If wanderers who are members of other sects should ask you, “What, friend, are the prerequisites for the development of the wings to self-awakening?” you should answer, “There is the case where a monk has admirable friends, admirable companions, admirable comrades. This is the first prerequisite for the development of the wings to self-awakening.” (AN 9.1) – Gautama Buddha (Anguttara Nikaya)
Have you ever come across a person who you feel as though you’ve known “forever,” even if you’ve just met them?
Have you ever met a person who you immediately connect with, without knowing why?
Sometimes these people actually know what you’re going to say before you’ve said anything. Luna and I used to call this “freaky mind connections” because we’d often think and say the exact same thing at the exact same moment.
These people who we connect with on a deep heart level are part of what is known as our “Soul Family” or “Soul Group.”
If you want to know what kind of role your Soul Group will play in your life and how to recognize members of it, keep reading.
What is a Soul Group?
A Soul Group is comprised of a single person or group of people that your Soul energetically resonates with on a mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual level at any given moment.
These people are members of the same “Spirit Family” as you and they share an intensely strong bond with you that transcends time and space itself. Intuitively, most people tend to describe this connection as sharing the same “frequency” or “vibration” because of the deep harmony felt among such people.
Such a deep and harmonious connection goes beyond sharing the same surface-based personality tastes, hobbies and opinions: it’s an intense magnetic and spiritual bond you will feel that is inexplicable to the mind.
Therefore, your Soul Group is often described as being comprised of Souls that are cut from the same “energetic cloth” as you. But this deep connection isn’t necessarily romantic.
There are many different types of Soul Group connections that you can develop including soul friends, soulmates, kindred spirits, and twin flames — but they’re all fundamentally the same thing with different functions and unique purposes.
Essentially, a Soul connection happens when two people of the same vibrational frequency energetically overlap and share each other’s thoughts, feelings, values, and dreams. Although you might come from different cultures, races, or opposite backgrounds, you will immediately sense an ancient and strong connection in your bones, blood, and very Soul.
Why Do We Have Soul Groups?
To me, the most valuable social experience a person can have is meeting a member of their Soul Group. The defining quality of this type of person is that they make it impossible for you to remain the same person by the time they make their exit.
Relationships, like nature itself, have many seasons. Uniting with a Soul Group member can last a few hours on a plane trip, or end after 60 years of friendship. Sometimes only physical death will end (if only momentarily) such connections.
Every member of your Soul Group will appear in your life to teach you a lesson and to catalyze your spiritual awakening. However, we are not always ready for our Soul Group – but even this is a lesson unto itself. As existential philosopher Jean-Paul Sartre once famously wrote, “Hell is other people.” Therefore, for some people, coming across a member of their Soul Group will feel like “hell,” especially if such a person is weighed down by negative mindsets, dogma, trauma, and the unwillingness to move beyond unconscious behavior.
On the other hand, for some people meeting members of the Soul Group will feel like heaven, as can be seen in the case of Twin Flame and Soulmate encounters. Essentially, how you feel about your Soul Group will be determined by how open you are to changing, growing, and moving past fear.
But the question still remains, why do we have Soul Groups?
Metaphysically speaking, Soul Groups are a natural product of the “flow” of Spirit. If you look at the Ocean, you’ll notice that sometimes clusters of waves arise. The same goes for Soul Groups: we are all Spirit, but we are also broken down into many different Soul Groups. These Soul Groups carry out certain roles, namely, to help each other embody the purpose of their Souls.
In other words, your Soul Family is here to help you learn, grow, and experience what ancient traditions have referred to as “moksha”, self-realization or enlightenment.
In many spiritual traditions, the obstacles that we face in this life are said to be chosen before birth; that we choose the family we’re born into, the bodies and personalities we develop, and the people we bring into our lives. These people are chosen because we knew they would give us the best chance to learn the many life lessons we needed in order to grow spiritually.
Historically, Soul Groups that gained a lot of force and traction created drastic social changes. Take, for instance, the Creative Renaissance, that was composed of figures such as Leonardo Da Vinci, Michelangelo, Raphael, Machiavelli, Thomas More, Copernicus, Francis Bacon, Galileo, Martin Luther and William Shakespeare.
There was also the Spiritual Renaissance that was composed of figures such as Gautama Buddha, Mahavira, Makkhali Gosala, and Ajita Kesakambali. In China, there was Confucius, Lao Tzu, Mencius, Chuang Tzu, Lieh Tzu, and in Greece there was Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Heraclitus, and Pythagoras. All of these individuals interacted with each other in different ways that were necessary for a revolution to occur.
Each of these Soul Groups has expanded our collective growth and evolutionary progress. Not only that, but each coming generation will bring in waves of powerful and transformative energies that are built upon the previous progress of earlier Soul Families.
By finding your Soul Group, you grow at not only an individual level but also a collective level. Each plan, each path, is equally as important in the overall evolution of the whole.
It is only through this profound experience of relating to another on Soul level that drastic change can occur on both an inner and outer level.
12 Signs You’ve Met Someone From Your Soul Group
Where do you find people from your Soul Group?
People have asked me this question so many times, and I once asked the same thing too. But the question isn’t about “where” you will find them – your Soul Group will find you. Instead, the question is “when” you will find them.
Over the years, I’ve found that a time comes in your life when you feel a strong pull towards your Soul Group, as if you’re finally ready enough to meet them. When members of your Soul Group reach this same readiness, this synchronicity will bring you together.
But this inner feeling doesn’t mean that you should sit around and continue your normal routine without changing anything. You can’t win the lottery unless you buy a ticket. Once you feel ready to meet them, you need to start actively pursuing the encounter.
At this point, you need to listen to your intuition or gut feelings rather than your head. Your mind, full of fears and past habits, will guide you toward the path that feels most comfortable and safe. On the other hand, when you listen to your heart, you’ll almost certainly feel uncomfortable as it asks you to step outside of your comfort zone. You’ll find your intuition guiding you towards new places and activities that you’ve never tried before. For example, you might be guided to create an online meetup group, join a cooking class, start tai chi, or even travel.
There are a few ways to tell if you’ve met someone who resonates with you on a Soul level. Here are a few things you might notice:
1. Your eye contact is deep and engaging
You’re not afraid to make eye contact with members of your Soul Family and it doesn’t feel awkward. When you make eye contact, there is something familiar that you both share, something comforting, something ancient. It’s almost as though when you make eye contact you’re tapping into a deeper truth that you both silently understand and share.
2. They will be more Soul-Centric than Ego-Centric
Members of your Soul Group will not be interested in ego-centered pursuits such as fame, status, money, and glory. Instead, they will be more soulful, more spiritually mature. For example, they might be interested in conscious living, meditation, healthy eating, yoga, helping the environment, and so forth.
3. You’re magnetically drawn to them
For no apparent reason, members of your Soul Group will “pop out” to you like sore thumbs. You’ll be immediately drawn to them and their energy. Even if you lose touch with them, they will emerge in your life over and over again.
4. Both of you speak the “same language”
When speaking, both of you share similar thoughts and insights, and you’re on the “same page” emotionally. It’s not uncommon for you to both repeat the same thoughts and words, as if you’re mirroring each other’s minds.
5. You feel as though you’ve known them for your entire life
You’ve never felt so comfortable and understood by another person in your entire life. Deep down, your connection feels timeless. Even when you first met this person, you felt a strange sense of recognition and familiarity.
6. You always feel energized around them
Whenever you spend time with a member of your Soul Tribe, you’ll feel energetically uplifted rather than drained.
7. They appear in your life when you most need guidance
The moment you’re open to growing beyond your current layers of fear and limiting beliefs is the moment you’ll attract a member of your Soul Group.
8. Hours talking with them feels like minutes
Time is completely relative when you speak with someone from your Soul Group. You enjoy talking with them so much that time disappears very quickly.
9. They reflect your best qualities
Your Soul Group reflects your best qualities, but they will also challenge you to see and embrace your greatest flaws. Sometimes challenging you will including creating difficult circumstances for you to learn from, or being brutally honest with you (even if it hurts). Whatever the case, you can count on your Soul Group to help you authentically grow.
10. You share similar life experiences
Themes such as abandonment, abuse, isolation, and other struggles will be shared between you and your Soul Family. Each life theme will be used as a basis for growth, advice, and mutual support.
11. Your Soul feels nourished in their presence
There are some people in life who seem to weigh heavily on your Spirit – your Soul Group is the opposite. You will always feel seen, understand, loved, and uplifted by members of your Soul Tribe.
12. You can be your raw and authentic self with them
There is no need to hide, fake or pretend around your Soul Group. Your Soul Group honors and celebrates the “authentic” you both on a personality level, and a Soul level.
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You might only meet one person from your Soul Group, or if you’re fortunate, you might meet all of them – but this isn’t important. What matters is having the experience of meeting those who share your purpose and mission on Earth to support our collective evolution as a species.
I feel blessed to know so many of my Soul Tribe through this work and website.
I hope that you are drawn ever closer to your own Soul Group.
I briefly met someone at a party (we were sober) who I felt just this way about and I believe it was mutual. Total ease, happiness, giggles, magnetism, deep eye contact, feeling like we had been connected before, attraction, wanting to touch (not necessarily sexual), not wanting to leave each other’s presence, paying compliments and just thinking the other person is otherworldly and special, showing care and support. I’ve only met a few people In my life that I’ve felt connected to in this special and magical way. But due to the circumstances we had to part was after just a short encounter. She said that maybe, one day, we will bump into each other again. I could see the pained look on her face when she had to go. It was like we were being ripped apart. She’s 15-20 years older than me. And she’s married with kids. I didn’t find our meeting to be particularly romantic, although it did have elements of romance, it was just a very intense soul connection. I can contact her on Facebook as I easily found her through mutual friends. I feel endlessly drawn to her. I feel like we need to connect and that it’s important for our life journeys but I’m worried she could take me contacting her the wrong way. That she may find it either, creepy, inappropriate or random. Some part of me thinks she didn’t find the experience as highly magical as me. I don’t know how to explain to her why I feel the need to contact her without seeming romantically obsessed! Anything I think of writing to her seems inappropriate because she is married. I feel quite heavy hearted about it all. Anyone i’ve confided in hasn’t had this kind of experience so they just think I’m creepy.
Hi El-
I’m a married woman and my husband and I have been talking about my pursuing a sexual relationship with a woman for many years. I’m not one for dating apps, so I wanted it to happen organically, but I finally met someone in October. Yes, it’s passionate.. but it’s so much more than that. I feel magnetized by her, and she has admitted to me she feels the same way. I haven’t felt so stirred by someone since I met my husband (we’ve been together for nine years now) but being around her just feels right. Navigating polyamory entirely aside, I’ve told her that I want her to be in my life regardless, and that our meeting feels destined- that we have something important to learn from/give to each other. Reading this blog entry has hit on so many buzzwords we’ve been using, and it helps me know I’m not crazy!
Anyway, I say all of this to say, shoot your shot. you’ve lost nothing if she decides not to respond. you could even try sharing this article or my comment. try for coffee first. but your faith in front of you and walk into it. life is too short, and humans are entirely too simple to understand it. failure is part of life. don’t fear it because then you’re not living.
Then Why Soul Groups People Seperate? Why God take them aways from our life n we again feel helpless
You say in many spiritual traditions that we choose the body, family, roles, pathways etc before birth. I know this to be true from reading Journey of Souls & Destiny of Souls. Can you tell who in our past had these spiritual traditions so that I may read up on them? Thank you! Everything you right fills me with inspiration.
Thomas Dombroski
I think that one of the key things is the instant ‘connection’ that you feel with a member of your soul group/family.
There is an instant rapport and something just kind of clicks between you.
I would also like to say that meeting a member of our soul family is NOT always a joyful or pleasant experience.
Sometimes the lessons we must learn from our soul mates are painful and there is a lot of healing to be done.
Many people have the concept that meeting our soul mates is something that is always intensely happy and wonderful, and whilst this is very often true, it must be said that this is not ALWAYS the case.
For example, we sometimes have traumatic relationships, and afterwards we emerge from these relationships stronger and wiser.
We learn from these bad experiences, and hopefully we will eventually forgive and start to to heal, but the fact is that they are still soul mate relationships.
Like I said, it is not always a happy-ever-after scenario when we reunite with a spiritual family member.
Also I very much believe that sometimes our soul family member is only meant to be in our life for a short time. Soul re-unions are not always meant to last a whole lifetime…..HOWEVER……what is for certain is that you will never forget that person……..they are quite literally cut from the same cloth as you…….they are your spiritual family.
I will give a personal example.
Many years ago when I was in my mid 20s I started a job and I became friends with a woman who I worked with. We instantly connected and I know that she was a member of my ‘soul family’. She was in her 50s and I looked upon her as a substitute mum; my relationship with my real mum was not that great.
Anyway, It was like we had known each other for years. The friendship was cut tragically short when she became ill with cancer and died.
We had been friends for 2 and a half years, but I learned a great deal from this friendship.
This woman was very wise and she had experienced tragedy and heartbreak in her life and it was one of those friendships that define a person. Her courage was awesome and very humbling.
I am now in my mid 50s and 5 years ago I met the man who I know is my twin flame.
He is 8 years older than me.
The twin flame experience is like nothing you will ever have experienced before.
The love is so intense and unconditional, it is almost TOO MUCH at times.
Also it is not a ‘Hearts and Flowers’ relationship.
The main reason that twin souls agree to reunite is for the benefit of the planet and me and my twin have been working together as human rights activists.
We have been through the whole runner/chaser phase and now, finally, after 5 years, we have reached the stage where we have surrendered our egos and the REAL healing has begun between us.
Twin souls usually meet late in life because they both need to experience many life lessons before they are ready to come together.
It is extremely unlikely that you will meet your twin in your 20s or 30s, for the simple reason that you will not have experienced enough of life to be ready for such a huge job…..and believe me, the twin soul reunion is a mammoth task……but also a beautiful one.
In your 20s and 30s, it is more likely that the person you think of as your twin is more likely a soul mate.
I could write a lot more about twin soul journey, but it would probably take a book to encapsulate all of it.
I’m not sure about all but I have already met some of my soul group. It feels like the longer I live, the more I meet and it began with meeting my twin flame over 10 years ago. A bit later I met a soulmate with whom I was together for 8 years. In this time I also met a guy who became my best friend for years. Last year I met 2 guys I instantly felt drawn to and with whom I could both talk for hours. And I’m positive that I will meet more on my way =)
None of them are “awakened” but I don’t think they have to be. Some were aware of our connection (esp. my last flatmate) and some may just have had an unconscious feeling. Thinking about it now I find it kind of funny that I can only name males. I’m not sure about an old schoolfriend, but she would be the only female I could name. Anyone an idea what this could mean?
I met a man 8 years ago now and when I did I immediately got a relaxed happy feeling and the impression that we would be very good best of friends. But immediately when that thought had finished I had another which was “be careful of him, he is dangerous.” I kept away from him as much as possible, never could bring myself to converse with him. Although I have felt an ‘attraction’ to him ever since. After reading the blog, I am now wondering – –
Would he have felt a strong reaction to me too?
I am experiencing this right now. and I have before….as a medium i keep most of my spiritual life a secret from the world and i am at a point in my life where I yearn for people who understand my spirituality because the fake world doesn’t do it for me…it never has……
I think I found one of my family and came to the realization today. It started out as an idea. I’m fairly intuitive but lack inspiration sometimes. This persons energy (I guess is what I’m choosing to call it) inspires me and I gravitate toward them. It has been a weird situation for me from the beginning but there are so many things I cant ignore. It makes so much sense! I’ve been researching all night trying to develop this idea further and I really needed to read this! Thank you for even writing it! I have so much more I want to learn and explore.
This is interesting. There are quite a few people like that in my life…I also keep meeting more..
Can you meet someone from your soul tribe and you totally know it, but the other person be so disconnected from themselves and their life path that they just sink back into being asleep?
I met someone that felt like part of my family. She and I couldn’t stop staring into one another’s eyes, hours passed like seconds. But she kept pulling away and finally moved to another state in pursuit of fame. It has been months, and it still feels like a part of me has been torn away and is waiting to be reattached.
I have changed so much that I no longer fit in with my old habits or friend circles. I can choose to spend time with them or doing old things, it just feels “wrong”.
I am so ready for my soul tribe, so ready to be deeply understood again. I feel like I have been doing all the things I can do to meet more of them…but in the meantime, being a lone wolf can be so lonely.
Luckily I have been blessed with my Son Richard who is one of my soul tribe, I know the minute he was born that he & I were linked in a way which is more than Mother & Son, he is now awakening to his gifts as a healer, an empath, & lightworker, & as he is walking this path on his lifes journey I know he will gain the knowledge of the gifts he needs to fulfill his his purpose.
This is exactly what I needed to read. I’ve been thinking of soul connections and it had been clouding my mind as I couldn’t quite put my finger on the connection I have with a friend if mine. I caught up with them unexpectedly when I was feeling a little lost and after speaking with them I found myself being…myself basically. I felt understood instantly, and woke up to what was missing. They even mentioned they had been thinking of me randomly after 10 years of seeing each other…like they could feel something was off with me…and actually they had been on my mind too preciously- turns out at the time they were going thru personal dramas. We have definite magnetic energy and since day one of meeting back at school got on like a house on fire….like our mouths said “nice to meet u” but our souls sai”heeeey long time no see….I’ve been waiting for u to get here”
Enjoy every post of yours. Thank you :)
I am not sure, but I feel like I found a ‘soul family member’ who died years ago (year I was born). Is that even possible? The ‘chord’ that we share is that we both read intensely in order to improve our speaking abilities. When I found out, I sobbed; quite unexpected because I have Autism.
I believe in resonance more than any thing.
What grabbed me about your words was ” I feel like I met a member of my soul family that died years ago ( the year I was born) is that even possible??”
I smiled when I read it. I smiled because( and I had not even get to the autistic part yet [ I am on spectrum as well] ) i might be 2 years plus late but I am here to say :
You are sure, you feel it, you know it, it’s weird but yet not at all.
I would be interested in hearing your experiences.
Exactly 25 years ago I met my Soul Mate. He has always told me from the moment he saw me (I was 12 years old) I was going to be his wife. Back then he was the bad boy and I was the good girl and my mom was not having it. From time to time we would run into each other and we’d kiss and hug, but I knew I should stay away. He continued to chase me, but then he went away for awhile. When I was 15, here he was again walking pass my house. This time was it, I didn’t care what my mother had to say I had to make him my boyfriend. He only came home once a month and that was good enough for me. In between time we wrote letters and waited for the next time we would be together. We did this from July until December and decided we would always share forever. Once he was home something in me changed. That January he turned 17 and I was turning 16 two weeks later and felt I needed to move on. He was devastated and all I kept thinking was that this type of boy can’t possibly love me the way he say he does. As I moved on I continued to run into him and spend time with him, while I was seeing someone else. I often felt something always pulling me to him, I needed him. Eventually, he ended up in prison and I continued to run from him as we still wrote letters. From time to time I would visit him cause again I needed him, that connection/pull. After a few years of him being in prison I ended up with kidney failure, he was so supportive and upset he was unable to be near me. Even more hurt that he was unable to give me a kidney. Through illness, his incarceration, my running to and from him, the marriages and relationships he stayed loyal to how much he loved me and wanted to marry me. He would ask all the time if I was ready and I would always say no…until recently. After twenty years of searching myself, reasons and seasons I finally have decided to be with my LIFETIME LOVE. Still writing letters and visiting him. No distance or time have ever stopped us, it has only made us stronger. He is now 40 and I am 39, we end every letter: I Love you Forever and a day, because forever just isn’t enough.
Generally whenever I meet anyone with whom I have an instant, deep and magnetic connection to it’s usually the sort of person who isn’t afraid to be goofy or silly… the artsy, expressive type who covets a good adventure and really lives in the moment. I sometimes wonder if this is really a member of “my tribe” or someone reflecting back the better parts of myself I have lost along the way, the parts I really miss having.
When I met my significant other however, the connection based experience was quite different. I felt so certain that I knew him and was trying to figure out where I was remembering him from. Did he go to my old karate school? Was he another student at the college? Was he on TV or something? Our paths had never actually crossed but somehow I just “knew” him already. The attraction was also the most powerful I had ever experienced. It wasn’t just sexual, it was deep, meaningful, spiritual… I knew his soul and I wanted to swim in it. And his eyes… every time he looked at me, his eyes bolted me down and bore into me. In spite of all this fire and magic, our relationship actually had a bit of a stormy start but these days we’ve managed a sort of still-water dance. Hes the yang to my yin and we couldn’t be happier.
What a coincidence, I had this experience this week! Although you would probably call it destiny instead of coincidence ;). I find it difficult to believe in fait / meant to be / destiny, but if I would I saw a lot of signs this week. I am currently wondering if it is best for my personal growth to apply for a different job. My loyalty to my current boss withholds me. However, on my way to work a mini van started driving in front me with on it the text: Explore your boundaries’. And I heard people talking about the job while I was standing next to them. And on top of that I met a person form my soul group (as I have understand by this article). The hospital I work at has two locations and because I offered to help a colleague I had to travel with a shuttle bus to the other location, where I normally never go to. On the way back I started talking to a colleague form a department I never go to and whom I normally would never have met and I felt like I could tell here everything, It felt so normal for the both of us to talk to each other. She told me about here career plans which were inspiring and ambitious. After reading this article I looked her up in the hospital ‘phone book’ and thanked her for the nice conversation.
Just recently I’ve joined a few rh negative blood groups. I have never felt like I belonged anywhere until then. I fit in everywhere and have always had tons of ‘friends,’ yet my inner self had nothing in common. Do you know any negatives? I just find it fascinating how similar we all are.
I think I’ve been reunited with someone from my soul group after 15 years… but I’m not ready. This person wants to meet up and I know they would change my whole world but I’m scared of change. I wake up every day full of fear and anxiety knowing what’s coming and my first instinct is to just run away as usual… help? I feel sick to my stomach. Funny that I got this article in my inbox just when I needed it.
Often we get absorbed in our minds thinking we can predict, anticipate and control future outcomes, it gives us a false sense of involvement and safety ‘thinking’ our way out of fearful situations and waiting to be prepared. In my experience though, you never really feel prepared, ‘thinking’ our way out of the same problems our minds have created is an impossible and paralyzing task (trying to see the whole forest, when you’re a tree inside of it).
Perhaps the final task in your maturation for your to be ready is to meet this person and learn from anything that arises out of the experience? Our Soul Group is here to help us learn after all.
You know I have met people like this along the way. Most often though they seem to be more like “messengers” who encourage and offer a golden nugget of truth about me and or the immediate circumstances I am enduring. Then within days or weeks they are gone. The majority of the cases the person is elderly (ranging in age from 60-90 years of age). Its a rare treat when I meat someone who is in my age group.
My best and dearest friend (we met on the job 17 years ago) and she is in her early 70’s, married since she was 19, is Puerto Rican and is extremely Catholic. However, she understands me and empathasizes more than any person I know. She has never judged me and betrayed me in any way. And still with the intense and seeming impossible challenges I am dealing with these last 10 years, our relationship, communication and connection seems to have grown deeper and more mature on so many levels. We have not seen one another in 5 years since she lives in Florida and I in Pa. We most often text/email and on occassion will have a phone conversation. This relationship is so affirming and enlightening, it’s mutually fulfilling and comforting to share this life with her.
Those connections come long and far between, I’m happy to hear you found such a friend in this wonderful sounding woman.
I find it as well that some of the elders in our society are much easier to connect to, the have long ago let the guards down to authenticity as they don’t need to pretend as much, and live from a much slower state of being that allows them to reap in the richness.
This is wonderful! Makes me feel hope.
I met such a person and “score” 12/12 on your list. This was one of those short-term meetings, maybe 3 months. When it ended there was a feeling of having the heart ripped-out. It took a long time to come to terms with this. I did a composite chart for us and although we were forty years apart in age, the natal charts overlay was identical to within one degree. You can’t make this stuff up. In opposition, I was the Moon and she was the Sun. I never want to go through that again because of the pain of separation.
This seems to be the case of twin flames. You could try doing soul work for you and possibly reunite sometime or shortly after.
I got 12/12 no doubt. I saw him 7 years ago. I was sitting at the store and he walked in and stared me directly in the eyes and I was speechless . He reappeared 1 yr after bringing with him that same powerfully binding magical fulfilling gaze that said all the thing he knew I knew. Even now when time and circumstance no longer allows our alignment, disconnecting from him is like tearing of bits of me from inside out. Was with one person for 19 years and never had this type of feeling toward them. It’s way more than love and desire . I hopevalong my path of cleansing we are allowed to be together once more. I ask this of the universe