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    » Home » Turning Inwards

    The Individuation Process (and Why It’s Crucial For Our Mental Health)

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    by Aletheia Luna · Aug 3, 2021 · 13 Comments

    Image of a mandala-like plant that represents individuation

    Tell me what you know of that is not inside the soul? Take a pitcher full of water and set it down on the water — now it has water inside and water outside. We mustn’t give it a name … If you want the truth, I’ll tell you the truth; Listen to the secret sound, the real sound, which is inside you.

    ~ Kabir (Ecstatic Poems)

    It’s in our human nature to want to divide where we end and others begin.

    Yet only once we’ve established healthy boundaries can we discover and experience the common waters of Spirit that Kabir mentions above.

    As the philosopher, Teilhard de Chardin eloquently put it, “We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

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    Learning to live life from this perspective makes all the difference by welcoming this vast ocean into the small pitchers of our lives.

    Remembering that we are spiritual beings helps to remind us that despite our struggles as individuals, there’s an untameable drop of Spirit within each of us.

    Although we may try to block this wellspring of Spirit, we can never fully cease the flow of it.

    This sacred wellspring flows through all of life, and it longs for love, harmony and wholeness.

    The Individuation Process

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    Psychologist Carl Jung once coined the term individuation. He defined it as “a slow, imperceptible process of psychic growth” that gradually results in “a wider and more mature personality.“

    Individuation, then, is the lifelong process of growing into wholeness.

    Unconsciously, on a personal and collective level, we are all inherently striving towards self-realization through the constant process of growth.

    Individuation is a process that can be compared to the growth of an oak tree from a single acorn.

    The acorn represents us and our potential. The oak tree (that is born from the acorn) represents totality: the fulfillment of our potential.

    In this way, individuation is essentially the process of embodying our true potential, calling, and authentic selves.

    Individuation, however, isn’t solely about the development of our ego selves.

    Ego development is only one part of the process of individuation, not the end result.

    The purpose of individuation is the development of what Jung referred to as the “Psyche” (the Greek word for “Soul”) which goes deeper than the ego.

    In life, all of us experience the call of individuation. We all want to express ourselves on an ego level, but we also crave for something deeper, something that transcends the ego.

    The individuation process is, all at once, about the process of becoming differentiated and unique, but also a process of becoming whole and united with others.

    Only once you get to know the exact shape of your piece of the cosmic puzzle, will you be able to find your place within the puzzle as a whole. This allows you to experience Spirit and Soul.

    The Only Way Out, Is Through

    For each of us in life, there exists a set of inner doors that no one can go through, except for us.

    Our individuation processes are not linear, but circular.

    Individuation is a journey towards wholeness in which we create a balanced relationship between our inner and outer worlds.

    This is a delicate art.

    Perhaps that’s why Jung depicted our wholeness as a circle with a dot in the center, proclaiming, “self is not only the center, but also the whole circumference.”

    Throughout the ages, men have been intuitively aware of the existence of such an inner center that guided their life journeys.

    The Greeks called this center man’s inner “daimon” (meaning “to be motivated by a spiritual force”). In ancient Egypt, this inner force was expressed as the concept of the “Ba” (soul) and the Romans worshiped it as the “genius” native to each individual.

    Jung once asked himself, “What is it, in the end, that induces a man to go his own way and to rise out of unconscious identity with the mass as out of a swathing mist?”

    He concluded, “It is what is commonly called vocation: an irrational factor that destines a man to emancipate himself from the herd and from its well-worn paths. Anyone with a vocation hears that voice of his inner man: he is called.“

    There’s a moment in our lives when we awaken to this inner vocation. When we listen to our soft, innermost voices, we become like aliens in society.

    We stop caring about what our parents, families, friends, and cultures pressure us to be. We crave more. This is the moment when our spiritual journeys begin. This is the moment when we begin our unique tasks of individuation. And this is always something different for each of us.

    The soul knows that there is only one way to fulfill itself, and that is through creating balance with the inner and outer, ego and spiritual self.

    Perhaps the oldest truth of all self-discovery is that the only way out is through. In other words, the only way to leave behind our emptiness and unhappiness is to embark on a journey through the ego.

    6 Reasons Why Individuation Is Crucial For Our Mental, Emotional, and Spiritual Health

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    Individuation is not only the process of cultivating wholeness and becoming our “authentic and true selves.” It is also the process of becoming a fully mature human being.

    At different points throughout our lives, we’ll receive different callings and come across new doors that await us.

    When we are young, these callings might manifest themselves as the formation of our personalities.


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    As we grow older, these callings might manifest themselves as learning empathy, or community.

    Each calling is just as necessary as the next. We can only move on once we’ve completely integrated the lesson each door has in store for us.

    By successfully progressing through our individuation, we can:

    1. Become aware of our social personas, and how they’re not the True Self.
    2. Become aware of how our subpersonalities operate – then healing and embracing them from the holistic perspective of the Self.
    3. Become aware of our core wounds and shadow selves that prevent us from experiencing the wholeness of our egos.
    4. Awaken to our state of disconnection and soul loss, allowing us to embark on our spiritual journeys in order to discover our place in the world. This allows us to embody our purpose or vocation.
    5. Cultivate a conscious relationship to Spirit and in doing so enjoy intimacy with all of life, and experiencing oneness with all things and with the Universe as a whole.
    6. Cultivate a conscious relationship with Soul and thus discover our unique and ultimate place in the world, allowing us to serve the world most effectively as older souls.

    When we awaken to our deepest longing for growth and our honest desire for love, we enter the realm of Spirit.

    As we progressively mature, we begin to realize that we are like waves existing within the One great Sacred Ocean.

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    About Aletheia Luna

    Aletheia Luna is a prolific psychospiritual writer, author, and spiritual mentor whose work has touched the lives of millions worldwide. As a survivor of fundamentalist religious abuse, her mission is to help others find love, strength, and inner light in even the darkest places. She is the author of hundreds of popular articles, as well as numerous books and journals on the topics of Self-Love, Spiritual Awakening, and more. [Read More]

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    1. Caro

      January 17, 2022 at 1:20 am

      Thank you for your beautiful website.

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    2. Ondine

      June 10, 2021 at 4:13 am

      I recently have been reading “woman who run with wolves “by Clarissa Pinkola Estes who describes reconnecting with our wild woman/nature through initiation rites [which is like the dark night of the soul , journey to the underworld and back] and she does so using story and old folk tales which is used as medicine and archetypes which I find to be helpful. What you have written about the individuation process really reminds me of that and helps define the initiation better for me. I have trouble though intellectualising it all because I want to get it right[ which I know is a detrimental habit]. Apart from meditation, shadow work and creativity, is there certain activities that can better aid in my learning and progress in this process? I feel I am on the right track but I feel without focus on the matter. Thank you for this Article.

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    3. Jason Davis

      April 26, 2021 at 10:22 pm

      I went through this process after a motorcycle accident. I was meditating to deal with the unconscious effects, and one day while going into meditation I actually went in lucid. I saw my ego. It’s the ugliest thing of all. I ran the first time, but I know what needs to be done. If this happens to anyone else, don’t trust who you meet on the road. It is your ego in disguise.

      When I read C. G. Jung after, I realized I’d been through Individuation. I feel like an outsider now, but there is no fear at all. Quite the opposite in fact.

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    4. Lapwing feather

      November 27, 2020 at 6:22 am

      Hey Sol! Good article! I like the concept of finding balance between your outter and inner life… even if it my worst nightmare. I mean, as I child, I had a stong tendency to withdraw and daydream constantly, both because I liked it, and… because I was a “diffrent child”, disable, moody, and gifted. I felt subsconsiously (I guess) that people wanted to change me on a deeeeeeep level, like “take my soul away” to make me fit in… It is still my greatest fear nowadays. I know it’s irrational, but of course it doesn’t help.I developed a serious “reald world phobia”, because the idea of dissolving my soul in this ocean is terrifying to me… even enlightenement is, in some way. Today I feel stuck in my work and life in general. I don’t know how people can live, or even take one single step in a lifeless world when you just have to hide who are, shut up and keep your feet on the ground to appear “normal”. I refuse to live in such a world!

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    5. Patricia Murphy

      July 01, 2019 at 1:28 am

      Such edifying wisdom & deep insights… Thank you <3

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      • Mateo Sol

        July 01, 2019 at 10:27 am

        I’m happy you found value in it Patricia :).

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    6. Genevieve

      April 03, 2019 at 7:58 am

      I very much enjoyed this article, thank you for writing it. After going through a serious of traumatic experiences including psychological abuse, I made it my mission in life to become whole, to vibe so high that I would repel toxicity in my life. I’m in a much better place mentally, emotionally, and spiritually now, but it was painful “going through”. My commitment to personal growth and understanding myself has put me on a path where I can have mutually healthy connections. My life is so much better now and I’m excited about what’s to come. I wish you all peace and love on your journey home to yourselves ❤.

      Reply
    7. Tasha

      April 02, 2016 at 2:35 am

      I completely resonate with this article and it is my goal to help everyone reach this path. I’ve always wanted to help people. Even as a child, I would always be more interested in the underdog, or the person alone in a corner getting bullied. It’s like compassion and empathy was ingrained in me. I’ve been away from the “herd” for a while, which has helped me gain the confidence to purse my purpose in life coaching. If I can be the bridge to help at least one person awaken to their authentic selves, I would be happy. The money is only the icing on the cake.

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      • don Mateo Sol

        April 02, 2016 at 5:18 pm

        You’re fortunate Tasha, you’ve found your ‘vocation’ :).

        I’ve been much the same through my life, the underdogs and ‘loners’ provided an interpersonal depth I felt was very fulfilling in its complexity; those who choose or are are forced into, isolation from the herd because they prefer to listen to that strong voice within them that demands they be different.

        Money is empty and soulless, much of the life of LonerWolf we’ve been losing money from the expenses and yet still found it one of the most fulfilling projects we have. It’s only recently I’ve considered making money from the website to provide us with more free time from our practice to create more free content.

        Reply
        • Doug N

          April 03, 2016 at 1:25 am

          don Mateo,
          Do you have anything creative like artwork you can sell? How about starting a healing center — permaculture greenhouses etc?

          Reply
          • don Mateo Sol

            April 03, 2016 at 7:02 pm

            We already run a local practice, but we’re currently working on a new website that will be complimentary to LonerWolf’s work. :)

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            • Doug N

              April 07, 2016 at 2:03 am

              sounds good!

      • Doug N

        April 03, 2016 at 1:18 am

        Some of those lone bullies just need someone to stand up to them. If you help people you life coach you’ll have to be stronger than the bullies they fear. I stood up to bullies and sometimes they break down and there’s a descent person underneath their bullying fear. Many times underdogs are not so innocent either.

        Reply

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