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    » Home » Turning Inwards

    Crying Therapy: How to Stop Being an Emotionally Repressed Person

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    by Aletheia · Dec 24, 2020 · 49 Comments

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    Growing up, I rarely saw my parents cry.

    I’ve never once seen my father cry, and have only ever seen my mother cry a handful of times.  But you know, I’m not alone in these observations.  Many of you would have grown up with very stoic parents like myself, rarely seeing tears of joy or happiness emerge from their eyes.

    But of what consequence is all of this?  I’m writing this article because I’m on a quest, a quest to make crying something normal, commonplace and acceptable in my life.

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    Whether because of parental, cultural or societal influence, crying has become something swept deftly “underneath the mat”.  Crying, to many of us is uncomfortable, awkward and even embarrassing.  It signifies physical weakness in men, and emotional fragility in women.

    But what is the true weakness here?  True weakness isn’t acknowledging your emotions by crying: it’s hiding from them.

    Are You Emotionally Repressed?

    “The saddest thing is that when you cry, I can hear that you’re still trying to repress your emotions”.  These were the words of Sol, after a quiet, turbulent struggle with my emotions, resulting in hot tears and repressed sobs recently.

    “Crying is what makes you human.  But you’re building all of these emotions up until you explode … Promise me that you’ll cry more”.  Feeling immensely relieved from the inner weight I was carrying in me, I agreed to try, every day.  So what now?  Now I’m trying to relearn how to cry.  Now I’m trying to let my emotions flow freely, unrepressed and unhindered, because there’s nothing admirable about being an emotionally repressed person.

    If anything, emotionally repressed people create the most strife in the world.  Think of the effects that sexual repression has on people and society, and you’ll be given some idea of the havoc that unacknowledged feelings wreak.  Even in my own relationships emotional repression has built many mounds out of molehills.  Think: emotional and physical disconnection, moodiness, jealousy, and unnecessary drama over the smallest things.

    But how can you tell whether you’re an emotionally repressed person who is out of touch with their feelings?  Here are some clues:

    • Difficulty in crying freely and easily.
    • Difficulty in laughing heartily.
    • Difficulty identifying emotions.
    • Difficulty expressing how one feels.
    • Difficulty opening up to people emotionally.
    • Secrecy.  Not sharing very much about your thoughts, opinions or feelings with others.
    • Unexplainable moodiness, melancholy or glumness.
    • Inability to express strong emotions like anger or sadness.
    • Bottling emotions up inside and imploding.

    If you share more than a couple of these traits, chances are that you’ve lost touch with your emotions by burying them away.

    The Importance of Letting it All Out

    Question: Why are (most) Latino’s so vibrant and charismatic?

    Answer:  because they’re in touch with their emotions.

    Whether it’s joy, gratitude, anger, sadness, love or lust, Latino cultures in particular know how to express themselves.  Their raw, rustic and untamed connection with their bodies and hearts is exactly why I respect them so much.

    Even the meek and respectful Japanese have their way of “letting it all out”.  According to a recent article published in the UK Independent, Japanese businessmen and women have taken to attending sad, weepy movies just to shed a few tears.  The Japanese call it the “crying boom”, signifying the rise in popularity of expressing emotions.


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    Trend or not, to acknowledge our feelings through crying is an intelligent way of living life.  After all, why on earth would we have the ability to shed tears if it served no purpose?  Crying, just like laughing, is essential for our well being.  But how can we laugh when we’re so jam-packed full of dark and miserable emotions?

    We need to learn how to cry before we learn how to laugh.  You can’t laugh away your negative emotions.  They’re still going to be there, underneath, even if they are diluted.

    Crying is natures way of relieving our ‘tensions’ and our burdens.  It doesn’t make our problems disappear, no.  But it helps us to deal with our problems in a more level-headed way.  In essence, crying helps us to live more lively and self-understanding lives.

    It’s essential to acknowledge and express our emotions when learning how to reconnect with our souls.

    Whether you’re male or female, young or old, I encourage you to put on a sad movie today … and let it all out.

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    1. Jeremiah

      May 26, 2022 at 1:15 am

      I absolutely love that Sol said to you; I had an ex girlfriend who was so scared of my crying that she said if I didn’t stop she would leave. And I’ve had many people tell me they are afraid of my emotional intensity. Oh well.

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    2. Yahia Waleed

      February 16, 2022 at 3:09 am

      Emotion does not actually serve me well because I mainly do not understand emotion except when I identify with the condition even if remotely with allusions in mind given concurring societal changes. I’m basically autistic and that’s why I don’t consider emotion to be an advantage and is more like a loophole through which I could be used, I understand that I can be able to rationalize people’s position but that’s pretty much the only thing I can do with marginal amounts of emotion.

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    3. k2

      March 20, 2020 at 11:51 pm

      i have a hard time in connecting with my emotions…
      i know to myself, if anyone’s to blame, its me. i let it happen to myself…
      i suddenly cry whenever i had deep thoughts or my triggers, but i rarely let it out… or in the case where people are around or anyone, never…
      i don’t know how to get mad or cry. neither do i have confidence if i ever had a fight with someone.. my temper and my pride mix if i had a fight with people, and im scared that whatever i have with that person, will never return… hence my dislike with conflict with anyone, except if i really hate them…
      all in all, its ingrained in my head that if i show myself, people that i love will get hurt. and it tears my heart if that were to happen… but for how long can i keep my mouth shut and implode?

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    4. Luiz

      March 15, 2020 at 10:04 am

      Crying is awesome. I generally don’t share my emotions or my tears because people generally recommend me to go to a psychiatrist or they gaslight me somehow. Our western culture is still not built to embrace people who cry naturally. Having good friends would help though.

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    5. Heidi

      January 01, 2020 at 4:08 am

      I have seen it my whole life. I had a hard mother who did not like any show of any emotions. Unfortunately, I made her crazy because I was born with deep feelings. I heard things like “Get over it!”, “You need to toughen up!”, “That mouth is going to get you in trouble!”, and lastly “You’re too sensitive!”. It is who I am. I tried for the longest time to hide my feelings, but it always shows on my face. I also detest lying. She was right about it getting me in trouble. People don’t want to talk about feelings.
      After my awakening and then the dark night of the soul I couldn’t contain it anymore. So many people walked away from me. It still happens. I don’t care anymore. I am who I am. I’m real. I really can’t stand social media anymore. I call Facebook FakeBook now. Everyone only shows the good parts of their lives unless something really bad happens. I’ve tried to post meaningful things to get people to think about life. I’m lucky if I get one like, but if I post something about one of my animals doing something silly I get 30 likes.
      I’ve even noticed that people don’t even talk about Donald Trump? All of the horrible things that are happening in the U.S.
      I have a really hard time doing small talk. I’ve seen too much. I’ve learned how to be honest with people in a more diplomatic way. I’m also working on my triggers. I still go on Facebook every once in awhile to talk to my spiritual friends.
      I know that change is coming in 2020. I know that I came here the way I did for a reason.

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    6. Anne

      August 28, 2018 at 11:16 pm

      I am scared to start crying because it’s so sad inside for so long it feels like i will loose control and i don’t do vulnerable well, and i don’t know what to do after… Everything that’s caused the sadness is still there. I just can’t seem to let myself do it, I’ll even bite my hand for example so that overides the inside pain. It’s so dumb, but im scared to feel

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    7. Shawnna Rench

      June 05, 2018 at 2:03 am

      Poets are damned… nevertheless perspective with the eyes of angels.

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    8. JorgeP

      September 14, 2016 at 10:19 am

      I identified with all those points you listed. All of them. It was as if you knew me personaly.
      I never saw crying as a weekness or a negative thing. I love to cry because of how it makes me feel after it’s over. I love it because it’s such a rare event in my life that when it happens it makes me feel more humane and more in touch with my self.
      Even before I read your article I already knew about the importance of letting it out and how it’s important to cry to be able to laugh. I know all this. But…
      Just knowing doesn’t seem to help me so much. I still almost never cry. I can cry watching films, but it feels so superficial (and sometimes even forced). I don’t know what to do to be able to really let my emotions out. If I could I’d consult a therapist or a psychologist, but I don’t have the financial means.
      I’m a repressed Latino. Do you have any advice?

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    9. NFrelink

      August 30, 2016 at 3:51 am

      I’m a bit late, but I kinda feel like I should at least comment something

      since last year, I haven’t been able to cry at all. I couldn’t cry when my girlfriend left me, I can’t cry when watching some sad movie for example etc etc
      if anyone knows how to make me cry, I’d love to hear it

      -Nathan

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      • Maria

        August 17, 2017 at 3:04 am

        I find that going to nature helps me cry :)

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