Why do I refuse help from others? Why do I keep intentionally hurting myself? Why do I keep making the same mistakes over and over again?
How often have you asked yourself any of these questions?
Self-destructive behavior can be a daunting topic. It’s like a gremlin that lurks in the dark corners of existence, hiding in places we train ourselves to overlook and intentionally avoid.
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But the more we put off facing our self-destructive behavior, the more it consumes us.
Are you ready to face the self-destructive parts of you? Remember that toxic behavior comes from only one part of you – it doesn’t define the whole of you.
(If you need more help after reading this article, I highly recommend checking out our Self-Love Journal and Shadow Work Journal to go deeper and help heal self-destructive tendencies.)
Table of contents
- What is Self-Destructive Behavior?
- Why Are We Self-Destructive? (+ My Experience)
- 17 Symptoms and Habits of Self-Destructive Behavior
- You’re Not Broken (You’re Just Human)
- Self-Destructive Behavior and the Journey of Self-Love
- How to Stop Being Self-Destructive (6 Pathways)
- Self-Destructive Tendencies Q&A
What is Self-Destructive Behavior?
Self-destructive behavior is any action carried out by an individual that causes them direct or indirect harm. This self-inflicted harm may be experienced on a physical, mental, or emotional level and creates immense suffering throughout their life. Examples of self-destructive behavior include workaholism, substance abuse, eating disorders, self-martyrdom, self-harm, and any behavior that negatively impacts a person’s life for which they aren’t actively trying to change or don’t feel worthy of overcoming.
Why Are We Self-Destructive? (+ My Experience)
I’m not the first, and I certainly won’t be the last person to admit that I’ve had self-destructive tendencies.
From pushing away the people I love and housing self-defeating mindsets to repeatedly self-harming in my teenage years, I’ve been down this dark alley more than once.
As I’ve grown, however, I’ve realized that self-destructive behaviors are an expression of the Shadow Self (aka., our ‘dark side’), which causes issues such as low self-esteem, low self-worth, and eventually self-loathing.
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While psychologists speculate that self-sabotaging behaviors could be coping mechanisms (i.e., to deal with stress, pressure, social demands, etc.), others consider self-destructive behavior as a way of maintaining comfort zones due to lack of confidence or feelings of unworthiness (e.g., staying at the familiar bottom of the social ladder).
17 Symptoms and Habits of Self-Destructive Behavior
Self-destructive behavior comes in many guises – some extreme, some more subtle.
Here are some of the most common symptoms and habits of self-destructive behavior:
1. Self-defeating mindsets
Self-defeating mindsets are typically unconscious forms of self-destructive behavior that result in self-fulfilling prophecies. Examples include harboring thoughts, usually on a subconscious level, such as, “I’m going to fail; I just know it,” “I’ll never get out alive,” “This will completely destroy me,” etc.
2. Failing to take action
Failing to take action may be passive, but it’s still self-destructive. When we know something is bad for us but fail to take any action or steps to remedy the issue, we are essentially setting ourselves up for (and guaranteeing) failure.
3. Over-eating
Over-eating usually appears as the habit of cramming ourselves full of sugary, fatty, and processed foods. This unhealthy habit can result in many long-term health issues (not to mention the short-term negative impacts on mood, sleep, creativity, etc.).
4. Under-eating
Many under-eaters fool themselves into thinking they’re benefiting themselves. The reality is that under-eating is usually a band-aid for serious self-image problems and other psychological issues.
5. Forced incompetence or over-committal
Forced incompetence means portraying yourself as unintelligent or incapable of successfully achieving something. This habit usually stems from a lack of confidence in your abilities and can function as a coping mechanism (e.g., to deal with academic pressure).
The opposite of forced incompetence is over-committal, where we commit to too many responsibilities, become “super capable,” and turn into workaholics, even though it burns us out and begins to feel soul-sucking very quickly.
6. Going out of your way to harm others
What goes around comes around, as they say, and the negative influence you have on others, whether by words or deeds, will eventually manifest in your own life (e.g., through sicknesses, tragedy, legal issues, isolation, etc.). On some level, we all know this truth, yet sometimes we go ahead and hurt others anyway.
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7. Physical self-harm
Physical self-harm is an extreme physical expression of self-destructive behavior. This practice is connected to low self-worth and the desire to cope with emotional pain in a physical way. Examples of physical self-harm include cutting, burning, and hitting oneself (or inciting others to do this to us, such as by intentionally provoking a fight). In extreme cases, physical self-harm can manifest as suicide attempts. (Please seek help from one of these hotlines if you do feel suicidal. There is always compassionate help available.)
8. Self-pity
Self-pity is an unconscious form of self-destructive behavior. It is destructive because it encourages us to remain inactive (i.e., wallowing in our misfortunes) rather than encouraging a proactive approach toward life.
9. Drug and alcohol abuse
Many people transform their anger into self-destructiveness—drinking their lives away or becoming oblivious in drugs or working too much. They make take it out on their children, employees, or animals. They may be passive-aggressive in a number of ways— being silent, uninvolved, offering insincere love and friendship, being available for people but making them suffer for it.
– Thomas Moore
A self-evident form of self-destructive behavior, drug and alcohol abuse creates endless misery in the lives of addicts and their friends and family members. Drug and alcohol abuse are usually connected to soul loss – or being disconnected from your soul.
10. Social self-alienation
While not always done consciously, social self-alienation is the act of deliberately isolating yourself from your peers. This could be through a variety of irritating, repelling, or antisocial behaviors that, on some level, you know are self-destructive.
11. Hiding from emotions
Failing to acknowledge negative (and sometimes positive) emotions creates a host of mental, emotional, and physiological illnesses. Hiding from emotions is another form of unconsciously manifested self-destructive behavior.
12. Refusing to be helped
Pushing away advice, refusing to go to rehab, avoiding the psychologist – all of these examples are signs of not wanting to be helped which is a reflection of the deep core belief that “I’m unworthy.” Refusing to be helped is a form of self-destructive behavior because it prevents growth and healing from occurring within you.
13. Unnecessary self-sacrifice
Some people are in love with their misery because that is all they have known for a large portion of their lives. Unnecessary self-sacrifice or being a martyr are good ways of making us feel “noble” and “altruistic” while masking the actual act of self-sabotage (which is giving up on the hopes, dreams, and passions that make us truly happy).
14. Spending too much
Whether through chronic gambling or constant Amazon purchases, overspending may seem unusual to include on this list, but it is nevertheless a form of self-destructive behavior that limits one’s freedom and peace of mind.
15. Physical neglect
Getting poor sleep, refusing to exercise, eating unhealthy food, and failing to maintain the general well-being of your body are all classic signs of common self-destructive behavior. Risky sexual behavior and poor personal boundaries are also a sign of physical neglect.
16. Mental neglect
Refusing, avoiding, or failing to confront your psychological health issues (e.g., stress, anxiety, depression, paranoia, OCD, etc.) delays the healing process, resulting in the perpetuation of long-term issues.
17. Sabotaging relationships
Sabotaging your relationships is a complex symptom as it involves many destructive behaviors such as jealousy, possessiveness, emotional manipulation, neediness, violence, and so forth. When we don’t feel worthy of love, we unconsciously manifest this in our relationships through the way we choose to behave.
You’re Not Broken (You’re Just Human)
If you identify with any or most of the above signs, you might feel your stomach sink, and a dark cloud of sadness or resentment may wash over you.
You might even start thinking that you’re fundamentally “broken” or that “something is severely wrong with you.”
But please understand that it’s normal to identify with many of the above signs. There’s nothing wrong with you. You’re not broken. You’re not a lost cause. You’re simply human. And that’s totally okay.
Why is it normal to possess many of the above self-destructive behavior signs? The answer is that most people have either been negatively programmed by their family or society or have unconsciously adopted these actions as a defense mechanism to protect against mental and emotional pain.
In other words, it’s not your fault and you aren’t to blame for your self-destructive behavior. But it IS your responsibility to work through it.
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You didn’t choose to be self-destructive, did you? You didn’t think at some point, “Hmmm, I think I’m going to be self-destructive now,” did you? It’s just what happened.
The goal here isn’t to feel terrible about yourself. Instead, the goal is to see that “it is what it is” and find ways to reverse, undo, and overcome your self-destructive tendencies.
Self-Destructive Behavior and the Journey of Self-Love
The very fact that you’re here right now reading this guide is already a sign that you’re awakening out of the dream of self-destruction.
In other words, you’re starting to become more self-aware, and self-awareness is a sign that you’re spiritually awakening or at least you’re making self-care more of a priority in your life.
If you’ve been on a shadow work journey of working through your inner darkness, you may have come across some self-destructive behavior pattern within yourself, which is why you may find yourself here.
Going through the dark night of the soul is also another reason why you might find yourself exploring your self-destructive tendencies as you seek to find more meaning and deeper fulfillment in life.
Whatever the case, it’s helpful to understand that self-destruction is the opposite of self-love. And in many cases, our tendencies towards self-destructive behavior are totally unconscious and on autopilot because we were never taught how to love and value ourselves.
In the words of writer and speaker Alan Watts,
When you won’t love, or won’t let it out, it emerges anyway in the form of self-destruction. The alternative to self-love, in other words, is self-destruction. Because you won’t take the risk of loving yourself properly, you will be compelled instead to destroy yourself.
As such, we can see that learning how to love yourself is the antidote to self-destructive behavior.
How to Stop Being Self-Destructive (6 Pathways)
While I can’t give you a magical cure, I can give you some ideas, inspiration, and a few tried-and-tested paths to follow. Try all of these practices systematically or select a few and work with them consistently.
On average, it takes around 66 days to establish a new habit, according to what researchers have found. So make it your goal to stick with at least one of these activities for two months.
Here are the practices:
1. Grow your self-awareness by keeping a journal every day
Journaling has numerous mental health benefits, and it’s a powerful way of increasing your self-awareness. In fact, we could say that self-awareness is the most crucial ingredient in overcoming self-destructive tendencies! Read more about how to journal and the practice of self-awareness for more guidance.
2. Free yourself of compulsive, self-destructive behavior through meditation or mindfulness
There’s a reason why you keep hearing about these two practices, and it’s because they work! Even if you struggle to meditate traditionally, there are endless forms of mindfulness meditation out there that might spark your interest.
Examples of meditation/mindfulness activities include breathwork, walking meditation, mindful art therapy, chanting mantras, guided journeys, chakra visualization, etc.
If you don’t know where to start, I recommend downloading a meditation app such as InsightTimer, Calm, or Headspace. I started off with these apps, and they helped me tremendously. Bringing these key spiritual practices into your life can have profound benefits.
Try starting with 5-10 minutes in the morning or evening every day at the same time (to create a habit out of it).
Meditation and mindfulness are so effective because they help you to come back home to the present moment and create more inner space, which frees you from the compulsiveness and autopilot of self-destructive behavior.
3. Release your pent-up emotions by doing some emotional catharsis
Sometimes, the reason why we’re self-destructing is that a deeper emotion (such as anger, grief, or fear) isn’t being expressed.
Just think of a kettle: the more it boils, the more steam is released. But if that kettle had no way to release that steam, it would eventually explode! The same thing applies to you: you need a pressure valve, a way to channel your pent-up emotions.
When you don’t channel those buried emotions in a healthy way, they can come out in self-destructive behaviors.
So find something you enjoy doing that requires intense mental or physical effort. Examples include boxing, running, singing, dancing, creating art, or plain old screaming and crying (doing this privately is a good idea if you’re living with people!). One unconventional form of catharsis is called dynamic meditation.
4. Learn self-care and self-love through some simple habits
Self-love is a basic attitude of kindness toward yourself: it is the practice of taking care of your mental and emotional needs.
Self-care, on the other hand, is generally more oriented toward your body: it involves eating properly, getting enough sleep, drinking adequate water, wearing comfortable clothing, staying healthy, etc.
Both self-love and self-care go beautifully hand-in-hand as allies against self-destruction.
I understand that self-love may feel like a bit of a stretch for you, so if you want a place to start, begin with self-care.
Begin with even just one self-care practice each day and make it into a habit by doing it at the same time and same place.
For example, you could decide to take a morning walk at 7:30 am each day to help your body feel energized and relaxed. Or you could drink a cup of chamomile tea at the end of your day as a winding down self-care ritual.
You can find more ideas in my self-care ideas article. And if you’d like to practice self-love, I recommend my how to love yourself post, as well as our guided self-love journal.
5. Explore your core beliefs which are at the root of self-destructive behavior
Core beliefs are at the very root of self-destructive behavior because that which we think we often become. Whatever internal dialogue that runs around in our mind is often what dictates our behavior. After all, isn’t it true that we often act on what we believe to be true?
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$3For example, if you carry the core belief that “no one will ever love me,” you will unconsciously and perhaps sometimes intentionally behave in ways that alienate other people so that they don’t hurt you, therefore reinforcing your belief that “no one will ever love me” because you don’t give others the chance to even try!
Core beliefs can be tricky because they’re usually unconscious and automatic, and yet, once we shine the light of our awareness onto them, we can see through them, change them, and find more freedom and peace.
Examples of core beliefs that can result in self-destructive behavior include:
- I am bad
- I am unlovable
- I am unworthy
- I always hurt people
- I am stupid
- I am weak
- I don’t deserve happiness
Core beliefs often start with the words “I am …” and they can be discovered through reflection, inquiry, and journaling. You can find out how to pinpoint yours in my core beliefs guide.
6. Sometimes, there’s a limit to what you can do, and you’ll need to find a coach, counselor, or therapist
If you have strong self-loathing or intense self-destructive tendencies, you might not even have the impulse to take on board any of the advice in this article (*ding ding!* that’s another form of self-destruction, but it’s okay, you’re only doing what you’ve been unconsciously programmed to do).
As such, my best advice is to find a coach, counselor, or therapist ASAP. Sometimes the best thing is to see our true worth in the mirror of another. Sometimes we need someone to hold our hands and actively guide us in a 1-to-1 way.
If this is the case, your search engine is your best friend. Look up the keywords “self-destructive behavior counselor near me,” and you’re bound to find someone who can help. If you’re fine with online sessions via places like Zoom, just use a keyword like “help for self-destructive behavior therapy” or look up “therapy near me.”
There’s only so much an article on the internet can do to help you. While you’ve taken a wonderful step towards health and healing, seeking out guidance in the form of a therapist or counselor will aid you with ongoing support and tools. These, in turn, will transform your life little by little. And soon, you’ll be able to look back on this behavior with a gentle smile and a sigh of relief, proud of your ability to overcome and heal.
Self-Destructive Tendencies Q&A
There are many reasons why someone might be self-destructive. On an emotional and psychological level, self-destructive tendencies may arise from childhood trauma, negative social conditioning, and low self-esteem that are due to having unsupportive or abusive parents, family members, or peers. On a spiritual level, self-destructive tendencies are due to soul loss or the disconnection from your true and authentic essence.
Examples of self-destructive behaviors include excessive self-sacrifice, over-eating or under-eating, sabotaging close relationships, smoking or drinking too much, drug abuse, and self-harm.
The first step to overcoming self-destructive tendencies is to simply be self-aware of what’s happening. Journaling about your discoveries is a powerful place to begin. The next step is to practice self-care and self-love. Learning how to take care of your body and nurturing yourself on a mental and emotional level are crucial steps to overcoming self-destructive behavior.
Self-destructive thoughts are a product of low self-esteem and a part of us known as the inner critic. It’s crucial to remember that this is just one part of you, not the whole of you. You’re so much bigger than the self-destructive thoughts that randomly pop into your mind. Remember that we all get self-destructive thoughts from time to time (and you don’t need to believe them in the first place!), but you might just be more sensitive to believe them due to past trauma.
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Self-destructive behaviors can be both conscious and unconscious – and they can end up sabotaging our health, happiness, and long-term well-being. But please remember that these harmful tendencies are a symptom of a deeper wound that needs to be shown compassion.
It’s important to remember that you’re not alone. Like me, you can probably identify with a couple or more symptoms of self-destructive behavior on this list. But when you take the first step on your healing journey of developing more self-awareness, self-care, self-forgiveness, and self-love, you will eventually be free of your self-destructive tendencies.
Don’t forget that if you need more help from now on with your self-destructive tendencies, our Self-Love Journal can help you with just that.
What are your experiences with self-destructive behavior? How did you learn to overcome them? I’d love to hear your stories below! Let’s help others not feel so alone.
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This was great thank you. I can be very self destructive whilst helping others and trying to be nice to a punishing degree. Somehow as result I am now around someone who is like the complete inverse of the same self destruction. I hope to improve my life and fill it with love someday
Wishing you all the best things in life, Lala 💜
Just some phrases/terms I recommend to google if you want to look up information on this stuff. 1. Myths about addiction / Misconceptions of addiction 2. TED talks about addiction 3. Books on addiction 4. Books on (Any specific addiction you choose. Smoking, sugar, internet/phone, alcohol, drugs, gambling, etc. anything.) 5. Documentaries on addiction 6. Neuroscience of addiction / Addiction and the brain 7. James Clear blog (Offers free articles on the psychology of discipline, beyond just simplistic advice like being told “try harder,” or “work harder.”) 8. Books on habits 9. Books on behavioral science 10. Books on neuroscience of addiction 11. Philosophy of addiction 12. Addiction workbooks 13. Addiction for women 14. Addiction statistics 15. Causes of addiction 16. Addiction journal prompts 17. Quotes on addiction / Quotes on trauma 18. Stigma of addiction 19. Shame cycle of addiction 20. How to help someone with an addiction 21. Addiction podcasts 22. Addiction YouTube channels 23. Addiction recovery blogs 24. Success stories of addiction 25. Personal stories of addiction 26. Shaming addiction does not work 27. Addiction statistics 28. Addiction worksheets 29. Apps for addiction 30. Websites for addiction.
Thanks for these recommendations, AnonymousPerson! 🙂
I see some of the signs in myself most totally not, but someone thinks and is saying to me that I’m selfdestructive. So I don’t get it why the person send me this while I recognize a lot from this in the person who send me this. Just wondering
Hi Lady,
If you see signs of self-destructiveness in the person who sent this article to you, they might also have the same tendencies – it’s what we call projection.
Man, I have all 17 signs! I feel like killing myself after reading this, LOL. Haven’t wanted to live the last 25 years or so anyway. Living and loving day to day.
Yeah, please don’t do that (the killing yourself part). I think the “living and loving day to day” is a good philosophy to have to just take life one step at a time.
Narcissists have the tendency to be self-destructive. It’s a malignant self-love and they eventually collapse because they are an empty void that can only be temporarily filled with supply. They refuse help, but they will accept money, sex, anything that seems lucrative and reaffirms their significance. Otherwise you’re dealing with a no-self that will implode. They attempt suicide for different reasons than someone with mental illness or stress from abuse. They always play the victim by seeming like these nice, unfairly treated, masochists who need rescue. But they don’t and are anything but victims. You can waste your entire life and resources “helping” one of these energy leeches who can’t and won’t ever love or care about another no matter how much you feel sorry for these early childhood wounded children. Ignore them. Focus on your own life and goals. That doesn’t make you selfish or greedy, it means you have value that shouldn’t go towards a black hole.
I know you didn’t necessarily mean this, but you seem to indirectly imply that everyone who is self-destructive is a narcissist, and also that all narcissists are self-destructive. There might be a correlation, perhaps, but it cannot be a strict generalization. There is no evidence of that. Also, your evidence is purely anecdotal. It sounds like all you had was just one experience, and based on that one experience, you’re generalizing on hundreds, thousands, and millions of people in the world with similar situations. I’m not saying there is never a time to walk away, but neither can I generalize that no self-destructive types are willing to put in the work to seek help either. It’s a nuanced issue, with no one size fits answer to everything. It depends by the context of the situation, so it really points to the mere anecdotal nature of your evidence, where 1 person in the world is supposed to generalize millions of people’s lives all at once. That’s often a mistake when people make sense of human nature. You generalized based on meeting a few people in life, and that’s supposed to describe all 8 billion of humanity, hahaha. There’s a reason people don’t take anecdotal experiences in psychology or science as seriously, you know. Not to invalidate your suffering. I do believe you were correct to walk away in your situation, but this is just for your situation, not everyone else. Maybe they need the same solution, maybe not. But we don’t know for sure, because we don’t know all those people involved and what they’re really like, except by judging them from afar.
Hello everyone! My name is Kevin. I have come to Community to learn about the things that I hide from others and even myself sometimes. I have so little knowledge about this movement
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It’s so amazing how God will lead you if you are open minded about who he is and who you are in Jesus. I am on a new journey at the age of sixty to get to know God and myself on the level in which includes my Father God daily. Well I was setting here alone like always listening to a motivational ytube video. I usually just listen and go on with my day,but to God lead me to get a pincil and paper and to start writing down what I was learning from the video. As I listen I start getting many thoughts on creating a daily vision board that I can look to each day to help me improve my life walk with God and self improvement. Well with in my listening and writing my list included holding myself accountable show value for all that God has done in my life when I don’t understand I always believe that God has my blessed interest in mind there are many more in between but the one that got me on this journey that’s what I got to speaking from the heart so when correction is needed God will give positive correction I came to be so angry daily about everything good and bad to encourage each other lifting up myself finally it was take care of yourself exercise eat daily healthy drink water every meal stop being SELF-DESTRUCTIVE!!!. Right there is where I stopped to look up the word destructive to make sure that I was spelling it correctly and then I come across this site about the habits of self destructive. It went on to give an example of what who and how a person is self-destructive it even gave me more detail as I kept reading as I kept reading I began to see myself things I never thought was about me but it explained a lot as to why things in my life all the way they are I always knew that there was something going on not right my whole life but never would have thought any of these things that this article explain I’ve had many things to happen to me in my childhood life those who were supposed to protect me they didn’t or they was the one who conflicted the problem the trouble the pain ( I what’s molested or sexually fondled by two of my older brothers and a man that I know as my father touching me in a way that he shouldn’t have I’ve been raped again after that all this happened between the ages of seven and 15. So for years I went through my life feeling of love out of place unwanted distant procrastinated I’ve always been gifted and working with children I always had a strong passion caring for them in love for them whether they were mines or not I guess it was my way of protecting them from what I have been through because no one protected me I said that it’s just funny how God is so real he’s been there for me this whole time and I never knew spiritually how to see him and feel him in the midst of my life like I do right now I’m so grateful for Father God that you are part of my life I need my father in heavens help more now than anything I feel myself physically standing alone through all that I go through even though I know that my father in heaven is with me spiritually and will never forsake me yet I am physically alone I am not unhappy I cannot say that I’m just alone and a lot of that has to do with me having the ability to trust people father God gave me a discernment that makes me feel when people lying to me when someone’s going to do something to hurt me when my life is in danger in some way of urgency he always makes a way for me to remove me from the situation and I thank God for blessing me with the ability to know the difference A spiritual Awakening course will be a great access to my life and helping me to heal over all
physically mentally and emotionally. Over the years I have developed some health issues where the doctors couldn’t really find exactly what was going on with me but I did have all the physical things happening to me it was able to see that but they couldn’t figure out why so they start doing all kind of things to me they didn’t really help so they end up just giving me disability social security retired me at 58 have arthritis in my knees my back allergies that triggers asthma bronchitis mucus that is overactive in my body some constantly coughing this up out of me but I’ve noticed lately since I’ve been reading my Bible scripture my glorious Father has placement of position where I’m able to live in my own place alone this way I’m able to be comfortable by myself with my Father in heaven to speak with him anytime I feel I will continue to research my situation so that I have a better understanding on how to get past it I’m ready to do great things in my life that has been prolonged for too long and thank God each and every day on my life my health and strength and for this article allow me to come across it in the way that I have is in Jesus name I pray as for continuous understanding of this life journey amen
I’m hard on my self to with an array of harsh judgement at times after a TBI but the ” you’re not broken you’re just human!” is absolutely rightitous!
The world is fkd. I want to die, but if I could beat this gambling habit, maybe it wouldn’t be so bad .. (?)
23 years ago today, I was basically orphaned. Saw my mother dead in her bed, I was 12. Was passed around the family, then guardians, then foster. Everyone gave up on me. New place every 6 months. So now, I give up on my self, can’t hold a job, even got kicked out of the military. Now I have a family, that im destroying..
Read the book, “Extreme Ownership.”” Then Lead and Win.
I send strength to you that you learn to love yourself. Facing our shadows feels all kinds of scary, it really does, but I promise you, it is the most freeing thing you can do for yourself and all those who love and care for. You don’t have to do this alone, I had a amazing counselor who worked with me through as many as I would allow, my childhood, I couldn’t go there at w him. That came a bit later on my own but I already set in motion of my healing and the universe responded. It really does hear what we want what we express, negative and positive. Much love to you.
For forgive yourself my messed up Brother
Hi Aaron, I know this comment is very late, but if you happen to read this, I hope by now you’ve found some stable footing and are perhaps seeking guidance from someone who can hold space for you and your pain, as you rightfully deserve (like a counselor). Other people’s behavior was never about you, but about *them*.