The spiritual ego is the most dangerous type of ego of all.
If you aren’t mindful, it can wreak total destruction in your life – but not in a violent or aggressive way. Instead, the spiritual ego is disguised under the mask of “good intentions,” “higher vibration,” “awakened perspective,” and humble pomposity.
Beware of the spiritual ego. Watch out for spiritual narcissism.
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Spiritual egotism is a trap that many of us spiritual seekers can and will fall into at some point (whether internally or externally through the hands of others).
On a personal level, the longer we remain in the stagnant standstill of spiritual egotism, the more likely we are to turn into a spiritual narcissist.
Indeed, spiritual narcissism is perhaps the most tragic malady to befall humanity of all and the worst pitfall we can experience on our spiritual awakening journeys.
We’ll explore why a little later in this article. But first, let’s explore what the spiritual ego is exactly and how it evolves into spiritual narcissism.
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What is the Spiritual Ego?
Firstly, let’s touch on the basics. What is the ego? The ego is our separate sense of self or the illusory “I” story that we carry around in the world as an evolutionary survival mechanism.
Yet, while the separate sense of self (“me, myself, I”) helps us to distinguish ourselves from others and therefore survive, it is also the source of all our suffering when we take this separate self seriously.
Why is the ego the source of our suffering? When we feel like small and separate little islands, we feel innately cut off from our true home and True Nature which is boundless, whole, and not subject to birth or death (i.e., it is infinite). Ancient spiritual traditions have called this Divine essence Spirit, God/dess, Higher Self, Life, Oneness, Christ Consciousness, Nondual Awareness, and so on.
So what is the spiritual ego? The spiritual ego builds on top of this fundamental ego that we carry around – it is the ego on crack, the ego on steroids, and the ego inflated beyond its usual garden-variety size.
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Yet the unfortunate and rather tragic thing is that many people often don’t realize that they’ve developed a spiritual ego until shit hits the proverbial fan.
How Does the Spiritual Ego Develop?
The spiritual ego is a product of spiritual materialism – that is, using spirituality to serve the ego, instead of approaching the spiritual path with the intent of trying to move beyond the ego.
When spiritual paths, practices, and concepts become a slave of the ego, the spiritual ego is born. In other words, when a person’s central idea about themselves is ruled by the belief that they’re a “spiritual person,” this is the spiritual ego.
When being a “spiritual person” eclipses all else that a person is, this is the spiritual ego in action. Yes, there are positive benefits to building your identity around spirituality. But there are also some pretty scary consequences that we shouldn’t ignore.
The Development of Spiritual Narcissism
Walking the spiritual path properly is a very subtle process; it is not something to jump into naively. There are numerous sidetracks which lead to a distorted, ego-centered version of spirituality; we can deceive ourselves into thinking we are developing spiritually when instead we are strengthening our egocentricity through spiritual techniques. This fundamental distortion may be referred to as spiritual materialism.
– Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche
Spiritual narcissism is the very culmination of spiritual egotism: it is the ego that has become so solid, so fixed, so unyielding in the idea of its own spiritual greatness that it is pathological. It is narcissistic.
As we know already, narcissism is a mental disorder where a person has an inflated sense of their own importance (amongst several other spiky issues). The exact same problem applies to spiritual narcissists: they have such an unwavering belief in their own awakened perspective, their own “special” spiritual achievements and knowledge, that they cannot connect with (or tolerate) their humanity.
Spiritual narcissists cannot tolerate other people either – even though they may fine-tune the external image of being compassionate or wise – others ultimately pose a threat to their delusional grandiosity.
Spiritual narcissism begins with spiritual materialism. Within spiritual materialism (the trap of using spirituality to serve the ego), there is always a seed of spiritual narcissism. And if that seed keeps being fed without going unchecked, without being uprooted or challenged, it grows and grows.
Eventually, we can become so sidetracked, so deluded by the ego that has used spirituality to make itself indestructible, that we are worse off on the spiritual path than when we began.
Examples of the Spiritual Ego
So what does the spiritual ego look like in action, and how does it corrupt our spiritual awakening paths?
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Below I’ll share a few examples that are commonly seen in the spiritual community – and while some of them are borderline spiritually narcissistic, others are flat-out expressions of spiritual narcissism. Let’s look at some examples of the spiritual ego:
- Claiming to have “special access” to a spirit guide/angel/spirit/ascended master for the purposes of self-aggrandizement
- Believing oneself to be the reincarnation of a superior being, famous spiritual historical figure, etc., and broadcasting that to everyone
- Taking frequent pictures of one’s spiritual practice and posting them online in order to boost one’s self-image, status, and gain attention or validation
- Declaring that others can’t possibly understand you because you have attained a certain state of ‘high vibrational awareness,’ awakening, liberation, etc. – and showing contempt for those who aren’t at the same ‘level’ (instead of being compassionate)
- Using Dharma-talk to avoid being psychologically vulnerable, showing empathy, and facing human emotions (e.g., “Just let go and let be,” “You attracted that experience,” “Who is there to experience this?”)
- Looking down on “low vibe,” “unevolved,” “unawakened,” and “asleep” people
- Boasting about and flaunting spiritual achievements or gifts (e.g., amazing mystical experiences, clairvoyant abilities, yoga certifications, etc.)
- Imitating what a “spiritual person” looks and sounds like
You get the picture.
I’m sure you can think of a few more examples, and you’re welcome to share them in the comments below.
15 Signs of the Spiritual Narcissist
The spiritual ego is so dangerous because it is nearly impenetrable, and that makes the spiritual narcissist a special flavor of dangerous.
People can spend their entire lives (or lifetimes) stuck in the trap of unknowingly misusing spiritual words, ideas, practices, and paths to inflate their egos.
Sadly, the spiritual ego can result in instances of abuse and even murder, such as the Jonestown tragedy, the abuse committed by Bikram Choudhury (founder of Bikram yoga), Swami Rama (Indian yogi), Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh (spiritual teacher), Sogyal Rinpoche, Andrew Cohen, and even Chogyam Trungpa (who coined spiritual materialism), and so on. The cases of spiritual ego are so wide and varied that they are impossible to include here.
The reality is that as spiritual beings having a human experience, we are imperfect. Hell, I’ve fallen into the spiritual ego numerous times – and it’s not pretty. But the crucial thing is to practice humility, openness, and the willingness to be honest with ourselves (all hallmarks of authentic shadow work) – these qualities are the best defense against spiritual egotism and narcissism.
So, without further ado, here are signs of the spiritual ego that has evolved into a spiritual narcissist that you need to look out for (both within yourself and others):
- Overly publicizing (aka., boasting about) special spiritual accomplishments
- Claiming a stance of superiority (directly or indirectly) due to one’s spiritual gifts or talents
- Attempting to transcend the physical/earthly and take on godlike qualities
- Believing that one’s connection with the Divine is somehow deeper or more special than other people’s connection
- Focusing on how “more spiritually evolved” one is to others and …
- Judging others for being “less awakened,” “asleep,” “unconscious”
- Attempting to look like, dress, and sound like a “spiritual” person
- Using spiritual words and concepts to avoid being wrong, mistaken, or facing vulnerable emotions
- Flaunting how spiritual one is on social media (with photos that demonstrate spiritual postures, setups, locations, tools, etc.)
- Becoming overly identified with spiritual knowledge (and how much “you” know)
- Trying to convert people to one’s perception (preaching to them or debating)
- Resistance to being “called out” and resenting those who try to do this
- Claiming access to special and exclusive spiritual knowledge that others can’t access, and only they can access (e.g., such as through having a kundalini awakening, being a psychic healer, being a channeller of some higher being, etc.)
- Lack of curiosity and receptivity to life
- Wearing a mask of niceness, positivity, or wisdom
Essentially, those trapped in the hell realms of spiritual egotism frequently try to reaffirm their spiritual specialness to the world through covert and overt methods.
While spotting a spiritual narcissist “in the wild” is fairly easy, seeing these tendencies within ourselves is much harder. Why? The answer is that when we’re so close to and identified with a pattern of behavior that brings us some sense of satisfaction, we find ways of justifying and perpetuating its existence.
Why Are Spiritual Narcissists So Dangerous?
Quite simply, spiritual narcissists are so dangerous because they’re dressed in robes of light. They appear to be awakened, illuminated, wise, and all-loving on the surface – but beneath the facade is power-hungry delusion and darkness.
None of us are beyond the possibility of becoming spiritual narcissists if we aren’t mindful.
What makes the spiritual ego so dangerous is that it makes us feel all-powerful, even untouchable. And as such, to challenge the spiritual ego challenges the very foundations of our own self-worth and self-image – and that can be positively terrifying (which makes the spiritual ego so tricky and, therefore, dangerously unyielding).
In fact, we can even feel like we’re committing a profane and sacrilegious act by calling out the spiritual ego because it’s so inflated and has such a good opinion of itself (a delusion which that we have entirely bought into).
Not only that, but the spiritual ego is also dangerous because it limits all growth: it is the death of any transformation because to evolve means to go through the cycles of death and rebirth. And if the spiritual ego has “already arrived,” there is a stasis, there simply cannot be any more growth.
In fact, the deadliest virus on our paths is to believe that “we’ve arrived,” have become “enlightened,” or somehow spiritually superior to others. The ego has not only become narcissistic, but it has developed a full-blown God Complex or the state of believing that one is, in actual fact, God. But this is not in an egoless, non-dual way (non-duality also being subject to the same dire issues): this is pure ego-centrism, the very definition of darkness or the absence of light.
The more ego-based we are, the further we are from the Light of Consciousness, which goes beyond the self. Furthermore, if residing in the ego equals a disconnection from the Divine, living from a place of ego-centric God Complex goes one step further: it is like living in total darkness – the very definition of hell.
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When a person is living in hell, they will harm others – this is basic knowledge that even a child can understand. When there is a total absence of light, there is only darkness – and how can a person see, feel, think, or behave clearly in such a state? The result is suffering, both for the one experiencing the God Complex and for those unfortunate souls happening to be in the proximity of the spiritual narcissist.
How to Stop the Spiritual Ego
As I mentioned previously, we need to approach the spiritual path with humility, openness, and the willingness to be honest with ourselves.
A crucial place to start is by practicing a combination of self-love and shadow work – two central inner work practices.
We all have a shadow side (i.e., the face of the ego that isn’t presented to the public), and we need to become aware of it in order to prevent issues such as spiritual egotism and narcissism from arising.
If you would like to learn more about shadow work, see our free shadow work guide.
To guard against spiritual egotism and narcissism, you can start by asking yourself questions such as:
- “If I saw someone else behave the way I do, what would I think of them?”
- “Am I willing to face my inner contradictions and hypocrisies? If there is resistance, what doesn’t the spiritual ego want me to see?”
- “In what areas do I feel spiritually superior to others?”
- “How consistent am I in what I feel, think, and do?”
You can also ask trusted friends, loved ones, or spiritual mentors to help point out areas where you might be falling into spiritual delusion. Regular introspective journaling (see our shadow work journal), is also another way of calling out the spiritual ego and guarding against becoming a spiritual narcissist.
Final Words
Guarding against the spiritual ego and learning how to identify spiritual narcissists on our spiritual journeys is of profound importance at every stage of our path.
Of all the spiritual traps and pitfalls we can fall into, spiritual narcissism is the worst because it not only endangers ourselves, keeping us stuck in a stagnating cesspool of darkness, but it also harms others by alienating, belittling, using, and dehumanizing them.
Along with sharpening our spiritual discernment and mindfulness (aka., having a clear mind), developing an open, humble, and honest heart is the key to preventing ourselves from either falling into the claws of spiritual narcissists – or becoming one ourselves.
May our minds be clear, and may our hearts be open always.
Tell me, what are your thoughts about spiritual narcissism and the spiritual ego? I’d love to hear about your experiences in the comments below. Also, feel free to suggest any methods that can help people guard against this spiritual trap.
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So true… now my share… the main question is ‘Can you laugh about yourself’? People who take themselves too seriously, are prone to narcissism. So are people who call other people narcissists. So are those who fight their ego, especially those who claim having vanquished the culprit.
Besides, what is wrong with the ego? Invite your shadow to dance. Just pretend it is in the lead, while you know ‘better’. Love this paradox :)
Hahah, love it Steven. Thank you for sharing, and for dancing :).
Hi Mateo, I have a question. I’ve read yours and Luna’s content on old souls vs. new souls (because it resonates for me and I identify with the experiences described) and I’m wondering if even making that distinction is a kind of spiritual narcissism? What is the benefit to identifying as an old soul? Is it not just another way of claiming a high ground, one that can neither be proved nor disproved?
Dear Hillary,
Thank you for the thoughtful question. You’re correct in thinking ‘old souls’ can be (and is often) used to create ‘spiritual elitism’. The issue is that there genuinely are people who feel (and often externally reflect) a deeper understanding and maturity than others yet it’s this very trait that makes them feel isolated and like outsiders.
As pointed out in previous articles, it’s necessary to first have a healthy well-developed ego before we can think of ‘transcending’ it. And terms like ‘Old Soul’ provide a sort of map to help them understand themselves better and find some level of stability to initiate their journey. As the journey progresses these labels mean less and less and are naturally dropped but they’ll always be those who cling to the labels as oppose to continuing deeper into the journey.
I hope that clears it up :).
Thank you kindly for the response, Mateo, it is helpful. I searched and found Luna’s article on poorly developed sense of self – this will be a good one for me to digest and integrate. Thank you both for the work you do.
Thank you kindly for the reply, Mateo, it was helpful. I searched and found Luna’s article on poorly developed sense of self. This will be a good one for me to digest and integrate. Thank you both for the work you do.
If you are using your mind, you aren’t being spiritual from a place of egolessness. Everything you do, you make a decision based on instinct. The more spiritually connected you are, the more you trust and rely on your gut, not your mind(to make decisions)
Most spiritual teachers are hermits or very selective, because, like Jesus, their powers and skills would get them idolized quickly. Then their message is warped.
Jesus was an awakened being.
Christianity is a warped retelling of his spiritual life.
Look at Mooji. He is a spiritual being but you can see how his followers are idolizing him, which only blocks their own path. I can see the frustration in his videos where his message is warped.
True spirituality isn’t announced or broadcast. It is humble and personal. I realize just me posting this is ego, but this article really helps me see the spiritual community here in Portland differently. It is almost all Narcissistic on some level.
Which is interesting, as it means “Spiritual Leaders” may actually be holding people back from their growth, as Mateo alluded to.
If you want to grow spiritually? It is very simple, and will cost nothing and actually save you money:
1. Eat One Meal A Day and discover fasting. Eat the healthiest food you can find. (The gut’s health is vital) Stop all drugs, including alcohol.
2. Sit and do nothing every day. That may include meditation, but it may also include just watching where your mind goes.
3. Connect with nature, ideally the ocean, Forest, Desert, etc. Each aspect of nature has an impact on our consciousness.
4. Know that things will get very uncomfortable. You will get very confused. You actually will understand less and less at the same time as you gain clarity. Frustration and boredom are all part of this path.
5. Surround yourself with positive energy. People that are supportive. Notes of encouragement. Music that lifts your heart. A clean and organized space. All will allow you to look inward in a much more disciplined life.
Have fun with it. It is a lot more fun in my experience than participating in how the world works now!
Thank you for this article!
Thank you Indy for sharing your wisdom, I love the advice, I hope many follow it. :)
I just want to thank you for the feedback that you gave. The time and effort it takes to respond is maybe motivated and stimulated by the ego driven consciousness to give its interpretation with a confident but not arrogant belief that it /you have attained the right amount of knowledge. wisdom. experience. and insight to be rightfully in a position to speak with the necessary credentials in indeed maybe you feel that you in fact have earned its stripes possibly with battle scars that cannot be concealed or hidden from the world, unfortunate circumstances and unsupported witnesses , and no advocate in sight but your own true knowing being the only witness to your heart and believing that god must know your truest self and he dwells with you never and leaves you right? and is eagerly awaiting for you to reclaim your own power back, stamina, strength, fearlessness, bravery, Indeed ready for your return and communication with the universe again and prepare to walk among-st the land of the living like you have for 33 years and never foresaw a force so strong that it took you out of society for 365 days lol but this is just hypothetical guesstimates you hit a concrete wall at full speed not once but twice. ” Alice Cooper” NO more Mr.Nice guy sums up your current feelings towards others. viewed by those as unstable, unpredictable ,untrustworthy ,dangerous, a potential loose cannon ,24 hour surveillance and consistent monitoring is how your closest contacts see you its hilarious but heart breaking and took a minute to shake off the shock and distress when coming to understand that the events that took place are mentally wearing me out in all my inner defenses to stand my ground and state my complete awareness and control being fully aware that i am talking out loud lol not of normal behavior but being caught at two in the morning talking to the sky highly qualifies for such dramatized thoughts and feelings i hope anyone no matter what the emotional or physiological pain may be in affliction to has the understanding and can be grateful and see them selves as blessed for having at least one person in their life who they can talk to, vent to, without fear of judgement who is spiritually connected in understanding. being able to relate and offer compassion, defense, protection, advocate for if ever found in an undesirable situation where it helps to have someone who always has your back and believes in you. sense of safety at least one person who the fear of judgement doesn’t plague you. being in a position where you have to be your own advocate is tough .its a tough defense i just pray daily seeking god seeking those of like minded faith sand seeking each other . I had a very recent experience with the power of mind getting too far away from me it has been devastating. and i have felt a new level of hopelessness and despair in my depressional darkness that seems everlasting battling since early childhood excitement and the possibility of believing that anything is possible for one who believes took me to the highest skies and heart warming awe and shock that the power of the lord could in fact be that magical and it would be a sin to keep the adversary in the forefront of the mind being quick to be a skeptic naysayer nonbeliever denying the lord of his so called mighty power that he promised to Jeremiah in the book of Ezekiel how he has the power to ,make these things he promised possible and to connect to the oneness which ive felt it i have reached a higher vibration not in the lower states of consciousnesses e trying to understand what i was to learn from all of this how to overcome and heal the new afflictions of my soul. pain retching soul devastation., feeling so close, so connected, saved , safe, fearless, relief, shock, blessed, lucky, gifted, loved, etc etc such high emotions with states of pure ecstasy, never felt that close to a high power ever, didn’t think it could be dreamed let alone deemed possible, even in the most sinister way being capable of producing that much joy, whether the intent or lesson was to be decieving hell i didn’t know the sober mind i mean stone cold sober neither drink nor drug induced state of ecstasy could be reached anyway time to wrap this up… thank you….. good luck in the year of the rat
I’m on the same path of this topic plz I’m seeking your help because I end up loosing everything in life
This topic kinda touched a nerve I seems to be my favorite word looking at myself honestly is difficult going to continue with self-love work knowing more work is needed
When there’s a nerve that’s touched, there’s enough rawness to heal it in a healthy way. I’m glad you found the article useful Terrilyn :)
Spiritual Egotism or narcissism is a new concept to me. However, it explains 100% why I loathe so-called “spiritual people” and why I’ve always found it extremely uncomfortable to be in their presence. Thanks.
I believe Im in the long path now, I’ve been here for years.
Its so confussing, because I know that I never used to be this nasty person to eveyone around me.
I’ve been through life isnt worth it anymore, I hate getting up, hate being around certain people and tried to end my life a few times years ago.
I’ve moved on from that since i have 3 beautiful children that I can’t even handle anymore, i know it sounds terrible but thats just how it it.
Its like I’m aggitated just about every day I feel like this.
I hate being like this, my partner tells me all the time to snap out of it. Finally now that I know what it is, I can be on the verge of trying to fix it!!!! The question for you is HOW?? I ABSOLUTELY HATE BEING TRAPPED FROM MY OWN HAPPINESS!!! I want to be in conrol of my life again..
Not only I want to be happy again, but my children and my partner deserve someone to spoil them with love!!!
Yes totally understand and agree with you on the this like listening to myself
@Loolaa, Hey there, it sounds like your thoughts might be a good place to start. It is difficult, and will take time and effort and consistency, but it is possible. You may be blocking your own happiness because face it, thoughts can be very powerful and self fulfilling prophesies. The word hate is a very strong word. When I was little, I would tell my grandfather that I hated this or that, and he would respond the same way each time, “You don’t hate.” Perhaps take time to reflect and speak words of gratitude, being thankful for the good things that you have, every day. Even the things that we don’t really appreciate are lessons in some way, so we can feel gratitude for them as well, even if it’s not so pleasant. Take time to observe natural beauty in the world. You might see certain things every day and get used to them, but even those things shouldn’t be taken for granted. If you take small steps each day, by changing the way you look at things, you might start to feel better. I wish you peace, love, and harmony.
hello again family
i would like add to my last comment. i know i drag myself down with all the bs that i say and think. my wife ended up divorcing me as i was pretty messed up. the harsh reality of living in my world through my eyes is……. i can’t make any sense out
of the rubbish that goes on in my mind. i remember some nights where i simply just cry and think ” is living really worth it ?” i feel so……. lost and i am truly sad and just broken. i just need to cry…… you know what i mean ? it really hurts……….
my heart hurts really bad. i feel so……. disconnected from the source or god or spirit. i don’t know what to call him/her or it. i have fallen so hard :'(
i don’t know what to write any more. sorry everyone :'(
hold onto hope luke. don’t lose hope yet. just pick yourself up off the ground, dust yourself off and keep on trying and never give in, never say die. i can do this and i will. jim carrey said that faith gives you the ability to leap over the fire and hope will only drag you through the fire. faith is important yes…….. but why not hold onto hope and be transformed and reborn within the fire. just like a fiery phoenix rising from the ashes of the eternal flame. rebirth and renewal, spreading its wings and taking flight. any way…… sorry again
take care, be safe and many blessings and much love to you all
from Luke
p.s. ” small things become great when done with love ” <3
Greetings again Loner Wolf Family
Sadly, I did fall into this trap of the spiritual ego. Thinking to myself… ” I am so special and divine ” and also ….. ” I’ve ascended to a whole new level of awareness ”
like wtf is that thinking all about ? Yeah. I know all too well about my messed up mind and the way it thinks. What is real spirituality any way ? I wouldn’t have a clue
and in all honesty…… my life is a total mess. No job, No longer living with my wife and kids, No house, No car etc….. My mind has become a battlefield and I have basically become my own worst enemy. The continuing thoughts of taking my own life plagues my thinking every day now. I try to understand it all……. but I just can’t seem to make any sense out of walking my so-called spiritual path. All the delusional ideas and thinking in my mind….. feeling very special and important…..
feeling and thinking that I am “chosen of God” and thinking I am on some sort of important spiritual mission from the divine. Like Oh Em Gee !!!! I see how the
spiritual ego works now. This is me being honest okay. I do admit my weaknesses and my many mistakes and my many bad and selfish choices. An egotistical so-called spiritual man ? Yep…… I will say that is basically how my mind thinks now
Nice article Sol Lots of Love to you and Luna and the family too
From Luke <3
This is soo true. I’ve been going through this situation. I never knew its dangerous. I’m just fed up with my life. I can’t live with my expectations. Everything is just opposite to my wish. I wonder why this is happening to me. All are living their way of life. But I can’t have such happiness
Thank you for sharing your experience Anithaed. Perhaps its time to drop the expectations you may have of yourself and others. I’ve found that as a general rule, all growth comes with a process of ‘destruction’, or braking away the old to make way for the new. Often those who you describe as happy have either already gone through it, or a static and stagnant in their growth (ignorance is bliss as they say).