Have you ever come across a person who you feel like you’ve known “forever” – even if you’ve just met?
Have you ever come across a person with who you immediately connect, without knowing why?
Sometimes these people actually know what you’re going to say before you’ve even said anything. Mateo and I used to call these experiences “freaky mind connections” because we’d often think and say the exact same thing at the exact same moment.
These people who we connect with on a deep heart level can be thought of as our “Soul Family” or “Soul Group.”
I’ll share with you how to recognize members of your own Soul Family and what lessons they’ll help you learn.
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What is a Soul Family?
A Soul Family is comprised of a group of people that your Soul energetically resonates with on a mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual level.
These people are members of the same “Spirit Family” as you and they share an intensely strong bond that transcends time and space itself.
Intuitively, most people tend to describe this connection as sharing the same “frequency” or “vibration” because of the deep harmony felt.
Such a deep and harmonious connection goes beyond sharing the same surface-based personality tastes, hobbies, and opinions: it’s an intense magnetic and spiritual bond that is inexplicable to the mind.
Therefore, your Soul Family is often described as being comprised of Souls that are cut from the same “energetic cloth” as you.
Types of Soul Family Connections
There are many different types of Soul Family connections that you can develop including:
Essentially, a soul tie happens when two people of the same vibrational frequency energetically overlap and share similar thoughts, feelings, values, and dreams.
Although you might come from different cultures, races, or opposite backgrounds, you’ll immediately sense an ancient and strong connection in your bones, blood, and very Soul.
Read more about Soul Ties.
Why Do We Have Soul Families?
To me, the most valuable social experience a person can ever have is meeting a member of their Soul Family.
The defining quality of this type of person is that they make it impossible for you to remain the same person by the time they exit your life.
Relationships, like nature itself, have many seasons. Uniting with a Soul Family member can last a few hours on a plane trip, or end after 60 years of marriage. Sometimes only physical death will end (if only momentarily) such connections.
Every member of your Soul Family will appear in your life to teach you a lesson and to catalyze your spiritual awakening.
However, we’re not always ready to fully connect with members of our Soul Family – but even this is a lesson unto itself.
So why do we have Soul Families?
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Metaphysically speaking, Soul Families are a natural product of the “flow” of Spirit. If you look at the Ocean, you’ll notice that sometimes clusters of waves arise. The same goes for Soul Families: we are all Spirit, but we’re also broken down into many different Soul Families. These Soul Families carry out certain roles, namely, to help each other embody the purpose of their Souls.
In other words, your Soul Family is here to help you learn, grow, and experience what ancient traditions have referred to as “nirvana”, self-realization or spiritual enlightenment.
Soul Families Throughout History
In many spiritual traditions, the obstacles that we face in this life are said to be chosen before birth.
It is said that we choose the family we’re born into, the bodies and personalities we develop, and the people we bring into our lives. These people are chosen because our Souls knew they would give us the best chance to learn the many life lessons we need to grow spiritually.
There are many examples of Soul Families throughout history that gained a lot of force and traction, therefore creating drastic social change.
Take, for instance, the Creative Renaissance, that was composed of figures such as Leonardo Da Vinci, Michelangelo, Raphael, Machiavelli, Thomas More, Copernicus, Francis Bacon, Galileo, Martin Luther, and William Shakespeare. Chances are that they were all part of the same Soul Family!
There was also the Spiritual Renaissance that was composed of figures such as Gautama Buddha, Mahavira, Makkhali Gosala, and Ajita Kesakambali.
In China, there was Confucius, Lao Tzu, Mencius, Chuang Tzu, Lieh Tzu, and in Greece there was Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Heraclitus, and Pythagoras.
All of these individuals interacted with each other (directly or indirectly) in different ways that were necessary for a revolution to occur.
The amazing thing is that each of these Soul Families has wildly expanded our collective growth and evolutionary progress.
Not only that, but each coming generation will bring in waves of powerful and transformative Soul Family energy that is built upon the previous progress of earlier Soul Families.
By finding your Soul Family, you grow at not only an individual level but also a collective level. Each plan, each path, is equally as important in the overall evolution of the whole.
It’s only through this profound experience of relating to one another on a Soul level that drastic change can occur on both an inner and outer level.
12 Signs You’ve Met Someone From Your Soul Family
If wanderers who are members of other sects should ask you, “What, friend, are the prerequisites for the development of the wings to self-awakening?” you should answer, “There is the case where a monk has admirable friends, admirable companions, admirable comrades. This is the first prerequisite for the development of the wings to self-awakening.”
– Gautama Buddha (The Anguttara Nikaya)
There are a few ways to tell if you’ve met someone who resonates with you on a Soul level. (Please note that in the case of karmic relationships, a lot of these signs don’t apply.) Here are a few things you might notice:
1. Your eye contact is deep and engaging
You’re not afraid to make prolonged eye contact with members of your Soul Family – it doesn’t feel awkward.
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When you do make eye contact, it’s as if there’s something familiar that you both share, something comforting, something ancient.
Perhaps when you make eye contact, you’re tapping into a deeper truth that you both silently understand and share.
2. They will be more Soul-centric than Ego-centric
Members of your Soul Family will not be interested in ego-centered pursuits such as fame, status, money, and glory. Instead, they’ll be more soul-centered.
For example, they might be interested in conscious living, meditation, healthy eating, yoga, helping the environment, and so forth. Even if they’re not overly “spiritual” per se, you’ll be able to pick up on their big heart.
3. You’re magnetically drawn to them
For no apparent reason, members of your Soul Family will “pop out” to you like sore thumbs. You’ll be immediately drawn to them and their energy. Even if you lose touch with them, they’ll likely emerge in your life over and over again.
4. Both of you speak the “same language”
When speaking, both of you share similar thoughts and insights, and you’re on the “same page” emotionally. It’s not uncommon for you to both repeat the same thoughts and words, as if you’re mirroring each other’s minds.
5. You feel as though you’ve known them for your entire life
You’ve never felt so comfortable and understood by another person in your entire life! Deep down, your connection feels timeless. When you first met this person, you felt a strange sense of recognition and familiarity.
6. You always feel energized around them
Whenever you spend time with a member of your Soul Tribe, you’ll feel energetically uplifted rather than drained.
7. They appear in your life when you most need guidance
The moment you’re open to growing beyond your current layers of fear and limiting beliefs is the moment you’ll attract a member of your Soul Family for spiritual guidance.
8. Hours talking with them feels like minutes
Time is completely relative when you speak with someone from your Soul Family. You enjoy talking with them so much that time disappears quickly and before you know it, three hours have gone by!
9. They reflect your best qualities
Your Soul Family reflects your best qualities, but they will also challenge you to see and embrace your greatest flaws.
Sometimes challenging you will including creating difficult circumstances for you to learn from (usually unconsciously), or being brutally honest with you (even if it hurts).
Whatever the case, you can count on your Soul Family to help you authentically grow.
10. You share similar life experiences
Themes such as abandonment, abuse, isolation, and other struggles will be shared between you and your Soul Family member. Each life theme will be used as a basis for growth, advice, and mutual support.
11. Your Soul feels nourished in their presence
There are some people in life who seem to weigh heavily on your Spirit – your Soul Family does the opposite. You’ll always feel seen, understand, loved, and uplifted by members of your Soul Tribe.
12. You can be your raw and authentic self with them
There’s no need to hide, fake, or pretend to be someone else around your Soul Family. Your Soul Family honors and celebrates the “authentic” you both on a personality level, and a Soul level.
How to Find Your Soul Family
Where do you find people from your Soul Family?
People have asked me this question so many times, and I once asked the same thing too.
But the question isn’t about “where” you’ll find them – your Soul Family will find you. Instead, the question is “when” you will find them.
Over the years, I’ve found that a time comes in your life when you feel a strong pull towards your Soul Family as if you’re finally ready to meet them.
When members of your Soul Family also reach the same readiness, synchronicity will bring you together.
But this inner feeling doesn’t mean that you should sit around, twiddle your thumbs, and continue your normal routine without changing anything.
You can’t win the lottery unless you buy a ticket! Once you feel ready to meet them, you need to start actively pursuing the encounter.
At this point, you’ll need to listen to your intuition or gut feelings rather than your head.
Your mind, full of fears and past habits, will guide you toward the path that feels most comfortable and safe – this is the wrong path.
The best path forward is to listen to your heart.
Certainly, your heart will guide you to step outside of your comfort zone and feel uncomfortable. But, in the end, your heart knows the way as it is connected to your Soul.
Likely, you’ll find your intuition guiding you towards new places and activities that you’ve never tried before.
For example, you might be guided to create an online meetup group, join a cooking class, start tai chi, take up a volunteering position, or even travel to a place that unexpectedly calls to you.
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You might only meet one person from your Soul Family, or if you’re fortunate, you might meet all of them – but this isn’t important.
What matters is having the experience of meeting those who share your purpose and mission on Earth to support our collective evolution as a species.
I feel blessed to know so many of my Soul Tribe through this work and website.
I hope that you’re drawn ever closer to other members of your Soul Family each day.
Have you ever met a member of your Soul Family? What was it like? Please share below!
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Hello Aletheia,
What a beautiful article. I truly enjoyed reading your knowledge. I’m 61 now and i have a few members of my soul family. I meet a new member of my soul family about 6 months ago. She guided me to all the right places i needed to understand in my life. As a result of that, i had a spiritual awaking. My life has changed in so many positive ways. Its never to late to believe. I have been reading your website for a couple of years now. My other member told me you laid the ground work for me, for which i am very grateful. Thank you for all your insights
Patrick
Soul Family,
Hi from us both
Before I even getting to know my wife we both felt a kindred spirit and that we had been together in past existence somewhere. Though in surface reality we are both totally different in thought word and action, with different ways of dealing with problems and other things. Yet over every past and present obstacle, we know we are deeply in love and would do anything to protect that love now and for always.
Regards John and Marcia
Greetings to everyone. I met and married my first wife in 1961/2 ,at a wedding where she was a bridesmaid .She was accompanied by her Mother. I soon found out that I had already met her father (dead) , both grandmothers, a grandfather, (Dead) and her brother, who had since emigrated. To me these were all soul family, as were many other people of different races who were in my life at different times. After a life with it’s but with trauma resolved , she died in 1998. She appeared in dreams after 3 or 4 years and she was helped over by a very good medium friend (also soul family).In about 2015 I again dreamt of her and I had the feeling that she was going to return. (reincarnate). I dreamt of her quite frequently from then on with different feelings as to where she would return. In July 2018 I had the feeling that she was definitely returning. During the next few months she was moving away from me. On holiday in South Africa a man I had known well ( who was also a colleague of her father) appeared in a dream and said “Pat has returned”.… Read more »
I always questioned why my siblings and I were born to my parents (my brother has a different father same mother). Our parents had no idea how intelligent, warm, sensitive and nurturing we were. My brother, 14 years older than me, was my main soul mate if there is such a thing. I felt safe with him, he nurtured me, we accepted each other, I felt that heart to heart connection and so did he. He is the one person I never fought with.
Over my many years, I have experienced many members of my soul family. They stayed long enough to get me through what I was experiencing good, bad or sailing along. I always wished he or she would stay but I also knew they would always be a part of me. The love was so strong. I often wondered why that love didn’t come from my biological family.
I now have a couple of steady soulmates around. I feel nurtured and strong. I am studying Taoism and following your wisdom. I have never been more at peace. Thank you.
Wow this spoke to me… some years ago I had an interaction at work. I sold barbecues. This random guy (totally not my ‘type’) came into my work with his wife. I had this instant connection, like a literal soul connection. I was supposed to be selling him a barbecue, but I recall feeling like a blubbering idiot ha. I was a write off. I felt like I couldn’t bring it up in the moment, as his wife would perceive it as a threat; a random salesperson bringing this up, ha, NOPE!
Nothing came of it beyond that one interaction at work. I deeply wished I had further interaction but alas, there was never another. I do recall seeing him in the main shopping centre outside my work, but it was only a glimpse and I cannot be sure. My mind plays tricks that I must’ve imagined it, or maybe only I felt it, cos only he could follow up on it, and never did, while I was there, at least. Disappointment, but I’m super grateful for the experience.
Sadly I ‘lost’ a member of my soul family 2 days ago. I’ve always felt like an alien, like I didn’t quite belong here. But I took comfort in my soul family – people like ‘S’ who I could be myself with – who I could bare my soul on the page to (I’m hopelessly shy in person but I loved writing to him). I hadn’t cried since I found out but then 48 hrs later I suddenly realised that there’s not many left of my soul family now and I burst into tears with loneliness. But then this email popped up and the end in particular was encouraging to read. I pulled myself together. There other members of my soul family out there. I just have to be brave and open my heart. And ‘S’ is of course out there still just in another dimension. I can still write letters to him. Meanwhile I can take some comfort from this group and your wonderful insightful posts.
Meeting them feels like being home. No matter how hard one is working on breaking the illusion of separatedness, I do believe that we can still easily feel alienated and strange in this world.
A member of your soul family gives you the feeling of comfort, being understood and known and appreciated for who you exactly are. It’s beautiful. And so transformative, as you’ve already stated. The one I can fingerpoint to has triggered my soul awakening, by the way. It’s a blessing, no matter how short the time is that you are spending together and no matter how deep it may wounds you in order for you to continually grow.
I am grateful for those I have met.
Thank you for this article. I do love the Soul topics, that’s what has brought me here so many years ago.
I just did the following exercise, and although I always think I already know it all – guess what – not so. I made a two column list. On one side I made a list of all the people who have been in my life for more than 2 years. (double or triple space after each name.)
In the second column, I tried to remember how I met each of these folks, and where are they now in my life. Really revealing and helpful!!
The way we make it through these really difficult times is with the support of our Soul Family. We have all met members of our Soul Family – a wonderful concept and truly real. If you think yo haven’t, spend a few minutes thinking abut how you met certain people and who has stashed in your life for more that a few moments. That’s them!!
I have several soul family members in my life for which I am thankful. But that aside, the one’s I find most intriguing are the unexpected connections of soul family members that occur briefly. Some for minutes accompanied by a few words, some for only seconds. No words exchanged but eye contact, an extended gaze, a smile that confirms an eternal link, every cell in your body says that you are connected eternally…that stranger that touched your soul with just a look and then is gone. A powerful moment that leaves an imprint on your soul.