Okay, you might be feeling a bit skeptical or incredulous at the moment.
But don’t worry, I’m not going to give you some fanciful monologue about how we’re all free spirits. That would be ridiculous because it’s simply not true. Nor am I going to give you the same old hackneyed stereotypical definition.
If you want to discover whether you’re a free spirit or not, you need to ask yourself one question:
What’s more important to you in life, complacency or freedom?
I’ll help you figure out what your true answer is in a little bit.
But first, I know you’re a busy person, so let’s get to the good stuff:
The Free Spirit Has the Essence of a Wolf
Yes, you heard me.
The free spirit has the same essence as the wolf. (On a side note, maybe that’s why wolves have been so feared and respected throughout millennia?) I’ll explain why soon. But let’s examine the time-honored image of the free spirit first.
Traditionally, a free spirit is seen as one who doesn’t like to be tied down, who wants to run free, liberated from confines of family and society. Think of all those famous derelicts, hippies, and brooding heartthrobs seen in TV, film, and pop culture.
But there’s one big problem with this depiction of the free spirit: it’s still enslavement. These supposed “free spirits” that we wish to model ourselves upon are still not free. Superficially they look liberated. On the surface, they seem to be living the dream.
But if you’ve ever met a so-called free spirit who indirectly models themselves upon the pop-culture-ideal, you’ll soon realize that something’s off with them.
They’re still running away from something.
And yes, having the guts to rebel against big corporations, the oppressive modern lifestyle, and society at large is brave. But is it truly freedom? Is it truly what defines a “free spirit”?
Freedom is not only external– it is also internal. Free-dom, or being free from domination, is just as much about our own minds as it is about the outer state of the world.
If you don’t have the desire to liberate yourself from the outer and inner voices of oppression, but prefer to be a respectable sheeple of society, freedom isn’t important to you. Convenience and complacency are.
If you don’t have the drive to be liberated from ALL sources of enslavement, whether in the outside world or inside reality, the term “free spirit” is just a stylish feel-good label with no real substance. It’s on par with dressing in gypsy soul boho clothes, adorning yourself in exotic jewelry, and getting a big “free spirit” tattoo and plastering it all over social media – it looks nice superficially, but it’s not the real deal.
The inner wolf is the embodiment of the free spirit. She can be all things and thrive in all states. She can be the nurturer and protector, the observer and the instigator, the gatherer and the fighter, the solitary one and the pack member. She is not limited by one state of being. Above all, courage defines the inner wolf, and it is this essence that forges the true free spirit.
Are you willing to use your teeth to shred through outer AND inner oppression relentlessly? Do you crave for freedom more than complacency? Let’s find out …
How to Know Whether You’re a Free Spirit
I’m going to ask you one question.
This question, more or less, will help you to honestly assess your real desires, and therefore whether you’re a free spirit or not.
Question 1 – Choose one statement you most resonate with:
a) I prefer my spirituality to affirm and comfort me.
b) I prefer my spirituality to challenge and deconstruct me.
Take a few moments to seriously consider this question.
(Of course, you can take our free spirit test if you struggle with answering this question and need more variety.)
If you chose (a) you value complacency and freedom is of secondary importance to you. If you chose (b) you value freedom and are therefore a free spirit.
As spiritual teacher Adyashanti writes, “Enlightenment is a destructive process. It has nothing to do with becoming better or being happier. Enlightenment is the crumbling away of untruth. It’s seeing through the facade of pretense. It’s the complete eradication of everything we imagined to be true.”
We often think the spiritual path is a feel-good journey – and at the beginning stages that may be true. It’s also fine to use spirituality to create comfort and security. But at the deeper levels, it is a journey towards freedom through self-realization (i.e. enlightenment), and that process is messy, uncomfortable, and challenging.
Ultimately, it’s neither good nor bad whether you’re a free spirit or not. We’re all at different levels of growth, and that’s okay. You don’t HAVE to be a free spirit any more than you don’t have to be a ballet dancer, truck driver, or reiki healer. Different strokes for different folks as they say. Some people need to be comforted and affirmed, others don’t.
Also, if you discover that you don’t have a free spirit essence, I want you to know that a ‘free spirit’ isn’t who you’re naturally born to be, it’s who you BECOME.
Yes, you can choose to become a free spirit.
If you’re starting to discover that comfort and complacency aren’t nourishing your soul any longer, you can absolutely make the decision to live like a free spirit. It will take time, practice, and authentic guidance, but the door is always open to you.
So with that being said, what is a free spirit? Let’s create a formal definition here:
What is a Free Spirit?
A free spirit is a person who desires to be free from all external and internal oppressive forces above all else. The free spirit is by nature a rebel who may appear eccentric, weird or otherworldly to society. They choose to walk a different path in life that empowers them to listen to the voice of their soul, be free from suffering and enslavement, and fulfill their destiny.
Forget the stereotypical image of the bohemian traveler: a free spirit can be a homebody or adventurer, a family person or a loner, an outspoken extrovert or a reflective introvert. Being a free spirit is an ESSENCE, not an external image or label. If you value truth and freedom more than you value comfort and complacency, you’re a free spirit.
7 Signs of the Free Spirit
Stereotypes aside, here are seven authentic signs of the free spirit:
- You’re a rebel and non-conformist
- You’re an innovator and dreamer
- You thirst for truth
- You have an inner “BS” detector
- You welcome challenge
- Your heart is your compass
- “I will not be enslaved” is your unconscious motto
I’ll go more into depth below:
1. You’re a rebel and non-conformist
By nature, you’re a non-conformist. You don’t like walking the path other’s set before you. You want to trailblaze your own destiny. You instinctually fight against anyone’s attempt to put you in a box, contain you, suppress you, silence you, or numb you.
2. You’re an innovator and dreamer
As a free spirit, you’re not afraid to let your mind wander to new horizons and realities. You have big ideas that may sound far-fetched or bizarre to others. Being rejected for your goals, plans or inventions is a big thorn in your side. Others can’t seem to get on the same page as you! You’re a visionary who always enjoys finding new ways of doing things differently than others.
3. You thirst for truth
How can a person be free when they’re living a lie? Or believing lies? In your heart and soul, you long to find truth, both in everyday life and metaphysically. The old aphorism “the truth shall set you free” is something you carry deep inside your heart. You are willing to be wrong and are open to many different explanations. What is most important to you is what is real.
4. You have an inner “BS” detector
Part of that thirst for truth is the desire for authenticity – in yourself and in others. You can smell bullshit from a mile away and it disturbs you. How can you (or others) be free when deception and phoniness are running rampant? You despise playing roles and putting on masks and you can’t be around fake people for very long before the desire to run for the hills bursts like a howl out of you.
5. You welcome challenge
Life becomes dead and stagnant when there’s no challenge. Although you may find it a bit scary and intimidating, being challenged is welcome by you as a free spirit. You know, deep down, that to be free from inner and outer oppression you must grow. And to grow, you must be challenged. You don’t seek comfort or complacency. You seek to feel and be alive. You seek to transform into the highest version of yourself possible.
6. Your heart is your compass
Your heart is your compass and you direct your life accordingly. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re reckless, but it does mean that you’re always striving to do what you love – because when you accomplish this, you feel free. Furthermore, you don’t just let what you’re passionate about sit on the back burner or fizzle away into oblivion, you find some way of incorporating it into your life. Even if you have abandoned your passions, you become passionate about trying to reconnect with them. You want to live a life that you love and offer something to the world that you truly believe in.
7. “I will not be enslaved” is your unconscious motto
As a natural rebel, you seek to remove beliefs, ideologies, habits, careers, and people from your life that cause you to feel oppressed, and therefore enslaved. You do this on both a physical and a metaphysical (or emotional/mental/spiritual) level.
You are attracted to people and paths that encourage the growth of your passionate spirit. You refuse to be tamed by the opinions or desires of others. You may be perceived as selfish, but deep down you know that you must respect and love yourself in order to share your gifts with the world.
If the beliefs, habits, and traumas within YOU are the source of your own suffering, you’ll try your utmost to free yourself from them. You realize that in order to be fully free, you must be comfortable and at home within yourself. Therapy, self-exploration, inner work, and spiritual practice will all be methods by which you seek to liberate yourself from suffering. Being a free spirit will become less about traveling the external world as it will be about traversing, and mastering, the inner landscape.
How to Be a Free Spirit?
You might be unsure about where you stand right now. You might want to be a free spirit, but your behavior may indicate otherwise.
As I mentioned before, being a free spirit is a choice that arises from deep within you. When the pain of staying the same becomes more than the pain of growing, you will choose growth more than complacency.
And if you don’t feel that pain intensely enough yet, don’t worry. Just look at flowers: they start as tightly furled buds. But eventually, life demands that they open. You are the same. We all are.
So ultimately, no matter what happens, eventually Life demands that we arise out of our stupors, free ourselves of the shackles that bind us, and unite again with that Divine essence which lies in the heart of all of us.
This may arise out of a sudden spiritual awakening, dark night of the soul, or trauma that besets us out of nowhere. Or it may just be a slow disintegration of our satisfaction with life.
Whatever the case, you are destined to be a free spirit, you can be assured of that.
Inner Child Journal:
Go on a journey through the mountains and caves of your heart. Befriend, heal, and nurture the broken child within. Go to the root of your pain and transform old patterns. This is intense and powerful work!
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I realize that my definition may be different than others, and that’s fine. But when examining the word “freedom,” in relation to the “free” spirit, I apply it holistically to the entire spectrum of a person, which means the outer and inner worlds.
A major part of embodying the free spirit essence is liberating yourself from everything that holds you back. This is an external and internal process.
Let go of the stereotypical notion that you have to cut ties with everyone and wander barefoot through the world to be a free spirit. You don’t even have to like traveling to be a free spirit. Nor do you have to be a modern hippy or bohemian.
Being a free spirit is an essence, a call that emerges from deep inside. When we are in touch with this inner fire, we are in touch with the inner wolf; that powerful force that craves freedom above all else. We might have to become a lone wolf for a while, we might have to leave the confines of social convention. But the journey is worth taking, for without it, we’ll eventually wind up feeling empty and dead inside no matter how comfortable our external lives look.
I thought it was a great article. I love your use of the wolf analogy especially because of the Native American story of two wolves. I will say that some of us gravitate towards more feline energy, but same difference. I didn’t like the question examples simply because I feel both aspects are important. Yes, my spirituality challenging me is “more” important, because I’ve become addicted to seeing just how much I can change/improve, however, my spirituality helping me to feel safe and whole is also necessary. Without that, I wouldn’t have the confidence to do the hard work. If it was all hard work and no affirmation I don’t think we’d be on the path.
Everything here sounds so honestly simple and true,I totally agree and will share link. I really appreciate the effort to set the preconceived notion of free spirits and other surrounding myth. Great writeup Stay blessed
Really worthy and opened my eyes to some extent
I love your blogs. After reading about the indigo child and free spirits, what would you say are the biggest differences between the two? Are all free spirits indigo children or vice versa?
Okay after re-reading, I can definitely make more sense of the difference and it’s apparent to me that not all free spirits are indigo children but it does sound likely that all indigo children would be free spirits. :)
I’ve had this “free spirit” essence inside of me since I was still little. But with the norms society has taught me that contradicted that of the ideals my inner wolf has, I’ve forced myself to be complacent thinking I must be an abnormal for not thinking in default the ideas everybody has. But seeing this website has given me the assurance that I really am not an abnormal or something for feeling the above mentioned signs. Kudos to the writers!
I think I’m going crazy but that’s ok, I feel like there’s a reason for it. I feel like my heroes are talking to me and teaching me the way. I will, I am.
Thank you for this article, reading it was a breeze and gusts of wind that hit where they needed to. This has enhanced my vision of what to do next, putting my thoughts, the dormant and active into real actions. The road ahead will be tuff, from the simpler track of leaving behind some of the comforts that i know i must but have been putting off, to the more difficult ones of reassessing how to tackle the inner complexities that loom over or lurk under my soul. Although known to a decent extend, this article provided clarity and the all important push. It spoke to me.
I felt compelled to leave a comment, as this was something i truly needed to read. Thanks !
This article resonates with me. I’ve been a rebel all my life and also, my spirit animal is the wolf.
I absolutely loved this article. It felt comforting to read something that I’ve been feeling and had thoughts about but felt as if I was the only one with this perspective. Beautiful writing and it was just an amazing article!
I´m an internal free spirit i do my own things, i have my own activities, i rarelly copy other activities, i try to be strong and follow what i think will help me even if i know will hurt me and not my desires or what people desire, if i don´t agree will not help me, i don´t follow it. I´m selective on the people i want to be with or feel better with, by the way i really like your site. It explores more detailed things and it´s interesting
I had a reading from a psychic who said that, among other things, I was an indigo child. I agreed with everything she said about me, and I took the free spirit quiz and I am a free spirit too. I am hardcore feminist, vegan, and wannabe nudist. I was a relationship anarchist too until I met my husband, and we were in an open relationship for three months until he chose to close it. When we got married, I refused to take his last name, so we made up our own last name (my mom was upset since she’s conservative…). I’m the black sheep of my family, mainly because I fought my aunt who was spreading lies and who stole $5k from their church (I am not religious), when the family was too timid to confront her. Anyway, I loved this article!
I hadn’t come across your article yet, and my youngest daughter (20 y.o.) asked me tonight did I think she was a free spirit; this was after having a conversation with her about life, choices, paths, and my awareness that I am a free spirit. I asked her one question: “Is having a life that the world says is normal, and being complacent with it, or is being free of everyone’s ideals and constraints, more important to you?” She immediately said being free, then I asked, “what is the most important thing to you, to obtain in your life: money, status, a title, or inner/outer freedom?” Again, she said freedom. So I confirmed to her that she is a free spirit. I have been a free spirit since the first memories I have as a child: always a rebel, always trying to forge my own path, always seeking truth, self-awareness, and never allowing anyone to tame me, but so often feeling alone, outcast by “normal” society. I was also raised by a very fiery, independent, hippie/flower child, ERA, protesting, feminist, and very loving mom, whom was the very essence of a free spirit, but she tried to raise me to be the opposite of her, because I think she didn’t want me to go through the things that she had to go through, being a free spirit. Well, of course it didn’t work; I rebelled against her too. I didn’t know it then, but I was a free spirit just like she was, and there was no holding me down. She passed away when I was 19, and it really took a toll on me; I began having my children at 22, and I tried to raise all 3 of them the same way my mom tried to raise me. It was as if somehow I forgot that it didn’t work for my mom, so it certainly wouldn’t work for me with my children, but I tried anyway. I tried to raise them to conform to the world, because I didn’t want them to feel the way I did, I wanted them to fit in and be accepted and seen as normal. Well as I said earlier, it didn’t work for my mom and it surely didn’t work for me, at least not for 2 of my children (my middle child just hasn’t realized it yet). My oldest, my only son, was a free spirit in the womb (I know that’s likely not possible, but I’m serious, he has been free spirited from as far back as I can remember), and we butted heads most of his life up into a few years ago, because of it. Now I realize that my youngest daughter is a free spirit too, and for the first time, I’m glad to know that about one of children. I just turned 50, and just recently I began fully embracing that I am and have always been a free spirit. I wish it hadn’t taken me so long to accept, but I’m thankful that I finally do. I tried very hard, throughout my adult life, to play the game the way society wanted me to play, I tried to conform, I really tried, but it never worked. I always found myself breaking free of the chains that society’s constructs placed on me, and I felt like there had to be something wrong with me because I couldn’t conform to the enslavement the way everyone else around me did. I always found myself trying to explain, the way I am, the way I live, the way I think, to people, but they just don’t get it. Not to long ago, I had a deep conversation with my middle child (24, and her boyfriend (who is a complete conformist, not unlike a robot), and I found myself having to explain all those things again, and it was at that moment that I realized, that I don’t owe anyone an explanation anymore! My acceptance of who I am, and being able to embrace myself as a free spiri, has brought me so much closer to my childre, and given us all a deeper understanding and appreciation for each other and ourselves. Thank you so much for your article! It reaffirmed everything I have always felt in my inner soul and who I am was described in every word of #1-7!
Blessings to you and Luna!
A random sentiment on freedom:
Much like yin and yang, I perceive freedom to be inextricably linked with responsibility in order for it to be an expression of wholeness and subsequently, true freedom.
-Freedom without responsibility easily becomes anarchy. -Responsibility without freedom can be confining.
When one can master balancing the twain, that (to me) is real freedom.
This so resonated with me!
I typed into the search engine “innerchild work” and your website came up!! What a special site this is! Thank you thank you thank you for creating it! Why were we not taught this growing up?
I was very fortunate to have a beautiful mother that was far beyond her years that taught me meditation, healing , reflexology, reiki and so much more. I’ve lost my way more than a few times but that’s what it’s all about!!! I’m definitely a Free Spirit. ♡♡ Most importantly I think that if you/we can work on ourselves we should. Always be learning and growing.
I will definitely be sharing your website! Bravo you two amazing souls. Bravo ♡♡
Hello. Yes, I agree with your free spirit definition. I thought I was already in a fase ahead of dark night of the soul but I am not.
It goes like this: I hardly can express myself, I am angry and anxious, I feel stuck, opressed and imprisoned in my outer life. I can’t groung or stop to meditate. I’ve been able to do this before. I have difficulty accepting my instinct though knowing it’s the right thing to do. I feel mean and selfish. R u going to ask for money along the way? Sorry, I’m suspicious. I want to trust but it seems to good… Thank you.
Hi,
I feel like going through this for a while, a dark night of the soul… I had my first experience when I tried transcendental meditation ’cause I had insomia. In the beginning I felt very good and felt that something deep inside was guiding and healing me, that I was here for a bigger purpose. I didn’t know what happened because I grew up in a very western belgium village. I felt like I was getting crazy and I also felt I wanted to go away and search for soulmates, after the deep experience of love, there was a lot of sadness too, because I didn’t know how to start, where to go… I felt lost and alone. After I fell in a big black hole and since it has been a real rollercoaster, with lots of blessings, but also a lot of bad experiences and choices and an experience travelling with someone who really was intentionally manipulating and breaking me. I felt a deep dissapointment, because I really thought I was going to break free. Now I’m 24 and still trying to have faith. And I do have. But sometimes negativity and fatigue are blurring me and dragging me down. It feels like a fight sometimes. Now I try to listen to my body and it wants to rest and sleep. How am I longing for freedom and someone who could lead me through this. My prayers give me strength and also the number 44 I’m always seeing.
I just read articles and pass by have never comment before but your Article is one of the best have read so i do this to give you a thumbs_ups.
Thank you Ogbonna, that means a lot, and thank you for your first comment :)
I am a Lutheran Christian. Have been all my life, but I’ve never fit in anywhere, and your articles and emails are helping me to understand the why’s. Why I’ve been so depressed. Why it seems like I absorb the thoughts of those around me. Thank you. I will never give up my faith, but your question at the beginning of the article was something I hadn’t considered before. I love Jesus and I want to explore and expand my beliefs. I want to live my faith, not just hear sermons about it. I have a long way to go through the dark night I’m afraid, but now I’m anticipating what’s on the other side -a little bit anyway. Thanks for your guidance.
Thank you James for your comment and sharing your struggle. I’m glad our articles provide some guidance, and I admire your desire to be open to some of the ideas that may not align with your faith. Ultimately my experience is that every new piece of wisdom serves to either provide a new path forward or strengthen our conviction in what we already believe.
If we’re open to experiencing faith, and not just treat it like repeated dogma, we’ll find the freedom we seek. :)
This is a very generous website. Thank you for sharing your knowledge and wisdom. I feel very fortunate for having stumbled across you.
Thank you Gail, comments like yours are really what brings us the most joy in what we do :)