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    » Home » Finding Guidance

    How to Authentically Understand the Meaning of Your Dreams (No Fluff Guide)

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    by Aletheia Luna · Dec 24, 2020 · 43 Comments

    Image of a girl running around in a dreamscape

    Dreams are like enchanted doorways to the mind, revealing our deepest needs, desires, feelings, and fears.

    In the most whimsical, bizarre and sometimes terrifying ways, our dreams present to us symbols, metaphors and allegories that are rich in personal meaning and significance.

    Our dreams can teach us a lot about ourselves, there is no denying that. And while they are extremely invaluable tools of self-discovery, the art of “dream interpretation” has been greatly muddied, monetized and complicated to unnecessary extents.

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    Have you ever had a dream that you were curious to discover the meaning of, but felt the need to consult some kind of “A-Z dream dictionary,” online dream meaning website, or even “dream consultant” such as a psychic or intuitive? If you are like most people, you will feel as though this is a natural and necessary step in order for you to understand the meaning of your dreams. But it isn’t.

    I’ve bought dream dictionaries and have consulted with all types of people in the past, trying to desperately understand the meaning of dreams which I felt had great significance to me. But eventually, I realized that the entire confusing process was completely unnecessary.

    Understanding the meaning of your dreams doesn’t need to be something cryptic or complex. It never needed to be in the first place. And today you will discover why.

    The Answers Are Within You – Not Without

    Since birth, we have been conditioned to listen to everyone but ourselves. We have been heavily indoctrinated into the belief that “any true and worthy answer” comes from without ourselves – from figures of authority, from religion, from educational institutions, and from family members. We are taught not only to second-guess our thoughts, judgments, and intuitions but to completely ignore and discount them.

    Therefore, it’s no wonder that when it comes to understanding the meaning of our dreams, we immediately scour the outer world for answers, believing deep down that our answers aren’t truly trustworthy, satisfying or worthwhile enough. Strangely, this seems to be the norm.

    And while it can help to consult websites, books, forums, and even other people for guidance and assistance, we seem to harbor a very imbalanced perspective towards understanding the meaning of our dreams that prevents us from truly learning from them.

    While there are some widely accepted interpretations for the different objects, people and occurrences in our dreams (which shouldn’t be completely discredited), our dreams are highly personal in nature meaning that only really we can understand their true meanings and messages.

    Your life context; your experiences, your feelings, your beliefs, your values, your fears, your desires, your dreams, your perspectives will be uniquely different from others. Your dreams are finely tuned to you.  And therefore, your answers will also be finely tuned to you.

    Uncover the Hidden Meaning of Your Dreams with One Simple Technique

    Personally, dream interpretation has been one of the most powerful tools of self-insight in my life. No matter how pleasant, embarrassing or horrific my dreams have been, I’ve always been able to learn lessons from them.

    One technique I use that never leaves me lacking answers, vaguely confused, or under a cloak of skepticism and distrust, is called “free association.”

    Free association is basically the process of spitting out as many thoughts or feelings as you can onto a piece of paper, and making connections between them.

    Author Doreen Valiente, defines free association eloquently:

    A method of interpreting dreams which is often recommended by psychologists, is that of free association. This means that you think over the symbolism of the dream, and record whatever your mind spontaneously associates with it, however irrelevant such an association may at first appear.

    Originally created by Freud in the late 1800’s, free association is often used in psychoanalysis to uncover hidden thoughts and feelings that have been repressed. These thoughts and feelings often appear as stories, places, experiences, objects and feelings within dreams.

    But … you might be wondering, “How do I go about free associating by myself?” “Do I need anything in particular?” “Is it difficult?”

    The answer is that free association is just as easy and simple as making a cup of tea. All you really need is a pen and paper. But to effectively free associate you will need to keep a few things in mind:

    1. Make sure you have an attitude of non-judgment and curiosity.

    Free association is about letting thoughts and words come to you, completely unfiltered. This could mean that you might write down seemingly irrelevant, embarrassing, strange, shocking or even “crazy” things. Resist the temptation to judge yourself and hold back: you will only withhold potentially important and revealing information. The more open you are, the more you will understand the meaning of your dreams.

    2. Write down anything and everything that comes to mind.

    This is the essence of free association: spew out anything you think or feel in relation to your dream. It’s a sort of mental diarrhea. For instance, if you’ve had a dream about being chased to the edge of a cliff, you might free-associate words such as “fear of failure, threat, hiding from something, demanding parents, responsibilities, stressed, lost, scared, fed up, walking on eggshells” and so forth.

    3. Feel free to pause.

    The difference between free association and free writing, is that free association is done thoughtfully, while free writing is done as an act of mentally purging all thoughts that come into your mind. When you start to free associate, take time to pause, think, introspect, and dig for a word or feeling – but not for too long (or, not for more than a few seconds)! Free association is about getting into a gentle flow.

    4. Reflect and draw connections.

    After you have finished free associating every word that comes to mind, take a few minutes to reflect on what you have written. What connections can you find? For example, you might have free-associated a dream about traveling to a foreign land with words like “adventure, change, desire for more, want to do something, excitement, big world, explore.” Reflecting on these words, it could be concluded that you want to expand your world and that you are ready for change to occur in your life. You might also be tired of your old ways, and you might desire the adventure of new ways of life.


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    5. The frequency of a dream greatly impacts its significance.

    Ideally, free association should be applied to dreams that frequently emerge each night. The more often a certain type of dream appears in your life, the more likely it is of great significance to you. But then, if a dream pops out of the blue which just happens to stun or confound you, by all means, free-associate!

    ***

    While it might be easier and more convenient to quickly search up the meaning of your dreams online or in a book, true self-discovery is about looking inside for the answers and realizing that often the most authentic discoveries actually come from within you.

    Remember that your dreams have unique and highly personal meanings that only you can uncover.

    What have your experiences been with trying to understand the meaning of your dreams?

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    About Aletheia Luna

    Aletheia Luna is a prolific psychospiritual writer, author, and spiritual mentor whose work has touched the lives of millions worldwide. As a survivor of fundamentalist religious abuse, her mission is to help others find love, strength, and inner light in even the darkest places. She is the author of hundreds of popular articles, as well as numerous books and journals on the topics of Self-Love, Spiritual Awakening, and more. [Read More]

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    1. Dori

      February 01, 2021 at 12:25 pm

      What if you can’t remember your dreams at all? How could someone regain that ability?

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      • Michele

        March 22, 2021 at 5:29 pm

        I’ve learned the older I get the more I wake up and simply forgot all the dreams that came to me throughout the night. So Before I go to sleep I meditate just to unwind and relax maybe 2 or 3 minutes. Then over & over in my mind I repeat I will remember my dreams, I will remember my dreams, sometimes I actually fall asleep repeating that in my mind. This works 100% of the time. If I forget to do this before going to sleep I do forget any and all dreams I had during the night. A dream journal is important to use as well, write your dream down the moment you wake up as not to lose it. Good luck. Everyone dreams every night, some of us have a harder time remembering those dreams.

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      • Aletheia Luna

        October 28, 2021 at 11:33 am

        Hi Dori, good question. You might find that simply setting an intention before bed to remember your dreams helps. You may also like to drink a cup of tea an hour or so before bed with a dream-inducing herb like blue lotus or mugwort. See if that helps. :)

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    2. Rebecca Odell

      September 08, 2020 at 4:33 pm

      Sometimes at night when I’m restless or feel empty and depressed, I like to imagine seeing the bottom half of a mermaid gliding through the water calming and smoothly, and I imagine I can hear all the calm underwater sounds. When I’m dreaming and wake up, I can remember what the dream was about for 10+ minutes, and it’s almost always something magical and exciting, in a beautiful or mysterious place. What does this mean? Can someone help me interpret?
      -Becca

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    3. Dana

      September 04, 2020 at 3:33 am

      So i had 2 dream recently.
      In the first dream i pick up a dying baby, thinking to myself that i can save it. But i just put it down with little emotion.
      In my second dream i pick the baby up again but it is dead now. I thought to myself that i could have saved it and felt abit bad, then i put it down again. I let it go and kinda moved on

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