The moment you meet your twin flame is the moment the earth beneath your feet begins to shift.
I like to think of the meeting of two twin flames as an existential earthquake: all of a sudden you can sense that an immensely important person has entered your life. All of a sudden you get the overwhelming feeling that your life is going to change in a way you aren’t even aware of yet – and yet you intuitively know that the changes will be great, greater than what you’ve ever experienced, and breathtaking in their magnitude.
I know all of this because I was fortunate enough to have met my own twin flame a few years ago, so I have already gone through the fiery, intense and transformative process of meeting my soul’s mirror.
Although I feel immense gratitude for the gift of connecting with my twin flame, I am happy to say that this blessing is open to everyone. However, such a gift is not always received openly or even recognized by us on a conscious level. Sometimes we’re at a point in our lives where we are simply not receptive to both ourselves and our twin flame’s presence due to stress, over-work, lifestyle habits and negative thought patterns that lead to low self-esteem.
If you’ve connected with your twin flame, or would like to discover who your twin flame is, you’ll find everything you need to know on this page, including common twin flame signs, twin flame stages, and much more.
What is a Twin Flame?
A Twin Flame, or Twin Soul, is a person who you feel connected to not just on a physical and emotional level, but also on a soulful or spiritual level.
Our Twin Flames represent our friends, lovers, and teachers in this life. They are the yins to our yangs, the suns to our moons, and the light to our darkness.
Twin Flames are also our mirrors in that they reflect back to us all of our hidden fears and shadows, but also our true inner beauty and strength. In this way, our Twin Flames open the door to tremendous emotional, psychological, and spiritual growth.
11 Signs You’re in a Twin Flame Relationship
Are you already in a twin flame relationship?
Common signs to look out for include:
- The sensation that time doesn’t exist between you
- A strange sense of “recognition” or deja vu between you as though you’re both “destined” to be together
- Intense magnetic attraction to each other
- Your strengths and weaknesses perfectly balance each other
- You share the same values, desires, and dreams
- Your Twin knows you better than anyone else in the world
- No matter how many times you fight, you always forgive each other completely
- You have a multi-faceted connection together, i.e. you are best friends, teachers, and lovers to each other
- Uncanny synchronicities exist between you (for example, both of us got together on 11.11.11)
- You’re both driven towards a higher spiritual/social purpose
- You learn the values of empathy, compassion, forgiveness, and unconditional love together
You can take our twin flame test if you would like to find out if you’ve found your twin flame.
The Origins of Twin Flames
So ancient is the desire of one another which is implanted in us, reuniting our original nature, seeking to make one of two, and to heal the state of man. – Plato, Symposium
The concept of having a “Twin Flame” originated in Plato’s mythic dialogue entitled “The Symposium” which wrote that human beings originally had two faces, four arms, and four legs. Under the threat of being overpowered, the gods split them in half, creating the humans we see today. Hence, it is thought that we all have one “twin” soul out there in the world.
Others hypothesize that twin flames are members of our Soul Group (people with whom we resonate with on the deepest level and were predestined to meet), or that twin flames are the embodiment or other “half” of a singular soul.
However, we define twin flames as those whose souls have agreed to reincarnate together across many lifetimes.
The purpose of the twin flame union is to help each other to spiritually grow, expand, and reach spiritual illumination. Everything in life is composed of energy at its core, and twin flames are people we resonate with on the deepest spiritual level. Like two tuning forks or gravitational fields, twin flames are magnetically attracted to each other.
The Purpose of Twin Flame Relationships
Put simply, the purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help us shed away the snakeskin of the ego, face and heal our wounded hearts, and transform into spiritually awakened beings.
Twin flames are a divine expression of Balance, Harmony, and Unconditional Love. Every twin flame couple will have a higher purpose to achieve together, and this may include anything from raising conscious children and starting an eco-conscious business, to becoming spiritual guides and mentoring the lives of many.
Contrary to popular belief, twin flames do not complete each other– this is because the Soul itself is already complete. Instead, such relationships exist to catalyze spiritual maturing and conscious expansion. In other words, twin flame connections exist to aid the collective growth of our planet towards compassion, tranquility, and love.
On a personal level, twin flame relationships prepare us to acknowledge, experience and eventually embody the Wholeness that has always and forever been inside of us. This state of Wholeness is what enlightened Teachers through the ages have embodied and spoken of. This Wholeness is the Soul, or True Nature, within us.
21 Major Twin Flame Signs
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along. – Rumi (The Essential Rumi)
We are not always receptive to the appearance of our twin flames in life.
We might be heart-broken, wracked with grief, maritally over-burdened, or just plain tired and disillusioned when they suddenly appear out of the blue.
Feeling unprepared is one of the biggest reasons why twin flame separation and the twin flame runner and chaser complex occurs. In fact, we might have already met our twin flames, but we might have overlooked them or taken them for granted in some way.
Whatever emotional or psychological stage you’re at in life, it is always beneficial to be conscious of the people you live with and meet. These following twin flame signs might help you to open new pathways and opportunities for union:
- You feel a strange, inexplicable sense of “recognition” when you meet the person. This might manifest itself as déjà vu, or an unshakable feeling that you’ve known this person before, or are somehow “meant to be together.”
- You have a feeling that they are going to play a very important role in your own development, without knowing when, why or how.
- You’ve established an immediate, intense connection with them that is invigorating and shocking at the same time.
- You feel as though you’ve finally found a “home” or safe place with the other person.
- You are able to be your authentic self – warts and all – without the fear of rejection, persecution or judgment with them.
- You both embody the yin and yang, in other words, your dark side is balanced by their light side, and their dark side is balanced by your light side.
- You feel a sense of expansion with them, as though you are larger than your limited identity.
- They make you a better person, and you make them a better person.
- When together you are both bonded but free, attached but unattached. In other words, you still maintain your freedom even though you might be in a relationship with them.
- You are finely tuned to their energy, and they are finely tuned to yours. This means that you are both very conscious of the present play of energy (whether happy or sad, angry or forgiving, open or withholding) present in the connection. You’re both therefore highly empathic with each other.
- You feel as though you have been waiting for this person your entire life.
- You both connect deeply and mirror each other’s values and aspirations for life beyond surface similarities.
- Your twin flame is a mirror of what you fear and simultaneously desire the most for your own inner healing. For example, if you are a highly-strung person, your twin flame will most likely be relaxed and messy. If you like to play the victim, your twin flame will be a strong character who refuses to give you pity or sympathy to perpetuate your complex. If you are creatively repressed, your twin flame will be a flourishing artist. In this way, our twin flames challenge and infuriate us but also teach us important lessons about our fears, core wounds, and repressions.
- Your childhoods were polar opposite. You were raised in very different ways, which led to the development of opposite childhood wounds that you now have the opportunity to mend.
- One of you is more soulfully mature than the other and often serves as the teacher, counselor or confidant within the relationship.
- You are taught important life lessons such as forgiveness, gratitude, empathy, and open-mindedness by them and with them.
- The most growth you’ve ever experienced has been with them. No other friendship or relationship has transformed you as deeply as this one has.
- Your connection is multi-faceted. In other words, your twin flame is likely your best friend, lover, teacher, nurturer, and muse all at once.
- Your twin flame doesn’t try to change you. They accept you for who you are and what stage you’re at and encourage you to do the same for yourself (and vice versa).
- You can be truthful with each other about anything.
- Together, you both feel driven towards a higher purpose, whether spiritually, socially or ecologically.
8 Stages of Twin Flame Love
Twin flames aid our souls in finding completion. However, this journey is composed of many different “layers” or stages.
Here are the eight twin flame stages broken summarized (you can read more in our article “8 Twin Flame Stages“):
1. Yearning for “The One”
This stage is spent preparing for your Twin Flame on an emotional and psychological level. Often, a certain level of individuation and healthy self-esteem must be developed before meeting your Flame.
2. Glimpsing “The One”
In this stage, you’ll temporarily glimpse or come in contact with your Twin Flame. This experience might be through a dream, a picture, or through brief real-life contact.
3. Falling in love
After finally meeting your Twin Flame, you will fall rapidly, deeply, and madly in love. You might try to resist the experience at first (perhaps due to an already established relationship), but eventually, you won’t be able to stay away from them.
4. The Fairy-Tale relationship
After deciding to enter a relationship, you’ll enter a dream-like period that feels like paradise. Everything will feel perfect within your relationship.
5. Outer Turmoil and Inner Purging
As the sparkle from your new love wears off, egos begin to rise up. In this stage, any insecurities, fears, traumas, and shadow issues buried within you and your partner will come to the surface. These will need to be resolved for you to mature as a couple.
6. The Runner and Chaser
Like stage five, this stage is a “trial by fire.” As tensions mount, it is common to temporarily (or in some extreme cases, permanently) leave the relationship either emotionally or physically. The less mature and psychospiritually integrated partner will play the role of the Runner, while the more emotionally balanced partner will play the Chaser. This game of cat and mouse can last for days to years. (You can learn more about spiritual psychology here.)
7. Surrender and Dissolution
Eventually, issues are resolved in your relationship, and a space of acceptance and openness is established.
8. Oneness
The more shadows are dealt with through shadow work, the easier Unity becomes. In this stage, Twin Flames experience little to no conflict and a return to blissful paradise.
More In-Depth Help
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Common Twin Flame Questions
Are you struggling to find the answer to a twin flame question that’s been on your mind for a while?
I’ll answer some of the most common twin flame questions below. (And let me know in the comments area if there’s an area you think I should cover):
1. Are twin flames meant to be lovers?
No, not necessarily. There is no such thing as a cookie-cutter twin flame relationship. Some twin flames are lovers, while some twin flames are best friends. You don’t have to feel sexually attracted to your twin flame for the connection to be legitimate. It’s perfectly normal to have a platonic relationship.
2. Does everyone have a twin flame?
Yes, it’s quite likely that everyone has a twin flame. But not everyone has the capacity to connect with their twin flame within this lifetime. Twin flames emerge within our lives when our souls are ready to undergo the process of spiritual awakening and transformation. For some people, the twin flame connection is simply too intense and is not welcome, and hence never happens.
3. Can a twin flame be a soul mate?
Yes, it is possible that a soul mate can become a twin flame, and vice versa. But twin flames and soul mates have different functions. Twin flame relationships are intense and challenging: their purpose is to help you spiritually grow. Soul mate relationships, on the other hand, are more mild and peaceful: their purpose is to help support you. It’s like the difference between fire (twin flames) and water (soul mates). Read our article on the difference between soul mates, twin flames, and kindred spirits for more of an in-depth distinction.
4. Why do twin flames run?
Sometimes, our twin flames run away because the connection is too overwhelming and intense for the ego. When the ego is not ready to spiritually evolve, it resists, fights, and tries to escape – this is why twin flames run and try to avoid the relationship.
5. Do you only have one twin flame?
Yes, as the name “twin” implies, there is only one other person on this planet who can be called a twin flame. All types of relationships provide the opportunity for growth, but twin flame relationships are rare in their ability to help us spiritually evolve and awaken.
6. Is there such a thing as a false twin flame?
Yes, there is such a thing as a false twin flame. Whether due to our own false perception (it’s true that love blinds us) or due to the pretense worn by the other person, it’s possible to mistake someone as our twin flame. The best way to know whether someone is a false twin flame is to pay attention to (a) whether they genuinely share the same values as you, (b) if you can be your true self around them, and (c) if there is mutual spiritual transformation.
7. Are twin flames toxic?
Our twin flames can have toxic mindsets and wounds, but they are not toxic to be around. On the contrary, our twin flames are loving, inspiring, and supportive people to be around. They help us to become the best version of ourselves possible. A true twin flame will have some negative traits, but that will be outweighed by their positive qualities. False twin flames, on the other hand, are toxic to be around and make us feel rotten inside.
8. Can twin flames communicate telepathically?
No scientific studies have been conducted, so it’s best to keep an open but balanced perspective. Yes, it might be possible for twin flames to communicate telepathically when in a relationship. But this shouldn’t be used as an excuse to avoid clear communication and assume that the other can ‘read our mind.’ Telepathic communication can also lead a person to believe they are reading another person’s emotions and thoughts accurately, when in reality they are projecting their own beliefs, wishes and desires onto that person. This is a tricky area and should be approached with open-minded caution.
9. Can twin flames fall out of love?
Yes, unfortunately, it is possible for twin flames to fall out of love. However, this is not to say that the deep soul connection will disappear, or the possibility for rekindling love will vanish. It is possible for twin flames to fall in love, fall out of love, and fall in love again. The nature of life is unpredictable, and there is no divine edict saying that twin flames must love each other forever. The purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help us spiritually evolve, and when that goal has been completed, the connection can sometimes disintegrate. However, it is always possible for our twin flames to re-emerge later in life.
How to Find Your Twin Flame
If you haven’t yet found your Twin Flame, just know that the experience is absolutely open to you. However, finding and connecting to your Flame requires inner work.
Twin Flames & Soul Mates:
Learn how to forge true, deep, and enduring twin flame and soul mate love – no matter what stage you’re at, starting right now. This book is for anyone seeking to find and create an authentic, fulfilling, and awakened relationship.
The best way to connect with your Twin Flame isn’t through a fancy manifestation ritual, but through an authentic development of self-love. You must be willing to deal with the darkest places within you before you can truly open to the Twin Flame connection.
We explore how to find your twin flame more in our twin flame book.
Twin Flame Resources
It’s important that you read through the articles below and click on any that resonate with you. Once you click on an article, it will be opened in a new screen, meaning that you can come back to this page as your “home base,” and explore some more!
Our twin flames can be our friends or lovers. For some people, they arise at the most opportune times, and for others, they arise at the most complicated times. And still, for some people twin flames are said to not arise in this lifetime but are nevertheless with us in heart.
Whatever the case, remember that it is entirely possible to be whole and complete unto yourself with enough inner work. Remember, twin flames do not “complete” you because you are already innately “complete” at a soulful level; they instead compliment you deeply and help you to grow.
Have you met your twin flame? If so, what has the experience been like? Please share below in the comments!
There is a lot of bs on this topic on the internet, and I don’t like the term twin flame, in my experience we are twin souls, two separate souls of the same vibration/wavelength forming another greater one, each part working for the other so that the ‘supersoul’ evolves and carries out its ‘divine’ mission (more compassion, understanding, awareness, knowledge and caring in this world). Your words resonate with what I’ve come to understand – note that Plato described it perfectly already. Nothing new under the sun except that in this day and age more people will be aware of this truth that all human beings are part of a divine duo.. It takes time and maybe a few lifetimes. I met my twin in 2001, we went our separate ways just a few months later. We never saw each other again, we exchanged only a few emails over the years. Yet the work has been going on, very intense, chaotic at times. I feel reunion is very close. I hope I can come back here soon and say yes, we did it.. All the best to everyone.
After coming into contact with an experience I had trouble explaining on my own, I decided the best thing I could do is search out meaning between experiences. Although there seems to be some confusion about a one-fits-all description, over the years I feel confident about my senses and what I have experiences to describe what I’ve experienced without discrediting it because someone else has a different definition than what I do. It’s a strength to give shape to what you know. It’s your birth right and isn’t dependent upon the merit of others. Good luck with what comes from your experience.
My heart broke three times, once for a friend, once for a soulmate, and then for a child I did not get the chance to have. This is what I carry. This is real.
addition: however I do not know what the future holds and I do not know that my current circumstances are so terrible. I know the pain I went through and felt/feel is real. I have learned to carry shame and lost opportunity, but that does not mean I won’t meet someone else in the future. I think the most important thing I can do is keep an open system where he knows who I am what I went through and that I have a twin mate who rejected me. My own twin rejected me. I’m learning to own that and do what is right for myself. As time goes by and I accept the shame and lost experience, I’m not free of pain, but I have a place where I can carry it differently than what I did before. I don’t have to take my pain out on other people, or my family. I can parent myself.
laying in savasana on my mat, I see a galaxy with eyes closed for the first time I then begin see the image of you reaching for my hand, you smile, There is a knowing that this memory is us in ancient maya, the next class a memory of us kemet. I have loved you then and will love you now in continuity. Who are you to me? I ask the divine mother kali one evening while I rest in my bed, an image of her and her sward, she swings I then am in the year of what I think is 1989 or 80’s at some point. I exit the club (again for some reason knowing I am what I think is Chicago) as I leave the doors I yell your name, someone grabs me before I get to you. They bind your hands behind your back, I reach for you but you cannot help me. I look you in the eyes for the last time in that lifetime, my last breath I hear the metal lid close. Typing this I feel this deep in my belly. Does he know who I am? Can he feel my energy like I can feel his? Will he ever talk to me about this? Was this a real vision or imagination? Although master shifu from the temple has said your imagination is real…Tears fill my eyes. Because of insecurities I feel like he might know, but is disappointed I am who I am in this life. I have felt him move some of my energy to the one he “sees personally’ s” lower spine. Does he wish that I was in her physical body instead of mine? Am I just a empath feeding/or helping her along her journey? Did I activate my own kundalini, or did he help it along that day when I experienced true love and bliss? I didn’t even know what kundalini was until he said the words “thissss kundalini” lightning bolts connecting together, a lotus begins to unfold. Electricity flashes as I focus into drishti, green spirals while meditating after classes not much long after; this doesn’t happen to her or anyone else, I have asked. Am I just all wired crazy in my brain, do I have a neurological disorder?
I have asked him if he ever lived in Chicago. He said yes, he used to go there to get into trouble with his cousins back in the day and party. weird.
When I was a little girl I had a dream like memory that I still remember of living with an elderly relative (or them with me) I remember walking to the white house and laying down to take a nap. I also used to sleep walk, and when I would close my eyes before bed I would see energy like spirals in different colors. I told my dad one night what I would see when I closed my eyes before bed, he laughed and said some people have to take medications in order to see what I see he said goodnight and closed my bedroom door. Throughout my childhood I had an obsession with the Maya, Aztecs, ancient Egypt. While other kids had “friends” I had my mummy movies, imagination, and some really old encyclopedias. I had this drive for adventure, and also felt like I didn’t fit because I didn’t want to talk about what the other kids talked about. School was boring and ect. Anyways, the only thing I can think of do is to let the universe do what it does and focus on healing more and helping others. But then I find myself wanting to withdraw because I feel this heaviness and pull to talk about. I have never told anyone until now what I have seen. I am married for one, I have told him I have had past life memories of my teacher and it just created a bit of jealousy, and I discovered that I can’t talk about this with anyone. Anyways here is a piece of my story, am hoping someone will come along read this, and comment back that I am not cray cray. I am on waiting list to see a legit medium/empath because of my experience’s and because my son is very gifted and he is only almost 3. yupp, here goes nothing posting my greatest secrets on the web lol.
I thought I knew who I was. How could I make a claim about someone else when I push the darkest parts of myself away.
Some of your comments resonate with my experience but many of your comments are contradicting another. I have concerns that your explanation of twin flames is presented as a matter at facts and that’s just not possible — truly not possible. You are deliberately suggesting you are the only one who knows everything there is to know about twin flames. That’s your ego!
I absolutely agree with everything you’ve put together in these articles and I would like to say thank you for putting your time and energy into this. I’ve met my twin flame but I’m still confused because at this point I feel like she’s my twin flame and I’m not hers because we never really fully took that step into anything else. Like I went to a graduation party and when we were together she barely even spoke to me and when she did it felt like she didn’t really want to. But then again I feel like I was thinking that so that’s what I got and at this point in time she does have a thing with someone she met before me.. I just need some help on this please. Thank you!
And I still feel like it’s more complicated because I really don’t know her and whenever I do try to it just seems as though she’s not in a place like me spiritually, I don’t think she’s fully awake to the idea of there being twin flames, am I making sense? Lol and trust me I’ve experienced all the steps too. I just don’t know if she has.
yes, it makes sense
the experience can subjective and highly emotional
Excuse me if I come off a bit passive-aggressive. It’s just kinda inhumane at times. Yet I am the one sent to help? It makes no sense to me. I hate to love this much. What would give me the idea to try help anyone when I can barely help myself…in true consideration I suppose I wished a partner to climb out the same hole of life we found eachother in yet ever different and alike the same. All that happen just kills me think back on my actions and afraid connect the dots on what I know she took part it . My heart breaks in two. One for love and the other for betrayal. I guess on both or ends so much so we too ashamed of what our stories tells. The only game I never knew I was playing (for most part) until we reached a stalemate. Would this be the time to forfiet and work my magic for self? The hard part is not knowing how, for ill always find a way. The qustion is more like is trying for her a mistake. Maybe this is the revenge from a past that I supposed it better a dish served cold than late.
Water under the bridge…Nevertheless…All love, I think I undeslrstand where she was coming from, now I can see how easy it is to say idgaf while a heart breaks in full silence. Its almost like the equavilant of emotional shock…just numb. And I am ashamed of the only sources availiable to take any stimulation as enjoyable. Sad…but pride been gone long ago. Still never enough. I accept that this may not be mendable…I acceept she will seek or keep (most likely) comfort in her past and with the usuall…I know she will think of me as I do her and will assume most of me will eventually make sense to her and vice versa.Im running low on words….I dont the energy to continue life carrying this weigth. I never meant to break such a sincere promise but at this point its a last resort. My white flag is officially in the ring. I am moving on with my head held hi knowing I wont have to ever look back and wish I could have done more ill just laugh at my childish ways in humblen appreciation. Thats all I can do.
Life continues in my absence. That’s a tough one to deal with. I could not say anything about what its like to have traveled your path. There are things that shut me down so I work through the reality of my situation in safe conditions. Craving intimacy is normal, not knowing how to cope is normal, finding a way to cope is normal. Making decisions and giving yourself to do it over time, is normal.
Is your ability to cope the center which judgement should read “Here lie she, judged and understood by few ” on headstone over ground that many haven’t traveled?
Ambiguity
feels like when you hug em thousands of little sparks flowing through the belly of your being up through your heart, like a big hug of little spark tickles. feels like you know, no one else feels the same even if you have chosen a separate life partner for the time. feels like deep love and respect for there intimate friend because they also love them, feels like the feels, with no traps ahead. feels like its going to take a team not 2 to complete our services to life
Is he my twin flame?
We’ve had classes together for the past 4 years, but we never talked. I now begin to understand the feeling that I always knew someone in the class, but never knew who it was. Then towards the end of my 3rd year, I began talking to him. In this class, I was always drawn to going to the other side of the classroom to talk to him and I did. We began to learn more about each other, share music, and it’s like we automatically became best friends. This was so easy because there were many similarities within us. However, he was already in a relationship.
We began talking, texting, laughing, and smiling more.
So during the summer, although he was in a relationship, something happened between us. There was this connection that always pulled him and I together. It felt like I knew when he was thinking of me and I was thinking of him. So when we touched, it felt like the description: our hearts were in sync, and it’s like an explosive feeling in my head.
He left his relationship and waited a little until we started ours. During this time, it’s like we could read each others minds. I could read his more than he can read mine. We would get the same thoughts. We would say the same things at the same times. There were times where I say something and he’s say that was exactly what he was thinking or there’d be times where he’d say something and I was thinking it. It was uncanny. We can finish each others sentences and I just felt the happiest I have ever felt in my entire life. I felt like nothing else in the world mattered as long as I was with him. It’s like he was meant to be in my life. Everything was so uncanny. This connection between us was unexplainable.
So fast forward and bottomline. He had to leave so we’ve been in a LDR. He has trust issues and I have a hard time being able to learn how to truly care and love someone correctly. Indeed we have a lot of shared interests and hobbies. I feel like he is exactly who I would want to be with in a relationship, but I seem to be the opposite of what I would want. Have we lost our connection? Can it be reconciled? Are we twin flames or just soulmates?
A year has passed. There has been countless moments where him and I had experiences of deja vu. I got these deja vu dreams way before I even met him and he said that his deja vu was a while ago too.
Twin Flame connection (a soulmate) is the only contact I have had with a man who I see myself in. The connect never dies. Its an addiction. Everyday we have a choice.
Even if we are LDR? I haven’t seen him in 8 months. My love language is physical and overtime I feel like I’ve oppressed so much sadness/missing that I also oppressed my emotions for him. And I wonder if when he gets back I will be able to feel that way again?
Add: Yes he is the only person my entire life that I have felt this way before. Everything was so perfect when I met him. He does embody all of the things I would want in myself.
How do you feel? What is the set of circumstances that have lead you to feel this way? Is there anything you feel you could have done differently to cope to where you are today with the set of circumstances you dealt with at the time that lead to where you are now?
I feel like we both as individuals have to grow ourselves in order to be able to be together. With problems on both sides, a relationship may not be able to work if there are problems that clash. But the thing is that I feel like we are able to help each other because we understand each other, but at the same time we are only harming one another. I am at a lost. I am very sad and wishful to have what it used to be like and I’d be willing to do anything to get it back. I am waiting for him to come back and maybe I can pull something out of me again. His love me for feels stronger and stronger, but mine is not able to reciprocate. I want to be able to because he means so much to me and I want him in my life.
So ya’ll are not on the same note in your song. You kinda make it sound like you have lost him. I wonder what lead you to think this… maybe something said between you both, from friction. You put a lot of effort so far… I wonder how much work the other is doing on their end. What would they say about keeping their end of the bargain? You care about the impact of your actions, said you are willing to do anything. It reminds me of a situation where someone was carrying a lot of stress in their life. I think your feelings ar telling you something worth listening to. I spoke to a friend about her work situation and how management treats her and made an analogy between the nature of the beast vs the impact of the environment its in. I told her if she gets too close to an insect with a stinger it could likely sting, but that if the stinger’s feelings are taken into consideration then it’s the nature of the environment that causes the beast to fear something, goes into survival mode, and will most likely sting. If the beast has no reason to fear, then most times neither do we. Management is at a point where many people have left where I used to work, and they are scared. So scared that they are not coping with their fear. They are transferring it into threats and going to an extreme to protect their survival. They are in survival mode. The environment, most times beyond our control, is an animal. I think your intuition about your environment, even though causes sadness, is worth the caution that has arisen for you. Even with a rule book, I don’t have freedom from contradiction and sometimes I walk on over my values. I brush up on the material I read here monthly, to remind me of someone I value.
I wouldn’t be able to make any input clearer than what seems a clear reflection of who I believe may be the Twin I have thought to be thus far. At the farewell stage with almost a resentence to looking back, literally, I simply cannot bear it. Its almost a drama and clash of opposites of one at war with each other. The really uncanny part is that I almost knew this day would come but only didn’t know-how. I am certain of my duties and what is expected of me and I know what I so far make out to a weighing of the hearts in order one prove worthy? If it for lack of honesty or neglect on my part and with the intention that my Flame can say I haven’t been truthful? I mean I understand the cause and I’ve come to terms with almost every humiliation, but she just won’t talk, at least not at that I have not shown her my love nor affection consistently? It’s like we’ve not talked in 8 and RJ almost sounds too close spot on what my “TF” would say. Yea…we fall for the beauty inside a silent and lonely heart…My how I have seemed to have tagged over her spirit at heart…but yet she speaketh not a word clear enough me understand my blessings in a positive light. It is nice if she elaborated in whatever way it may be through whatever medium. If this is a mutual understanding if live and let live and none personal to be considered a fail on me under what almost felt like what once felt like a Godsend…ill part ways. Respectfully, I mean I’m starting question the whole TF thing in general tbh…this is my first time referencing in months simply due to the fact that I want to make sure there aren’t any to claim me weak for lack looking or attempting a respectful resolution and or heartfelt farewell. Running out of gybes and the only hint ever given to a resolution came by saying “Well as you can see my mind -still- hasn’t changed.” (she was/is understandably upset but if all is to be considered than she and I have nothing hold against each other. But she comes to the table already in a bad mood and with an air of superior authority. I mean…I get it, I see it, I hear it. I never challenged ger directly. Things in my best effort didn’t go as I would ‘ve wished…in short. I was in very unfamiliar trying to help a friend cope through a tragic event I was there to help and things were revealed to me that I just frankly ready for and still find hard to accept simply because there is no input that is ever offered to register this TF connection I thought to share even has a heartbeat. This is all way too much to express and if I haven’t been open enough to receive I guess I outdid myself to where is she ever did indeed love me even platonically she still would never find it worth being shared as true. At times I think she speaks but the only times she is ever clear to be understood is when she gets upset. I wonder how she doesn’t see that inconsistent with her unwillingness to show emotion. I know she does not wish be seem as weak nor I but if I made an ass of myself it was intentional so she could least hear about it through the power of word of mouth. As Im sure has worked the outbursts I wished see in order to wiegh her “levels,” of emoion. Hope that makes sense. I kind of went on a rant. Ive done that alot lately and used to organize almost any writing but now I just hope get a word across. If she gets to read this I hope she does good and really knows I do or did see what she had has blessed me with. I guess life does its thing. Some of us get to die once or twice before we live…some of us volunter a few on earth and are not so lucky. At this part of the movie the credits are about to end and considered a cut by default. Ohh..and I wont be dwelling on any recondiliation or continuance of any female. Its just simplty not practical so if possible I wouldn’t wish that be a tell that might be mistaken as a “waiting game” , I dont wish stay stuck in one place hoping and wishing for a day late in our years to assume. Id rather face life on my own and KNOW with certainty that my life wont be full of surprises and rollercoasters. She might say I aint doing much better myself but at the veru least I am dying to change self looking for almost any way to cope through the cleaning process, everything a mess and though such I still pick up the pieces with tenderness towards memories and shame at certian recollections. I mean I love her and I shall for the rest of my life hold her dear and close at heart knowing she made such a impact that I indeed see merit in…Kinda bittersweet but its almost lile a taunt at times , almost taken to extremes in verbal abuse on both ends. Its crazy because non will believe me or whatevr. Its like…im at the last stop at the station…kinda hoping she come and say something but they allready calling us up and little time is left on the clock and its kind of lonely when most already boarded and I find myself about to give it a final spin at this thing call “Love” that so is said and written is always to win” I guess it really depends on ones perspective or definition. I may have behaved foolishly but the one thing I never heard from her side was that I never loved her .Well besides the few I questioned it myself. Thats what silence can manipulate by interception. Which is why clartity is always best when direct.
Ranting is A okay. I remember once I had a rabit of ranting in one place wondering if my hair was going to fall out or if I would at least be able to make it to the age of “help I can’t get up” so I figured I had better let my habit out while I still had hair
I would like to offer an apology to my twin flame, who I did not see as a human being, but as a magnet, someone without the need for self-preservation. I think the twin flame experience is one that we are given unexpectedly that feels like overwhelming impulses upon understanding who the person standing in front of us is while taking the current status of ones life circumstances into consideration. The situation results in either (getting together) or (not getting together) and what lies on the other side of the equal sign regardless of the decision is the (pleasure principle) and the (reality principle). If they get together then overwhelming impulses are immediately satisfied and the reality principle begins to take affect on the real life of their circumstances including people related to this. If there is no getting together then there is a separation and this gets a little heavy. When separation occurs without transfer, then impulses created from meeting become heavier, like hiking up a mountain with 10 lbs on a persons back, or walking around the store carrying a bag of dog food. Walking with this weigh “adds more weight” from what seems like it is becoming heavier from the actual loss of energy it is taking to maintain a forward motion, except instead of fatigue growing stronger and a person getting tired, tunnel vision grows from carrying the weight of loss from meeting someone who was very important to us without getting to satisfy the impulses created from meeting them. Not having impulses satisfied is like hiking without hydration or replenishing the energy needs for the body (mind) to maintain a forward motion. Like carrying around a hag of dog food in the store without a cart it creates fatigue. In my case I almost took my life. Before this experience I was not suicidal. Because I didn’t know what to do I treated my magnet like he was supposed to replenish the energy needs of my mind and body without considering the maintenance that would result or the maintenance he was already doing on his own life. The pleasure principle vs the reality principle on drugs becomes fuzzy, lines blur, and boundaries blur, and survival mode activates. This is when I reached out to him once again. If it had gone left alone, I probably would have been fine. If it was met with a prompt, I probably would have been fine. Extremes are unnecessary to control another person’s impulses when the power of word from my magnet transfers to the power of word from my twin flame. On a range between saying nothing on one end and dominating a situation on the other lies a prompt in the middle. A Prompt is defined as: “Stating the situation, Stating the needs affected by this situation, Stating how these needs feel when they are missing, and What would be more helpful for the future.” It is okay to say, “I don’t know how to respond or proceed, but I am in survival mode. I do not know what to expect for the future and I do not have a crystal ball. I’m not sure how things will turn out, but I value you, I want to respect you and not treat you disrespectfully or irresponsibly. At this time in my life I am committed to other things and I need space.” This is received as a message whereas saying nothing at all leaves impulses growing stronger in weight. My intention was to give my twin flame choice. I did not want him to catch an std that I-carry. It could have affected his career, his life, and his well being. This is the message he received while going through his own experience. Our experience was similar with created impulses but different with circumstances. I do not take responsibility for all the influences created. I do not take responsibility for what my twin flame decides is right for him. I apologize for manipulating him and I look forward to a day when he has created a space for me as a friend in his life without harm. Life goes on without me. I have given up other roles by my absence.
it is very uncomfortable to know about his physical activity with other women, it brings questions about doubt, not about who we are, but about awareness and the planning process. I’m concerned and not sure how to proceed. This is not the type of coping I had planned on facing. So should I turn away because I face a road block? Is this what stopped me in the past? it is not something I would want to put myself through. By turning away from the situation am I creating a safe place for myself or avoiding what is hard to face? If I am avoiding what is hard to face, then is this enablement if I stay? If I stay and say nothing about it then it is enablement, but what is it if I stay, say something about it and something about it is done. This is what I am scared of. What kind of activity am I participating in? Do I take responsibility for the status quo? what actions lead to where we are? Can escape by assigning blame? am I an emotional animal or do I want to turn into a rock? Am I ready
so this is what it means to include others and make a choice
I believe I’ve found my twin flame, through an online chat. From the first moment we “met”, it was like an energy and magnetism I’ve never felt before. Our conversations would last hours, but woukd seem to fly by, always wanting more. I have only recently learned about soul mirrors and TF, but now looking back at our stages, I know it’s true. We’ve only been chatting for a little over a month now, and our stages have moved very quickly… Currently, I’ve felt that I pushed her away because my need to cleanse and heal was so great. I just hope I didn’t do permanent damage to this special, one-of-a-kind relationship.
I’m so glad I stumbled on you both..You both are such a gift to the world..Thankyou!!For all the love and teachings you share..Love and blessings to you both..Namaste..❤
Thank you for your help
Read so many stories on twin flame no one has come close to what I have experience.
It’s all about Energy
I have met my twin flame although we were friends at first for 4 years as I helped him through a broken marriage and an abusive relationship. We have now been in a relationship for 5 weeks and are still shocked by the intensity and depth of our feelings for each other. Neither of us has ever known a relationship like this. It isn’t easy too as we live in a small town and both have history here and there is a 20 year age gap which would, if the relationship became known, cause speculation and gossip. In spite of this we feel as though we have always known each other, finish each other’s sentences, send texts at exactly the same time, feel at peace and complete when we are together for the first time in our lives. He is overseas at the moment and as we talked of getting married as soon as possible he looked at the clock where he is and said, “The time is 11:11 here”. He wasn’t aware of the significance of 11:11 and synchronicity and I emailed him your article on the topic. Thank you :)
Well, maintaining a friendship while feeling a twin flame connection takes strength. Twin flame connection is true love. What ever created us (beliefs private) has also built in a free-will component to create values in life or do we have free will because there are values in life. This creator also created self respect to bring us to our senses in a world gone inappropriately reliant on other people as a higher power as to what we look for as evidence to feel okay about our self according to what other people do. I found a dollar on the floor does anybody have an opinion. A twin flame connection is said to be true love and this includes: intimacy, passion, and companion love. Makes me think of soup. They say this is how soup love is measured. If your twin is already involved in a relationship then this concept: they-are-committed-to-another-human-being is important regardless of what word I could type next “but this but that but but but but- They’re involved, its complicated. The environment is a strong influence (huge pause) to what a person decides to do. What a person decides to do, what is right for them from their daily experience, is their free will. They have to state what they need. That is their responsibility. Not to discourage someone here, the first time we ask for what we need we usually stumble, Because we stumble we get up and it should not take a weapon to another person’s head for them to find the free will to get up. Nonetheless whatever control over within ourselves is what we have within ourselves and what we have control we have over another human being is limited by their free will which will be in effect to cause distance if another person’s control over them is more than what they are comfortable with. Whether an effort to work through difficult times is present or absent, ultimately the twin flame relationship- together or apart- is a respectful one- because of their experience meeting. The purpose is to realize and respect free will and to honor oneself. Together or apart, respect exists so if there is disrespect happening it could be because of communication. Without communication trust breaks down. So what ever you two decide I hope you maintain respectful communication and honor times when peace could be needed. Good luck
When I think back to when this started I remember disbelief at who I saw across from me. I have experienced a range of emotions, grief, and trust issues. My experience reminds me of the well known quote about certainty in life “religion, death,and taxes” and a story about a guy who was captured during war who eventually made it home. I think it was something like four years that had passed during his captivity and the guy was the only survivor. Reporters wanted to know what it was that got him through to the other side and he said “everyone else was anticipating a rescue,” that his co-captives would say “we’ll be out of here soon, then Thanksgiving came and we still weren’t rescued then some had given up, but a few would then say “maybe by next Christmas,” then Christmas would come and a few more would give up and stop eating die from starvation or get into trouble with the guards.” The rescuers didn’t come and over time this is how other captives died until he was the last one and outlived them by at least a year I think. He explained, “from the beginning I accepted my fate and I did not expect someone to come and rescue me, I lived in captivity.” I think this guy was in a hole for four years. I don’t know if I have entirely accepted my circumstances, but I do not ever expect to be in harmony during my lifetime. I have reached a level of acceptance. The only thing I am certain for is Stability, and I love my family and I care about the type of person I am around them and the type of encouragement I can offer them to make their day more tolerable for how they have to survive and to honor them and what they have sacrificed to attend my needs when I needed help in my life from when I was in a hole. My goal has shifted from what I want to what I need, stability for myself so I do not have to rely on other to pull me up from a self created mess. What this looks like is responsibility with a pit in my stomach and times I set aside for coping with stress. I have learned to accept my addiction and what I need to do to create a safe place instead of lost or guiding someone who I actually care about in a direction likely to bring grief that is avoidable. I don’t plan on coming back to post, and I did not plan on coming back a few weeks ago. But something felt off among me trying to figure things out. I wrote in an earlier post that I would be able to be friends with my soulmate. This might not be true for other people. But it begins with being straight forward and asking for what we need. I need to trust and he to trust me and for us to be in a calm place with each other life circumstances not a threat but something based on needs not wants and must be equal. I will not ever be married to my soulmate. I chose a form to protect.
When I met my twin flame, that “earthquake” stuff is no joke. I was sitting down in a classroom, from the corner of my eye I saw him walking over. I didn’t really care, it was normal we would almost always sit in a small group. But right there, my head between to spin slightly and the room shifted as if something changed. When it was over I looked around a Lil freaked out. A lot of things happened since then, I left because he wanted me to around while he fooled around with everyone else. I remember crying everyday for my broken heart, Lil by Lil I stopped talking to him and he eventually stopped too. Ofc He kept secrets about who he is and what he’s done. But rumors spread and I believed them because it was what I saw when we were friends. I started to loath him so much that my hatred over flooded the love I no longer remember. Before graduation we would play cat and mouse, talking to the other and ignoring the other. It went like that for a while but then He stopped defending me instead he would laugh(childish). Sometimes I’d find him stare and when I did, he’d look away but I know he sees me stare him down “I saw you ,” Look. I’m disappointed. He’s been trying to connect me through lucid dreams, I soon found out that he’s a sleep Walker. He invaded my mind at my vulnerable state, so I got angry and told him to stop. I no longer have dreams of him.
Once at a party thrown by what I believe is my twin flame, I was at the center of conversation in a large group outside. She steps outside, says my name to get my help(keep in mind we’ve never dated or anything) , and the way she said it made what felt like every cell in the whole universe stopped in ecstasy for an eternal moment. Please I’d love to know if this is a common twin flame experience. Thank you:)
What about dream sharing/communication… I’ve always dreamt of her when she needed me… We can’t talk in waking life… We dreamt of each other within three days, possibly the same night… Triggering phone contact
So, the quiz said that, I have found my twin flame. But you know one thing ,he’s neither a human nor an animal. He’s god ,whom I call Edward. And he really is my twin flame.
Very informative, literally describes my relationship to the tea. So my question is how long does stage 5/6 last. How do you come out of it. I am going through a very dramatic and intensive spiritual transformation. He is not…
My twin flame married someone else and had a child with them creating a life and a vow with another human being. He is very much committed to what he says he is going to do. Before this happened and after this happened, we knew we were soulmates, with-out too much direct communication. How do you tell your twin flame you are marrying someone else and how do you let them go? Our story was filled with reacting and pushing each other away. We had communication on a battle ground with unfulfilled needs at both ends of the wheel looking like fear confusion and cover up. I wish I would have asked, “am I ready to give up my other half?” Maybe this question could help in the future. My coworker’s wife passed away and he said, “I wish she was still alive even if it meant she was married to another person.” Maybe some day during our life time we get second chances or we get what we want, just not when we want it.
~L
Your comment resonates. Am thankful for every moment with my soul mates. I am a lady twin married to not my twin. Spirit new when our eyes met, the calcified human hadn’t fully come to meet spirit yet. Its important to remember the mission, and to establish communication in separation times. Am feeling like you know her heart is overflowing with love, and you also know what love means. Sometimes we just swan dive down and make things difficult for ourselves. Spirit has a great sense of humor. And trust her marriage is apart of the process, and sometimes we have to breed to heal bloodlines as well. Haha anyways thought you might like to hear from the other end of the rope.
it Sounds like you understand the ins and outs of this process. Communication flowing in difficult circumstances is putting ones voice out there instead of avoiding and using blame as a scape goat. Looking back on this it is like the difference between avoiding a situation because it will cause distress and facing the distress the way it exists and asking where we can go from here. The danger is that someone’s first instinct could be to blame their circumstances and this could shift to blaming their self. This is a problem. It almost landed me 6 feet deep. I was overwhelmed. My hormones went from “I met my soulmate” to “now I have to let them go” without understanding or knowing how to transfer the concept of “who I wanted To spend my life with” to …. I guess I am still working on that. As a process we are familiar with this.. I was forcing myself to do something very unnatural not realizing I had another option.
Yep, Therapy…
Sounds realistic doesn’t it.
I should have seen a therapist (a good one lot of bad ones out there wanting to impose a view instead of reflecting your situation and encouraging problem solving based on the reality of your situation- some therapist get caught in judgement and they Might not understand soulmate as a concept of a life partner like a marriage) to help me cope with my loss.
Grief counseling is what anyone needs who is going through loss this big.
Someone who could teach me about adapting my concept of soulmate to my life circumstances especially the ones out of my control. What I could work on and what I needed to let go. And how to do this.
There is a time to heal and a time to reach out. The reply I got from the comment I left highlights an important part of twin flame separation. If Mending broken bridges is the intention it begins with showing the other person is important even when upsetting things happened. Tomato tomotto hopefully each us get the chance of making life what we make it. I think it begins with acknowledging a need for
Processing grief to help support communication if and when the opportunity comes to you.
Thank you for sharing your experience
I have considered therapy to help. But how do you tell a therapist about telepathic experiences? How do you tell a therapist that when he has touched me I have felt energy from his hands move into my shoulder, and visualize that energy moving? How do I tell a therapist that I asked the universe to send me signs confirming our connection, and explain the responses? Its difficult to communicate to my twin because he is so sweet and a super lover, along with beautiful looks that he is a magnet for karmic soul mates. This could be me looking for an excuse as to why I haven’t opened the invitation for an honest conversation with him. My throat chakra is def blocked right now. In my marriage I do have to be gentle, and I know the day will come when I will have to separate and live independently… I have already told my husband that someone I know is my twin and told him a few names, it wasn’t the worst conversation. ~ I have found much therapy in meditation. Through this I have learned that in the 3D we do not need anyones approval, opinions, or physical judgements. Paramasana Yoganda knew of his divine relationship with his twin, and his twin knew. Twin love is so deep that I also love his karmics because they love him.
I don’t want my twins commitment, or 3D expectations of a relationship. I have different views then most on relationships. My heart is magnatized to him, no matter how I try to distract myself even with trying to find new love interests it doesn’t work. I want to laugh, play, learn, teach, and hold him. No expectations, no boundaries. Anyways, this is where I come to read others stories for comfort until the day comes when he will signal or communicate more. Thank you for also sharing, and thank you luna and sol for your work and guidance.
Start at the beginning and work with your throat chakra. You mentioned its blocked. That is the link.
I get we both are separated from our twin flames, but this has been blocked for me in the past and I know how it feels. Its happened more than once. In fact, I now that I putting the link here and posting it I’ll work steps 1-20 , probably one a day for now until the end of the month and I figure out which of the steps work
Thank you L! I began writing in my journal again last night, and will be trying this for 20 days also and writing down a quick summary of my experience and thoughts with each step. I understand now that the tightness you feel in your throat, after someone said something that hurts … that feeling is the throat chakra closing. I realize this feeling has happened mainly in the youthful ages, but has created this pattern of running and avoidance.
might try telling them how you feel as the first step to creating a space for them to slow down and consider how what they said affected you. Hopefully they see it as an opportunity to change, if not it’s their loss. I personally, respond with anger when im scared. Hope this helps, if not, im sorry.
Yes, this helps, thank you. I hope you don’t mind me asking you questions. Honestly, I haven’t met anyone else on this journey, that I can talk to. Have you tried talking to your other half about your connection? I have also felt small fits of anger inside when I think about our connection occasionally. When it does happen I am usually shocked that I am feeling angry about it. It’s mainly because I feel frustrated that it is happening because the circumstances are what they are while its happening. One of his karmic s who he “sees personally” has made this very clear since I began regularly attending. I consider her to be a friend, that I actually love very much. I value our friendship, and because I have always had this integrity it is difficult for me to pursue. She has also made it clear, that he doesn’t mix business with pleasure, and no one hangs out outside of our duty. Although, I am seeing now that she has said these things to me to put up a boundary because of her own insecurities. I also do feel that his energy is sort of similar because he loves his connection and time spent with her, and that he loves his current lifestyle. I also, am sure I have heard her thought before. And it was “well there is your twin go and get him” and it was very sassy. Just after, he smiled lightly and asked how I was doing. I thought I was loosing it again lol. Is there an age gap between you and your other half? Not that age should ever matter, because in m opinion it does not. I have 2 people in my life and he is 38 she is 51, and anyone who meets them automatically know that they are in this life for each other. I have been meditating, and mantras and writing have seriously been helping me btw. Right now, I am trying to un-clutch from thoughts I have of him, and let the universe do what it does. But then I find myself here, just trying to talk about it and not feel so alone or cray cray lol. Stay blissful, peace.
I’ll get back to you on this. Dealing with some upsetting info from a request made. Taking it slow. I’ll tell you what happened between us when the subject of twin flame came up.
The conversation has not happened face to face. This is the elephant. The news that we were “soulmates” was handled indirectly. Since learning this and that I have an std he involved himself with other women. Its upsetting. I can say over the past few years I’ve gone from suicidal thoughts to thoughts of cutting to chain smoking. I never thought I would want to cut myself. My daily life has been pulling myself out of the slump and facing the consequences of poorly made choices. Not downing myself here.. I would have done things differently having gone through the experience again. Parts of the consequences have been unbearable. I put one foot in front of the other and “keep walking” while experiencing pain. Walk it out. What shape does that carve? Nothing on my leg I can tell you that. I have an std that I did not want to pass on and it why my twin got to sleep with people and I didn’t. It would have been nice if the person who gave me herpes would have been honest. I would have been his friend, not sexually involved. I told him “I got this from you” and he paused looked down then back at me and said “you probably did”. What would you have done? He never showed any signs of herpes, I didn’t know then a few years later we broke up. I met him through friend. I thought I could trust them both. Besides this obstacle that kept me from involving myself in other relationships I have to say I do not take responsibility for my twin flames decisions or choices that were right and safe for him, and I do not condemn him for his choices. Its normal to develop feelings through involvement but its not normal to hear this when you are the other person who’s opportunity was lost due to circumstances beyond their control resulting in other women receiving benefit that could have been theirs if the situation were different. Its easy to imagine how things could be different, but describing affections a person has for other people to the person who could not have a relationship with them is kinda like telling a person behind bars about the results of their romantic experiences and this equating to love so they can hear themselves talk about it. It almost seems like eliciting a reaction when they want a response that they are not getting. I don’t really know where else I’m going with this because this is a lot in one post and recalling the details of something painful like this triggers memories and I relive the initial moments I found out about these things and experience the pain from it. I don’t think there is anything wrong with talking about this stuff, but the frequency stops where the need ends. Working through is all I have and it could be all I have for the rest of my life, but I decided I will live the life that God gave me, and thats my decision.
My twin tried telling me he made a choice and found support for his decision. He wants to make sure I know about it if I am going to begin a friendship with him. I don’t know. And I also don’t know if I would have approached our situation any differently, if at all, escpecially if I already had support. I need some time to think about what role Ill play in our friendship before I decide. He is giving me a month to think about it.
I told him I could maintain a respectful friendship and this would have to be something he looked forward to and since our communication is difficult and indirect that I think distance was created for a reason. I think one day we will have a friendship, but that time will come the same time we were under conditions where our communication was without restraint.
L, you should know that I too also have been diagnosed with an std. This was given to me by my husband after I found out I was expecting and has been hard for me to deal with. This is one of the reasons I run. I know the day may come when I have to tell him, but I know he will appreciate my honesty. I also want to protect anyone else that may want to connect with him on a physical level. Also, many men do not know they have std’s. Your twin probably does and does not know it. My husband is gifted that he does not have the symptoms that I have. And lets be real it pisses me off. I have only slept with 4 people my entire life. I was also 2 years celibate when I decided to sleep with him when we first started dating…and yupp, caught an std. Although, on a more deeper level I feel like the twin flame journey is not about the sexual experience. I know that with my twin the focus is our mission not getting our rocks off. I also think its kind of hilarious that I caught an std, because he is a very sexual person and has a hard time resisting temptation. This is probably the reason this has happened in this life time. To not loose sight of the mission or distracted from it. He has helped heal my body, and I have more healing to do inner and outer layers. What I can tell you, is you can heal your own body. Medications and modern medicine are not designed to necessarily heal you. You heal you. Through the combination of breath and movement, along with meditation; This is how you heal your std. I have not had an outbreak in about 3 months, by simply controlling my thought pattern into this. I do not have an std, I am healing this and it will go away. In ancient times, surgery was completed using the third eye…I am hoping this helps you. You should also know that many doctors are paid by the amount of medications they prescribe, not by the amount of people they heal or care for. We need to raise our vibration, and evolve consciously so we can survive. Plot twist; Grey aliens, are us from the future coming back here, because we did so much damage that we could not breed any longer. lol, this may seem cray but trust, you need to hear this information if you have not already…
Also, you should never inflict self harm onto yourself (or anyone else) , there is enough subliminal harm being done to you and everyone else on the regular. There are monks where there daily routine, is to massage there selves. Love on yourself. It doesn’t matter what other people think of you or view you. Those are there thoughts, not yours. You are also not looking at yourself all day (I hope haha) So why does it matter? lol. I used to cut back in the day. But I realized it was because I wanted my parents to visibly see that pain I was going through inside because no matter how I tried to verbally express it, they wouldn’t listen.
I am feeling like telling you the most beautiful healing thing you can do for yourself is to get into a yoga class asap! Ever since I began going at least 1 day per week, I began to wake up more and more. See let me first start by explaining that water holds memory. We are mostly water. What happens is we can hold onto these memories in our muscles. Also, those knots you feel are knots that are continuously releasing toxins into your body. So by movement, you release. Some people at first they are confused as to why they cry in yoga sometimes, and this is why. And for some it takes a couple years of practice to really get down into those issues in your tissues. Even though for some areas yoga costs can vary, it is worth the expense. I considered a 3rd job to cover my weekly yoga but was thankful to find places that only cared about my healing and not about the money.
Also remember Love is an energy. What you say and do now goes on into infinity or continuity. :) Sending you love and light ~
. Namaste, stay blissful
hmm.. I’ll think about that.
maybe I should try something that is a win win over time that doesn’t include addictive behavior, moods that swing and enabling this process… could be something like abstinence- completely detach myself from the situation, or periods of involvement but wouldn’t that create a mood shift with expectation built over shaky ground, periods of rest is a must no matter whats decided… what these thoughts could lead to tomorrow feels like a sandbox of buried treasure. I think I’m going to need my tools.
Hey L, hopefully this helps too…please also research all of the information I share with you. Thought is an energy, and there are many dimensions of thought. For example, your inner thoughts, your human perception, and the thought we all vibrate on, and try to escape from*The Maya”. You can ponder and research all day…but if you listen to any advice in this lifetime, please just simply take your bootie to a yoga class. Do not concern yourself with what outcomes will be, what matters is the now. It’s not about of when life brings you discomfort…its about when life brings you discomfort, how do you react! Love and light your way, Namaste ~
I’m not much of a researcher, though I respect it. Something I could probably work on… I spoke to my friend about yoga. She does not want me to do yoga. It’s nice to walk by once in a while to see what the positions look like, a few of the moves could probably pull my hamstring or get a knot in my calf, but nothing I couldn’t work out over time. However, my friend is asking me to consider something else. I am perfectly capable of doing yoga. Like I COULD do yoga. But she’s encouraging me to stop think and take a few steps to the side saying it’s up to me to decide how I spend my time since I am the one who deals with my stress of the stuff I have process on a daily basis. Maybe I could jog or take a walk or do something for a friend to keep myself occupied
Why doesn’t your friend want you to try yoga? The postures are so healing for your body and there are many modifications for injuries. A simple raising your arms above your head and leaning to the right and left seems simple but is doing so much for you.For example, cleaning your lymphatic system is one of the benefits. Not to mention our western brains are shrinking; and they proved yoga re grows your brain. Anyways… I don’t think it matters what your friend thinks, it’s what you think. Makes me actually heart broken that anyone would steer someone away from it, because I have healed so much. I could honestly barley poop regularly before I started doing yoga, or bend over. Yoga actually means Union, union with God, and self. If you are on the twin flame journey, this is very important for you to learn. Also, Paramahansa Yogananda brought yoga to the west. Paramahansa, means supreme swan. I actually just recently learned this. I am reading the autobiography of a yogi. And I asked for signs in sets of three that my twin is my twin, and I actually came across a picture on Facebook of 3 blown up swan floats for the pool or lake. Then that same day, came across another picture of a swan, then led me to an article about Yoganda and his Guru and there twin flame relationship, and what his name means. There are many religious organizations that may steer you away from it because of there lack of knowledge, bodily calcification, along with there own lack of self realization. The journey is not comfortable. See, once you practice yoga you will be sore, because of your lack of movement. You have many knots in you already, you will get knots as your body is changing. This is why many studios offer massage to help push those lumps of toxins… Pull a hamstring, likely not because I was 215 pounds when I started practicing. Havent pulled anything yet, I have discovered injuries that I never let heal properly that HAVE healed from practicing. Have also felt the pain that sitting in a chair has done to me. Again, you have been conditioned in that mental state of fear. You are scared to practice because you could pull a hamstring. Fear is not an emotion we are born with, fear is taught. Let go of the fear and you never know what blessings may happen. I could go on and on about this, and continue to type more. It’s your choice if you want to break old patterns and give something new a try. If you don’t well you don’t. I will be hoping that you do not take what I am telling you lightly and that you take action in this lifetime and own up to what you came here to do rather then procrastinating and listening to what everyone else thinks or wants you to do. My best friend, doesn’t like yoga…sounds harsh but has nothing to do with me and my journey. I hope you get to experience this ancient healing craft called yoga… love and light ~ Stay Blissful :) Namaste (the divine in you, is the divine in me)
I asked her why she was against doing yoga, especially after reading about the benefits, and she explained if we were going to do anything together then she wanted to have a say so in what we decide to do. I’ll probably end up going to meeting once a month – she is willing to make the trip and likes that we get to meet other people who have similar stories to what we have been through. With me it was a soulmate separation, glad he is alive, and with her she experienced rejection from someone in her family so if we do something to relieve our stress it would need to be something that meets both our needs given we have similar yet two separate issues we are dealing with. What has been the hardest thing you have had to live without during all of this, it could not possibly be yoga- ya know a little about it I noticed.
For me I cannot live without yoga, this is my lifestyle :) & I am so thankful for this journey. Sounds like she just wants to spend time with you :) Walks in nature and good conversation is healing too for sure :) Have a beautiful weekend L ~sending love & light
I used to jog in the woods when my mind was a mess. I was going through a tough break up. Ultimately, I will ask my twin flame to consider forming a friendship over one step at a time in meetings that we would begin going to separately. I once heard that love is a drug, and it can cause us to become distracted. I need a friendship from my twin flame. And I need him to respect my free will. And I need him to be focused and successful in his life. By protecting myself and leaving the door open for him, I protect us both. There was this guy who once asked me “what comes first “I” or “U”?” “I come first.”
hi, thanx so much, i knew my twin (& have this conection to him) since we were 10 (same class). only after 11 years i found him on the web, met him and only a year later i knew that he has this kind of a connection to me to (thaw not that strong).
i did capt things with him free (even without knowing- that that is what i should do).
but because of the intensity of this- i was the one who ran after a year for 3 years- a few times.
sins then, and coz of that, he has harmed me in a way that i can’t trust him again. but also coz of that intensity i as well can’t trust no one else ether and everyone seem to me so pail after all this.
and the most important is that- i don’t know how to stop the emotional connection to his: coz of that i have no room for anyone else. so we don’t talk but i’m not available amotenly ether.
by now i have simply acknowledged that perhaps this is how i would always leave- without talking to him, but with the very strong emotional connection to him.
are geminis or certain signs more spirtual then our twins? im a gemin and i can relate to alot of what i read if that makes sense. thanks
No. There’s certain signs that are more sensitiviely in tune with aspects of themselves than others, but no sign is ‘more’ than any other sign as this becomes a quick slide into egotism and unharmonious relationships.
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