Sex. It’s the driving force of nature, the energetic core of life.
From the pollination of plants to the biological urge to reproduce in animals and humans alike, nearly everything has a sex drive – and that sex drive arises from our libido.
As the essence of all creation, sex is the center of all life; from the birth of a child to the ecstatic conception of a piece of art, all creation is rooted in the libido.
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If you have an unwieldy sex drive or are simply interested in channeling this energy in a creative way, keep reading. You might be amazed by what the power of your libido can do!
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What is Sexual Transmutation?
Sexual transmutation is the alchemical practice of channeling and directing your sexual energy into a ‘higher’ purpose. As one of the most powerful energies in existence, our sexual energy can be directed towards achieving goals, manifesting dreams, and experiencing deeper states of consciousness.
Famous examples of people who practice sexual transmutation (either knowingly or unknowingly) include:
- Nikola Tesla
- Joan of Arc
- Gandhi
- Richard Wanger
- Maria de Naglowska
- Dante Alighieri
- Beethoven
- Mother Teresa
- Andy Warhol
- Henry Thoreau
- Leonardo Da Vinci
9 Benefits of Sexual Transmutation
Anyone with a sex drive (no matter how big or small) can practice sexual transmutation. This is also a practice that suits anyone of any spiritual or religious persuasion (as long as that religion embraces sex as a natural and healthy experience).
Some of the most commonly noted benefits include:
- More focus and mental clarity
- Increased creativity
- Enhanced motivation and drive
- Boost of physical energy (good for those who suffer from fatigue)
- More assertiveness and confidence
- Improved mood
- Greater ability to manifest change
- Heightened self-awareness
- Intensified spiritual experiences
If you think that I’ve missed out any key benefits, let me know below in the comments!
Sexual Transmutation Throughout History
Ancient cultures have, for thousands of years, recognized the power and force of the libido. While some have condemned and feared it (as the mighty force it is), others have celebrated and channeled it.
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Apart from the Tantric and Taoist sexual energy practices, there are countless other references to the hidden powers within sex. Kabbalah, for instance, sees sexual desire as the deepest spiritual expression one can have. And in Yogic philosophy, our pure sexual energy is dormant until awakened in its highest form known as “Kundalini.”
Many esoteric groups also practice something called “Sex Magick,” which is connected to psychiatrist Carl Jung’s notion of sexual alchemy (similar to Freud’s sexual sublimation). In Sex Magick, it is taught that with enough will, we can transform the raw energy of our libidos into the transcendent power of creativity.
Sexual Energy = Intense Creativity
Frequent sex has often been perceived, in many religious traditions, to be a kind of distraction. And while there’s absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying regular sex, there’s so much more to the libido then just getting off (orgasming).
Sex, other than being a source of pleasure, can also be channeled into any form of creation – from writing that book you’ve been meaning to pen to mastering the art of intuition. As sexual energy is creative energy, it makes sense to make the most of its innate benefits. Just look at the likes of Immanuel Kant, Lewis Carroll, and even Emily Dickinson – all practitioners of sexual transmutation (in their own way)!
It’s true that after having sex, we feel more relaxed – and this is because the body’s energy and motivation have been temporarily depleted. But imagine what would happen if you used that burst and release of sexual energy toward fulfilling a dream or goal. There are many ways to do this. Visualization is probably the most common method (we’ll explore more practices soon).
Sexual Energy = Spiritual Transformation
There are two sides to the path of sexual transmutation: sexual abstinence and sexual expression, both can create powerful spiritual transformations. What path you decide to walk depends on your libido, character, and personal needs.
Regardless of what path you choose, your sexual energy can be channeled toward feeling closer to the Divine and more in touch with your Soul. Indeed, the moment of orgasm is a holy glimpse into the Divine – it is a moment of no-mind, a moment when you temporarily merge with Oneness and lose your limited ego.
You can also use your sexual energy to fuel your inner work and infuse your path with intensity (especially if you decide to remain celibate). Ancient Hindu philosophy calls this the path of Bhakti or devotional longing. We can see this almost erotic love affair with the Divine within figures such as Sufi poet Rumi, Christian saints such as Teresa of Avila, and Hindu mystics such as Anandamayi Ma.
How to Practice Sexual Transmutation
When motivated by sexual desire, we develop a vaster imagination, deeper courage, firmer willpower, more tenacious persistence, and flourishing creativity that we weren’t even aware of.
If the sexual energy within humanity can become so strong that it moves us to hurt others or risk imprisonment to satiate it, imagine what could happen if we harnessed this energy and directed it toward a greater purpose?
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Before I delve into how to practice sexual transmutation, I want to put a disclaimer here:
The path of sexual transmutation isn’t about rapidly indulging, denying, running away from, or even overcoming the desire for sex. It’s about accepting your sexual drive as an innate part of your nature; as the base notes to your higher symphony.
I have seen many who feel as though they should rise “above” their “lower nature” elements, and thus decide to flee from or ignore their sex drive, considering it primitive and even “unspiritual.” Please don’t make this mistake. Sexuality is beautiful. Orgasms are doorways into the Divine. Pleasure is your birthright. Let’s not confine this part of ourselves to the shadow self (either through excessive indulgence or denial).
Ultimately, sexual energy cannot be created or destroyed, it can only be transformed.
Most of the following techniques I have experimented with – and they suit both men and women. Feel free to try one practice per week and only try those you feel comfortable or safe doing.
Sexual energy transmutation techniques:
1. 7 Day Experiment
For a whole week try abstaining from any sexual activity – either alone or with someone else. After the week, explore what you think and how you feel. While some people will benefit immensely from this practice (more energy, happier mood, greater creativity), others will struggle with built-up negative energy (anxiety, frustration, grumpy mood). This experiment will tell you whether the path of sexual abstinence or sexual expression suits you more – both are two sides of sexual transmutation.
2. Observe Non-judgmentally
If you choose to experiment with the path of sexual abstinence, practice allowing any feelings that arise within you emerge. Try not to judge them, instead, just be an observer. See these feelings as they are, they are natural. Simply observe what these desires and feelings are telling you about yourself. Also, try refraining from labeling them as “sexual energy.” Rather, treat them as a sensation, like when you experience something “hot” or “cold,” and experience them without any expectations of getting rid of them. Some people by simply observing have orgasmic rushes of energy without any physical stimulation.
3. Tantric Edging
Tantric edging is the practice of having sex and coming to the very edge of an orgasm, without reaching the point of ejaculation/climax. This is an ancient Tantric practice that helps to increase your energy, focus, and inspiration. Tantric edging also helps to boost your creativity and is great for those who suffer from chronic fatigue or depression.
4. Orgasmic Visualization
Visualizing is a simple sexual transmutation technique. The only thing that this practice requires is having a clear intention before engaging in sex.
Think about what you would like to direct your energy toward the most. Perhaps you want to finish that college degree, master a skill you’ve been itching to learn, achieve an important goal, or even have a profound spiritual experience of some kind. Whatever is important to you, carry it with you into sex. (Remember, this must be a realistic goal.)
As you engage in sex and reach the point of orgasm, visualize yourself achieving that dream, goal, or desire. The climax of sexual energy directed toward the image you’ve created in your mind is powerful. In Tibetan mysticism, this is known as creating a thought form or tulpa.
Some people feel uncomfortable doing this practice without telling their partner (it can be perceived as ‘using’ your partner to achieve something that benefits you). So if that is a concern of yours, have a playful conversation and let them know.
5. Create a Sigil
A sigil is a symbol that is infused with meaning and intention. This is a practice that is commonly used in Sex Magick or amongst practitioners of Western esotericism. Learn more about sigil magic to create a sigil.
After you learn how to create a sigil, you can then ‘activate’ it (and thereby activate your intention) during sex. At the point of orgasm, focus on your sigil (which you have put nearby somewhere) and then relax. You have now planted a seed within your unconscious mind, fuelled by sexual energy.
(Bonus) 6. Breathwork
Breathwork is the practice of consciously directing your breath. When it comes to sexual transmutation, breathwork can be used to move your libidinal energy throughout your body. This is a particularly effective technique if you suffer from a sacral chakra imbalance (the energetic center of your sexuality).
To practice this technique, breathe in slowly, feeling your sexual energy accumulate within you, then breathe out slowly and feel it dispersing throughout your body. This is a wonderful way of moving your libidinal energy away from your genital area and balancing it throughout your being.
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You can also visualize your sexual energy moving up through your spine (the energy of kundalini) and moving to your third eye chakra. This is a powerful technique, particularly if you want to channel your sexual energy toward spiritual growth (however, go slowly and be gentle with this practice, it can be powerful!).
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By embracing the spiritual power of our sexual energy (and not rejecting it), we can experience greater health, prosperity, growth, creativity, joy, and transformation.
If you are interested in delving more into this topic, you can read my follow-up article on Spiritual Sex .
Have you ever practiced sexual transmutation? If so, what benefits did you experience? Let me know below!
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Wow,this is very helpfull,especially that part of habing sex without reaching the ejaculation point.I feel that is a great relief if the person is in a relationships such as i am.Thanks for posting this and keep up the good work.
Thank you Max, it’s wonderful to hear you’re applying some of these techniques and experiencing much success :)
Great article. As a spiritual and highly sensitive individual, I have struggled with my sexual urges that seem overwhelming. It’s tough to even think about the seven day experiment. After reading this, I feel that my brain finally knows that it must be patient and learn to indulge in delayed gratification.
I’m happy this article has been able to provide you with that. Once we have a defined WHY for our struggles; our HOW’s become much more bearable :).
Thank you for your reply. I am mixed sort of like you, I am half Japanese and the rest that I know of is all caucasian mixed. It is my Japanese mother born in the U.S. that was into the metaphysical.
” Driving force you are passionate about”, that is why it came out in dancing, I loved it so of course it came through that way. So if you are not passionate about it, it will not work?
Yes, the purpose, what can this energy be used for?
I am currently caring for my mother who is weak, ill and bedridden and when you do this and especially alone like I am, it can suck the life right out of you, financially, mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually. I am always tired, my sleep is messed up because she always needs something and I rarely leave the house except to go to the grocery store. I would like to use that energy for this but I almost think it is gone with the rest of my energy. I am trying meditating but I just fall asleep. I am hoping you have some suggestions.
It’s an difficult situation that of taking care of our ill loved ones, but there’s immense significance in the experience when you have the right perception of it.
You have to be passionate about something so that the desire for sexual stimulation is dwarfed compared to the reward you feel when pursuing your passion.
From what you describe I can see the problem. You have no sexual energy to use and channel toward your passion. An illustration of this in in the concentration camps of Auschwitz the men and women reported to have no sexual drive or desires. They were so exhausted physically and mentally that the libido had turned into survival mode and instead was fueling the persons energy just to live.
You can observe that in society as well. The poor people are not interested in pursuing spiritual paths or self-discovery; they are mainly concerned with finding food to eat and paying the next bills, there’s no time for higher pursuits. It’s only the rich or well off, who have taken care of the essentials of food, health and money that realize that it’s not enough, and so begin to do yoga or find new spiritual paths. Firstly though, your basic and essential physical needs are of immediate concern.
Meditation won’t work either as again you need to take care of the essentials; sleep, eating and exercise so that your body has no ‘complaints’ and allows you to meditate or channel your sexual energy without interrupting.
My advice is to prioritize your activities and the way you spend your day; if your mum needs you there you can be there but you need to find ways to provide the essentials for your body before you can even try to enhance it.
Reevaluate your diet; if you aren’t doing much exercise as you are home so much, be mindful of the food you eat as they’ll contribute to fatigue. Raw food diets or the current popular “Slow-Carb Diet” are pretty good for this.
Maybe even consider changing your sleeping patterns seeing as your mum has certain needs, I’ve previously written about polyphasic sleep (https://lonerwolf.com/non-conformist-effective-tasks/) that will allow you to feel more alert and awake with less sleep if you arrange a scheme (30 minute macro naps here and there).
Once you’ve taken care of your essentials you’ll have the freedom to pursue higher energy levels, but first your immediate “drainers” must be acknowledged.
I grew up with a mother that talked about not having sex because you lose energy. It is pretty easy to go long periods without sex. This has not been a problem for me. I think I would like to know how to harness this energy. That is something I don’t think I have done except when dancing, I have used it for this.
If you have tasted this energy once, it can be done again. You must find a purpose towards channeling all this energy, dancing seems to have worked so maybe there are others things.
Once you have a purpose that you’re passionate about, it becomes a driving force to attract your energy and consume it. But first you need to find that purpose.
Thank you Mateo those where very helpeful informations for me.
i feel the urge to transmute my energy to a higher level, and im trying my best to keep myself centered and to keep my energy inside my body , not letting it go out.
i aknowledge how important and essential my sex drive is , i just want to learn how to use it for a higher purpose, i dont want to deny it nor to be controled by it.. your post was the first spot on how to do this, thank you Mateo .
Hola Houssam,
You’re very welcome, I’m grateful you found some light in those words.
I admire your determination to use your sexual energy, not by repressing it, but by channeling it and using it toward a higher purpose; whether it be spiritual, creative or energetic.
Best of luck to you my friend, I look forward to hearing your progress and results :)
My best works are created in times of abstinence. Being the feeling helps! It transports me, more deeply, into the ‘field’.
Hola Isabella,
I’ve found it works similar for me, in works of creativity as well as physical labor. I am curious as to what “fields” it transport you into?
I’m transported into creative fields of ideas, imagination and intuitive ‘stuff’ during abstinence Mateo.
That’s wonderful to hear Isabella, I’m happy to see this sexual transmutation is working so productively for you :)
Quite an interesting articles….!! I am 27 years old, male. Never been in a relationship ever. Haven’t had a sexual relation or encounter ever despite having strong, intense, uncontrollable desires that create lustful, erotic and intimate fantasies and thoughts. I’ve tried my very best in suppressing them via absolute abstinence but every time I’ve failed and have masturbated.
Absolute abstinence has worsened the case every time, It’s like suppressing a volcano about to explode!! and every time I’ve masturbated I felt less satisfied.
This call of nature like the thirst, need to urinate, hunger is physical as well as spiritual in fact more of a spiritual and emotional in my case and finding someone with alike concepts ,of an opposite sex, in today’s materialistic world seems impossible!!
Channelizing your sexual energy without physically expressing it, oh boy…!! That is not gonna work for me!!
Hola Turab,
I’m happy you’ve shared your experience.
Sexual transmutation varies in intensity from person to person, some of the Involution students have their ears get really red and boiling hot after a few days.
One of the helpful tricks they found is to exercise a lot, to channel that physical energy and use it toward something that will transform it. Running, dancing these are some of the activities that you can try.
Apart from that, prolonged periods of meditation every day (15 mins minimum) help you focus your attention away from physical cravings and aim them towards deeper sensations.
Give any of this a try and let me know how you go!
Have you tried breathing the energy up Turab? Imagine the sensation moving up your body, slowly, as you keep your breath balanced and your mind focused. This is what I do and when the sensation gets to my chest area it’s an awesome feeling. I don’t always get the sensation to the top of my my head, but when I do it’s a dang good feeling!
Visualizing of energy is a great suggestion and I’ve experienced in the past is also works wonders, thank you for sharing this with the community :)
I find it very hard to abstain from ejaculation for longer than a few days, it’s basically an addiction.
However when I’m not lazy I find that expelling my sexual energy on an exercise session will take care of the urge to ejaculate.
Hi Anonymous,
The fact that you can channel your sexual energy into exercise is already a good start. Transforming your sexual energy is difficult at first, just like fasting; the first few days are the worst.
There comes a point where the inward desires and tension stops, and instead of imploding with desire you begin to explode with energy.
Let me know if you give it a try! :)
How comes you didn’t reply to the lovely gay man’s comment but did to all the other comments??
I try to respond as soon as I can, but usually I only have time to respond once a week to all my comments so I let them accumulate till then.
The more interesting question is why would you think the fact that the commenter is gay would influence at all my decision in responding or not?
I’m was happy to see this article on your site. I often don’t see much about sexual abstinence anywhere. It seems like people have been brainwashed to believe there must be something wrong with you if you seek a deeper outlet for your sexual energy. I am blessed to be friendly with many Monks from the Self Realization Fellowship tradition that practice abstinence. And they have counseled often about channeling the sex force energy into spiritual energy~moving it up the spine and channeling it towards the Spiritual Eye. People often mistake sex for intimacy. I feel that intimacy comes from many different outlets and sex can be one of them. But sex without connection, at least for me, feels like the opposite of intimacy. At this juncture of my life I am seeking out a “Spiritual Partner/Marriage”. If the physical comes as an expression of that connection at some point so be it. But I also would not feel like the relationship is any less connected without it. Our whole world is so sensually focused. For me it gets tiring. I want to go inside where it is quiet and have a deeper connection then just physical. I don’t want my bodily urges to have dominion over me. Then the monkey mind takes over and you are little more then a slave to it.
Hola Lisa!,
It is a sad observation indeed, that abstinence is never considered nor mentioned very much even with its immense physical as well as spiritual benefits.
In modern society sex has been somehow separated from love as a pursuit of pleasure and excitement, which in a way, I understand. We have stopped believing in so much, we have lost touch with our spiritual side and become more in touch with our utilitarian side. Sex is very purpose driven now, it has lost it’s dependency on love and as a consequence, its deepening of intimacy.
I have observed in many cases sex seems more like an acceptable form of rape, where each person is only worried about their “pleasure” and pursuit of the ending experience; we mask it as seduction with ‘foreplays’ but slowly even that disappears. In some marriages foreplays doesn’t even happen, we go straight to the point, and often fall asleep after we’ve been relieved. There is no concern for playfulness, for intimacy or even ‘afterplay’, it’s just the mindless desire of wanting to get rid of a tension.
Intimacy definitely plays an immense role; some studies have even found that while sex provides many beneficial attributes like mood boosts etc…, masturbation does the opposite and in some cases even creates depression. The physical act is the same, but the emotional experience is entirely different.
Thank you for sharing your great insight into the matter :)
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You’re kidding right. The idea of love before marriage or sex is completely modern. Sex was seen as part of a larger social contract to create a family in part to support the need for labor in agrarian communities. The other component was social contract with community, where two families would cement a political/trade relationship through mutual bloodlines. For instance, by marrying your daughter or son off to a neighboring family that had a salt mine, you could expect access to their salt, and your food could be preserved. And they could expect access to part of your herd of livestock, ensuring high quality protein availability for their clan. This led to the idea of virginity being a commodity to be protected, as the lineage of the children became important for securing this relationship. No bloodline, no deal.
In places like Japan during the Edo period, sex was much more liberal and was not saddled with the same stigma as Judeo-Christian societies, which have a much more negative view on sex and sexuality. While the aristocracy did indeed care about bloodlines, they also expected several extra-marital partners for the men. With only the primary wife, of a similarly noble bloodline, being the one to bear legitimate heirs. Love had zero to do with how the primary wife was chosen. If they wanted to find love, they could do so outside of their marriage, so long as they did not forsake there obligations to their family and community.
Farmers, on the other hand, during the Edo period practiced something entirely different. Unable to afford many wives, the community was already accustomed to sharing resources to ensure mutual survival and so they shared each other sexually just as they shared their crops. Because no one was certain of the lineage of any given child, the villagers would treat every child as their own, as there was often a chance that they may have indeed been directly related. Sexual pleasure was treated as a need that was no different than the need for food, water or companionship. And the community was responsible for meeting those needs.
I will say that there is certainly some irony to a blog about shadow work that refuses to legitimize sexual needs. Instead it seeks to deny or transform them. Your views on sex are that it is negative and a distraction and that it should be mutated into something more neat and “constructive.” Would you transform the needs of your super-ego into something dark? You advocate embracing the darker aspects, but then you talk about viewing them from behind a pane of glass, only acknowledging that they exist and then focusing on “transforming” them or cultivate light aspects. Sexual needs are not the red headed step child that you make them out to be and dying their hair will not make you whole.
I think you should take the training wheels off of your exploration of
the darker elements and actually listen to what your body is telling
you. Go down the hole, and not just from the comfort of your meditation cushion. There is a fundamental truth waiting for you, that you will never reach from hovering over your body. Delve into the chaos. Release control and learn what it will teach you. Only once you drown in its icy black waters can you truly be reborn into the flow of all things.
Hola John,
I feel you’ve failed to take all of our work as a whole into account, instead treating this article as the final say on sex. This was written specifically for a certain group of our audience who was interested in the transformation of sexual energy.
In this article we explore the use of sex as a catalyst for spirituality https://lonerwolf.com/spiritual-sex/ rather than avoiding or transforming it, and in this article https://lonerwolf.com/marriage-solitude-love/ I explored much of what you’ve mention regarding marriages history and relation to the experience of ‘love’.
Warmly,
Sol
Hi Don I see where John is coming from, the whole concept of sexuality, the sacred and one’s consecration, has to be re-thought out from the root, if we go back centuries that was the ideal for that time, go back in history as if warped, and what of the essential unconscious and subconscious underlying factors that were played out yet never recorded that which left a gap between it and where we are n sometimes itd hid because we may’ve not been ready for it, it was a sensitive topic, and as a whole many find the truth hard swallow,
The article if you’re open minded speaks for itself, and many of us miss that, I can converse, archeo-scientists, philosopher poets, hippies and see where all are coming from every point no matter how divergent should be valued…. even our apparently outside Judeo-Christian may just be stranglely from the same source of distortion not mention getting lost in translation….lool, I love Johns Edo info about sharing and every child to be treated as their own. Now to work out ways to help children make their minds up about love, in they are well loved, adored and protected.
Isolation is great but a world full of exploration requires going back to that realm if Jesus could walk amongst all types its up to us to realise our own heart and test it, to challenge ourselves with profound faith in the miraculous and seemingly impossible. I guess and John is probably old enough to work out, that to got to extremes sort of exhibits are need to experience complete in ecstacy so that when you leave that realm you’re no longer hasty or quick to aid, in the realisation that experiential complete submission to the more creative energies to be intra-perienced is the aid.
All The Best
Simon
Hi Lisa A the reason why the world is sensually focused is because we’re really all a craving on legs, everyone in this reality desires connection, I’m not going to judge the way others interact with eachother through sex, I understand Don Mateo Sol, but I think the abstinence is a gradual process after the exploration of what you like and don’t like, like William Blake once said “The road to excess leads to the palace of wisdom…for we never know what is enough until we know what is more than enough.” I think that’s why many woman lack the vulnerability and have become mechanical, your body is telling you something, like ‘experience and better understand those urges as they are basic human needs”, and the same reason we feel guilty for having this is the same reason why many women are called whores for having sexual urges, because we fear what society thinks, I think sex especially is a combination of DIvinity/Whoredom(In its positive sense, Whore was never a destructive word it changed through time) and finally the animal yet the art of connection and having a Spiritual Partner is allowing yourself to be vulnerable and at least partially out of control, in that way you lose fear and can be as sensual and touching as you like .
You make women sound like they are sexually repressed and fear societies thoughts about their sexuality. This isn’t the 50’s. Just about all my female friends have a strong sexual appetites.
I’ve actually been worried about some of my male and female friends having sexual addiction problems. They are becoming so desensitized that they can’t look within themselves to see what they are lacking and hiding from themselves emotionally and spiritually. I think some abstaince would benefit them.
Do you wear heels and don’t question why you wear them? Do you have a strong sexual appetite but nowhere to put them? Is it more about saying I’m feel more sexually fulfilled and accomplished regardless of facing ridicule or maybe condemnation?
Is the ‘strong’ in your enormous appetite really mean I’m vulnerable but I don’t want you to know that, regardless of whether the inferences are right or wrong we are in essence experientially multi-dimensional beings, could it be that many who are repressed which I believe the soul goes through, you, be raped from many perspectives, with such experiences resilience and indifference kicks in we no longer have to keep up a pretence who we think we are and just be.
I never degraded you made you look perverted but did so to me, regardless of my perception, the point is its my experience regardless of your prejudice, I choice how much I allow to freely flow, I actually demonstrating my sympathy for those not so impervious as yourself, y’know the ones who went through deeply penetrating indescrible stuff and are open to a more holistic approach and understanding to individual people’s need.
As Jimi Hendrix said in ‘Cross-Town Traffic,’ ‘tire tracks across your back, I can see you had your fun,’ if its not sarcastic enough to stimulate your libido I’m truly sorry that essence is not enough…. loool
At the ripe old age of 77, I enjoy sex more than ever. More so than when I was younger. I had many partners back then but none like my present love and lover. He is 69. He is eight years younger, but at our age it doesn’t make a difference. We both are amazed each time gets better and better. So, you don’t go asexual unless you choose to. It is a matter of finding the right soul to have some earthly fun.
That’s great to hear Johnie that you’re having such a great time and re-discovering your sexual life with your beloved.
This article isn’t so much aimed at becoming asexual, or that sex is less enjoyable unless you find your soul mate. It’s more aimed at discovering hidden energy and focused awareness reserves within you that are born from your sexual energy center.
Keep having a great earthly fun!