There is an old and wise parable that you may have heard. It goes like this:
One day an old Cherokee man sits down with his grandson to teach him about life.
“A fight is going on inside of me,” he says to the boy. “It’s a terrible fight between two wolves. One is evil – he is full of rage, jealousy, arrogance, greed, sorrow, regret, lies, laziness, and self-pity.”
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He continues, “The other is good – he is filled with love, joy, peace, generosity, truth, empathy, courage, humility, and faith. This same fight is going on inside the hearts of everyone, including you.”
The grandson thinks about this for a few minutes, and then asks his grandfather, “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replies, “The one you feed.”
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There is Another Version to This Story …
There’s another intriguing ending to this two wolves Cherokee story. Here’s how it goes:
The grandson thinks about this for a few minutes, and then asks his grandfather, “Which wolf wins?”
The old Cherokee simply replies, “They both win if you feed them right.”
“You see, if I starve one wolf, the other will become imbalanced with power. If I choose to feed only the light wolf, the shadow one will become ravenous and resentful. He will hide around every corner and wait for my defenses to lower, then attack. He will be filled with hatred and jealousy and will fight the light wolf endlessly.“
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“But if I feed both, in the right way, at the right time, they will live side-by-side in harmony. There will be no more inner battle. Instead, there will be inner peace. And when there’s peace, there is wisdom. The goal of life, my son, is to respect this balance of life, for when you live in balance, you can serve the Great Spirit within. When you put an end to the battle inside, you are free.”
The Meaning of the Two Wolves Story
There’s a reason why I like the second version of the two wolves story better: it makes sense. It honors what the Taoists refer to as the yin yang – or the sacred balance of life. The Buddhists also refer to this as the Middle Way (a path that embraces being both human and divine).
This alternative point of view brings us to the essential meaning of the two wolves story: it is a parable that’s a teaching, path, and prescription in one. Not only does it teach us about the basic nature of humanity and that peace is within our grasp, but it also prescribes the wisest action and thereby gives us a path to follow.
What do we do with these two seemingly opposing forces within us? How do we handle the paradox of being both sacred and wild? What do we do with our ‘higher’ and ‘lower’ traits?
The answer is to embrace both and seek balance – to feed both wolves within us “in the right way, at the right time.”
Unlike the first version of the story, we are not going to extremes. Instead, we are walking the Middle Way – the path of harmony and therefore peace.
If you really think about it, if the ‘good’ part within us was truly loving, why would it tolerate us ignoring, rejecting, and condemning the ‘bad’ part within us? Wouldn’t it feel compassion for that part and want to help it somehow?
How to Feed Both Wolves Within You
“When you put an end to the battle inside, you are free” we read in the two wolves story.
What benefit is it to be pulled apart internally and constantly at war with oneself? How can we listen to our higher calling when we are stewing in inner turmoil? Why show favoritism to only one side of us, when the other will eventually catch up with us?
To stop this internal war, we need to honor both sides of our nature.
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This philosophy is echoed in the profoundly important psychological discovery made by renowned Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung. He proposed that we have numerous sides of our nature and we all possess a dark side known as the Shadow Self.
The Shadow Wolf = the Shadow Self
Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is.
– Carl Jung
What happens when we repress (or push out of consciousness) something that pisses us off? Eventually, it’s going to come back and bite us on the ass. We all instinctively know this.
Think of it like a volcano. The more magma is withheld within the volcano, the more it rises to the surface due to the internal pressure. Sooner or later it’s going to explode.
The same applies to us as humans: we all think, feel, and do things that are either shamed by our parents, rejected by our peers, or condemned by society. These shunned traits get buried away within us to form what is known as the Shadow Self.
But just because such traits are buried away and become unconscious, it doesn’t mean that they totally disappear. In fact, they’re always there looming in the background, waiting to be acknowledged – just like the shadow wolf.
The thing is, we tend to both forget about these buried parts and actively suppress, reject, deny, and disown them. After all, if these inner parts got us in trouble, made us feel upset, or caused our parents to withdraw their love, why the hell would we want to face them? Isn’t the best thing to continue banishing and even hating them for the pain they create?
The Perils of Avoiding the Shadow Wolf
In response to the question I’ve just posed, that’s where the two wolves story comes into the picture: it teaches us that avoiding our Shadows isn’t a smart idea. After all: “If I choose to feed only the light wolf … the shadow one will become ravenous and resentful. He will hide around every corner and wait for my defenses to lower, then attack.”
Carl Jung phrases this in another eloquent way:
The brighter the light, the darker the shadow.
In other words, the more attention you lavish on your ‘good’ side, the more your ‘bad’ side is neglected. Your Shadow Self will grow in direct proportion to your lighter brighter side. This is basic physics.
Just look at Newton’s third law that states:
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.
You want to only feed your light wolf? Sure, fine. But just be aware that your shadow wolf is also going to grow. There’s no way of avoiding this inconvenient truth.
There are plenty of tragic examples of people in this world who only feed the light wolf within them and ignore their shadow wolf.
Think of all the seemingly holy priests who molest children, gurus who get into sex scandals, spiritual teachers who abuse their followers, religious public figures who get caught in big lies, and those who appear to be full of light but actually have a very sadistic dark side.
This is a sad, but honest reality.
Furthermore, when we first start the spiritual path (and even as long-term veterans), it can be all too easy to fall into the trap of new age, feel-good, love-and-light spiritual materialism, because it looks exciting, esoteric, and sparkly.
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However, the result of feeding this ‘light wolf’ within and ignoring the dark side of us is that we can end up having experiences such as the Dark Night of the Soul or even a spiritual emergency (which throws us into full-blown existential crisis mode), which we could say is the ‘dark wolf’ within us trying to reclaim our attention.
Light Work and Shadow Work
So how do we feed both the light and shadow wolf within us?
We need to pay attention to what the two wolves story advises:
to feed both in the right way, at the right time.
Does this mean we should go out and become ax-murderers because our family has angered us to feed the shadow wolf? No, of course not!
Indulging your shadow wolf is not feeding it in the right way, at the right time. Instead, it is depriving power from your light wolf and turning your shadow wolf into a glutton.
Jumping to extremes is not the answer.
Instead, we need to find a way to give equal attention (or ‘food’) to each.
Thankfully, there is a path that helps us to create this balance. It is the path of involution, inner transformation, and inner work. We can roughly divide this path into two parts: light work and shadow work (although both often overlap).
Light Work
Light work is learning how to feed our inner light wolf, the part of us that is naturally joyful, hopeful, empathetic, kind, honest, and loving. Light work involves learning how to love yourself and connect with your True Nature (Soul). Practices may include developing intuition, learning self-care, practicing gratitude, using positive affirmations, learning the art of letting go, connecting with spirit guides, healing the body, meditating, and so on.
Shadow Work
Shadow work, on the other hand, is learning how to feed our shadow wolf. When we practice shadow work we open ourselves to face, befriend, and integrate the painful shadows we find within us.
Practices may include exploring negative core beliefs, doing inner child work, doing shamanic soul retrieval, connecting with our inner archetypes/parts, journaling, working through personal and ancestral trauma, processing grief, doing emotional catharsis, and so on.
Practicing both light and shadow work equally will allow you to feed both wolves, thereby creating balance, harmony, peace, joy, and spiritual expansion within your life.
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What Are the Origins of This Story?
So, who wrote the two wolves story anyway?
It is difficult to trace back the origins of this story, yet it is often attributed to the Cherokee (Tsalagi) people. The ‘two wolves’ story is sometimes referred to as ‘Which One Do You Feed?’, ‘The Wolves Within,’ and ‘Grandfather Tells’.
Unfortunately, it is unlikely that this story truly originated amongst the Native American peoples, but instead was created as a Christian-parable-disguised-as-native-wisdom.
Take the Christian evangelists Billy Graham and John R. Bisagno for example. One of them (Bisagno) included this story in his 1965 book, The Power of Positive Praying. The other (Graham), narrated it in his 1978 book, The Holy Spirit: Activating God’s Power in Your Life.
Some sources, such as writer Linda Caroll, claim that Graham admitted that he fabricated the whole story for a sermon. Originally the story was about the Inuit people, but because he got an outpour of negative backlash from them, he changed the story to include a Cherokee grandfather (knowing they wouldn’t be able to challenge him).
Native Wisdom or Urban Legend?
While it’s hard to say what happened definitively, the original emphasis on “good” and “evil” (which is a Christian concept) gives us a very non-Native American vibe.
Also, the whole emphasis on white = good, and black = evil (which I have removed from the story in this article and replaced with ‘light’ wolf and ‘shadow’ wolf instead) has been thought by some to possess an undercurrent of racism and also Christian dogma.
Whether this story is the product of a sermon or a catchy urban legend is hard to say ultimately.
Nevertheless, despite the murky origins of this story, it has clearly evolved with us. In fact, these days, it’s most commonly shared as a meme on social media. Most likely, the second version of this two wolves story is a modern adaptation. But who knows?
Ultimately, there’s a reason why such an archetypal story has stuck around for so long: there’s something of deep value within it that we can all sense.
So take some time to sit with this story and reflect on what it means for you. What thoughts and feelings did it bring to the surface? Can you sense any deeper personal lessons lingering beneath the surface? There is so much medicine for the Soul in this story of the two wolves, if only we allow ourselves to be open and receptive to it.
Tell me, what are your thoughts about the two wolves story? What does it mean to you? I’d love to hear below.
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Another fantastic article! And as others have echoed, eerily well-timed for me. I am certainly guilty of at times getting too focused on the light, and then wondering why I feel a sudden desire (that seemingly arises from nothingness, like a prompting from the void). But of course, it is the wolf demanding to be acknowledged and fed! Thank you for your wisdom. It helped me at this time!
That’s a great way to see it Joseph, I’m glad this article inspired that :)
Hi thankyou for your emails. However it is all a bit scary for me at the moment because it’s like you are in since with me.
I read your post about shadow work and I ask for it to come to me , enlighten me and it is full on.
It’s like two of me, I see and analyze my dark shadows but it brings out my feelings of my friends and there darkness . I am asking myself why am I doing this , am I comparing, judging, learning, releasing ? I am not sure at the moment and feel like I am in a rough storm but at the same time allowing it.
Today there was a huge part of me my intuition telling me to be that rebel for now ( I am looking at my husband differently and I want to rebel against him, stand up to him, pull him up when he dismissed my words but then I ask why what will that do other then to stir it up worse. But the drive is strong and when I really dig deep I think it may because this is the make or break stage so what have I got to lose.
I am not thinking of being nasty but just Frank and honest.
Anyway I will just continue to read all your wonderful posts
Thank you Shaz, I’m sorry to hear some of our articles are shaking things up for you.
We don’t mind exploring some difficult topics and encouraging questions, but sometimes you also need the support and guidance of someone that can help you work through some of the areas you’ve mentioned.
If you feel inclined, we recommend you find a counselor in your area or some other type of support that can hold space for you to explore those difficult emotions.
All the best.
I love this story and would definitely like to think it comes from the Cherokee Tribe. It’s interesting about what you said about Billy Graham and his fabrication, it makes sense and I’m so pleased you changed ‘white’ to ‘light’ and ‘black’ to ‘shadow’. I was brought up in a strick evangelical household and always knew there was a lot very wrong with their practices, especially how two-faced and hypocritical so called ‘christians’ can be, now that I’ve finally discovered there is so much more to learn and to discover, it almost makes me feel sorry for the christian mindset and the ‘their way or the highway’ attitude. I’m learning so much from your wonderful website and it is teaching me more and more about the reality of life now and beyond and how important balance is, true unconditional love and wisdom. Thankyou Luna and Sol. xx
Thank you Isobel for the lovely words, I’m always happy to know our work awakens a new thirst for learning and exploring the reality of life in deeper ways.
Much love :)
Hello,
I enjoyed your revisit to the “The Tell of Two Wolves.” My quick question is this: Can the Shaddow Wolf also represent our power animal since that side is so different than the traits that we may otherwise be preset from our “light side”?
Hey James,
The Shadow Wolf doesn’t necessarily represent a Power Animal but there can be an overlap. Within Shadow Work, you’ll find that there’s the treasures of the disowned parts we carry buried at the bottom of our shadows. In reclaiming those parts, we may reclaim qualities that are accessible when working with Power Animals.
I hope that helps. :)
Thank you for the guidance.
James
After reading through this article on the Two Wolves, I referred back to Core Beliefs. To identify them both past and present ones.
While within inner self maintenance mindfulness meditation I spend some time (raking over the coals) within both the present Ego mind and deep within the Subconscious mind. Some major Core beliefs are revealed. A few on the Light Wolf side seem ok and supportive to every day thoughts behaviour and actions. While others that lie immersed in the subconscious some times for years are from the Dark Wolf side and appear like little pockets of unfulfilled wants, fears, angers or parts of unresolved relationship.
It helps to seek out the lesser known ones as often these are just the tip of an eruption not yet found or expressed. These give Creedence to and seem to support the major dark side events. So in mindfulness it pays as some one else said to identify and acknowledge them, then cleanse them as self destructive elements that no longer are supportive of present mind set.
Poor parental conditioning and the creation of misfired or misdirected thoughts can lead to embedded fears phobias feelings of no value and unwanted, of inner displacements which are swallowed down as (wrong food) and induce over supportive structures of wrong view or imbalances towards life.
So in conclusion as many of us stream to one or other of the two wolves mentioned we can create the illusion of doing right and that nothing is bad as all can be corrected, all is good all is one sided only in the Light Wolf side. While others see only from the negative side and seek constant redress to separate themselves from the whole and find life is only experienced and expressed in reducing all in the dark side.
With these discoveries in hand perhaps the answer lies in careful discovery and intent to choose the correct side to create balance.
Thank you John for sharing that powerful insight. I especially resonate with the last part of “careful discovery and intent to choose”.
Imagining a man using a knife to cut open another man, the intention of whether it’s a surgeon performing a life-saving operation or whether it’s a thief with the intention to steal your shop makes all the difference.
I very much like and identify with your approach on these matters. My own shadow/dark wolf is one that would use any amount of violence, force and intimidation to get what it wants and if it doesn’t get what it wants will smash everything up anyway. In feeding this wolf, I feel unapologetic about enjoying following boxing even though others see the sport as barbaric. Also, I can call on it to not back down when I should stand my ground. The aspect I have not resolved is that I worry about possible war and find accounts of war very upsetting. My light wolf is altruistic and seeks make the life of others better. The problem here is to do with feelings of his hard it is to find as much food for this wolf as I would like.
Thanks John, finding food for the ‘light wolf’ is definitely harder than the dark one, because it seems like the light wolf requires us to develop a certain sensitivity to value more subtle things. I’ve found ‘intense arounsing’ entertainment like boxing or football are easy to appreciate because they are like fast food for our biochemistry that thrills with violence and excitement.
Developing the neurochemistry to appreciate a sunset, or a child laughter is not as in your face, and you really need to tune in with different eyes to feed that light wolf his nourishment.
It seems to come at a cost, the more I appreciate the light wolf food, the more sensitive I feel toward other forms of violence because you already see how much food there is to feed the dark wolf even without the sports/film entertainment; from social injustices to natural tragedies.
Hi, thanks for the Article. My understanding of the shadow is that it holds both positive and negative traits/characteristics. When these are suppressed/repressed so that we are unaware of them, they are in our ‘shadow’. e.g. There could be a healer aspect in our shadow which we deny (for all types of reasons) and push into the unconscious.
Honouring these aspects, begins by acknowledging them, not hating them (though we may feel we want to). This may take time and caring work on ourselves. Naturally we do not act out the ‘bad’ aspects. I believe awareness/mindfulness is one of the keys. Cheers :)
Thank you Jean-Marc, indeed there is what they call the ‘gold’ buried within the shadow self. To reclaim that gold, we must be willing to transform it by encountering it, mindful awareness is key throughout the process :)
Mateo,
I agree with the alternative interpretation of the story. Makes much more sense to me and can help tremendously to unfold spiritually. While living in the physical, we must always be aware of the power of the separate self, the ego. It could be likened to a really good lion tamer who appears to have the lions behaving extremely well. However, as an excellent lion tamer, he never for one second forgets that they are always lions…
Life in the heart of the Creator is pure balance…..
Thanks Norm, that’s a great analogy and way to put it; to honor something, you must be aware of its nature.
I really liked this and the write up. Much appreciated.
Thank you Catt, I appreciate your comment :)
Our culture offers quick fixes to quash the dark side: drugs prescribed, legal or illegal, and constant super busy – ness so as to “get ahead”. Yet the disquiet we often feel, is a guide if we stop and listen, towards a life motivated by our internal spirit and compassion for other beings, instead of the solely extrinsic rewards that our culture champions.
I agree Juliet, it’s amazing how much of that darkness is avoided, though it always seems to find a way out. I’m noticing how much darker the movies/tv have become compared to the 90’s for example, it many ways it reflects the cultural zeitgeist we find ourselves in.
I welcome shadow work. It gives me a feeling of hope. I think God wants us to walk through fire from time to time.
Thanks Steve, I agree that part of the journey of ripening as human beings requires a bit of pain and struggle to find a deeper sense of wholeness within ourselves. :)