We all interact with the world in ways that are as unique as ourselves.
There are thinkers and feelers, introverted and extroverted people, highly sensitive and intuitive people, as well as endless other ways of processing the world around us.
It’s no surprise then to discover that we each give, receive, and understand love in different ways.
Although there are as many love “dialects” as there are people, there are six main love styles that we use to communicate: Physical, Practical, Presents, Kind Words, Activity, and Kinship.
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We each have an “emotional love tank” that constantly needs replenishing. When our emotional tank is empty, we feel unloved, unappreciated, and our relationships wither.
Most problems in our relationships with other people come from speaking in different love styles, whether that be with your partner, friend, or even child.
For example, your husband/wife might complain to you that you “don’t spend enough time with him/her” when you communicate your love through physical affection.
In this free love styles quiz, you’ll find out what your primary love style is. Discovering your love style will help you to communicate with others how you prefer to receive love.
This test can also help you to understand your loved ones better and enhance a deeper sense of interbeing and spiritual connectedness with them.
So feel free to also encourage your loved ones to take this love styles quiz so that the two of you can find out how to speak their love style as well.
What did you get?
Share your results in the comments!
I took this quiz for fun only but my results were very accurate: PRACTICAL Love Style. And although I’ve chosen to remain single and celibate for the past 5 years – in order to manage and protect my own energy – this is definitely the way my relationships with friends and family thrive best.
Present times are challenging in this illusionary “physical” world and we need to be there for each other in every way possible. There is far too much unnecessary and preventable suffering and division/polarization in this world. We each have the power to change that each day in the seemingly smallest of ways. Strangers are not exempt. I am You and You are me.
Thank you Stacey, I agree with the need to find ways of alleviating suffering in times where our technological progress is surpassing our psychological ability to integrate it in healthy ways.
Hello, Mateo! Thanks for yet another surprise reply.
I don’t believe technological progress has surpassed our psychological abilities to integrate it in healthy ways. I believe it has been designed to further suppress our forgotten abilities and manipulate perceptions.
For so long humans have experienced conditioning limited to 5 sense reality and psychological dependencies on technology tends to pull one’s consciousness deeper into a state of lower vibrational dimensions.
We need to remember that we are more than these bodies, more than these minds, even more than these souls. We need to remember that we are Infinite Loving Awareness.
We need to remember that we are having a multiple dimensional experience and that what we call the physical world is 1% of the bigger picture…and that true power and all that is happening is in the 99%. The unseen.
We need to remember to embrace our days with a child-like spirit, and to start and end each day with envisioning our energies absorbed and protected by Love…and allow ourselves to expand that envisioning to include our loved ones, our neighbourhoods, planet Earth, this solar system, all galaxies and universes, and ALL – the one true Source.
We need to remember to express the desire for the end of ALL suffering and the Awakening of ALL Beings.
We need to remember to bring dance and play and laughter into each day.
We need to remember that each interaction, including this one with you right now, is an energy exchange. These words exist in the 1% and in 2D but the energy and power manifesting them is from the 99% unseen and carrying the higher vibrational intent born from 5D and beyond.
We need to remember the energies within the Earth and bring our bare feet to her as often as we can. Half the year I live in snow and I bring my bare feet to that as well, just to maintain that connection.
And when we remember that each interaction is an energy exchange we can begin to bring balance.
WE NEED TO REMEMBER.
I got Kinship Love Style… and yes, i feel satisfaction in connections where there is a sense of mutual understanding and compatibility.
Awesome, I also got Kinship so it’s good to see many others who share this style :)
I got activity. And yes. If I can’t spend time with you there is no way I can touch you or be touched.
Thanks Natalie, if you mean physical touch or affection that could be a secondary love style for you. :)
I got activity. Not sure if it was right or not because most of the time I was like, “I don’t knoooowwww.” It could be this one…or that one…that one? I don’t have much experience with romantic love. Mama and I are very close though so I thought about us. I had a relationship with someone. She had to move far away, back to her family. So we ended it but we are still close. Anyway, I think Activity is right. Mostly, because it was hard for me to not be lonely when she worked all the time. We still love each other but I just couldn’t handle being so far away. I know a lot of people can do that but I guess I’m shallow. I dunno. Namaste, my friends.
Thanks Tabitha; sometimes we can have a couple of love styles that are equally as primary which can make testing them harder, but it sounds like Activity might be it.
I got “kinship”.
That’s pretty cool, it’s one of the newer styles we added as we felt other systems lacked that type of expression of love through kindred experiences and actions which was better articulated by the Greeks in their different types of love.
My Primary love language is physical I’m a hugger and sweet if I really like and appreciate all qualities relationships in my life but I like kind understanding sweet hugger people like myself idk I guess I’m just weird
Sometimes the love style we live receiving and the love style we like giving is the same, it’s not weird at all. :)
uugh loved the quiz but my love language is 100% words of affection and acts of service not just quality time or activities :) I also replied almost 100% that I want to feel understood so that does not match up <3
Thanks Amy for the feedback. Although there’s an overlap with the Love Languages system, we purposefully have designed the test around a broader ‘style’ as we found the language to be too limited (and we added a few more.) An example is as you express ‘feeling understood’ can be expressed in a variety of styles from someone buying you the right gift cause they understand what you like, to spending quality time cause they value you and share similar interests. :)
Thanks!
So, i heard and read about love languages but since I had a very loveless childhood/life so far, didn’t really know what to think of it. Still not sure if I even know what love is or how it suppose to feel. So i did the test. Some questions where really hard to answer, and some of them, like other people comment, didn’t have the right answer. Like spending time alone after a hard day.
Anyhow, it appears my love language is physical touch.
I am still struggling in the self love and self acceptance thing. (Want to buy the self love journal soon)
How can this new knowledge help me to learn to love myself better?? Is there any guidance??
Although I love a good cup of tea, nice dark chocolate and a walk along the beach. (Preferably all 3 together :D) its not quite the same thing as physical touch.
How can I help myself with this info??
Your story resonates with me. Not sure what your age is but, I am 64 so have some experience. I have been single most of my life so I must self love. It is not always easy but, make sure you are doing what you can. My suggestion would be to google it and see what comes up that looks appealing to you. One of my favorite physical touch/feeling self love rituals is a bubble bath with flower petals, crystals, nice soft music, candles and a cup of tea, wine, water…Your own personal spa in other words. I have done this for over 45 years. I suffer with severe depression and have since in my 20’s. That is about the time I started my bath ritual. I don’t always get to do it when I probably should but, I do my best as life allows. As you bathe and soak make sure you pay attention to your body and how it is feeling. And don’t be afraid to use a scrubby or some other way to make sure your skin (heart) feel and experience being loved and nurtured. PS I try to put some form of intention while pulling petals from the flowers. Be sure to take them out of the tub before you drain it. This is also a great time for light meditation or introspection if you can relax and do this.
I really do hope this gave you some ideas and encouragement. Enjoy
This test just blew my mind off the charts. A close friend kept telling me this and I don’t want to believe now I do for sure.!!