How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are?
– Satchel Paige
There is a special kind of person in our world who finds herself alone and isolated, almost since birth.
Her solitary existence isn’t from a preference or an antisocial temperament – she is simply old. Old in heart, old in mind, and old in soul, this person is an old soul who finds her outlook on life vastly different and more ripened than those around her.
As a result, the old soul lives her life internally, walking her own solitary path while the rest around her flock to follow another.
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What is an Old Soul?
Quite simply, an Old Soul is a person who feels much older than their age reflects. This feeling is often accompanied by the gift of empathy, high intelligence, intuition, and keen insight into the human condition.
Old Souls are often outsiders looking in, they feel as though they don’t “belong” in this world, or this period of time. As a result, most Old Souls long for a sense of true meaning, purpose and inner fulfillment that money, power, and success can’t achieve. This longing is often described as the thirst to “return back home.”
There are two major types of Old Souls: those that are born with the sensation of being “different,” and those who “grow into” becoming Old Souls through the process of spiritual awakening. We’ll explore Old Souls and spiritual awakening more a little later.
17 Signs You’re An Old Soul
Robert Frost, Eckhart Tolle, Jim Carrey, Oprah Winfrey, and even Nick Jonas have been called Old Souls. Perhaps even you have?
If you have not yet discovered whether you’re an Old Soul, read some of the revealing signs below:
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1# You tend to be a lone wolf
Because Old Souls are disinterested in the pursuits and interests of the people in their age groups, they find it dissatisfying to make friends with people they find hard to relate to. This sense of alienation is one of the major problems Old Souls experience. The result is that Old Souls tend to find themselves alone a lot of the time. They struggle to connect deeply with others because most other people don’t have the same interests or values as them.
2# You love knowledge, wisdom, and truth
This might seem a little highbrow, but the Old Soul finds herself naturally gravitating towards the intellectual side of life. Old Souls inherently understand that knowledge is power, wisdom is happiness, and truth is freedom, so why not seek after those things? These pursuits are more meaningful to them than reading up on the latest gossip about the Kardashians or the latest football scores.
3# You’re spiritually inclined
Old Souls tend to have sensitive and spiritual natures. Experiencing a spiritual awakening, overcoming the confines of the ego, seeking spiritual enlightenment and self-realization, and fostering love and peace are often at the core of the Old Soul’s ultimate quest in life.
4# You understand the transience of life
Old Souls are frequently plagued with reminders of their own mortality and that of everything and everyone around them. In fact, it’s not uncommon for the old soul to have multiple existential crises throughout life, especially during difficult situations that highlight the impermanence of existence. Being very perceptive and sensitive toward the reality of death, old souls choose to live their lives differently. Every decision counts.
5# You’re thoughtful and introspective
Old Souls tend to think a lot … about everything. It’s crucial for an old soul to get enough space and time to reflect, introspect, and develop more self-awareness. This natural tendency toward rumination helps them to quickly learn from their actions and understand the people and environments around them. Many Old Souls practice a natural form of shadow work in which they are constantly reflecting on how they could do better, prevent their issues from getting bigger, and create more inner harmony.
6# You see the bigger picture
Old Souls dislike getting lost in the superficial details of gaining useless degrees, job promotions, social prestige, and better iPhones. Instead, Old Souls prefer to look at life from a birds-eye perspective, striving to find the wisest and most meaningful way of living and using their time. After all, life can end at any moment, so why waste time on trivial details?
7# You aren’t materialistic
Wealth, status, fame, and the latest tech gadget … Old Souls take little interest in these things. After all, what’s the point of seeking these socially paraded goals if they can easily be taken away? What’s the point if the fulfillment isn’t long-lasting or soul-enriching?
8# You were a strange, socially maladaptive kid
This is not always the case, but many Old Souls exhibit odd signs of maturity at young ages. Often, these children are labeled as being “precocious,” “introverted,” or “rebellious,” failing to fit into the mainstream behaviors. Usually, these children are extremely inquisitive and intelligent, seeing the purposelessness of many things their teachers, parents, and peers say and do, and either passively or aggressively resist them. If you can talk to your child like s/he’s an adult – you’ve probably got an Old Soul on your hands.
9# You’ve undergone an existential crisis
It’s common for Old Souls to ask deep and penetrating questions about life in their search for love, truth, and freedom. This quest to live a meaningful existence inevitably means that they will, sooner or later, experience an existential crisis. An existential crisis is what happens when a person starts to see through the lies and delusions within society. They may wonder what life is really about, whether they have a true purpose, and start to think about the human condition more. Is life just a product of chance? What’s the point of everything I’ve done? What is all this about, anyway? These are the types of questions Old Souls ask during the existential crisis.
10# You see life through a poetic/contemplative lens
Old Souls take time to enjoy life – they see things that others don’t see. Take nature for example: an Old Soul will enjoy the way the wind dances through the trees – while someone else may just walk straight by, disinterested or blind to the simple beauty before them. Old Souls also take time to contemplate life. The smile and laughter of a child is something to stop and savor. The striking beauty of a piece of art is something to ponder. The words of a great writer are something to meditate on (see Lectio Divina). There is so much in life to stop, appreciate, and reflect on.
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11# You tend to overthink everything
While Old Souls are contemplative types of people, this can also prove to be a painful and challenging quality. For instance, most Old Souls struggle with the curse of overthinking practically everything. Choosing from a menu at a cafe, for example, can be a strangely painstaking experience. (There are so many options! Which is the right one? What would taste the best? What is the most ethical? What is the best value for money? What is right for this time of the day? etc.) Social situations are no better, which leads to the next point …
12# You struggle with anxiety in social situations
Put the tendency to overthink everything alongside conscientiousness and strong empathy, and you have a recipe for social anxiety. Throw in a little bit of eccentricity (i.e., not sharing the same interests as most people) and we have an unavoidable tendency towards lingering social discomfort. Although many Old Souls are confident, calm, and self-possessed people, social situations are complex and tiring. There are so many elements to consider (fragile egos, etiquette, boundaries, reciprocity, unspoken but obvious insecurities, etc.) that they often prefer just being left by themselves. With that being said, when Old Souls do find someone they connect with or find interesting, they tend to form strong and intense connections quite quickly. It’s one of the greatest joys of life to find fellow kindred spirits.
13# You easily fall into the role of advisor or counselor
People flock to Old Souls for advice like a moth drawn to a flame. Attracted to their level-headedness and wisdom, it’s common for family members, friends, and workplaces to naturally position the Old Soul as advice-giver. While most Old Souls don’t mind this, it’s common for them to feel inundated and overwhelmed by the magnitude of other’s problems. Even so, Old Souls enjoy helping others. It’s more of a pleasure (than a burden) to give guidance to those in need.
14# You enjoy the company of those much older than you
Old Souls tend to make friends with older folks way more often than younger people (including those of the same age). There is something so down-to-earth, engaging, and layered about those who have been around much longer than the rest. Besides, it’s comforting being around those whose external energy matches the Old Soul’s internal energy. There’s something compatible there. No need to go running around like a headless chicken to parties, concerts, and what have you. Instead, Old Souls can enjoy sitting around a fire or lounging on the patio chairs, having a good old-fashion talk and exchanging stories.
15# You crave simplicity
In some areas of life, Old Souls respect and even like complexity. But overall, what most Old Souls crave deep down is simplicity. There is a certain purity, beauty, and Zen-like appeal in the simple life. Some Old Souls may find themselves drawn toward minimalism, while others may take a minimalistic attitude toward everyday responsibilities and other pursuits. The Old Soul’s thirst for simplicity is very much connected to their love of heart, soul, and essence. Whatever is true and worthy can easily be found in simplicity.
16# You’re attracted to all things vintage
While this might not be the case for all Old Souls, many find themselves drawn toward old music, old furniture, old architecture, old books, old clothing – really, anything old. Some Old Souls feel more at home in bygone eras (18th-century horse and carriage, 1920’s jazz, etc.), while others have an appreciation for even older cultures (e.g., shamanic and tribal periods).
17# You just “feel” old inside
Throw away the ‘Old Soul’ label for a moment and focus on how you feel inside. How old would you be if you didn’t know how old you are? Those who realize that they feel much older than their age reflects are often Old Souls at heart.
Common feelings that accompany being an Old Soul usually include a feeling of world wariness, mental tiredness, inquisitiveness, watchful patience, and the sensation of being an “outsider looking in.”
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Have You Experienced Spiritual Awakening as an Old Soul?
Almost every Old Soul, to some extent, has undergone a process of spiritual awakening.
Spiritual awakenings are periods in our lives when we feel lost, confused, and alienated from others and society’s rules, expectations, beliefs, and values.
The spiritual awakening process is a painful and often traumatic experience involving the complete disintegration of our former habits, perceptions, and even life goals. Often, the result of such an experience is fear, confusion, depression, anxiety, and social alienation for years on end. However, despite such devastation, the spiritual awakening process is ultimately a liberating experience after we have gone through the fires of rebirth.
You might be wondering what triggers the spiritual awakening process …
Well, usually the spiritual awakening process arises in a person’s life during major life events such as marriage, divorce, child-bearing, death, illness, and tragedy. However, spiritual awakenings can also be completely spontaneous, arising as a natural result of life experience – or in the Old Soul’s case, soulful maturity.
The inevitable product of going through a spiritual awakening process is soulfully maturing. The more we come to see through the illusions and deceptions of society, the more we direct our search for true happiness and fulfillment within ourselves. The deeper we search, the closer we connect with our Souls, which are the ultimate sources of our joy and peace.
Old Souls are people who are conscious of the Soul’s existence and actively work to reconnect with it again. In this sense, the term “Old Soul” is metaphorical rather than literal, indicating a matured and ripened relationship with the Soul or True Self. A Young Soul, on the other hand, is a person who hasn’t yet experienced a deep connection with their Souls, or Higher Selves. They remain like a young flower bud: tight and closed.
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However, it’s important to realize that not every Old Soul has a working connection with the Soul. After undergoing a process of spiritual awakening, it is common to become so absorbed in the suffering of the world and other personal issues, that a connection to the Soul is “lost.” While the Old Soul may be aware of a profoundly divine presence within them and existence, they are not able to sustain a connection with it. This experience is known as The Dark Night of the Soul.
Old Souls and Inner work
Instinctually, Old Souls know that life is one great spiritual journey towards inner Wholeness. As a result, most Old Souls spend their lives seeking that which will bring them true self-fulfillment or self-actualization.
The most vital practice to incorporate into your life as an Old Soul, and indeed as any person, is inner work.
Inner work is the practice of working to reconnect with your Soul – it is not limited to any particular religious or spiritual doctrine but embraces all paths.
Essentially, any practice which helps you to become conscious of the eternal and unchanging presence within you that is your Soul is helpful. We have dedicated this website to helping you explore various techniques and sacred inner work practices out there that aid soulful maturing. You can read more about Inner work here.
Illuminated Souls
Once an Old Soul has learned how to reconnect with and embody the Soul, they enter a new level of spiritual advancement. We refer to this level as the Illuminated Soul stage.
Illuminated Souls are awakened beings who have been freed from the dualistic mind that is at the root of all suffering (read more about the mind and ego for more understanding). Common Illuminated Souls that we know of include figures such as the Buddha, Basho, Krishnamurti, Meher Baba, Mahavira, Gangaji, Eckhart Tolle, Mooji, Unmani, and many others.
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Old Soul FAQ
Here are some common questions people ask about Old Souls:
There are many approaches to discovering the age of your soul – it all depends on your personal beliefs and preferences. One way to discover the age of your soul is through a deep guided visualization where you seek out your core essence. You could use imagery such as ascending to the heavens, descending into a deep tunnel and finding ‘the light,’ or moving through a labyrinth toward the center where your Soul resides. Other methods include mirror work, soul gazing (with another person), dream work, meditation, and using plant medicines. However, the question must be asked, why do you want to discover your soul’s age? How will it ultimately help you? And how can you know for sure that you’ve found the right answer? These are important questions to explore as they will help you to use your time and energy wisely.
Old Souls are relatively rare and compose a small percentage of the world’s population. Some speculate that Old Souls compose around 10% of the world’s population. However, this number is not exact or proven. Regardless of that fact, Old Souls are not common in today’s society.
An Old Soul is a person who feels much older than their age reflects. This feeling is often accompanied by the gift of empathy, high intelligence, intuition, and keen insight into the human condition.
Pay attention to the following signs:
1. You have a preference for solitude
2. You’re sensitive and empathic
3. You have a profound understanding of human nature
4. You have the ability to deeply introspect
5. You tend to experience a lot of psychological tiredness
6. You’re disinterested in worldly achievements or status
7. You have an inclination towards spirituality
8. You have a mystical approach to life
9. You thirst for truth and wisdom
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What makes one person wise beyond their years, and another, young at heart?
What makes one person awaken to the desire for spiritual fulfillment and self-love, and another person to the desire to content themselves with material gain and social status? The answer is the age (or level of development) of their Soul.
If you’re an Old Soul, you will likely feel alienated in society, but you’ll also be able to live a truly unique and meaningful life. There are blessings and curses that accompany this way of being, but most of all, I hope you know that you’re not alone and there are others like you.
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I can certainly relate to a lot of this article. I just took the old soul test and scored 85, so perhaps I am an old soul. It would explain a lot – the overthinking of everything which is a big issue at times, my disinterest in material things and more. I still have much to learn about myself at a spiritual level, and it’s assuring that I’m not alone like I feel I am at times. Thank you.
I realized I was different very early in life, I was already awake at age 11 . Realized I was different in my thinking and approach to life. Also somehow knew that it was no use showing people myself. I enjoyed my solitude, specially at night after everyone was asleep, in the garden outside. Out there in that solitude I’d ask questions in my mind and receive answers which sometimes were needed by someone. Was always very in tune with nature and the animal world. Humans bewildered me with their meanness, their greed, their competition. I never competed. It never mattered. Yet I was top of the class which elicited jealousy and because I was a quiet mild child, it drew mean behaviour towards’e. That too bewildered me. I did not have mean bone in my body. This trend continued. I’m now old. I’ve lived my life as an observer, a helper, never really participated in what the human race likes to pursue. I love people, I care a lot but I don’t like the common way of life. It bewilders me with its empty pursuits and selfishness. I’ve never been understood. Animals love and spontaneously trust me. As do children. I love both. It is with dismay I watch children grow into the usual prototype of society. I have always been very very close to god. It was spontaneous.the pains of the world dismay and sadden me to the core. I love the planet , but I feel saddened by humans. I interact with people well. But I feel like an alien observer.
Yes yes you are all super special and old. As if an old soul would need to brag about itself on the internet.
Nobody is bragging here.
Your hateful post says a lot about you
This sums up my life until now and definately makes alot of sense to me. I’m often alone, as a kid I always felt difference and didn’t have many friends, I’m friends with alot of older people, I love learning and seek out people who are knowledgeable, I see the bigger picture and see through people bullshit. I’ve always felt alone to an extent, I have a few good friends but struggle to find a soulmate in a partner relationship. I prefer to be on my own alot of the time and love my own company. I also frequently need to be in the bush and nature to recharge my batteries.
I listen to my gut/ intuition and it is never wrong. It has helped alot to get me to where I am today.
I’ve always known I’m an old soul. My mother has always known and when I was a child I would often have people comment on my level of wisdom in contrast to my age. One thing I’ve noticed is that I can have a good conversation with anyone of any age and background. I love understanding people and learning. I don’t have a lot of close friends though. This usually doesn’t bother me because I have very deep and meaningful connections to the few friends I do have. Sometimes it makes me feel insecure though, I don’t have a solid group of friends to do regular social activities with, upon reflection of this though it is just my nature/choice. I can be social, go to parties, have fun and am almost like a chameleon in the sense I can blend into most different groups of people. I get tired though and can’t maintain those surface level friendships. I also get frustrated at things people have issues with, things I see as petty or relatively meaningless in the big picture of life. When I get to know someone I become invested in them, their success and well-being which can lend itself to almost a possessive like nature which is a characteristic I don’t like about myself. I actively try to avoid being like this which is why I am not super socially active. I’m nearly 30 now, I have a great partner and am looking forward to having kids in the near future. What is important to
me is love, love of my family, my partner and future children. I’m not sure what my exact purpose is in this lifetime but I’m content, I’ve know I’ve done this a few times before lol.
I think the logic would stand that if you are not an old soul, you must be something else, and then what are you ? A new soul or a middle aged soul ?
If you are not an empath or do not have many of the defining attributes or are in fact not very considerate, does this mean you must be a fresh new soul ? People only ever seem to refer to Old Souls.
What if one has a younger soul! That’s soul that younger than his age. What attributes would be having?
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Thanks for the post. I enjoyed and also should admit I am one of the oldest soul. This is my 477th time on earth and the last one. My spiritual awakening came over 10 years ago although I didn’t quite register it as awakening, I finally started conversations with my guardians, spirits, and all of the other existence, recently. Find difficult to find the opportunity to share my experience with others and I appreciated your message and understanding of our rareness. Hope you would continue with your sharing to help others out there understand their peculiarities better. Best
I also think I’m an old soul stock in Sierra Leone, i really want to explore the world and fulfill my goals. I am looking on to end hunger in my village and the process of getting there is for me leave Sierra Leone, but i need help. I am a football player who is so talented thank God for His Mercy and the gift He gave me to liberate my people but without a sponsor I am afraid it will not be easy. Help me in any way please so the world may know more about old souls.
this describes me and my partner to a ‘t’. I found my man on a MMO. i know what you’re thinking…lol I was ‘that’ person at the point in time when I found him who would have sarcastically said “Really, you’re using a MMO as a dating app now?”
But seriously. I was gaming one night and drowning my sorrows feeling lost. I was questing away in WoW and minding my own business with all chats but my guildchat off. I had joined this guild for no reason..literally had no reason why. I just accepted one day after explaining I play my shadow priest ‘this’ way and I just want to be dps. Guild leader accepted. Well so fast forward to me being in the guild for a few months and this guy says something in guild chat. I was questing, again, mind you and ignoring chat. I stopped mid quest to space up in guild chat and see what this guy wrote. I knew it was a man too, regardless of the unisex name of his character. I had this feeling I need to private message him and ask him if he’s okay. Mind you, I dont talk to people. I wait for YOU to talk to me. I don’t want to be a burden and just sit here until someone needs my help.
Well, that was that. We started talking. Both of us admitted two months later to feeling this instant pull and connection but thought we’d find each other crazy. He admitted to noticing me in the roster. My character’s name stood out.
13 yrs later we are still together. We knew each other in a past life, many lives and we both are old souls.
How in the universe could you (aka “petra”) end up on this majesticaly written out of this world article? You don’t belong here!
There are no ‘OLD SOULS”. God created everything at once. Souls are recycled Living different lives in different incarnations. That belief is grounded in the Old EGO!! Trying to set itself apart and segregate from others. Making itself a step above or better than other souls. This whole article is ridiculous. I can see God churning out a batch of new souls once a month. Souls are ageless. Infinite beings. Time does not exist. Stop selling this Egocentric idea to innocent people.We are equal in our Creators eyes. All you people that buy into this need to stop and think about it for awhile. It’s your ego wanting to take credit for Gods creation.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts, I always appreciate a bit of alternative views to see how they match up with this topic.
From reading your comment, I see a few assumptions;
1) There’s a ‘creator’ God, as opposed to the Divine mystery or unknown origin of all that is.
2) Of course it’s ‘ego’, any way in which we try to distinguish the self to understand it is ego including the position that ‘God’ created ‘us’. A concept of self/ego is a necessary element of human survival but I think you’re conflating ego with some sort of narcissism/self-centrism.
3) Every ‘thing’ cannot be equal, by its very definition it’s different; a 4 ft NBA player cannot aspire to be the next Michael Jordan. There is a spectrum of maturity and sensitivity toward life both psychological and spiritual; Not everyone is called to the monastic life for example, though this doesn’t mean the potential isn’t there.
I hope that provides a few different angles to explore.
I am a Christian, I know what you’re trying to say look like the truth but the wisdom of God is infinite, there are things we don’t still know about God, much more than we already know. This is not about egocentric or whoever you called it. There are people in our world today that are not like everyone else. They’re born with some special gift from God, they see, they know and they understand beyond age and time, sometimes we called them prophet, seer and others. Noses and many other old testament prophet were special people choose by God for a specific duty. Believe me, it’s strange to be an old soul in the world of today, you’re not one of them, so you don’t know what the writer is trying to unveil. But I am telling you the truth, I don’t think I am normal like everyone else in my environment. People see me as strange and sometimes mysterious. You don’t understand, because old soul are not easily understood when they talk.