Let me start with the facts: I used to be really into the idea of twin flames.ย
In fact, I was so intrigued by the idea that not only did I write some of the most highly read articles on the internet about it, but I also created a 20,000+ member Facebook group on it, AND I co-wrote an entire book about it that accumulated over one hundred 4.5 star reviews on Amazon.
Someone the other week even commented that I was โyou know, the twin flame authority on the internet,โ for which I immediately cringed because thatโs certainly not what I want to be known for (but Mindful Shadow Work or the Spiritual Awakening Process? Yes please).ย
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Having started my romantic relationship before the whole twin flame craze back on the 11th of November 2011 (yeah, I know, 11.11.11, one of many โtwin flame numbersโ), on some level, it once felt like destiny for me to write about twin flames. Love, after all, has been such a transformative catalyst for me that I wanted to share my journey with others.
But very rapidly, I started to realize that not only did I have no passion for continuing down the twin flame road, but the path actually nauseated me, and I began seeing more and more how the idea could be toxic and easily misused.
While I attempted to provide some kind of grounded and psychospiritual understanding of this twin flame concept in the book I authored, the message just didnโt get through. Instead, I would witness over and over again how such an idea could be used to justify narcissistic, codependent, and otherwise toxic relationships.ย
And thatโs just the tip of the iceberg.
You canโt build a stable foundation upon an idea propagated by the new age movement that is defined by push-and-pull psychodrama dynamics, so Iโve had to let it go โ and all the many hours of work Iโve put into it through the years.
Needless to say, Iโve since taken this entirely off my plate, handed the twin flame Facebook group over to someone else,ย redirected all the articles on this website about twin flames, and unpublished the twin flames book.
As someone who takes pride in their work and wants it to be as helpful and healing as possible, this has been a big personal blow and a true lesson in humility for me.
In this totally rewritten and revamped article, Iโm going to explain firstly what is a twin flame (as I once understood it) and why I feel like the twin flame idea can be more harmful than helpful. Buckle up.ย
Table of contents
- What is a Twin Flame?ย
- 21 Twin Flame Signs
- 7 Reasons Why the โTwin Flamesโ Idea Can Be Toxic and Disempowering, aka., Why I Abandoned the Notion
- 1. The notion that your twin flame completes you or is the โother half of your soulโ is anxiety-provoking and disempowering
- 2. The idea of having a โtwin flameโ can cause people to stay in relationships that are unhealthy and blatantly toxic
- 3. The โrunner and chaserโ twin flame dynamic can lead to people feeling obligated to deal with bad behavior and trapped in abusive relationships
- 4. The belief that having a twin flame will solve all your problems is a lie
- 5. The twin flame idea has caused many people to abandon their healthy and functional relationships in favor of an illusory ideal
- 6. The twin flame notion misses the whole point of spiritual partnerships
- 7. There are scam artists and sharks who smell the blood of emotional vulnerability in the water and are using it to their benefit
- What Term I Use Now
- Final Words
What is a Twin Flame?ย
Hereโs the original definition I shared in the chapter I wrote on twin flames in the twin flame book that Iโve since unpublished:
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Your twin flame, or twin soul, is a person with whom you are destined to feel connected on a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual level. A twin flame is a person whoโs your friend, lover, and teacher in this life.ย
21 Twin Flame Signs
Some signs of a twin flame that I later shared in the book were the following:
- You feel a strange, inexplicable sense of โrecognition” when you meet the person.
- You have a feeling that they are going to play a crucial role in your own development.
- Youโve established an immediate, intense connection.
- You feel as though youโve finally found a โhomeโ or safe place with the other person.
- You can be your authentic self.
- You both embody the yin and yang.
- You feel a sense of expansion with them, as though you are larger than your limited identity.
- They make you a better person, and you make them a better person.
- When together, you are both bonded but free, attached but unattached.
- You are finely tuned to their energy, and they are finely tuned to yours.
- You feel as though you have been waiting for this person your entire life.
- You both connect deeply and mirror each otherโs values and aspirations for life.
- Your twin flame is a mirror of what you fear and simultaneously desire the most for your own inner healing.
- Your childhoods were polar opposites.
- One of you is more spiritually mature than the other and often serves as the teacher, counselor, or confidant within the relationship.ย
- You are taught important life lessons such as forgiveness, gratitude, empathy, and open-mindedness by them and alongside them.
- Your connection is multi-faceted (they are your best friend, lover, teacher, and muse all at once).
- The most growth youโve ever experienced has been with them.
- Your twin flame doesnโt try to change you. They accept you for who you are and what stage youโre at and encourage you to do the same for yourself (and vice versa).
- You can be truthful with each other about anything.
- Together, you both feel driven towards a higher purpose.
Now, most of these signs seem pretty innocent, right?
The problem with the twin flame idea is not so much the signs (although depending on the voice behind detailing them, it can be a problem) but how the concept is applied to everyday life.
7 Reasons Why the โTwin Flamesโ Idea Can Be Toxic and Disempowering, aka., Why I Abandoned the Notion
Now, hereโs the thing: if you love and have found benefit in the idea of having a twin flame, thatโs wonderful. You do you. Iโm not here to try to change your mind because I trust in your ability to make the right decisions for your own life.
Hopefully, something I wrote about this topic in the past helped you, and I wish you all the best in your relationship with yourself and your partner moving forward.
But personally, as hard as I tried to make the twin flame idea work for me, and as much as I tried to make it a viable, down-to-earth reality, it became increasingly obvious through the years that I had to extricate myself from it completely.
Here are seven reasons why the twin flame idea can be toxic and disempowering and why Iโve decided to move on from the notion altogether:
1. The notion that your twin flame completes you or is the โother half of your soulโ is anxiety-provoking and disempowering
Firstly, can you imagine how humungous a burden it is to place on someone elseโs shoulders the responsibility of โcompletingโ you or even being the โother halfโ of your literal soul? Thatโs an immediate recipe for dysfunction and horrific codependency in my book.ย
The twin flame notion is an anxiety-provoking idea that disempowers us because it makes our wholeness entirely dependent upon someone else and what they do or donโt do. Can you see how messed up that is?ย
Besides, it is my deep experience and realization that the Soul is innately whole and complete; itโs just the fragmented mind that believes otherwise. As such, how can someone else be the โother halfโ of your Soul?
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2. The idea of having a โtwin flameโ can cause people to stay in relationships that are unhealthy and blatantly toxic
Hearing from a friend of mine that the twin flame idea caused her to stay in a toxic relationship long past its expiry date because she believed โhe was her twin flameโ made me want to scream and cry at the same time.ย
The reality is that Iโve seen this happen a lot, particularly on the twin flame Facebook group I used to be an admin of for about five years. There were so many people in that group claiming to have twin flames, but when they described their connections, they were clearly one-sided or else utterly toxic and harmful.
When we get into our minds the idea that someone is our twin flame due to confirmation bias, it can be an extremely hard belief to shake. After all, it makes us feel special and shrouds our relationships in a kind of holy glow that weโre less likely to want to give up.
3. The โrunner and chaserโ twin flame dynamic can lead to people feeling obligated to deal with bad behavior and trapped in abusive relationships
The push and pull experience in relationships is common, aka., things are normal, we get into an argument, then we make up. Fairly typical, right?
The issue with the idea of twin flame relationships is that theyโre largely defined by something known as a โrunner and chaserโ stage, where one person is pulling away from the relationship, and then the other is pursuing that person and trying to bring them back. Perhaps things work out for a while, and then again, the runner and chaser pattern happens.
Now, I have heard of people getting into some pretty blatantly abusive relationships and yet saying things like, โOh, she totally ghosted me and pretends I don’t exist: weโre in the runner and chaser stage,โ or โheโs behaving in such a controlling way because he’s the chaser and I’m the runner.”
In psychology, this push and pull dynamic is known as the Cycle of Abuse where tension builds, thereโs an incident of abuse, reconciliation occurs, and then a period of calm before the cycle starts again.
So what abuse do people tend to justify in twin flame relationships? Some of these abusive tactics can involve things like:
- Being overly controlling (restricting what you do, who you see, where you go)
- Shaming and blaming you
- Criticizing and putting you down
- Guilt tripping or emotionally blackmailing you
- Humiliating you in front of others
- Controlling your finances
- Displaying extremely possessive or jealous behavior
- Ridiculing and dismissing you
- Accusing you of unfaithfulness
- Neglecting you (e.g., emotional withholding, silent treatment)
- Spying on or monitoring you
- Gaslighting and hoovering you
- Playing mind games with you
- Abandoning and ghosting you
You get the picture. What I’ve shared above is emotional and psychological abuse โ but physical abuse can and does enter the picture as well.
All of the above abusive tactics, and more, have been suffered yet justified in the name of being in a โtwin flame relationship.โ But there’s a big difference between a healthy and satisfying relationship and one that is mentally, emotionally, or even physically toxic.ย
4. The belief that having a twin flame will solve all your problems is a lie
The notion of having a โharmonious twin flame unionโ that will provide you with utter peace, fulfillment, and unending joy sounds magical on the surface. But the reality is that we are all imperfect beings with flaws, annoying quirks, and traumas to work through.ย
We will inevitably feel a lack of peace, an absence of fulfillment, and other uncomfortable emotions at times, and that is totally normal. Itโs part of being human, and we donโt need to pathologize and run away from it into a romantic fantasy.ย
The โhappily ever afterโ and โeternal unionโ story is one of the best marketing gimmicks. But the honest truth is that we donโt know if our love will last forever. We donโt know if our relationships will be our “happily ever after,” even though we may desperately need and want them to be.
This doesnโt mean we become cynical and denounce love and relationships completely, but it does mean that we become more grounded and realistic. In my experience, the more realistic and down-to-earth we are in our relationships, the healthier and stronger they become.
5. The twin flame idea has caused many people to abandon their healthy and functional relationships in favor of an illusory ideal
This is one of the saddest parts of the twin flames nonsense. So many good, mutually respectful, and healthy relationships have ended because one person within the couple has found someone else who they believe is their โtwin flameโ โ and therefore, they feel the need to abandon their current relationship in favor of their ideal one.
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Positioning the supposed โtwin flame relationshipโ above other relationships as superior is harmful, toxic, and life-destroying for many people.ย
Imagine this: everything was harmonious in Jane and Bobโs relationship until one day, Bob discovered the twin flame idea, and BOOM. Now, Bob is no longer happy because his relationship doesnโt meet his fantasy spiritual ideal. He realizes that the crush he has at work on the receptionist must be his โtrue twin flameโ because they have such a โfiery sparkโ โ and so he abandons his wife in pursuit of this newer, more ideal twin flame relationship that will apparently fulfill his every need, make him whole and complete, and give him eternal happiness.ย
It sounds crazy, but this shit actually happens. And it breaks my heart.
6. The twin flame notion misses the whole point of spiritual partnerships
As Antoine de Saint-Exupery once wrote,
Love does not consist in gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.
The twin flame idea promotes this kind of sickly preoccupation with the other person, what theyโre doing, and how much happiness theyโre bringing you โ and whether theyโre your โtrueโ or โfalseโ twin flame.
But this is all a distraction, in my opinion, as the point of a spiritual partnership isnโt to obsessively fixate on the other but to work towards making this world a better place.
Perhaps the twin flame notion is just a result of our hyper-individualistic narcissistic society that elevates the individual and their happiness above everything else. Perhaps thatโs just a cynical observation.
Either way, the unhealthy preoccupation and obsession with another idealized person who is the โmissing half of your soul,โ to the exclusion of everything and everyone else, is self-absorbed and missing the point of love-centered spirituality.
7. There are scam artists and sharks who smell the blood of emotional vulnerability in the water and are using it to their benefit
As documentaries such as Escaping Twin Flames and Desperately Seeking Soulmate: Escaping Twin Flames Universe have come out, it has become increasingly clear that the twin flame idea has caused many to get sucked into disturbing and controlling cult-like groups.
Being raised in a fundamentalist religious cult-like environment, this is extremely disturbing to me and something that triggers feelings of anger and regret that I got into the whole twin flame thing in the first place (although, with self-compassion, I can understand why).
The highly emotional nature of the twin flame idea has led some scam artists who claim to be twin flames to charge huge amounts of money to access their services โ Iโm talking in the thousands of dollars range.
There is so much I could say about this, but I want to keep what I write simple and direct and encourage you to please exercise caution.
Paying thousands of dollars for courses and coaching packages that promise you to find your twin flame is not just ridiculous but, in my opinion, unethical to a criminal degree.
Keep your money and find someone whoโs actually trained as a licensed relationship counselor โ youโll be much better off in the long run, financially, emotionally, and psychologically.
What Term I Use Now
As much as I dislike the twin flame label, I do appreciate the value and power of relationships as a spiritual catalyst. I have an article dedicated to the many soul ties we experience in relationships.
Since Iโve dropped using the โtwin flameโ term, I much prefer the term โspiritual relationshipโ or even just soul mate, as that feels more accessible and available to everyone, not just a select few who pay $7777 in a workshop to be matched with their โtrue twin flameโ โ or through divine cosmic intervention happen to find โthe one.โย
Final Words
If youโve got this far, congratulations. I hope you feel more liberated from the twin flame idea by now โ since dropping the label, I certainly have! And Iโm never looking back.
Please be mindful and careful when navigating these murky waters.
Yes, there may be many well-intentioned, ethical people out there who talk about twin flames. But there are also many unethical and money-grabbing snakes out there ready to sink their teeth into the most desperate and lovesick among us, promising them fantasies and castles in the clouds.
Remember that twin flames wonโt and donโt complete you. Your wholeness doesn’t depend on finding another person โ this belief is a recipe for suffering, so let it go. True happiness and wholeness originate from within you.
You are the one youโve been waiting for.ย
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i was wondering if my twin flame can be someone that i saw on social media but they don’t know me yet but i know them. can that happen ou it is not possible for 1/2 meet the other one before or it only happens when the two meet each other at the same time ?!
I am calling out Luna and Sol. I have been and felt so alone and isolated in this experience. If a soulmate is rare, than a twin flame has to be rarer than rare. And I know there are a lot of false twin flames out there, or people not in the lifetime of Ascension. If what I believe is true, then I am a twin flame meant to ascend after I die, and I am calling you out. Will the real twin flames please stand up? If you are really Flames that have been United, and you are going to ascend after you die, then prove it to me by contacting me and sharing your story.
I was at a low part in my life when I had a psychic awakening and preminition. I saw and heard a woman and a house. Followed by a feeling of security and trust. All I had to do was follow the path the universe set forth for me. It was 3 years until the first sign happen. I follow the dimes ($1.50) worth, over roughly 4miles over to an ally where I met her. She was out side with her dog. I stopped and stared for what seemed like eternity. But it was only a second, enough time for her to notice me looking at her. She puts her dog inside and comes back out walks over to me and asks my name I tell her and then she says I don’t know why but I feel like I know you…we were friends for 2 years then we moved into a physical relationship. It lasted 4 months before the first split. Went on and off for 3 years after. Even though we were not together during the split she never left my side. We finally came back together and we have been so happy together. This is the easiest relationship I have ever been in. First it was rocky and confusing but after we both were ready to except and embrace our destiny. It’s been so comforting to have my best friend, soulmate, cheerleader. This love is why the songs and poems are written. Side note I told her when I first met her that I was going to retire at 40yo and own a house with the bills paid and I don’t need to work. Well, when we became a permanent couple with in a year the preminition I had, about 10years before, came true! I love life and being open for the universes surprises. Thank you good will to all
Oh where to start. Such a weird situation for me. I’ve never met someone like a person that entered my life as a friend a couple years ago. He is the most frustrating person…yet I cant stay mad at him. Even my SO (Im in a long term relationship) noticed I was uncharacteristicly forgiving of my friend. And protective, which is also rather unlike me. I cherish him and care deeply for him. But I also care about and love my SO, in a different way. My potential TF though, it’s a level I’ve never experienced. I can literally feel his emotions, I’ve never met someone so intense on all levels. My TF (?) is like a human yin and yang of intense emotions-as intensely as he can hate he can love. I am similar, but I bottle mine up, whereas he lets his out-sometimes explosively with the hate part. We’re alike but different, anyone that didn’t know either of us VERY well would think we were polar opposites but we’re really not. We have a way of thinking the same thing at the same time, or embellishing each others crazy schemes-and I can usually tell if he’s thinking some sort of mischief just by a look. I’ve also sensed his presence before seeing him in places I didn’t even know he would be at. I went through a time a while ago when even if we were apart I could sense him and even smell his cologne. There was also a few times where it was beyond sensing emotions. One involved an intense visual and physical feeling of being in a specific place being touched and kissed on my neck by him. It happened out of no where, I was working at the time and not thinking about him at all. I couldn’t ask about it (we’re just friends and I have an SO, that’s not appropriate conversation material in my mind) so I can’t say for sure where it came from, however it involved specific touching that I’ve never experienced or thought of. It was really strange for me. I hadn’t heard of a TF at that point. Currently we only speak occasionally, we were closer a while back but drifted apart for now due to distance and my SO. It’s painful in a way, yet I keep experiencing this odd sensation of peace and knowing it will be ok and work out. I’m currently experiencing a lot of termoil in my life including issues with my SO and family. In fact I know he’s going through a difficult time and I told him the same thing-somehow I know, we’re both going to be ok. We’ve never discussed ANY of this, neither of us come from backgrounds where such types of discussion are acceptible between friends, especially if one if in a relationship. So I have no way to know for certain how he feels about me aside from friendship, unless I try to look at things he’s said or done (many point to him feeling someting more than friendship, although whether it was a deep level or just a hey she’s attractive level I can’t say for certain). I don’t know if we’re meant to be anything beyond friends in this lifetime and I can accept that (granted if I’m completely honest, I think if for some reason we progressed beyond into a physical relationship it would be burn the place down type intense passion and I’ll always hold a little regret for not experiencing it). I know I dearly hope he will be a part of my life throughout the rest of it though. I’ve never met anyone that made me feel more comfortable being my true self around, being ok with being awkward and intense and silly. I hope if we are meant to be just friends he sticks around because I’d miss that more that anything. That and his sudden whirlwinds of craziness and creativity, he makes me laugh from my soul sometimes (then other times I want to punch him lol). Just feels good to “say” that I guess.
Same thing happened to me, lol xd xp
Wow. I experienced almost the same story. After 4 years of feeling this way, i finally broke up with my boyfriend and told my friend what i feel about him, and he feels the same!!! Iโve never been so happy and free that i finally was honest with my soul and feelings
OMG that’s awesome for you. I hope it works out.
I still can’t shake the feeling that he’s more than a random person in my life. A few weeks ago I had a very intense dream about him. Not sexual at all. Someone threw out something important from his past, and I took it and kept it safe, and hid it. He was in tears about it but asked me to laugh with him so no one knew he was upset. I did. He looked at me without pure love in his eyes. Now the weird part. I knew it was him by his eyes but he looked different. A little while after I saw a photo of him when he was younger. Holy hell. That’s who I saw in my dream. But I’ve never seen a younger pic of him. I’m still like wow about that…
How can I tell if my boyfriend is my Twin Flame or a false twin flame. I’ve known him for 15 years Always admired him even though he’s a functional drug addict he also doesn’t believe that he’s a drug addict just someone that uses drugs. Last year when we had sex for the first time with no expectations I literally thought I’d been struck by lightning and like I was home. I had no knowledge of anything to do with twin flames or soul mates.He’s the one who introduced me to the Carl Jung theory and I’ve grown more in this last year than in the last 20. in the beginning we were absolutely honest. I’m a Claircognizant empath so I have a built-in lie detector. About 4 months ago he became less reliable and attentive and lying about using money for drugs. I started pointing out things he did that made me feel bad. He would apologize but the behaviour continued. He also went through periods where he would emotionally shutdown completely. About a month ago we fought and he called me out saying that I was projecting. It hit home. I did some introspection and he was right. We both were. I wrote down a list and told him about everything I’d discovered about myself and apologized. I then told him that I believed that he was a drug addict and lied too much. I did this with the intent to help him grow. At this point he shut me out and wouldn’t speak about anything of substance and refused to explain anything. It was torture and he knew it. I finally realised and received confirmation that he thought I was deliberately trying to hurt him by calling him a drug addict. And by calling him out on his faults. We’ve decided to seperate for the moment to work on ourselves and he’s trying to quit drugs.I’m willing to assist him through the process either way but how do I know if he’s my True flame with a drug addiction or if he’s simply just a false true flame
He sounds like a soulmate. Look into the soulmate vs twin flame article and it’ll explain more but I had the same situation happen and in my case, I was being called the druggy basically. I realized she was a false and I ended up meeting my twin flame when I was at the lowest point of my life I ever been in. She seen everything I did and told me how she felt and is helping completely different then the other one did. When you meet your twin flame, its like they know how to talk to you with out rattling you or making it worst. Twin Flames definitely challenge you to leave your bad habits behind and become better for yourself. There are countless soulmates that will make you feel like you found the one but you wont know until you hit your ultimate low in my opinion.. Don’t drive your self crazy and remember if you have to change yourself for your partner, they are most likely not your TF.
I found mine unexpectedly. It is intense and you feel like youโre losing your mind. I can connect to mine and hear his souls voice. Itโs hard to deal with the intense emotions you feel like youโre out of control. The love is so strong that you canโt even be mad at them for long. You know them better than others in your life. It feels right with him and wrong with others. I hadnโt been with anyone else for 4 years now because I canโt get him out of my head. I get turned off by other guys who show interest. I can feel him in my dreams and talk to him. I see him in my head in the room Iโm in. Sometimes he comes in spirit form. I also get a negative spirit who tries to break us apart and make me think he doesnโt care about me. I can tell the difference because it doesnโt act like him but more petty and angry. It cares too much of what I think. Heโs always been encouraging and there for me. Heโs calm and laid back. He tries to make me feel better than worse. My connection with him has faded and I get him less. The start of it it was strong. Itโs depressing us both that itโs harder to communicate with each other because he still tries.
Im actually with mine right now and its truly a blessing to have because he knows me inside and out. I have never experienced what i have with him with anyone else. I truly do believe he was meant to be mine and I was suppost to be his.
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The night we met will be engraved in my soul forever. We met at a bar I remember I kept looking at the entrance like I knew she was going to show up. The second she walked in I was completely drawn into her. I remember being upset because I thought for sure she was straight. Her friend asked if I wanted to dance with them I immediately agreed and joined them on the dance floor. I remember feeling so alive. We danced together and it felt effortless, we flowed. I didn’t leave her side the rest of the night. She threw me against the wall on the dancefloor and kissed me so passionately after that all we did was make out. We both were getting out of longterm relationships that were extremely toxic. We were both heartbroken. She invited me to her hotel room she and her friend had for the night but I declined. The next day she asked me out again I agreed. Once again we danced all night and had an amazing time. She asked me to come to her hotel again this time I accepted. I dropped my friend off at home and headed to meet her we stayed on the phone while I made my way over to meet her we were so lost in conversation of course my phone died she never told me the name of the the hotel or room # I drove around trying to find the hotel but got tailed by a cop and freaked out so went home. Later she said she stood in the street and hoped I’d drive by and see her cause she realized I didn’thave the name of the hotel. She eventually went back to the room and cried herself to sleep. She was hurt and blew me off for days I finally got her to meet me again she showed up to my place with her car packed up with all of her things. That night she moved out of her apartment she shared with her ex moved in with a friend and never looked back. Our next encounter I agreed to come to her new place after work and all we did was talk and cuddle I remember I laid on her with my head on her chest I couldn’t get over how natural it felt …I remember telling her I can’t believe how comfortable you feel to me. I’ve never felt this before, I feel like I’ve known you forever. She felt like home. I felt safe. I’ll never forget the feeling. I kept saying “this is so crazy ” there was no awkward faze, no games, no fear, we didn’t leave each other’s side. I know what we have is not just a typical experience, it was ordained, it was fate. She changed my life. We broke up after 5.5 years but we are still friends we stopped talking for 3 years after too much unhealthy energy but we recently made up. I can’t imagine my life without her. I’d never know love had she never shown up. I don’t regret any of it. Even our break up. We have this love that has gone through it all. We fight but we always find our way back to each other. We go deep into each other no bullshit. We relive our old memories all of the time. We were best friends, still are. I don’t believe that the love we share happens all the time. I don’t believe that everyone gets to experience a love so deep. That’s how I know we chose each other. She’s my twin flame. I dreamt her before we met. I remember we were in the car and I made her laugh it was like time stopped it was unreal. I immediately pictured my dream it was so vivid it was the same moment. I was so overwhelmed I had to pull over. I literally got to love the woman of my dreams. Few loves hold a special place in our hearts. She always told me “tell me the story of how we met” we would go to the place we met every anniversary and relive our first night together. I don’t think we’ll get back together I’m ok with that she’s married now. True love cannot be tamed and you don’t get to decide the experience. Love is a blessing. To be vulnerable in love takes courage. You don’t know love until you can set it free. Until you have to walk away. I had made peace with the fact that we might not ever speak again. I said a prayer and let her go. 3 days later she contacted me after not speaking for 3 years. That’s how I know she’s my flame. I always contacted her and we had never gone this long without talking but I was done chasing. I never thought she’d come back. All I can say is I waited 30 years to love her and I will love her the rest of my life. From lovers to friends but we’re doing life together.
ยซboth of us got together on 11.11.11ยป
How to calculate that?
This year I see this number all the time. Does it indicates the person whom Iโm dating as a twin flame ?
Among all the possible comments on the wide internet, i found your comment on 11.11 and wanted to leave a comment. I don’t think it’s much about calculation, to reach some kind of a date, but simply being aware of certain synchronicities. More importantly aligning your own empiricism to the real world in the now.
I’m not sure if i met my twin flame. I’m 17 and i met him in february through a friend. we live 6 hours away from each other, when we first started talking it was like I already knew him and we were(still are) drawn to each other. to this day i feel such a strong pull towards him and there were times i would think of him and he would text or call me then second after. When we actually met in person, it was as though i found a piece of me i never knew i was missing. I felt whole and at home and the feeling was so intense and we were so drawn to each other there wasn’t a moment where we weren’t touching, we would look into eachothers eyes almost constantly. Shortly after when we had to go back to our different states Things started changing and i started getting fearful of losing him. He eventually did leave but i wasn’t too upset, i loved him but it was like deep down i knew everything would be ok. I would cry and miss him sometimes but i had that little voice telling me it’ll be ok. Every other week he would text me and tell me he loves me and misses me and call me beautiful and all that, it would go on for a couple days, then he would ignore my texts/calls and we wouldnt talk again and the cycle would repeat. i havent talked to him in almost a month which the longest i havent heard from him. I came across “twin flames” and found out about twin flame separation and i was curious as of if thats what we are. I beileve we are because i remember having a dream with him in it long before i even met him. I do love him and i hope we are twin flames. good luck to anyone on their journey :)
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