We all interact with the world in ways that are as unique as ourselves.
There are thinkers and feelers, introverted and extroverted people, highly sensitive and intuitive people, as well as endless other ways of processing the world around us.
It’s no surprise then to discover that we each give, receive, and understand love in different ways.
Although there are as many love “dialects” as there are people, there are six main love styles that we use to communicate:ย Physical, Practical, Presents, Kind Words, Activity, and Kinship.
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We each have an “emotional love tank” that constantly needs replenishing. When our emotional tank is empty, we feel unloved, unappreciated, and our relationships wither.
Most problems in our relationships with other people come from speaking in different love styles, whether that be with your partner, friend, or even child.
For example, your husband/wife might complain to you that you “don’t spend enough time with him/her” when you communicate your love through physical affection.
In this free love styles quiz, you’ll find out what your primary love style is. Discovering your love style will help you to communicate with others how you prefer to receive love.
This test can also help you to understand your loved ones better and enhance a deeper sense of interbeing and spiritual connectedness with them.
So feel free to also encourage your loved ones to take this love styles quiz so that the two of you can find out how to speak theirย love style as well.
What did you get?
Share your results in the comments!
Physical love. This makes sense because growing up my family was not physically demonstrative. I fell in love with someone who was very affectionate, but then it was too much, and I felt smothered. I guess the relationship had been slowly fading by that time. I wanted a more exciting partner. What a mistake that was, because I got someone who was only affectionate when he wanted sex. Now I am in my 60’s and have two cats who fulfill my needs for physical affection. I totally trust them, and take care of them in return. I miss physical human touch sometimes, but not enough to go seeking out a relationship with another human. I know how screwed up that sounds, and I wish I knew what to do about it.
Physical Love
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It didnโt give me results
I took your quiz for “Free Love Style” that you e-mailed, but it never gave me the results!
Hey Mayjo, youโre most likely using a browser or device blocking the test from working as it should. Please try another device/browser.
My primary love style is Physical, I have a partner that shows me love daily, I am very lucky but it was not always the case. My first two husbands were as cold as ice. Them before anyone else that included me and the children. I would say I never knew LOVE until I started dating my 3rd husband. we do most everything to gether and always hold hands in puplic
I really appreciate that kinship is included in this love style assessment. As soon as I saw that term listed, I knew it would be my result. In the past, my “love language” always came up as primarily words of affirmation, and it’s true that I listen and encourage confidence in others even when I don’t relate to their specific struggles. At the same time, although I definitely need kind words, I do not feel loved when someone affirms or praises me without relating on some level. Instead, this makes me feel estranged or placed on a pedestal. I am an unusual person, especially for my generation (tail end of Gen X, close to Millenial). As a result, I have often felt misunderstood. My values are non-religious, but deeply felt, and often relate to mysticism and the potentially liberating experience of choosing difficulty or self-sacrifice. My heart’s desire is always to be understood rather than admired, because I need the company of people who will swim in deep waters with me. This test was very helpful in clarifying that distinction. Thank you!
I enjoyed the way you put that Wenona:
I felt the same limitation with other love style tests so I’m happy to see others share this dominant love style ๐
Practical Love Style. makes sense bc im super practical๏ปฟ๐๏ปฟ
In all honesty I can’t answer any of those questions as I have never had any love shown to me throughout my whole life and I am now 69 and I believe that I will cross to spirit without ever experiencing love from anyone. For the most part I am comfortable with my own company and these days I tend to give people a wide berth because we really can’t trust them, can we.
I’m sorry the quiz has brought that up for you Ashley. Finding out your love style doesn’t necessarily only focus on the love you’ve received (or lack of), it can provide you with an understanding of how you can show love also.
But the problem really is the second part of your comment “I tend to give people a wide berth because we really canโt trust them, can we.”. Seeing people in such a way will make it difficult to allow love in.
It’s true that some (definitely not all) people may try to hurt us, but in learning to love ourselves we also learn to trust in our ability to survive those situations if they do ever happen, it won’t destroy us like our minds make us believe.
I hope that helps ๐
you have this “love” test..
how does someone like me respond? i don’t even like the word “love”!!!!
to me…love
hate me, it WILL NOT hurt any less.
yes i hurt because of” love “…..
like me, be a friend
BUT don’t ever
LOVE me
I’m not sure I understand correctly Hattie. But we can’t prevent who loves us, or why they do, or what style they choose to love us in. To be a friend of someone is not possible without caring for them in some way.
Miss Hattie I have to say I LOVE YOU UNCONDITIONALLY! Pain is Love Love is Pain that’s what they teach us anyways. TRUE UNCONDITIONAL LOVE for YOURSELF is AMAZING and has protected me from further pain as well as HEALED that which I needed healing of. Awakening opened the flood doors of unconditional love for myself and EVERYTHING and EVERYONE so extremely string I cray from the sheer happiness that kind of LOVE feels like within. So many people that have passed away is phenomenal especially when you can help people heal and fully grieve. Anyways YOU’RE AN AMAZING LIGHT never think you’re not cuz you came here that is just one of many starts that’ll help you grow within and FREE YOU from unimaginable possibilities. It’s ALL inside each of us and I BELIEVE IN YOU and thank you for being here sharing this physical experience with me a well. Love you be safe