Love. It exists within all people, places, and things. It is inextricably linked to God or Spirit. It is the most powerful force in the universe.
In the grand scheme of things, Love encompasses all, so why is there a need to distinguish one type of love from another? The answer is that in order to spiritually awaken as individuals, we often need to label what we feel and experience. This helps us to better understand what we’re going through on the physical plane.
Before you continue please know that all unconditional forms of love are no better or worse than each other. They all bring their own unique gifts and lessons. They are equal.
The Difference Between Twin Flames vs Soulmates
Soulmates and twin flames are phrases that have been used to describe relationships that touch our souls and change our lives forever.
But what is the difference between all of these terms?
I’ll share my interpretation below.
Please note that I’m revealing my own experience (and yours might differ). In my life, I’ve had the good fortune of experiencing both types of love. Mateo Sol, my partner and co-writer of this website, is what I would consider both a soulmate and twin flame. So the people in our lives can definitely overlap these definitions!
What is a Soulmate?
Soulmates are people in our lives whom we connect with on a deep level.
As the name implies, soulmates are primarily friends of the soul. If you have found your soulmate they will likely be the best, and truest friend, you will ever have. You’ll be able to share everything with your soulmate, from your wildest dreams to your most shameful secrets. Nothing is off-limits.
Spiritually, soulmates usually play a major role in your development. It is possible for soulmates to be platonic, romantic or sexual in nature. You can also have multiple soulmates in one lifetime, hence the many love triangles we see and experience.
There are a few different types of soulmate relationships, you can read a summarized version here:
Soul friends are very similar to kindred spirits. However, the essential difference between the two is that kindred spirits are more personality-based, and soul friends are more essence-based. In other words, soul friends share our deepest dreams, values, and drives (not just similar personalities and tastes). This is the most common type of soulmate.
As the name suggests, soul teachers appear in our lives to help teach us vital life lessons. Sometimes these lessons are taught deliberately, and other times these lessons are unintentional. Soul teachers often appear in the form of ex-lovers, family members, friends, and even enemies.
This type of soulmate is a combination of both friend and teacher. In fact, soul companions most closely match people’s perception of what a “soulmate” is. As confidants, soul companions deeply understand, love and cherish us. The depth and blissful harmony that you experience in this relationship will outshine any other that you’ve ever had.
What is a Twin Flame?
Twin flames are our mirrors.
They reflect back to us all the strengths, insecurities, weaknesses, and shadows that we possess. The purpose of the twin flame relationship is to help us undergo inner work, spiritual transformation, and become the best version of ourselves possible.
But here’s the thing, at first twin flame relationships can be intense and tumultuous. This can carry on for many years. But once both egos surrender to their purging and purification, the gifts of humility, empathy and unconditional love are finally obtained.
Our flames reflect the disowned parts of ourselves; they are the yins to our yangs, the suns to our moons, and the light to our darkness. They propel us into shadow work, deep self-discovery and the fulfillment of our potential.
Many people have asked me whether it’s possible to have more than one twin flame. My response is that it could be possible, but I doubt it. As the word “twin” implies, we only have one twin flame in this life. Sometimes we don’t even meet our twin flame in this incarnation, but rest assured, we have always been connected to them on the level of Spirit.
Your twin flame could be your greatest dream or your worst nightmare (or both). They will test you, provoke you and love you fiercely all at once.
Among many tell-tale signs, the greatest proof of a twin flame relationship is its capacity to stimulate the deepest and most beneficial changes within you.
More In-Depth Help
Want to learn more about twin flame and soulmate relationships? In our book Twin Flames & Soulmates, we give more in-depth guidance:
I realize that all the little nuances of twin flame vs soulmate connections can’t be answered above. So in this section, I’ll attempt to address the most common questions people have asked me.
In a past article, we’ve already explored the most common twin flame questions out there (see our Ultimate Twin Flame Guide to read that). So to prevent redundancy, I’ll just answer the most common questions pertaining to twin flames vs soulmates below.
If you have any burning questions on your mind that aren’t answered below, do let me know in the comments:
1. What is the difference between a twin flame vs soulmate?
Soulmates and twin flame relationships have different purposes. While soulmates are there to provide gentle and stable support, twin flames are there to ignite the fires of spiritual transformation. Soulmate relationships are designed to uplift us, while twin flame relationship are designed to challenge us. I like to compare the two relationships to fire (twin flames) and water (soulmates).
2. Can a soulmate hurt you?
Yes, it is possible for a soulmate to hurt you. No relationship is perfect, and arguments, as well as emotional hurt, can occur in any type of relationship. However, in a soulmate relationship, it is unlikely that your soulmate will intentionally try to harm you. More often than not they unintentionally harm you as a result of their own unresolved wounds.
3. Do we all have a soulmate?
Yes, we all have at least one soulmate on this earth right now. However, not all of us are open to the possibility of connecting with our soulmate due to negative beliefs, self-destructive habits, and other limiting patterns of behavior. Unfortunately, some people are programmed with the belief that they’re not “worthy” of happiness or aren’t “good enough.” Often, those who do inner work find that they’re able to finally connect with their soulmate after years of searching.
4. Do we only have one soulmate?
No. Many people (including myself) believe we have many soulmates who exist in a multitude of forms. Our soulmates can be our partners, friends, coworkers, siblings, or even animal companions. One thing is for sure: all the soulmates we meet throughout our lives will have a major impact on us. Our lives will be much richer after coming into contact with our soulmates.
At a fundamental level, all souls are connected, all souls flow back to the One Spirit.
We have all been given the opportunity to experience at least one soulmate or twin flame connection in life. These relationships teach us so much about ourselves, our gifts, and our unique potential. In the end, if we’re lucky, we are brought back to the one great truth: that we have been Whole and Complete all along. Soulmates and twin flames merely help to remind us of that.
If you would like to learn more about soulmates and twin flames, see our twin flame book.
What is your experience? Have you met a soulmate or twin flame? How did the experience change your life? I’d love to hear your story below.
I am actually confused right now. I thought I’d met my twin flame. The recognition has set spiritual awakening and also what people describe as twin flame journey. Basically, my life has never been the same since that day. I thought I’ve got the hang of it, I thought I’ve gained understanding about this journey. However, recently I am somehow reconnecting with a past life soulmate ( I think he is that). From the first time I connect with his soul, I feel familiarity, I feel joy and then I just cant help not to love him. I was so surprised to find how easy it is for me to love him. I fell in love with his soul. And then one day, I was shown that somehow we knew each other in our past life, we’re very close and I could say that he was my first love. At that time, I thought this revelation was the way universe trying to heal our old wound (mine is abandonment issue and his is guilty feeling). However, something that I still cant understand why I still can’t stop thinking or missing him. Why can’t I help myself from wanting to connect… Read more »
I remember the very moment I recognized my twin flame. I was 29 standing on a friends porch under a stary night in the Rocky Mountains. When this younger guy I had seen around town, and had felt his familiar but unsettling energy when he was near by, was now standing next to me alone for the first time. While chatting we locked eyes and I immediately felt every hair on my body stand, my heart race faster, my breathe stop and a fluttering in my chest take over, and all I could think was “oh shit. I’m going to know you forever…” We were together for 4 years in that time we traveled the world together and changed each other forever. We were toxic together, but the bestest friends, both of us so stubborn and passionate. We were unhappy, so I took it for face value and left.. We stopped talking for nearly a year when one day we both felt each others presence, from blocks away, in downtown Toronto, and found each other in the middle of one of its busiest intersections! Since then we have helped each other heal, grow and continue to be the best versions… Read more »
Oh My, that is beautiful and described so eloquently and true… The energy has been transmitted into the universe and somewhere a woman is gravitating towards you and when you cross paths, it will be intense with the familiar intensity you dream of but real.. Dreams prepare us so when it time you will know.
I look forward to hearing a update of dreams do come true…
I have had vivid dreams in which I meet a woman whom I somehow know and somehow love deeply. And she me. And its perfectly natural. Like I have know her all my life. So there’s this unspoken recognition. It is not erotic. Its just an encounter. This has happened half a dozen times in the last 10 years or so. The woman is different each time but the love is the same each time. When I wake up, I can still feel the powerful emotion, and I can’t believe that it is just a dream. The pain I feel is so great that I actually grieve, I feel like weeping! This love transcends anything I have ever experienced during my waking life. What does this mean? Why does it happen?
I have found your writings to be very profound and enlightening.
I tend to be the one who catalyzes the spiritual work for both my partner AND myself. As though I am their twin flame but they are more like a soul date to me. I know I feel like an ancient soul but they are an old soul as well. So why would I be the one triggering most of our spiritual growth and experiences.
My twinflame is gone. I met him and ended up hurting each other. My life have gone downhill ever since. And yes this is truly my twinflame. He chased me. Regardless of that everytime I let him go. For some reason he either shows up in my dreams or a situation reconnect us. I have let him go. I only have unconditional love. I am taking care of myself and getting back into health. Why does some situation or dream keep bringing him back? I keep seeing 11 111111 111 222 44 etc.. Or any number with 11 ending. I keep waking up in the 3 o clock or 4 o clock hour. This is the same experience I had years ago right before I met him. That was years ago. When we both force ourselves to not talk to each other but the universe have a different plan. Example. One time I said I will not see him again unless spirit intervenes. Then sure enough when I parked to pick up my daughter, he was right behind my car. (He was my daughters elementary teacher) We have almost 10 years of communication through email. Why cant everything just go… Read more »
I really wanted to share one particular experience/relationship here as I am still searching for answers. I hope you won’t judge me too harshly. I was abused by my patents throughout my childhood. I spoke up when I was 16 which then involved Social Services and authorities. It’s a very long story but suffice to say that I was a mess trying to put myself back together when I met my first love. We met on a night out at a club when I was about 19. The spark was instantaneous! Even as I type this and reminisce, I can feel the electricity in my veins. We dated for a short while and I was blissfully happy. Like I said before, however, I was in a very messy place in my head, heart and spirit. I didn’t recognise love when it came. He even told me he loved me but I had a wall of numbness when it came to deep feelings, yet our chemistry was amazing. I didn’t realise I had also fallen in love with him. I don’t know what prompted me to do this, and I will regret this always, but we went out to the club… Read more »