Every man is a divinity in disguise, a god playing the fool.
― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Through the ages, the Higher Self has been given many names: the inner Self, Soul, Christ-consciousness, Beloved, Buddha-nature, and Spirit. Regardless of what we call this fundamental inner Core, it is our deepest, most Divine essence.
Yet despite being familiar with these concepts, many of us still struggle to understand the Higher Self and its role in our lives. In other words, how can we transform this topic from an intellectual concept into a feeling that we experience?
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What is the Higher Self?
The Higher Self is your True Nature: it is your wise, unconditionally loving, creative, Whole, and eternal inner Center. Deep down, we all carry a certain level of resonance with these words. We recognize that there is something mysterious within us, something sacred. What few of us manage to come to terms with, however, is that our Higher Self totally goes beyond our conditioned fears, limiting beliefs, wounds, and ego fixations. It actually represents our most authentic state of being that we’ve lost touch with in modern life. While our Higher Selves are completely free, they can be blocked, repressed, and denied by the limited ego (or small self).
The Shaman & the Lake Story
You are an aperture through which the universe is looking at and exploring itself. Through our eyes, the universe is perceiving itself. Through our ears, the universe is listening to its harmonies. We are the witnesses through which the universe becomes conscious of its glory, of its magnificence.
― Alan W. Watts (The Book)
I want to share with you a story that will help illustrate what the Higher Self is:
Once there was a Great Ocean. All of existence was birthed from this Great Ocean, lived off this Great Ocean, and returned back to this Great Ocean. In the beginning, millions upon millions of tiny rivers sprung from this Great Ocean. Each river snaked across the land like delicate veins. But one day, a great drought came. No one saw it coming. The scorching sun dried up each snaking river so greatly that they all turned into lakes. No longer were they connected to the Great Ocean, so they felt great loneliness and isolation. As time went by, each little lake became more and more depressed, forgetting the Great Ocean.
One day, a shaman came to drink from one of the lakes. He noticed that it was depressed. “Why are you so sad?” he asked. The lake, despondent and gloomy responded, “Because I am nearly dried up and there is little water left. Time is running out. Soon I will be gone forever.” The Shaman peered intently at the lake and laughed hysterically. “Silly lake, don’t you know that you are connected to the Great Ocean? Although you change, you are changeless. Your water evaporates and returns back to the Great Ocean. It is then reborn, repurposed, and redistributed. How can you live or die? You are birthless and deathless. You are in all things. You are all things.”
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This story is the best way I can think to describe the Higher Self.
We are all like the lakes in this story. We believe that we are separate, isolated and cut off because of the ego. But something within us (the Shaman) continuously drives us closer to the truth through the voice of intuition, instinct, and deep knowing.
Eventually in life we have an illuminating moment of self-realization or remembrance: that we are rivers that are connected to the Great Ocean. The river represents the Higher Self. The Great Ocean represents Spirit, Source, or Oneness.
‘Benefits’ of Connecting With Your Higher Self
Here are some inevitable benefits of reconnecting with your True Nature. In fact, I prefer to think of these “benefits” as “semi-permanent to permanent shifts of being” depending on how strong the encounter is:
- Lowered or completely diminished anxiety
- Lowered or completely diminished depression
- Openness and receptivity to life
- Creativity and inspiration
- Enhancement of intuition and spiritual/personal gifts
- Greater tolerance and patience
- No longer fearing death
- Developing a mystical perception of life
- Cultivating unconditional love for self and others
These “benefits” touch only the tip of the iceberg when it comes to experiencing your Higher Self! Because the experience is so individualized and personal, we all taste different benefits to varying degrees.
11 Ways to Reconnect With Your Higher Self
I first encountered my Higher Self during an intensely traumatic shamanic experience. In this encounter, I lived through what felt like hell.
All of my deepest fears were exposed and laid completely bare in front of me.
For about an hour or more I experienced waves of the purest forms of anxiety, paranoia, terror, insanity, and loneliness imaginable. Despite constantly feeling on the verge of madness, I managed to surrender and accept what was happening. This shamanic experience awakened me to the existence of my Higher Self, or what I prefer to call “Divine Nature.”
Thankfully traumatic experiences aren’t the only way to reconnect with your Higher Self, however!
Other people encounter the Higher Self during activities such as meditation, fasting, wilderness retreats, dreams, visions, or even near-death/out of body experiences. However, for everyone the situation or technique is different — there is definitely no one “prescribed” way to experience the Higher Self. Sometimes, we experience our Higher Selves in completely spontaneous and ordinary circumstances!
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Here are some paths and practices that may help you reconnect with your Higher Self:
1. Discover the face of your Higher Self
What does your Sacred Self look like or resemble? You might like to use visualization, inner journeying, or self-hypnosis to help you with this. Although your Higher Self is ultimately beyond all labels and forms, it helps to have a visual depiction to aid the human mind.
2. What does your Higher Self feel like?
For example, when you have a mystical experience or a spontaneous meeting with this deeper part of you, what sensations arise within your body? How does your chest, belly, head, and body as a whole feel? You can also connect with your intuition to help you answer this question. As your intuition is the voice of your Soul/Higher Self, it provides direct access to this eternal part within you. Pay attention to what the voice of your intuition feels like within you. Is it a soft whisper? Perhaps it is a feeling of inner stillness, calmness, compassion, or deep knowing.
3. What message/s does your Higher Self have for you?
You might like to explore automatic writing, dream analysis, and even the use of oracle cards to connect with the messages of your Higher Self. You can also try developing more body awareness and use inner visceral mindfulness as a way of tuning in to present moment guidance. Meditation is another powerful way of connecting with the insight offered by your Higher Self.
4. Make time for silence and contemplation every day
Start with a minimum of 10 minutes daily. You can use this time to meditate or to simply revel in nature and the wonders of existence. What feelings or thoughts do you have during this time? You might like to record them in a journal.
5. Explore what things you can surrender or let go of
One of the biggest reasons why we struggle to connect with our Higher Selves is that we are carrying too much mental and emotional baggage. What needs to be surrendered and removed from your life? How can you practice letting go more? Introspect and examine what beliefs, ideals, assumptions, and/or conditionings are causing you to feel separate and unhappy.
6. In what ways can you accept and love yourself (and others) more?
Love opens your heart, and your heart is a direct doorway into your Soul. What could be a more powerful way of reconnecting with your True Nature? The more love you feel, the more life expands, and the more deeply you can embody your Higher Self. Learning how to love yourself is a crucial way to experience your True Nature. Ask yourself, “What within me needs to be held in the loving arms of compassion and self-forgiveness right now?”
7. Try non-resistance (“going with the flow”) for one day
Here’s an experiment: commit to allowing everything to happen as it happens, including your thoughts, emotions, and external circumstances. Try this for at least one day. How do you feel? The more we resist life, the more we are stuck within our dualistic minds. Non-resistance doesn’t mean being a push-over or doormat (it’s important to create boundaries and say no). Instead, non-resistance is a philosophy toward life. It honors reality – and the more connected we are with reality, the more access we have to our Higher Selves.
8. Discover who (or what) your Spirit Guide is
Spirit Guides are powerful beings that help us to connect with the truth, courage, wisdom, and love within us. Whether you believe them to be archetypes or actual independent energies is irrelevant: they can help you connect with your Higher Self by guiding you into rediscovering who you really are.
9. Find your soul place
We all have at least one soul place on earth. A soul place is a special site or spot where we experience unique feelings of belonging, empowerment, and energetic rejuvenation. Finding your soul place will help you to connect with your True Self by relaxing and slowing down your nervous system, as well as inspiring you to be introspective and mindful.
10. Practice mirror work
When you stare gently into your eyes in a mirror and call on the presence of your Soul, what do you feel? What do you experience? The eyes, after all, are the mirrors of the soul. See if you can gently move past the voices of self-judgment that naturally arise when doing this activity, and tap into your inner Source. This is a powerful and rapid way of reconnecting with your Higher Nature. Read more about mirror work.
11. Connect with the present moment
Awakening to your True Nature can only (and ever) happen right here, right now, in the present moment. This is the secret passed down through ancient traditions and spiritual teachings: Paradise is here within you, the Kingdom of Heaven is Now.
The difficulty we face is the monkey mind that is constantly running around, trying to get us to some special future place. But the beauty and ultimate compassion of Life is that you don’t have to find your Higher Self/Soul in the future: it’s right here within you!
Unfortunately, most of us struggle to settle into this simple but sacred truth. Our minds have such a strong grip on us that we can barely sit still for two seconds without squirming and trying to avoid how we feel. This is why a combination of spirituality and psychology is so important. We need psychology to help untie our inner knots, and we need spirituality to help loosen the mind. (See our article on spiritual psychology for more guidance.)
To connect with your Higher Self, try establishing a regular meditation practice. Explore different meditation techniques (such as following the breath, open awareness, body scan, self-inquiry, etc.) and see what works for you. Sometimes a combination of techniques works the best. If you need help, try downloading a free meditation app such as Calm, Headspace, or InsightTimer.
“Higher” Self is Not Exactly True
In fact, any label that describes That-Powerful-Presence-Within-Us isn’t correct as it both transcends and integrates all labels. On an absolute level, our True Nature simply is – it is beyond time, beyond duality, beyond even thought.
However, for the human mind it does help to refer to that Powerful Presence within us with a phrase such as Higher Self because it does indeed feel ‘higher’ than the ego (and so it is in a sense). But that is not all it is and we need to be careful of making the mistake of associating spirituality with nothing but the ascending, transcendent path.
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Remember that true spirituality, your True Nature, encompasses everything. It is here in the dull moments just as equally as it is in the ecstatic and blissful moments. It is here while you’re scrubbing dirty pans in the sink just as much as it is while you’re gazing at the stars.
Terms such as ‘Higher Self,’ ‘Buddha Nature,’ and ‘Soul’ are useful, but they’re ultimately limited. Who you are is so much more than a concept. Remember that as you seek to reconnect with the Truth of Who You Really Are.
Higher Self Q&A
The best way to listen to your Higher Self is by learning how to trust your intuition. Your intuition is like a conversation between your mind and heart: it communicates the deepest and wisest truths that you need to be aware of in the moment. Start by journaling about any intuitive ‘hits’ you’ve received during the day and check back on them. What happens when you listen to vs. ignore these intuitive tugs or gut instincts?
Yes. The ‘Soul‘ is just another way of saying Higher Self. These words can be used interchangeably.
Your lower self is your small, limited ego. It is the self that believes itself to be separate from existence. Your Higher Self, on the other hand, is your True Nature that recognizes itself as one drop in the Ocean of Life. While your lower self is defined by fear, isolation, and paranoia, your Higher Self is defined by love, interconnectedness, and expansion.
When reconnecting with your Higher Self, try to think carefully of deep and significant questions you’d like to be answered. Questions might include, “What is my life’s purpose?” “What are my gifts?” “Why do I keep repeating this negative pattern?” and so on. Remember that the answers may be revealed to you slowly, so be patient but receptive.
There are numerous ways of connecting with your Higher Self. Some paths you may like to consider include meditating, going out in nature, practicing dream work and mirror work, using oracle cards, doing guided visualizations, and so on. Choose a path that resonates with you.
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Learning to connect with and embody your Higher Self can completely transform the way you perceive yourself, other people, and life forever. For me, the experience was so profound that I’ve never looked at myself, or life, the same way ever since.
Have you ever “met” or experienced your Higher Self? What was it like for you?
Hey Luna & Sol,
I’m currently reading a book with a passage I thought you guys might like. The book is called ‘Finding Your Way Home’ by Melody Beattie. It says,
‘We want to go home.
It’s an itching, a longing, a yearning, a desire bordering on urgency- almost a cosmic movement.
We want to find our purpose, our right place, the right people to live and work with, the right work to do. We want to do more than discover why we’re here; we want to be doing and living what we came here to do with the people we came here to do it with. We want to come into alignment with our highest good and destiny.
We want to discover and live our soul’s purpose.
We want to bring out and use all the parts of us we’ve kept denied and tucked away. We don’t want to hear anything more about what we can’t do. We want to know what we can do, and then we want to do it well. Wr want to stop exploiting, and start exploring our gifts and talents, bringing them to the world.
And we want to enjoy doing it. We want to have fun. We’d like to make a little money, too. Maybe a lot. It’s not the money is the most important thing. We don’t want to be bought or sold. Selling our soul’s is what we want to stop doing. But we want enough. And maybe a little extra at the end of the month. We don’t want to worry about money anymore.
We’d like to feel good, do our art, be of service, we with people we love, people of like mind, maybe experience some joy, bliss, and euphoria, too. We want to be part of a team of high-minded soul mates on a similar mission at work; we want a few friends who are truly friends – belong to a tribe of kindred souls; and we want more than a relationship- we want a passionate love relationship with our twin flame soul mate.
Or we want to be happy and comfortable being alone.
We’re tired of feeling afraid and confused. We’d like to take some risks, but we’d like to feel safe, too. Protected. We want to live in a way that feels natural and right to us.
We want to he who we are, to be all that our souls came here to be.
We’re tired of straitjackets, limitations. And selling our souls for money or security. We want to bust loose- set our souls free, be in the right place at the right time, fulfill our mission, dance with destiny, and watch the Universe unfold at our feet.
We want enough drama and excitement to keep life interesting, but we want an abiding sense of peace underlying it all.
Karma and gravity have kept us bound and gagged long enough. We want to return to our spiritual roots. We want to learn to fly.
We want heaven- right here on earth.
We want to go Home.’
This really resonated with me. Anyways, love your guys’ website, I talk about it all the time.
Thanks a million,
Danielle
Beautifully written and touching. I struggle with non resistance & understanding how to set boundaries. If you have written more articles around that topic, I would be interested in reading them.
Hi! Thank you for your knowledge and expertise… By simply establishing a regular meditation practice, do the will of the higher self, God, Divinity at the present moment and letting the moment guide me, I experienced connecting to my higher self… And when the true soul path calls, it is best to listen… It always gives and receives the mind an ideas and the heart felt a spiritual confirmation of it… Trust and believe in my intuition that it’s my higher self that speaks about profound and extraordinary thing that I should be aware of in the moment… Thank you
Hi! I’m writing a thesis focusing on connecting to the higher self through mind, body, spiritual and creative processes in order to decrease depressive and anxious feelings/symptoms. I was wondering what sources you may be able to provide as I noticed you included lowered or completely diminished feelings of anxiety and depression as benefits to connecting with your higher self? If you have any further information I would love and appreciate being able to connect! In my own personal practice I have witnessed and observed healing through my connection spiritually, unfortunately that isn’t valid enough proof for a paper! Thank you for your time and expertise. And Thank you for these reassurance and resonating articles here on loner wolf!
Why is something so simple, so primal, overlooked by the majority of society? I once entered a state akin to what I can only term nirvana — no fear, no thoughts, just profound knowing. The mind is a tremendous asset, but also our worst enemy. True knowing does not require cognitive thought. I must remind myself of this in the human world. Your work is very important. Glad others are out though who “feel” life.
This reminds me of two intense occurrences I had with cannabis years ago. Hard to describe, it was like if you have two mirrors and you are watching a reflection of a reflection of yourself trying to perform a task; seeing everything as if from a distance. There was no joy, no bliss, no hob-nobbing with angels, no all encompassing unifying expansion of consciousness, no zooming off to the planet Xork or 10th dimension or any of that. It wasn’t frightening as much as disconcerting. I believe it was more like what Eckhardt Tolle, Ram Das and others speak about experiencing pure awareness. What’s more is that from time to time I’m “reminded” of these events on a much milder level. I don’t consider myself “awakened” at all. I’m not even sure if this has anything to do with this article. But I think there are things that seem to be much clearer than before, if only on an intellectual level.
Feels great. Cannot describe. Thank you for all of your insight
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What a truly articulate and educational article on knowing what our HIgher Self can look like and how to reach this very sweet spot.
Separating our ego from consciousness and wonderment is the first stage and achieving this has taken me 50 years so keep going!
Thank you Luna and Sol for your generous and unconditional love and generosity so we all can live in abundance — every day in every way we can imagine.
Thank you for your kind words, Pennie ♡
Do you have any recommendations for reputable people/places to learn more about shamanistic journey’s. I have always been interested in this but also hesitant to just go to a random person that I found off of the internet. I’m in the North East of the US. Any information you could share on this, or how to validate someone that I find online would be appreciated.
Hey Gina,
As I’m in Australia, I can’t give too much targeted info for those who live in America. All I can say is research, research, research – that’s the only way you will feel a sense of confidence when going on a shamanic journey. Go on forums, explore the recommendations of others, look into the pros and cons of any practitioners or practices you come across – Google will be your best friend.
Thank you so much for this insightful article alongside the practice tip (the release ritual) in the newsletter- exactly what I needed to hear at this exact time of my life!
Divine timing Maha! I’m so glad it’s what you need to hear at this exact time in your life. ♥
Dear Aletheia,
Thank you so much for this story article on how reconnecting with the higher self.
-Bill
Thank you Bill, I’m glad you enjoyed it :)
Thank you so much for the much needed article!
♥ it’s a pleasure to help Shruthi!
Thank you!
I used to chat to my higher self when I was age 7-10, I would always get tingly / goose bumps and I couldn’t conceptualise it at the time, I used to think of it as “I chatted to myself and it was really me and I was so caring and warm and everything was ok”, I was always alone and usually in a bathroom.
I get those tingles too, Amber! That’s how I know that something is deeply resonating. It’s also called the ASMR response. Thank you for sharing here!
Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it….
Rumi.
All in all it was all just bricks in the wall…
Pink Floyd.
Thanks again for all you do.
Be Well.
❤
Thank you for these quotes. It’s a pleasure ♥
Beautiful analogy about the Great Ocean. I posted a comment on another higher self article here several weeks ago, so I must be thinking about this topic quite a bit, because just yesterday as I was cat napping, I had a dream (or more like an astral projection dream where my body was sleeping but my consciousness/mind was wide awake and fully alert) where I came to visit ‘myself’, or my Earth self I guess. Hard to describe, but there I was, a large ethereal golden white glowing image of what I pretty much look like now, but giant sized hovering a few feet below the ceiling (and I mean out of this world kinda BIG, but still able to fit into my “physical room” space). I was mostly female looking, but also gender neutral at the same time. I distinctly remember my giant arms being folded, and the Earth me thinking “hmm, there I am, this is so real I can reach out at arms length and touch her floating up there…” She was smiling down tenderly at me with sparkly eyes. And I remember waking up and thinking wow, there I am, in all my spiritual glory, how cool…it was accompanied by a very peaceful feeling. Anyways, I thought I would share my experience as it has helped me so tremendously whenever I come across others’ experiences to help me piece together and understand my own. Thank you guys for having this space available for others to learn and share.
I went through the death of my higher self! Screw the spiritual awakening – free will doesnt exist in this world! Best regards
feel at times the small quiet guide has always been teaching me. Especially since childhood, way before school at 4 years old. Theres more. This Elder Brother walks behind me at times and enters my being. And more I once years ago went to see a new age therapist regarding past lives. Initially she asked me to picture the colours until I was flooded in purple light as I walked down a pit into a garden. I did so and shifted full of pulsing purple and asked what did she wish to know. Then she freaked out terminating the session. She did not make eye contact and said reverentially , humbly othat she was honoured to be in the prescence of an earth angel. Please ..what do you think? I am aware of preserving my initial perceptions of This Place first encountered as a baby and preserved with vairious success throughout my life …i am 64.
Eventually over the decades each moment of altered perception, however far apart in Time can be joined up. This is reassuring. Likewise guiding inner advice can be seen as not rare anomalies but a norm. We are indeed in a web of energy. We do at times transcend our cognitive restraints. The Ego is also a Bardol, an island of perceptive limits in which we manage the dream, the infinite, a concensus reality. Culture and Words are intangible entities existing in concensus reality. As such so much of what we create, from a home or pets or gardens or government are projections of this world view.
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I came across this article after I wanted to do a grounding visualisation for the first time. The description said I should find the energy from the earth and the heaven, and it made me wonder, what heaven really meant. Whatever the common notion is, it never appealed to me.
Anyway, knowing that I can believe there is a Higher Self and the Spirit terrifies me and emboldens at the same time. More importantly, it reminds me of my philosophy professor deriding Hegel for writing about Spirit and what not (I believe it was Hegel).
But, beyond all the religious teachings and cultural interpretations, as an empath, I had always sensed ‘god’ and spirit and my own higher self. But along the way, I lost touch with them all. Their glimpses would pass me by at times, someone would remind me of their existence but I would think, I must be barking mad!
Now, I have reached a point where I must embrace my powers as an empath. And I must reconnect with the Higher Self and the Spirit. This article gives me the strength to believe that I am not abnormal to search for them. That means a lot to me, at least for now..
I like so much the story of the ocean!
I have to say that I’m so intrigued about your experience.
I’m glad you liked the story Mati. :)
Yes, one hell of an experience!
I had a hellish experience, in a hellish place, for a couple of years. Discovering that my progenitor hexed me. And that It was common for him to do this to people. Even perhaps before that my mother be born.
One of the hexes, isolates me and make that people can’t see me like I am, interfering with fake impressions and emotions.
Even with oracles is very difficult to break that barrier.
Once I could leave that place, and other things happened, I could connect with myself very very deeply, even remember lost things of my childhood. That and much more other things helped me alot.