Have you ever come across a person who you feel like you’ve known “forever” – even if you’ve just met?
Have you ever come across a person with who you immediately connect, without knowing why?
Sometimes these people actually know what you’re going to say before you’ve even said anything. Mateo and I used to call these experiences “freaky mind connections” because we’d often think and say the exact same thing at the exact same moment.
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These people who we connect with on a deep heart level can be thought of as our “Soul Family” or “Soul Group.”
I’ll share with you how to recognize members of your own Soul Family and what lessons they’ll help you learn.
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What is a Soul Family?
A Soul Family is comprised of a group of people that your Soul energetically resonates with on a mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual level.
These people are members of the same “Spirit Family” as you and they share an intensely strong bond that transcends time and space itself.
Intuitively, most people tend to describe this connection as sharing the same “frequency” or “vibration” because of the deep harmony felt.
Such a deep and harmonious connection goes beyond sharing the same surface-based personality tastes, hobbies, and opinions: it’s an intense magnetic and spiritual bond that is inexplicable to the mind.
Therefore, your Soul Family is often described as being comprised of Souls that are cut from the same “energetic cloth” as you.
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Types of Soul Family Connections
There are many different types of Soul Family connections that you can develop including:
Essentially, a soul tie happens when two people of the same vibrational frequency energetically overlap and share similar thoughts, feelings, values, and dreams.
Although you might come from different cultures, races, or opposite backgrounds, you’ll immediately sense an ancient and strong connection in your bones, blood, and very Soul.
Read more about Soul Ties.
Why Do We Have Soul Families?
To me, the most valuable social experience a person can ever have is meeting a member of their Soul Family.
The defining quality of this type of person is that they make it impossible for you to remain the same person by the time they exit your life.
Relationships, like nature itself, have many seasons. Uniting with a Soul Family member can last a few hours on a plane trip, or end after 60 years of marriage. Sometimes only physical death will end (if only momentarily) such connections.
Every member of your Soul Family will appear in your life to teach you a lesson and to catalyze your spiritual awakening.
However, we’re not always ready to fully connect with members of our Soul Family – but even this is a lesson unto itself.
So why do we have Soul Families?
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Metaphysically speaking, Soul Families are a natural product of the “flow” of Spirit. If you look at the Ocean, you’ll notice that sometimes clusters of waves arise. The same goes for Soul Families: we are all Spirit, but we’re also broken down into many different Soul Families. These Soul Families carry out certain roles, namely, to help each other embody the purpose of their Souls.
In other words, your Soul Family is here to help you learn, grow, and experience what ancient traditions have referred to as “nirvana”, self-realization or spiritual enlightenment.
Soul Families Throughout History
In many spiritual traditions, the obstacles that we face in this life are said to be chosen before birth.
It is said that we choose the family we’re born into, the bodies and personalities we develop, and the people we bring into our lives. These people are chosen because our Souls knew they would give us the best chance to learn the many life lessons we need to grow spiritually.
There are many examples of Soul Families throughout history that gained a lot of force and traction, therefore creating drastic social change.
Take, for instance, the Creative Renaissance, that was composed of figures such as Leonardo Da Vinci, Michelangelo, Raphael, Machiavelli, Thomas More, Copernicus, Francis Bacon, Galileo, Martin Luther, and William Shakespeare. Chances are that they were all part of the same Soul Family!
There was also the Spiritual Renaissance that was composed of figures such as Gautama Buddha, Mahavira, Makkhali Gosala, and Ajita Kesakambali.
In China, there was Confucius, Lao Tzu, Mencius, Chuang Tzu, Lieh Tzu, and in Greece there was Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Heraclitus, and Pythagoras.
All of these individuals interacted with each other (directly or indirectly) in different ways that were necessary for a revolution to occur.
The amazing thing is that each of these Soul Families has wildly expanded our collective growth and evolutionary progress.
Not only that, but each coming generation will bring in waves of powerful and transformative Soul Family energy that is built upon the previous progress of earlier Soul Families.
By finding your Soul Family, you grow at not only an individual level but also a collective level. Each plan, each path, is equally as important in the overall evolution of the whole.
It’s only through this profound experience of relating to one another on a Soul level that drastic change can occur on both an inner and outer level.
12 Signs You’ve Met Someone From Your Soul Family
If wanderers who are members of other sects should ask you, “What, friend, are the prerequisites for the development of the wings to self-awakening?” you should answer, “There is the case where a monk has admirable friends, admirable companions, admirable comrades. This is the first prerequisite for the development of the wings to self-awakening.”
– Gautama Buddha (The Anguttara Nikaya)
There are a few ways to tell if you’ve met someone who resonates with you on a Soul level. (Please note that in the case of karmic relationships, a lot of these signs don’t apply.) Here are a few things you might notice:
1. Your eye contact is deep and engaging
You’re not afraid to make prolonged eye contact with members of your Soul Family – it doesn’t feel awkward.
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When you do make eye contact, it’s as if there’s something familiar that you both share, something comforting, something ancient.
Perhaps when you make eye contact, you’re tapping into a deeper truth that you both silently understand and share.
2. They will be more Soul-centric than Ego-centric
Members of your Soul Family will not be interested in ego-centered pursuits such as fame, status, money, and glory. Instead, they’ll be more soul-centered.
For example, they might be interested in conscious living, meditation, healthy eating, yoga, helping the environment, and so forth. Even if they’re not overly “spiritual” per se, you’ll be able to pick up on their big heart.
3. You’re magnetically drawn to them
For no apparent reason, members of your Soul Family will “pop out” to you like sore thumbs. You’ll be immediately drawn to them and their energy. Even if you lose touch with them, they’ll likely emerge in your life over and over again.
4. Both of you speak the “same language”
When speaking, both of you share similar thoughts and insights, and you’re on the “same page” emotionally. It’s not uncommon for you to both repeat the same thoughts and words, as if you’re mirroring each other’s minds.
5. You feel as though you’ve known them for your entire life
You’ve never felt so comfortable and understood by another person in your entire life! Deep down, your connection feels timeless. When you first met this person, you felt a strange sense of recognition and familiarity.
6. You always feel energized around them
Whenever you spend time with a member of your Soul Tribe, you’ll feel energetically uplifted rather than drained.
7. They appear in your life when you most need guidance
The moment you’re open to growing beyond your current layers of fear and limiting beliefs is the moment you’ll attract a member of your Soul Family for spiritual guidance.
8. Hours talking with them feels like minutes
Time is completely relative when you speak with someone from your Soul Family. You enjoy talking with them so much that time disappears quickly and before you know it, three hours have gone by!
9. They reflect your best qualities
Your Soul Family reflects your best qualities, but they will also challenge you to see and embrace your greatest flaws.
Sometimes challenging you will including creating difficult circumstances for you to learn from (usually unconsciously), or being brutally honest with you (even if it hurts).
Whatever the case, you can count on your Soul Family to help you authentically grow.
10. You share similar life experiences
Themes such as abandonment, abuse, isolation, and other struggles will be shared between you and your Soul Family member. Each life theme will be used as a basis for growth, advice, and mutual support.
11. Your Soul feels nourished in their presence
There are some people in life who seem to weigh heavily on your Spirit – your Soul Family does the opposite. You’ll always feel seen, understand, loved, and uplifted by members of your Soul Tribe.
12. You can be your raw and authentic self with them
There’s no need to hide, fake, or pretend to be someone else around your Soul Family. Your Soul Family honors and celebrates the “authentic” you both on a personality level, and a Soul level.
How to Find Your Soul Family
Where do you find people from your Soul Family?
People have asked me this question so many times, and I once asked the same thing too.
But the question isn’t about “where” you’ll find them – your Soul Family will find you. Instead, the question is “when” you will find them.
Over the years, I’ve found that a time comes in your life when you feel a strong pull towards your Soul Family as if you’re finally ready to meet them.
When members of your Soul Family also reach the same readiness, synchronicity will bring you together.
But this inner feeling doesn’t mean that you should sit around, twiddle your thumbs, and continue your normal routine without changing anything.
You can’t win the lottery unless you buy a ticket! Once you feel ready to meet them, you need to start actively pursuing the encounter.
At this point, you’ll need to listen to your intuition or gut feelings rather than your head.
Your mind, full of fears and past habits, will guide you toward the path that feels most comfortable and safe – this is the wrong path.
The best path forward is to listen to your heart.
Certainly, your heart will guide you to step outside of your comfort zone and feel uncomfortable. But, in the end, your heart knows the way as it is connected to your Soul.
Likely, you’ll find your intuition guiding you towards new places and activities that you’ve never tried before.
For example, you might be guided to create an online meetup group, join a cooking class, start tai chi, take up a volunteering position, or even travel to a place that unexpectedly calls to you.
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$3You might only meet one person from your Soul Family, or if you’re fortunate, you might meet all of them – but this isn’t important.
What matters is having the experience of meeting those who share your purpose and mission on Earth to support our collective evolution as a species.
I feel blessed to know so many of my Soul Tribe through this work and website.
I hope that you’re drawn ever closer to other members of your Soul Family each day.
Have you ever met a member of your Soul Family? What was it like? Please share below!
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I briefly met someone at a party (we were sober) who I felt just this way about and I believe it was mutual. Total ease, happiness, giggles, magnetism, deep eye contact, feeling like we had been connected before, attraction, wanting to touch (not necessarily sexual), not wanting to leave each other’s presence, paying compliments and just thinking the other person is otherworldly and special, showing care and support. I’ve only met a few people In my life that I’ve felt connected to in this special and magical way. But due to the circumstances we had to part was after just a short encounter. She said that maybe, one day, we will bump into each other again. I could see the pained look on her face when she had to go. It was like we were being ripped apart. She’s 15-20 years older than me. And she’s married with kids. I didn’t find our meeting to be particularly romantic, although it did have elements of romance, it was just a very intense soul connection. I can contact her on Facebook as I easily found her through mutual friends. I feel endlessly drawn to her. I feel like we need to connect and that it’s important for our life journeys but I’m worried she could take me contacting her the wrong way. That she may find it either, creepy, inappropriate or random. Some part of me thinks she didn’t find the experience as highly magical as me. I don’t know how to explain to her why I feel the need to contact her without seeming romantically obsessed! Anything I think of writing to her seems inappropriate because she is married. I feel quite heavy hearted about it all. Anyone i’ve confided in hasn’t had this kind of experience so they just think I’m creepy.
Hi El-
I’m a married woman and my husband and I have been talking about my pursuing a sexual relationship with a woman for many years. I’m not one for dating apps, so I wanted it to happen organically, but I finally met someone in October. Yes, it’s passionate.. but it’s so much more than that. I feel magnetized by her, and she has admitted to me she feels the same way. I haven’t felt so stirred by someone since I met my husband (we’ve been together for nine years now) but being around her just feels right. Navigating polyamory entirely aside, I’ve told her that I want her to be in my life regardless, and that our meeting feels destined- that we have something important to learn from/give to each other. Reading this blog entry has hit on so many buzzwords we’ve been using, and it helps me know I’m not crazy!
Anyway, I say all of this to say, shoot your shot. you’ve lost nothing if she decides not to respond. you could even try sharing this article or my comment. try for coffee first. but your faith in front of you and walk into it. life is too short, and humans are entirely too simple to understand it. failure is part of life. don’t fear it because then you’re not living.
Then Why Soul Groups People Seperate? Why God take them aways from our life n we again feel helpless
You say in many spiritual traditions that we choose the body, family, roles, pathways etc before birth. I know this to be true from reading Journey of Souls & Destiny of Souls. Can you tell who in our past had these spiritual traditions so that I may read up on them? Thank you! Everything you right fills me with inspiration.
Thomas Dombroski
I think that one of the key things is the instant ‘connection’ that you feel with a member of your soul group/family.
There is an instant rapport and something just kind of clicks between you.
I would also like to say that meeting a member of our soul family is NOT always a joyful or pleasant experience.
Sometimes the lessons we must learn from our soul mates are painful and there is a lot of healing to be done.
Many people have the concept that meeting our soul mates is something that is always intensely happy and wonderful, and whilst this is very often true, it must be said that this is not ALWAYS the case.
For example, we sometimes have traumatic relationships, and afterwards we emerge from these relationships stronger and wiser.
We learn from these bad experiences, and hopefully we will eventually forgive and start to to heal, but the fact is that they are still soul mate relationships.
Like I said, it is not always a happy-ever-after scenario when we reunite with a spiritual family member.
Also I very much believe that sometimes our soul family member is only meant to be in our life for a short time. Soul re-unions are not always meant to last a whole lifetime…..HOWEVER……what is for certain is that you will never forget that person……..they are quite literally cut from the same cloth as you…….they are your spiritual family.
I will give a personal example.
Many years ago when I was in my mid 20s I started a job and I became friends with a woman who I worked with. We instantly connected and I know that she was a member of my ‘soul family’. She was in her 50s and I looked upon her as a substitute mum; my relationship with my real mum was not that great.
Anyway, It was like we had known each other for years. The friendship was cut tragically short when she became ill with cancer and died.
We had been friends for 2 and a half years, but I learned a great deal from this friendship.
This woman was very wise and she had experienced tragedy and heartbreak in her life and it was one of those friendships that define a person. Her courage was awesome and very humbling.
I am now in my mid 50s and 5 years ago I met the man who I know is my twin flame.
He is 8 years older than me.
The twin flame experience is like nothing you will ever have experienced before.
The love is so intense and unconditional, it is almost TOO MUCH at times.
Also it is not a ‘Hearts and Flowers’ relationship.
The main reason that twin souls agree to reunite is for the benefit of the planet and me and my twin have been working together as human rights activists.
We have been through the whole runner/chaser phase and now, finally, after 5 years, we have reached the stage where we have surrendered our egos and the REAL healing has begun between us.
Twin souls usually meet late in life because they both need to experience many life lessons before they are ready to come together.
It is extremely unlikely that you will meet your twin in your 20s or 30s, for the simple reason that you will not have experienced enough of life to be ready for such a huge job…..and believe me, the twin soul reunion is a mammoth task……but also a beautiful one.
In your 20s and 30s, it is more likely that the person you think of as your twin is more likely a soul mate.
I could write a lot more about twin soul journey, but it would probably take a book to encapsulate all of it.
I’m not sure about all but I have already met some of my soul group. It feels like the longer I live, the more I meet and it began with meeting my twin flame over 10 years ago. A bit later I met a soulmate with whom I was together for 8 years. In this time I also met a guy who became my best friend for years. Last year I met 2 guys I instantly felt drawn to and with whom I could both talk for hours. And I’m positive that I will meet more on my way =)
None of them are “awakened” but I don’t think they have to be. Some were aware of our connection (esp. my last flatmate) and some may just have had an unconscious feeling. Thinking about it now I find it kind of funny that I can only name males. I’m not sure about an old schoolfriend, but she would be the only female I could name. Anyone an idea what this could mean?
I met a man 8 years ago now and when I did I immediately got a relaxed happy feeling and the impression that we would be very good best of friends. But immediately when that thought had finished I had another which was “be careful of him, he is dangerous.” I kept away from him as much as possible, never could bring myself to converse with him. Although I have felt an ‘attraction’ to him ever since. After reading the blog, I am now wondering – –
Would he have felt a strong reaction to me too?
I am experiencing this right now. and I have before….as a medium i keep most of my spiritual life a secret from the world and i am at a point in my life where I yearn for people who understand my spirituality because the fake world doesn’t do it for me…it never has……
I think I found one of my family and came to the realization today. It started out as an idea. I’m fairly intuitive but lack inspiration sometimes. This persons energy (I guess is what I’m choosing to call it) inspires me and I gravitate toward them. It has been a weird situation for me from the beginning but there are so many things I cant ignore. It makes so much sense! I’ve been researching all night trying to develop this idea further and I really needed to read this! Thank you for even writing it! I have so much more I want to learn and explore.
This is interesting. There are quite a few people like that in my life…I also keep meeting more..
Can you meet someone from your soul tribe and you totally know it, but the other person be so disconnected from themselves and their life path that they just sink back into being asleep?
I met someone that felt like part of my family. She and I couldn’t stop staring into one another’s eyes, hours passed like seconds. But she kept pulling away and finally moved to another state in pursuit of fame. It has been months, and it still feels like a part of me has been torn away and is waiting to be reattached.
I have changed so much that I no longer fit in with my old habits or friend circles. I can choose to spend time with them or doing old things, it just feels “wrong”.
I am so ready for my soul tribe, so ready to be deeply understood again. I feel like I have been doing all the things I can do to meet more of them…but in the meantime, being a lone wolf can be so lonely.
Luckily I have been blessed with my Son Richard who is one of my soul tribe, I know the minute he was born that he & I were linked in a way which is more than Mother & Son, he is now awakening to his gifts as a healer, an empath, & lightworker, & as he is walking this path on his lifes journey I know he will gain the knowledge of the gifts he needs to fulfill his his purpose.