There’s a worm addicted to eating grape leaves.
Suddenly he wakes up, call it grace, whatever, something wakes him, and he’s no longer a worm.
He’s the entire vineyard, and the orchard too, the fruit, the trunks, a growing wisdom and joy that doesn’t need to devour.
~ Rumi (“The Worm’s Waking”, The Essential Rumi)
For the past few years, we’ve been writing about Soul Ages as a way to explain the process of existential recurrence – our individual lives rippling through eternity.
Once we’ve accepted the nature of our soul’s existence, there are a few important questions that are raised. What is the purpose of reincarnation? What are our Soul’s evolving toward? And as we mature in soul age, why do we feel a growing urge to “return back home”?
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What Is Reincarnation?
The first aspect that must be understood is that ‘reincarnation‘ is a word that embodies many different ideologies. Ancient cultures all around the world have believed in reincarnation since the dawn of time, and a few major religious systems have incorporated the idea into their teachings (e.g. Jainism, Buddhism and Hinduism).
Reincarnation of an ‘individual self’ is only as possible to the extent of believing that your sense of ‘self’ – your ego – is real.
Two identities who are dwelling within two different physical bodies in the present, or in the past, will be two very distinct personalities. Our personalities are, to a large extent, determined by our environmental conditioning and physical genetics. Traits such as Introversion or being a Highly Sensitive Person, for example, are determined by our physical biology’s, while traits such as shyness, self-esteem, ideologies and neuroticism are the result of environmental psychological conditioning.
In truth, the ‘I‘ is a transitioning, ever-changing phenomenon. We can easily prove this by catching up with a friend that we haven’t seen for 30 years – both you and your friend will not be the same person as you both were in the past. ‘I‘ is a transitioning, ever-changing phenomenon.
Although our identities and senses of self are ever-changing, there is something that remains the same. There is something within us that is constant and continuous, and that is pure awareness. It is this very pure awareness which serves as the experiencer and observer of life, and it is this pure awareness that we can refer to as our Soul.
This understanding of reincarnation closely resembles that of the Buddhist idea that the continuity continues, but the individual disappears. But how can a religion like Buddhism that doesn’t believe in the soul believe in reincarnation? I believe the answer is that it was to prevent us from creating an ego identification with our “Souls”. The Buddhist idea of the Soul can be compared to the following analogy: You light a candle in the evening and leave it over night. When you go to blow it out in the morning can you say that it is the same flame that you had ignited in the previous evening? It is not the same flame, and yet somehow it is connected.
In this way, Buddhism understands our soul’s as an energy, or an ever-burning flame. However, in order to prevent identification with it, they didn’t refer to it as a “Soul”.
As we mature in soul age we come to understand the wisdom in this Buddhist teaching. The moment you start identifying with present or past life identities is the moment you begin creating a division between yourself and the world around you – and it is this that is the root of all disharmony in the world.
Why Do We Reincarnate?
So if we aren’t the same person who is reincarnating over and over again – why do many people have memories of these ‘past lives’?
Jungian psychology did a wonderful job in exploring the existence of the Collective Unconscious – a concept that Jung believed individual memories dwell in from past lives:
“In addition to our immediate consciousness, which is of a thoroughly personal nature and which we believe to be the only empirical psyche (even if we tack on the personal unconscious as an appendix), there exists a second psychic system of a collective, universal, and impersonal nature which is identical in all individuals. This collective unconscious does not develop individually but is inherited. It consists of pre-existent forms, the archetypes, which can only become conscious secondarily and which give definite form to certain psychic contents.”
Freud referred to these karmic leftovers as “archaic remnants“, or mental fragments whose presence cannot be explained by anything in the individual’s life, but rather appear to be primal, innate, and inherited shapes of the human mind. The grandfather of psychology William James also shared his perspective, stating: “As our spiritual being is amplified here on earth and as we grow in age and experience, we become more conscious of this vaster world all around us, and when we die it is only to enter into an enlarged capacity.“
Essentially, the Collective Unconscious is formed of a pool of memories that some individuals, through the purification of awareness or evolution of their soul ages, have tapped in to, being able to remember events of a person’s life hundreds, and sometimes thousands, of years ago.
Past memories serve us in our journeys of self-exploration as ways to learn and grow.
The idea is that as we grow in soul maturity, the souls who have applied enough Soulful Energy in their lives will be able to remember the patterns of foolish and destructive behavior repeated in the past to correct, learn and move forward from. For example: In a past life we might have been poor and spent all our life pursuing money, but once we achieved riches, we realized how empty the pursuit left us and how pointless it all was. The memory of this can prevent us from making the same mistake in our present life, and this is precisely what the Buddhist ‘Wheel of Life‘ illustrates.
As long as we keep dying feeling unfulfilled from this life, as long as we keep dying carrying our superficial desires and expectations that create misery and suffering for ourselves and others, and as long as we continue to identify with our false senses of ‘self’ – we will continue to return to this world until we reach fulfillment.
Our reincarnation is a necessary process of refining our soul, of liberating ourselves from unfulfillment and of assisting us in quenching our spiritual thirst.
Why Do We Feel Like We Need to “Return Home”?
It is during this process of our soul evolution that we mature and begin to feel alien and isolated in this world. Suddenly, everything feels flat, barren and dry, and we struggle immensely to connect in relationships with other people. This is when we develop the deep longing to return back to our “true home” – to our divinity or conscious womb – the place where we feel we belong, and where we finally feel whole again.
At first, it may seem like a terrible experience to go through the ordeals we go through in this life – and this is often referred to as the Dark Night of the Soul. But when we begin to ‘grow up’ spiritually, we start to understand that a spiritual awakening is not about having blissful experiences but is about serving a much higher and more profound cause: the collective growth of the human race. This is something we as individuals can never be separate from.
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The last reincarnation is the one where we awaken, where we join opposites, where we transcend separation and duality and become whole so as to truly become responsible.
The ‘Awakened Soul’ is the final step – the progression of the Old Soul who has undergone immense spiritual work. It is impossible to awaken completely all at once – we must first begin to awaken for short moments, hence the necessity for Old Souls.
To awaken is only possible for those who seek it and want it – for those who are ready to struggle with themselves and work on themselves and developing their authenticity for a very long time in order to attain it. Most people will say that they are spiritual, and that they meditate or do yoga every now and then, but as Buddha put it:
You must want to free yourself from dukkha (suffering) as if your hair was on fire!
Most soul ages will not have such a strong desire and will not be ready to die in order to find truth.
And this is what an Awakened Soul is: their false identity has died (this is the Buddhist concept of ‘being in the world, but not of it‘), they have opened the final door, they have seen through the falsity of the world, and a unity has been revealed that encompasses all beings and transcends all boundaries. Mystics in every religious system in every culture and in every age have reported this to be the highest truth. Jesus, another Awakened Soul, would teach this as ‘blessed are the poor in spirit’, an emptiness that results from being freed of all encumbrances and tethers to one’s past.
In fact, just as the unconscious works on a collective scale, so also does ‘awakening’ occur in waves of collective awareness. Some Awakened Souls who were contemporaries could be found in India such as Gautama Buddha, Mahavira, Makkhali Gosala, Ajita Kesakambali – who were all spreading the same message, while in China there was Confucius, Lao Tzu, Mencius, Chuang Tzu, Lieh Tzu and in Greece Socrates, Plato, Aristotle, Heraclitus and Pythagoras who were all contributors. One of the most comforting statements ever made by Socrates was: “No evil can befall a good man in this life or in the next.“
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I’m not sure about this article …
I think I’m in the awakening process, and I am an old soul. But I’m unsure what will happen when I die in this life …
I think, I either will leave this world forever or stay until the last human is gone. I don’t know why … but I want to be on this world until it’s end, but I know that this world is not wonderful and I have my problems with it … I simply don’t know.
In another time and place, in the early part of our relationship, my husband and I were viewing a movie where, in a elevator, a man turns to the woman and says, “you complete me.” My husband said that (what the guy said) was “neat”. I said, oh, no, and was abhorred, and explained to him why. Towards the end of our time together this time around, on forms that said occupation, he put for himself: avid tree watcher, and for me, child of the universe, because nothing external defines my existence. I recently opened an account at a bank and child of the universe was listed as my occupation. I totally agree with Joanne. And I really enjoy the discussion with you and Bryan. When an extremely good friend died and I was left with everything, I somehow started dating the owner of my friend’s apartment building. I did not listen to my intuition, and dated this man two or three times. Deciding not to go further, I told him, “remember when you told me that all you needed to be happy, was a woman?” He said, “yes.” I said, “well, all I need to be happy is me.”… Read more »
I do not see your comment as cruel,but a wake up call, my friend =) Like I said in my previous discussion, I have learned a lot within those 2 months. I had learnt it in the harshest of ways. You are correct. Women detest weakness in men. my depression had made me a shell of my former self. I admit most of what happened in that part of my life is my own fault, but I cannot cry over spilled milk right? I have to move on and find inner peace within myself. I am already doing most of what you have suggested, all I can say is it’s not easy. My road to improvement is going to be a long and slow journey. But, It’s better than not improving at all. Let’s just say I am near the exit of my soul loss experience. Right now I am doing what I can to find inner happiness. I have been helping a lot of my friends who were having the same experience as I had. I make sure I won’t let them experience the full force of depression. I am back to what I do best. Be the voice… Read more »
I have search heavily on the net on why I feel very old in this life time. I also yearn to go home. I question myself many times that whatever I do, the only way for me to be happy is to find the twin flame that had separated from me ( please don’t judge) – a millennium ago. I feel I had been reincarnated too many times and had been desperate for completeness that feels like an eternity to achieve from finding my half and I am starting to feel drained and feel like giving up.I am still seeking answers on how I can be complete. I just feel that this is my final life cycle. I am seeking help from people who are like me on how they deal with their final cycle and how they can at least be happy on what they have. I don’t seek wealth or any materialism… I just know I have been suffering for the lot of my life time here.
I want to be whole again. and this time, forever.
I do feel the same since I was born, the sense of not belonging a strange in a strange island sourrended of people whom I can not related but you learn to get along with them, to love them, to give support when they need and ask for. For me it was painful being the way I am but now a days I asumed myself, my reality and now I see everithing as a learning process in which I can contribute at least a little bit if people let me by giving them some advice or support. Now I know that we are not alone we are here for a purpuse of being better human beings help us by helping others.
Well done! Thank you. Always enjoy reading your articles, thoughts and any information you know on such topics. Reincarnation or life after death is interesting. There’s never a time when you can’t learn something new and get a bit of wisdom.
Really liked this mateo
that probably explains why my many dreams were of other lands, peoplex weather etc were actually flashbacks of my past lives
I believe that your article speaks the truth and enlightens my understanding of the Truth
I woke up in 2013 it was the best 30 day month of my entire life!!!!
The important thing to realise is that much of the ego/individual is false thought-fabric. The energy that fills and creates our being is one with the world around us. What we emit, we also receive. Therefore there is a universal consciousness that inhabits all living creatures, and as people we act as one with all in our world. What we give and what we take, we do to/for the universal energy that shapes our world and living as much as we do to/for ourselves. The individual energy within us is, therefore, while precious, not the main determining factor in our lives, and, furthermore, not entirely individual in itself. Like clouds that are shaped and formed as they float, so are our individual energies directly influenced by the world around us, our universal consciousness, and by each other’s energies directly. Therefore things are not black and white: we have an individuality in our soul, but that individuality is part of a larger fabric, and while the core of it may be more or less constant, the outer layers of it are ever-changing. The purpose of reaching enlightenment is to understand and be able to contribute to the fabric of our world… Read more »
I don’t know how much of an old soul I am but before my daughter was born 2 years ago, well before I was pregnant I was just so tired of everything that sometimes I wished I could sleep forever. I was never depressed though and basically happy with my simple life. Now that I am a mom, that has changed. It’s almost as if this is why I am here. I don’t work and I put all my time and effort into her. I almost try to get as much time as possible with her because of this scary fear I have. I don’t know if this is because I am a mother but I think she is my soulmate and that I would die without her.
Although Im around many people ,I have always been a loner…. At times , I dont question, I observe, and come up with conclusion as to why people say or do things that doesnt make sence to me.. … But, I always seek knowledge and the truth…Im unsure of why our exsistence is on this earth… I deeply care, show compassion, and have empathy for people, to a certain point… ( what I mean by this is, I can see who is taking advantage) like, I see the bigger picture…. I base my descisions on knowledge of what is right, justifiable, and the truth… Im always deep in thought… I crave intelectual people, books, magazines anything that is knowledgable.. Does this make me an old soul…