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Type 1: The Perfectionist (Reformer) + The Alchemist +
The Seeker
Please, Mateo sige me some counsel. I feel like it’s so much to take in this blend!
Thanks
Thank you for your work. It is helping me on my daily journey.
Thanks for your dedication
Thanks for moving on….
Wow, i knew that i was the caregiver and al the posatives i was like,.yeah!rite on! But then i saw the downs…and it was like a smack in the face,its everythingvi hate about others,and its fuckin me! It makes me question sooo much,but can i accept it? I dont kno,i thot my relationship i had for the past two years,she was the narc,but this is truly making me question me,who i am,maybey she wasnt a gaslighting narc,it was me the whole time!!!!!wtf!!! Im totaly spinning rite now,we hav split up for the past month,and i thot i looked deep inside,i owned my wrongs,and my positives,but do i hav it fuckin backwards!!????? Im in a total state of shock and disalusionment,idk where to go,what to do,this really really shattered my reality,do i embrace it and accept and change or am i fuckin wrong again!!?? FUCKING UGH!
Thanks Tony for sharing your experience with this. It’s usually not so black and white, perhaps the person you’re with is a narcissist, but often narcissists are attracted to people pleasers (or care givers in this case) as they enable the narcs desire for attention and power.
It’s easy to doubt yourself in these states, but if you continue doing the inner work, you’ll begin seeing more clearly the dynamic games you may be in.
Mateo
I kno she is a narc,i hav no dobt,just as i am a very alert,receptive empath, but the dark side or whatever it is listed after caregiver…. Imy last two relationships,1 long story short,married 17 years,one son,wife juvenile diabetic,me alchy,stop booze at 26, at 38,diagnozed stage 4mutating lymphoma,25% chance live, 6 months R-Chop chemo,remission,preventive chemo next six months,then autologous stem cell transplant,6 months of the harshest living\dieing hell u can imagine. She is cheating on me whole time,cancer takes everything luv, meet woman at work,pagan\wiccan young er,amaxing,divorce,we move ,five years later,gadliting cantvsay narc but doubted my sanity as she cheatef w neighbor,many favtors,no one for THREEyears,celibate, meet up w girl i knew in HIGH SCHOOL, fall in love,im total garegiver,waitvon her hand and foit worship her,determined not to ever lie or hurt her,all grear first 5 months,then sex drops off,she stops stayin over all of a sudden,cpke months later,start stayin her place,whole time she is pretty crapoy to me,i can b better,hope se changes,i change,drop all boundries,wirk harder, she changes,gets nastier,now NO INTIMACY AT ALL!,i try harder,se starts to tell me bout goin for weekendcw matt and amy,i kno ABOUT them,never met them,this whole time ,ayear now,met nonecbut neighbor and daugter,met NONE of her friends,NONE,and they are all bikers,tell her i dont want u goin away overnite w peopke i hav never me,especialy bikers,and i do mean an oficial MC, i kno others,not happening on my watch,huge fite,brakup,reunion etc,she dsnt know my bday,se dsnt kno r 1 year aniversary, totaly no recognition of euher,i kno hers, continue on,ABSOLUTELY NO INTAMCYOR AFFECTION, months go on warm weather,i still live w her,work oart time,cook clean take care of everything,my hoys,my family fsrm,wzit on her hand and foot….mean,nasty,nothing back,warmweather=motorcycles,three times to go away,three times catch her blatantly lyingq,kadt tine a mont ago,ok im out,asked u not to lue,one thingcwont take,pack my shit,leav amobt ago fit past tree weeks by text,were actualy kinda civil this werk,now this hammrer,im spinni man. Am i a narc to whervi thot talented empath,i candestroy u after knowing u forv15 minutes w just words caus i kno u,who u r,what u r,ikno ur aura,ur chakras,ur soul,…..im fucked
It’s very clear that you need to be the caretaker of YOUR soul and seek out the reasons why you were willing to put all you have into a relationship where you were not being honored . Some people are hooked on the drama and how alive they feel when tangled up with a narcissist. After awhile, you will start to take on characteristics of the narcissist when you are enmeshed so deeply with one, it is insidious and usually it only becomes crystal clear when you have had time apart. I’m just making an observation and I am not trying to be rude in any way shape or form, I hope that you can take whatever I write knowing it is being written with the very best of intention. ( I am working on being more honest and less superficial with my interactions. I have a habit of holding back as not to create any waves or drama, ). Like I said being around a narcissist can cause a person to take on characteristics of a narc, but this does not make you one. You seem to have healthy self awareness which you will RARELY if ever see in a narcissist. While you can learn a lot about yourself ,narcissists will Expose you to trickery, betrayal and your sense of reality will be manipulated to the point where you question everything you thought you once knew. So many people want to save the narcissist by allowing them to feed off of a person’s good nature. What happens is, they suck up your light and you are left in a state of confusion, bewilderment, and fractured sense of self worth. The good news is, you can build you back up, stronger, more genuine, more authentic than ever. But the only way to do this is to cut off contact with them and stay focused on your mental , physical and spiritual health. Pray for the wisdom and courage it takes to transcend what no longer serves you. Be blessed!
there is truth in the work. One thing that i learned is make a list of where i want to be. where to be is to make me happy and at peace. followed by the work, the work is taken in small steps. i have learned that things and/ or fall off my vibration. That is good for me and good for you / us. Kind regards.
You can survive
As I sat here reading, my heart sinking and I felt like crying. So perseptive, it hit me in the very core of what I’ve been dealing with all my life. Running here and there, trying to find the love I thought I wanted and needed…. I wish now I had more time to find better ways.. this makes me so very sad.
I love the story and i salute
Seeker…I feel it was spot on..what conserns me is the shadow of lonliness and inability to commit. My self exploration is rooted im a desire to connect with others in a healthy way so my fear is and my shadow are my greatest challenge. Help!!