Thin-skinned, hyper-sensitive, wimpy, spineless, wussy, feeble, weak, fragile, melodramatic, temperamental …
If you can relate to, or have been called a combination of any of these words, chances are you’re part of a unique group of people: the Empaths.
Occurring in an estimated 5% of the population, Empaths are known for their highly developed ability to sense the emotions and thoughts of the people around them. As author and Empath Christel Broederlow put it “empaths often possess the ability to sense others on many different levels”, this includes the abilities to intimately understand what a person desires, yearns for, and is currently feeling, suffering or thinking, as well as the ability to feel other people’s bodily illnesses. These occurances manifest themselves as energy vibrations that the finely tuned Empath can pick up on, or “tune into”.
Commonly identifying as clairsentients and HSPs, Empaths possess an ability that is both a blessing and a curse. On one hand, the Empath is an excellent listener and counselor, knowing the best way to comfort and assist those around them. On the other, being an Empath can be painful and tiring. It’s common for the Empath to be weighed down and constantly congested with the negative emotional energy of others, often creating physical and psychological disharmony.
Although the Empath has a wonderful gift, and is often greatly cherished by those around them, they are often challenged and confronted by a variety of misguided perceptions towards their innate gift.
Myths & Misunderstandings
“You need to grow some thicker skin! Stop being so overly sensitive.” I wish I could tell you how many times I heard that in my childhood! Growing up as an Empath, you may have experienced similar insults from your parents, friends or peers, and perhaps even worse.
It’s not at all trendy or popular to be sensitive or feeling in our society that values efficiency, cold calculation, and industrial resilience. Therefore, you may have experienced and still experience, a lot of antagonism towards your behavior as an Empath. I will explore four of these main misperceptions below.
Myth #1 – Empaths are navel-gazing and self-absorbed.
Truth – We often focus more on others than on ourselves.
It’s true that Empaths are often unexplainably moody and quiet on the outside. However, this isn’t because they’re excessively absorbed thinking too much about themselves and their feelings. Rather, the Empath is often deeply affected by the exterior emotions of others that he experiences as his own. The Empath’s ability to intuitively feel the feelings of others is what weighs him down so much. In fact, it’s characteristic of the Empath to pay more attention to others needs than his own.
Myth #2 – Empaths are mentally ill.
Truth – We are magnets of negative energy. This often creates psychological disbalance within us.
Empaths are excellent listeners, confidants, and counselors. For this reason, it’s common for people to be drawn towards their sincere and caring natures, almost like magnets. Therefore, Empaths often experience a lot of “emotional baggage dumping” from other people, and have difficult releasing themselves from the negative energy that remains in their minds and bodies afterwards.
Unfortunately, this can lead to a lot of lingering depressive emotions that the Empath is left with. Thus, the Empath can appear to be mentally ill and depressed, and in some cases legitimately is. However, in most cases the Empath is congested with remnants of harmful emotional energy, like sinuses are congested with mucus during a flu virus.
The root of the problem doesn’t lie with the Empath, it’s a result of their outer emotional climate.
Myth #3 – Empaths are psychologically frail.
Truth – We are biologically programmed to be more sensitive and in tune with our surrounding environment.
As Empath Nicole Lawler wrote, Empaths are essentially “walking around in this world with all the accumulated karma, emotions, and energy from others”. Understandably, this results in a lot of inner emotional tension for the Empath who is more prone to crying and exhibiting other signs of “weakness”.
Additionally, the Empath finds it extremely difficult to partake in many “normal” activities. For instance, watching a movie about Nazi concentration camps is extremely emotionally upsetting for the Empath, and getting a job in an office is overwhelming and tiring for the Empath who is bombarded with other people’s emotions constantly. Therefore, it’s not surprising that the Empath is often perceived as “wussy”, “frail” or “weak minded” to the person who fails to comprehend the constant pressure the Empath lives under.
The fact that most Empaths aren’t driven clinically insane by the constant emotional flux they experience is testimony enough to their mental strength.
Myth #4 – Empaths are lazy.
Truth – We often lack mental, emotional and physical energy due to our intense empathetic ability to understand others.
Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (CFS) amongst other physical issues like headaches, insomnia and Fibromyalgia, have all been commonly attributed to Empaths.
If our minds are constantly overloaded with stress, tension and pressure, it therefore translates that our bodies are as well. This often results in sicknesses such as the ones mentioned above. Thus Empaths often lack the energy and therefore desire to do many things, preferring to relax (including taking naps) instead.
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If you’ve experienced any of these misperceptions in your life, please feel free to share your experiences below. Also, feel free to take our Empath Test or read our empath book to get more in-depth guidance. Being an Empath can certainly be riddled with setbacks, however, it’s invaluable to remember how much of an asset you are to the world. Our planet needs a balance of both hard and industrious people, and soft and empathetic people. You form an important part in this great Universal Balance.
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There are are no types of empaths.. we harnass all the described qualities in us. But due to trauma and abuse which empaths experience a lot..some of the gifts ared covered with fear . But we have them all.
I’m nearly 40 and have been experiencing this for as long as I can remember. I have two unanswered questions. Firstly, how can I tell if a thought or emotion is authentically mine, or I am simply “tuned in” to someone else? Secondly, why can we do this?
The words at the beginning really attached me … My bf left me for being sensitive to weirdest things n I tried to let my emotions out in front of him .. bad experience tbh … But I’m happy rn cuz I understand that people generally don’t understand other’s emotions that well so I’ve given up on making people understand me
I can’t even begin to express how excited & free I feel now. I thought there was something wrong with me..
I feel most comfortable being close friends with people who are Empaths as well. I enjoy discussing deep emotions and being vulnerable. I don’t really care for having lots of followers on Instagram or what people think of me. I love helping people and want the people I’m closest friends with to be lifted up. Those that aren’t Empaths embrace it at first but eventually use that against me in the long run. I’m learning to create boundaries and to understand MOST people look at sensitivity as a weakness. That’s because it’s a belief THEY have from childhood. I was encouraged to allow myself to feel the emotions I was going through. A lot of times when I feel emotional, I now know it’s not necessarily something I’m personally going through. It’s usually a close friend or family member having issues and I’m feeling their sadness/stress/pain. I’m 35 and for many years used cannabis heavily thinking it was helping me. For the first time since I was 19 years old I haven’t smoked or used cannabis in any way in over 50 days. It’s helped me So much. I feel more grounded and am not setting myself up to be surrounded by those who choose self-destructive behaviors to overcome their issues. I’m noticing who my “real” friends are. It’s refreshing. We all encounter people throughout our life and it teaches us more about ourselves. A very close friend ended a relationship with me through text message saying “I was too sensitive” and I felt like she was going through something, she refused to discuss continuing our friendship in person. I gracefully thanked her for her honesty (even though I know she was having a problem with her loneliness and not being in an intimate relationship.) what this has taught me is to watch who I’m vulnerable and share my inner desires and secrets with. Not everyone allows themselves the gift of giving unconditional love. I’m grateful for the lesson I’ve learned and I feel I’m attracting better people in my life because of this realization.
I experience ALL OF THESE
I was shocked to read that empaths make up only 5% of the population! I assumed because I am an empath (or HSP) that there must be many more out there. Reading that 95% of the population isn’t empathic makes me feel a little relieved. I’ve always felt out of sorts with the majority of folks, assuming they are picking up on the same emotional cues that I see everywhere and yet they act like they don’t- and now I realize they actually don’t pick up on the same things I do. They don’t feel the way I do. Trying to fit in all these years has been a waste of time. I’m not the majority and trying to look normal is exhausting. Thank you for articles like this that give the 5% a place to feel we are not alone. All I heard growing up was that I was “too sensitive”. Here I find out it’s actually a rare superpower!
I too am amazed at %5…I think it is more however most completely bury it… Also I am positive that Empathy is Telepathy unperfected…My empathetic power grows expotentialy now that I have allowed and nourished my abilities and attained heart,mind,body coherence…
I am an Empath. I appreciate this content and wish to explore further accepting my natural abilities as a gift. Until recently, I just thought everyone felt the things I did and were better at managing it all. I have every sign, symptom and ability discussed here. It must be a gift if only 5 % of people have it. That shocked me. I thought it was many more because I know so many. Thank you very much for this information.
I just cant believe its only 5% . My children also are Empathetic as well. Does anyone else feel like we are a huge magnet ?
Thank from Laverne Dutka