Discover what your dream relationship looks like – according to the wisdom of your subconscious mind.
This game was inspired by two Japanese psychologists Tadahiko Nagao and Isamu Saito, and their creation of “Kokology,” or the study of the mind (kokoro) in Japanese.
Kokology is based on the science of psychology and is aimed at discovering the hidden attitudes we have about ourselves, other people, and the world through a series of unique games.
Take the test below (just four questions to answer!)
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I do like the article, but I don’t think this quiz is quite so accurate.
As for passionate love, I personally do not recommend it. If not careful, it can become obsessive; painful and extremely painful.
Once you’ve sacrificed too much, it can be impossible to reclaim the pieces of yourself that you lost in the wildfire of desire.
I think passion is more tolerable if paired with stability. Once controlled and harnessed correctly, passion can become a good thing.
Passion
Your answer reveals that on a subconscious (and perhaps conscious) level, your ideal relationship is full of passion, excitement, and intensity.
Deep down, love isn’t true love to you if it doesn’t burn like fire. You enjoy the intense emotions (and even danger) involved in romance. You tend to believe that whatever sacrifices you must make will be worth it in the end.
I definitely am aware of this on a conscious level. However, I’ve chosen to be single for the last few years. I learned that intense fires may definitely be dangerous, as they tend to turn everything around to ash. Also, the sacrifice of the very oxygen from your own lungs, means suffocation of self & is an expensive price in the end.
Self-introspection to work on a healthier & more balanced sense of individuality, led me to discove the subconscious seeking of these attributes for relationships. Though the next time I’ll consciously still seek the fire. Instead, I prefer, that fire will be type that burns long thru the winter’s night & in the light of morning, a stoking of embers warms away each chilly following day of the season.
Deep friendship
Your answer reveals that at a subconscious (and perhaps conscious) level, your ideal relationship is one that is defined by friendship as well as romance.
For you, the line between friends and lovers is blurred.and you see no reason why your ideal partner should be one or the other. The perfect relationship to you is one where you can share your deepest secrets, laugh together, have the same interests, and be completely authentic together.
Passion
Your answer reveals that on a subconscious (and perhaps conscious) level, your ideal relationship is full of passion, excitement, and intensity.
Deep down, love isn’t true love to you if it doesn’t burn like fire. You enjoy the intense emotions (and even danger) involved in romance. You tend to believe that whatever sacrifices you must make will be worth it in the end.
When working on or seeking out a romantic relationship, keep these qualities in mind.
Kokoro means heart, not mind, which is not fitting anyway.
Well we all do have a Heart Mind
As you said Kokoro means heart, but reading the ideogram as shin expand the meaning of it to: mind, spirit, essence, and many others. In fact in japanese the physical heart in medical context is called shinzo
Storybook Romance
Your answer reveals that on a subconscious (and perhaps conscious) level, your ideal relationship is like a fairytale, picture-perfect romance.
Everything about your relationship must be just right and align properly – from the place you met, to the first kiss, the wedding, and the house with the white picket fence. To you, real love is a once-in-a-lifetime experience and you see no need to settle for second best.
When working on or seeking out a romantic relationship, keep these qualities in mind. If you have a partner, it might be a good idea to get them to take this test as well. (Simply click on one of the share buttons below to send it to them.) It’s okay if you both have different answers – you can always find a middle ground!
So what if I’m not looking for romance and still have these beliefs? Does it mean that I simply love being alive? I don’t look down on relationships; I think they are beautiful, but not meant for me; I’m too busy for one. I’m perfectly happy helping my community, friends, sibling, and dog, feeling that aspect is fulfilling.
Thanks for writing this!
Thanks Ailidh, this test aims at exploring the subconscious so there’s many ways of interpreting it. One way could be that you’re aware the ‘storybook romance’ is a difficult ideal relationship to find, so you’ve subconsciously made the decision not to pursue it as it may be out of reach according to that ideal. Ultimately, you’re the only one that can accurately interpret it :).
“Your answer reveals that on a subconscious (and perhaps conscious) level, your ideal relationship is full of passion, excitement, and intensity.
Deep down, love isn’t true love to you if it doesn’t burn like fire. You enjoy the intense emotions (and even danger) involved in romance. You tend to believe that whatever sacrifices you must make will be worth it in the end.”
I’ve always known that I don’t want a lukewarm relationship, but how can I ensure that the passion doesn’t overpower the other important parts of a relationship?
I got – “your ideal relationship is faithful, committed, and devoted.” which is so not true
I don’t care for monogamy, there are more important things for me than emotional and sexual exclusivity
I care more for other things, things that i hadn’t received when growing up, like acceptance, support, freedom of expression, understanding, able to work thru problems in a mature way without yelling and cursing
spot on! i love loner wolf and, especially, the tests. they always inspire inner work and offer, in the results, insights to ponder. thank you and bravo! g.
Deep friendship. I am single at the moment and have been for a few years. My last relationship was deeply painful and the culmination of unfinished business in my life. That relationship together with a painful family dynamic brought me to the dark night of the soul which I am still wrestling with. For now I need to be alone to work out me..but I know when I am ready the type of relationship I would enjoy will appear or not as the case may be. For now I need to heal and recover. ..and I’m OK with that. Thank you very much for your work…you lead us on…to a better horizon
I’m so happy to hear that, I also think it’s the wisest choice. Thank you Lorraine for sharing.
My answers revealed :Deep Friendship. Which is what I have! Despite living below the veil of consciousness regarding the dynamics of my family of origin and recently awakening to painful truths I had been denying, I must have done something very right! Thank you for providing this delightful test to remind me. I am very thankful for the work you both do. It is hugely insightful and unique.
Thank you Louise, I’m so happy you’ve found that deep friendship! :)
I love you guys.Both of you are blessed by GOD with the ability t6o help heal others in need.I respect and trust you both. Thank you Ted.
Thank you Ted for those kind words.
Storybook Romance
Your answer reveals that on a subconscious (and perhaps conscious) level, your ideal relationship is like a fairytale, picture-perfect romance.
Everything about your relationship must be just right and align properly – from the place you met, to the first kiss, the wedding, and the house with the white picket fence. To you, real love is a once-in-a-lifetime experience and you see no need to settle for second best.
When working on or seeking out a romantic relationship, keep these qualities in mind. If you have a partner, it might be a good idea to get them to take this test as well. (Simply click on one of the share buttons below to send it to them.) It’s okay if you both have different answers – you can always find a middle ground!
Faithful Devotion
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Your answer reveals that on a subconscious (and perhaps conscious) level, your ideal relationship is faithful, committed, and devoted.
While these qualities may seem old fashion to some, true love to you is stable and reliable. Your ideal relationship may not set your world ablaze, but it will never cause you sleepless nights, either. While other people’s relationships may spontaneously combust or cloud over, you’ll still be enjoying those nights of unperturbed sleep – together.
When working on or seeking out a romantic relationship, keep these qualities in mind. If you have a partner, it might be a good idea to get them to take this test as well. (Simply click on one of the share buttons below to send it to them.) It’s okay if you both have different answers – you can always find a middle ground!
Thank you for sharing :)