The only way to get over the pain is to face it, embrace it, hug it and learn the lessons embedded within it.
― Adele Theron
All of us, in some way or another, have experienced the stab of rejection, betrayal, neglect, bullying, and even humiliation at the hands of another.
But at what point does being emotionally hurt turn into becoming emotionally traumatized?
What is Emotional Trauma?
Emotional trauma occurs when you are exposed to a situation that is so extreme (e.g., horrendous betrayal from a loved one, the suicide of someone, etc.) that the body, heart, and mind struggle to handle the intense emotions that come with such a shocking experience.
As a result, the body-mind system tends to enter a freeze state, which is characterized by feelings of numbness, dissociation from reality, and the sudden or eventual appearance of intense symptoms like chronic anxiety, depression, addictions, PTSD, or other life-disrupting patterns.
Emotional trauma can also happen due to ongoing situations, such as being bullied, being trapped in an environment (such as in childhood) in which your sense of self-worth was destroyed or diminished, being repeatedly betrayed, treated cruelly, judged negatively, made fun of, and so on.
Experiencing abandonment trauma as a child is also a widespread form of emotional trauma.
Four Components of Trauma
Trauma is not what happens to us. But what we hold inside in the absence of an empathetic witness.
— Peter A Levine, PhD
According to psychotherapist and pioneer of Somatic Experiencing®, Peter Levine, there are four aspects of trauma that will be present, in some way, in all traumatized people:
- Hyperarousal (i.e., being overly alert and on guard)
- Constriction (i.e., tense body)
- Dissociation (i.e., disconnection from the here and now)
- Freezing (immobility), associated with the feeling of helplessness
I’ll be using these four components of trauma as a basis for the emotional trauma test below.
Emotional Trauma, Inner Work, and Spiritual Wellbeing
Discovering our level of emotional trauma is a crucial part of inner work, which is:
… the psychological and spiritual practice of diving deep into your inner self for the purposes of self-exploration, self-understanding, healing, and spiritual transformation.
{What is Inner Work?}
When we work to heal, resolve, or integrate the emotional trauma we carry, a tremendous amount of inner energy is freed up which allows us to grow and blossom in unimaginably beautiful and profound ways.
Healing emotional trauma, therefore, is a vital part of our awakening journeys of Soul Work as spiritual wanderers.
We often embark on this healing quest in stages five and six of the spiritual wanderer’s journey.
Emotional Trauma Test
Healing doesn’t mean the pain never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives.
– K. Salmansohn
The free emotional trauma test below isn’t meant to ‘diagnose’ you in any way. It’s simply a tool you can use to shed more light on your inner landscape.
Please use this test simply as a doorway to introspection and further action, not as a set-in-stone analysis of your character or what happened in your life.
Whatever result you get is not the absolute truth, and if you feel like it’s wrong, that is totally fine, because it might be!
Trust in your gut and your inner knowing above all else – this test only attempts (in an imperfect way) to provide you with some potential insight and healing pathways.
If, at any point, you feel uncomfortable during the process of taking this test, please step away, seek out support, grounding, and centeredness immediately. Only return to this test when you feel safe inside.
What did you get?
If you’re comfortable, I welcome you to share your results in the comments. You never know who might feel comforted by your words or presence.
Need more help? See my popular Self-Love Journal and Inner Child Work Journals if you’d like some compassionate support for working through these wounds.
Low level, which is 100% correct. One suggestion though: one question is about how you feel in your relationship, I’m single… That option wasn’t available, so I pretended how I would feel in a relationship :)
Have taken the quiz where is score posted re trauma quiz
Totally on point and 100% accurate. I was severely impacted by my emotional trauma a few years ago. I went into complete psychosis for a couple of years. Through my faith and the guidance of my husband and children I found myself and came back from the dark abyss. I lost so much time and missed out on so much with my family, that I used my rage from that to guide me to continually keep getting stronger and to learn to love myself and to trust God. Now I’m at a moderate level of emotional trauma. I never realized that I created a whole nother persona growing up to deal with the trauma to not remember or to pretend it never happened. I’ve accepted it, acknowledged it, cut off communication with my abusers or neglectors and therefore, slowly getting to know the real me.
Truth is, I didn’t even have to take a test to find out whether I had emotional trauma or not…so, the results do not surprise me (high level of emotional trauma). I have trauma going all the back to my childhood when I was given up for adoption at 3 years old. I was sexually abused for @ 10 years, I’ve been in a string of abusive relationships (physically, mentally & emotionally abusive) & I lost my first born son.
I have quite a bit of unresolved trauma in my life that I have recently begun to recognize as the one of the primary driving forces behind a lot of my behavior & my choices in life. I may not be anywhere close to where I wanna be in my recovery process, but I believe that acknowledgment & acceptance are the first steps towards change…& I am bound & determine to change the course of my life for the better.
Medium Level of Emotional Trauma. I hope that is true. I spent a lot of time on high trauma so healing has occurred.
“Chronic physical pain or tension” Tell me what 70-year-old has little pain and I’ll congratulate them on good DNA. LOL Now the tension is another thing.
I will say I am ADHD and ASD so tension and anxiety are often comorbid. Not inevitable but hard to avoid. Few parents are perfect and they did their best. I stopped resenting them after Al-Anon. I’d have loved them more if they named me Aletheia. LOL (or less. Who really knows?)
I feel I am much less of a lone wolf now. Some parts of your ‘About page’ sound like me. INFJ or possibly P and Type 4 Enneagram. Almost no earth in my astrological chart ( thank goodness it is in love).
Art is my thing and plants and animals.
Ethnically I think there is a bit of everything in there. Part of my family even lived in Peru and I’d love to know that part of the story.
I am thankful for so much. Will be reading you with interest.
Nora G
I have tried the test and feel good about the result. Though going through some tough medical times with possible hospitalization and associated stresses and strains at the moment. So send a prayer or two up for me and for all older people at this time.
Blessings from us both
where is the results to the test ?
This one was a hard one to take but I’m glad I did, I got High level of Emotional Trauma.
I’ve had some bad Trauma since I was younger than one, and knowing new tips to help me become a better version of myself helps a lot. I would love to be a better partner and a better mum.
Thank you so much for both this test and some advice on how to heal! I have been trauma-diagnosed by a doctor at the beginning of this year after some pretty rough stuff, so I wasn’t surprised when I got the Medium-Traumaticed results, cause’ even if there’s been some while since those horrible stuff, I know how much I still have to both sort out and heal and I’ll take every advice I can find. Thanks alot for this!!!
This was brilliant, thank you. Emotional Trauma is a real tough one so I appreciated this