How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
– Satchel Paige
There is a special kind of person in our world who finds herself alone and isolated, almost since birth.
Her solitary existence isn’t from a preference or an antisocial temperament – she is simply old. Old in heart, old in mind, and old in soul, this person is an old soul who finds her outlook on life vastly different and more ripened than those around her.
As a result, the old soul lives her life internally, walking her own solitary path while the rest around her flock to follow another.
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Perhaps you’ve experienced this in your own life, or have witnessed it in another person? If so, this article is dedicated to you, in hopes that you will come to define yourself or understand another better.
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What is an Old Soul?
Quite simply, an Old Soul is a person who feels much older than their age reflects. This feeling is often accompanied by the gift of empathy, high intelligence, intuition, and keen insight into the human condition.
Old Souls are often outsiders looking in, they feel as though they don’t “belong” in this world, or this period of time. As a result, most Old Souls long for a sense of true meaning, purpose and inner fulfillment that money, power, and success can’t achieve. This longing is often described as the thirst to “return back home.”
There are two major types of Old Souls: those that are born with the sensation of being “different,” and those who “grow into” becoming Old Souls through the process of spiritual awakening. We’ll explore Old Souls and spiritual awakening more a little later.
17 Signs You’re An Old Soul
Robert Frost, Eckhart Tolle, Jim Carrey, Oprah Winfrey, and even Nick Jonas have been called Old Souls. Perhaps even you have?
If you have not yet discovered whether you’re an Old Soul, read some of the revealing signs below:
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1# You tend to be a lone wolf
Because Old Souls are disinterested in the pursuits and interests of the people in their age groups, they find it dissatisfying to make friends with people they find hard to relate to. This sense of alienation is one of the major problems Old Souls experience. The result is that Old Souls tend to find themselves alone a lot of the time. They struggle to connect deeply with others because most other people don’t have the same interests or values as them.
2# You love knowledge, wisdom, and truth
This might seem a little highbrow, but the Old Soul finds herself naturally gravitating towards the intellectual side of life. Old Souls inherently understand that knowledge is power, wisdom is happiness, and truth is freedom, so why not seek after those things? These pursuits are more meaningful to them than reading up on the latest gossip about the Kardashians or the latest football scores.
3# You’re spiritually inclined
Old Souls tend to have sensitive and spiritual natures. Experiencing a spiritual awakening, overcoming the confines of the ego, seeking spiritual enlightenment and self-realization, and fostering love and peace are often at the core of the Old Soul’s ultimate quest in life.
4# You understand the transience of life
Old Souls are frequently plagued with reminders of their own mortality and that of everything and everyone around them. In fact, it’s not uncommon for the old soul to have multiple existential crises throughout life, especially during difficult situations that highlight the impermanence of existence. Being very perceptive and sensitive toward the reality of death, old souls choose to live their lives differently. Every decision counts.
5# You’re thoughtful and introspective
Old Souls tend to think a lot … about everything. It’s crucial for an old soul to get enough space and time to reflect, introspect, and develop more self-awareness. This natural tendency toward rumination helps them to quickly learn from their actions and understand the people and environments around them. Many Old Souls practice a natural form of shadow work in which they are constantly reflecting on how they could do better, prevent their issues from getting bigger, and create more inner harmony.
6# You see the bigger picture
Old Souls dislike getting lost in the superficial details of gaining useless degrees, job promotions, social prestige, and better iPhones. Instead, Old Souls prefer to look at life from a birds-eye perspective, striving to find the wisest and most meaningful way of living and using their time. After all, life can end at any moment, so why waste time on trivial details?
7# You aren’t materialistic
Wealth, status, fame, and the latest tech gadget … Old Souls take little interest in these things. After all, what’s the point of seeking these socially paraded goals if they can easily be taken away? What’s the point if the fulfillment isn’t long-lasting or soul-enriching?
8# You were a strange, socially maladaptive kid
This is not always the case, but many Old Souls exhibit odd signs of maturity at young ages. Often, these children are labeled as being “precocious,” “introverted,” or “rebellious,” failing to fit into the mainstream behaviors. Usually, these children are extremely inquisitive and intelligent, seeing the purposelessness of many things their teachers, parents, and peers say and do, and either passively or aggressively resist them. If you can talk to your child like s/he’s an adult – you’ve probably got an Old Soul on your hands.
9# You’ve undergone an existential crisis
It’s common for Old Souls to ask deep and penetrating questions about life in their search for love, truth, and freedom. This quest to live a meaningful existence inevitably means that they will, sooner or later, experience an existential crisis. An existential crisis is what happens when a person starts to see through the lies and delusions within society. They may wonder what life is really about, whether they have a true purpose, and start to think about the human condition more. Is life just a product of chance? What’s the point of everything I’ve done? What is all this about, anyway? These are the types of questions Old Souls ask during the existential crisis.
10# You see life through a poetic/contemplative lens
Old Souls take time to enjoy life – they see things that others don’t see. Take nature for example: an Old Soul will enjoy the way the wind dances through the trees – while someone else may just walk straight by, disinterested or blind to the simple beauty before them. Old Souls also take time to contemplate life. The smile and laughter of a child is something to stop and savor. The striking beauty of a piece of art is something to ponder. The words of a great writer are something to meditate on (see Lectio Divina). There is so much in life to stop, appreciate, and reflect on.
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11# You tend to overthink everything
While Old Souls are contemplative types of people, this can also prove to be a painful and challenging quality. For instance, most Old Souls struggle with the curse of overthinking practically everything. Choosing from a menu at a cafe, for example, can be a strangely painstaking experience. (There are so many options! Which is the right one? What would taste the best? What is the most ethical? What is the best value for money? What is right for this time of the day? etc.) Social situations are no better, which leads to the next point …
12# You struggle with anxiety in social situations
Put the tendency to overthink everything alongside conscientiousness and strong empathy, and you have a recipe for social anxiety. Throw in a little bit of eccentricity (i.e., not sharing the same interests as most people) and we have an unavoidable tendency towards lingering social discomfort. Although many Old Souls are confident, calm, and self-possessed people, social situations are complex and tiring. There are so many elements to consider (fragile egos, etiquette, boundaries, reciprocity, unspoken but obvious insecurities, etc.) that they often prefer just being left by themselves. With that being said, when Old Souls do find someone they connect with or find interesting, they tend to form strong and intense connections quite quickly. It’s one of the greatest joys of life to find fellow kindred spirits.
13# You easily fall into the role of advisor or counselor
People flock to Old Souls for advice like a moth drawn to a flame. Attracted to their level-headedness and wisdom, it’s common for family members, friends, and workplaces to naturally position the Old Soul as advice-giver. While most Old Souls don’t mind this, it’s common for them to feel inundated and overwhelmed by the magnitude of other’s problems. Even so, Old Souls enjoy helping others. It’s more of a pleasure (than a burden) to give guidance to those in need.
14# You enjoy the company of those much older than you
Old Souls tend to make friends with older folks way more often than younger people (including those of the same age). There is something so down-to-earth, engaging, and layered about those who have been around much longer than the rest. Besides, it’s comforting being around those whose external energy matches the Old Soul’s internal energy. There’s something compatible there. No need to go running around like a headless chicken to parties, concerts, and what have you. Instead, Old Souls can enjoy sitting around a fire or lounging on the patio chairs, having a good old-fashion talk and exchanging stories.
15# You crave simplicity
In some areas of life, Old Souls respect and even like complexity. But overall, what most Old Souls crave deep down is simplicity. There is a certain purity, beauty, and Zen-like appeal in the simple life. Some Old Souls may find themselves drawn toward minimalism, while others may take a minimalistic attitude toward everyday responsibilities and other pursuits. The Old Soul’s thirst for simplicity is very much connected to their love of heart, soul, and essence. Whatever is true and worthy can easily be found in simplicity.
16# You’re attracted to all things vintage
While this might not be the case for all Old Souls, many find themselves drawn toward old music, old furniture, old architecture, old books, old clothing – really, anything old. Some Old Souls feel more at home in bygone eras (18th-century horse and carriage, 1920’s jazz, etc.), while others have an appreciation for even older cultures (e.g., shamanic and tribal periods).
17# You just “feel” old inside
Throw away the ‘Old Soul’ label for a moment and focus on how you feel inside. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? Those who realize that they feel much older than their age reflects are often Old Souls at heart.
Common feelings that accompany being an Old Soul usually include a feeling of world wariness, mental tiredness, inquisitiveness, watchful patience, and the sensation of being an “outsider looking in.”
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Have You Experienced Spiritual Awakening as an Old Soul?
Almost every Old Soul, to some extent, has undergone a process of spiritual awakening.
Spiritual awakenings are periods in our lives when we feel lost, confused, and alienated from others and society’s rules, expectations, beliefs, and values.
The spiritual awakening process is a painful and often traumatic experience involving the complete disintegration of our former habits, perceptions, and even life goals. Often, the result of such an experience is fear, confusion, depression, anxiety, and social alienation for years on end. However, despite such devastation, the spiritual awakening process is ultimately a liberating experience after we have gone through the fires of rebirth.
You might be wondering what triggers the spiritual awakening process …
Well, usually the spiritual awakening process arises in a person’s life during major life events such as marriage, divorce, child-bearing, death, illness, and tragedy. However, spiritual awakenings can also be completely spontaneous, arising as a natural result of life experience – or in the Old Soul’s case, soulful maturity.
The inevitable product of going through a spiritual awakening process is soulfully maturing. The more we come to see through the illusions and deceptions of society, the more we direct our search for true happiness and fulfillment within ourselves. The deeper we search, the closer we connect with our Souls, which are the ultimate sources of our joy and peace.
Old Souls are people who are conscious of the Soul’s existence and actively work to reconnect with it again. In this sense, the term “Old Soul” is metaphorical rather than literal, indicating a matured and ripened relationship with the Soul or True Self. A Young Soul, on the other hand, is a person who hasn’t yet experienced a deep connection with their Souls, or Higher Selves. They remain like a young flower bud: tight and closed.
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However, it’s important to realize that not every Old Soul has a working connection with the Soul. After undergoing a process of spiritual awakening, it is common to become so absorbed in the suffering of the world and other personal issues, that a connection to the Soul is “lost.” While the Old Soul may be aware of a profoundly divine presence within them and existence, they are not able to sustain a connection with it. This experience is known as The Dark Night of the Soul.
Old Souls and Inner work
Instinctually, Old Souls know that life is one great spiritual journey towards inner Wholeness. As a result, most Old Souls spend their lives seeking that which will bring them true self-fulfillment or self-actualization.
The most vital practice to incorporate into your life as an Old Soul, and indeed as any person, is inner work.
Inner work is the practice of working to reconnect with your Soul – it is not limited to any particular religious or spiritual doctrine but embraces all paths.
Essentially, any practice which helps you to become conscious of the eternal and unchanging presence within you that is your Soul is helpful. We have dedicated this website to helping you explore various techniques and sacred inner work practices out there that aid soulful maturing. You can read more about Inner work here.
Illuminated Souls
Once an Old Soul has learned how to reconnect with and embody the Soul, they enter a new level of spiritual advancement. We refer to this level as the Illuminated Soul stage.
Illuminated Souls are awakened beings who have been freed from the dualistic mind that is at the root of all suffering (read more about the mind and ego for more understanding). Common Illuminated Souls that we know of include figures such as the Buddha, Basho, Krishnamurti, Meher Baba, Mahavira, Gangaji, Eckhart Tolle, Mooji, Unmani, and many others.
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Old Soul FAQ
Here are some common questions people ask about Old Souls:
There are many approaches to discovering the age of your soul – it all depends on your personal beliefs and preferences. One way to discover the age of your soul is through a deep guided visualization where you seek out your core essence. You could use imagery such as ascending to the heavens, descending into a deep tunnel and finding ‘the light,’ or moving through a labyrinth toward the center where your Soul resides. Other methods include mirror work, soul gazing (with another person), dream work, meditation, and using plant medicines. However, the question must be asked, why do you want to discover your soul’s age? How will it ultimately help you? And how can you know for sure that you’ve found the right answer? These are important questions to explore as they will help you to use your time and energy wisely.
Old Souls are relatively rare and compose a small percentage of the world’s population. Some speculate that Old Souls compose around 10% of the world’s population. However, this number is not exact or proven. Regardless of that fact, Old Souls are not common in today’s society.
An Old Soul is a person who feels much older than their age reflects. This feeling is often accompanied by the gift of empathy, high intelligence, intuition, and keen insight into the human condition.
Pay attention to the following signs:
1. You have a preference for solitude
2. You’re sensitive and empathic
3. You have a profound understanding of human nature
4. You have the ability to deeply introspect
5. You tend to experience a lot of psychological tiredness
6. You’re disinterested in worldly achievements or status
7. You have an inclination towards spirituality
8. You have a mystical approach to life
9. You thirst for truth and wisdom
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What makes one person wise beyond their years, and another, young at heart?
What makes one person awaken to the desire for spiritual fulfillment and self-love, and another person to the desire to content themselves with material gain and social status? The answer is the age (or level of development) of their Soul.
If you’re an Old Soul, you will likely feel alienated in society, but you’ll also be able to live a truly unique and meaningful life. There are blessings and curses that accompany this way of being, but most of all, I hope you know that you’re not alone and there are others like you.
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This article frightened me in a way that many of the questions I’ve had have been answered. I am 17 years old, however I have always felt older in a way. I always date and befriend people older than me. I always tell people physical age does not define mental age. Not until recently was i aware of soul ages. I grew up always the ‘strange’ child, always very odd and different then others. I was very smart and made amazing grades without even trying. I also have lived a life that is very different from others; child abuse, sexual abuse, foster care, substance abuse and still struggling addiction. As a very depressed individual I always questioned why this happened to me and why was I different than others? While on my destructive addictive path I met a guy that instantly I felt a strange sense of we were meant to be together. My intuition told me he too felt this way, but neither of us have said anything to each other. He opened my eyes to horoscopes and many more things that immediately caught my interest. I still see him today and still feel the same connection when he is around. Is is possible that indeed we are meant to be, or perhaps he too is a old soul and our souls recognize this. I know there is some type of soul connection, but i am not exactly sure what.
That is hard for me to say Ayva. Likely you both knew each other in a past life. You might like to read more about soul mates here: https://lonerwolf.com/soulmate-relationships/ (there is more than just one type).
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Good read. One more sign which I have observed (and experienced), is that Old Souls tend to be quite detail oriented. Which makes them good, rather very good, in more than one thing. Maybe because of their profound nature, they do not expect anything to be done half heartedly. Be it the daily chores, or a high profile project, they would like to take their time and peruse through fine details, while a Young Soul will get ‘bored’ in the process. It may, however, lead them to some degree of difficulty in life, but they choose to live with it.
I do not know if it is always the case with them or if there are exceptions. Nonetheless, the way they are, is what makes them beautiful.
Peace, mercy and blessings.
That is an interesting observation Fedd. Old Souls have developed self-control and perseverance making them more prone to “paying attention to the details.” Thanks for sharing! :)
Not to disagree, as what Fredd wrote is somewhat different while can also be related. Such minor details, things unnoticed by many if not most people, can (or do in my case) tend to “jump out”, i.e not necessarily (if at all) due to an active effort to look for or observe the details and rather they’re just seen or obvious. ;-)
I know I am not alone in what I came to realize recently, but I would like confirmation of that and other souls to discuss this with.
All the signs have been there, but I only came to believe after “being shown” why I should and why. I cannot share this online. I can only say it was peacefully beautiful. Something, an energy perhaps, filled the emptiness I roamed with all my life here. How do I describe it? Like the characters in The Wizard of Oz – finding my brain, my heart, courage, my home.
I changed. I can never be the same again. I allowed myself to accept knowledge and truth in and around me. To trust the thoughts inside me. By doing that, all the mysteries, well most of them, have been answered.
This is what I am feeling now and hope to discuss with others feeling the same: I feel I am “done” and fantasize about “retirement”. Communication becomes more difficult, my mind has started exercising thought without words. Before I speak or write, I find myself “translating”. I feel I will not return here, this is my last round. I worried about the children for sometime, but they are beautiful crystals and I have come to peace knowing all will be fine. I feel at peace leaving.
There is another phase after this, isn’t there?
You seemed to have experienced a sort of awakening Q. It’s a beautiful thing to go through, although often there is a lot more work to do (even though we don’t like thinking about it). The “awakened soul” stage comes after this.
Terrific article. For years, i’ve been called an old soul by many. I never knew how to fully define it; it’s great to see a synopsis that well describes my character! I’m 35, I’ve taken pleasure in older things for some time now, and I don’t adapt to the new very well. Excellent read!
I’m glad you enjoyed the read Theodore! Thanks for sharing!
I’m not read most of article but this article like describe my self… when I’m 19 always think why I’m different from other…and I get my answer from your article..
..and yes my question same as why problem to finding love at my level…?? I’m now 23 year old..but never even see mature level logical mind girl…
thxx for your gr8 article.
I’m really glad that you can bridge that gap of self-understanding Dhaval! It’s wonderful to know that there are others like us our there. Thanks for commenting.
I have been told I am an old soul a lot in my life, and reading this article, to me it sounded like someone was describing me completely. Just so tired….. and watching other peoples lives, wishing for just one day to be like them. To have a day with no depression or anxiety, and no pain (I am a chronic pain patient for about 8+ years now) and to fit in, not worrying about what I could do/say that will ruin the day….
The more you wish to be like others, the more pain you bring yourself. A lot of our pain is psychosomatic occurring with our thoughts first, and then manifested in the body. I hope you can ease your pain through the journey of self-inquiry.
Best wishes x
Thank you, it means a lot that you read my comment and replied. My chronic back pain, was from working in a hospital, all the bending, kneeling, and other odd positions we get into, to help people, (while being told to hurry up) it is so bad for backs, knees etc. again thank you
I am 24 and also an old soul. I am EXACTLY like you and went through the same troubles at 19. Here is what I did. I used my ability to relate to anybody as an advantage in sales. Sales or marketing. It makes complete sense to make money doing what is natural. The only conflict is having to sell something you don’t believe in. Us old souls have a problem with dishonesty especially since we know where that gets us from experience. So find something you belive in and sell sell sell. Make money and get out and travel and learn more. Meet more people and learn from them, this is what made me feel complete. Get money and go after what you feel is important. Unfortunately money is required to do so. You HAVE to belive and have faith that you’re gift was given to you for a reason. and you should be driven to figure that out. We have to use our gift of out of the box thinking to create solutions for the general population. People constantly tell me to focus on one thing and may be doing the same for you. I say f that and keep learning what you can. Eventually you will get good at each talent and be a powerhouse. Obviously this is a entrepreneur mindset and I have found that my mind closely relates to some of the top entrepreneurs in our world. My 2 questions for everyone is, how do I satisfy my love life? I want a wife and kids, I have the creativeness and passion to give someone but I can’t find somebody on my level. I have no problem meeting intelligent women and talking to them, but it’s hard having a real connection where I can be myself. Who exactly should the ideal significant other be for an old soul? My 2nd question is a little far fetched, but I’ll throw it out there. Does my name Joshua Michael Perez have to do with any self fulfilling prophecies? And what about my birth date 10/05/1990? What do these numbers mean and is it just coincidental the same month and day Steve Jobs died. I know this is super off the wall even for an old soul but I’d like to hear genuine responses.
Yes, money can contribute to a lot of freedom in life, if used wisely. Personally I try to get by with as little things as possible so the need to make lots of money isn’t there. But I like your entrepreneur mindset.
Regarding your question, the very desire to have a wife and kids: does that truly come from you, or from what you think you should do, and have, at your age? Once upon a time I wanted to have a husband, I wanted to get married, and I wanted to have kids, but the more I reflected on this desire, the more I realized that these things wouldn’t truly satisfy me, or make me happy. Marriage in particular adds a lot of strain to life. I am in a relationship now, but I personally don’t want to make it into a duty through the bondage of marriage. If you would like to attract a partner that is compatible keep your doors open. Look in places with a high vibration (e.g. local spirituality groups) rather than in low vibration places such as pubs and clubs, which often attract immature types. As for ideal types for old souls, this is all contextual on who you are and what your experiences have been. There is no one-size-fits-all kind of person. However I do know that old and mature souls make excellent partners, mostly.
Thanks for commenting
For those who feel alienated because they think their world is different from others, don’t be lonely you’re not alone ^_^ you don’t need to change yourself just because you feel that you don’t belong in this world, you are you and you are unique just be proud of it and overcome it by making yourself busy e.g. reading book, meditation…
At young age or teenage years it’s hard to overcome keep searching the truth and know who you are and don’t get involved in any drug activity.
Some kind and comforting words here Ray, thank you, I’m sure many who come will appreciate this.
I’ve always felt as though I’ve been on the planet for a very long time, I get easily bored unless I’m entertaining myself. At parties if there is fun, I’m good but if it’s a mingler type party I often feel out of place. If people are clicky and not open is like torture to me.
I see people for what they are feeling only because I find it more interesting than the phony front they try to put up. I just SEE what people are about, but not a judging view. Altering people doesn’t intrigue me either but I like enlightening them to different views.
I do not like the usual sage stereotype associated with “old souls” either.
Separate thought: if we all reincarnate over and over again, aren’t we all old souls? Maybe this “old soul” business is just a personality description?
Time is an illusion, as you probably know Taoistintraining, but “Old” is really a simplistic way of describing “advanced.” Everything in life goes through a maturing process, and “Old Souls” are, I believe, a part of this process. Saying “old” is simply easier to grasp although it is essentially incorrect.
I am 14 years old and I’ve known for a long time that I am an old soul. So far it feels like my whole life will be one big existential crisis. I am catholic though so I would never committ suicide. I feel so tired in my soul, but I am a very strong willed person, and I feel that I must do something big with my life. I want to be an aerospace engineer, but I will do whatever God will it. I am very smart and I am quite responsible. But I feel that if I don’t find love soon then my body, mind, and soul will just wither away and die. I am just going through the motions and I will continue to do so for however long it takes. I will do something great for the good of humanity though, I will finish high school with flying colors, I will try very hard to get into MIT, I will get my doctorate, and I will do something great. Just you wait.
If you believe you will do something great, you most definitely will Aaron — something that you are proud of, something that reveals to you your true strength. Remember that love comes in many different shapes and forms. We think that romantic relationships will always fulfill us, but not all the times. Sometimes friendships can do just as good a job of that.
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Aaron,
You comment made me cry a bit – a good cry of joy and relief. Your desires remind me of myself at your age. Those desires remain forever. I wanted to be a doctor as well. I never came close, yet still have the longing to help and heal. I am 36, but it really is not late for me to start over again. You are a brilliant, impressive young man. Yes you will go something great, keep your heart and mind set on that. It brings me to joy to see a wise young person such as you. I think you feel tired because you stack too much pressure on yourself. The desire to do everything and have everything is overwhelming. You have a path ahead of you. No need to rush to do it all and see it all. Enjoy the journey and do what is best for right now. Be honest and loving to yourself, but just as important, be forgiving. I want to say “good luck” but feel you don’t need it.
One more thing: love is not to be sought. It is to be discovered.