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Meaning of Life VS. Purpose of Life (the Difference!)

by Aletheia Luna ยท Updated: Apr 3, 2025 ยท 119 Comments

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What is the meaning of life? We are terrified by the question and at the same time, madly thrilled by it.

Itโ€™s an age-old, primordial question at the heart of all humanity.

Whatโ€™s the point of going through all this fuss? Why were we born? Why do we die? WHY does everything exist anyway?


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If you’ve come to this page, you’re likely at a crossroads in life. You might feel lost and completely without a clue as to what your true calling is.

Perhaps you’ve searched for years, but nothing quite “fit” or seemed right. Or perhaps, you’ve only begun the search recently and feel completely stranded, overwhelmed, and demoralized.

Deep down, you want to make your life mean something. You want to dedicate your time to doing what you love. But HOW?

WHERE do you start?

Wanting to know what the meaning of life is can be compared to opening a humungous can of worms: question after question comes spilling out. Pretty soon, weโ€™re curled up in the fetal position choking on a huge existential crisis grub.

Sound macabre? Thatโ€™s not half of it.

Wondering โ€œwhat is the meaning of life?โ€ is often at the core of dark and dreary human experiences such as the Dark Night of the Soul, identity crisis, and existential depression.

Sometimes, the more we search for answers, the more they evade us, leaving us feeling hopelessly lost and like victims of life.


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In this article, I plan to help you move through these complex and frustrating emotions (to the best of my ability) so that you can feel empowered again. By the end of this article you should:

  • Be able to understand the difference between meaning and purpose
  • Possess a greater sense of clarity
  • (Hopefully) feel a sense of relief
  • Know what to do with your life next โ€“ and how

By the way, I also recorded this article in audio/visual form. If you prefer to listen rather than read, you can do that here:

Table of contents

  • The Major Difference Between Life Meaning and Life Purpose
  • What is the MEANING of Life?
  • What is the PURPOSE of Life?
  • How to Find Your Meaning in Life (7 Paths)
  • In Conclusion

The Major Difference Between Life Meaning and Life Purpose

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People from all walks of life share an innate drive for meaning, direction, and purpose. This drive to understand our life purpose seems as important to our psychological growth as eating is to our biological survival.

โ€“ Dan Millman

You probably use them interchangeably โ€“ and have heard others do likewise โ€“ but meaning and purpose are not the same things.

Itโ€™s important to make clear distinctions here because otherwise our โ€œwhat is the meaning of life?โ€ exploration will become tremendously convoluted very quickly.

Hereโ€™s how I distinguish the two:

Life meaning is of the mind โ€“ itโ€™s a philosophy, idea, or belief we ascribe to our lives. Itโ€™s subjective. Itโ€™s something you create.

Life purpose is innate โ€“ ย itโ€™s โ€œprogrammedโ€ into everything at a core level. Itโ€™s objective. Itโ€™s something you fulfill.

Does that make sense?

When talking about the meaning of life we often confuse and mix up the subjective and objective (or personal and impersonal). Hence why it can feel like our brains have been put through a blender when even considering the topic.

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Again, to clarify:

Meaning is subjective. It comesย from the mind. It is dependent on your personal tastes, desires, goals, and dreams.

Purpose, on the other hand, is from Spirit. It is programmed into us. It is within our very cells. It is written into each and every destiny. We’ll explore this distinction a little more later.

But first, to go more in-depth into this topic, what is the meaning of life? And what does that mean for you? Letโ€™s explore that next:

What is the MEANING of Life?

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So … what is the meaning of life?

To put it simply, meaning itself is very personal and varied. Itโ€™s something that emerges from your soul as a deep calling.

For one person, their meaning in life may be to raise kids, for another, their meaning may be to create a charity, or breed horses, or become a world-renown artist, or live off the grid, and so on.

Your meaning can be fixed or it can change.

Ultimately, your core essence (i.e., your heart and soul) will know what your true meaning in life is.

To find your meaning, youโ€™ll need to do some soul searching. Youโ€™ll need to understand yourself, your gifts and weaknesses, your passions, and your interests.

This process of soul searching is an exciting process โ€“ but it can also be frustrating and disheartening if the voice of your soul is getting drowned out by the stress of daily life.

Weโ€™ll explore how to find your meaning in life a little later.

But first:

What is the PURPOSE of Life?

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Our soulโ€™s purpose, seen energetically, is already there, within us.

โ€“ Christa Mackinnon

As I mentioned above, while your meaning of life is subjective, your purpose in life is more objective.

In other words, itโ€™s not something you have to create or find. Instead, your purpose is something you realize or tune into.


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Because itโ€™s already there, because itโ€™s already intrinsic and innate to who you are, thereโ€™s no need to go chasing anything.

Isnโ€™t that kind of a relief?

If you’re still in doubt, let me explain further.

You might be wondering, “so what is this innate purpose of life?”

In an earthly sense, your purpose is the same as everything you see around you: to grow, change, and expand.

Just look at the plants, animals, and trees; they all go through cycles of metamorphosis. The planets also go through cycles, as do the seasons. And the Universe is expanding every moment! You too are destined to go through these cycles of expansion.

But is that it?

Those skeptical about the spiritual dimension of life would shout a hearty, โ€œyes!โ€ But Iโ€™m not an atheist. I donโ€™t have a mechanistic outlook nor do I believe that this is โ€œallโ€ there is.

Why reduce the complexity of life in that way? I have personally experienced the spiritual dimension of reality many times, and that is enough for me. And so too have millions since the dawn of time.

However, as the spiritual purpose of life is immaterial, itโ€™s more open to interpretation. (Hence why there are thousands of spiritual movements and religious ideas in the world.)

Personally, I believe that our purpose in life is to mature or expand on ALL levels: the physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.

The spiritual awakening process is an expression of that maturation process: our souls are expanding and growing just like the galaxies. And like pregnancy or childbirth, this growth can be a painful process. But itโ€™s part of lifeโ€™s purpose.

As professor of cultural anthropology and religious studies, Bonnie Glass-Coffin writes,

As I have come to realize through my lifeโ€™s journey, the purpose of our human embodiment is, actually, to grow a soul. Like the making of a body during nine months of gestation, soul-making is also a process. For, although we are born with it, our soul continues to develop with every life experience. Our sufferings are simply the secretions that add to its lusterโ€”like a pearl inside an oyster. Making soul is the process of a lifetime, or several lifetimes. Mystics, saints, and shamans of ages past and of today, from places far and near, refer to this eternal sojourn in many ways, yet whatever terms are used implies a conscious engagement with our true potential as divine partners in creation. This is what it means to โ€œgrow a soul.โ€ This is what it means to commune with our essential nature.

On a metaphysical level, the question can be asked, โ€œWhat are we maturing toward?โ€ What is the point of all this hassle?

This is a complex topic, but in a nutshell, to summarize many spiritual and religious ideas, our metaphysical purpose is to unite with our True Nature or to become one with the Divine.

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Ancient spiritual traditions all throughout the world affirm this conclusion and have referred to such a culmination by many names: Enlightenment, Illumination, Self-Realization, Heaven, Oneness, Nirvana, Bliss, Wholeness, Moksha, non-dual awareness, Buddhahood, and so on.

How do we get there?

Thatโ€™s a topic for a whole other article. But there’s a multitude of spiritual and religious paths that will suit you based on your mental/emotional/spiritual level of maturity.

Meditation is a common and recommended path. Inner work is another powerful practice that we heavily focus on within this website. It is a non-dogmatic practice that can be integrated into any belief system. The healing and inner transformation it can produce are quite amazing.

How to Find Your Meaning in Life (7 Paths)

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Life has no meaning. Each of us has meaning and we bring it to life. It is a waste to be asking the question when you are the answer.

โ€“ Joseph Campbell

So far weโ€™ve established the clear difference between what is the meaning vs. purpose of life.

As weโ€™ve seen, meaning is subjective, it is highly personal, it is something your soul feels called to do or create.

To find your meaning in life, you need to learn how to find yourself. Youโ€™ll need to do some soul searching.

If you have no idea how to do that, here are some simple pathways:

1. Think back to what you loved doing as a child

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Your inner child is your original self, the first version of โ€œyouโ€ that entered the world. S/he holds a tremendous amount of wisdom that is just waiting to be accessed.

As children, we didnโ€™t carry the same level of baggage, social conditioning, or fears that we now lug around everywhere. We were free spirits. As such, reconnecting with your inner child is a powerful way of finding your meaning in life.

When you were a child, you were attracted to the things that brought you the most joy. This joy is often the secret key you need to uncover your authentic life path.

Reflect on what you loved doing the most as a child โ€“ what activities did you always gravitate toward?

Perhaps you liked to read a lot, construct things, dress up your dolls, care for your toys, climb trees, talk to your pets, pretend you were a police officer, construct imaginary realms, and so on.

Take some time to carefully think about what you most enjoyed doing. Get a journal and make some notes. Look for the activities you did for the longest amount of time and most consistently.

The answer may not slap you in the face immediately, but think about what was the heart and core of the activity you did. What quality were you attracted to the most?

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2. Explore your personality (by taking tests)

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I know this suggestion may sound banal, but free personality tests are a wonderful way of getting to know yourself. Plus, theyโ€™re fun! Not only do you get to learn about your strengths and weaknesses, but you’re growing in self-understanding in a matter of minutes.

Not all free tests online are created equal. As our whole website is dedicated to the pursuit of self-awareness and self-knowledge, youโ€™ll find some unique tests in our free tests area.

As always, take these tests with โ€œa grain of salt.โ€ Gather what you need and leave the rest. You never quite know what unique things may be revealed about yourself and how this may guide your life onwards!

3. Expand your mental horizons

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We all have a โ€œcircle of competenceโ€ โ€“ a phrase coined by tycoons Warren Buffet and Charlie Munger. What this means is that we all have some things that weโ€™re really knowledgeable about, and other things we arenโ€™t.

Expanding your mental horizons means widening your circle of competence. This could mean exploring a topic you know literally nothing about. Also, this could mean delving into an area that youโ€™ve always been secretly curious about but have stopped yourself from exploring (for one reason or another).

Take a moment to think about what you would like to learn about if you were given a chance. What thought first pops into your mind? Whatever that thought is reveals the place you need to go next.

Even if you feel silly, be an explorer. Soul searching isnโ€™t always convenient or comfortable โ€“ instead, it is often wildly unexpected and can be supremely illuminating, particularly if youโ€™re wanting to find your meaning in life.

4. Think about what life has taught you

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We are each given a set of experiences in life. The experiences are neutral. They have no meaning. It is how we interpret the experiences that gives them meaning. The interpretations of experiences shape our beliefs and theories about the world. Our beliefs and theories, in turn, determine what we observe in the world to confirm our beliefs, which, in turn, reinforce our interpretations.

โ€“ Michael Michalko

Ultimately, answering โ€œwhat is the meaning of life?โ€ comes down to how you think about and interpret life. Do you ever think about the experiences youโ€™ve had? Do you ever give them a higher meaning? If not, itโ€™s time to do that.

One of the most powerful ways to find your meaning is to reflect on the entire timeline of your life. What have been your major highs and lows? What successes and tragedies have befallen you? And most of all, what have they TAUGHT you?

If you can answer this single question โ€œwhat have all your experiences in life taught you?โ€ and take a higher perspective, you might just find your meaning in life.

For example, if you believe all your experiences have taught you to surrender and let go, you might become interested in studying Zen Buddhism and make that your meaning in life. If youโ€™ve learned that all your experiences have taught you the importance of sticking to your truth, you might become an advocate for something.

Make sense? Itโ€™s a simple but powerful soul searching technique.

5. Visualize yourself on your death bed

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โ€œTell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?โ€ the poet Mary Oliver once wrote.

This activity may at first appear morbid, but it holds within it the seed of true insight. When death is upon us, everything becomes clear, crystalline, precious. Thereโ€™s no time to waste and the choices weโ€™ve made in life dance before our eyes.

For this activity, youโ€™ll need to set aside five or ten minutes. Get into a quiet and dark room. You may even like to wear a sleeping mask or blindfold so your vision becomes pitch black. If you want to put yourself into an even deeper mindset, you can play some funereal or ethereal music quietly in the background. (And just in case you feel too uncomfortable, ensure someone is in the house with you.)

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Now, once youโ€™re ready, imagine youโ€™re lying on your death bed. You are reflecting on all that youโ€™ve done in your life. When you think of your biggest achievements, what comes to mind? What are you the happiest to have done, practiced, or committed to? Donโ€™t be modest here. Think about something simply amazing you have done. What is that?

If nothing comes to mind, you can always return to this activity later (perhaps in the early morning or late at night). Once youโ€™re ready to stop the visualization, feel into your body, stretch your legs and arms, and take off the blindfold. Consider journaling about your experience โ€“ it will be extremely valuable to remember and reflect upon this visualization.

Learn more about how to journal.

6. Practice inner work

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Why is it that we struggle to find the meaning of our lives? One reason is that we are emotionally or psychologically blocked.

We might suffer from self-doubt, low self-worth, or general self-destructive tendencies. We might be trapped within the pits of an existential crisis, a toxic relationship, an addiction, or mental health issue.

We may have even experienced a spiritual awakening so strong that our life seems to be melting around us โ€“ and we donโ€™t know how to put back the pieces of ourselves.

One way to create inner harmony, balance, and wholeness is through a practice known as inner work. Inner work is the mental, emotional and spiritual practice of exploring your inner self. It is about gaining self-knowledge, learning how to love yourself, working through your core beliefs, and maturing (or individuating) as a human being.

For anyone soul searching, inner work is a vital practice. It can be all too easy to skim across the surface of life without going deeper. But whatever is buried within you will eventually rise to the surface, sooner or later. Inner work is about exploring and working with the different facets of our inner selves.

The three major types of inner work that I recommend are self-love, inner child work, and shadow work.

7. Think about what type of meaning you need right now

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Austrian psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl once wrote about meaning:

For the meaning of life differs from man to man, from day to day and from hour to hour. What matters, therefore, is not the meaning of life in general but rather the specific meaning of a person’s life at a given moment.

There is a quote by the German philosopher Nietzsche saying that “if a man finds a WHY he can bear with almost any HOW” – and it’s true. It was humankind that built the Auschwitz gas ovens, it was also humankind who marched into them with their heads held high and a prayer song on their lips.

As Frankl pointed out, meaning is not some solid rigid thing, but it is fluid and changeable. We need to focus on finding our meaning of life right now.

In my perspective, there are three types of meaning in life:

The first is meaning in accomplishment or achievements, where we feel fulfillment in completing tasks, goals, and dreams.

The second is the meaning we find in values such as the loyalty we feel toward a noble cause or the compassion a mother feels toward her child.


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Finally, the third is meaning in suffering, where we embrace a specific attitude to empower us within certain circumstances, e.g., “This pain I feel from the loss of my job will teach me what I truly want from life.”

Above I have just defined three types of meaning:

  1. Meaning in accomplishments and achievements
  2. Meaning in values (e.g., love, friendship, community, loyalty, courage)
  3. Meaning in suffering (an attitude/belief about why weโ€™re experiencing something)

Think about where youโ€™re currently at in life. What type of meaning do you need the most? Reflect on the most painful feelings you experience on a regular basis โ€“ this will be the way to find what type of meaning you need.

For instance, if you suffer from feelings of boredom, fatigue or listlessness you may need to find the first type of meaning (achievement/accomplishments).

If you suffer from feelings of general unhappiness, loneliness or a specific yearning for something, you may need the second type of meaning (values).

And if you are going through an intensely painful period in life that is characterized by anxiety, depression, grief, hopelessness, and other strong forms of emotions, you may need the third type of meaning (attitude/belief about suffering).

Or hell, maybe you need all three types of meaning โ€“ thatโ€™s okay too! Be true to yourself and listen to your needs.

In Conclusion

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Iโ€™ll leave you with a quote from the Book of Awakening by Mark Nepo,

It takes six million grains of pollen to seed one peony, and salmon need a lifetime of swimming to find their way home, so we mustn’t be alarmed or discouraged when it takes us years to find love or years to understand our calling in life.

There is no race here. You will find your meaning in your own time. And remember, your meaning can stay the same or it can change as you mature. There is no black and white manual of rules here.

Very few people just wake up one day and shout โ€œWOOHOO! I finally know my indisputable life purpose!โ€ Itโ€™s more like a messy awkward food party, where you eat one thing and throw it away until you find something that finally tastes really nice.

You may have come to this article wanting a definitive answer to the notorious โ€œwhat is the meaning of life?โ€ question. But the thing is, your meaning is of your own creation.

Your meaning springs from the depths of your heart and soul. To hear it, you need to find ways of going inwards and of listening carefully. I sincerely hope the above activities will help you to do that.

Tell me, after reading this article, what are your feelings or thoughts? Do you need any clarification? Perhaps you wish to share your own experience? Please share below!

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About Aletheia Luna

Aletheia Luna is a prolific psychospiritual writer, author, educator, and intuitive guide whose work has touched the lives of millions worldwide. As a survivor of fundamentalist religious abuse, her mission is to help others find love, strength, and inner light in even the darkest places. She is the author of hundreds of popular articles, as well as numerous books and journals on the topics of Self-Love, Spiritual Awakening, and more. [Read More]

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  1. Nivannii Rose says

    March 29, 2019 at 7:07 pm

    You said growing the soul to connect back with the Divine (or something like that -my interpretation). What happens if you don’t believe in a Divine?? What is the purpose of life then?
    I do love that you say it’s not a race and it may takes years though.

    Reply
    • Nivannii Rose says

      March 29, 2019 at 7:10 pm

      Oh … after over 250 rebirthing sessions, lots of meditating I still don’t remember or have gone back into my childhood before the age of 9. It’s a total blank. Later in childhood I used to hide in the cupboard and just talk to and play with my dolls hair.

      Reply
    • Mateo Sol says

      March 30, 2019 at 3:53 pm

      First we must question what we define as the ‘Divine’. Some people prefer the Tao, others ‘Consciousness’ and the many other names used. It’s not a matter of belief though, don’t believe anything unless it’s your own experience. I’ve experienced what we’ve previously written about as ‘mystical states’ or peak states as Maslow called them. These are experiences where we feel connected to everything, limitless, boundless love.

      The purpose of life is beyond our comprehension, you can experience it or not, depending on how far your soul development is. But the meaning of life is something we do have control over.

      Reply
  2. Joakim says

    March 29, 2019 at 3:57 pm

    It is quite the discovery to see our purpose and meaning in life and can be shrouded in mist alot of times.
    I think also that might be the point, the discovery seems so much more… treasure when it is found hidden and not in plain sight.
    When looking back on my childhood it is hard to identify what I enjoyed the most, but this might also be because I had quite the turbulent childhood, nevertheless what I enjoyed the most was Nature and playing games.

    Over the years I’ve found out I have very sharpened Empathy, the kind of Empathy that inspires me to Listen to others and accept them for who they are. Many times people have told me that they feel accepted and feel they will not be judged when around me.
    At first I thought this was a reaction too me being a people-pleaser and having weak boundries. But as I have put the work in to establish are more wholesome self, taking more care of myself, I have seen that this kindness still persists, and rather than disminishing it is enhancing. That is one of the most unexpected discoveries about myself.

    Furthermore what I consider kindness has changed, it has become more, and when I look around I can see that this kindness is not a weakness, to speak softly is not a weakness, because I know I can roar when I need too. But to emboy kindness is a gift. Too see that others makes mistake and fails and not berrate or put them down, instead see that it all comes from this place of learning, suffering and experiencing, is what will bring us together when we let it.

    I never realized when I was young that my quiet and reserved tendencies was a natural thing for me, that observing and moving slow is intergral to expression I see.
    Yet it is alos thanks to my Nature that I feel so deeply this sensation of kinship. Being Quiet is such a sweet treasure because in it it is possible too see others, too feel the connection we share. I would not say Quiet takes away pain, suffering or fear but I would say it becomes more… sense, because there is other sensations aswell.

    What is astounding to me is that Empathy often comes from myself making mistakes, doing poor choices, suffering and seeing it through. To know how hard I struggle and see that struggle in others, it brings about sense, honor, respect and equality.

    Thank you for the article Mateo, so often you inspire me to live from my heart.

    Reply
    • Mateo Sol says

      March 30, 2019 at 3:58 pm

      Thank you as always for sharing your beautiful experience with quietness Joakim, I agree….to me aloneness is closest to feeling the presence of that which is beyond words in indescribable ways. It’s a paradox but I feel it deepens my empathy the more time in solitude I spend.

      Reply
  3. Claire says

    March 28, 2019 at 2:25 pm

    Hi Matteo,
    Thank you for this beautiful article, which helps me a lot in my spiritual and Soul path journey. I have one question regarding the inner child. Through inner work and active imaginations, I have discovered that I have actually two inner children. One very mature and seemingly from another planet (he is a little blue boy), and myself as a little child, who is afraid, angry and does not seem to find peace and love. What would you be your advice for taking care of those two?

    Love,
    Claire

    Reply
    • Mateo Sol says

      March 29, 2019 at 10:04 am

      You’re most welcome Claire. Ultimately with inner work we aim at the integration of all aspects within ourselves toward wholeness. Having two children within, and one of them being ‘otherworldly’ with qualities we are want to have (like maturity etc) could be a way for your mind to ‘dissociate’ those qualities and bestow them upon someone who is out of this world to reaffirm how inaccessible they are. How can both children merge? How can one child give those qualities of maturity to the one who feels lacking love and peace? That’s where I’d focus on.

      Reply
  4. Brooke Fox says

    March 28, 2019 at 1:02 am

    Hello. I just wanted to let you know that I found this article intriguing; there were some useful techniques in it, which filled in a few gaps for me. Iโ€™ve struggled with cyclical depression and anxiety for about half of my life, but am very interested in (and semi involved in) spiritual and meditative practices. The techniques I can infuse- so thanks.
    Also, I am interested in motivational speaking and also in writing articles like this? Can you give me any leads?

    Many thanks!
    Brooke

    Reply
    • Mateo Sol says

      March 28, 2019 at 12:20 pm

      Thank you Brooke, I’m happy to hear it resonated with you. The simplest advice I can give you is to teach that which you’re passionate about, which you use yourself, which you’ve experienced yourself.

      Too many teachers try to be something they’re not, to copy others, to write what they think the audience wants but it’s not a sustainable approach (you won’t have the passion to keep doing it for years) and more importantly, you’re audience can tell when you speak from experience or you’re just a puppet, repeating what you’ve heard.

      Reply
  5. accounts says

    March 27, 2019 at 4:39 pm

    Hey Mateo
    Thank you for this article, helpful and insightful. I have a question. When it comes to (re)discovering ones inner child… my childhood is very blank and what I can remember is mostly Do’s and Don’t’s, trying to stay afloat when it felt I was drowning and there was no-one to help me (grew up in an alcoholic home and all that goes with that), and everything i did was ‘tainted’ by this, so there is no ‘natural’ path to find my meaning, any ideas on how to find this true ‘child”?

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    • Mateo Sol says

      March 28, 2019 at 12:17 pm

      Using inner child consulting is but one of the suggestions above, perhaps you’d benefit from one of the others mentioned. Sometimes we block things from our childhood for a reason and it may not be necessary to let that come afloat.

      I like the question Aaron Swartz asked once: “What is the most important thing you could be working on right now? … And if you aren’t working on that, why aren’t you?”

      Reply
  6. Cassie says

    March 27, 2019 at 4:54 am

    Thank you for this. My main struggles are achievement and values. But Iโ€™m not sure if the struggle for achievement is my own, or if itโ€™s what others want. If there are multiple places calling to me, how do I know which to pursue first?

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    • Mateo Sol says

      March 28, 2019 at 12:12 pm

      My suggestion to you would be to focus on Values. Achievements are the by-product of our desires which are often created through our family, friends and cultures indoctrination of what being a ‘success’ means.

      If you can discover what your own personal values are, the values will then help you decide which are achievements worth pursuing. How to discover your values? Here’s a few hints: 1) They are constructive (rather than destructive). 2) They are within your control to change (making our values uncontrollable aspects of life like wealth, status, etc is a recipe for disaster).

      Reply
  7. Christopher says

    March 27, 2019 at 4:27 am

    I really like this article! I definitely feel like this is a difficult but necessary subject to talk about. I’m both spiritual and religious (Catholic), but I still feel that what you’ve talked about in the article can be applied to our daily lives. I do feel like I’m currently going through a spiritual awakening. I’ve also worked on expanding my mental horizons through studying Confucianism, which in my opinion is a very thorough and interesting philosophy. I really admire this website, and I’d like to say, keep up the good work! Many people, including myself, really appreciate it!

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    • Mateo Sol says

      March 28, 2019 at 12:05 pm

      Thanks Christopher for the kind words and sharing your insights on Confucianism. It’s an insightful philosophy, I also recommend the Tao Te Ching to anyone and everyone; it’s more than just a book, it captures the essence of the ineffable and is not in conflict with any pre-existing belief system.

      Reply
  8. Mychal A Love says

    March 27, 2019 at 3:04 am

    Thank you! Your post came at a wonderful point when I am experiencing a new awakening. I love the idea that I create my own meaning and that it changes. I’m glad I found your community.
    Peace and Love
    Mychal

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    • Mateo Sol says

      March 27, 2019 at 4:16 am

      Thank you Mychal. It’s a very liberating notion that we make our own meaning but also a great responsibility. I’m glad you’re up for the challenge :).

      Reply
  9. The Believing Skeptic says

    March 17, 2019 at 7:39 am

    After I deconverted from Christianity, I developed a hardcore atheistic mindset. I became skeptical of everything related to the supernatural, from ghosts to angels. I was proud of myself being able to go through life using only logic and reason, but that changed months after. My worldview became boring and lifeless. I started to dwell into spirituality and began thinking, “oh no, what if I’m believing something only for comfort?!” I didn’t wanted to go through the same thing like in my previous religion. Then what I realized was the spiritual life was deeply fulfilling, helpful to my wellbeing, and capable of transforming me into ways I never imagined. Still, every day I consciously worry whether my beliefs are the right ones. Exploring different philosophies can be problematic. I don’t want to reach old age only to find out that I was living a lie, whether that lie actually was beneficial to me or not.

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    • Mateo Sol says

      March 18, 2019 at 11:08 am

      Thank you for sharing your valid concern, I understand the fear and think it’s very useful. I encourage spiritual discernment (as we even have it as one of our principles), to me that’s the biggest difference between religion and spirituality. Religion is a dead dogma you can only take on faith and believe, spirituality is alive and experiential. If it’s not your experience, if it’s not helping you grow/change and is promising later rewards, don’t continue down any path that claims to be spiritual. Those are my rules for guiding myself through the ocean of confusion that is ‘subjective truth’ presented as some absolute spiritual understanding by many.

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  10. Teresa E says

    March 16, 2019 at 5:00 pm

    To grow, too expand, to realize we are entangled on a quantum level with every photon in our vast universe.
    To realize that hurting another human consciously based being is the root cause of most personal suffering. Not the other way around.
    To see that in this Universe, like attracts like, and once you master that, the fun is just getting started.
    If i could go from seeing and talking to spirits as an abused child. Right up until the day I believe I shattered and sent them away.
    I lived over twenty years denying in a staunch scientific atheist mindset. Went from pregnant teen, in a volatile marriage, high school dropout in a rural community, to big city recruiter and Human Resource Director, but in 2001, outside forces combined (death, divorce, job loss, issues with adult son) to send me into a re replay of my earlier life. Pregnant at nearly 40, and married to a narcissistic alcoholic.
    Oh yeah, over $2 million in debt.
    3 years ago, I almost died from an infected lymph node. And the massive depression I’d been enmeshed in for 6 years.
    And then, I heard spirit and mother nature, my healing began.
    I, now, at 52, see, and hear, and am growing into the most formidable and happy human I can be.
    Mateo and Luna you and your powerful words, have been a blessing on this path.
    May all those that made it this far leave with my gratitude and blessings.
    So much love.

    Reply
    • Mateo Sol says

      March 18, 2019 at 11:14 am

      I’m overjoyed to hear you’ve heard the calling toward healing, spirit, and nature; you’re clearly a fighter that now has the destination in sight of where this is all heading :). Stay strong dear friend and much love <3

      Reply
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