see life from unique perspectives that can initiate change and transformation in the outer world.
As someone with a lone wolf personality, youโre naturally a rebel who stands outside of the mainstream. Long ago, you realized that following the status quo doesnโt fulfill your deeper needs or desires. And so you seek to walk your own true path.
Being a freethinker, you like to find new ways of living and being, and this gives you a unique vantage point.ย
Standing on the outside looking in, you notice issues and flaws within โthe way things are,โ and this gives you unique and powerful perspectives that can break, shake, and awaken others from โthe norm.โ
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3. Youโre an autodidact โ someone who loves to learn alone
Your gift is the ability to master unique skills and gather information that others may not know about.
The Cambridge Dictionary defines autodidact as โa person who teaches himself or herself, rather than being taught by a teacher.โ
Youโre someone with a thirst for learning and gathering knowledge. But the reality is that you donโt like/fit into the mainstream schooling, college, and university systems โ they just feel too limiting and claustrophobic to your lone wolf personality.
The independent-minded rebel within you resists studying under a teacher or group. Why follow their narrow, established path when there are infinite possibilities around you?
You prefer to be self-taught and to learn alone, preferably with a hot beverage, in a cozy space, undisturbed.ย
4. Youโre independent and self-reliant
Your gift is the ability to meet your own needs and develop a strong character.
There are many ways independence and self-reliance have been pathologized in modern society (think of the โavoidantโ attachment style or the โschizoโ personality).
Sure, for some solitary folks, that may be the case. However, learning to be independent and meeting your own needs is also a sign of maturity. Being overly dependent on others can not only burden them (think of codependency), but it can also limit your (and their) personal power and autonomy.
If you have a lone wolf personality, youโll enjoy breaking away from relying too much on others, systems, and institutions to meet your needs. Being self-sufficient and retaining personal freedom is of utmost importance to you.
5. You prefer quality over quantity in your relationships
Your gift is the ability to develop meaningful connections when and if you choose them.
Being in large groups of people irks you, and you particularly detest large extended family gatherings, social events, and work conferences.
Rather than trying to befriend everyone and anyone, you tend to be a reserved person who sits back and prefers observing others rather than getting overly involved.
Overall, youโre extremely picky when it comes to forming personal connections. Youโre not an โopen bookโ who tends to โwear your heart on your sleeve.โ But this is because you prefer quality over quantity in your relationships.
Having just one close person in your life is way more important to you than ten acquaintances.
6. You highly prize freedom above all elseย
Your gift is the ability to walk a path that feels true and fulfilling.
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Freedom is one of your core values, and you will do your damnedest to avoid being trapped in modern ways of being (think the consumerism cycle or the 9-5 work day).
As a free spirit, youโre drawn to ways of life that give you the freedom to do what you want, when you want, as you want. Your priority is to have freedom of mind, time, and energy.
If you find yourself in an oppressively limiting way of life (like a job you hate), you will feel more deeply disturbed by this fact than perhaps the people around you, who seem to have โaccepted their lotโ and continue their daily drudgery on autopilot.
Youโll fight tooth and nail to find freedom from entrapping situations. And if youโve been worn down through years of social servitude, youโll still retain an inner fire to find freedom somehow.
Having a lone wolf personality, youโll feel called to unusual ways of life, like self-employment, financial freedom, sustainable ways of life, early retirement, off-the-grid living, and minimalism.
On an inner soul level, youโll feel drawn to finding freedom from suffering through avenues like inner work, meditation, and various spiritual healing paths. You desire to heal old wounds that keep you stuck and trapped in oppressive cycles of pain.
7. Youโre deep-thinking and introspective
Your gift is the ability to discover what truly matters in life and be a person with a high degree of self-knowledge.
One of the reasons you love spending time by yourself is that it gives you the opportunity to think and to be.ย
Thereโs so much noise and stimulation in daily life that alone time gives you the ability to come back home to yourself โ to discover how you feel and what you need. In a world of 24/7 connection, this is somewhat of a rarity.
The ability to introspect requires silence, stillness, and solitude, and youโll find that you regularly crave these three qualities. When you canโt get enough of them, you may feel irritable, anxious, and disconnected from yourself and life.
(Bonus) 8. Youโre a soul searcherย
Your gift is the ability to explore the unknown realms within yourself.
Having a lone wolf personality means that you stand out from the crowd and struggle to fit into society as we know it.ย
Usually, this results in some kind of inner calling to go searching for something โmore,โ as youโll feel a deep sense of dissatisfaction with daily life.
This spiritual calling is common to loners and solitary folks. Just look at some of the most famous spiritual figures throughout history who felt that call, like Jesus in the desert, Buddha as a wandering ascetic, and Muhammad in Mount Hira โ all spent a lot of time in solitude.
Solitude is powerful (itโs one of the reasons why I co-wrote the short and simple Power of Solitude ebook), and it can reveal what our souls truly yearn for deep down.
As a lone wolf, youโll likely be called at some point in life to be a soul searcher and spiritual wanderer.
Your preference for alone time will serve you well as you go on a quest to discover your meaning of life and True Nature.ย
Lone Wolf Personality Positives and Negatives
There are positives and negatives to having a lone wolf personality.ย
On one hand, we may refuse help when we need it, be a little too individualistic, appear unfriendly at times, and alienate others without knowing it.ย
But on the other hand, weโre also deeply loyal, introspective, and free-minded people with a unique vantage point on what is and isnโt working in the current system and overculture.ย
To me, the goal is to learn how to be both independent and interdependent โ just as a wolf itself is both a pack creature and knows how to fend for itself alone, hence why โlone wolfโ is such an intriguing paradoxical concept. It points to integration and accepting both sides of ourselves.
Tell me, do you have a lone wolf personality? What other signs would you add to this list if you were given the chance? Share below!ย
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Oh my! Each and every sentence in this article speaks volumes about who I am and my truth! Thank you for not only this wonderful article, but your entire site. As you said, “a wolf itself is both a pack creature and knows how to fend for itself alone.” Your site here serves as the global pack for all of us lone wolves!
Beautiful! Thank you for being a part of this community, Steph. Alone, together. ;)