Let me start with the facts: I used to be really into the idea of twin flames.
In fact, I was so intrigued by the idea that not only did I write some of the most highly read articles on the internet about it, but I also created a 20,000+ member Facebook group on it, AND I co-wrote an entire book about it that accumulated over one hundred 4.5 star reviews on Amazon.
Someone the other week even commented that I was “you know, the twin flame authority on the internet,” for which I immediately cringed because that’s certainly not what I want to be known for (but Mindful Shadow Work or the Spiritual Awakening Process? Yes please).
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Having started my romantic relationship before the whole twin flame craze back on the 11th of November 2011 (yeah, I know, 11.11.11, one of many “twin flame numbers”), on some level, it once felt like destiny for me to write about twin flames. Love, after all, has been such a transformative catalyst for me that I wanted to share my journey with others.
But very rapidly, I started to realize that not only did I have no passion for continuing down the twin flame road, but the path actually nauseated me, and I began seeing more and more how the idea could be toxic and easily misused.
While I attempted to provide some kind of grounded and psychospiritual understanding of this twin flame concept in the book I authored, the message just didn’t get through. Instead, I would witness over and over again how such an idea could be used to justify narcissistic, codependent, and otherwise toxic relationships.
And that’s just the tip of the iceberg.
You can’t build a stable foundation upon an idea propagated by the new age movement that is defined by push-and-pull psychodrama dynamics, so I’ve had to let it go – and all the many hours of work I’ve put into it through the years.
Needless to say, I’ve since taken this entirely off my plate, handed the twin flame Facebook group over to someone else, redirected all the articles on this website about twin flames, and unpublished the twin flames book.
As someone who takes pride in their work and wants it to be as helpful and healing as possible, this has been a big personal blow and a true lesson in humility for me.
In this totally rewritten and revamped article, I’m going to explain firstly what is a twin flame (as I once understood it) and why I feel like the twin flame idea can be more harmful than helpful. Buckle up.
Table of contents
- What is a Twin Flame?
- 21 Twin Flame Signs
- 7 Reasons Why the “Twin Flames” Idea Can Be Toxic and Disempowering, aka., Why I Abandoned the Notion
- 1. The notion that your twin flame completes you or is the “other half of your soul” is anxiety-provoking and disempowering
- 2. The idea of having a “twin flame” can cause people to stay in relationships that are unhealthy and blatantly toxic
- 3. The “runner and chaser” twin flame dynamic can lead to people feeling obligated to deal with bad behavior and trapped in abusive relationships
- 4. The belief that having a twin flame will solve all your problems is a lie
- 5. The twin flame idea has caused many people to abandon their healthy and functional relationships in favor of an illusory ideal
- 6. The twin flame notion misses the whole point of spiritual partnerships
- 7. There are scam artists and sharks who smell the blood of emotional vulnerability in the water and are using it to their benefit
- What Term I Use Now
- Final Words
What is a Twin Flame?
Here’s the original definition I shared in the chapter I wrote on twin flames in the twin flame book that I’ve since unpublished:
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Your twin flame, or twin soul, is a person with whom you are destined to feel connected on a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual level. A twin flame is a person who’s your friend, lover, and teacher in this life.
21 Twin Flame Signs
Some signs of a twin flame that I later shared in the book were the following:
- You feel a strange, inexplicable sense of “recognition” when you meet the person.
- You have a feeling that they are going to play a crucial role in your own development.
- You’ve established an immediate, intense connection.
- You feel as though you’ve finally found a “home” or safe place with the other person.
- You can be your authentic self.
- You both embody the yin and yang.
- You feel a sense of expansion with them, as though you are larger than your limited identity.
- They make you a better person, and you make them a better person.
- When together, you are both bonded but free, attached but unattached.
- You are finely tuned to their energy, and they are finely tuned to yours.
- You feel as though you have been waiting for this person your entire life.
- You both connect deeply and mirror each other’s values and aspirations for life.
- Your twin flame is a mirror of what you fear and simultaneously desire the most for your own inner healing.
- Your childhoods were polar opposites.
- One of you is more spiritually mature than the other and often serves as the teacher, counselor, or confidant within the relationship.
- You are taught important life lessons such as forgiveness, gratitude, empathy, and open-mindedness by them and alongside them.
- Your connection is multi-faceted (they are your best friend, lover, teacher, and muse all at once).
- The most growth you’ve ever experienced has been with them.
- Your twin flame doesn’t try to change you. They accept you for who you are and what stage you’re at and encourage you to do the same for yourself (and vice versa).
- You can be truthful with each other about anything.
- Together, you both feel driven towards a higher purpose.
Now, most of these signs seem pretty innocent, right?
The problem with the twin flame idea is not so much the signs (although depending on the voice behind detailing them, it can be a problem) but how the concept is applied to everyday life.
7 Reasons Why the “Twin Flames” Idea Can Be Toxic and Disempowering, aka., Why I Abandoned the Notion
Now, here’s the thing: if you love and have found benefit in the idea of having a twin flame, that’s wonderful. You do you. I’m not here to try to change your mind because I trust in your ability to make the right decisions for your own life.
Hopefully, something I wrote about this topic in the past helped you, and I wish you all the best in your relationship with yourself and your partner moving forward.
But personally, as hard as I tried to make the twin flame idea work for me, and as much as I tried to make it a viable, down-to-earth reality, it became increasingly obvious through the years that I had to extricate myself from it completely.
Here are seven reasons why the twin flame idea can be toxic and disempowering and why I’ve decided to move on from the notion altogether:
1. The notion that your twin flame completes you or is the “other half of your soul” is anxiety-provoking and disempowering
Firstly, can you imagine how humungous a burden it is to place on someone else’s shoulders the responsibility of “completing” you or even being the “other half” of your literal soul? That’s an immediate recipe for dysfunction and horrific codependency in my book.
The twin flame notion is an anxiety-provoking idea that disempowers us because it makes our wholeness entirely dependent upon someone else and what they do or don’t do. Can you see how messed up that is?
Besides, it is my deep experience and realization that the Soul is innately whole and complete; it’s just the fragmented mind that believes otherwise. As such, how can someone else be the “other half” of your Soul?
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We need to question our spiritual beliefs carefully because they can be the difference between mental peace and psychological torture.
2. The idea of having a “twin flame” can cause people to stay in relationships that are unhealthy and blatantly toxic
Hearing from a friend of mine that the twin flame idea caused her to stay in a toxic relationship long past its expiry date because she believed “he was her twin flame” made me want to scream and cry at the same time.
The reality is that I’ve seen this happen a lot, particularly on the twin flame Facebook group I used to be an admin of for about five years. There were so many people in that group claiming to have twin flames, but when they described their connections, they were clearly one-sided or else utterly toxic and harmful.
When we get into our minds the idea that someone is our twin flame due to confirmation bias, it can be an extremely hard belief to shake. After all, it makes us feel special and shrouds our relationships in a kind of holy glow that we’re less likely to want to give up.
3. The “runner and chaser” twin flame dynamic can lead to people feeling obligated to deal with bad behavior and trapped in abusive relationships
The push and pull experience in relationships is common, aka., things are normal, we get into an argument, then we make up. Fairly typical, right?
The issue with the idea of twin flame relationships is that they’re largely defined by something known as a “runner and chaser” stage, where one person is pulling away from the relationship, and then the other is pursuing that person and trying to bring them back. Perhaps things work out for a while, and then again, the runner and chaser pattern happens.
Now, I have heard of people getting into some pretty blatantly abusive relationships and yet saying things like, “Oh, she totally ghosted me and pretends I don’t exist: we’re in the runner and chaser stage,” or “he’s behaving in such a controlling way because he’s the chaser and I’m the runner.”
In psychology, this push and pull dynamic is known as the Cycle of Abuse where tension builds, there’s an incident of abuse, reconciliation occurs, and then a period of calm before the cycle starts again.
So what abuse do people tend to justify in twin flame relationships? Some of these abusive tactics can involve things like:
- Being overly controlling (restricting what you do, who you see, where you go)
- Shaming and blaming you
- Criticizing and putting you down
- Guilt tripping or emotionally blackmailing you
- Humiliating you in front of others
- Controlling your finances
- Displaying extremely possessive or jealous behavior
- Ridiculing and dismissing you
- Accusing you of unfaithfulness
- Neglecting you (e.g., emotional withholding, silent treatment)
- Spying on or monitoring you
- Gaslighting and hoovering you
- Playing mind games with you
- Abandoning and ghosting you
You get the picture. What I’ve shared above is emotional and psychological abuse – but physical abuse can and does enter the picture as well.
All of the above abusive tactics, and more, have been suffered yet justified in the name of being in a “twin flame relationship.” But there’s a big difference between a healthy and satisfying relationship and one that is mentally, emotionally, or even physically toxic.
4. The belief that having a twin flame will solve all your problems is a lie
The notion of having a “harmonious twin flame union” that will provide you with utter peace, fulfillment, and unending joy sounds magical on the surface. But the reality is that we are all imperfect beings with flaws, annoying quirks, and traumas to work through.
We will inevitably feel a lack of peace, an absence of fulfillment, and other uncomfortable emotions at times, and that is totally normal. It’s part of being human, and we don’t need to pathologize and run away from it into a romantic fantasy.
The “happily ever after” and “eternal union” story is one of the best marketing gimmicks. But the honest truth is that we don’t know if our love will last forever. We don’t know if our relationships will be our “happily ever after,” even though we may desperately need and want them to be.
This doesn’t mean we become cynical and denounce love and relationships completely, but it does mean that we become more grounded and realistic. In my experience, the more realistic and down-to-earth we are in our relationships, the healthier and stronger they become.
5. The twin flame idea has caused many people to abandon their healthy and functional relationships in favor of an illusory ideal
This is one of the saddest parts of the twin flames nonsense. So many good, mutually respectful, and healthy relationships have ended because one person within the couple has found someone else who they believe is their “twin flame” – and therefore, they feel the need to abandon their current relationship in favor of their ideal one.
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Positioning the supposed “twin flame relationship” above other relationships as superior is harmful, toxic, and life-destroying for many people.
Imagine this: everything was harmonious in Jane and Bob’s relationship until one day, Bob discovered the twin flame idea, and BOOM. Now, Bob is no longer happy because his relationship doesn’t meet his fantasy spiritual ideal. He realizes that the crush he has at work on the receptionist must be his “true twin flame” because they have such a “fiery spark” – and so he abandons his wife in pursuit of this newer, more ideal twin flame relationship that will apparently fulfill his every need, make him whole and complete, and give him eternal happiness.
It sounds crazy, but this shit actually happens. And it breaks my heart.
6. The twin flame notion misses the whole point of spiritual partnerships
As Antoine de Saint-Exupery once wrote,
Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.
The twin flame idea promotes this kind of sickly preoccupation with the other person, what they’re doing, and how much happiness they’re bringing you – and whether they’re your “true” or “false” twin flame.
But this is all a distraction, in my opinion, as the point of a spiritual partnership isn’t to obsessively fixate on the other but to work towards making this world a better place.
Perhaps the twin flame notion is just a result of our hyper-individualistic narcissistic society that elevates the individual and their happiness above everything else. Perhaps that’s just a cynical observation.
Either way, the unhealthy preoccupation and obsession with another idealized person who is the “missing half of your soul,” to the exclusion of everything and everyone else, is self-absorbed and missing the point of love-centered spirituality.
7. There are scam artists and sharks who smell the blood of emotional vulnerability in the water and are using it to their benefit
As documentaries such as Escaping Twin Flames and Desperately Seeking Soulmate: Escaping Twin Flames Universe have come out, it has become increasingly clear that the twin flame idea has caused many to get sucked into disturbing and controlling cult-like groups.
Being raised in a fundamentalist religious cult-like environment, this is extremely disturbing to me and something that triggers feelings of anger and regret that I got into the whole twin flame thing in the first place (although, with self-compassion, I can understand why).
The highly emotional nature of the twin flame idea has led some scam artists who claim to be twin flames to charge huge amounts of money to access their services – I’m talking in the thousands of dollars range.
There is so much I could say about this, but I want to keep what I write simple and direct and encourage you to please exercise caution.
Paying thousands of dollars for courses and coaching packages that promise you to find your twin flame is not just ridiculous but, in my opinion, unethical to a criminal degree.
Keep your money and find someone who’s actually trained as a licensed relationship counselor – you’ll be much better off in the long run, financially, emotionally, and psychologically.
What Term I Use Now
As much as I dislike the twin flame label, I do appreciate the value and power of relationships as a spiritual catalyst. I have an article dedicated to the many soul ties we experience in relationships.
Since I’ve dropped using the “twin flame” term, I much prefer the term “spiritual relationship” or even just soul mate, as that feels more accessible and available to everyone, not just a select few who pay $7777 in a workshop to be matched with their “true twin flame” – or through divine cosmic intervention happen to find “the one.”
Final Words
If you’ve got this far, congratulations. I hope you feel more liberated from the twin flame idea by now – since dropping the label, I certainly have! And I’m never looking back.
Please be mindful and careful when navigating these murky waters.
Yes, there may be many well-intentioned, ethical people out there who talk about twin flames. But there are also many unethical and money-grabbing snakes out there ready to sink their teeth into the most desperate and lovesick among us, promising them fantasies and castles in the clouds.
Remember that twin flames won’t and don’t complete you. Your wholeness doesn’t depend on finding another person – this belief is a recipe for suffering, so let it go. True happiness and wholeness originate from within you.
You are the one you’ve been waiting for.
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I met a woman in August and it was love at first sight. I held off saying anything until I could wait no more and told her how I felt in October. We are in a professional relationship where I see her every two weeks and of course we cannot have a romantic relationship at this time. The last few weeks though has been absolutely brutal though, not being able to communicate with her on a deeper personal level. I contacted two psychics and they both said this was a twin flame and the draw is mutual. They said she also has a spiritual, emotional, and physical attraction to me, and I with her. I am so anxious before meeting her but at such peace once I am with her. Conversation just flows effortlessly and I just want to tell her everything. She has opened up more to me in the last 6 weeks, with friendly chit chat but she is very strong in keeping her feelings hidden. I have made a decision to have my final appointment with her on 30 December and tell her again how I feel. I am just so afraid of outside forces derailing things. And my patience is at its wits end with her at least not telling me how she feels and the holidays coming up have made me miserable knowing I cannot be with her.
RS, you never mentioned how she reacted to you opening your heart to her. Why do you have to do it the second time? If you meant to be together nothing can stop you and no outside forces have that much power. We don’t meet anyone by chance. An I believe TF relationships we pushed to experience are here to bring our highest potential in a shortest amount of time. The trick is to recognize it and learn. I wish you the best.
I hope your “final appointment” went really well and you got your answers.
why is my twin flame married to someone else and currently ignoring me for a few years. I know who he is and he knows the same thing as I do.
I have read through the article; I do not remember the number of answers which perfectly reflects my partner and I being twin flames. However, I do know that the energy and emotion of connection, unconditional love and supporting one another in growth and it being right when we are together through the annoyance of his messy, disorganized life in some ways; it is just so intense how he and I are “supposed to be with one another”
I’m not sure if my Twinflame is the one or not because the reality is that she ignores me and doesn’t talk to me. Possibly, I’m overthinking too much into it, but the connecion is real if my experience is correct. I run into her once in a while and it’s like a overwhelming wave like everything slows down and she just stands out as I run in circles in my head like accepting reality for what it is, but a part of me wonders if she might start to realize what’s going. When I see her for that split second and my fears and anxiety surface, she like physically responds and reacts to what I’m feeling. Like as they’re triggered, she responds exactly what I do at that same time. I’m not sure if it’s something I created in my subconscious, but I will admit that of all the women I’ve been around (friends, co-workers, flings, old-girlfriends, etc.), I never or can even explain it as well as had dreams/real-life like visions of proposing to her and some where she was putting the coat on our child at my sister’s house near the front door. Her name even pops up everytime I pretend like I don’t think of her because I felt like her name itself was an obsession I created bc I looked for it, but it stilll surfaces when I’m not looking for it everywhere I go (On tv or game shows, right after reading an article, even random people mention the name regardless of situation/topic/scenario, etc.) There was a time where I thought the music I hear on the radio was an obsessive-compulsive thing I did/created bc I was bored , but I know at one time where I was talking to another girl (knowing I could tell she was jealous and mad at me), she kept looking at me with a angry stare at different moments whens she was finishing up her shift. The final one she did right as she walking out door, stopped stared at me unhappily, and then proceeded to walk out. Here is the kicker that I noticed and assumed it was all in my head. No one had put money in the jukebox and wasn’t sure if it was played by someone else or it came on randomly (“My heart will go on” by Celine Dione) or even kind of music is played at this establisricshment because it’s a dive bar. The lyrics basically revealed what I assumed to be her thoughts/telepathically exposed her thoughts/feelings/etc. It made me recall/remember all of those dreams I had that I assumed were engrained subconsciously through boredom and obsession. Even though everyone else saw that I was doing nothing wrong because I was talking to some other girl, but deep down I felt that she hated and made me wonder back in the past when working together, that she might’ve been giving me signals as I was misinterpreting them and never made any moves/follow through. Like She was upset at me bc I never did anything back in the past (that’s if I didnt make it up in my mind and being too hard on myself assuming that when it could’ve been nothing at all) as I’m hitting on/talking to some random girl listening to the lyrics that she may have dreamed about me as I did about her and how her heart, which I can feel everything when I’m near her, will go on and won’t love anyone like she did with me. I don’t know if A.) I put too much emotional/time invested in something that may not even be there or what it is I’m interpreting is real or not through boredom/possibly obsession, B.) I saw a counselor about it because reality is that she doesn’t talk to me and when I do see her, she stares at me (magnified with intensity and not sure of the intention) when I purposely pretend like I don’t see her and proceed with my life like she isn’t there because I know if I look at her and gentlemanly smile, she will just do the usual “hey”, turn her head away to proceed to whatever she was doing. I don’t know if i’m interpreting/overthinking the norm of her behavior in the wrong way bc she may feel overwhelmed from eye contact as I do where it doesn’t feel real, but it’s effortlessly gazing at each other spiritually/heavenly from the 1st day I felt and caught her staring at me when it happened so naturally. Or that’s reality of her just getting my attention and looks away knowing once I see her and initiate a greeting to proceed whatever it was she was doing. Maybe I’m learning to accept her true reality and behavior, whether I agree/disagree with it while not knowing the intentions/reasons behind it, but not allowing it affect me as I use to in the past. At the time being, I’m doing my own thing to be successful in career and establishing myself for a great future whether she is meant to be with me or not, even after three different pyschics, one who is personally good friend of mine, (a guy who does readings from his house without asking any information and does what he does to help others without trying to bait/market others to do more than necessary. All B.S. is non-existent) say I have chemistry with her and we’re both mirroring each other. So for my own sanity, I don’t stress anymore over anyone or anything as it’s been a life-changing thing I’ve been trying to achieve. I’m letting it be and whoever is meant for me will happen organically as I don’t look for it. I even accepted the fact that I maybe I’m not meant to have kids and serve some sort higher purpose by creating a new technology that is overlooked that has beneficial health purposes and bridges gaps/discovery that can change history.
I love your response here. So bare and raw, so honest. I hope you find her again. I hope you find what you are looking for. Thank you for this.
I met my twin flame in October 2010. I was 23, she was 19. What I felt for her the moment I first saw her is hard to explain. The first thought that ran through my head was “there she is”. For the people out there looking for The One, I must say you cannot miss them. If you come across them, you will have an inner knowing. Love at first sight was the experience. We worked at the same job together. Back then I didn’t recognize her as my twin flame. I just saw my past, present, and future in one person. At the time I was knee deep in a toxic high school sweetheart relationship that was my false twin. She appeared to compliment me in every way, but then her true colors shined through. She was an evil twin. I was in a very toxic co-dependent relationship with her. I told my twin flame that I wanted to marry her. I wanted us to be together. She got so angry at me, she told me to leave her alone and go marry my false twin. I figured it was over because back then I didn’t understand TF’s. If I would have understood my feelings back then I would have never married my false twin, but I did. After three years that false twin marriage finally fell apart. I left my false twin and told her it was over. Sex with my false twin felt like a crime against humanity. One night I actually kissed my true Twin Flame. It was the most amazing thing I can describe. Truly amazing. She has been in and out of probably 7 relationships since that time in 2012. We stopped seeing or talking to each other in 2012. It is 2017, and she called me all of three weeks ago. She had just broken up with her latest boyfriend. She said she needed to speak to someone she could trust who wouldn’t take advantage of her. She held no grudges against me for marrying my false twin. My false twin had been in my life since I was 10 years old. I knew she was going to play a big role from moment one. Anyway, I recently spoke to my TF and we had a wonderful conversation. She told me she is ready to get married, and she wants to get on with it soon. I plan to ask her to marry me in the next year. We have not talked since, but she said she would call me, so I am kinda waiting for the call. We had not spoken since last year. She withdraws when she is worried or insecure. She doesn’t know how to deal. We have to be patient and give them space. The runner doesn’t understand how important their presence is to the Chaser. So the Chaser must evolve spiritually. Time is what the relationship needs to mature. Do not overwhelm your twin. Respect them and give them space. Let them realize how much they love you. The Runner must return. The Chaser isn’t running anymore. The Chaser must be the bigger person and calm down. Wait and trust your twin to realize their mistake of avoiding you, and they will fix it. They will contact you from conviction. One party has done far less reaching than the other. If you are the Chaser, stop running after your twin. Let them go, and they will come to you eventually. Time is a factor, but the runner must mature. You cannot keep chasing, it is unhealthy. I am giving my twin space to call me back, so that when she does, that we can reunite. We can then take steps forward instead of repeating our seven year cycle all over again. Trust that your twin is smart enough to know that you are what they need and are missing in their life. Let them remember the love they have for you. Let them remember that they cannot manufacture this love with anyone else. They have to choose you. There is no other option but to choose true love. Choosing any old person leads to more disappointment. Even if your twin marries, if it isn’t with you, it will not last forever. It doesn’t have what you have. You are the essence they cannot find anywhere else. They must realize this and return to you, and they will. Trust yourself.
I’ve known my tf since I was a baby; he was/is my older brother’s friend. Looking back on it, I always loved him. When I was too young (14-15), the attraction started. My tf didn’t understand why he was attracted to someone underage (he was 21-22) and stayed away. Neither of us ever forgot though.
12 years later, we reconnected (remember MySpace? lol). We had both been through terribly toxic relationships, had two children each, and we were both single. He took the step I secretly hoped he would and asked me out (through text).
We were both nervous wrecks until our eyes met; then total calmness. We knew instantly ‘this was it’. Our first date was like a first date and a 10 year anniversary dinner in one, so to say. Oddly, even our children instantly bonded (I mean first-time meeting instant).
Acknowledgement of this love didn’t spare us from the bad times though.
Those years were rough but somehow we knew this love was worth the effort.
I know we have emerged stronger and more connected than before. We have both grown separately and together, if that makes sense. And we’ve shown our children how imperfectly beautiful love can be when both people truly care.
No matter what the rest of my life situation is like, I know I’m blessed to have such love, such an experience. And I’m so very thankful.
I first saw my twin flame when I was 16 years old. We were sitting at a friends house when he walked in. I immediately was drawn to this person. He left right away, but I had to know who this person was he was my friends good friend. About six months later I’m now 17, he shows up at our school. I immediately call him over and say I’ve seen you before. Every conversation we had our eyes were locked into each others. I’ve never has such eye contact like that, I felt like we were looking into each others souls. At that time I tried to block out the intense feelings I was having, because I was scared of it. He would text me about every weekend to hang out. I always seemed to find a way out of it. The times that we did hang out we always had the best time, we were always surrounded by friends at this point. He ended up moving back to his hometown. I ended up getting into a relationship after he left. There wasn’t a day that went by that I didn’t think about him. I felt like I was insane for thinking about someone I haven’t seen for years. I would hit him up every once in awhile, but I made it a commitment to not talk to him. It was over a year that we hadn’t spoke, but I still thought about him very often. I would have dreams about him. As soon as I would feel like I was over it, he would like something of mine overtime. I contemplated blocking him on social media because I was in a relationship and I couldn’t stop thinking about this other person who lives almost a days drive away from me. I decided to message him and see how he was after over a year of not speaking. I was on a drive and I was thinking about him and he messaged me. We reached out to each other more this year than we have in the last four. We ended up being at the same place as each other, he was working. So I tried to avoid seeing him because that’s how I try to hide my emotions. I felt stupid for having such strong feeling, I thought he probably never thought about me. I ended up leading myself right to him after trying so hard to avoid him. We ended up having a great conversation and I got the nerve to ask him to hang out before he left town. We met at this sketchy perfect bar and we ended up talking for 6 hours, before we knew it, it was bar close. We walked around town chugging our past time favorite beer just enjoying the views. I’m not usually comfortable talking a lot, but I told him everything about myself. The crazy, the funny, the weird, you name it. I felt so comfortable. The insane part is we were both in serious relationships, that we ended three weeks before we met up. Perfect timing right? At the end of the night he ended up kissing me. In my mind, I never knew how he really felt. So I was surprised getting the kiss. I was filled with so much emotion that it wasn’t the best kiss, but I loved every second of it. That was the best day of my life. I have wanted to make conscious decisions for myself and live a better life since we were reunited. He’s a very far distance from me again. I still always wonder how often he thought about me in the last 4 years. I can’t imagine living my life with anyone else, even though we’ve only able to hang out a limited amount of times. I’m planning on visiting him and never losing touch again.
I met my twin flame a few months ago. Our connection was almost instant and electric as well as comforting. I’ve never felt a sense of belonging as strongly as I did with him. But he’s not ready – he has some old relationship baggage and some emotional work to do. So while he’s getting his stuff together I’ll also be preparing myself for a relationship with him, which is what brought me here
I was actually married at the beginning of our twin flame experience. We are the same age, met in high school. We separated about 5 years ago. We both struggled with homelessness, addiction, car wrecks, loss of loved ones, finance struggles, health issues, and abuse, all during our separation. It made us stronger and brought us closer. I have learned that other relationships were necessary for our journey but it does not have to be that way for all. Our lives were so hard because we were living in sin. God knows what he is doing. Even though you may feel you have married the wrong person. That is not so. God hates divorce. God does not send married people to you. That is the devils work and they are not your twin. That is a false twin. I wish you all the best of luck and God bless. Peace and love.
It’s true. I am 52 and she is 31. We are 21 years apart, but the first day I met her I didn’t really look at her. It was then some time later I saw her again and it was like a bomb went off. We clicked on everything we did. It was and has been amazing. We just had a little stumble a few nights ago and she has gone home to take care of her life. I am taking care of my life. We both have issues that need to be dealt with, so the space and time is needed. Hopefully one day we will be back together. But she has a hard time dealing with the age difference. We shall see. Life is a journey, enjoy the ride.
I am 54 female and my twin flame is 23 male, very good looking and hot. So how do we deal with the age gap? We have been dating for 7 months but he is having trouble dealing with the age gap. He keeps saying his friends ask him what he is doing because he is so young. He has been out on the town and looked for me thinking i have been out without him. He talks to my friends about what we are going through. Guess time will tell but anytime we are together we just laugh and feel so connected and as one person, people even comment on out attraction. I try not to worry about the age gap. but how can I not.