Have you ever come across a person who you feel like you’ve known “forever” – even if you’ve just met?
Have you ever come across a person with who you immediately connect, without knowing why?
Sometimes these people actually know what you’re going to say before you’ve even said anything. Mateo and I used to call these experiences “freaky mind connections” because we’d often think and say the exact same thing at the exact same moment.
These people who we connect with on a deep heart level can be thought of as our “Soul Family” or “Soul Group.”
I’ll share with you how to recognize members of your own Soul Family and what lessons they’ll help you learn.
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What is a Soul Family?
A Soul Family is comprised of a group of people that your Soul energetically resonates with on a mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual level.
These people are members of the same “Spirit Family” as you and they share an intensely strong bond that transcends time and space itself.
Intuitively, most people tend to describe this connection as sharing the same “frequency” or “vibration” because of the deep harmony felt.
Such a deep and harmonious connection goes beyond sharing the same surface-based personality tastes, hobbies, and opinions: it’s an intense magnetic and spiritual bond that is inexplicable to the mind.
Therefore, your Soul Family is often described as being comprised of Souls that are cut from the same “energetic cloth” as you.
Types of Soul Family Connections
There are many different types of Soul Family connections that you can develop including:
Essentially, a Soul connection happens when two people of the same vibrational frequency energetically overlap and share similar thoughts, feelings, values, and dreams.
Although you might come from different cultures, races, or opposite backgrounds, you’ll immediately sense an ancient and strong connection in your bones, blood, and very Soul.
Why Do We Have Soul Families?
To me, the most valuable social experience a person can ever have is meeting a member of their Soul Family.
The defining quality of this type of person is that they make it impossible for you to remain the same person by the time they exit your life.
Relationships, like nature itself, have many seasons. Uniting with a Soul Family member can last a few hours on a plane trip, or end after 60 years of marriage. Sometimes only physical death will end (if only momentarily) such connections.
Every member of your Soul Family will appear in your life to teach you a lesson and to catalyze your spiritual awakening.
However, we’re not always ready to fully connect with members of our Soul Family – but even this is a lesson unto itself.
So why do we have Soul Families?
Metaphysically speaking, Soul Families are a natural product of the “flow” of Spirit. If you look at the Ocean, you’ll notice that sometimes clusters of waves arise. The same goes for Soul Families: we are all Spirit, but we’re also broken down into many different Soul Families. These Soul Families carry out certain roles, namely, to help each other embody the purpose of their Souls.
In other words, your Soul Family is here to help you learn, grow, and experience what ancient traditions have referred to as “nirvana”, self-realization or spiritual enlightenment.
Soul Families Throughout History
In many spiritual traditions, the obstacles that we face in this life are said to be chosen before birth.
It is said that we choose the family we’re born into, the bodies and personalities we develop, and the people we bring into our lives. These people are chosen because our Souls knew they would give us the best chance to learn the many life lessons we need to grow spiritually.
There are many examples of Soul Families throughout history that gained a lot of force and traction, therefore creating drastic social change.
Take, for instance, the Creative Renaissance, that was composed of figures such as Leonardo Da Vinci, Michelangelo, Raphael, Machiavelli, Thomas More, Copernicus, Francis Bacon, Galileo, Martin Luther, and William Shakespeare. Chances are that they were all part of the same Soul Family!
There was also the Spiritual Renaissance that was composed of figures such as Gautama Buddha, Mahavira, Makkhali Gosala, and Ajita Kesakambali.
In China, there was Confucius, Lao Tzu, Mencius, Chuang Tzu, Lieh Tzu, and in Greece there was Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Heraclitus, and Pythagoras.
All of these individuals interacted with each other (directly or indirectly) in different ways that were necessary for a revolution to occur.
The amazing thing is that each of these Soul Families has wildly expanded our collective growth and evolutionary progress.
Not only that, but each coming generation will bring in waves of powerful and transformative Soul Family energy that is built upon the previous progress of earlier Soul Families.
By finding your Soul Family, you grow at not only an individual level but also a collective level. Each plan, each path, is equally as important in the overall evolution of the whole.
It’s only through this profound experience of relating to one another on a Soul level that drastic change can occur on both an inner and outer level.
12 Signs You’ve Met Someone From Your Soul Family
If wanderers who are members of other sects should ask you, “What, friend, are the prerequisites for the development of the wings to self-awakening?” you should answer, “There is the case where a monk has admirable friends, admirable companions, admirable comrades. This is the first prerequisite for the development of the wings to self-awakening.”– Gautama Buddha (The Anguttara Nikaya)
There are a few ways to tell if you’ve met someone who resonates with you on a Soul level. (Please note that in the case of karmic relationships, a lot of these signs don’t apply.) Here are a few things you might notice:
1. Your eye contact is deep and engaging
You’re not afraid to make prolonged eye contact with members of your Soul Family – it doesn’t feel awkward.
When you do make eye contact, it’s as if there’s something familiar that you both share, something comforting, something ancient.
Perhaps when you make eye contact, you’re tapping into a deeper truth that you both silently understand and share.
2. They will be more Soul-centric than Ego-centric
Members of your Soul Family will not be interested in ego-centered pursuits such as fame, status, money, and glory. Instead, they’ll be more soul-centered.
For example, they might be interested in conscious living, meditation, healthy eating, yoga, helping the environment, and so forth. Even if they’re not overly “spiritual” per se, you’ll be able to pick up on their big heart.
3. You’re magnetically drawn to them
For no apparent reason, members of your Soul Family will “pop out” to you like sore thumbs. You’ll be immediately drawn to them and their energy. Even if you lose touch with them, they’ll likely emerge in your life over and over again.
4. Both of you speak the “same language”
When speaking, both of you share similar thoughts and insights, and you’re on the “same page” emotionally. It’s not uncommon for you to both repeat the same thoughts and words, as if you’re mirroring each other’s minds.
5. You feel as though you’ve known them for your entire life
You’ve never felt so comfortable and understood by another person in your entire life! Deep down, your connection feels timeless. When you first met this person, you felt a strange sense of recognition and familiarity.
6. You always feel energized around them
Whenever you spend time with a member of your Soul Tribe, you’ll feel energetically uplifted rather than drained.
7. They appear in your life when you most need guidance
The moment you’re open to growing beyond your current layers of fear and limiting beliefs is the moment you’ll attract a member of your Soul Family for spiritual guidance.
8. Hours talking with them feels like minutes
Time is completely relative when you speak with someone from your Soul Family. You enjoy talking with them so much that time disappears quickly and before you know it, three hours have gone by!
9. They reflect your best qualities
Your Soul Family reflects your best qualities, but they will also challenge you to see and embrace your greatest flaws.
Sometimes challenging you will including creating difficult circumstances for you to learn from (usually unconsciously), or being brutally honest with you (even if it hurts).
Whatever the case, you can count on your Soul Family to help you authentically grow.
10. You share similar life experiences
Themes such as abandonment, abuse, isolation, and other struggles will be shared between you and your Soul Family member. Each life theme will be used as a basis for growth, advice, and mutual support.
11. Your Soul feels nourished in their presence
There are some people in life who seem to weigh heavily on your Spirit – your Soul Family does the opposite. You’ll always feel seen, understand, loved, and uplifted by members of your Soul Tribe.
12. You can be your raw and authentic self with them
There’s no need to hide, fake, or pretend to be someone else around your Soul Family. Your Soul Family honors and celebrates the “authentic” you both on a personality level, and a Soul level.
How to Find Your Soul Family
Where do you find people from your Soul Family?
People have asked me this question so many times, and I once asked the same thing too.
But the question isn’t about “where” you’ll find them – your Soul Family will find you. Instead, the question is “when” you will find them.
Over the years, I’ve found that a time comes in your life when you feel a strong pull towards your Soul Family as if you’re finally ready to meet them.
When members of your Soul Family also reach the same readiness, synchronicity will bring you together.
But this inner feeling doesn’t mean that you should sit around, twiddle your thumbs, and continue your normal routine without changing anything.
You can’t win the lottery unless you buy a ticket! Once you feel ready to meet them, you need to start actively pursuing the encounter.
At this point, you’ll need to listen to your intuition or gut feelings rather than your head.
Your mind, full of fears and past habits, will guide you toward the path that feels most comfortable and safe – this is the wrong path.
The best path forward is to listen to your heart.
Certainly, your heart will guide you to step outside of your comfort zone and feel uncomfortable. But, in the end, your heart knows the way as it is connected to your Soul.
Likely, you’ll find your intuition guiding you towards new places and activities that you’ve never tried before.
For example, you might be guided to create an online meetup group, join a cooking class, start tai chi, take up a volunteering position, or even travel to a place that unexpectedly calls to you.
You might only meet one person from your Soul Family, or if you’re fortunate, you might meet all of them – but this isn’t important.
What matters is having the experience of meeting those who share your purpose and mission on Earth to support our collective evolution as a species.
I feel blessed to know so many of my Soul Tribe through this work and website.
I hope that you’re drawn ever closer to other members of your Soul Family each day.
Have you ever met a member of your Soul Family? What was it like? Please share below!
This is exactly what I needed to read. I’ve been thinking of soul connections and it had been clouding my mind as I couldn’t quite put my finger on the connection I have with a friend if mine. I caught up with them unexpectedly when I was feeling a little lost and after speaking with them I found myself being…myself basically. I felt understood instantly, and woke up to what was missing. They even mentioned they had been thinking of me randomly after 10 years of seeing each other…like they could feel something was off with me…and actually they had been on my mind too preciously- turns out at the time they were going thru personal dramas. We have definite magnetic energy and since day one of meeting back at school got on like a house on fire….like our mouths said “nice to meet u” but our souls sai”heeeey long time no see….I’ve been waiting for u to get here”
Enjoy every post of yours. Thank you :)
I am not sure, but I feel like I found a ‘soul family member’ who died years ago (year I was born). Is that even possible? The ‘chord’ that we share is that we both read intensely in order to improve our speaking abilities. When I found out, I sobbed; quite unexpected because I have Autism.
Exactly 25 years ago I met my Soul Mate. He has always told me from the moment he saw me (I was 12 years old) I was going to be his wife. Back then he was the bad boy and I was the good girl and my mom was not having it. From time to time we would run into each other and we’d kiss and hug, but I knew I should stay away. He continued to chase me, but then he went away for awhile. When I was 15, here he was again walking pass my house. This time was it, I didn’t care what my mother had to say I had to make him my boyfriend. He only came home once a month and that was good enough for me. In between time we wrote letters and waited for the next time we would be together. We did this from July until December and decided we would always share forever. Once he was home something in me changed. That January he turned 17 and I was turning 16 two weeks later and felt I needed to move on. He was devastated and all I kept thinking was that… Read more »
Generally whenever I meet anyone with whom I have an instant, deep and magnetic connection to it’s usually the sort of person who isn’t afraid to be goofy or silly… the artsy, expressive type who covets a good adventure and really lives in the moment. I sometimes wonder if this is really a member of “my tribe” or someone reflecting back the better parts of myself I have lost along the way, the parts I really miss having. When I met my significant other however, the connection based experience was quite different. I felt so certain that I knew him and was trying to figure out where I was remembering him from. Did he go to my old karate school? Was he another student at the college? Was he on TV or something? Our paths had never actually crossed but somehow I just “knew” him already. The attraction was also the most powerful I had ever experienced. It wasn’t just sexual, it was deep, meaningful, spiritual… I knew his soul and I wanted to swim in it. And his eyes… every time he looked at me, his eyes bolted me down and bore into me. In spite of all this… Read more »
What a coincidence, I had this experience this week! Although you would probably call it destiny instead of coincidence ;). I find it difficult to believe in fait / meant to be / destiny, but if I would I saw a lot of signs this week. I am currently wondering if it is best for my personal growth to apply for a different job. My loyalty to my current boss withholds me. However, on my way to work a mini van started driving in front me with on it the text: Explore your boundaries’. And I heard people talking about the job while I was standing next to them. And on top of that I met a person form my soul group (as I have understand by this article). The hospital I work at has two locations and because I offered to help a colleague I had to travel with a shuttle bus to the other location, where I normally never go to. On the way back I started talking to a colleague form a department I never go to and whom I normally would never have met and I felt like I could tell here everything, It felt so… Read more »
Just recently I’ve joined a few rh negative blood groups. I have never felt like I belonged anywhere until then. I fit in everywhere and have always had tons of ‘friends,’ yet my inner self had nothing in common. Do you know any negatives? I just find it fascinating how similar we all are.
I think I’ve been reunited with someone from my soul group after 15 years… but I’m not ready. This person wants to meet up and I know they would change my whole world but I’m scared of change. I wake up every day full of fear and anxiety knowing what’s coming and my first instinct is to just run away as usual… help? I feel sick to my stomach. Funny that I got this article in my inbox just when I needed it.
You know I have met people like this along the way. Most often though they seem to be more like “messengers” who encourage and offer a golden nugget of truth about me and or the immediate circumstances I am enduring. Then within days or weeks they are gone. The majority of the cases the person is elderly (ranging in age from 60-90 years of age). Its a rare treat when I meat someone who is in my age group. My best and dearest friend (we met on the job 17 years ago) and she is in her early 70’s, married since she was 19, is Puerto Rican and is extremely Catholic. However, she understands me and empathasizes more than any person I know. She has never judged me and betrayed me in any way. And still with the intense and seeming impossible challenges I am dealing with these last 10 years, our relationship, communication and connection seems to have grown deeper and more mature on so many levels. We have not seen one another in 5 years since she lives in Florida and I in Pa. We most often text/email and on occassion will have a phone conversation. This relationship… Read more »
This is wonderful! Makes me feel hope.
I met such a person and “score” 12/12 on your list. This was one of those short-term meetings, maybe 3 months. When it ended there was a feeling of having the heart ripped-out. It took a long time to come to terms with this. I did a composite chart for us and although we were forty years apart in age, the natal charts overlay was identical to within one degree. You can’t make this stuff up. In opposition, I was the Moon and she was the Sun. I never want to go through that again because of the pain of separation.