Your life is a living hell.
No matter what you do, no matter where you go, there’s the unshakeable feeling within you that you’re pathetic, worthless, ugly, stupid, and a total failure at everything.
You may achieve something, and you may be given love and affection, but you brush it off because of the toxic shame filled self-loathing voice within you that whispers:
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Who do you think you are? You’re no one. You’re not good enough. You’ll never be good enough. Stop fooling yourself, you f*cking idiot.
Can you relate to this incessant feeling of self-loathing and self-hatred?
Do you feel like, no matter what you do, you’re unimportant, inferior, unwanted, broken, hopeless, useless, ridiculous, and unlovable?
I have been there before.
In fact, my self-hatred at one point was so intense that I resorted to self-harm in order to cope with it. For many years, I was trapped in the prison of my mind, and it was a horrific experience – something that many people cannot even begin to understand.
The truth is that there’s no quick, one-size-fits-all solution for self-loathing. But there are many ways to overcome it. And the fact that you’re here is already one step in the right direction toward self-love and self-compassion.
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Self-Loathing Definition
Self-loathing is synonymous with self-hatred: it’s an extreme dislike of oneself. It’s fuelled by anger, low self-esteem, and a distorted perception of oneself due to misguided thoughts and toxic self-beliefs. In most cases, self-loathing is the result of having a dysfunctional upbringing.
Hating Yourself: 3 Reasons Why It Happens
Hating yourself sucks. And it’s more complex than it looks on the surface.
In order to overcome your self-loathing, you need to understand why it happens and where it came from.
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There are three main factors at the root of hating yourself:
- Poor family environment
- Poor social environment
- Ego possession and soul loss
1. Poor family environment
Firstly, there is the poor family environment. When we’re raised in a family that is either (a) too smothering and possessive or (b) too neglectful and rejecting of us – or in some cases, both combined – we internalize the idea that there’s something defective or wrong with us. Why else would our parents or family members behave in that way? Why else would they harm us? Mommy and Daddy are meant to love us, right?
You see, as young children, we needed to see our parents in an almost godlike way. To us, they needed to be right, safe, and infallible because if we mistrusted them, it would have been very hard for us to survive (emotionally, mentally, and in some cases physically).
Therefore, instead of critically analyzing and condemning our parents (which young children don’t have the cognitive capacity to do), we turned the blame onto ourselves. We felt there was something wrong with us. We felt that we were wrong, bad, and shameful for the way our parents and family members treated us. We took the blame for something they did wrong.
Thus, we have one major cause of self-loathing: it’s based on the misguided core belief that we adopted as children that there’s something fundamentally wrong with us.
As psychoanalyst and philosopher Alice Miller writes:
The love a child has for his or her parents ensures that their conscious or unconscious acts of mental cruelty will go undetected.
Author and therapist Anodea Judith goes on to explain:
Since we usually identify with our caretakers and their values, the way they treat us teaches us about our value as human beings. We take on their attitudes toward us. Abuse makes us feel unlovable, and feeling defective only adds to our shame. Unlovable, we are no longer in touch with our divinity, our specialness, our validity as human beings. Convinced that the fault lies in some intrinsic flaw, to which we are blind and helpless, we abandon ourselves.
2. Poor social environment
Building on top of a poor family environment is a poor social environment. And you don’t have to look very deep into society before you come across some really nasty shit.
Other than the typical cases of bullying we see in schools, our childhood social environments that were outside of the house may have reinforced our self-loathing even more through the harmful effects of social media conditioning and the obsessive toxic comparison with others.
If you were alive before the rise of social media and internet usage, you might have come across critical and shame-driven teachers or education systems that made you feel worthless or inferior if you didn’t meet their standards of success.
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Any experience or environment that reinforced the false idea that “there’s something wrong with you” likely deepened the amount of self-loathing you held. And if you’ve ever read into basic psychology, you’ll know that the mind likes patterns, so you’ll eventually find yourself in a bubble full of confirmation bias where you’re constantly looking out for and receiving validation that you’re worthless. This pattern occurs because it appeases the mind’s need to control and understand life.
(It’s the exact same bubble algorithm that social media networks like Facebook use – except self-loathing plays with your entire life, on-screen and off-screen.)
3. Ego possession and soul loss
Finally, we come to the core issue at the heart of all self-loathing: soul loss. This term may cause you to roll your eyes or feel confused – but hear me out.
We are all born with no sense of “me,” “my,” and “I.” As babies, we are ego-less and at One with the Universe. But as we grow older, in order to survive in this world, we need to separate ourselves to build a sense of self. To construct an ego.
This basic separation from the Universe, from the Divine, is at the root of all self-loathing. We can only hate ourselves when there is someone to hate. Without that someone, without that ego, there is no self-loathing and, therefore, no suffering. (By the way, this state of egolessness has been referred to as heaven, Self-realization, Nirvana, illumination, enlightenment, and so on for thousands of years.)
Soul loss occurs when we get so enmeshed and immersed in our fabricated egos that we feel totally disconnected from anything good, meaningful, or real. Instead, we feel empty, lost, hopeless, and in many cases, full of self-loathing.
The good news is that you can experience this for yourself – you don’t have to believe one iota of what I’m saying. The gateway to experiencing the reality that your sense of “you” is not real is through meditation.
If you’d like to take a tentative step in this direction, I recommend practicing mindfulness meditation and downloading a free app like InsightTimer (which is what I use). There are thousands of free meditations on this app, and to help narrow your focus, you might like to start with the self-compassion or self-observation meditations that are available.
Later in this article, I’ll explore how to prevent your ego from possessing you. But in the meantime, you might like to open in a new tab or browser window the following articles to read later:
15 Signs You’re Struggling With Self-Loathing
How can it be “happy hour” if I spend the entire time crying tears of self-loathing & despair into my $1.50 beer?
– Unknown
Are you struggling with self-loathing? Pay attention to these signs – some of them are surprising and lesser-known than the others:
- Extremely harsh self-talk (“I’m stupid,” “I’m worthless,” etc.).
- Depression and anxiety.
- Feeling chronically insecure around others.
- Slouched or poor posture.
- Neglecting your body and health.
- Self-sabotage and self-destructive behavior (aka., not allowing yourself to be happy).
- Anger issues.
- Refusing compliments, advice, or help.
- Self-isolation.
- Addictions or addictive tendencies.
- Having a martyr complex.
- Feeling like a victim all the time.
- Defeatist mindsets like “What’s the point,” “I can’t do this,” and “This is hopeless.”
- Hopelessness.
- Aimlessness.
All of these behaviors and tendencies inevitably result in, and are caused by, self-loathing.
Self-Loathing, Spiritual Awakening, and the Dark Night of the Soul
Sometimes, experiencing self-loathing is a sign that you’re going through a Dark Night of the Soul, which is essentially the shadow side of the spiritual awakening process, a typically uncomfortable but expansive journey of transformation.
When we undergo a Dark Night of the Soul, we feel abandoned by God or Spirit, we carry an inner feeling of emptiness and aloneness, and we have the sense that we’re totally cut off from the Divine.
The Dark Night is also accompanied by existential questions such as “What is the meaning of my life?” “Why do good people suffer?“ and “Who am I?”
It’s common to do a lot of Soul searching during the Dark Night and to feel disconnected from our True Nature, our place in the world, and our life purpose. The result is often a feeling of existential depression and feeling alone and isolated from everyone and everything.
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If your self-loathing seems to have a deeper dimension to it beyond just a self-worth issue, you might like to learn more about the Dark Night of the Soul.
7 Ways to Overcome Self-Loathing and Stop Hating Yourself
How has it come about that we are so bewitched by our self-hatred, so impressed and credulous in the face of our self-criticism, as unimaginative as it usually is? … Self-criticism, when it isn’t useful in the way any self-correcting approach can be, is self-hypnosis. It is judgement as spell, or curse, not as conversation; it is an order, not a negotiation; it is dogma, not overinterpretation.
– Adam Phillips
By now, a sense of frustration, desperation, or grief may be welling up inside of you.
Not only do you feel tormented by your self-loathing, but you also feel victimized by it as well.
Well, the truth is that you are being victimized by your self-hatred. But you don’t have to stay a victim forever.
You’ve already taken the first step in the direction of health and well-being without even knowing it. (Well done, by the way.) Next, it’s time to step out of the role of victim and into the role of warrior.
Here are some powerful ways of overcoming self-loathing.:
1. Get the hell off social media
You heard me. Take a break, or detox, from social media – and set your goal for 30 days. If that seems too long, try one week with no social media. I’m talking no Facebook, no Instagram, no TikTok, and no YouTube – none of it!
If you have to uninstall a hoard of apps, do it. If you have to shove your laptop under the bed in a locked vault, do it. Go hermit mode. Say sayōnara to the constant notification dings and stream of other people’s mental vomit. You’ll be happy you made this choice!
The reason why I advise you to get the hell off social media is that it tends to reinforce self-loathing through a phenomenon known as toxic comparison.
When we go on social media, we see a finely curated version of other people’s lives. We see what others want us to see, not what is actually going on under the surface. And we then compare our lives to those picture-perfect versions of other people’s realities. As a result, we start to get anxious, depressed, and full of self-loathing. Doesn’t that suck?
“Why can’t I be that slim/ripped?” we may lament as we scroll through endless pictures of chiseled bodies in bizarre yoga poses. “Their house/boyfriend/wife/holidays/life is so amazing, and mine … sucks.”
Can you see where all this leads? Yes, we begin to feel horrible about ourselves and our lives.
So please distance yourself from social media. It should be classified as a Class A Substance because of its addictive potential and negative side effects.
By the way, according to many studies, people who take a break from social media report feeling happier, more relaxed, and more productive. So take comfort in that and use this information to motivate you to turn off and tune out.
2. Do one kind thing for yourself every day
It doesn’t matter what that one nice action is, do something, anything that is well-intentioned toward yourself.
For example, this one kind of action may involve putting on an extra jacket when you feel cold, making yourself a healthy breakfast, going to bed early, taking a walk in nature, or having a warm bubble bath. Just make sure that you’re consciously doing it with the right intention, which is to show kindness toward yourself.
Doing one good thing for yourself every day can feel weird at first. If it does, take a minute to note down those feelings and responses in a journal.
In fact, if you’re stuck for ideas, I recommend journaling every day. If you don’t know how to approach journaling, see my How to Start Journaling article.
You may also like to get our guided Self-Love Journal which can be tremendously supportive on your journey to recovering from self-loathing.
3. Creatively express your self-loathing
Art is a powerful healing practice that will help you come to terms with how self-loathing is influencing you.
One powerful art practice is to get a big sheet of blank paper and a few colored pens and draw yourself as the self-loathing part of you perceives you. Then, get another piece of paper and draw yourself as a genuinely loving and compassionate person would see you.
Compare the two drawings. How do they make you feel? What memories or thoughts arise? You may like to write these down on the back of each drawing.
If you get a lot out of this practice, you might like to look into the field of art therapy more in-depth. (See this article on art therapy for more guidance.)
4. Explore the question, “Does my environment support me?”
In other words, do your friends support you? Do your colleagues support you? Does your work, family, or study environment support you?
When I write “support you,” what I really mean is, do these people and environments uphold and uplift you?
If you feel loved and accepted exactly the way you are, you are in a supportive environment.
If, on the other hand, you’re surrounded by people who belittle, condemn, or frequently reject you, you’re in an environment that reinforces self-loathing. Such a situation is toxic, and in the interest of your health and happiness, I strongly advise you to do some heavy-duty “spring cleaning” and remove these people from your life if possible – or distance yourself as much as possible.
It can feel scary to change friends, jobs, and habits. It can feel daunting to stand up and make a change – despite what the harsh and critical voice in your head says. But you have a warrior inside of you, and you have the right to be happy and to live a life that supports you.
So do some thinking. Assess your life right now. Plan escape routes. Seek out those who uphold and uplift you. It may take some time, but it is so worth doing. Neglecting this practice is like trying to build a castle on top of a swamp: it’s unstable. Any changes you make will be undermined by those around you if you aren’t careful. So choose your company wisely.
5. Explore your core beliefs (and reframe them)
Your core beliefs are the central convictions or strongly held ideas that you have about yourself. Everything else in your life – your habits, behaviors, self-talk, job choices, friends, partners – will revolve around these central beliefs. And if these beliefs are negative, beware! So much pain and suffering in life stems from our toxic core beliefs.
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$3Common negative core beliefs include:
- “I am bad.”
- “I am worthless.”
- “I am unlovable.”
- “I am defective.”
In my article on core beliefs (which I strongly encourage you to read), I show you how to get to the root of these central convictions and uncover your core beliefs.
Once you have found your core belief, it’s then essential to reframe and reprogram it. So, for example, if your core belief is “I am unlovable,” then you would hold as your mantra something like “I am lovable,” or “I am worthy of love.”
This affirmation can be repeated endlessly throughout the day whenever a thought or feeling of self-loathing arises. Slowly, you will shift your core belief from being toxic and negative to being healthy and positive.
6. Commit to self-love and self-care
Self-love and self-care are commitments and attitudes we bring into our lives. When we walk the path of self-love, we are taking every opportunity we can to take care of ourselves – no matter what happens or who happens to hurt us.
What’s the difference between self-love and self-care, you may wonder? Well, self-love is more directed toward the heart and mind. Self-care, on the other hand, is more body-oriented.
Ultimately, the goal is to take care of all levels of your being (your body, heart, mind, and soul). That’s why I recommend you read our articles on how to love yourself and how to practice self-care as key places to start.
7. Take care of your soul (mindfulness + meditation)
As I mentioned above, soul loss is at the very root of self-loathing. When we are disconnected from the Divine – in whatever form that is to us – we feel empty, dead, and lost inside.
The easiest way to re-establish a connection with your soul is through mindfulness and meditation.
Mindfulness reconnects you with the present moment, which is where all the magic happens, and meditation helps you to move past your ego and experience your soul.
Mindfulness and meditation also help you to deal with self-loathing thoughts by becoming aware of them. Once you become aware of these self-hating thoughts, you become an observer of them rather than being lost in them. It’s kind of like the difference between being in a dramatic movie versus sitting back in the movie theater and watching the movie in a relaxed manner.
If you don’t meditate already, I encourage you to download an app like InsightTimer, Headspace, or Calm. There are thousands of free meditations on these apps, and I guarantee that you’ll find something that resonates with you after browsing for a couple of minutes.
One of the greatest discoveries I’ve made is that mindfulness and meditation can be practiced anytime, anywhere, and with anything. The beauty is that it can become a way of life, a constant doorway to freedom from suffering. And that is the true beauty of practices such as these.
Hating Yourself is Based on a Simple Misunderstanding
In conclusion, I want to highlight the simple truth that hating yourself is based on a fundamental misunderstanding about your worth.
At the root of self-loathing is the belief that there’s something intrinsically wrong, bad, or defective about you. But that isn’t so.
You are worthy of love. You are worthy of being seen. You are worthy of being held.
You are a child of the Universe, and you are here for a reason.
Who has the right to say otherwise? (Answer: No one.)
The only way you can truly understand this for yourself is to start your own spiritual journey – to be the rebel, the lone wolf that revolts against your thoughts and the ego that likes to make you feel worthless.
It is your birthright to pave your own path, blaze your own trail in life, and refuse to be tamed by your conditioning.
It’s time to step up and reclaim your self-sovereignty.
Will you accept the call?
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Thank you beautiful soul and sister. I deeply appreciate your work and am thankful you’re here. Aho.
This was meant to be a general comment not a specific reply by the way :)
This arrival holds so much value, thank you for the information and the clarity of the subject.
Thank you so much for your knowledge and guidance.
I come from a bipolar father and an abusive mother.
Besides suffering Major Depression, I ended up marrying an abusive man who triggered terrible panic attacks.
I said I wanted to die for the first time under a thunderstorm when I was 8 years old.
Today I am 51 and survived 1 suicide attempt.
I’ve been taking SSRI antidepressants/ anxiety medication but my self loathing and self hatred are always there.
I really appreciate this article because it clearly tells me the pills won’t work for that.
It is me who needs to have the courage to work towards self love and kill the enemy=demon=ego
Do you guys at loner wolf offer any kind of soul loss healing?
I think my soul is fragmented.
Also, May I ask what your thoughts are about clearing Karma through the Akashic Records? Thank you❤️
In Love&Light
The path to healing a damaged soul is a lifelong journey. One we have to travel alone. My thoughts are that most everyone has to do it, we just don’t realize it. We tend to think that we are the only ones to suffer the affliction, when nothing could be further from the truth. For me, the path to self-love is an ongoing never ending lesson. There is always some to way, some aspect that I can learn to be a more admirable and loving human being. I’ve learned the mere act of standing up straight with shoulders back and head held high can give me the countenance and grace of a Queen. In my kingdom, I am the Queen who leads by example. I’ve learned that in order to love yourself and others, you first and foremost must honor and respect yourself and those around you. Few realize that as you do to others, you do to yourself, that true beauty is more than skin deep. Loving yourself is to walk in grace and beauty, in humility and gratitude. It’s a kind of deep knowing and owning who you are from every aspect of your being. To get here you will need peace and solitude, lots of patience and forgiveness, like in every healing situation. You cut the distractions, the noise, the vexations, everything that plagues you and pushes your buttons. You will find that no matter how much you love someone, that if they cross boundaries you set and hold fast to, they will have to go because it’s your life, not theirs and you are worth it. You learn to walk in faith, in perfect balance, grounded in unbreakable trust in something greater than yourself. You become a warrior, scarred and battered by life’s slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, and yet each experience makes you stronger in your will to not just survive, but to thrive. For years I often thought of myself as less than, and then one day, my mother, the one who had inflicted the most damage, let it slip that she thought my life path was rich with experience and accomplishments. I l became enlightened to the fact that she was jealous. I understood finally and could forgive her failings. None of us is perfect and each of us is learning in our own way and at our own pace. It hurts no one to condemn and hold grudges, except yourself, so you learn to let go and let God. It was then that I made an actual tally of all the jobs I’d worked, things I’d done, places I’d traveled, things I learned, and things I’d accomplished and I was truly amazed at how so very very rich I had become. This set me on the road to recovery, to reclaiming my power, to integrating my self-hood. None of it has been done over night, but in increments along the way. With each step I took I learned to be who I am and embrace both the dark and the light. I’ve learned to forgive those who transgress against me, for they too fight their own battles and seek healing, no doubt some inflicted by me. I’ve learned that I’m not perfect, but no one else is either. I’ve learned that by loving myself and embracing all my pimples, I can love others. The name of the game is Learning to Love. Love isn’t just for some. It really is for every one, even ourselves.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I really found your words relatable and they really helped me to connect to the big love inside me that I so long and ache to feel again. For a moment I got to taste the pure love I do have for myself and it serves as a very encouraging reminder that I can do this and that I’m on the right path. It helps me see the brightness in my future. Thank you.
I’ve read all the comments here with much interest. I’m going to say something that will probably be judged as self deluded but I feel it is worth saying. So how about if you know you are a nice person and you actually do like/love yourself but that instead of the world reflecting that back to you, instead you often find to your dismay that people are indifferent or don’t see you or have some agenda. Let’s also say that you are not a total people pleaser and have a healthy amount of independence, are able to so No, etc. And that there is nothing about your appearance that is detracting. When you are friendly it is genuine, not artificial. I’m a HSP empath and this has been the majority of my experiences with other people. The only thing I’m “guilty” of is being a little shy, being a deep person, and that I keep hoping people would talk about topics that really are interesting.
So far so good. But unfortunately I had a toxic upbringing. My mother was a narcissist so I never felt seen, mirrored or validated. They were also alcoholics and my father was distant and there was also covert incest. They aren’t alive now. I’m doing therapy to help resolve some of those old issues. My golden child bother has some of their characteristics and he recently invalidated me about what I felt while growing up which has been very triggering to the point that I feel I will have to initiate low contact.
Then starting right off the bat there were intervals of bullying in school or just feeling invisible. There was no real reason why I deserved this kind of treatment. Of course, narc mothers set up their daughters for low self-esteem. But I had a curious and independent mind as long as I can remember so that has helped me keep me resilient etc. I also knew from an early age that my mother wasn’t right in the head and that the treatment I was getting had evilness to it.
So, one could say, I must be somehow unconsciously projecting this stuff onto the world even though there really isn’t anything about me that stands out as unlikeable. (Sure we all have unlikeable traits but I’m speaking generally.) All I can say is that sometimes when I’m feeling low, like right now, it hurts very deeply. I don’t project a cloud of victimization about me (apart from bad spells when I’m dealing with issues).
On the bright side, I’m happily married to someone who has had a similar experience. And thank God for youtube – there are lots of enlightened and helpful channels and commenters I feel a connection with and it feels like they are part of my tribe. We live in a small city so there are severe limits to groups/interests that match ours. Example: say an introvert group, or an MBTI personality group – nope, have to drive a few hours to a big city for that. But I haven’t lost hope about that, maybe a new group might start. Due to my past experiences, these days I feel that the only people I will be able to connect with are those who have been working on similar issues or have emotional intelligence.
I read thich nhat Hahn’s book “peace is every step”. A sample quote: there is no way to peace, peace is the way”
It changed my life.
A song I would say sums up my thoughts this evening is the lion king one “We are One”. (This song actually came to mind after reading the cool article called 9 stages of self-realisation on this website :)
This was meant to be a general comment not a specific reply by the way :)
I found this website by accident but I’m really grateful that I did! I’ve started a journey to recovery and this is just what I needed to keep me going!
Ive been affected by a chronic medical condition, the side effects of the medicine, being on government programs, and not much job history. I do not like the capitalist, materialistic values so prevalent in society nor atheistic, self-centered philosophies promoting “fulfillment” and “enlightenment”.
I’m not much interested in the materialistic system either (nor atheism or self-absorbed spirituality). That’s why the spiritual path is only really ‘spiritual,’ in my opinion, when it’s doing a great service to others.
Amen. Love has to be present.
Kevin also have medical conditions that do flare up and make think what the heck am I doing being alive in such a delapidated body. It has robbed me of being what I wanted to be doing as I have wanted to become and eaten away at much over the yrs. But I have learned a new way around everything and that is self worth.I am worthy of my self in any shape or condition and that’s all that counts. I am not running a marathon of competitions. I endure snide remarks even from certain drs who are belived more than myself. I have a big upset towards the government the establishment the world and the way it is going and taking away from what little I already have.No pensions no ira no 401K nothing but the measely check I get every mth which barely sees me through the times when I want something special..I have to plan when to flush my toilet bunch coloreds and whites together in laundry and do it once a mth turn off the flow to one toilet to prevent a leak from eating up my”play” money that I feel with all the increases and plans going on behind my back(and many others) of taking more money from my check. Work experience I have but can not afford the clothes I need to go for the jons in person and hesitate whether I am doing the right thing..I abhor the pres T and I do not believe in my life time this country will be saved or fixed from the destructions this narcissitc self loathing Yes he is self loathed bean head..I am so riled up by our system of government and how the poor and disabled get the shaft all the time unless they too have the money to climb out of their holes..I understand completely your anger and I am along side you you are not alone..BUT the one thing that remains of me is the help I want to give others. The ways in which I CAN help others the intensity of doing that getting outside my own anger I do not self loath myself..I used to. But for now I am worth one hell of a lot when I look at what human race has become I am ahead of the game and it is a game Kevin. Create your own game..Be the boss in your game.There are ways you can let the anger leak out and away so you can see you are the boss and noone can take away your self!NOONE! All you have to do is care about your inner self and step outside your self and see what you are with all that anger bottled up inside and how it deprives you of a wonderful life you can re create without devoting so much time to being pissed off..I ahd to do it.It was NO fun at all and I am still growing..learning..the only thing Kevin is you have to do the work your self and that’s hard. You can talk to 5 millions people but eventually it comes to YOU. LIsten to your inner self sort out things write them down and see what you can really change..what you need to get used to and so on..I care. I care because I do not see a loser or someone too beat up by the system to re invent themselves You now have the time to pursue things that you never had the time to do before illness and anger. You can now take advantage of this time and create…make a self plan.a list of things you once wanted to do.wood carving painting drawing doodling music reading theorizing walk in the path of Mother nature and grow..A new seed has been planted in you when illness came upon you. Water it when you can look ay it..its you..If you are hurt or upset by what I say then I am glad because I struck a truth nerve in you and planted a seed you are now responsible for. Show me you can grow this thing!!! Its YOOU dear heart its you…
Kindness and love and yes you too will become enlightened it works its no joke no illusion no phoney crap to fill the time in no strike against you no government controled project it is all to be done on your terms inside your own self take the plunge..
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Well said, Martin! <3 And thank you for sharing this with us! It means a lot. :)
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