Have you ever come across a person who you feel like you’ve known “forever” – even if you’ve just met?
Have you ever come across a person with who you immediately connect, without knowing why?
Sometimes these people actually know what you’re going to say before you’ve even said anything. Mateo and I used to call these experiences “freaky mind connections” because we’d often think and say the exact same thing at the exact same moment.
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These people who we connect with on a deep heart level can be thought of as our “Soul Family” or “Soul Group.”
I’ll share with you how to recognize members of your own Soul Family and what lessons they’ll help you learn.
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What is a Soul Family?
A Soul Family is comprised of a group of people that your Soul energetically resonates with on a mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual level.
These people are members of the same “Spirit Family” as you and they share an intensely strong bond that transcends time and space itself.
Intuitively, most people tend to describe this connection as sharing the same “frequency” or “vibration” because of the deep harmony felt.
Such a deep and harmonious connection goes beyond sharing the same surface-based personality tastes, hobbies, and opinions: it’s an intense magnetic and spiritual bond that is inexplicable to the mind.
Therefore, your Soul Family is often described as being comprised of Souls that are cut from the same “energetic cloth” as you.
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Types of Soul Family Connections
There are many different types of Soul Family connections that you can develop including:
Essentially, a soul tie happens when two people of the same vibrational frequency energetically overlap and share similar thoughts, feelings, values, and dreams.
Although you might come from different cultures, races, or opposite backgrounds, you’ll immediately sense an ancient and strong connection in your bones, blood, and very Soul.
Read more about Soul Ties.
Why Do We Have Soul Families?
To me, the most valuable social experience a person can ever have is meeting a member of their Soul Family.
The defining quality of this type of person is that they make it impossible for you to remain the same person by the time they exit your life.
Relationships, like nature itself, have many seasons. Uniting with a Soul Family member can last a few hours on a plane trip, or end after 60 years of marriage. Sometimes only physical death will end (if only momentarily) such connections.
Every member of your Soul Family will appear in your life to teach you a lesson and to catalyze your spiritual awakening.
However, we’re not always ready to fully connect with members of our Soul Family – but even this is a lesson unto itself.
So why do we have Soul Families?
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Metaphysically speaking, Soul Families are a natural product of the “flow” of Spirit. If you look at the Ocean, you’ll notice that sometimes clusters of waves arise. The same goes for Soul Families: we are all Spirit, but we’re also broken down into many different Soul Families. These Soul Families carry out certain roles, namely, to help each other embody the purpose of their Souls.
In other words, your Soul Family is here to help you learn, grow, and experience what ancient traditions have referred to as “nirvana”, self-realization or spiritual enlightenment.
Soul Families Throughout History
In many spiritual traditions, the obstacles that we face in this life are said to be chosen before birth.
It is said that we choose the family we’re born into, the bodies and personalities we develop, and the people we bring into our lives. These people are chosen because our Souls knew they would give us the best chance to learn the many life lessons we need to grow spiritually.
There are many examples of Soul Families throughout history that gained a lot of force and traction, therefore creating drastic social change.
Take, for instance, the Creative Renaissance, that was composed of figures such as Leonardo Da Vinci, Michelangelo, Raphael, Machiavelli, Thomas More, Copernicus, Francis Bacon, Galileo, Martin Luther, and William Shakespeare. Chances are that they were all part of the same Soul Family!
There was also the Spiritual Renaissance that was composed of figures such as Gautama Buddha, Mahavira, Makkhali Gosala, and Ajita Kesakambali.
In China, there was Confucius, Lao Tzu, Mencius, Chuang Tzu, Lieh Tzu, and in Greece there was Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Heraclitus, and Pythagoras.
All of these individuals interacted with each other (directly or indirectly) in different ways that were necessary for a revolution to occur.
The amazing thing is that each of these Soul Families has wildly expanded our collective growth and evolutionary progress.
Not only that, but each coming generation will bring in waves of powerful and transformative Soul Family energy that is built upon the previous progress of earlier Soul Families.
By finding your Soul Family, you grow at not only an individual level but also a collective level. Each plan, each path, is equally as important in the overall evolution of the whole.
It’s only through this profound experience of relating to one another on a Soul level that drastic change can occur on both an inner and outer level.
12 Signs You’ve Met Someone From Your Soul Family
If wanderers who are members of other sects should ask you, “What, friend, are the prerequisites for the development of the wings to self-awakening?” you should answer, “There is the case where a monk has admirable friends, admirable companions, admirable comrades. This is the first prerequisite for the development of the wings to self-awakening.”
– Gautama Buddha (The Anguttara Nikaya)
There are a few ways to tell if you’ve met someone who resonates with you on a Soul level. (Please note that in the case of karmic relationships, a lot of these signs don’t apply.) Here are a few things you might notice:
1. Your eye contact is deep and engaging
You’re not afraid to make prolonged eye contact with members of your Soul Family – it doesn’t feel awkward.
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When you do make eye contact, it’s as if there’s something familiar that you both share, something comforting, something ancient.
Perhaps when you make eye contact, you’re tapping into a deeper truth that you both silently understand and share.
2. They will be more Soul-centric than Ego-centric
Members of your Soul Family will not be interested in ego-centered pursuits such as fame, status, money, and glory. Instead, they’ll be more soul-centered.
For example, they might be interested in conscious living, meditation, healthy eating, yoga, helping the environment, and so forth. Even if they’re not overly “spiritual” per se, you’ll be able to pick up on their big heart.
3. You’re magnetically drawn to them
For no apparent reason, members of your Soul Family will “pop out” to you like sore thumbs. You’ll be immediately drawn to them and their energy. Even if you lose touch with them, they’ll likely emerge in your life over and over again.
4. Both of you speak the “same language”
When speaking, both of you share similar thoughts and insights, and you’re on the “same page” emotionally. It’s not uncommon for you to both repeat the same thoughts and words, as if you’re mirroring each other’s minds.
5. You feel as though you’ve known them for your entire life
You’ve never felt so comfortable and understood by another person in your entire life! Deep down, your connection feels timeless. When you first met this person, you felt a strange sense of recognition and familiarity.
6. You always feel energized around them
Whenever you spend time with a member of your Soul Tribe, you’ll feel energetically uplifted rather than drained.
7. They appear in your life when you most need guidance
The moment you’re open to growing beyond your current layers of fear and limiting beliefs is the moment you’ll attract a member of your Soul Family for spiritual guidance.
8. Hours talking with them feels like minutes
Time is completely relative when you speak with someone from your Soul Family. You enjoy talking with them so much that time disappears quickly and before you know it, three hours have gone by!
9. They reflect your best qualities
Your Soul Family reflects your best qualities, but they will also challenge you to see and embrace your greatest flaws.
Sometimes challenging you will including creating difficult circumstances for you to learn from (usually unconsciously), or being brutally honest with you (even if it hurts).
Whatever the case, you can count on your Soul Family to help you authentically grow.
10. You share similar life experiences
Themes such as abandonment, abuse, isolation, and other struggles will be shared between you and your Soul Family member. Each life theme will be used as a basis for growth, advice, and mutual support.
11. Your Soul feels nourished in their presence
There are some people in life who seem to weigh heavily on your Spirit – your Soul Family does the opposite. You’ll always feel seen, understand, loved, and uplifted by members of your Soul Tribe.
12. You can be your raw and authentic self with them
There’s no need to hide, fake, or pretend to be someone else around your Soul Family. Your Soul Family honors and celebrates the “authentic” you both on a personality level, and a Soul level.
How to Find Your Soul Family
Where do you find people from your Soul Family?
People have asked me this question so many times, and I once asked the same thing too.
But the question isn’t about “where” you’ll find them – your Soul Family will find you. Instead, the question is “when” you will find them.
Over the years, I’ve found that a time comes in your life when you feel a strong pull towards your Soul Family as if you’re finally ready to meet them.
When members of your Soul Family also reach the same readiness, synchronicity will bring you together.
But this inner feeling doesn’t mean that you should sit around, twiddle your thumbs, and continue your normal routine without changing anything.
You can’t win the lottery unless you buy a ticket! Once you feel ready to meet them, you need to start actively pursuing the encounter.
At this point, you’ll need to listen to your intuition or gut feelings rather than your head.
Your mind, full of fears and past habits, will guide you toward the path that feels most comfortable and safe – this is the wrong path.
The best path forward is to listen to your heart.
Certainly, your heart will guide you to step outside of your comfort zone and feel uncomfortable. But, in the end, your heart knows the way as it is connected to your Soul.
Likely, you’ll find your intuition guiding you towards new places and activities that you’ve never tried before.
For example, you might be guided to create an online meetup group, join a cooking class, start tai chi, take up a volunteering position, or even travel to a place that unexpectedly calls to you.
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$3You might only meet one person from your Soul Family, or if you’re fortunate, you might meet all of them – but this isn’t important.
What matters is having the experience of meeting those who share your purpose and mission on Earth to support our collective evolution as a species.
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I hope that you’re drawn ever closer to other members of your Soul Family each day.
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Oh, I do recognize this “symptom”: “Deep down, your connection feels timeless. When you first met this person, you felt a strange sense of recognition and familiarity.” It feels almost like a deja vu, very otherworldly.
Not all of the soulmates can stay in one’s orbit due to the condition called life that scatters us around, but these souls bring the spark back into my life.
And soulmates are not necessarily humans. I had this subtle, but persistent feeling “I knew you before… but how…” when I saw and rescued one of my cats from the street. I love all my animals, of course. But only this cat triggers this weird mysterious feeling that emanates timelessness that we were connected somehow before.
Thank you for the article and all the work you do, guys
I agree Katrin, it’s not just humans that are part of our soul family, animals can be as well. Sometimes even places trigger that feeling, that ‘we’ve been there before’ – which is what I call a soul place ( https://lonerwolf.com/soul-place/ ). Thanks for connecting here with us Katrin!
That’s the best thing I’ve read in a while. All of which I’ve experienced in the last year. And I’ve met three of my soul family. I’m very fortunate.
This has been a majestic year for you then Shubha! ♡
You lucky, Shubha. You! :-)
Thank you so much for this path for millions like me,who definitely need your guidance.
Thank you!
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Well I’m definitely trying to learn more about this myself, but the most recent person I believe is part of my soul connection and only had two Brief Encounters with and they definitely left me with a interesting and unique feeling. In fact the first time I met this person they opened up to me in a way that I didn’t expect when a couple simple questions I got some very personal answers. The same interaction told me I would have feelings for him in the future which is what the second occurrence came about but was also an innocent interaction to start with and it was less than 5 minutes long. Where the first internet connection was about 5 to 10 minutes at most. The other thing even though I feel is deep intense connection with this man is on the outside and appearance we don’t have anything in common so that’s where I get confused on that part.
Have you had any more interactions with him since?
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A sense I carry, that is ever more present, is that of a deep longing, one I’ve felt from my earliest years, some 60+ years ago. It is now that I acknowledge it more clearly and honestly, accepting that this is what calls, and it calls for me to behave in a new manner, one truly aligning with my soul.
The longing seems to be to allow myself to come close to other souls. This closeness has a certain rawness, intensity or maybe simply a pure and unobstructed presence with one another. Foreignness drifts away. It seems like the hot water a bath that I must let myself into slowly. I must gradually get used to the temperature. This is not a place of convention but of simple realness and honesty. It’s a place where my soul drinks in this close company and contact with another. We are both nurtured and fed by the soul presence of the other. It is not permanent at all, but a visiting. It is quiet. It is soul to soul in clear air, shrouded in temporary seclusion. It is a resting place, but with a quiet vitality.
This is my longing that has come more clear of late. Because of its clarity, I can now imagine myself in this place, though I know I still must ease myself into this newness, allowing it to become familiar. It is a place of trust, trusting mostly in myself, as well as in another.
Rick
I recently lost my partner who I’m sure was a soulmate to covid. We only got a few years together but the memories are tarnished as he caught the disease from me, and leaves behind two small children.
What a nice article! I really wish to meet my soul group one day.
I’m so sorry to hear that Vk, you must be devastated. Sending lots of love your way. Please do reach out to support from others if you haven’t already. You don’t have to do this alone ♡
I loved the energy of this post. :)
So I had this weird incident happen yesterday and I’m wanting some insight on what it could have happened. Last night I heard, what sounded like a glass flower pot fall from a balcony and crash really loudly on the ground. I looked this morning and there was no broken glass to be found and my roommate said she didn’t hear it. Later on tonight, I met my roommates best friend for the first time and she told me about something that happened to her last night. Her flower pot fell off her balcony last night and shattered. She doesn’t live anyWhere near us yet i heard this happen…. So what this could mean…
We all share the same mind. The awake/conscious mind, and the sleeping/unconscious mind. If one “sees” it, then the other doesn’t [with the same ear/eyes sensors], but the memory is stored in mutually accessible portion of memory. We conceptualize memory allocation spaces as other people. And within each of us [a server in a network] we prioritize and structure memory access to other “people” as we have knowingly & unknowingly programmed ourselves. I see the main objective to “declassify” top secret information to bring traumatic events as well as lies, to the conscious area for it to be distributed into our conscious-memory storage areas. This is what the CIA Department is responsible for. They are best conceptualized as our parent’s parent’s … [Etc] thoughts which live on in our minds as ‘systems administrators’ [subconscious]. Also known as God. When we pray, we are explaining to our subconscious that we are competent enough to handle higher priority information to process. This is why we are the only people ever holding us back.
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That’s nice.
Time isn’t linear and your Souls were already connected before the physical meeting. :-)
Sometimes, parts of our Soul travel to other Souls, even without us being consciously aware of. Happened to me as well, by the way. Hearing things that didn’t come from my location. Bet you were already either sleeping or about to fall asleep.
I have met a soul family member as described here. All 12 signs match.
When we met, we instantly began to talk nonstop. Within a few hours we had concluded, that we are soulmates, have met before and are from the same soul family.
She wore sunglasses the whole time, and I couldn’t see her eyes. So before parting I asked to see them. Which I have never done with anyone. But with her I felt safe and open.
And she took off the sunglasses, and I looked deeply into her eyes. Immidiately I felt recognition! And I just knew that I know this soul. It was like meeting an old dear friend, after a long time. She felt exactly the same. We are both women, and she is six years younger than me. I was around 31 or 32 years old then.
It was shortly after I had recovered from a friendship I lost (where I loved unrequited), where my heart had been broken to pices. I grieved for two years. But finally managed to open my heart again, love myself, and be open to new love.
And then she came. At first it was friendship, but turned into love. It lasted four years. We lived together for three. But the last year together we began to feel like something was wrong. So we ended the relationship, and moved to pure but close bestfriend friendship. I still love her, but this feels more right for us. We have learned what we was supposed to, from the romantic relationship and living together.
For me it was a first, while not for her. We have both changed and turned out stronger. And we are still so close as when we met, and we keep growing closer. I believe we will be bestfriends for as long as we live. And that we will have more lifes together. She feels like family. And I genually feel deep Love for her.
I loved the person I lost in friendship that broke my heart. But that was completely different. That love burned so fircely and made me soar so high. And the fall was just as hard and crushing. But that love passed after six years.
While this Love for my soulmate and soul family member, is like warm and comforting sunlight. She Heals me. It is calm and like Home. She doesn’t burn and drain my energy. She gives me Energy and is like the Sun. Like an Angel on Earth. And so kind.
I only ever loved two. But while one left, and the love burned out. The other lives on, and will last past this lifetime.
Beaten! My soul just recognized you. I think you might be in my soul tribe. I got chills when I saw your comment. I’ve already come across others!
My phone auto corrected to beaten lol
I have met someone recently and feel an instant attraction and magnetic energy. I’ve not been able to get this person out of my mind, which is scaring me, since I’m very married. I feel like this person has been brought to me to remind me of the parts of me that are feeling unfulfilled and that they are important parts. I’m afraid to talk to this person, because what if the attraction grows? Sigh…
I just can’t get his person out of my heart and mind…and I don’t even know them. I feel very comfortable with them…and I’ve hardly spoken to them. So weird.
My ex-husband left me a few years ago (supposed to be a soul mate) and it was the most devastating experience of my life. I had to mourn him but I knew he still existed in the world. So consider carefully why you favour the new person (maybe not wrong) but just think a bit maybe? We all get crushes sometimes and new love is the most powerful feeling, but ask yourself who you could physically live with to be your best self ( Think – Shrek and farting in a swamp x ).
Could you fart with them in a swamp – like in Shrek?
This is such a beautiful comment. God bless