Are you a Warrior Goddess?
Beyond all the labels, gender classifications, beliefs and stories we all carry about ourselves fluctuates two diametrically opposed, but divinely interconnected, types of energy: the masculine and the feminine.
We see, hear, feel and cultivate masculine energy everywhere. Masculine energy is hot, hard, logical, goal-orientated, proactive and externally-focused, and it pervades everything from religion, to sex, to our relationships and our work lives.
Masculine energy, or God energy, dominates our lives because its very nature is to rule, command and control. This is not necessarily a bad thing, but after centuries of bowing down to fierce “Gods,” industrializing the world, and living by aggressive, goal-orientated rules, ideals and goals, it is time for us to reclaim the power of the feminine in our lives.
What is the Divine Feminine (and Why Does It Matter)?
Feminine energy is passive, soft, abstract, intuitive and nurturing, and is embodied by the moon, the earth, water and Winter/Autumn. As a gentle but sensual frequency, feminine energy is also linked to procreation and sexuality which is precisely why it has been shunned for so many centuries due to the repressive religious values of the masculine Patriarchal church fathers.
Divine Feminine energy, or Goddess energy, is a subtle yet immensely vital source of energy in our lives. Without it, we are out of touch with our bodies, our emotions, our dreams, and our mother earth. Without it, we live lives on the surface, pursuing empty goals, ego-centered ambitions and desolate values that are disconnected from the mystery, wonder and magic of life.
Without honoring and cultivating the divine feminine in our lives, we feel incomplete and eternally dissatisfied, pursuing paths that are destructive to the planet and toxic to those we love. Put simply, without acknowledging and nurturing the feminine energy within us, we are incomplete and our lives feel superficial.
Inspired by HeatherAsh Amara’s inspiring book, I want to explore the process of embodying both the masculine and feminine in everyday life and how it can benefit you.
Are You a Warrior Goddess?
Only cultivating the divine feminine in our lives can also leave us imbalanced and incomplete. When we have too much Goddess energy in our lives we can spiral into chaos following self-destructive, emotionally reactive paths that leave us victim to any emotional whim we have, and any unkind impulse of others. In fact, too much Goddess energy can lead to addictions, self-pity and unhealthy identity roles like the Martyr Complex.
This is why we need to balance the God and the Goddess within us; the masculine and the feminine, the anima and the animus. This is where the Warrior Goddess comes into play.
The Warrior Goddess is a sacred mixture of the masculine and feminine. As the name suggests, the Warrior Goddess is both a holy blend of strength, iron-willed determination and courage, as well as receptivity, spirituality and tenderness. Both yin and yang are held in balance within the Warrior Goddess, or Nurturing God, and therefore a deep sense of wholeness, confidence and joy is felt.
7 Things You Can Do to Rediscover the Warrior Goddess Within
Personally, a big part of my own journey towards reclaiming my power as a Warrior Goddess was accepting how extremely imbalanced a person I was both emotionally, spiritually, psychologically and sexually. As a young girl I grew up not only deeply entrenched in the Masculine-God values, beliefs and goals of society, but I was also profoundly indoctrinated since birth in a fundamentalist branch of Christianity. This Christian sect taught me that I had to save my virginity until marriage, be attracted to the opposite gender, have children, stay at home and cook, grow my hair long, wear dresses and skirts, stay dead silent in church, remain submissive to the preachers, and of course, stay faithful to God (who was of course depicted as a masculine being).
It wasn’t until I met Sol and subsequently went through a massive, messy, life-changing process of metamorphosis that I discovered the beautiful, balanced paradox of who I am. I am both the sheep and the lion, I am the sun and the moon, I am fire and water, I am logical and emotional, I am sensitive and strong, I am a lover of males and females, I am the student of night and day.
I am a Warrior Goddess, and so are you. I know how hard it can be to embody this merging of two opposites, this energetic alchemy – but it is possible, and below I will give you a taste of how to rediscover this divine balance within you whether you are male, female or neither:
1. Explore your story.
We all have stories that we tell about ourselves. I refer to these as “stories” because they all have a beginning, middle, and end, and are products of our memories, past experiences, religious indoctrination and cultural myths. For example, your story might be this: “My name is Jack. I’m a male who loves to binge on Netflix and go to soccer matches with my mates. I’m a guys guy and I don’t really understand females apart from when I’m in bed with them.” Or your story might be: “I’m Tori. I’m a quiet wife and mother of two who loves astrology. Although my boys don’t really understand me, I sacrifice a lot for them and my husband. I’m a giver, not a taker.”
What gender-specific roles can you identify in your personal story that might be limiting? Examples could be that you’re a guys-guy, a girls-girl, a nurturer, a business-man/woman, a mother, father, leader, etc. By identifying these gender-specific roles, and how dominant the male/female energy in your story is, you can open a doorway for growth.
2. Speak your truth.
Be honest and be truthful. What do you authentically want from life, other people, and yourself? Stop sitting in the backseat of life, and give yourself permission to take over the steering wheel for once. Yes, it is good to flow with life, but it is also good to be honest with yourself and other people about what you really want and need.
2. Ignite your will.
Sometimes it is necessary to put your foot down and be assertive in a respectful way. Most of us have trouble with willfully, but gently, setting boundaries and pursuing what we love. If you have too much masculine energy you will come across as being domineering and aggressive. If you have too much feminine energy you will come across as being manipulative and passive-aggressive. How can you ignite your will in a healthy, balanced way?
4. Commit to yourself.
Commitment involves utilizing the mind and the heart. The heart says, “I love this, I want to do this,” the mind says, “This is wise, this is logical.” When you commit to yourself on the Warrior Goddess path, you are committing to loving all that you are – both the light and dark elements, the nice and the nasty, the beautiful and the ugly. This is what true self-care is – not a funky, trendy, hipster form of self-aggrandizement – but a deep, painful, revolutionary acceptance of what it is that composes “you.” So commit to loving yourself. This is the most fundamental building block of what creates a Warrior Goddess.
5. Celebrate your sexuality.
Honoring who you are on a deep sexual level is extremely difficult. We all carry with us centuries of ancestral guilt, depravity and repression. But the truth is that you are a sexual being, and being a sexual being is not “wrong,” “dirty,” or “immoral” as we have been so often taught. Instead, our sexuality carries an immense source of creativity, power and energy which is a potent force of nature, and literally motivates the majority of life on earth.
Exploring and embracing your sexuality can be a long, slow process, but its benefits are immense. For example, when I found out that I was sexually attracted to both males and females, I felt ashamed, confused and lost, not knowing what was “wrong” with me. But eventually I came to accept this as a beautiful part of the paradoxical diversity that forms my identity.
In your case, exploring, accepting and integrating your sexuality will not only help you to become a more confident, creative and centered person, but it will also help you to release the old chains of guilt and shame that might be holding you back from truly tasting the bliss of this life experience.
6. Reclaim your strength and self-responsibility.
Warrior energy is fueled by inner strength, and this inner strength comes from self-responsibility. Self-responsibility is about “cutting the crap” that is self-pity, blame and avoidance, and getting proactive about your life. In this regard, the self-realized Warrior Goddess doesn’t stand for long pity-parties, disempowering identity roles, or toxic environments. The Warrior Goddess doesn’t think of him or herself as “lost,” “victimized,” or “trapped,” but as raw, wild, and free – and woe to anyone who gets in the way of that!
Although you might be stuck in a rut right now, it is possible for you to be your own Savior. Don’t expect anyone else to help you, but also don’t be afraid to ask for help. You are the one you have been waiting for.
7. Embody your wisdom.
You hold within you the mysteries and wonders of the universe. And your life can be a testament to what it is to emerge from the telluric realms of the earth, to the bright sunlight of the day. You are a seed that is blossoming. Honor the process of your growth which comes in the form of hard lessons and painful life experiences. Let the damp earth of your life nurture you. Be prepared to grow, flourish and die, and all over again a thousand times. This is how you soulfully mature. This is an opportunity to embody your hard-earned – and already learned – wisdom.
You Are a Warrior Goddess
You are the Mother and the Father; the lover and the beloved; the night and the day.
I want you to share with me below your own Warrior Goddess struggles, triumphs, realizations and advice. I read every comment. Also, if this article helped you in any way, please share it with a loved one who might benefit as well.
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woo hoo i’m a warrior goddess! i’m into the nordic runes and the very first rune I ever pulled was teiwaz and from there on out I knw it: that I am a warrior goddess! thanks for the post. I feel connected.
One way to activate all these psychic abilities faster is just to turn away from God and his commandments. To give consent to all the demons and entities “energies” to make you think you are Devine and a superhero.
It is not for us to mess with the forbidden knowledge. If you think you have this psychic abilities it is most likely because you have a demon(s) responsible of these curses possibly generational. Some sin opens a great doorway for these entities to manipulate and keep tag in your life. Some of these entities attach to humans and is humans think we have this gifts when it truth the energy draining is because of these entities who are attached to their human hosts drains them.
The One Holy G-d the creator is Devine and everything comes from him is of light and happiness.
Demons like the negatives – sadness anger envy – the cardinal sins as well as mental illness comes from the heavy affliction from severing connections from G-d the Almoghty creator.
The imbalance of high and lows comes from darkness and the enemy.
Finally, someone who describes the expressive (feminine) and instrumental (masculine) energies as an all-encompassing way of being without resorting to the male and female stereotypes and does not invoke the gender-based constructs. I especially appreciated your words about having too much Goddess energy without the correlating Warrior energy. I am an older lesbian who is sporty and casual (but still dresses well!) and enjoys the scientific field of life; however, my deep deep feelings of caring, kindness, emotions – all the good stuff, are so much me as well. I would like to believe I 100% embody (or at least attempting to embody) both energies, although the general public merely sees the outward “presentation” which is not stereotypical feminine (whatever on earth that is). Social constructs and gender roles have never served anyone any good at any time. Thank you for this post.
I hopped on Pinterest to do my daydreaming, & I accidentally tapped on a quote picture that led me hear. Funny how fate works. I have to say that it hit home for me. I have two young kids, I am a wife, and still quite young at the age of 23. Lately i’ve been struggling with suppressed memories of a terrible past from when I was a child, and have to fight them or drown them out. This article gave me hope that I can regain my power, & take back my strength. It also gave me a different perspective about masculine and feminine energy. I’ve never looked into balancing out myself in the ways you’ve explained, my eyes are open and I even understand a couple of things about myself I didn’t realize before. So thank you. It was a great read.
Good article. Thankyou. I also as brought up in a sect that profoundly influenced my thoughts and feelings around roles, sexuality and much else.
The journey I’ve been on to get to know myself and balance the masculine and feminine has been interesting and wonderful.
There are times when I think I have it figured out then a turn or twist and I learn something new
Thanks for this article. Really appreciate it! I am currently in that long and messy process of reclaiming my power – going through all the necessary experiences of not feeling my power so I can, hopefully, learn how to feel it and why it’s so important. I think I struggle with this most in relationship with my partner. We have reoccuring issues where I really need and want to feel cherished and special by him, maybe a bit more than what is normal due to the lack of self-love i’ve been trained to have in this society, and when I’m not feeling that from him, I tend to withdraw and eventually bring it up to him. This triggers him very much and tends to become very upset when I bring it up. I want to assert my needs to have a partner with whom I feel safe and nurtured, and with whom I can bring up my feelings to and be heard and consoled. But I also wonder if this is just coming from my own woundedness and pointing to the ways i need to heal on my own without his help. Regardless, I want to feel safe and nurtured… Read more »
Great article Aletheia, thanks for sharing. I can relate to so much of what you share in your writing. My parents and relatives all grew up in the exclusive brethren, or plymouth brethren, religion (or rather, cult) and I am forever thankful they left when I was still in my mothers womb but the psychological and emotional damage done to many people is huge and needless to say I was raised by two very wounded parents. I think you were very brave to move on from all that you knew in order to break free from the dogmatic brainwashing of the church leaders. You are truly a courageous soul to have come as far as you have. I find the masculine/feminine energy to be a constant balancing act requiring a lot of awareness! I also think its unfortunate that people get hung up on these concepts being labelled as masculine or feminine being a negative thing as it doesn’t necessarily relate to gender as such but is a description of the energy being embodied and we all know males who have a lot of feminine energy and females with a lot of masculine. I find the goddess movement that seems… Read more »